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So many of us are stuck maybe inplaces or feelings or states
that we don't want to be in anymore, or relationships that
we don't want to be in anymore, but because we haven't done the
work on ourselves, we don't knowhow to change.
And so you've got to get to a point where you realise that my
reality in my life will change when I change, when I work on
myself. And then you have to make a
decision, not from who you've always been, but the conscious
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mind, who you are today versus who you want to be in 12 months
time. Life is challenging sometimes.
Life is up and down, there's shit going on all the time.
The more we don't take action, make a decision, the less time
we have on earth. Self love helps you evolve.
When you evolve, you'll only getto a certain level of evolution
in your life. You start to become self aware
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What's up guys, welcome to the Luke Mind Power podcast, a
blessing to be alive. In fact, if you're watching live
right now, I want you to write in the chat.
If you're watching on YouTube, wherever you are, right, it's a
blessing to be alive. And I say that and I really,
really mean it because life can seem, I've seen these posts on
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Instagram, you know, it seems like life is going at 1,000,000
miles an hour. It feels like life is just going
so fast. And you know, it's like we're,
we're, we're it's this race of like, hurry up, get this, get
that, or we just got so many things going on.
But really it's all a mindset. It's all a mindset.
My wife, fiance, if you're listening to this, this episode
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is probably being released afterI tie the knot and marry my
fiance in a week's time. So if you're listening to this,
I'll already be married. But if you're watching right
now, it's another week before I get married, which is amazing.
I'm so excited for that. But she also like I sometimes
say to her, I'm like, shit, I just feel like I've got so many
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things to do. I feel like I like, I'm running
out of time all the time. And I feel like I've got all
these, like, things that I've got to take action on.
And she's just like, you need toregulate your nervous system.
You need to meditate more, you know, you need to like, yeah,
change your mindset, you know, because the truth is we're not
running out of time. You know, I think if anything,
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the fact that you've got a lot of stuff happening, like you got
a lot of things that you're doing in your life that makes
you busy, like busy is good. You know, why?
Why are we complaining about being busy?
It's more about prioritising andlooking at your routine and the
things that are important to youand working on that every single
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day, working on your goals, working on creating the life of
your dreams, you know, and doingwhat makes you happy, you know.
So come to think about it, I mean, I've never really spoken
about these, but definitely, it definitely makes a lot of sense,
you know. But again, I guess I have the
mindset as well. I got a lot of things I'm
working on a lot of people I'm working with and building my
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company and travelling and getting married and living a new
life, like creating the life of my dreams.
So I, I guess I want to, I want to do everything.
And it's like when it gets to like 910 o'clock, you know, it's
annoying because I'm like, fuck,I've still got to do decent and
decent, decent. And I'm just like, well, bad
luck, Luke, you got to shut it down.
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Have a rest start again tomorrow, you know, So I'm with
you, OK? I think this is the one thing
that I really love about my personality, about who I am and
about, you know, what I put out there into the universe on my
podcast platforms, my social media content is that, you know,
I'm not walking around with a six pack with my shirt off
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trying to promote like this perfection, You know, I think as
much as I know I can make improvements in my health, in my
routine, in my life, at the sametime, life is messy, you know
what I mean? And trying to have it all
figured out and being perfect. Sure, if you want to promote
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that, if you want to put that onyour platforms or you put that
as your advertising, your marketing that you've got this
perfect life and you've got a perfect body and everything's
perfect. Well, if that kind of like
lifestyle is manageable for you and it and it works for you,
great. And unfortunately, I'm not a
judgement person. I'm not a person that's going to
sit here and look at your platforms and what you're
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promoting and going, oh, you just want to be perfect or
you're overdoing it or whatever.Like who cares?
I want to be relatable to you, OK, I'm not you.
I'm someone that's very empowering and inspiring and,
and I push out a lot of positivity because for a long
time I didn't have this purpose.I didn't have this positive
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mindset. I didn't have this joy and
living in alignment with my authenticity, you know, But I'm
going to give you what my last week has been like.
And it is a little bit annoying because I like to go to the gym.
I like to have a routine like that where I get up at 6:00 in
the morning, 5:30 in the morning.
And that's the first thing I do.But guess what, ladies and
gentlemen, let me share with youa little bit of imperfection of
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this week, how it's been. Man, we, I've got so much shit
going on. And this week, man, I've been
going to bed like 10/30, 11:00. And then I'm just, the first
thing that I'm thinking about is, damn, you've gone to bed too
late. And your sleep is very
important. You know, and I know some people
could argue and go, oh, muscle up, just fucking sleep five
hours and then, you know, go to the gym at 5:00 AM.
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It doesn't matter. For me it does.
You know, I've noticed that, youknow, when I have a good sleep,
I can fucking think, you know, I'm not sitting in my office on
the desk doing, working with my clients or working on projects
or, or answering emails. Sitting there.
I'm so fucking tired. I just want to go to sleep.
Like I know that feeling like, you know, I did it two weeks
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ago. You know, I woke up a bit
earlier. I hadn't had the best night's
sleep. All I was thinking about at the
gym was I can't wait to go home and fucking go to sleep because
I'm tired, you know? So why would I torture myself
like that, right? Have a decent sleep and get the
fuck up and smash your day. You know what I mean?
But the challenge for me that I'm, and I, maybe you can
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relate. Exercising, I think is very
healthy. Moving your body is important.
You know, it does shift your energy.
It also gets you out of like doubt and freaking these stupid
thoughts. You know, if you're moving,
whereas you're not moving, your mind plays with you, man.
But once you start moving that energy and you start, you know,
exercising, it shifts your perspective.
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Your your thoughts change as well.
Really powerful. So, so I basically this whole
week, having gone to the gym, you know, like, and I'm a week
before I'm getting married and, and like, not naturally.
It's like, yeah, come on, I wantto smash it.
I want to like show up. I want to like be the fittest
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version of myself when I get married.
It's like I'm just fucking doingmy best, you know, with
everything that I've got going on, you know, I'm doing my best.
And unfortunately, you know, this week I haven't managed to
get to the gym because I've beensleeping till, you know, 8:00
AM, sometimes 830, you know, so am I going to look at myself in
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the mirror and go, Luke, I'm disappointed in you.
You haven't been to the gym. You haven't stuck to your
routine. You know, and that's why I
continue to remind you guys to live in your world, not what the
world expects of you. One of the most important
things, of course, is when you're a leader, when you're an
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influencer, when you're a coach,when you're someone who is being
of inspiration to other people. Yeah, it's very careful.
It's very like, I'm very conscious of like, what I share
and how I advertise and promote and market myself.
Because the truth is, no one wants to work with someone who
hasn't got shit figured out thatthey could possibly learn from.
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So if I'm living a life where I'm just like, ah, you know, I
don't give a fuck. Like, you know, I drink vodka
every day. I have a beer every day.
I don't give a shit about exercising.
I don't care about my health andwhat I eat and fucking, I'm
eating chips and shit and watching Netflix all the time.
I mean, people want to learn from people who are doing what
they're not because they're going to be able to feed off
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their energy and be able to learn the techniques or
strategies or routines that they, because whoever we
surround ourselves with is whom we feed off like energy.
Energy is contagious, right? So although like for example,
my, my clients who I work with in my coaching programme, my
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coaching institute or my privateclients that I work with,
although we're physically not together, energetically we are.
You know, when I'm on my coaching sessions, when I'm on
the call with them, on WhatsApp,when I'm sending voice messages
to my private clients or to my, you know, institute clients or
my coaching clients working on their personal development, the
energy is there, you know, the presence is there and it's felt,
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you know, so I could sit here and lie to you and go, oh man,
life is great. It's amazing, man.
Like, fuck, this week was hectic.
You know, I went to the gym every day, you know, got my sets
in, you know, spent 45 minutes there, did 10 minutes on the
treadmill. I've had an amazing week.
And so one thing I'm very conscious of, you know, in terms
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of how I live and what I share with you guys is being
transparent and also letting youinto the world of like
imperfection. A lot of the times because of
our childhood trauma or because of just how we're, let's not
call it trauma, let's just call it our childhood.
Some of us may have been raised in an environment where we were
always, you know, trying to seekapproval that we would never
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get. You know, so maybe our parents
were like, you know, make sure you do really good at school and
then you would get your Marks and they'll be like, oh, that's
just not good enough. So then programmed you will be
to try better. And then when you try better and
you still fall short, then you're always trying to like,
you know, get that that recognition from your parents,
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for example. So then you fall into this
subconscious programmed way of living of seeking perfection, of
seeking to be better all the time and always falling short.
It's never good enough. It's never good enough.
It's never good enough, you know, And so as we grow up as
adults, we fall into that and it's like, fuck you.
I'm good enough. You know, life is challenging
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sometimes. Life is up and down.
There's shit going on all the time, you know, and, and who is
it that's going to judge you? Your old self, who's going to be
your judge? Your parents, who's going to be
the judge? The old version of you, how
you've been programmed from yourchildhood.
You're going to judge yourself and go, well, you're not, you're
not following through with everything you said you're going
to do. You haven't been to the gym all
week. Who gives a fuck?
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Sit down and look at all the action and the work that you're
doing for yourself every day. Like take a moment right now
and, and write down all the things that you've done this
week in the last 7 days. And I bet you, you'll come up
with a lot of shit that you've been through, a lot of shit that
you've done. And like, you genuinely look at
that and go, wow, you, you've actually made a lot of progress.
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I mean, I know I have, you know,I know I've, I've freaking shown
up this week. I've been doing heaps of shit,
you know, So I just thought I'd share that with you because, you
know, again, maybe you're feeling like you're falling
behind or you're not making progress in certain areas of
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your life where you know, you normally thought you would and
you're trying to stay consistentand being routine and stuff.
But there's always things that are going on, you know, and
there's always things that will happen.
So I hope that this message, youknow, if you're listening to
this right now, was meant for you, you know, you hear it and
you be kind to yourself to a certain point, You know, where
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you don't, don't shit on yourself.
You know what I mean? Like don't, don't, don't be
nasty to yourself. And that's why I always teach
self love, the relationship withyourself, self respect.
Self respect is also not disrespecting yourself by
looking at yourself in the mirror and going, you didn't
follow through with the things that you said you were going to
follow through. You're a fucking idiot, you
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know, and putting yourself down.Why would you want to put
yourself down? You know, you keep your head up,
you stand up and you go. All right, man, Well done.
Let's have a look at all the things you achieved this week,
OK? We didn't do this.
We didn't do that, but we did all of this stuff.
OK, let's go and have another week next week.
And let's keep moving. Let's keep getting better, you
know? So again, what am I teaching you
right now? The relationship with yourself
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is the most important relationship in your life.
But many of us just haven't beentaught that.
Hence why we have sacrificed ourself.
We are sacrificial lambs to our past and to the people around us
that we want validation from a fuck everyone.
Validation. What for what?
Because people see you, you're going to be enough.
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That's something you have to build within yourself.
If you haven't got it, that's what I help you with.
That's why I'm here. That's why I'm doing what I'm
doing. Because for many, many years I'm
only helping you with something that I was dysfunctional with.
I'm only helping you with something that I never had for
myself. So now that I have it for myself
that I know that I'm enough, that I feel enough within myself
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that I built me into a version of me that I never knew existed,
that I built this version of me.Luke mind power was non
existent. I didn't know that all of these
amazing rejections and experiences in my life of
feeling insecure and being bullied and abused and, and, and
going through my own emotional trauma and, and physical trauma,
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It was all part of the plan. You know, it's just when are you
going to take a decision and make a decision and say, well,
you know what? It's been a pretty rough ride up
until now. And I know that maybe there's
something better that I could achieve or there's something
more that I could do. And I haven't done it yet, but I
don't know what it is, but maybeit's time that I actually grew
out of and this is what it is. It's about growing out of grow
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out of the, the dysfunctional version of yourself.
Grow out of the fear, the doubt,the I'm not enough or I'm not
feeling enough. If you're not feeling enough
within yourself, good. That's a great sign.
It's time for you to do some work on yourself.
Not, not a sign for you to go well, I'm not feeling good
enough of within myself. I'm just going to keep cheating
on myself because because what you're doing is going in a
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vicious cycle, you know, so there's some sort of action
that's missing in your life, something that you are not doing
that that you need to step into.But many of us continuously stay
in the same place because we think from the same place you
want to come. Let's just say, for example, you
know, I learned this recently because I was like, Oh my God,
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this is such a freaking powerfullike way of understanding, you
know, so obviously having a coaching business and I have to
be in sales. I have to learn how to sell.
I have to learn how to be on a call with someone.
I have to learn how to communicate what Ioffer my
coaching programmes, my institute, like I have to talk
about that and I have to share it with people.
So one thing I've learned recently in sales is that when
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it comes time to making an investment and joining our
coaching programmes, right, there's going to be an offer and
there's going to be an investment.
There's going to be something that you have to pay to invest
in yourself so that you can haveaccess to my coaching programme
so that you can change, start changing your life.
If it makes sense, of course. So one thing I've learnt and
noticed recently is that when people decide to make a
decision, when I'm sharing with them after I've spent a lot of
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time with them, or maybe it's with my team, for example,
hesitate because they see the price and they can't fathom that
they would invest in themselves and then that their life could
possibly change. But what I've noticed and
weren't is that the problem thathappens and it arises when it
comes to that moment of, of making a decision of choice.
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You know, you're making a choiceto go, I'm going to invest in
myself, I'm going to make a payment.
All of a sudden, the mind, it's the reptilian mind that is the
protection. It's the mind that that says,
hold on a second, There's fear and doubt happening right now
because it's trying to process, you know, is, is if I pay, am I
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going to get the results? You know, and, and all of a
sudden what I've learnt is what happens in that moment is that
all of a sudden you're functioning from fee and you're
functioning from the old versionof yourself.
Now, remember, the old version of yourself is the version that
you've always been. So you have to make a conscious
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choice in this moment of faith, of research of, you know, does
this make sense to me? Is this something that sounds
like it's valuable, that sounds like this could actually help
me, right? And then you have to make a
decision not from who you've always been, but the conscious
mind. You know, who you are today
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versus who you want to be in 12 months time.
Because the old self is always going to say, no, I'm not paying
fucking $5000. I'm not paying $3000.
I'm not paying $7000 to work on myself or to start my own
business. Right?
So you're always going to be working from the old self and if
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you keep functioning from the old self, you will always keep
being the same. Isn't that amazing?
I was thinking about this. I heard someone say it.
I think it was on, I don't know where social media or something,
but I saw the decision that people make when they're scared
to invest in themself is making a decision from the hurt self,
from the fearful self, from the low self worth, from the low
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self confidence, from the, the, the, the pain of the past, you
know, which isn't the highest self, right?
So that's a big, big challenge. And that's why I've always said,
you know, do your research, you know, if, if someone is of
inspiration to you or you feel that you would love to learn
from them, well, that's a sign in itself.
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You just have to make a decision.
Am I worth it? And that's the challenge as
well. Many people struggle with making
a decision. I've learnt all this because of
all of the people that I've beenon calls with.
I've learnt this, so many peoplestruggle with am I worthy of
investing in myself? You know, because what have we
got? We've got bills, priorities,
we've got food, food on the table.
We've got to pay the bills. We've got to, you know, leave,
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right? And then we forget about the
most important person in your life, which is you.
And because we've never actuallyinvested in ourselves, we ask
ourselves the question, you know?
And I bet you if you looked at your budget and you looked at
the things that you spend money on, half the shit is not even
helping you become a better version of yourself.
A lot of it's all fucking memberships and Amazons and
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Netflix's and all this shit, right?
And it's like fuck. And and you get to this point
where you ask yourself a question, you go, am I even
worthy of investing in myself? Or do I want to keep pouring
money into everything else outside of you, be it, you know,
family, kids. I get that there's priorities
there, but at some point you have to go.
You know what? Like I am also worthy of, you
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know, investing in myself. You know, otherwise, again, you
have to know that things won't change if you keep thinking from
the old self. So that's interesting to note.
And I hope that that was valuable for you because many of
us, we want change, but then we always function from fear when
it's time to make an investment in ourselves and we're
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functioning from our old self. And that's not the self that's
going to get you the results that you're looking for.
You know, change requires actionand it requires you to actually
look forward and go, OK, this isgoing to help me become better.
Where am I going to be in six months, 12 months?
You know, and I think the other struggle is for many of us, we,
we overthink shit so much. Oh, I need to think about it.
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It's like, what is there to think?
I mean, fucking make, make a decision.
Like life is right here, right now.
The more we waste, the less we have.
Write that down. The more we waste, the less we
have, the more we don't take action, make a decision, the
less time we have on Earth, you know.
So talking about time, my grandmother passed my other
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grandmother yesterday, so 27th of June.
And thank you everyone for your condolences and messages I've
received. You know who you are.
But in 2018, I just want to touch on this because I think
we, we learn so much from close people that we have been close
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to or that have been had a majorimpact in our life for many,
many years. And then all of a sudden time
comes and time gets the better of us and all of a sudden they
are not no longer with us, you know?
And so in 2018, let me just write something down.
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Dance. I just want to share with you a
little bit more about dancing because you guys see me dancing
all the time and most of you don't even know like why I
dance. But I want to touch on that.
But just in regards to my grandmother, So this is my mum's
mum. So she passed yesterday, 27th of
June. And yeah, like I'm in Poland.
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So I wasn't there. My sisters were there.
My mum was there with her, but she was 86.
That time is coming for all of us, you know, And I think about
her life and I'm like, man, she,she lived a long life.
She lived a good life, you know,and I mean, some of her stories,
obviously she wasn't happy with some of the things that she went
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through and all that kind of stuff.
But, you know, she, she lived a fruitful life.
You know, she had a lot of, you know, loving family around her.
We had a lot of good times together.
You know, I think about the times that I spent, you know,
with her by myself, even as I was evolving.
And, you know, it's like how much of an impact my dad's mum
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had on me. You know, 2018 was my awakening
after I came back from the funeral.
So I came back to Australia and changed, something happened to
me, changed my life. Like I awoke and, and I was just
like, OK, I'm changing my life. I'm moving on.
I'm leaving the country. Like I'm making different
decisions all of a sudden just because my, my, my grandmother
passed, you know, and so now this is this the other
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grandmother, this is my mom's mom, you know, and I'm, I'm
already thinking I'm like, oh, what's happening?
You know, how is this the passing of my grandmother?
And of course, you know, if you've lost someone close to
you, you know, then, then of course, you know, you know what
it feels like, you know, there'ssomeone missing all of a sudden,
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you know, so there's an element of grief that you need to go
through and take the time to, you know, to, to process that,
you know, and, and when I, when,when I knew that she was, I was
hopeful that it wasn't that timeyet, you know, because she was
still in bed and she's still obviously breathing and stuff,
but not as conscious as, you know, as, as we would want her
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to be. And and so basically the first
thing that came up for me, you know, and you know, with my
fiance slash wife, depending on when you're listening to this.
And the first thing that came upto me was that she was always
nagging me about getting married.
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You know, and this is actually abig trigger for me because back
in I remember 2000 before 2012 when I was actually after one
month, I proposed to my ex fiance or ex girlfriend back
then, you know, before I met that person, I was like
constantly hearing it from my dad when he getting married,
when he getting married, like mygrandmother when he getting
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married, you know, so there was always this like these questions
like constantly like asking and pushing, you know.
So that was when I was 272627, you know, plus again, this is
the pressure of, you know, your family and the pressure of of
people around you, you know. So I had a lot of friends at the
time as well that I was surrounded by that were also in
relationships and getting married and stuff.
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And I felt so left out, you know, all my sisters.
And this is the thing guys like this is what is actually the
underdog advantage. This is the the late sprinter,
you know, in a horse race, the late sprinter comes from the
back and just fucking wins the race, you know, And this has
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been the story of my life. And if you can relate to this,
please share this episode with your friends because this is
like such a relatable thing for so many of us.
We think that we are delayed. I've felt delayed.
I've felt like I was the last. I'm last in everything, you
know, And I felt like I was always behind in life, right?
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And so now I think about I'm like, wow, like my experiences
and what I've been through and my relationships and the fact
that, you know, I was always kind of like told hurry up and
get married. And I heard this from her all
the time and it and eventually that's where the a little bit of
the pressure did come from when I met someone all of a sudden,
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after all, And I had so much insecurity with myself at the
time. As soon as I met her, boom, one
month later, asked her to marry me like crazy, you know what I
mean? Like, just like, yeah, well,
well, everybody else is getting married.
Everybody else is doing it. So you got to hurry up and do
it, you know? So you fall into the trap of,
like, almost trying to make impulsive decisions because
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that's your environment and that's what you think is the
right thing to do at the time, you know?
And you're just going off your feelings.
So I'm not saying I made any wrong decisions.
I'm just saying that's what I decided in those moments, you
know, and I tried. But in trying, that's where your
life evolves and you learn and you go through heartbreak and
rejection and things don't fall into place as you think they
should. But they're all lessons, you
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know? So now I can say, you know, my
grandmother died has passed and my mum's mum, and I'm like,
thanks Bapcha for triggering me.Thanks, Bapcha for asking me
those questions all the time, you know, because that's
actually like probably somethingthat did kind of push me a
little bit and like maybe, you know, kind of like the
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unnecessary pushing, but but it was also leading me to where I
needed to be, you know, because I remember going to her place
and she would always bring it up.
She'd always say, when are you getting married?
Like, fuck, I used to get pissedoff triggered.
I'm like, just mind your own business.
Like fucking focus on your life.Don't fucking tell me, you know,
when I need to do things or whatever, you know, so we can
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take it personally, you know, but it took me a little bit of
time to evolve out of that, you know, to like know that, hey
man, that's just their mindset. That's just the way they think.
Like don't take it personally, you know, but I would always
respond and I would always say, you know, when I meet the right
person, then I'll get married, you know?
So blessings enough. Thank you God finally after not
giving up on my dream and sayingno to relationships back in 2018
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for five years, then one 1 1/2 years later when I said OK now
open the door for someone to come into my life 1 1/2 years
later I attracted my fiance now wife.
Depending on when you're listening to this.
I know it's a bit confusing but if you're a 4th, 5th of July, If
you're listening to this after the 5th of July, then I'm
already married. OK, so why am I sharing this
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with you? Because yesterday.
Was it yesterday or the day before?
Yeah. When I knew that she was
obviously not doing good, That was what came up for me, you
know, and, and I and it made me very emotional and, you know, I
I cried and. And it was also beautiful kind
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of moment for me and my partner because all I said was, you
know, I said, I wish the, and then this is the thing when,
when someone passes this close to you, you know, the, all of a
sudden, it's just like, I wish Icould spend more time with her.
I wish I could like have a conversation with her.
I wish like it's all the things that we wanted to do.
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We didn't do it. They're gone now.
And now we wish that we could have more time, you know.
And so, you know, the beautiful thing last year was that, you
know, I did travel with my partner to Australia and she was
in hospital at the time. But we went to see her and we
spent some time with her and we took some photos together.
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And she was happy and she was smiling and she was talking to
us. And we took photos together.
And she was like looking at my partner.
And she's like telling her how beautiful she was.
And, you know, and so that for me was big, you know, because
she was always like, when are you getting married?
And I'm like, you know, I brought her here for you so you
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could see her, you know? So that kind of hit me hard
because I was like, fuck, you know, like, I wish that.
Yeah, I do now. I'm like, I wish that I could
have spent more time with her, with my partner, you know, with
Yolita. But again, I didn't meet her
until this time in my life, you know what I mean?
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So yeah, there's nothing to be. I'm not upset or I'm not
regretting. Like you could say, well, how
you should have met her earlier.It's like fucking this is life,
man. It's just the way it is, right?
So, so yeah, you know, but I'm just, I'm interested to see as
time goes on now how my, my mother's mother's passing has,
what kind of an impact is it going to have?
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What kind of awakening is it going to give me?
You know, it's it, it does, it helps you.
It does, it forces you to reflect on life a bit and, and
to understand that, you know, your, your time is limited here
and, you know, make the most of your life.
You, your, your job is to again,you could say, well, we're going
to die anyway. Who gives a shit?
I'm like, OK, fine, but how are you feeling right now?
And if you're not feeling good, I mean, is there part of you
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that, that, that wants to feel better?
Is there part of you that wants to be successful?
Is there part of you that wants to figure out your purpose or
find what you're passionate about?
Is there a part of you that wants to overcome some sort of
pain or emotional struggle or addiction that you've been, you
know, struggling with for a longtime?
Is there a part of you, because you could sit here and go, well,
fuck it, like I'm going to die anyway.
So I'm just going to keep being addicted to what I'm addicted
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to, or I've always doubted myself, so I'm just going to
keep doubting myself for the rest of my life and just live
this way. Fine, you can do that.
But if you're not, and again, italways comes down to how you
feel. If you don't feel good and you
want to feel better, well, then if you keep having an excuse of
like, I'm going to die anyway, well, then nothing's going to
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change in your life. So, you know, it's more about,
you know, you can create the life of your dreams if you want
to. You know, yeah, we all, we're
all of our lives are limited. We're all here for, you know, a
certain amount of time. And I guess my mindset is, you
know, just go make the most of it, you know, and be grateful
for the things that you do have focus on, you know, living in
the present, but also having a future, having a vision for your
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future, creating a life that youlove.
And most importantly, not livingin the past.
As much as I share you, I share stories of my past.
I share experiences. The knowledge I've gained and
the wisdom I've gained because of the experiences of the past
have helped me become the version I am today.
So I'm very grateful for all theexperiences, but I don't blame
any of the experiences as to thedysfunction or a certain fucked
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up way that I am because of those experiences.
Nah, once you figure this shit out, you become self conscious
and self aware. And when I mean self conscious,
and I mean self conscious about my physical appearance that I
once was, I mean self conscious of like my reality.
I'm self conscious of my reality, of what I'm creating,
of who I am, of what I'm building, you know, and, and
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being conscious of what you're creating.
This is the power that you have within your life to make these
decisions, you know, and so you know, this is just a reminder
for you, you know, that, you know, if you've been holding
back on something or you've beenprocrastinating, or, you know,
there's a big decision in your life maybe that you got to make
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right now. Maybe this is your sign to make
it, you know, because in 10 years time, you'll really be
grateful and be proud of yourself for actually taking
action and for making the decision rather than in 10 years
time looking back and thinking to yourself, you know, damn,
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like fucking what did I do with my life or why didn't I change
sooner? Or you know what I mean, And I
think a lot of us can spiral into that.
You know, I haven't achieved what I want yet.
And so it's not possible for me because I've never done it
before. Or, you know, just the stories
as you would have heard in one of my previous recent episodes
of, you know, there's a bullshitstory that we have.
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Unlearn that story and you'll change your life.
You know, so many of us have these stupid stories in our head
about why we can't do something or why we can't change or why we
can't get something that we want.
And I get it because when you haven't created the life that
you want to be living, it's almost especially if you've come
out of like ADV relationship or a very, very unhealthy
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manipulative relationship where someone has consistently and
continuously brought you down, that is going to stunt your
growth and your ability to make decisions.
And so you've got to get to a point where you realise that my
reality and my life will change when I change, when I work on
myself, you know, and I've learnt this time and time again.
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You know, you can learn businessand all this other stuff, but
you'll always be functioning from a limited version of
yourself. You know, a lot of us that may
become successful in business, but we're still hurting inside
are just functioning from survival and from validation
because we want to feel approvalfrom the world that we're doing
something great and we're successful.
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But yet internally we're runningaway from our fucking trauma or
from not being seen when we werechildren, you know?
So it's more about, hey, how canI function from a place of peace
and attract abundance because I am the abundance internally.
That's the power you want to have, you know, and that's
something that I teach you through self love, building that
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stronger loving relationship with yourself, which is
obviously part of our transformational methodology,
which is called neuro emotional reprogramming.
It's part of the mental state ofreprogramming your subconscious
mind and then helping you to heal your emotional trauma and
understanding the energetics of,you know, your feelings and your
body. Because we do, we carry a lot of
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dead weight. That is just past experiences
that haven't been released yet. And the more that you carry that
and the more that you hold on tothat.
And this will lead me now into talking about dancing and why I
want to tell you about the dancing, OK?
Because when you learn to love yourself, right, you will
evolve. Just just pay attention, right?
Pay attention and write this on a piece of paper if you're
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watching right now. When you learn to love yourself,
you will evolve when you learn to love yourself, you will
evolve. OK, so before I just talk about
self love a little bit and then talk about the dancing, I want
to take a step back, OK? Because self love is something
that most people probably don't fathom the severity of an
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importance of why this is so important.
And again, if you're in your egoor you have never been
emotionally expressive and you've always held everything in
and you've never actually been comfortable with talking about
your feelings and stuff like that, well then, you know, self
love is going to be like a cringy, you know, like fucking
whatever, man, I'm a man or you know, and it's mostly going to
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come from the masculine point ofview, you know, because talking
about loving yourself and self love sometimes can feel a bit
like man up, you know, like you're a man.
Don't talk about that love. Don't talk about love, you know,
but love is the strongest emotion that you can feel.
And if you're able to establish that connection with yourself,
which is what I teach, that's why everything changes because
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now you're functioning from Oh my God, I love you so much.
I'm willing to make this decision rather than I don't
even fucking care about myself or I don't think very highly of
myself. Why would I invest in myself?
Why would I do anything to better my life?
Why would I? Because I fucking don't like
myself. So fuck that.
See the difference? Whereas when you actually have,
you're in your own favour. You know you've got your own
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back, which is something that you establish by helping your
yourself reconnect, spend more time with yourself.
So something that I call self attention.
OK, you can't have self love if you don't have self attention.
Self attention means, hey, guesswhat, Instead of looking
outside, we've got to look inside.
Instead of looking at others, we've got to look at ourself,
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right? For a certain amount of time,
because naturally we're always focused on external things.
And This is why this is so powerful that when you learn to
love yourself, you will evolve. Now when you evolve, guess what?
You only get to a certain level.You'll get to a specific plateau
of self love, of evolution in your life of awakening.
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Because as you start loving yourself, you start to awaken.
You know, now as you evolve, what happens is you start to
become conscious. You start to become self aware
of your trauma of the dead weight.
The dead weight meaning there's a lot of stuff that you're
carrying with you from your childhood or from your toxic
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relationships or from your insecurities and doubts and
fears and things that you've been through in the past.
There's a lot of stuff there that's going to stunt your
growth. OK, so I just told you self love
helps you evolve. But if you don't address the
trauma, if you don't address thepain, if you don't address your
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feelings, if you don't address the past, whether that was not
being validated, not being seen,not being supported, not being
loved, not being encouraged, physically abused, mentally
abused, right, sexually abused, being forgotten about, always
put down, not being good enough,right, constantly being put
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down, all of that, you know, rejected.
All of that stuff is there. You know, it's almost like there
is this other entity, you know, like, and they say you're,
you're in a child. There is this younger version of
yourself, but really all that is, is, right.
It's this energy of your childhood, which is kind of
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stuck there in your body. Plus it's memory, you know, it's
the subconscious remembrance of what you've been through in your
life and then connected to the energetics, which is your
feelings, which is your emotionsof what you felt, which is the
memory which is there from the past, you know?
So I hope I'm explaining this ina way that helps you to like
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understand what I'm referring to.
And like I said, if this is resonating with you and you feel
that somebody could benefit fromthis, make sure you share this
on your pages and share it with your friends because this
episode will change people's lives.
Just understand this. So, and this is basically what I
teach in my coaching methodology, which is called
neuro emotional reprogramming. So as you evolve in self love,
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you start to practise self love.I start teaching you the, the,
the steps of doing this. You're going to evolve and
you're going to get to a certainplateau where you're going to
keep trying to practise self love, but you're not going to
grow anymore. So all of a sudden you're stuck
on this plateau, carrying all this dead weight and you're
going to be forced to start to address it.
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You're going to be forced to start to look at it.
You're going to be forced to start to express it.
You're going to be forced to communicate about it.
You're going to be forced to bring it to the surface.
Now, why are you going to be forced to do that?
Because you're going to start having the love in yourself to
be able to make the decision because you're going to have
your own back. And you're going to be like, Oh
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my goodness, like I love me so much.
I understand now I'm connected. But guess what?
I've haven't addressed some stuff that's been really
difficult for me to to bring up because I've been afraid and I'm
ashamed and I'm scared and I'm worried about judgement and what
people will think or my family or my friends or whatever that
is. You know, this is stuff I've
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never talked about in my life. So all of a sudden, because
you've started building this relationship with yourself, you
start to actually act like the friend that you've always
needed. You become your own best friend
that is then there to be able togo, hey, you know what, I'm
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going to talk to myself. I'm going to have my own back.
I'm going to take action, I'm going to heal and that's why I
say your healing is a byproduct of self love.
You know, if you don't have selflove, don't expect yourself to
heal your trauma. Simple as that.
I've learnt this. This is what I've researched for
the last fucking eight years andI understand it.
I'm not a psychologist, but I'm just someone who's been through
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shit and I understand the power of self love.
And why, why do I understand it so powerfully is because it ties
into my dancing. You guys see me dancing on
TikTok and Instagram and Facebook, YouTube Shorts, all
these platforms. And you guys just think, oh,
that's the dancing guy. Yeah.
He's just so positive and uplifting.
It's like, no, guys, you don't understand.
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The dancing is me loving myself.The dancing is me saying, hey, I
don't give a shit about what youthink about me.
The dancing is, is, is healing my body through the energetics
of movement because you also release this trapped, suppressed
energy from your past by moving your body.
So all I'm all when I'm dancing,I'm actually healing myself.
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But we don't realise that. So movement is also so powerful,
you know, but Once Upon a time as well to tie in with the
dancing guys, is that yeah, we like, you know, the, the
statement dance like no one's watching.
Well, most of us are fucking afraid of what people think of
us. Most of us are.
We're not going to dance becausethey're like, oh shit, you know,
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like bit conscious of like people are around.
Oh my God, I'm going to, you know, so we're scared of, of the
people's opinions, right? So what am I doing all the time?
I'm also actually evolving. And I'm also reprogramming my
mind because every time I get upand dance, especially if it's in
public, I'm saying I don't care what you think about me.
And there my brain is constantlybeing reprogrammed,
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reprogrammed, reprogrammed, because my brain now is becoming
familiar with this act of movement and dancing, you know?
So I've programmed myself to say, hey, it doesn't matter what
people think of me because I'm just used to doing this now
because I do it all the time. So the whole aspect of dancing
comes from healing. It doesn't come from me being in
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my ego. It doesn't come from me just
dancing because I've got nothingelse to do, you know?
It comes from my own personal journey of personal development
and healing and doing the inner work, you know, And so I hope
that what I've shared with you today is really, really valuable
and insightful. And like I said, if you feel
inspired or you feel that this could be valuable for anyone
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that you know, please share thisepisode because, you know, I
know that so many of us are stuck maybe in places or
feelings or states that we don'twant to be in anymore or
relationships that we don't wantto be in anymore.
But because we haven't done the work on ourselves, we don't know
how to change, you know, we don't, we don't know.
I didn't know for years I was sleeping.
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I was sleeping. I remember one of my posts that
I did in Saint Ives in Sydney and the, the, it was, I was
dancing in the rain. And I remember because I
remember my mom, she would go tochurch on Friday to the healing
masses. And there was a song that was
called Awake from Your Slumber, you know, awaken from your
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slumber. And in that caption on that
dancing room, I was like, wake up from your slumber or
something like that. Because I feel like this is
exactly what we're living in. We're we're a lot of us are
still very unconscious, you know, and we're just in this
vicious repetitive cycle of dysfunction or fear or doubt or,
you know, limited beliefs or limited way of thinking, you
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know, and again, it's really up to you to open your mind and go,
you know, there's an infinite amount of possibilities out
there. And it's up to us to go, well,
you know, I can create, I can try, I can evolve.
I can do better. I can, I can do so much in life.
But yeah, in doing a lot does require more responsibility and
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time and energy and all that kind of stuff.
So you've got to learn how to protect your energy and you've
got to unblock your abundance blocks so that you know, you can
actually attract abundance and make good amount of money to
live a better life. Because if you don't heal your
money blocks, then you'll continuously fall short and not
understand the energetics of money and why you can't be more
successful. So you got to unlearn that, you
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know. But again, this is all stuff
that is just, for many of us, wejust don't understand it.
You know, we have an access. And that's why this is just an
extraordinary time in our life where we have a lot of access to
information. And it's very, very important
for you to protect your mind. You know, like they say, you are
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what you eat. Well, you are what you put in
your head, you know, and what you put in your head is coming
from what you're listening to and watching and who you're
surrounding yourself with. And your brain is always being
programmed. And it's not about perfection
because you know, I know myself.It's not about, you know, don't
ever watch the news or don't ever like watch what's happening
around the world because again, being informed and if you're
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into trading or stock market andall that kind of stuff, all that
shit, investing is basically impact and it fluctuates so much
dependent on what's happening around the world.
So I can appreciate that some ofyou would be interested in
understanding what's happening around the world so that you can
manage your funds or your investments and stuff like that.
So that's fair enough. But I think it's more just about
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do enough work. And this is what I feel that
I've done enough, which is not never enough.
But it's to say I've done so much of this personal healing
and development work in terms ofbecoming aware of how to
reprogram my mind. And I'm understanding how the
mind works and the energetics ofyour physical body that now you
realise things a lot quicker. And you're like, oh, I'm
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spiralling into negative thinking.
Oh, I've got a little bit of self doubt or this is a I'm
overthinking about this. Okay, let's shift it, let's
address it, let's talk about it.You know, and all of a sudden
you can, you can really heal andovercome something very, very
quickly without allowing it to just fester.
You know, the word fester. Everybody write the word fester
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wherever you are, Fester, FESTER.
And what I mean by that, it's almost like if we do not address
something that we have been struggling with or that's come
up for us, or it's we're overthinking about or ruminating
on, or we're doubting ourselves about something or someone
triggered us or some sort of experience that's happening in
your life or at work or whateverthat's really bothering or
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shaking you up and it's constantly happening, you're
going to, if you don't address it, it will fester.
And what I mean by fester, it's like a, it's like it's eating
you, like it's like worms and fucking, it'll fester in your
body and it will start to eat away your power.
You know, it'll start to drain you.
It's like if it's worms or, or, or like little aliens or some
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shit in your body that is just going to fucking, I don't know
what it's called. Like, what am I trying to say?
Hang on a second. Let me just go to zoom.
Fester into your body. I don't know.
Definition, Prudent manner. A cause of ulceration as a form.
Foreign body in the flesh. Yeah.
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To purify it or not. What does it mean to fester up?
It's a cause. Increasing poison, irritation
and bitterness. Rankle dissent festering
unchecked. Yeah.
You know. You know what?
I'm. You guys know.
I'm not tripping out. Becoming rotten decay.
There we go. Rotten decay to become cause.
Bitter, irritated. Yeah, all right, man, I'm not
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freaking lost. But anyway, if you haven't made
dancing a part of your life, whether you put on social media
or you don't, man, add it to your daily routine.
It'll fucking help you to heal as well.
But anyway, guys, thank you so much for joining me.
I appreciate all the love. Thank you for being here with me
on another podcast episode. I hope you enjoyed this.
I also have a link down below ifyou want to check out my latest
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book that I've released. It's called your Power Place,
the Art of loving yourself. You can find it on Amazon and
it's going to share with you a little bit personal stories of
my journey so far. And you know what I struggled
with so much and definitely going to be something that
inspires you. And also I've got a lot of
worksheets and workbooks inside that book on self love that you
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can access as well. So click the link below and
check out my new book as well. Anyway, guys, I'm sending you so
much love. Thank you for being here.
I will see you guys soon. Don't give up on yourself.
And you know, take the risk, man.
Take the risk because you know that risk, you don't take it,
it, it won't change your life. You know, it's like take the
risk because if you don't take it, nothing happens.
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But that risk that you're afraidto take it will change your
life. And I'm just learning that every
decision matters and indecision is the cause of all your
worries. And if you don't make a
decision, you will stay in the same place and nothing will
change. So let's make that change.
Be the change. I believe in you.
And I'll catch you on the next episode.
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See you later.