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In this episode of the Luke Mind Power Podcast, Luke Chlebowicz reflects on the journey of self-love, growth, and relationships as he approaches a major life milestone—his wedding day. Luke shares powerful insights on how personal growth and self-investment lead to attracting better relationships and opportunities. He emphasizes the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone, staying away from negativity, and becoming the best version of yourself to manifest the life you desire. This episode is a reminder that success and love come when you do the inner work and become aligned with your true self.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
✅ The Power of Self-Investment If you want better, you have to become better. Invest in yourself and your growth to attract the life and relationships you truly desire.
✅ Stay Away from Negativity One of the secrets to success is staying away from negativity. While negativity can inspire you, it’s important to be mindful of the content you consume and who you surround yourself with.
✅ Be Mindful of Your Surroundings The people you associate with can shape your future. Choose wisely and surround yourself with those who support your growth.
✅ Take Action and Make Changes Life doesn’t fall into your lap. Take consistent action, push through the storms, and persevere to create the life you want.
✅ Challenge Yourself to Grow Doing things that challenge you, like learning something new or stepping out of your routine, creates new pathways for growth and self-confidence.
✅ Attracting Healthy Relationships To attract the right partner, focus on building a healthy relationship with yourself first. Heal from the past, address your fears, and align with your true desires.
✅ The Importance of Communication in Relationships In a healthy relationship, communication is key. Work through disagreements with love, understanding, and respect, and never let negativity fester.
⏱️ Key Timestamps:
[00:00] – Introduction: Luke’s journey towards marriage and personal growth
[03:20] – The importance of becoming better to attract better
[06:40] – Stay away from negativity and its impact on success
[10:00] – Be mindful of your environment and the people around you
[13:20] – Taking action and making changes in your life [16:40] – Challenging yourself and stepping out of your comfort zone
[20:00] – Attracting healthy relationships by focusing on self-love
[26:40] – The relationship you have with yourself determines the relationships you attract
[30:00] – Healthy communication and resolving conflict in relationships
[33:20] – The importance of investing in your personal development
[36:40] – Lessons from past relationships and the importance of healing
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(00:00):
This is the last episode where Luke Mindpower is officially not
married. If you want better, you know, if
you want to attract better, you have to become better.
So that's what I did. I'm here to remind you that
sometimes before you meet that special someone, you need to
meet the other special someone, which is yourself.
But the truth is guys, your success just doesn't fall on
(00:20):
your lap. It's something that you need to
take action on, be consistent with.
So one of the secrets to my success is to stay away from
negativity. Negativity.
The second thing is be mindful of who you surround yourself
with. Not everybody's going to
understand your journey. When Les Brownie says you have
something special, you have greatness within you.
(00:40):
You don't even know who the fuckyou are, ladies and gentlemen.
You don't even know the greatness and the potential.
That you have if you don't give yourself a chance.
Since 2018, I've helped thousands of people heal
(01:03):
childhood trauma, overcome addiction, get off their anxiety
and depression medication, and finally take control of their
lives. Many have gone on to start their
own business and become speakers, coaches, and leaders
who are now transforming lives every single day.
I've built a global community with over 3.5 million people
spoken on stages all over the world, and now I want to help
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you to do the same. If you've ever dreamed of
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wish to see in the world. What's up ladies and gentlemen?
(01:45):
Welcome to another podcast on the Luke Mind Power Podcast.
A blessing to be alive. I'm super super.
Grateful to be here with you andwherever you are tuning in
around the world. This is the Luke Mine power
radio station. It's pretty cool.
You know, like Once Upon a time it was always like, and you
know, it's funny. I was driving out.
I think I was driving the car today or yesterday.
And, you know, my sister's visiting and I know when she
(02:08):
drives the car, she always listens to the radio.
And as soon as I get into the car, I hear the radio and I'm
like, boom. Switch it off straight away.
I guess that's my autopilot response to not wanting to
listen to any news or anything that's negative, and I got to
tell you guys that that's one ofthe secrets to my success as
well. And I hope that in this episode
that I'm going to share with youa lot of value and a lot of
(02:29):
stuff that possible information that could change your life.
And it's also going to be some seeds that I'll plant for you,
maybe some golden Nuggets that you'll take away from this
podcast episode. So that you can live a better
life and you can, you know, leave your dreams and all your
fees, but most importantly, makethe right changes in your life
so that you can actually fulfil your destiny.
(02:50):
I mean, is there a destiny for everyone?
Possibly, but the truth is, guys, you know, your success
just doesn't fall on your lap. It's something that you need to
take action on, be consistent with, persevere through the
storms, you know, overwhelms thefee, the doubt, all that shit
that gets in the way, mental chatter, all the crap that's
(03:10):
going on in your mind from the past that tells you that you're
not good enough, that tells you it's too much, that tells you
can't do it and all this bullshit, you know.
So you've got to be aware enoughto keep persevering towards what
it is that you want to create and don't let the outside noise
come in. So one of the secrets to my
success is to stay away from negativity.
(03:32):
Negativity. Everybody write that in the
chat. If you're watching on YouTube or
wherever you are, if you've got a piece of paper, maybe write it
down. Stay away from negativity.
Stay away from negativity. That is one of the secrets to
success. Why?
Why is it a secret to success? Let me answer that question for
you. Why is negativity not something
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that's going to help you to become successful?
Well, it depends in what context.
Because someone being negative towards you or someone trying to
judge you or bring you down or whatever.
I would have to say that's the reverse.
That's a bit of a reverse because all the people that
bullied me have inspired me and empowered.
They didn't empower me. I, I, I have decided to use that
(04:16):
as inspiration to become who I've become, not to let it bring
me down. So the negativity, the bullying,
the rejection, all that stuff that happened to me in the past
and that still can occur now in my life, I just don't let it
bring me down, you know? And that comes from having a
stronger, confident, loving relationship with myself,
knowing my worth and knowing that it's not the responsibility
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of other people's to make out who I feel I am and who I have
become and what I think I am. That's your responsibility.
It's your responsibility to decide, you know, I'm going to
show up for myself. I'm going to believe in myself.
I'm going to love myself. I'm going to have my own back
and I'll do things that I believe are right for me, not
what's right for my family or myfriends or people outside of me,
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right? So one of the secrets to success
is stay away from negativity. But at the same time, negativity
can empower you and inspire you to keep fucking going when
people are judging you and bringing you down and making you
feel like shit, you know? And a lot of the times if we
don't have a strong mindset, we don't believe in ourselves.
Well, guess what? All that negativity, all that
hate, all that judgement, all the people's opinions, right?
(05:20):
That is going to actually flood you so much that you'll feel
like you're drowning and you won't take action.
You won't believe in yourself, you won't grow, you won't move
forward and you won't get out ofyour funk or dysfunction or
negative mindset. Negative mindset is.
It's too hard. Can't do it, never done it
before. People don't think I can do it.
People don't. Believe in me.
(05:42):
So there's a catch. 22 With negativity Stay away from
negativity, because a bit of negativity is all right.
But what I mean is consciously, what are you consuming?
And you want to be consuming more positive information and
more information that inspires you and empowers you.
I would say 8020, you're always going to have someone that's
going to go like my tennis coachOrte by the tennis thing in a
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second. He's like, do you watch the
news? And I'm like, Nah, he's, I'm
like, what's happening? He's like, oh, there's having
these riots in Serbia and, and I'm like, oh, OK, you know, And
then he's telling me about like what's going on with all the
countries in Kosovo and all these like, and the parliament
and the Prime Minister and all this shit, you know, and I
didn't ask him for that. I didn't say, hey, man, tell me
(06:26):
what's going on around the world, you know, tell me about
the news. I didn't say shit so.
He is, although he's teaching mehow to play tennis, he's
informing me what he's also doing because he must be sitting
at home or listening to the radio and listening to the news,
You know, So one of my secrets to success was stop watching the
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news. Stay away from negativity
because majority of the news is -1 of the secrets to success.
OK, so that was the first thing.The second thing is be mindful
of who you surround yourself with.
Not everybody's going to understand your journey.
And the next thing that I did really was just do things for me
(07:13):
and leave the life that I was living, the people who I was
surrounded by, so that I could create a new life that was
created by me, not by the influences that I was surrounded
by. And that all happened because I
decided to make some different choices.
(07:35):
Different choices, everybody write the word different.
Write on a piece of paper. You got a piece of paper?
Write the word different. You're watching live.
Write the word different in the chat.
You're watching on a replay. Write the word different.
You're listening to this in the car.
Say the word different out aloud, different.
Now let's get it back to tennis,OK?
(07:56):
Now I'm really regimented in my routine.
I like to go to the gym. I like to have my routine.
That's normally my fitness. And you know, I do a bit of
cardio and then I do gym. And so my fiance, I'll talk
about this. Actually, you're listening.
I'll probably listening to this in a couple of weeks time.
I'm probably married already, but at the moment I'm still not
(08:17):
OK. So my fiance is playing tennis
and she's like, do you want to try?
Do you want to do some coaching?And I'm like, well, I've never
played tennis before. I'll have like once or twice
been on a court, but I've never actually tried to play it.
I've watched, you know, all the Wimbledons and all that stuff,
US Opens tennis. I know people that have played
tennis, but I've never tried it.So I said, well, all right, man,
(08:41):
I'll give it a try. I'll give it a chance, you know,
So basically I went to this court and I met the guy there,
the coach to learn to how to play tennis and.
You know you. Think like, you know, you think,
you know, like what you're doing.
But I, I found out very, very quickly that I got no idea.
(09:02):
Like I have no idea what this tennis is about.
And it's really like an art. The way he was teaching me, I
was like the most uncoordinated person.
Even today he was teaching me backhand and I, he's like, stop
being so stiff. And I'm like, yeah, man, I'm
stiff for sure. I, I can't, He's like, stop
doing these ones. Like you have like go all the
(09:22):
way around. And so I'm definitely being
challenged. And the 1st 20 minutes of the
first coaching session, my mind was like, what are you doing
here, Luke? You don't belong here.
Luke, this is too hard. You're never going to learn it.
It's too competitive or I don't know, like it was just like all
these negative shit. And then even today, like after
like 40 minutes, I'm done. Like I want to get off the
(09:44):
court, but he keeps hitting the balls, like, come on, keep
going, keep going, keep going. So there's a bit of
accountability there because I want to leave and he's telling
me to hurry up. You know, there's mental out of
my comfort zone, mental chatter going on in my mind because I'm
playing tennis and I'm not used to playing tennis and I've never
done it before. And I'm learning all these
techniques and shit and I'm justlike, what is this, you know?
(10:05):
So I'm finding that my mind is resisting this experience, you
know, So again, what am I doing,BA I'm doing something different
that is challenging myself and I'm challenging my brain, which
is forcing my brain to create new neural networks and pathways
so that I'm reprogramming myself, which is also going to
build self confidence because I'm going to do something I've
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never done before, which is going to make.
Me feel a specific. Way about myself because I'm
achieving and accomplishing something I've never done
before. And if I give myself a chance
and I just go, hey Luke, just keep doing this for the next
couple of months and do it twicea week and see what happens.
Even if your mind says that you shouldn't do it, or even if
you're not vibing with it too much, just push yourself
because. It's going to teach you
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something new and maybe who knows, it'll become one of your
favourite sports later and you'll play tennis with your
wife, whatever you know or you'll kind of know what you're
doing at least after you practise a little bit.
So these are the things that thepossibilities that we have,
ladies and gentlemen, within ourlife, within our scope of
whatever it is that we want to achieve is that, you know, we
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are the most adaptable. We are the ultimate adaptation
machine. You've heard me say this before
and many of us are not adapting.We are just sticking to the same
routine and talking about getting out of your comfort
zone. I was reading a post that my
fiance slash wife in a couple ofdays I'm getting married, which
(11:28):
is crazy. I'll share a little bit more
about that in a moment. But I was reading a post that
she made on Instagram. And if you don't follow my wife
Yulita, it's Holistic dot Hypnotherapist on Instagram.
She. Posted this post about when we
we went to Warsaw into the city and we stayed in this really
(11:50):
nice hotel and you know, she putsome pictures and she just wrote
this she wrote, she writes really great and I was like,
wow, this is interesting I actually wanted to read it, you
know, and. She.
Started talking about the subconscious mind, how powerful
it is and then how powerful it is, you know, to have a
staycation, which apparently is you go and stay in this wherever
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you live. You actually go to the city and
you stay in a hotel and you pretend like you're on holidays,
right? So basically we did exactly
that. And then she was explaining the
science behind it of what it actually does to your brain.
If you feel like you're actuallyon holidays, but you're not, but
you're away from your home. And I read it and I was like,
(12:36):
wow, this is actually true. Like it's actually real because
you're so out of your environment that you're so used
to. You're still in the same city,
but you're in the city. You're not at home, you're in a
hotel. So again, the whole purpose of
what I'm trying to explain is out of your comfort zone.
Experiences that are not familiar to your routine of what
it is that you're so used to andregimented to do is so healthy
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for your mind because you're programming yourself that it is
safe for you to do different things other than what you're
always used to doing. And if you get comfortable with
continuously doing different things out of the routine, find
a balance with that. It doesn't have to be all the
time, but that's going to help you to to be able to process
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things easier, better when you do take action on things that
are foreign or unfamiliar. Mentally.
That's the biggest challenge formost of us because the moment
that we decide to do something different or create some sort of
change in our life or learn something new and we get a
pushback because of the mind doesn't want to support you.
It's just comfort zone. It's it's what's familiar.
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It's like, no, don't do that. I don't know what that is.
I've never been there before, you know, and you've got to
really push yourself to go. No, it's go.
It's good for me. I've got to.
And that's why, you know, we also sometimes have to get to
the point of no return when we know that there is no way I can
stay the way I am. I have to change.
And sometimes that's where. She gets really bad in your life
and you just know I've got to make a change and sometimes
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that's where we have to actuallyget to, which is unfortunate.
You know, that's why I always go.
We don't, we don't move unless it's either from inspiration or
desperation, you know, and sometimes it can be both.
You can be desperate and inspired.
But a lot of the times for many people, as I've worked with so
many people in my coaching programmes, it's desperation,
you know, it's getting on a callwith someone and going, this is
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my life, you know, this is what I've been.
Through this is what I've been struggling with.
I've been struggling with this XYZ and my life is just not
going anywhere and I need change.
Help me, you know? And then it's the process of of
taking action, building a bit ofmomentum, staying consistent.
Ladies and gentlemen, let me remind you, one of the secrets
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to success is not knowing that in 21 days you can build a new
habit. Because 21 days ain't going to
change shit. What's going to change is when
you make a conscious choice thatit's time for me to evolve and
not to stay the same of how I have been and not to do the
things that I've I've been doingthat have got me to this life of
this version of myself, of who Iam now.
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Because if I don't change, then I will keep staying here, you
know? So it's not 21 days.
It's fucking a new life, ladies and gentlemen.
How do I create a new life? How do I create a new habit?
Or just do it for 21 days and your life will change.
How about you just do it for therest of your fucking life and
have a positive mindset for the rest of your life.
How about you stop surrounding yourself with people that are
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draining your energy and fuckingnegative, you know, not
supportive of, of what it is that you're trying to do in your
life. How are you just fuck them all
off and you just go, Nah, I'm going to make that change.
How about you change your whole environment and then you make
sure that you continue to surround yourself with a good
environment that's actually going to complement your life so
that ongoing, it doesn't need 21days.
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It's just your confidence and awareness that you're going to
make better decisions in your life, which is going to attract
better opportunities and better relationships, become a better
version of yourself. Many of us just continuously
don't get that shit. And then we wonder why we keep
going backwards and we keep staying in the same spot because
most of us are just going aroundin circles.
And the definition of insanity is.
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Doing the same shit over and over and over again, expecting a
freaking different result, wondering why isn't life
changing, you know? And because you're not doing
anything different, how do you expect it to change, you know?
How do you? Expect life to change if you're
not changing, you know so. That's why this.
Inner journey, inner work is so powerful, you know, and I got to
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tell you the difference. The challenge is that when you
do evolve, unfortunately not everyone evolves with you, you
know, and that's the hard part, I've got to tell you, because
sometimes you're just not going to click with certain people in
your life anymore. And So what you'll do naturally
is you'll distance yourself because you're just not vibing
with them anymore. You know, and I've had it, I've
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experienced it, I do experience it.
And you know, you just learn to protect your peace.
You learn to to make the right decisions for you so that you
can surround yourself with the energy that is healthy for you.
But ladies and gentlemen, you know, it's come to the time in
my life and you know, on the podcast, you know, I want to
talk about love. I really do.
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I want to talk about love. You've heard me talk about self
love a lot, you know, and you hear me talking about love a
lot. And I always talk about self
love, you know, the relationshipwith myself, loving myself, you
know, having my own back. This is something that was so
foreign to me, but, you know, one of my greatest inspirations
was someone who I'd never met before.
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And first of all, that was me, you know?
And then it was the process of believing and hoping and
wishing, but not knowing. And that's the power of belief,
you know? It's like the wind, you know,
when it's really windy, you can hear the wind, you can feel it,
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but you can't see it, you know? And so along this journey, you
know, of my own life and going through so many relationships
and things not falling into place and they were never
supposed to. I understand now.
I didn't understand before. So remember, if you're going
through a storm right now and ifthings are not going your way,
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guess what? You're not supposed to be where
you want to be. You're exactly where you're
meant to be. They're not going your way
because they're not supposed to.Life is always teaching you
something. And I needed to learn through
the relationships, through the heartaches, through the
rejections, through the experiences that I went through
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with all of my previous relationships that I was meant
for more. I was meant for something
greater. And it really did take me
decisions like, hey, no more relationships.
And I would highly, I've always said this, you know, if you
don't heal from. Your past or from some sort of
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trauma or some sort of fee or something that's happened to you
in the past. And if you're in a unhealthy
relationship, and if you got outof that unhealthy relationship
and then you found yourself in another unhealthy relationship.
That's quite. Evident and clear that it's very
possible that, you know, you gotto do some work on yourself
because if you don't address what it is that's keeping you
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stuck and you don't realise why I keep attracting the same type
of people into my life, you know, it all comes back to you.
You know, it's what you allow will persist.
You get what you tolerate. You know, if you keep allowing
specific types of behaviours andpeople treating you a specific
way, you're basically teaching them that that's OK.
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So and that's why self love is so powerful.
It's it's it's powerful because you start to make better
decisions for yourself because you say you know what?
I don't deserve that. I, I deserve to be respected,
you know? How I treat myself is how I
teach other people to treat me right.
And then there's the fear of, well, if I start speaking up for
myself and I start doing what's right for me and I start loving
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me loudly and proudly, well, then I'm at the risk of people
leaving me and people judging me.
Good spirit of ballet, leave me.Guess what?
You can fuck off because I'm notgoing to leave myself, you know?
And see, that's where the confidence comes from for you to
be in your power and to say, youknow what?
You can leave me. You can reject me.
You can, you can judge me, but I'm not going to leave myself,
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you know? I'm not going to disrespect
myself and allow myself to be treated with disrespect, just to
bow down so that I fit in with fucking what you want.
And this is the biggest challenge for us.
You've heard me talk a lot about, you know, feeling
rejected, neglected, abandoned, not seen, not heard, not
understood, not given love when you were a child.
So now we crave that in our adult life.
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Really, we're just broken children in unhealthy
relationships craving attention and validation from someone out
there. And sometimes we get it and we
find ourselves in these shit relationships and then we don't
know how to get out because all we still craving is that
attention. Right.
But it's mixed with all this abuse and fucking shit, you
know? So that's why for me, you know,
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with the relationships that I went through, I got to this
point where I said, OK, no more relationships, no more, you
know? The other challenge most people
struggle with is the fear of being alone, hence why I always
again, I encourage practising self love and working on that.
That's what I coach all my clients to do is build a
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stronger loving relationship andknow that hey, when you learn to
love yourself, you'll start to enjoy your own company.
And this is not about staying away from people or the world is
bad, no, it's about you coming back to yourself and saying,
hey, you know what, I actually enjoy myself.
You know, I'm not in this state of neediness.
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You know, I need something otherwise I'm not enough, right?
It's building this connection and relationship with yourself
where you're like, Oh my gosh, Iactually enjoy my own company.
I'm not afraid to be alone. The amount of people that I've
heard that have this fear of being alone, it's like, wow,
you're actually telling yourselfthat you're afraid to be with
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yourself. There's that.
And then there is also the innate nature, nature of human
connection. Human connection is part of our
nature. We thrive, we are emotional
beings. We thrive of feeling connection.
I had to go through a journey of, of solitude first to realise
1 evening when I was living in Dubai in, in one of my
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apartments and I'm there and I'm, I'm, I'm getting anxiety,
I'm having panic attacks. I'm even doing coaching.
I'm, I'm working with my clientsand I had a sudden moment where
I was like, turn the air con on.I'm freaking having a panic
attack. What's going on?
And so I was my, my nervous system was not regulated.
I was not feeling connected to anyone because I was by myself
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and I knew that man. I've got to see my family.
I've got to travel to Poland. I've got to come see my sister.
And I knew at that time that there was something off.
And I was like, yeah, I'm just, it's been too long for me to be
alone, you know? So we.
Thrive off community, we thrive off connection.
But you have to find the balance, you know, and.
And I had the balance because I was basically, you know, leaving
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this solitude relationship with myself, building stronger self
love and connecting with myself,understanding myself,
discovering myself, getting out of my comfort zone, growing,
growing, growing, learning, growing, staying.
Positive, you know, but but whatwhat for initially, you know, at
2018 it was like, well, what for?
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Well, you know, if I, if I want that dream girl, if I want to
have a healthy relationship, man, I don't even have a healthy
relationship with myself. I don't even know who I am, you
know, So I knew that in order for me to attract the love of my
life, which in terms of a partner, I had to do something
different, you know, I had to evolve out of who.
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That Luke was to go. You know, I've got to spend time
with me, figure shit out. Who am I?
You know, I've got to evolve andI've got to become a better
version of myself. If you like, I say if you want
better, you know, if you want toattract better, you have to
become better. So that's what I did, you know,
and I'm just sharing with you from my own experiences that
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yeah, it, it was a journey, but it was necessary.
I. Had to go through the trenches.
I had to. I hit rock bottom.
I had to lose all my money. I had to start a business.
I had to travel. I had to live in China.
I had to invest in my personal development.
I had to invest in my speaking communication skills.
I had to work with extraordinarycoaches.
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I had to invest in myself. I had to evolve out of who that
Luke? Was to become this Luke.
Someone that I never knew existed.
And that's why I believe when Les Brown, he says you have
something special, you have greatness within you.
You don't even know who the fuckyou are, ladies and gentlemen.
You don't even know the greatness and the potential that
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you have if you don't give yourself a chance, you know, And
what's his name, that Warren Buffett.
I remember Warren Buffett, he said the biggest investment that
you can make in your life is in yourself.
And I kind of elaborated on that.
And I said the biggest and best investment that you can ever
make in yourself is in your life, is in your personal
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development and healing. Journey, you know.
We've all got some sort of insecurity fee trauma, some
block, some sort of like suppressed energy, some sort of
emotional block within ourselvesfrom some sort of traumatic
experience that we experienced as a child or whatever we all
do. It's just whether or not some of
us can admit it and actually want to face it and actually
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want to heal from it and actually want to become a little
bit more emotionally open, whichwill which will create more
peace and freedom in your life. But many of us just don't get
it, and that's completely OK, you know, so this is part of the
possibilities for yourself of maybe what it is that you
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haven't become yet. And by leaning into
understanding yourself a little bit more rather than being so
busy with everything that you'vebeen doing in your life thus
far, the possibilities of your healing of more peace, of more
gratitude and and more alignment, you know, alignment
with like your, your path, you know, because remember, there
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can be a destiny, You know, it'swritten in the stars, like who
you're becoming in your life, but at the same time, you know,
in, in order to get into alignment with your.
Path of. Where you're supposed to be
going in your life, you've got to be honest and truthful and
authentic. That requires vulnerability.
Vulnerability is where you open your heart to the truth.
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You know, speaking your truth, standing up for yourself,
standing up for what you believein becoming.
You know this openness not, not hiding nothing suppressed like
expressed. And that's probably one of the
hardest things for many people. Because a lot of us have, you
know, shame or we have experiences 10 years, 20 years,
30 years ago that we've been through that we went through
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that probably we don't want to talk about or maybe we're
holding onto it or we're just, it's just, you know, it's.
Shut up shop. You know it's in the past.
Don't go there. Who cares?
Let's just fucking focus on the on the future.
But really it's a very hurtful and it's, it's, it's something
that's stuck there for you. And everyone, even you has a
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conscience. Everyone has a conscience.
And if you understand what a conscience is, then you'll
understand that. If you fucked up in the past and
you understand conscience, then you know.
That there's a block there for you, you know?
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And then there's the sort of action of like, well, fuck, how
do I heal that? You know, how do I address it?
How do I do I make? Do I, do I forgive, do I create
connection with relationships that I have in my friendships or
my families or whatever so that I can talk about it?
Do I address it? Do I see a therapist?
Do I see a coach like? How do I get it out?
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You know? And that's why obviously talk
therapy is so powerful, you know, to connect with a coach
like I've learned being in the coaching space now, how powerful
it is to connect with someone who you feel has a similar story
or has similar experiences to you that's been through some
shit like you've been through. And you're able to converse with
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them because you actually feel safe to to express the truth
because you know. That they'll be able to have
your back from experience, not from a textbook right you
become. So much more relatable, you
know, in this whole therapy coaching space of, you know,
healing and and growing. It's the connection, not with
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someone. Who is for example, you can have
a great childhood, great great upbringing and go to university
and become a psychologist. Let's just give this an example.
You become a psychologist, right?
And then all of a sudden you've learned a lot.
You've got your degrees, everything like that.
But then now you've got a clientthat has childhood trauma and
has been sexually abused. So you're a psychologist, right?
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So you've studied it and you've,you know, you're so informed, so
well informed, but you've never experienced it in your life.
You've never been sexually abused.
You've never been physically abused.
You've never been financially abused.
You've never been through that kind of traumatic experience.
So because of your tertiary studies and because of the time
you've spent reading and, and doing research and all this kind
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of stuff, are you fully qualified to help this person to
heal? Or is someone who has been
through that and is now labelling themselves as a coach
that I help people who have beensexually abused to heal their
trauma, are they more qualified?You know, deep questions, you
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know, and I know that you will still get a lot from a
psychologist for sure, you know,studying and, and all that kind
of stuff. But but you, you see my point,
you know, and so I guess that's the power you have is making the
right choices for yourself of like, you know, if you feel like
you need to heal, you feel like you want to open yourself up,
you feel like you want to address some things, then you
have to make you can make betterchoices now with.
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Who it is that you decide to work with?
You know, because you can actually work with people who
have overcome things. Like Gabby Bernstein talks about
it a lot. And I'm pretty sure that she's
been through some sort of traumaof she's mentioned big T trauma.
And I'm not specifically sure ifit was sexual abuse, sexual,
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yeah. But she has mentioned it a few
times and she's crushing it and clearly exposing it and talking
about it. And, you know, she, she does an
amazing job, right? And that's why she's so
successful because, you know, it's been a life of addiction
and, and overcoming things because of some sort of
childhood experience that was really, really traumatic, you
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know, and now she helps millionsof people with her books and her
events. And, you know, this is the power
that we have. You know, this wasn't around 25
years ago, ladies and gentlemen,you know this is a new
technologically advanced age. This is why I love what I do
with my coaching institute. I help coaches.
I help people become online coaches, become a life coach, go
through a certification. I help them to create their own
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coaching programmes and start their own coaching.
Businesses. Why?
Because they're overcoming this shit.
They're putting a plan together and now they're helping other
people. And I've done it myself.
I've built it out myself for thelast eight years, so now I can
help. Other people do the same thing.
And such a blessing, you know, it's the biggest blessing to be
able to help people to start their own coaching businesses.
I didn't know I could do this. You know, I just, I was kind of
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stuck there. Not stuck, but I was just doing
and, and it was part of the process, you know, I had to
create my coaching programmes, work with my clients.
I still work with them, but now creating something where I can
actually help people start theirown businesses.
That's even amazing, more amazing, you know, because
that's what this world is comingto.
You're able to create a businessfrom you overcoming some sort of
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challenge you were struggling with all your life.
And there's other people that are waiting for you to show up
with your business and say, hey,I can help you.
You know, I've done it. I've been there.
Whatever it is, you know. So back to getting married and
getting married in two days. Yes, this Saturday and you know
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it has been a long time coming. I'm turning 41.
You know, for a long time I was definitely feeling left behind
and this is what I love about mylife guys.
So I hope this resonates with you if you.
If you feel. Like you're lost.
You feel like you're different. You feel like people are ahead
of you. You feel like life is going
faster for others and they're getting results faster and
you're falling behind. I used to always feel delayed.
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I didn't understand this, but I just did, you know, I would
watch all my friends be in relationships and become more
successful than me and. You know, even.
Facial hair like I was like, whyhaven't I got facial hair like
all my friends and everyone's got facial hair so I knew that
there was something different about me, you know, but again, I
didn't have the confidence to understand that it's fine Luke,
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you don't have to be like everybody else, you know I.
Didn't understand that. So then what happened is I got
lost in trying to and be very influenced and comparing my life
to other people a lot and then also like being very not
sympathetic with myself but being like putting my own self.
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Down because I'm just like, yeah, well, you know, I'm just
not going to make it or I'm not going to be successful.
Maybe I'm not supposed to be successful.
Maybe this is just how my life is or whatever, you know, And
then I would be just looking at everybody else winning.
You know, but now as I've continued to persevere, not give
up and go through this amazing journey, let me tell you who I
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am. You know I'm the horse.
At the back, that's come and last.
I'm the horse. At the back of the field that's
come and last. And they're fucking racing and
they're racing and #7 is there number 10?
Is there number? I'm #22 I'm last, right?
And the horses are racing and they're going down the track and
they're going and they're going,they're fucking all going.
Oh yeah, 17/15/2021 They're all going down.
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And then #22 fucking bang comes from behind and fucking wins.
That's who I am. And I know you're watching right
now and you're #22 as well, maybe you're #23 and you're
fucking winning. Because before you were winning,
you were behind everyone else and it looked like you weren't
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going to win. And maybe right now you still
feel like you're not going to win.
But if you're watching this right now, ladies and gentlemen,
I'm telling you you're a winner.I'm telling you, you got
greatness in you. I'm telling you that whatever
you're going through right now, it's building you.
It's teaching you. It's it's forcing you to learn
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the lessons that you need to learn so you can get to where
you need to be because what's upahead for you is fucking
amazing. And so if it wasn't for my
experiences that I went through of being bullied and physically
abused and rejected and all of the name calling and all of my
own. Judgement of myself and not
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loving myself for so many years and drug abuse and all that
shit. If it wasn't for that, you know,
I wouldn't have learnt a lot of lessons that I needed to learn.
Because eventually I got to a point where I said no more
relationships, let's have a relationship with myself and
find who I am. And then when I found who I was,
I then attracted the love of my life.
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And in two days I'm going to marry her.
That's fucking, that's the shit,you know.
So along this journey of my podcast and speaking with you
and being here with you, first Iwant to say thank you for having
my back. Thank you for being on this
journey with me. Because a lot of my podcasts
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have been inspired by the beliefthat one day I'll meet her.
And that one day happened last year in July when I just
received the message on Instagram and I was just like,
you know, who's this girl? Because I saw her.
And I was just like, OK, I'm done with these dating apps.
I'm done with messaging girls. I'm over it.
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Like I'm not, I don't have time for these swipe, swipe, swipe,
swipe. I got to a point where I was
like, fuck, man, how many followers do I need to have to,
to, to attract the, the person that I want to be with?
And it was pissing me off. I was losing hope.
I was losing faith, to be honestwith you, you know, and I flew
from that was when I got to thatpoint where I was in Dubai and I
was just like, fuck, man, I'm lonely.
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Like I'm feeling like, you know,I need connection and all these
like, I literally was getting like that.
And so I'm, I'm like, is it OK for me to go on dating apps?
Is it OK for me to like start swiping and shit?
And I did, I went on a few datesand I realised that, man, what
am I doing? This is not who, this is not me,
you know, like this is these people that I'm connecting with
are just not on my level. That's nothing near what I'm
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supposed to be surrounding myself with, but I had to do it,
you know, to get it out of my system and just kind of like,
you know, OK, fine, I got the poll and boom, jumped on Tinder.
I'm freaking swiping and shit. And then I realised after a few
days I was like, fuck, man, you are wasting so much time just
sitting there, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe and, and
like trying to message and shit.And, and by the way, this is
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personal. Of course, you know, I'm, I'm
just being very transparent because I'm not afraid to kind
of tell you the journey, you know, And so again, after I did
that a little bit, I stopped andI realised that I'm wasting so
much time and this is not what this is.
I just knew it. This is not where I'm going to
attract her. And I stopped, you know.
And so I follow a dude in Dubai,Thomas Carlo on Instagram.
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And there was a post that he posted and Yulita commented on
that post. And then I saw her post and I
checked out her Instagram and her stories.
And then, you know, because I just came off this whole like,
Tinder app thing, you know, I was done.
And I was just like I'd said, I'm not connecting with anyone,
you know, I didn't want to message anyone.
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So I'm very, very grateful. Thank you, God, for, I guess,
planting the seed in her mind tomessage me.
And then, you know, I'll share with you so much more about a
relationship. And actually we've been
supposing to do a podcast episode.
And I think we will, funny enough, it'll be obviously when
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we're married, which is beautiful because, yeah, it is a
story. It is a love story.
It is beautiful. And, you know, and that's why
I'm here to remind you that, youknow, if you've been through
some really heavy rain and some toxic relationships and some
really experiences in your life that maybe have dimmed your hope
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or have, you know, caused you tolose faith in love, that there
is someone special out there foryou.
I'm here to remind you that, youknow, sometimes before you meet
that special someone, you need to meet the other special
someone, which is yourself. You know, before you meet them,
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you need to meet yourself. And what I mean by that is not
just being naive about I'm not going to be in a relationship
anymore. I mean, do the fucking work.
I mean, like, don't just not have a relationship and just go,
I'm just going to be single. Screw everyone, right?
I mean, like actually invest in your personal development and
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healing. Like do some fucking work on
yourself. Like heal whatever shit you got
going on that you've been through in your.
Life so that you can evolve as aperson.
Unless you want to stay the same, you know, because if you
want to attract something different, you have to become
different. You know, like my fiance, which
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is going to be my wife in 2 days.
She's a very successful person, you know, She's very emotionally
intelligent. She's fucking switched on man.
She cheques the shit out of me, you know, like I can't get away
with shit because she's fucking on, man.
But guess what? I'm fucking on too, you know?
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And I wouldn't have attracted her if I didn't become
successful, if I didn't evolve, if I didn't build what I've
built. There's no way, you know?
So she was also very picky. And fuck me, like, I'm the
worst. I'll be the worst, pickiest
fucking guy in my whole life. Me and Danilo, we talked about
this a lot. We're the pickiest guys you
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know, and. Yeah, finally, I just had to go.
Fucking hell, man. It's about time.
So it's a blessing to be alive, ladies and gentlemen.
Yeah, I'm getting Luke Mindpower.
This is the last episode where Luke Mindpower is officially not
married. Because when you're listening to
this, I will be 5th of July. So thank you for your well
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wishes, thank you for all the support, thank you for all the
love. I appreciate you guys so much.
If this episode inspired you, I hope that you'll share it with
your friends and family, inspiremore people to not give up on
their dreams, on themselves, on love because that special
someone is there. But it does require some work
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from your part. You know, it's not just, of
course, you know, there can be stories out there that just
magically, you know, one day youbump into them and it does
happen. But in my own experience, that
was not the case. You know, it was a journey.
It was, you know, hey, you want something better, bro, go become
better, you know, go and go and get out of your comfort zone
and, and, and start doing shit you never done before so that
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you can live a life. You, you, you want to live, you
know, be the creator. Don't live life by default.
Live life by design. And that's what I love about
life is that we get to create our future.
It's not already written. You're the one writing it every
single freaking day. Ladies and gentlemen, thank you
for being here with me. Thank you for joining me on this
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podcast episode. Wherever you're tuning in from,
if you're on Facebook or Instagram or TikTok, thank you
for joining live. If you're watching on YouTube,
if you're watching on a replay, if you're watching on Rumble,
Amazon, Audible, iHeartRadio, Apple Podcast, Spotify,
wherever. You're tuning in from This is
Luke my power signing out for the last time because after you
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listen to the next episode, I will be married and I can't wait
to create an amazing future withmy beautiful wife and you know,
and just create together. And she always says to me she's
like, I love building life with you.
And I'm just you know, I love ittoo.
You know, it's, it's such a blessing to have, you know, your
soul mate, someone that you click with, someone that you
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love, that you appreciate so much and that also reciprocates
the same, you know, and she's done a lot of healing on herself
as well. And that's why we click so much
because so have I, you know, andit's such a conscious
relationship, which is just amazing, you know, and I'll tell
you one thing before we finish up, you know, if we do have a
disagreement or we have a momentwhere we're kind of like, I
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wouldn't say arguing because, you know, it's not really a back
and forth. It's more of might be a
frustration or something like that.
The one thing I love about our relationship is that like, I
won't allow it to go longer than15 minutes, you know, like
you'll see me straight away, understand, get clarity on
what's going on, communicate andthen boom, I mean, you're in my
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arms and I'm telling you I love you and I'm telling you I'm
sorry. And I'm telling you whatever
needs to be said so that we can heal this, so that we can
overcome this, so we can get through this and we say sorry to
each other and then we fucking back.
Boom. And we're stronger, you know, so
don't allow it to like fester orto like ignore each other and go
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to bed angry and all this bullshit.
You know what I mean? I just, that's not the type of
relationship that I want to be in.
And you know, I'm not the guy that is like in my ego, like,
oh, you know, now fuck you. You need to come and say sorry
to me and shit, you know, we do it together, you know, and
that's why I love you leader so much because she she does that,
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you know, and sometimes she catches me off guard and she's
like, hey, I'm sorry for this orI'm sorry for that.
And I'm like, what? I'm like, oh, I'm like, fuck,
you know. And and it just yeah, it's it's
such a blessing to be in such a healthy relationship.
But again, at all, it all startswith you.
You want to attract healthy, become healthy because like
attracts like. You can't be in a healthy
relationship but you're the toxic one.
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Or they're the toxic one, but you're the healthy one.
But then it's matching. It doesn't match.
Because you'll pick it up straight away and you'll go,
fuck, this is not right. I'm emotionally aware.
I've done a lot of, you know, healing on myself.
I'm confident in who I am. I know my worth.
You want to talk to me like that?
You're going to treat me like that.
It won't last long. You just flick them away, see
you later, you know, and you'll pick up the repetitive cycles of
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like manipulation, you know? I'm so sorry.
And then the next week they do it again and then they say sorry
again. You know what I mean?
Like anyway, you get my drift. I love you guys.
I appreciate you all. Thank you for being here and I
will catch you guys on the freaking next episode.
Much love.
This is the last episode where Luke Mindpower is officially not
married. If you want better, you know, if
you want to attract better, you have to become better.
So that's what I did. I'm here to remind you that
sometimes before you meet that special someone, you need to
meet the other special someone, which is yourself.
But the truth is guys, your success just doesn't fall on
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your lap. It's something that you need to
take action on, be consistent with.
So one of the secrets to my success is to stay away from
negativity. Negativity.
The second thing is be mindful of who you surround yourself
with. Not everybody's going to
understand your journey. When Les Brownie says you have
something special, you have greatness within you.
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You don't even know who the fuckyou are, ladies and gentlemen.
You don't even know the greatness and the potential.
That you have if you don't give yourself a chance.
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Welcome to another podcast on the Luke Mind Power Podcast.
A blessing to be alive. I'm super super.
Grateful to be here with you andwherever you are tuning in
around the world. This is the Luke Mine power
radio station. It's pretty cool.
You know, like Once Upon a time it was always like, and you
know, it's funny. I was driving out.
I think I was driving the car today or yesterday.
And, you know, my sister's visiting and I know when she
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drives the car, she always listens to the radio.
And as soon as I get into the car, I hear the radio and I'm
like, boom. Switch it off straight away.
I guess that's my autopilot response to not wanting to
listen to any news or anything that's negative, and I got to
tell you guys that that's one ofthe secrets to my success as
well. And I hope that in this episode
that I'm going to share with youa lot of value and a lot of
(02:29):
stuff that possible information that could change your life.
And it's also going to be some seeds that I'll plant for you,
maybe some golden Nuggets that you'll take away from this
podcast episode. So that you can live a better
life and you can, you know, leave your dreams and all your
fees, but most importantly, makethe right changes in your life
so that you can actually fulfil your destiny.
(02:50):
I mean, is there a destiny for everyone?
Possibly, but the truth is, guys, you know, your success
just doesn't fall on your lap. It's something that you need to
take action on, be consistent with, persevere through the
storms, you know, overwhelms thefee, the doubt, all that shit
that gets in the way, mental chatter, all the crap that's
(03:10):
going on in your mind from the past that tells you that you're
not good enough, that tells you it's too much, that tells you
can't do it and all this bullshit, you know.
So you've got to be aware enoughto keep persevering towards what
it is that you want to create and don't let the outside noise
come in. So one of the secrets to my
success is to stay away from negativity.
(03:32):
Negativity. Everybody write that in the
chat. If you're watching on YouTube or
wherever you are, if you've got a piece of paper, maybe write it
down. Stay away from negativity.
Stay away from negativity. That is one of the secrets to
success. Why?
Why is it a secret to success? Let me answer that question for
you. Why is negativity not something
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that's going to help you to become successful?
Well, it depends in what context.
Because someone being negative towards you or someone trying to
judge you or bring you down or whatever.
I would have to say that's the reverse.
That's a bit of a reverse because all the people that
bullied me have inspired me and empowered.
They didn't empower me. I, I, I have decided to use that
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as inspiration to become who I've become, not to let it bring
me down. So the negativity, the bullying,
the rejection, all that stuff that happened to me in the past
and that still can occur now in my life, I just don't let it
bring me down, you know? And that comes from having a
stronger, confident, loving relationship with myself,
knowing my worth and knowing that it's not the responsibility
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of other people's to make out who I feel I am and who I have
become and what I think I am. That's your responsibility.
It's your responsibility to decide, you know, I'm going to
show up for myself. I'm going to believe in myself.
I'm going to love myself. I'm going to have my own back
and I'll do things that I believe are right for me, not
what's right for my family or myfriends or people outside of me,
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right? So one of the secrets to success
is stay away from negativity. But at the same time, negativity
can empower you and inspire you to keep fucking going when
people are judging you and bringing you down and making you
feel like shit, you know? And a lot of the times if we
don't have a strong mindset, we don't believe in ourselves.
Well, guess what? All that negativity, all that
hate, all that judgement, all the people's opinions, right?
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That is going to actually flood you so much that you'll feel
like you're drowning and you won't take action.
You won't believe in yourself, you won't grow, you won't move
forward and you won't get out ofyour funk or dysfunction or
negative mindset. Negative mindset is.
It's too hard. Can't do it, never done it
before. People don't think I can do it.
People don't. Believe in me.
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So there's a catch. 22 With negativity Stay away from
negativity, because a bit of negativity is all right.
But what I mean is consciously, what are you consuming?
And you want to be consuming more positive information and
more information that inspires you and empowers you.
I would say 8020, you're always going to have someone that's
going to go like my tennis coachOrte by the tennis thing in a
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second. He's like, do you watch the
news? And I'm like, Nah, he's, I'm
like, what's happening? He's like, oh, there's having
these riots in Serbia and, and I'm like, oh, OK, you know, And
then he's telling me about like what's going on with all the
countries in Kosovo and all these like, and the parliament
and the Prime Minister and all this shit, you know, and I
didn't ask him for that. I didn't say, hey, man, tell me
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what's going on around the world, you know, tell me about
the news. I didn't say shit so.
He is, although he's teaching mehow to play tennis, he's
informing me what he's also doing because he must be sitting
at home or listening to the radio and listening to the news,
You know, So one of my secrets to success was stop watching the
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news. Stay away from negativity
because majority of the news is -1 of the secrets to success.
OK, so that was the first thing.The second thing is be mindful
of who you surround yourself with.
Not everybody's going to understand your journey.
And the next thing that I did really was just do things for me
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and leave the life that I was living, the people who I was
surrounded by, so that I could create a new life that was
created by me, not by the influences that I was surrounded
by. And that all happened because I
decided to make some different choices.
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Different choices, everybody write the word different.
Write on a piece of paper. You got a piece of paper?
Write the word different. You're watching live.
Write the word different in the chat.
You're watching on a replay. Write the word different.
You're listening to this in the car.
Say the word different out aloud, different.
Now let's get it back to tennis,OK?
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Now I'm really regimented in my routine.
I like to go to the gym. I like to have my routine.
That's normally my fitness. And you know, I do a bit of
cardio and then I do gym. And so my fiance, I'll talk
about this. Actually, you're listening.
I'll probably listening to this in a couple of weeks time.
I'm probably married already, but at the moment I'm still not
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OK. So my fiance is playing tennis
and she's like, do you want to try?
Do you want to do some coaching?And I'm like, well, I've never
played tennis before. I'll have like once or twice
been on a court, but I've never actually tried to play it.
I've watched, you know, all the Wimbledons and all that stuff,
US Opens tennis. I know people that have played
tennis, but I've never tried it.So I said, well, all right, man,
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I'll give it a try. I'll give it a chance, you know,
So basically I went to this court and I met the guy there,
the coach to learn to how to play tennis and.
You know you. Think like, you know, you think,
you know, like what you're doing.
But I, I found out very, very quickly that I got no idea.
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Like I have no idea what this tennis is about.
And it's really like an art. The way he was teaching me, I
was like the most uncoordinated person.
Even today he was teaching me backhand and I, he's like, stop
being so stiff. And I'm like, yeah, man, I'm
stiff for sure. I, I can't, He's like, stop
doing these ones. Like you have like go all the
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way around. And so I'm definitely being
challenged. And the 1st 20 minutes of the
first coaching session, my mind was like, what are you doing
here, Luke? You don't belong here.
Luke, this is too hard. You're never going to learn it.
It's too competitive or I don't know, like it was just like all
these negative shit. And then even today, like after
like 40 minutes, I'm done. Like I want to get off the
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court, but he keeps hitting the balls, like, come on, keep
going, keep going, keep going. So there's a bit of
accountability there because I want to leave and he's telling
me to hurry up. You know, there's mental out of
my comfort zone, mental chatter going on in my mind because I'm
playing tennis and I'm not used to playing tennis and I've never
done it before. And I'm learning all these
techniques and shit and I'm justlike, what is this, you know?
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So I'm finding that my mind is resisting this experience, you
know, So again, what am I doing,BA I'm doing something different
that is challenging myself and I'm challenging my brain, which
is forcing my brain to create new neural networks and pathways
so that I'm reprogramming myself, which is also going to
build self confidence because I'm going to do something I've
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never done before, which is going to make.
Me feel a specific. Way about myself because I'm
achieving and accomplishing something I've never done
before. And if I give myself a chance
and I just go, hey Luke, just keep doing this for the next
couple of months and do it twicea week and see what happens.
Even if your mind says that you shouldn't do it, or even if
you're not vibing with it too much, just push yourself
because. It's going to teach you
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something new and maybe who knows, it'll become one of your
favourite sports later and you'll play tennis with your
wife, whatever you know or you'll kind of know what you're
doing at least after you practise a little bit.
So these are the things that thepossibilities that we have,
ladies and gentlemen, within ourlife, within our scope of
whatever it is that we want to achieve is that, you know, we
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are the most adaptable. We are the ultimate adaptation
machine. You've heard me say this before
and many of us are not adapting.We are just sticking to the same
routine and talking about getting out of your comfort
zone. I was reading a post that my
fiance slash wife in a couple ofdays I'm getting married, which
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is crazy. I'll share a little bit more
about that in a moment. But I was reading a post that
she made on Instagram. And if you don't follow my wife
Yulita, it's Holistic dot Hypnotherapist on Instagram.
She. Posted this post about when we
we went to Warsaw into the city and we stayed in this really
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nice hotel and you know, she putsome pictures and she just wrote
this she wrote, she writes really great and I was like,
wow, this is interesting I actually wanted to read it, you
know, and. She.
Started talking about the subconscious mind, how powerful
it is and then how powerful it is, you know, to have a
staycation, which apparently is you go and stay in this wherever
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you live. You actually go to the city and
you stay in a hotel and you pretend like you're on holidays,
right? So basically we did exactly
that. And then she was explaining the
science behind it of what it actually does to your brain.
If you feel like you're actuallyon holidays, but you're not, but
you're away from your home. And I read it and I was like,
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wow, this is actually true. Like it's actually real because
you're so out of your environment that you're so used
to. You're still in the same city,
but you're in the city. You're not at home, you're in a
hotel. So again, the whole purpose of
what I'm trying to explain is out of your comfort zone.
Experiences that are not familiar to your routine of what
it is that you're so used to andregimented to do is so healthy
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for your mind because you're programming yourself that it is
safe for you to do different things other than what you're
always used to doing. And if you get comfortable with
continuously doing different things out of the routine, find
a balance with that. It doesn't have to be all the
time, but that's going to help you to to be able to process
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things easier, better when you do take action on things that
are foreign or unfamiliar. Mentally.
That's the biggest challenge formost of us because the moment
that we decide to do something different or create some sort of
change in our life or learn something new and we get a
pushback because of the mind doesn't want to support you.
It's just comfort zone. It's it's what's familiar.
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It's like, no, don't do that. I don't know what that is.
I've never been there before, you know, and you've got to
really push yourself to go. No, it's go.
It's good for me. I've got to.
And that's why, you know, we also sometimes have to get to
the point of no return when we know that there is no way I can
stay the way I am. I have to change.
And sometimes that's where. She gets really bad in your life
and you just know I've got to make a change and sometimes
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that's where we have to actuallyget to, which is unfortunate.
You know, that's why I always go.
We don't, we don't move unless it's either from inspiration or
desperation, you know, and sometimes it can be both.
You can be desperate and inspired.
But a lot of the times for many people, as I've worked with so
many people in my coaching programmes, it's desperation,
you know, it's getting on a callwith someone and going, this is
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my life, you know, this is what I've been.
Through this is what I've been struggling with.
I've been struggling with this XYZ and my life is just not
going anywhere and I need change.
Help me, you know? And then it's the process of of
taking action, building a bit ofmomentum, staying consistent.
Ladies and gentlemen, let me remind you, one of the secrets
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to success is not knowing that in 21 days you can build a new
habit. Because 21 days ain't going to
change shit. What's going to change is when
you make a conscious choice thatit's time for me to evolve and
not to stay the same of how I have been and not to do the
things that I've I've been doingthat have got me to this life of
this version of myself, of who Iam now.
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Because if I don't change, then I will keep staying here, you
know? So it's not 21 days.
It's fucking a new life, ladies and gentlemen.
How do I create a new life? How do I create a new habit?
Or just do it for 21 days and your life will change.
How about you just do it for therest of your fucking life and
have a positive mindset for the rest of your life.
How about you stop surrounding yourself with people that are
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draining your energy and fuckingnegative, you know, not
supportive of, of what it is that you're trying to do in your
life. How are you just fuck them all
off and you just go, Nah, I'm going to make that change.
How about you change your whole environment and then you make
sure that you continue to surround yourself with a good
environment that's actually going to complement your life so
that ongoing, it doesn't need 21days.
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It's just your confidence and awareness that you're going to
make better decisions in your life, which is going to attract
better opportunities and better relationships, become a better
version of yourself. Many of us just continuously
don't get that shit. And then we wonder why we keep
going backwards and we keep staying in the same spot because
most of us are just going aroundin circles.
And the definition of insanity is.
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Doing the same shit over and over and over again, expecting a
freaking different result, wondering why isn't life
changing, you know? And because you're not doing
anything different, how do you expect it to change, you know?
How do you? Expect life to change if you're
not changing, you know so. That's why this.
Inner journey, inner work is so powerful, you know, and I got to
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tell you the difference. The challenge is that when you
do evolve, unfortunately not everyone evolves with you, you
know, and that's the hard part, I've got to tell you, because
sometimes you're just not going to click with certain people in
your life anymore. And So what you'll do naturally
is you'll distance yourself because you're just not vibing
with them anymore. You know, and I've had it, I've
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experienced it, I do experience it.
And you know, you just learn to protect your peace.
You learn to to make the right decisions for you so that you
can surround yourself with the energy that is healthy for you.
But ladies and gentlemen, you know, it's come to the time in
my life and you know, on the podcast, you know, I want to
talk about love. I really do.
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I want to talk about love. You've heard me talk about self
love a lot, you know, and you hear me talking about love a
lot. And I always talk about self
love, you know, the relationshipwith myself, loving myself, you
know, having my own back. This is something that was so
foreign to me, but, you know, one of my greatest inspirations
was someone who I'd never met before.
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And first of all, that was me, you know?
And then it was the process of believing and hoping and
wishing, but not knowing. And that's the power of belief,
you know? It's like the wind, you know,
when it's really windy, you can hear the wind, you can feel it,
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but you can't see it, you know? And so along this journey, you
know, of my own life and going through so many relationships
and things not falling into place and they were never
supposed to. I understand now.
I didn't understand before. So remember, if you're going
through a storm right now and ifthings are not going your way,
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guess what? You're not supposed to be where
you want to be. You're exactly where you're
meant to be. They're not going your way
because they're not supposed to.Life is always teaching you
something. And I needed to learn through
the relationships, through the heartaches, through the
rejections, through the experiences that I went through
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with all of my previous relationships that I was meant
for more. I was meant for something
greater. And it really did take me
decisions like, hey, no more relationships.
And I would highly, I've always said this, you know, if you
don't heal from. Your past or from some sort of
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trauma or some sort of fee or something that's happened to you
in the past. And if you're in a unhealthy
relationship, and if you got outof that unhealthy relationship
and then you found yourself in another unhealthy relationship.
That's quite. Evident and clear that it's very
possible that, you know, you gotto do some work on yourself
because if you don't address what it is that's keeping you
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stuck and you don't realise why I keep attracting the same type
of people into my life, you know, it all comes back to you.
You know, it's what you allow will persist.
You get what you tolerate. You know, if you keep allowing
specific types of behaviours andpeople treating you a specific
way, you're basically teaching them that that's OK.
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So and that's why self love is so powerful.
It's it's it's powerful because you start to make better
decisions for yourself because you say you know what?
I don't deserve that. I, I deserve to be respected,
you know? How I treat myself is how I
teach other people to treat me right.
And then there's the fear of, well, if I start speaking up for
myself and I start doing what's right for me and I start loving
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me loudly and proudly, well, then I'm at the risk of people
leaving me and people judging me.
Good spirit of ballet, leave me.Guess what?
You can fuck off because I'm notgoing to leave myself, you know?
And see, that's where the confidence comes from for you to
be in your power and to say, youknow what?
You can leave me. You can reject me.
You can, you can judge me, but I'm not going to leave myself,
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you know? I'm not going to disrespect
myself and allow myself to be treated with disrespect, just to
bow down so that I fit in with fucking what you want.
And this is the biggest challenge for us.
You've heard me talk a lot about, you know, feeling
rejected, neglected, abandoned, not seen, not heard, not
understood, not given love when you were a child.
So now we crave that in our adult life.
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Really, we're just broken children in unhealthy
relationships craving attention and validation from someone out
there. And sometimes we get it and we
find ourselves in these shit relationships and then we don't
know how to get out because all we still craving is that
attention. Right.
But it's mixed with all this abuse and fucking shit, you
know? So that's why for me, you know,
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with the relationships that I went through, I got to this
point where I said, OK, no more relationships, no more, you
know? The other challenge most people
struggle with is the fear of being alone, hence why I always
again, I encourage practising self love and working on that.
That's what I coach all my clients to do is build a
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stronger loving relationship andknow that hey, when you learn to
love yourself, you'll start to enjoy your own company.
And this is not about staying away from people or the world is
bad, no, it's about you coming back to yourself and saying,
hey, you know what, I actually enjoy myself.
You know, I'm not in this state of neediness.
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You know, I need something otherwise I'm not enough, right?
It's building this connection and relationship with yourself
where you're like, Oh my gosh, Iactually enjoy my own company.
I'm not afraid to be alone. The amount of people that I've
heard that have this fear of being alone, it's like, wow,
you're actually telling yourselfthat you're afraid to be with
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yourself. There's that.
And then there is also the innate nature, nature of human
connection. Human connection is part of our
nature. We thrive, we are emotional
beings. We thrive of feeling connection.
I had to go through a journey of, of solitude first to realise
1 evening when I was living in Dubai in, in one of my
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apartments and I'm there and I'm, I'm, I'm getting anxiety,
I'm having panic attacks. I'm even doing coaching.
I'm, I'm working with my clientsand I had a sudden moment where
I was like, turn the air con on.I'm freaking having a panic
attack. What's going on?
And so I was my, my nervous system was not regulated.
I was not feeling connected to anyone because I was by myself
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and I knew that man. I've got to see my family.
I've got to travel to Poland. I've got to come see my sister.
And I knew at that time that there was something off.
And I was like, yeah, I'm just, it's been too long for me to be
alone, you know? So we.
Thrive off community, we thrive off connection.
But you have to find the balance, you know, and.
And I had the balance because I was basically, you know, leaving
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this solitude relationship with myself, building stronger self
love and connecting with myself,understanding myself,
discovering myself, getting out of my comfort zone, growing,
growing, growing, learning, growing, staying.
Positive, you know, but but whatwhat for initially, you know, at
2018 it was like, well, what for?
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Well, you know, if I, if I want that dream girl, if I want to
have a healthy relationship, man, I don't even have a healthy
relationship with myself. I don't even know who I am, you
know, So I knew that in order for me to attract the love of my
life, which in terms of a partner, I had to do something
different, you know, I had to evolve out of who.
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That Luke was to go. You know, I've got to spend time
with me, figure shit out. Who am I?
You know, I've got to evolve andI've got to become a better
version of myself. If you like, I say if you want
better, you know, if you want toattract better, you have to
become better. So that's what I did, you know,
and I'm just sharing with you from my own experiences that
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yeah, it, it was a journey, but it was necessary.
I. Had to go through the trenches.
I had to. I hit rock bottom.
I had to lose all my money. I had to start a business.
I had to travel. I had to live in China.
I had to invest in my personal development.
I had to invest in my speaking communication skills.
I had to work with extraordinarycoaches.
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I had to invest in myself. I had to evolve out of who that
Luke? Was to become this Luke.
Someone that I never knew existed.
And that's why I believe when Les Brown, he says you have
something special, you have greatness within you.
You don't even know who the fuckyou are, ladies and gentlemen.
You don't even know the greatness and the potential that
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you have if you don't give yourself a chance, you know, And
what's his name, that Warren Buffett.
I remember Warren Buffett, he said the biggest investment that
you can make in your life is in yourself.
And I kind of elaborated on that.
And I said the biggest and best investment that you can ever
make in yourself is in your life, is in your personal
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development and healing. Journey, you know.
We've all got some sort of insecurity fee trauma, some
block, some sort of like suppressed energy, some sort of
emotional block within ourselvesfrom some sort of traumatic
experience that we experienced as a child or whatever we all
do. It's just whether or not some of
us can admit it and actually want to face it and actually
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want to heal from it and actually want to become a little
bit more emotionally open, whichwill which will create more
peace and freedom in your life. But many of us just don't get
it, and that's completely OK, you know, so this is part of the
possibilities for yourself of maybe what it is that you
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haven't become yet. And by leaning into
understanding yourself a little bit more rather than being so
busy with everything that you'vebeen doing in your life thus
far, the possibilities of your healing of more peace, of more
gratitude and and more alignment, you know, alignment
with like your, your path, you know, because remember, there
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can be a destiny, You know, it'swritten in the stars, like who
you're becoming in your life, but at the same time, you know,
in, in order to get into alignment with your.
Path of. Where you're supposed to be
going in your life, you've got to be honest and truthful and
authentic. That requires vulnerability.
Vulnerability is where you open your heart to the truth.
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You know, speaking your truth, standing up for yourself,
standing up for what you believein becoming.
You know this openness not, not hiding nothing suppressed like
expressed. And that's probably one of the
hardest things for many people. Because a lot of us have, you
know, shame or we have experiences 10 years, 20 years,
30 years ago that we've been through that we went through
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that probably we don't want to talk about or maybe we're
holding onto it or we're just, it's just, you know, it's.
Shut up shop. You know it's in the past.
Don't go there. Who cares?
Let's just fucking focus on the on the future.
But really it's a very hurtful and it's, it's, it's something
that's stuck there for you. And everyone, even you has a
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conscience. Everyone has a conscience.
And if you understand what a conscience is, then you'll
understand that. If you fucked up in the past and
you understand conscience, then you know.
That there's a block there for you, you know?
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And then there's the sort of action of like, well, fuck, how
do I heal that? You know, how do I address it?
How do I do I make? Do I, do I forgive, do I create
connection with relationships that I have in my friendships or
my families or whatever so that I can talk about it?
Do I address it? Do I see a therapist?
Do I see a coach like? How do I get it out?
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You know? And that's why obviously talk
therapy is so powerful, you know, to connect with a coach
like I've learned being in the coaching space now, how powerful
it is to connect with someone who you feel has a similar story
or has similar experiences to you that's been through some
shit like you've been through. And you're able to converse with
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them because you actually feel safe to to express the truth
because you know. That they'll be able to have
your back from experience, not from a textbook right you
become. So much more relatable, you
know, in this whole therapy coaching space of, you know,
healing and and growing. It's the connection, not with
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someone. Who is for example, you can have
a great childhood, great great upbringing and go to university
and become a psychologist. Let's just give this an example.
You become a psychologist, right?
And then all of a sudden you've learned a lot.
You've got your degrees, everything like that.
But then now you've got a clientthat has childhood trauma and
has been sexually abused. So you're a psychologist, right?
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So you've studied it and you've,you know, you're so informed, so
well informed, but you've never experienced it in your life.
You've never been sexually abused.
You've never been physically abused.
You've never been financially abused.
You've never been through that kind of traumatic experience.
So because of your tertiary studies and because of the time
you've spent reading and, and doing research and all this kind
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of stuff, are you fully qualified to help this person to
heal? Or is someone who has been
through that and is now labelling themselves as a coach
that I help people who have beensexually abused to heal their
trauma, are they more qualified?You know, deep questions, you
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know, and I know that you will still get a lot from a
psychologist for sure, you know,studying and, and all that kind
of stuff. But but you, you see my point,
you know, and so I guess that's the power you have is making the
right choices for yourself of like, you know, if you feel like
you need to heal, you feel like you want to open yourself up,
you feel like you want to address some things, then you
have to make you can make betterchoices now with.
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Who it is that you decide to work with?
You know, because you can actually work with people who
have overcome things. Like Gabby Bernstein talks about
it a lot. And I'm pretty sure that she's
been through some sort of traumaof she's mentioned big T trauma.
And I'm not specifically sure ifit was sexual abuse, sexual,
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yeah. But she has mentioned it a few
times and she's crushing it and clearly exposing it and talking
about it. And, you know, she, she does an
amazing job, right? And that's why she's so
successful because, you know, it's been a life of addiction
and, and overcoming things because of some sort of
childhood experience that was really, really traumatic, you
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know, and now she helps millionsof people with her books and her
events. And, you know, this is the power
that we have. You know, this wasn't around 25
years ago, ladies and gentlemen,you know this is a new
technologically advanced age. This is why I love what I do
with my coaching institute. I help coaches.
I help people become online coaches, become a life coach, go
through a certification. I help them to create their own
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coaching programmes and start their own coaching.
Businesses. Why?
Because they're overcoming this shit.
They're putting a plan together and now they're helping other
people. And I've done it myself.
I've built it out myself for thelast eight years, so now I can
help. Other people do the same thing.
And such a blessing, you know, it's the biggest blessing to be
able to help people to start their own coaching businesses.
I didn't know I could do this. You know, I just, I was kind of
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stuck there. Not stuck, but I was just doing
and, and it was part of the process, you know, I had to
create my coaching programmes, work with my clients.
I still work with them, but now creating something where I can
actually help people start theirown businesses.
That's even amazing, more amazing, you know, because
that's what this world is comingto.
You're able to create a businessfrom you overcoming some sort of
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challenge you were struggling with all your life.
And there's other people that are waiting for you to show up
with your business and say, hey,I can help you.
You know, I've done it. I've been there.
Whatever it is, you know. So back to getting married and
getting married in two days. Yes, this Saturday and you know
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it has been a long time coming. I'm turning 41.
You know, for a long time I was definitely feeling left behind
and this is what I love about mylife guys.
So I hope this resonates with you if you.
If you feel. Like you're lost.
You feel like you're different. You feel like people are ahead
of you. You feel like life is going
faster for others and they're getting results faster and
you're falling behind. I used to always feel delayed.
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I didn't understand this, but I just did, you know, I would
watch all my friends be in relationships and become more
successful than me and. You know, even.
Facial hair like I was like, whyhaven't I got facial hair like
all my friends and everyone's got facial hair so I knew that
there was something different about me, you know, but again, I
didn't have the confidence to understand that it's fine Luke,
(33:48):
you don't have to be like everybody else, you know I.
Didn't understand that. So then what happened is I got
lost in trying to and be very influenced and comparing my life
to other people a lot and then also like being very not
sympathetic with myself but being like putting my own self.
(34:09):
Down because I'm just like, yeah, well, you know, I'm just
not going to make it or I'm not going to be successful.
Maybe I'm not supposed to be successful.
Maybe this is just how my life is or whatever, you know, And
then I would be just looking at everybody else winning.
You know, but now as I've continued to persevere, not give
up and go through this amazing journey, let me tell you who I
(34:29):
am. You know I'm the horse.
At the back, that's come and last.
I'm the horse. At the back of the field that's
come and last. And they're fucking racing and
they're racing and #7 is there number 10?
Is there number? I'm #22 I'm last, right?
And the horses are racing and they're going down the track and
they're going and they're going,they're fucking all going.
Oh yeah, 17/15/2021 They're all going down.
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And then #22 fucking bang comes from behind and fucking wins.
That's who I am. And I know you're watching right
now and you're #22 as well, maybe you're #23 and you're
fucking winning. Because before you were winning,
you were behind everyone else and it looked like you weren't
(35:14):
going to win. And maybe right now you still
feel like you're not going to win.
But if you're watching this right now, ladies and gentlemen,
I'm telling you you're a winner.I'm telling you, you got
greatness in you. I'm telling you that whatever
you're going through right now, it's building you.
It's teaching you. It's it's forcing you to learn
(35:34):
the lessons that you need to learn so you can get to where
you need to be because what's upahead for you is fucking
amazing. And so if it wasn't for my
experiences that I went through of being bullied and physically
abused and rejected and all of the name calling and all of my
own. Judgement of myself and not
(35:57):
loving myself for so many years and drug abuse and all that
shit. If it wasn't for that, you know,
I wouldn't have learnt a lot of lessons that I needed to learn.
Because eventually I got to a point where I said no more
relationships, let's have a relationship with myself and
find who I am. And then when I found who I was,
I then attracted the love of my life.
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And in two days I'm going to marry her.
That's fucking, that's the shit,you know.
So along this journey of my podcast and speaking with you
and being here with you, first Iwant to say thank you for having
my back. Thank you for being on this
journey with me. Because a lot of my podcasts
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have been inspired by the beliefthat one day I'll meet her.
And that one day happened last year in July when I just
received the message on Instagram and I was just like,
you know, who's this girl? Because I saw her.
And I was just like, OK, I'm done with these dating apps.
I'm done with messaging girls. I'm over it.
(37:01):
Like I'm not, I don't have time for these swipe, swipe, swipe,
swipe. I got to a point where I was
like, fuck, man, how many followers do I need to have to,
to, to attract the, the person that I want to be with?
And it was pissing me off. I was losing hope.
I was losing faith, to be honestwith you, you know, and I flew
from that was when I got to thatpoint where I was in Dubai and I
was just like, fuck, man, I'm lonely.
(37:21):
Like I'm feeling like, you know,I need connection and all these
like, I literally was getting like that.
And so I'm, I'm like, is it OK for me to go on dating apps?
Is it OK for me to like start swiping and shit?
And I did, I went on a few datesand I realised that, man, what
am I doing? This is not who, this is not me,
you know, like this is these people that I'm connecting with
are just not on my level. That's nothing near what I'm
(37:43):
supposed to be surrounding myself with, but I had to do it,
you know, to get it out of my system and just kind of like,
you know, OK, fine, I got the poll and boom, jumped on Tinder.
I'm freaking swiping and shit. And then I realised after a few
days I was like, fuck, man, you are wasting so much time just
sitting there, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe and, and
like trying to message and shit.And, and by the way, this is
(38:07):
personal. Of course, you know, I'm, I'm
just being very transparent because I'm not afraid to kind
of tell you the journey, you know, And so again, after I did
that a little bit, I stopped andI realised that I'm wasting so
much time and this is not what this is.
I just knew it. This is not where I'm going to
attract her. And I stopped, you know.
And so I follow a dude in Dubai,Thomas Carlo on Instagram.
(38:32):
And there was a post that he posted and Yulita commented on
that post. And then I saw her post and I
checked out her Instagram and her stories.
And then, you know, because I just came off this whole like,
Tinder app thing, you know, I was done.
And I was just like I'd said, I'm not connecting with anyone,
you know, I didn't want to message anyone.
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So I'm very, very grateful. Thank you, God, for, I guess,
planting the seed in her mind tomessage me.
And then, you know, I'll share with you so much more about a
relationship. And actually we've been
supposing to do a podcast episode.
And I think we will, funny enough, it'll be obviously when
(39:13):
we're married, which is beautiful because, yeah, it is a
story. It is a love story.
It is beautiful. And, you know, and that's why
I'm here to remind you that, youknow, if you've been through
some really heavy rain and some toxic relationships and some
really experiences in your life that maybe have dimmed your hope
(39:34):
or have, you know, caused you tolose faith in love, that there
is someone special out there foryou.
I'm here to remind you that, youknow, sometimes before you meet
that special someone, you need to meet the other special
someone, which is yourself. You know, before you meet them,
(39:54):
you need to meet yourself. And what I mean by that is not
just being naive about I'm not going to be in a relationship
anymore. I mean, do the fucking work.
I mean, like, don't just not have a relationship and just go,
I'm just going to be single. Screw everyone, right?
I mean, like actually invest in your personal development and
(40:16):
healing. Like do some fucking work on
yourself. Like heal whatever shit you got
going on that you've been through in your.
Life so that you can evolve as aperson.
Unless you want to stay the same, you know, because if you
want to attract something different, you have to become
different. You know, like my fiance, which
(40:40):
is going to be my wife in 2 days.
She's a very successful person, you know, She's very emotionally
intelligent. She's fucking switched on man.
She cheques the shit out of me, you know, like I can't get away
with shit because she's fucking on, man.
But guess what? I'm fucking on too, you know?
(41:01):
And I wouldn't have attracted her if I didn't become
successful, if I didn't evolve, if I didn't build what I've
built. There's no way, you know?
So she was also very picky. And fuck me, like, I'm the
worst. I'll be the worst, pickiest
fucking guy in my whole life. Me and Danilo, we talked about
this a lot. We're the pickiest guys you
(41:23):
know, and. Yeah, finally, I just had to go.
Fucking hell, man. It's about time.
So it's a blessing to be alive, ladies and gentlemen.
Yeah, I'm getting Luke Mindpower.
This is the last episode where Luke Mindpower is officially not
married. Because when you're listening to
this, I will be 5th of July. So thank you for your well
(41:46):
wishes, thank you for all the support, thank you for all the
love. I appreciate you guys so much.
If this episode inspired you, I hope that you'll share it with
your friends and family, inspiremore people to not give up on
their dreams, on themselves, on love because that special
someone is there. But it does require some work
(42:06):
from your part. You know, it's not just, of
course, you know, there can be stories out there that just
magically, you know, one day youbump into them and it does
happen. But in my own experience, that
was not the case. You know, it was a journey.
It was, you know, hey, you want something better, bro, go become
better, you know, go and go and get out of your comfort zone
and, and, and start doing shit you never done before so that
(42:28):
you can live a life. You, you, you want to live, you
know, be the creator. Don't live life by default.
Live life by design. And that's what I love about
life is that we get to create our future.
It's not already written. You're the one writing it every
single freaking day. Ladies and gentlemen, thank you
for being here with me. Thank you for joining me on this
(42:49):
podcast episode. Wherever you're tuning in from,
if you're on Facebook or Instagram or TikTok, thank you
for joining live. If you're watching on YouTube,
if you're watching on a replay, if you're watching on Rumble,
Amazon, Audible, iHeartRadio, Apple Podcast, Spotify,
wherever. You're tuning in from This is
Luke my power signing out for the last time because after you
(43:12):
listen to the next episode, I will be married and I can't wait
to create an amazing future withmy beautiful wife and you know,
and just create together. And she always says to me she's
like, I love building life with you.
And I'm just you know, I love ittoo.
You know, it's, it's such a blessing to have, you know, your
soul mate, someone that you click with, someone that you
(43:34):
love, that you appreciate so much and that also reciprocates
the same, you know, and she's done a lot of healing on herself
as well. And that's why we click so much
because so have I, you know, andit's such a conscious
relationship, which is just amazing, you know, and I'll tell
you one thing before we finish up, you know, if we do have a
disagreement or we have a momentwhere we're kind of like, I
(43:56):
wouldn't say arguing because, you know, it's not really a back
and forth. It's more of might be a
frustration or something like that.
The one thing I love about our relationship is that like, I
won't allow it to go longer than15 minutes, you know, like
you'll see me straight away, understand, get clarity on
what's going on, communicate andthen boom, I mean, you're in my
(44:19):
arms and I'm telling you I love you and I'm telling you I'm
sorry. And I'm telling you whatever
needs to be said so that we can heal this, so that we can
overcome this, so we can get through this and we say sorry to
each other and then we fucking back.
Boom. And we're stronger, you know, so
don't allow it to like fester orto like ignore each other and go
(44:40):
to bed angry and all this bullshit.
You know what I mean? I just, that's not the type of
relationship that I want to be in.
And you know, I'm not the guy that is like in my ego, like,
oh, you know, now fuck you. You need to come and say sorry
to me and shit, you know, we do it together, you know, and
that's why I love you leader so much because she she does that,
(45:02):
you know, and sometimes she catches me off guard and she's
like, hey, I'm sorry for this orI'm sorry for that.
And I'm like, what? I'm like, oh, I'm like, fuck,
you know. And and it just yeah, it's it's
such a blessing to be in such a healthy relationship.
But again, at all, it all startswith you.
You want to attract healthy, become healthy because like
attracts like. You can't be in a healthy
relationship but you're the toxic one.
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Or they're the toxic one, but you're the healthy one.
But then it's matching. It doesn't match.
Because you'll pick it up straight away and you'll go,
fuck, this is not right. I'm emotionally aware.
I've done a lot of, you know, healing on myself.
I'm confident in who I am. I know my worth.
You want to talk to me like that?
You're going to treat me like that.
It won't last long. You just flick them away, see
you later, you know, and you'll pick up the repetitive cycles of
(45:44):
like manipulation, you know? I'm so sorry.
And then the next week they do it again and then they say sorry
again. You know what I mean?
Like anyway, you get my drift. I love you guys.
I appreciate you all. Thank you for being here and I
will catch you guys on the freaking next episode.
Much love.
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