January 4, 2024 • 41 mins
As the weight of motherhood settled on my shoulders, I found myself navigating the complex waters of postpartum weight loss—a journey fraught with societal pressures and personal challenges. Alongside my husband, Tony, we peel back the layers of my experience, revealing the deeply personal struggles and achievements that punctuate the path to reclaiming my health and body after birth. Our candid conversation dismantles the unrealistic expectations of 'snapping back' and spotlights the need for patience, self-love, and the celebration of each small victory that comes with being a new parent.
Motherhood is an evolution, transforming more than just our bodies—it reshapes our identities, our routines, and our priorities. I open up about the nuances of staying healthy during pregnancy and beyond, sharing actionable tips like embracing a balanced diet, the benefits of prenatal workouts such as Birth Fit, and the critical nature of a personalized, gentle reintroduction to fitness post-birth. Tony brings his perspective into the fold, acknowledging the unique challenges we've faced, and together, we champion the mantra of health over aesthetics in a society that often tells us otherwise.
Concluding our heart-to-heart, we address the delicate juggle between sleep, self-care, and exercise in the life of a postpartum mom. We confront the reality of sleep deprivation and how sometimes, rest must take precedence over the gym. But it's not just about the physical—nutrition, intermittent fasting, and the complexities of diet are explored, particularly during breastfeeding. We're here to hold space for an honest and supportive dialogue that empowers mothers to navigate their own wellness journey with confidence and grace.
Your hosts: @lynnhazan_ and @tonydoesknow
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, welcome to the Lynn and Tony Know podcast.
I'm your host, lynn.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
And I'm Tony.
We are both wellness coachesand married with kids.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Join us as we talk about all things health,
wellness, relationships, lifehacks, parenting and everything
in between, unfiltered.
Thanks for listening and let'sget into it.
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Welcome back.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
It feels good to be back.
I'm like excited, yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Quite.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
What are we talking about today?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Today we're going to talk about your postpartum
weight loss journey.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Yes, and it's something that I get a lot of
questions and I wanted to takethe time today to kind of really
dive into the details.
Now, before I dive into thedetails, I want to say that
there's no rush in snapping back.
Like I really hate the snapbackculture, like I really hate the
pressure that women put onthemselves and also the societal
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pressures of us, like returningback to who we were before
having a baby, because thereality is you're never going to
be the same, because you wentthrough pregnancy, growing a
whole human being in your bodyand pushing him out of your body
and then caring for them untilthey're like 30 years old, you
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know.
So you don't really like, youdon't really snap back and I
like to think of it as snapping.
For, that being said, we're youknow there's nothing wrong with
wanting to be a baby You'rewanting to lose the baby weight,
to fitting into you know a nicepair of jeans, to feeling good
about yourself.
So really, the focus today ison feeling good, because I feel
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like, after you have a baby, alot of times moms will put their
needs aside and their wholefocus will become the family,
which is 100% normal.
But at the same time, you needto take care of yourself.
It's like the cliche of likeyou're putting the mask on your,
the mask on yourself, theoxygen mask on yourself, before
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doing it to others.
So I'm going to share, kind oflike, what I did and how.
I'm still not at where I wasbefore getting pregnant, nor
will I, nor do I think that Iever will be.
But I feel like I'm in reallygood shape, I feel really
healthy, I feel good aboutmyself and and I and I'm working
really hard to feel this wayand I'm working really hard to
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be at this place where I havethe energy and stamina to take
care of my family and also feela business and feel good.
But again, it takes, you know,it took a lot of sacrifice and
it's not not everybody is goingto be able to do it.
And like, if you're listeningto this, if you just had a baby,
give yourself time.
Like it takes time.
Like I'm 10 months postpartumand it literally took me more
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than nine months to sort of getback to my like kind of get to a
place where I'm happy with.
Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I do and may I say you look amazing.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And I got dressed today and my hair.
I did my hair Like I feel good,you know, like it's.
That's a big accomplishment forany person who's like kind of a
.
I'm a hybrid of a stay at homemom and a business owner yeah.
And so for me to be able toshower and do my hair and get
dressed on any given day is ahuge accomplishment.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Like yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
What I'm hearing a lot of what you're alluding to
is that you, you have a healthymarriage between the mental and
the physical aspects ofrecovering from childbirth, and
I've heard that all along overthe past 10 months.
There's this tug of war betweenyou feeling good about yourself
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but also feeling like you lookgood as well, which they go hand
in hand.
But there's obviously some playbetween the two where you have
to adjust your mental approachto it, your spiritual approach
to it, as well as your physical,and, of course, they you know
they're going to play off eachother.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
But 100% and it also comes with a lot of patients and
, of course, with meparticularly, like I was in the
best shape of my life beforegetting pregnant and I'm you
know, I'm 40 years old.
It's not like the easiest thing.
It took me a couple of years toget to that place, so I knew,
going into it, that it was goingto be a journey and then I
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would have to be patient withmyself and kind to myself and
that was like really I think themindset was was the biggest
thing for me.
And you know, when I waspregnant with Mia 11 years ago,
I was 10 years younger and ittook me a couple of years, but I
wasn't so like focused on thateither.
I was just like more focused onmy child, and that was okay and
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that was the time I was, I wasin, and it took me a couple of
years to kind of have a betterattitude when it came to diet
and exercise.
But that's for a whole otherpodcast.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Like your first pregnancy postpartum, you did
not have a laser focus on.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I did it and then I got postpartum depression.
So then I was in an even deeperhole and I also had an eating
disorder and like a bingedisorder and kind of a yo-yo
dieting and again that's like awhole other topic.
But I wasn't.
I didn't have a healthyrelationship with myself and
with my body and I wasn'tnecessarily focused so much on
the weight loss until like Iwent right back to work after
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three months and it took a while.
It was.
It was a whole differentstruggle.
Like I don't even I gotpostpartum depression and I'm
like I can't even, like I don'teven want to, like dive into
this, because it's a whole otherthing.
But yeah, it was a completelydifferent journey and this time
I, when we got pregnant, I waslaser focused.
I was like I'm going to have ahealthy pregnancy.
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I'm going to focus on eatingwhat I need to eat, and
sometimes that was a Domino'spizza, because that's all I
could stomach.
I'm going to continue movingbecause I wanted a healthy
pregnancy.
I didn't.
I was like I'm not going tofocus so much on the weight gain
Because I I'm small and fivefeet tall.
I need to.
You know you need to gainweight.
And right away when you getpregnant, you go to the doctor
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and the first thing theyliterally tell you is only gain
weight between 25, they give youlike a range and it's really
it's kind of tall.
It is a little toxic becauseit's like right away you got
pregnant and it's beautiful,beautiful thing happening.
And right away the doc, theOBJYN, is like make sure you
don't gain more than this amountof weight.
And it's like like oh, thanksfor ripping the rug underneath
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me, like I'm like happy in La LaLand that I even got pregnant.
And now I have to like worry.
And you know, and especially thefirst trimester, like everybody
has pregnancy experience iscompletely different.
But for me I was not capable ofeating healthy.
I was not capable of eatingvegetables and fruit.
I wanted bagels.
It's the only thing I couldstomach, and a lot of women in
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the first trimester it's astruggle and throughout your
whole pregnancy it's a struggle,because there's certain you
have certain food aversions andthe baby wants what it wants.
So it is a struggle to kind ofmaintain that balance.
But for me I was like I'm goingto focus on moving my body
because I want a healthypregnancy, because I am a little
bit older and I know thatmovement is really important.
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And I continued weight training, I continued drinking a lot of
water and I tried when I could,I tried to eat new,
nutritionally for the most part.
But when that cre Domino'sPizza Craving hit, oh yes.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Listen, I'm really looking forward to the day that
I get to make Noah a bakedAlaska and be like do you
remember this?
Do you remember wanting?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
this.
Can you tell the story you wantto tell us?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Yeah, yeah, this was great.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
What is a baked like?
No people don't know what abaked Alaska is.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
People were me when you brought it up.
So you started talking aboutthis dessert that you had had at
one point in your life.
I don't even know where you hadit.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
My mom made it.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Okay, your mom made it and I'd never heard of it and
it was called a baked Alaskadessert thing, which essentially
amounts to this cake layer,like a pound cake layer in a
bowl which goes on last.
So in the bowl you put icecream, you cram it into like the
cylinder, like a half circlebowl, and you mash in all the
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ice cream different kinds, Idon't remember what I chose and
then on top of that you put,like a baked, a cake layer like
an inch thick pound cakeintimates in the face, right in
the top of the bowl and thenOutside of that you create a
meringue layer that wouldessentially it's very intricate.
It's very intricate, yeah, whatit essentially insulates this
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cake that you then put into theoven to crisp up the meringue
layer, which also simultaneouslydoesn't really destroy the ice
cream.
It stays intact because it's sofrozen.
You put it in the freezer forlike a day to really make sure
it's hard as a rock, and Thenyou bake it for just long enough
to crisp up the meringue, likeyou would see on any lemon
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meringue cake.
And Ta-da, that's it.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
It's and and to that effect.
If he wanted to, he would.
Tony went out of his way tomake this for me like I had a
craving and you, like, you wentand got all the ingredients and
you went on YouTube and youlearned how to make it and you
made it for for me and it waslike the best thing ever and it
was like, yeah, like when you'repregnant, satisfy those
cravings, like, enjoy it, likeyeah.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
You know, so yeah, no , no, wanted that.
Obviously she's the oneinformed you that big.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
She's like I want to bake.
The last guy was needed alsoJust occurred to me.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I'm really good at recipes on the first try, and
Then it gets more difficult.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Thinking about yeah, I've tried them.
Like.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
I'll knock it out of the park the first time.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I'm scared to go back and do it again because I feel
like I think we might need abaked Alaska, maybe this weekend
.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Yeah, that might happen, so, okay, so first,
before Diving into like thepostpartum weight loss, like
it's obviously important duringpregnancy to and I'm not saying
to like keep your weight incheck, but to like Start your
healthy practices, like it justto feel, because you want to
feel good and pregnancy is avery is very tough on your back
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and on all your muscles andHaving some sort of weight
training program working withthe personal trainer.
There's also an online programcalled birth fit, which is all
for for women who want to getpregnant we are pregnant and
it's safe and it really teachesyou how to properly lift weights
and how to engage certainmuscles to help with your core
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and your pelvic floor and allthose things.
These are things that are likejust generally really important
for a healthy pregnancy.
So, during it doesn't start apostpartum, it starts before you
know and like again, I like thediet thing, like I don't really
love talking about the food.
It's just you try your best.
You guys know what to eat, likeyou know you need to eat fruits
and vegetables and to drink alot of water and a little bit
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less caffeine, and you know youneed a lot of protein in your
diet because you are supportinga growing human that's taking
all your resources.
So obviously you want good fatsand protein and stay away from,
you know, process foods.
And again it's like an 80 20%,like a 20% of the time you like
and gotta enjoy life and you gotto give in to those crate and
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especially when you're pregnant,like it's gonna.
Every pregnancy, again, isdifferent.
You might crave sweets, youmight crave craved salties,
salty foods, like again, it'slike that 80 20, like balance.
But like I just don't, don't beso hard on yourself because you
are growing a human being atthe end of the day.
Like I gained, it was in ainevitable.
I was working out and I waseating healthy and I gained like
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45 pounds.
It was inevitable, I had togain that weight and and no, was
born and she was only fivepounds.
Like my body needs to gain theweight, whereas, like, if a
woman is like a little bit, youknow, taller and she carries the
weight differently, she cangain like 25 pounds and that's
fine for her.
Like every, every journey iscompletely different.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
That was your body knows how much.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I need.
I needed to gain that amount ofweight, I needed to gain a
certain amount of fat in orderto support a growing baby and
support my body and all thatstuff.
And like that is just somethingthat I had to like repeat to
myself like this this is myjourney.
Like don't compare yours.
It's easy to compare yourselfto like, especially with social
media.
Like you see these women, theylike these, they snap back and
they're just like wearing abikini.
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Like a month later, like youknow, like what the fuck?
Like it's crazy and it's not,but that's not really the
reality of from for most people.
You know, for most normal women, it's a little bit more than
that.
And then you know you have thebaby and the first Like throw
out the window, like losing anyway the first six months because
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you're not sleeping.
You know what I mean.
Like you're not sleeping,you're not functioning at a high
level, you know if you're ableto work out, great, but you're
still like taking care of,you're keeping another human
being alive, while everythingelse, like you have Everything
else going on in the world andmost of us don't have that
village and don't have likesupport.
So, like the first six months,like you know, focus on.
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You know focus on you're movingyour body and doing what you
can and, again, eatingnutritionally, but like, focus
more on that, on feeling goodand on recovering.
And of course, you can't workout for the first six weeks.
So the first six weeks, thefirst couple of weeks, I stayed
in bed mostly and then I wantedto start.
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I felt, you know, I had anatural birth so I was able to
go out and start walking and wewent for like family walks and
walks and we got sunlight andthat's how I started my movement
.
And then I started doing likesome basic Pelvic floor workouts
to strengthen, because you haveto rehab, like your body just
went through something traumatic, you have to rehabilitate it
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and you have to go easy and youcan't just go into, like what
you know, the workouts that youwere doing like before you're
pregnant and you know, once youget the green light from the
doctor, that's when you canstart working out.
I worked out with a personaltrainer, ashley LaVec, who I've
been working out with since thepandemic and we do virtual
workouts and the way I startedwith her was just With like a
few weight you know weights andwe worked out from home and from
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there I built out, built outmore, I bought more equipment
and bands and a bar and thingslike that and I work, for I work
out from home, don't?
I don't go to a fancy gym.
I like I had some mornings Iwake up and I'm like in my
pajamas, still in my pajamas,and I get my workout in.
I don't have to like travelanywhere.
So it doesn't.
I don't spend that much time,you know, and I have a, and
really at the core of everything, of all of this, of why I was
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able to like get to where I am,is because I have the support,
because I have a husband thatsupports me and is with Noah and
Gives me that space and timefor me to be able to work out
and take care of myself.
So that's number one is havinga supportive partner, like you
know.
That's a hundred percent numberone.
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So, yeah, so I started training, training three times a week
virtually in my home gym andAlso walking every day, walking
with no walking with the baby,walking.
We do family walks, we, I walkthe dogs, getting like going
outdoors.
So if you don't know where tostart, start by walking.
Walking is like the best andHealthiest thing that you could
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do for yourself.
You're outside, you're gettingthat vitamin D.
You know you're in nature.
It's very therapeutic.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
It's just good for you overall, for your cortisol
levels, for just everythingWalking, and it's free, I it's
free free 99 free 99 the otherthing that I'm hearing in and
your, your plan for all this wasYou're keeping it as simple as
possible, like the least amountof barriers.
Right to entry as possible.
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Work out at home virtualclasses right, just a couple
weights.
You don't need an elaboratesetup.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
And if you don't, obviously if you can't afford a
personal trainer, youtube isyour best friend, like there's.
I use YouTube sometimes, likewhen it doesn't work out with my
trainer, I want to work outanother day.
Like I go on YouTube and Isearch, like you know, like a
way you know lower body orintervals.
Or like you don't even needweights, you don't even need
dumbbells, like you can do allbody weight like some sort of
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weight-bearing.
Like strength training is yourfriend, especially if you're a
woman and you are postpartum.
Like it Balances your hormones.
It builds muscle.
Like as we age, we loot, westart losing from our muscle
mass and our metabolism slowsdown.
So if you want to increase yourmetabolism, you, if you want to
like Balance your hormones, ifyou want to look hot as fuck in
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a bathing suit, like, startlifting weights.
Like there's this misconceptionthat lifting weights makes you
bulky.
That's the biggest lie.
You need to eat thousands andthousands of calories over what
you eat in order to become bulky.
Like it does I lift like superheavy.
I'm not bulky, I have some likenice muscles.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Yes, but they're covered up.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, but strength training is like the best thing
you can do, for if you're awoman and you want to like Get
you know, get healthy and getstrong, I don't be scared of
like lifting heavy things andputting them down.
Like every longevity doctortalks about strength training
like Like it's even moreimportant than cardio, in my
opinion, because you need thatmuscle.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
And there's an element of cardio to win.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Yeah, like you get the bang for your buck and like
again, you don't need actualweights, you could do push-ups
and squats and Weight-bearingexercises, you could get bands
and that all that stuff isreally beneficial in the long
term and you can do all that forfree on YouTube.
So definitely strength training, if there.
If there's one thing thatyou're gonna do is start Doing
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some sort of strength trainingthree times a week could be 30
minutes, doesn't mean I don'teven do a whole hour.
I do 45 minutes tops and then Istretch and and walk, go take,
put the baby in the stroller orin the Carrier.
That's a weight-bearing.
You know you could.
You could do squats while thebaby's in your carrier, in the
carrier, and lunges and go for awalk, go outside.
You know I tried.
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I try to get a bit a minimum of5k steps a day.
It's just like I try to keep agoal and I get that throughout
the day.
So like I start, I walk thedogs in the morning and then
I'll go take no out for an ifit's beautiful outside, I'll
take no out for another walk inthe afternoon.
So I try to get a minimum of 5ksteps per day so that I know
that I'm generally active, youknow, taking the stairs, things
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like that.
It's about just beingconstantly active is getting up,
standing up, not being justSitting all day, right, so that
so now that was number one wasstrength training, number two
was walking.
And you know, sometimes when Ihave another time, I like to go
take a class like a Fitnessclass, because it's you're in a
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group environment and it'smotivating and it allows you to
kind of switch things up.
So Tony and I occasionally willlike, once every two weeks,
once a week We'll go to f45,which is like a high intensity,
like functional training, andit's 45 minutes and it goes by
so fast.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
It's.
It's great.
It's especially great to kindof just for a mix-up, and Not
only that, most of the exercisesthat you can do in that class
you can replicate at home.
So it kind of gives you some.
It gives you some good ideas toto mix up your, your At-home
exercises.
Obviously there's machines andstuff there that are involved
that you can't.
It's always different.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
It's fun, the music is like high intensity and like
you're done in 45 minutes.
It's like really quick andthere's at 45 is like all over
the country you know.
So if you want to like changeit up and have fun and get out
of the house, sometimes I'll dolike a Pilates class, like if I
I did a lot of Pilates forpostpartum to strengthen like my
core muscle, because you kindof lose like your brain, to like
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you know muscle feeling afteryou have a baby like it doesn't
like, and it's really Pilates, agreat way to connect with your
pelvic floor and to kind ofreconnect with that area.
And it's very challenging andit's weight-bearing too and it's
it's pull it up.
Pilates is really reallyfucking hard.
I Shout out to elevated Pilatesand Hoboken.
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They're really great, they knowwhat they're doing when it
comes to like postpartum.
Next thing is what I also did,what it's important to also look
underneath the engine, right,if things aren't working, if
you're feeling sluggish yeah,you could be just tired because
your baby is waking up everycouple of hours, but if it's
like you're feeling, you're notfeeling well, then it's really
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important to check your hormones.
They do your home hormonetesting and we had Dr Mark from
peak by MD.
We had him last season to talkabout I we talked about like
ozempic and all these otherthings, but he also does hormone
testing and that was reallyhelpful.
I I checked my hormones and wemade some tweaks to like my
supplements and my diet and Iwas able to kind of have a
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general idea of what's going onin my body.
So definitely doing your inchecking your hormones,
especially six months aftergiving birth, to see where you
are, if you Make my, if yourthyroid could be a little bit
slow, like that's a reason whyyou're not losing weight, you
know could be your hormoneimbalances.
Some women are like doingeverything, they're eating right
, they're exercising, butthey're still not losing the way
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and one of the reasons could behormone imbalance, right, and
another reason could be lack ofsleep.
Again, like I said, the firstcouple of months, if you're not
sleeping, had like your body isnot working optimally, like
sleep is for Healing, it's forhealing, it's for rest, it's for
, you know, recovering yourmuscles.
And if you're waking up everytwo hours, you're, you're in
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fight or flight, you're not like, you're not, your body's not
burning fuel and also you'rehungrier, or then you compensate
with drinking more coffee.
So then you're like yourcortisol are like like a fucking
roller coaster, so like they'regonna hold on to every calorie.
So you know, prioritizing Iknow I could say like prioritize
sleep, but I've been there, Iwas like I tried to prioritize
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sleep, but it's really hard whenyour babies Waking up every
couple of hours.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
So that sort of goes back to if you aren't able to
get the sleep that you wouldneed to be Optimal and to lose
the weight that you want, atleast at the very least just
recognize oh, I'm not gettingenough sleep, let me give myself
a little bit of a break here.
That's where you can bring inthe right a little more grace
and allow yourself that room tobe okay With where you are,
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because there's nothing like,sometimes, postpartum.
There's just literally nothingyou can do about.
You're just not gonna getenough sleep and you're gonna
have to be okay.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
An unpopular opinion.
This is an unpopular opinion.
If you're going to choosebetween sleep and a workout,
choose sleep.
Absolutely choose sleep.
If you have the opportunity tosleep in it's either.
I sleep because you know thisis it.
If you're postpartum if you'repostpartum and you have the
opportunity to either get anextra hour of sleep or Workout,
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choose sleep.
Yeah, that is so much moreimportant than then.
Of course, the working out isimportant, but that's when
you're getting enough sleep.
You know what I mean.
Like right now, when you'repostpartum and you're in the
thick of it and your baby'swaking ever every couple hours
Is not the time to be like, yeah, I'm gonna go to the gym.
You know what I mean?
No, like like the gym is greatand it gives you energy, but but
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the sleep is way more importantand, again, unpopular opinion
like nobody, I don't, I don'tthink I've ever heard anybody
Tell you to skip the gym forsleep.
But in this case, like, themore sleep you can get if you
can get an app or if you canrest on the couch, get that
extra.
Like, just get it in and get itin.
Like, get that sleep in untilthe baby starts.
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You know, sleeping through thenight.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Yeah, and if you're just being a lazy schmuck, go to
the gym.
Yeah, go to the gymprioritizing protein with every
meal.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Again, I feel like especially women were like
scared of eating.
You know we have this like ideaof like protein.
You know like protein shakesand like and like raw eggs and
like just gulping that shit down.
I get it, I understand that,but protein is the building
blocks of your life.
It is.
It makes you less hungry, likewhen you incorporate protein
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with every meal.
You I try between like 20 and25 grams of protein with every
meal I'm fuller for longer.
You know carbs I'm not sayingcarbs are the devil, but like
have a protein with it so itkeeps your blood sugar
stabilized.
Again, you're not, especiallyif you're not sleeping.
You want to have like make makesure you eat nutritious,
because when we were tired wetend to reach for, you know, the
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high sugar foods and thenyou're just like in that
constant roller coaster.
So keeping your blood sugarlevels like optimal is really
important.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
So get that protein in not all protein comes with a
tap out t-shirt.
You can yeah, you can eatprotein and still be a woman.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah yeah, eggs and beef, andespecially if you're a breast,
if you're breastfeeding andyou're nursing, you got to
account for those calories.
Like and I didn't even addressthe breastfeeding part that's a
whole other element of energy.
Like the fact that I worked outwhile also breastfeeding blows
my mind not for everybody.
Again, like this journey is isdifferent for everybody, and
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Like when you're taking care ofa new, a baby, and also
breastfeeding and also have, youknow, other kids and a job and
all these things like, like youcan see how exercise could be
like the last on the list.
But it doesn't need to be anhour long, like, like I said,
like try to get.
Like if you just focus on everyday getting some sort of
movement, even if it's just awalk or even it's just like a 10
(25:02):
minute stretch before bed, likedo it, like Anything counts,
like it's just about beingconsistent and showing up for
yourself.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
I think that's a huge piece of the puzzle for a lot
of people, because we built itup to be such a Huge undertaking
where we have to dedicate anhour every single day to this
thing and who has the time?
But you can get.
You can get pretty significantresults with 15, 20 minutes a
day, especially if you'restarting from zero.
You didn't start from zerobecause you had that sort of
(25:31):
discipline built in throughoutthe pregnancy, well before the
pregnancy.
Yeah but if you are startingfrom a place of I don't really
have a regular workout routine,start with 15 minutes a day on
YouTube and build from there.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Just keep it as simple as possible so that you
can make it manageable right andbut, but it's a non-negotiable
every single day and it, like Isaid, 15 minutes a YouTube video
, or Go for a walk, or go for aquick jog, or even stretch, or
take a.
Take a class there's, there's alot of classes around in the
New Jersey, like everywhere,then every city.
(26:04):
There's, there are mommy and meclasses that you can take, and
there there are gyms with, withchild support.
There's, you know, in like thesuburbs, I think, but like there
is a way of like getting thatin and if you focus, like every
day, I'm gonna, you know, get 20minutes in and like, put your
baby in the carrier, go for likefor a walk.
If it's raining, go to the mall, put the baby in the carrier,
(26:26):
walk around the mall, spend alittle money, buy a little
Starby's, whatever, just like,do something for yourself every
single day and it's good, likeif you're pouring into your own
cup, like you're just gonna be abetter mom.
And I know that when I'mworking out, I'm feeling so good
.
I feel so good and I was sharingthis like the other day, like I
went to a hot yoga class andit's the last thing I wanted to
(26:47):
do that morning.
I just wanted to say.
It was raining outside.
It was been raining for acouple of days in New Jersey.
It was depressing.
The last thing I wanted to dowas get in my car and go to a
hot yoga class hot yoga class.
But I did it and right after Ifelt so good.
I felt like just good and likejust like that, that.
You know that that hum of likecalmness, of like I just
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accomplished a workout.
I moved my body, I moved someenergy out of my body, like it
felt really, really good andit's like Focus on how you're
gonna feel after.
Because, like, the getting tois the hardest part, right Is
the going to the gym, it's thestarting, the workout.
But once you're doing it, likeyou feel good and like you never
regret a workout, like you justnever do.
(27:28):
And it's it's the core of allof this.
Like, yeah, we all want to likelose a couple of pounds and
lose the baby weight, but at theend of the day, we want to feel
good.
And that's really the point ofthis episode.
Is is about encouragingpostpartum you know moms to do
what they can to feel goodbecause, like, if you feel good,
that you can be a better, youcan show up better for your kids
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, right, like, and I feel like Ifeel like a better mom when I,
when I take the time for myselfand also like my, my daughters
are gonna See me working out andtaking time for myself and
they're they're gonna learn fromthat.
They're gonna see that mommyputs her needs first you know
what I mean.
They're gonna see that mommyworks out and takes care of her
health and, like I know thatthat's gonna they're gonna have
a Ripple effect on our familyand it's an important aspect of
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our lives, right?
So it's not just about Losingthe weight, although that is
nice, but, like I said, you knowI'm, I'm, I know I'm never
gonna go back.
My body's completely changed.
My hips are wider, you know,like there's just certain
clothes that just don't fit me.
The same, and and it's fine, andI've kind of like accepted it,
and Tony and I went shoppingthis weekend and I got some cute
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things that I I can feel better, you know, in my body and and,
and that's that's also anotheraspect.
It's kind of like moving forwardis not trying to go back to who
we were before, but movingforward and what that looks like
, and, and I know for postpartumit's like a weird you're kind
of in this weird place of who amI like?
Who am I?
Who like?
(28:58):
Am I my mom and my wife and myLynn and my business owner like
who am I now?
Like that, like I went throughit's like two years, takes two
years of your life, right, likeyou're pregnant, and then post
postpartum is a year plus.
It's not just immediate, it'snot just a couple months.
Like I'm still consideredpostpartum.
I'm still figuring myself outand figuring out like my style
(29:19):
and like what to wear and likewhat feels good and my routines
that feel good to me and thatsort of thing.
So it's like kind of like awhole journey, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Yeah, it's a redefining of of who you are and
who you want to be.
It's like you are all of thosethings, but you're also none of
those things and none of them.
None of those identities fitquite the same as they did
before, just like yeah, theclothes.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Yeah, it took it like it's kind of crazy, though,
like it, it took me a minute.
It took me a minute to kind ofhave a good grasp as to, like
what all that means for me.
Because, yeah, this experiencehas been different than my first
, like in my first pregnancy Iwas in another head, completely
different headspace, and now I'min a healthier headspace.
So I'm a lot more aware of,like the things that I'm feeling
(30:05):
and going through and I finallyfeel like I'm 10 months
Postpartum and only now am Istarting to feel like I have a
sense of of me, of who I am andwhat, what I want and my purpose
and what like what my nextsteps are.
And because I in the past yearI was focused on Raising my kids
and I always will be that.
That will always be.
(30:26):
You know that's okay.
Like Me, me being mom is okay.
It's like in Barbie, what she'slike.
Can we just be mom like, andthat just be enough.
You know what I mean like, andto me that's that's enough and
whatever else that I have goingon is just a plus.
Yeah, but I am blend, the momand I'm I couldn't be happier
and the wife, but you know whatI mean.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
I know what you mean.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
Next thing I want to talk about that I didn't water
hydration.
Drinking a lot of water,especially if you're
breastfeeding.
Replenishing those mineral alsoreplenishing minerals and,
unfortunately, staying away fromalcohol.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Is what it is.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
It is what it is.
Like there's no, like I knowthat's like people like joke and
I joked about it last week likemommy juice, like let's drink
wine and like sometimes our onlyway to cope with like the
stresses of Of life and andbeing a parent is to escape by
using alcohol.
But that's especially if you'reon a postpartum journey to like
getting back to yourself.
That can absolutely hinder yourgrenade.
(31:28):
Well, it's not great and I'm I'malso kind of figuring my, my
figuring out my relationshipwith drinking and and had a
balance that.
But yeah, I drink a lot ofwater.
Stay away from alcohol if youmust, you know, have a little
bit of wine, but like hardliquor is just not not good for,
for for your hormones and foryou know, you have certain goals
(31:50):
, right.
Intermittent fasting that isalso a.
I don't I think we need tobring in experts for
intermittent fasting, but thatis personally something that I
like to do, a because right whenI wake up, I'm not hungry and I
don't feel like eatingnecessarily.
I just Rather like have a nice,a nice big lunch, like that's
(32:15):
just full of fruits andvegetables and eggs and and all
the things, and and I have liketwo, three, two meal, two big
meals and like a snack inbetween, and that, like to me,
is enough.
That being said, it's importantto not do intermittent fast.
So what is?
I should give detail.
Yeah, what is intermittent fastso intermittent fasting is just
like a fancy way of saying thatyou skip breakfast, basically.
Speaker 2 (32:40):
Right, so it's a.
It's basically you.
You are intentionally shortingyour, shortening your feeding
window throughout the day.
Yes, so there's, you knowwhatever interval that looks
like.
There's 18, 6, 16, 8, likewhatever adds up to 24,
essentially because there's 24hours in the day.
You're just shortening thewindow that you are allowing
yourself to consume calories.
(33:02):
Now there's a couple piecesthat make it more effective, and
the first one is lengtheningthe time between your last meal
and when you go to sleep.
Like that one is Huge, becauseyou don't want to spend your
overnight Digesting food,because that consumes energy, it
contributes to bad sleep, itdehydrates you throughout the
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night and it's just a bad.
It's a bad way to go is to eatlike.
I think general rule of thumbis like try to eat three hours
before you're going to go to bed, yeah, and then when you wake
up in the morning, obviously, ifyou can stretch that time
window.
Speaker 1 (33:37):
I was 16, out like generally 16 minimum 12 hours,
yeah, and then up to like 16hours, yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
My hardest core was like 18 6 was about where I was.
I would have like a six hournoon to six, was about your man,
though it's different, yeah,100% different, if you're
breastfeeding.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
Do not do this, absolutely fucking not.
Like when I was breastfeeding Iwas eating breakfast every
morning I was eating oatmeal,like I was eating every three at
two to three hours.
You need to eat, you need toconsume food.
Like don't even think aboutintermittent fasting when you're
breastfeeding.
No, no, no, unless you want toscrew up your milk supply and
then your baby is not going tobe happy with you.
(34:14):
But I only started intermittentfasting a little bit after I
stopped breastfeeding and I onlydid it like a few times a week
just to Kind of give my gut alittle bit of a break, and that
personally works well for me andI've done it before.
It's not for everybody.
It could mess up your home.
This is for women.
For men thrive on this but forwomen specifically, there are
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certain times during our cycle,or hormonal cycle, that you
should not be Intermittentfasting, like during the luteal
phase, which is a week leadingup to your period, where I'm a
fucking hot mess.
You need to up your calories,you need to eat more You're.
You're actually burning morecalories during that week.
That is why we crave, you know,sweets and we're kind of like
(34:57):
Moody and poopy-doopy.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
I've never noticed.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
Are you're being sarcastic right, the that week
you should not be intermittentfasting.
Enjoy a nice breakfast, butotherwise it's a.
For me personally it's.
It's definitely helped me.
You know, tighten things up.
I usually break my fast at likea lot, like it's not even that
long.
Like I eat, I usually eat likean early lunch, brunch at 11,
(35:23):
and like my go-to Meal is, youknow, two eggs, chicken sausage,
so there's like it's very highin protein.
I'll put spinach.
You know leafy greens are superhealthy for you and then I'll
have, you know, blueberry.
You know some blueberries.
Blueberries are also very goodfor you and he can't in the
berry fan like anti-cancerousand it's just really good for
(35:46):
you and it's an antioxidant.
Like you know, I get organ likeI make you wash them organic.
All that stuff I'll have, youknow, sourdough bread and
avocado.
So I have a little bit ofeverything.
I have my fruits, my vegetable,my fat, my carb and like it
keeps me full, usually till,like right now, which is 230,
and then I'll have a snack assome sort of snack, you know,
(36:09):
like a nuts or fruit or justsomething to like keep me.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Promix protein bar.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Yeah, promix, I love promix.
It's really good protein brandthat we love.
I'll have a promix protein baror whatever and that'll keep me
going and we'll have an usuallyan early dinner and it's also
the you know a dinner will alsocould be Consists of a protein
in the carb and a vegetable andand we'll have a treat after,
(36:35):
like some, some dessert have tohave a treat.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
Even if it's simple.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
Yeah, and so a lot of people ask me like, how do I
maintain my weight?
But also, like, get to eat thefoods that you know, because we
do eat, go out to eat and theysee that I post on social media
like, oh, how do you, how do youeat all this stuff?
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Like, well, yes 80, 20, 80, 20, because you know
when we post about going out toeat, like it might happen.
Maybe it happens once a week,but when you see it it feels
like in the course of like amonth, it feels like we're
always going out to eat.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
And what I understand is that it only feels like that
it's only a couple of times amonth that we go out to eat and
so, like you're saying, the 80,20 rule really does apply to us,
like 20% of the time we'regoing to eat, kind of whatever.
Whatever feels good, because80% of the time we're on point.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
And when we are eating out and ordering, like I,
you generally order whatever myheart desires, because I don't
believe in depriving and I feellike, especially if you deprive
yourself, if you really wantthat thing and you don't order
that thing, you're going to tryto compensate but it's never
going to satisfy you.
So, like there is a nice, likefine balance and that's mindful
eating and it's just like how toeat mindfully, right, and it's
(37:50):
really just learning how to, youknow, eat when you're hungry
and stopping when you're full,which is in the society that we
live in in America, in theUnited States, it's like we
don't know those boundaries oflike, oh, I'm full, we go past
fullness.
So there's like a concept ofeating until you're 80% full and
kind of like it's somethingthat I a skill that I had to
(38:11):
learn, because I did have like abinge eating disorder where I
would just eat to a point whereI'd want to like, yeah, I'd be
sick, so I had to relearn oflike what my hunger cues are and
like really being in touch withmyself and also that comes with
like you know, learning how tomeditate and just being, you
know, being calm before enteringa meal and and that sort of
(38:36):
thing and this is like a wholeseparate.
I feel like we're going to eata whole episode for like mindful
eating intuitive eating and allthat stuff and what that that
means.
So when we do eat out, like Iorder whatever I want and I just
and I eat and I stop when I'mfull, like I generally like okay
, that was delicious, like Ican't eat anymore.
Like I'm 80% full, like I Irarely ever eat to a point where
(38:57):
I'm like completely stuffed.
Speaker 2 (38:59):
We're so great for me because then I go, because then
Tony eats the rest of it, andthen I move on.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
There's no guilt.
There's no like guilt is likethe moment my brain's like oh,
maybe you should have eaten thatLike that's.
You know, my, my, my higherself is like shut the fuck up,
that was delicious, do you, sis?
You only live once.
You know like there's literallya constant war between these
two voices.
So, yeah, that's really enjoylife, and I think that's it for
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me, did I?
Oh, cold plunging.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
We talked about that last week.
There were.
There were literally like fourspots where I felt we could
interject with them, but I waslike like I don't want to be
annoying about cold plunging,Like we talk about it all the
time.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
I wore that people, but it definitely has helped my
increase my metabolism.
Like I'm hungrier, I've youknow it works.
Yeah, it's definitely working.
For sure it activates brown fat.
Can we like?
Should we go into that or no?
Speaker 2 (39:58):
we're going to have a cold, we're going to do if the
people aren't absolutely sickand tired of hearing a hearing
about it.
We are going to do a coldplunge episode with an expert so
we can get into some of thenuts and bolts.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
We should do the.
We should interview the expertin the cold plunge with mics.
Wouldn't that be hilarious?
Speaker 2 (40:23):
That would be sick, that would be iconic.
I might have to fake thetemperature so that we're not
sitting in 40 degree water forfor a half an hour, but that
would be.
We'll see if we can do it.
Look forward to that.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Well, thank you for listening episode two.
Make sure you like and followus on social media.
Feel free to DM us yourquestions, yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
Have a good day.
Thank you for listening.
Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye,bye.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye,
bye, bye, bye, bye, bye you.
Hey, welcome to the Lynn and Tony Know podcast.
I'm your host, lynn.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
And I'm Tony.
We are both wellness coachesand married with kids.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Join us as we talk about all things health,
wellness, relationships, lifehacks, parenting and everything
in between, unfiltered.
Thanks for listening and let'sget into it.
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Welcome back.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
It feels good to be back.
I'm like excited, yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Quite.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
What are we talking about today?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Today we're going to talk about your postpartum
weight loss journey.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Yes, and it's something that I get a lot of
questions and I wanted to takethe time today to kind of really
dive into the details.
Now, before I dive into thedetails, I want to say that
there's no rush in snapping back.
Like I really hate the snapbackculture, like I really hate the
pressure that women put onthemselves and also the societal
(00:53):
pressures of us, like returningback to who we were before
having a baby, because thereality is you're never going to
be the same, because you wentthrough pregnancy, growing a
whole human being in your bodyand pushing him out of your body
and then caring for them untilthey're like 30 years old, you
(01:14):
know.
So you don't really like, youdon't really snap back and I
like to think of it as snapping.
For, that being said, we're youknow there's nothing wrong with
wanting to be a baby You'rewanting to lose the baby weight,
to fitting into you know a nicepair of jeans, to feeling good
about yourself.
So really, the focus today ison feeling good, because I feel
(01:34):
like, after you have a baby, alot of times moms will put their
needs aside and their wholefocus will become the family,
which is 100% normal.
But at the same time, you needto take care of yourself.
It's like the cliche of likeyou're putting the mask on your,
the mask on yourself, theoxygen mask on yourself, before
(01:58):
doing it to others.
So I'm going to share, kind oflike, what I did and how.
I'm still not at where I wasbefore getting pregnant, nor
will I, nor do I think that Iever will be.
But I feel like I'm in reallygood shape, I feel really
healthy, I feel good aboutmyself and and I and I'm working
really hard to feel this wayand I'm working really hard to
(02:21):
be at this place where I havethe energy and stamina to take
care of my family and also feela business and feel good.
But again, it takes, you know,it took a lot of sacrifice and
it's not not everybody is goingto be able to do it.
And like, if you're listeningto this, if you just had a baby,
give yourself time.
Like it takes time.
Like I'm 10 months postpartumand it literally took me more
(02:45):
than nine months to sort of getback to my like kind of get to a
place where I'm happy with.
Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I do and may I say you look amazing.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And I got dressed today and my hair.
I did my hair Like I feel good,you know, like it's.
That's a big accomplishment forany person who's like kind of a
.
I'm a hybrid of a stay at homemom and a business owner yeah.
And so for me to be able toshower and do my hair and get
dressed on any given day is ahuge accomplishment.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Like yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
What I'm hearing a lot of what you're alluding to
is that you, you have a healthymarriage between the mental and
the physical aspects ofrecovering from childbirth, and
I've heard that all along overthe past 10 months.
There's this tug of war betweenyou feeling good about yourself
(03:40):
but also feeling like you lookgood as well, which they go hand
in hand.
But there's obviously some playbetween the two where you have
to adjust your mental approachto it, your spiritual approach
to it, as well as your physical,and, of course, they you know
they're going to play off eachother.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
But 100% and it also comes with a lot of patients and
, of course, with meparticularly, like I was in the
best shape of my life beforegetting pregnant and I'm you
know, I'm 40 years old.
It's not like the easiest thing.
It took me a couple of years toget to that place, so I knew,
going into it, that it was goingto be a journey and then I
(04:19):
would have to be patient withmyself and kind to myself and
that was like really I think themindset was was the biggest
thing for me.
And you know, when I waspregnant with Mia 11 years ago,
I was 10 years younger and ittook me a couple of years, but I
wasn't so like focused on thateither.
I was just like more focused onmy child, and that was okay and
(04:41):
that was the time I was, I wasin, and it took me a couple of
years to kind of have a betterattitude when it came to diet
and exercise.
But that's for a whole otherpodcast.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Like your first pregnancy postpartum, you did
not have a laser focus on.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I did it and then I got postpartum depression.
So then I was in an even deeperhole and I also had an eating
disorder and like a bingedisorder and kind of a yo-yo
dieting and again that's like awhole other topic.
But I wasn't.
I didn't have a healthyrelationship with myself and
with my body and I wasn'tnecessarily focused so much on
the weight loss until like Iwent right back to work after
(05:16):
three months and it took a while.
It was.
It was a whole differentstruggle.
Like I don't even I gotpostpartum depression and I'm
like I can't even, like I don'teven want to, like dive into
this, because it's a whole otherthing.
But yeah, it was a completelydifferent journey and this time
I, when we got pregnant, I waslaser focused.
I was like I'm going to have ahealthy pregnancy.
(05:36):
I'm going to focus on eatingwhat I need to eat, and
sometimes that was a Domino'spizza, because that's all I
could stomach.
I'm going to continue movingbecause I wanted a healthy
pregnancy.
I didn't.
I was like I'm not going tofocus so much on the weight gain
Because I I'm small and fivefeet tall.
I need to.
You know you need to gainweight.
And right away when you getpregnant, you go to the doctor
(05:57):
and the first thing theyliterally tell you is only gain
weight between 25, they give youlike a range and it's really
it's kind of tall.
It is a little toxic becauseit's like right away you got
pregnant and it's beautiful,beautiful thing happening.
And right away the doc, theOBJYN, is like make sure you
don't gain more than this amountof weight.
And it's like like oh, thanksfor ripping the rug underneath
(06:17):
me, like I'm like happy in La LaLand that I even got pregnant.
And now I have to like worry.
And you know, and especially thefirst trimester, like everybody
has pregnancy experience iscompletely different.
But for me I was not capable ofeating healthy.
I was not capable of eatingvegetables and fruit.
I wanted bagels.
It's the only thing I couldstomach, and a lot of women in
(06:38):
the first trimester it's astruggle and throughout your
whole pregnancy it's a struggle,because there's certain you
have certain food aversions andthe baby wants what it wants.
So it is a struggle to kind ofmaintain that balance.
But for me I was like I'm goingto focus on moving my body
because I want a healthypregnancy, because I am a little
bit older and I know thatmovement is really important.
(06:58):
And I continued weight training, I continued drinking a lot of
water and I tried when I could,I tried to eat new,
nutritionally for the most part.
But when that cre Domino'sPizza Craving hit, oh yes.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Listen, I'm really looking forward to the day that
I get to make Noah a bakedAlaska and be like do you
remember this?
Do you remember wanting?
Speaker 1 (07:18):
this.
Can you tell the story you wantto tell us?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Yeah, yeah, this was great.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
What is a baked like?
No people don't know what abaked Alaska is.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
People were me when you brought it up.
So you started talking aboutthis dessert that you had had at
one point in your life.
I don't even know where you hadit.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
My mom made it.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Okay, your mom made it and I'd never heard of it and
it was called a baked Alaskadessert thing, which essentially
amounts to this cake layer,like a pound cake layer in a
bowl which goes on last.
So in the bowl you put icecream, you cram it into like the
cylinder, like a half circlebowl, and you mash in all the
(07:57):
ice cream different kinds, Idon't remember what I chose and
then on top of that you put,like a baked, a cake layer like
an inch thick pound cakeintimates in the face, right in
the top of the bowl and thenOutside of that you create a
meringue layer that wouldessentially it's very intricate.
It's very intricate, yeah, whatit essentially insulates this
(08:20):
cake that you then put into theoven to crisp up the meringue
layer, which also simultaneouslydoesn't really destroy the ice
cream.
It stays intact because it's sofrozen.
You put it in the freezer forlike a day to really make sure
it's hard as a rock, and Thenyou bake it for just long enough
to crisp up the meringue, likeyou would see on any lemon
(08:40):
meringue cake.
And Ta-da, that's it.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
It's and and to that effect.
If he wanted to, he would.
Tony went out of his way tomake this for me like I had a
craving and you, like, you wentand got all the ingredients and
you went on YouTube and youlearned how to make it and you
made it for for me and it waslike the best thing ever and it
was like, yeah, like when you'repregnant, satisfy those
cravings, like, enjoy it, likeyeah.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
You know, so yeah, no , no, wanted that.
Obviously she's the oneinformed you that big.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
She's like I want to bake.
The last guy was needed alsoJust occurred to me.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I'm really good at recipes on the first try, and
Then it gets more difficult.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Thinking about yeah, I've tried them.
Like.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
I'll knock it out of the park the first time.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I'm scared to go back and do it again because I feel
like I think we might need abaked Alaska, maybe this weekend
.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Yeah, that might happen, so, okay, so first,
before Diving into like thepostpartum weight loss, like
it's obviously important duringpregnancy to and I'm not saying
to like keep your weight incheck, but to like Start your
healthy practices, like it justto feel, because you want to
feel good and pregnancy is avery is very tough on your back
(09:53):
and on all your muscles andHaving some sort of weight
training program working withthe personal trainer.
There's also an online programcalled birth fit, which is all
for for women who want to getpregnant we are pregnant and
it's safe and it really teachesyou how to properly lift weights
and how to engage certainmuscles to help with your core
(10:16):
and your pelvic floor and allthose things.
These are things that are likejust generally really important
for a healthy pregnancy.
So, during it doesn't start apostpartum, it starts before you
know and like again, I like thediet thing, like I don't really
love talking about the food.
It's just you try your best.
You guys know what to eat, likeyou know you need to eat fruits
and vegetables and to drink alot of water and a little bit
(10:38):
less caffeine, and you know youneed a lot of protein in your
diet because you are supportinga growing human that's taking
all your resources.
So obviously you want good fatsand protein and stay away from,
you know, process foods.
And again it's like an 80 20%,like a 20% of the time you like
and gotta enjoy life and you gotto give in to those crate and
(10:58):
especially when you're pregnant,like it's gonna.
Every pregnancy, again, isdifferent.
You might crave sweets, youmight crave craved salties,
salty foods, like again, it'slike that 80 20, like balance.
But like I just don't, don't beso hard on yourself because you
are growing a human being atthe end of the day.
Like I gained, it was in ainevitable.
I was working out and I waseating healthy and I gained like
(11:19):
45 pounds.
It was inevitable, I had togain that weight and and no, was
born and she was only fivepounds.
Like my body needs to gain theweight, whereas, like, if a
woman is like a little bit, youknow, taller and she carries the
weight differently, she cangain like 25 pounds and that's
fine for her.
Like every, every journey iscompletely different.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
That was your body knows how much.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I need.
I needed to gain that amount ofweight, I needed to gain a
certain amount of fat in orderto support a growing baby and
support my body and all thatstuff.
And like that is just somethingthat I had to like repeat to
myself like this this is myjourney.
Like don't compare yours.
It's easy to compare yourselfto like, especially with social
media.
Like you see these women, theylike these, they snap back and
they're just like wearing abikini.
(12:00):
Like a month later, like youknow, like what the fuck?
Like it's crazy and it's not,but that's not really the
reality of from for most people.
You know, for most normal women, it's a little bit more than
that.
And then you know you have thebaby and the first Like throw
out the window, like losing anyway the first six months because
(12:21):
you're not sleeping.
You know what I mean.
Like you're not sleeping,you're not functioning at a high
level, you know if you're ableto work out, great, but you're
still like taking care of,you're keeping another human
being alive, while everythingelse, like you have Everything
else going on in the world andmost of us don't have that
village and don't have likesupport.
So, like the first six months,like you know, focus on.
(12:43):
You know focus on you're movingyour body and doing what you
can and, again, eatingnutritionally, but like, focus
more on that, on feeling goodand on recovering.
And of course, you can't workout for the first six weeks.
So the first six weeks, thefirst couple of weeks, I stayed
in bed mostly and then I wantedto start.
(13:03):
I felt, you know, I had anatural birth so I was able to
go out and start walking and wewent for like family walks and
walks and we got sunlight andthat's how I started my movement
.
And then I started doing likesome basic Pelvic floor workouts
to strengthen, because you haveto rehab, like your body just
went through something traumatic, you have to rehabilitate it
(13:25):
and you have to go easy and youcan't just go into, like what
you know, the workouts that youwere doing like before you're
pregnant and you know, once youget the green light from the
doctor, that's when you canstart working out.
I worked out with a personaltrainer, ashley LaVec, who I've
been working out with since thepandemic and we do virtual
workouts and the way I startedwith her was just With like a
few weight you know weights andwe worked out from home and from
(13:47):
there I built out, built outmore, I bought more equipment
and bands and a bar and thingslike that and I work, for I work
out from home, don't?
I don't go to a fancy gym.
I like I had some mornings Iwake up and I'm like in my
pajamas, still in my pajamas,and I get my workout in.
I don't have to like travelanywhere.
So it doesn't.
I don't spend that much time,you know, and I have a, and
really at the core of everything, of all of this, of why I was
(14:11):
able to like get to where I am,is because I have the support,
because I have a husband thatsupports me and is with Noah and
Gives me that space and timefor me to be able to work out
and take care of myself.
So that's number one is havinga supportive partner, like you
know.
That's a hundred percent numberone.
(14:31):
So, yeah, so I started training, training three times a week
virtually in my home gym andAlso walking every day, walking
with no walking with the baby,walking.
We do family walks, we, I walkthe dogs, getting like going
outdoors.
So if you don't know where tostart, start by walking.
Walking is like the best andHealthiest thing that you could
(14:52):
do for yourself.
You're outside, you're gettingthat vitamin D.
You know you're in nature.
It's very therapeutic.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
It's just good for you overall, for your cortisol
levels, for just everythingWalking, and it's free, I it's
free free 99 free 99 the otherthing that I'm hearing in and
your, your plan for all this wasYou're keeping it as simple as
possible, like the least amountof barriers.
Right to entry as possible.
(15:19):
Work out at home virtualclasses right, just a couple
weights.
You don't need an elaboratesetup.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
And if you don't, obviously if you can't afford a
personal trainer, youtube isyour best friend, like there's.
I use YouTube sometimes, likewhen it doesn't work out with my
trainer, I want to work outanother day.
Like I go on YouTube and Isearch, like you know, like a
way you know lower body orintervals.
Or like you don't even needweights, you don't even need
dumbbells, like you can do allbody weight like some sort of
(15:48):
weight-bearing.
Like strength training is yourfriend, especially if you're a
woman and you are postpartum.
Like it Balances your hormones.
It builds muscle.
Like as we age, we loot, westart losing from our muscle
mass and our metabolism slowsdown.
So if you want to increase yourmetabolism, you, if you want to
like Balance your hormones, ifyou want to look hot as fuck in
(16:12):
a bathing suit, like, startlifting weights.
Like there's this misconceptionthat lifting weights makes you
bulky.
That's the biggest lie.
You need to eat thousands andthousands of calories over what
you eat in order to become bulky.
Like it does I lift like superheavy.
I'm not bulky, I have some likenice muscles.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Yes, but they're covered up.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, but strength training is like the best thing
you can do, for if you're awoman and you want to like Get
you know, get healthy and getstrong, I don't be scared of
like lifting heavy things andputting them down.
Like every longevity doctortalks about strength training
like Like it's even moreimportant than cardio, in my
opinion, because you need thatmuscle.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
And there's an element of cardio to win.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Yeah, like you get the bang for your buck and like
again, you don't need actualweights, you could do push-ups
and squats and Weight-bearingexercises, you could get bands
and that all that stuff isreally beneficial in the long
term and you can do all that forfree on YouTube.
So definitely strength training, if there.
If there's one thing thatyou're gonna do is start Doing
(17:13):
some sort of strength trainingthree times a week could be 30
minutes, doesn't mean I don'teven do a whole hour.
I do 45 minutes tops and then Istretch and and walk, go take,
put the baby in the stroller orin the Carrier.
That's a weight-bearing.
You know you could.
You could do squats while thebaby's in your carrier, in the
carrier, and lunges and go for awalk, go outside.
You know I tried.
(17:35):
I try to get a bit a minimum of5k steps a day.
It's just like I try to keep agoal and I get that throughout
the day.
So like I start, I walk thedogs in the morning and then
I'll go take no out for an ifit's beautiful outside, I'll
take no out for another walk inthe afternoon.
So I try to get a minimum of 5ksteps per day so that I know
that I'm generally active, youknow, taking the stairs, things
(17:57):
like that.
It's about just beingconstantly active is getting up,
standing up, not being justSitting all day, right, so that
so now that was number one wasstrength training, number two
was walking.
And you know, sometimes when Ihave another time, I like to go
take a class like a Fitnessclass, because it's you're in a
(18:17):
group environment and it'smotivating and it allows you to
kind of switch things up.
So Tony and I occasionally willlike, once every two weeks,
once a week We'll go to f45,which is like a high intensity,
like functional training, andit's 45 minutes and it goes by
so fast.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
It's.
It's great.
It's especially great to kindof just for a mix-up, and Not
only that, most of the exercisesthat you can do in that class
you can replicate at home.
So it kind of gives you some.
It gives you some good ideas toto mix up your, your At-home
exercises.
Obviously there's machines andstuff there that are involved
that you can't.
It's always different.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
It's fun, the music is like high intensity and like
you're done in 45 minutes.
It's like really quick andthere's at 45 is like all over
the country you know.
So if you want to like changeit up and have fun and get out
of the house, sometimes I'll dolike a Pilates class, like if I
I did a lot of Pilates forpostpartum to strengthen like my
core muscle, because you kindof lose like your brain, to like
(19:17):
you know muscle feeling afteryou have a baby like it doesn't
like, and it's really Pilates, agreat way to connect with your
pelvic floor and to kind ofreconnect with that area.
And it's very challenging andit's weight-bearing too and it's
it's pull it up.
Pilates is really reallyfucking hard.
I Shout out to elevated Pilatesand Hoboken.
(19:37):
They're really great, they knowwhat they're doing when it
comes to like postpartum.
Next thing is what I also did,what it's important to also look
underneath the engine, right,if things aren't working, if
you're feeling sluggish yeah,you could be just tired because
your baby is waking up everycouple of hours, but if it's
like you're feeling, you're notfeeling well, then it's really
(19:58):
important to check your hormones.
They do your home hormonetesting and we had Dr Mark from
peak by MD.
We had him last season to talkabout I we talked about like
ozempic and all these otherthings, but he also does hormone
testing and that was reallyhelpful.
I I checked my hormones and wemade some tweaks to like my
supplements and my diet and Iwas able to kind of have a
(20:21):
general idea of what's going onin my body.
So definitely doing your inchecking your hormones,
especially six months aftergiving birth, to see where you
are, if you Make my, if yourthyroid could be a little bit
slow, like that's a reason whyyou're not losing weight, you
know could be your hormoneimbalances.
Some women are like doingeverything, they're eating right
, they're exercising, butthey're still not losing the way
(20:42):
and one of the reasons could behormone imbalance, right, and
another reason could be lack ofsleep.
Again, like I said, the firstcouple of months, if you're not
sleeping, had like your body isnot working optimally, like
sleep is for Healing, it's forhealing, it's for rest, it's for
, you know, recovering yourmuscles.
And if you're waking up everytwo hours, you're, you're in
(21:05):
fight or flight, you're not like, you're not, your body's not
burning fuel and also you'rehungrier, or then you compensate
with drinking more coffee.
So then you're like yourcortisol are like like a fucking
roller coaster, so like they'regonna hold on to every calorie.
So you know, prioritizing Iknow I could say like prioritize
sleep, but I've been there, Iwas like I tried to prioritize
(21:26):
sleep, but it's really hard whenyour babies Waking up every
couple of hours.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
So that sort of goes back to if you aren't able to
get the sleep that you wouldneed to be Optimal and to lose
the weight that you want, atleast at the very least just
recognize oh, I'm not gettingenough sleep, let me give myself
a little bit of a break here.
That's where you can bring inthe right a little more grace
and allow yourself that room tobe okay With where you are,
(21:52):
because there's nothing like,sometimes, postpartum.
There's just literally nothingyou can do about.
You're just not gonna getenough sleep and you're gonna
have to be okay.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
An unpopular opinion.
This is an unpopular opinion.
If you're going to choosebetween sleep and a workout,
choose sleep.
Absolutely choose sleep.
If you have the opportunity tosleep in it's either.
I sleep because you know thisis it.
If you're postpartum if you'repostpartum and you have the
opportunity to either get anextra hour of sleep or Workout,
(22:25):
choose sleep.
Yeah, that is so much moreimportant than then.
Of course, the working out isimportant, but that's when
you're getting enough sleep.
You know what I mean.
Like right now, when you'repostpartum and you're in the
thick of it and your baby'swaking ever every couple hours
Is not the time to be like, yeah, I'm gonna go to the gym.
You know what I mean?
No, like like the gym is greatand it gives you energy, but but
(22:47):
the sleep is way more importantand, again, unpopular opinion
like nobody, I don't, I don'tthink I've ever heard anybody
Tell you to skip the gym forsleep.
But in this case, like, themore sleep you can get if you
can get an app or if you canrest on the couch, get that
extra.
Like, just get it in and get itin.
Like, get that sleep in untilthe baby starts.
(23:08):
You know, sleeping through thenight.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Yeah, and if you're just being a lazy schmuck, go to
the gym.
Yeah, go to the gymprioritizing protein with every
meal.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Again, I feel like especially women were like
scared of eating.
You know we have this like ideaof like protein.
You know like protein shakesand like and like raw eggs and
like just gulping that shit down.
I get it, I understand that,but protein is the building
blocks of your life.
It is.
It makes you less hungry, likewhen you incorporate protein
(23:40):
with every meal.
You I try between like 20 and25 grams of protein with every
meal I'm fuller for longer.
You know carbs I'm not sayingcarbs are the devil, but like
have a protein with it so itkeeps your blood sugar
stabilized.
Again, you're not, especiallyif you're not sleeping.
You want to have like make makesure you eat nutritious,
because when we were tired wetend to reach for, you know, the
(24:03):
high sugar foods and thenyou're just like in that
constant roller coaster.
So keeping your blood sugarlevels like optimal is really
important.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
So get that protein in not all protein comes with a
tap out t-shirt.
You can yeah, you can eatprotein and still be a woman.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah yeah, eggs and beef, andespecially if you're a breast,
if you're breastfeeding andyou're nursing, you got to
account for those calories.
Like and I didn't even addressthe breastfeeding part that's a
whole other element of energy.
Like the fact that I worked outwhile also breastfeeding blows
my mind not for everybody.
Again, like this journey is isdifferent for everybody, and
(24:41):
Like when you're taking care ofa new, a baby, and also
breastfeeding and also have, youknow, other kids and a job and
all these things like, like youcan see how exercise could be
like the last on the list.
But it doesn't need to be anhour long, like, like I said,
like try to get.
Like if you just focus on everyday getting some sort of
movement, even if it's just awalk or even it's just like a 10
(25:02):
minute stretch before bed, likedo it, like Anything counts,
like it's just about beingconsistent and showing up for
yourself.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
I think that's a huge piece of the puzzle for a lot
of people, because we built itup to be such a Huge undertaking
where we have to dedicate anhour every single day to this
thing and who has the time?
But you can get.
You can get pretty significantresults with 15, 20 minutes a
day, especially if you'restarting from zero.
You didn't start from zerobecause you had that sort of
(25:31):
discipline built in throughoutthe pregnancy, well before the
pregnancy.
Yeah but if you are startingfrom a place of I don't really
have a regular workout routine,start with 15 minutes a day on
YouTube and build from there.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Just keep it as simple as possible so that you
can make it manageable right andbut, but it's a non-negotiable
every single day and it, like Isaid, 15 minutes a YouTube video
, or Go for a walk, or go for aquick jog, or even stretch, or
take a.
Take a class there's, there's alot of classes around in the
New Jersey, like everywhere,then every city.
(26:04):
There's, there are mommy and meclasses that you can take, and
there there are gyms with, withchild support.
There's, you know, in like thesuburbs, I think, but like there
is a way of like getting thatin and if you focus, like every
day, I'm gonna, you know, get 20minutes in and like, put your
baby in the carrier, go for likefor a walk.
If it's raining, go to the mall, put the baby in the carrier,
(26:26):
walk around the mall, spend alittle money, buy a little
Starby's, whatever, just like,do something for yourself every
single day and it's good, likeif you're pouring into your own
cup, like you're just gonna be abetter mom.
And I know that when I'mworking out, I'm feeling so good
.
I feel so good and I was sharingthis like the other day, like I
went to a hot yoga class andit's the last thing I wanted to
(26:47):
do that morning.
I just wanted to say.
It was raining outside.
It was been raining for acouple of days in New Jersey.
It was depressing.
The last thing I wanted to dowas get in my car and go to a
hot yoga class hot yoga class.
But I did it and right after Ifelt so good.
I felt like just good and likejust like that, that.
You know that that hum of likecalmness, of like I just
(27:07):
accomplished a workout.
I moved my body, I moved someenergy out of my body, like it
felt really, really good andit's like Focus on how you're
gonna feel after.
Because, like, the getting tois the hardest part, right Is
the going to the gym, it's thestarting, the workout.
But once you're doing it, likeyou feel good and like you never
regret a workout, like you justnever do.
(27:28):
And it's it's the core of allof this.
Like, yeah, we all want to likelose a couple of pounds and
lose the baby weight, but at theend of the day, we want to feel
good.
And that's really the point ofthis episode.
Is is about encouragingpostpartum you know moms to do
what they can to feel goodbecause, like, if you feel good,
that you can be a better, youcan show up better for your kids
(27:52):
, right, like, and I feel like Ifeel like a better mom when I,
when I take the time for myselfand also like my, my daughters
are gonna See me working out andtaking time for myself and
they're they're gonna learn fromthat.
They're gonna see that mommyputs her needs first you know
what I mean.
They're gonna see that mommyworks out and takes care of her
health and, like I know thatthat's gonna they're gonna have
a Ripple effect on our familyand it's an important aspect of
(28:16):
our lives, right?
So it's not just about Losingthe weight, although that is
nice, but, like I said, you knowI'm, I'm, I know I'm never
gonna go back.
My body's completely changed.
My hips are wider, you know,like there's just certain
clothes that just don't fit me.
The same, and and it's fine, andI've kind of like accepted it,
and Tony and I went shoppingthis weekend and I got some cute
(28:38):
things that I I can feel better, you know, in my body and and,
and that's that's also anotheraspect.
It's kind of like moving forwardis not trying to go back to who
we were before, but movingforward and what that looks like
, and, and I know for postpartumit's like a weird you're kind
of in this weird place of who amI like?
Who am I?
Who like?
(28:58):
Am I my mom and my wife and myLynn and my business owner like
who am I now?
Like that, like I went throughit's like two years, takes two
years of your life, right, likeyou're pregnant, and then post
postpartum is a year plus.
It's not just immediate, it'snot just a couple months.
Like I'm still consideredpostpartum.
I'm still figuring myself outand figuring out like my style
(29:19):
and like what to wear and likewhat feels good and my routines
that feel good to me and thatsort of thing.
So it's like kind of like awhole journey, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Yeah, it's a redefining of of who you are and
who you want to be.
It's like you are all of thosethings, but you're also none of
those things and none of them.
None of those identities fitquite the same as they did
before, just like yeah, theclothes.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Yeah, it took it like it's kind of crazy, though,
like it, it took me a minute.
It took me a minute to kind ofhave a good grasp as to, like
what all that means for me.
Because, yeah, this experiencehas been different than my first
, like in my first pregnancy Iwas in another head, completely
different headspace, and now I'min a healthier headspace.
So I'm a lot more aware of,like the things that I'm feeling
(30:05):
and going through and I finallyfeel like I'm 10 months
Postpartum and only now am Istarting to feel like I have a
sense of of me, of who I am andwhat, what I want and my purpose
and what like what my nextsteps are.
And because I in the past yearI was focused on Raising my kids
and I always will be that.
That will always be.
(30:26):
You know that's okay.
Like Me, me being mom is okay.
It's like in Barbie, what she'slike.
Can we just be mom like, andthat just be enough.
You know what I mean like, andto me that's that's enough and
whatever else that I have goingon is just a plus.
Yeah, but I am blend, the momand I'm I couldn't be happier
and the wife, but you know whatI mean.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
I know what you mean.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
Next thing I want to talk about that I didn't water
hydration.
Drinking a lot of water,especially if you're
breastfeeding.
Replenishing those mineral alsoreplenishing minerals and,
unfortunately, staying away fromalcohol.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Is what it is.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
It is what it is.
Like there's no, like I knowthat's like people like joke and
I joked about it last week likemommy juice, like let's drink
wine and like sometimes our onlyway to cope with like the
stresses of Of life and andbeing a parent is to escape by
using alcohol.
But that's especially if you'reon a postpartum journey to like
getting back to yourself.
That can absolutely hinder yourgrenade.
(31:28):
Well, it's not great and I'm I'malso kind of figuring my, my
figuring out my relationshipwith drinking and and had a
balance that.
But yeah, I drink a lot ofwater.
Stay away from alcohol if youmust, you know, have a little
bit of wine, but like hardliquor is just not not good for,
for for your hormones and foryou know, you have certain goals
(31:50):
, right.
Intermittent fasting that isalso a.
I don't I think we need tobring in experts for
intermittent fasting, but thatis personally something that I
like to do, a because right whenI wake up, I'm not hungry and I
don't feel like eatingnecessarily.
I just Rather like have a nice,a nice big lunch, like that's
(32:15):
just full of fruits andvegetables and eggs and and all
the things, and and I have liketwo, three, two meal, two big
meals and like a snack inbetween, and that, like to me,
is enough.
That being said, it's importantto not do intermittent fast.
So what is?
I should give detail.
Yeah, what is intermittent fastso intermittent fasting is just
like a fancy way of saying thatyou skip breakfast, basically.
Speaker 2 (32:40):
Right, so it's a.
It's basically you.
You are intentionally shortingyour, shortening your feeding
window throughout the day.
Yes, so there's, you knowwhatever interval that looks
like.
There's 18, 6, 16, 8, likewhatever adds up to 24,
essentially because there's 24hours in the day.
You're just shortening thewindow that you are allowing
yourself to consume calories.
(33:02):
Now there's a couple piecesthat make it more effective, and
the first one is lengtheningthe time between your last meal
and when you go to sleep.
Like that one is Huge, becauseyou don't want to spend your
overnight Digesting food,because that consumes energy, it
contributes to bad sleep, itdehydrates you throughout the
(33:23):
night and it's just a bad.
It's a bad way to go is to eatlike.
I think general rule of thumbis like try to eat three hours
before you're going to go to bed, yeah, and then when you wake
up in the morning, obviously, ifyou can stretch that time
window.
Speaker 1 (33:37):
I was 16, out like generally 16 minimum 12 hours,
yeah, and then up to like 16hours, yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
My hardest core was like 18 6 was about where I was.
I would have like a six hournoon to six, was about your man,
though it's different, yeah,100% different, if you're
breastfeeding.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
Do not do this, absolutely fucking not.
Like when I was breastfeeding Iwas eating breakfast every
morning I was eating oatmeal,like I was eating every three at
two to three hours.
You need to eat, you need toconsume food.
Like don't even think aboutintermittent fasting when you're
breastfeeding.
No, no, no, unless you want toscrew up your milk supply and
then your baby is not going tobe happy with you.
(34:14):
But I only started intermittentfasting a little bit after I
stopped breastfeeding and I onlydid it like a few times a week
just to Kind of give my gut alittle bit of a break, and that
personally works well for me andI've done it before.
It's not for everybody.
It could mess up your home.
This is for women.
For men thrive on this but forwomen specifically, there are
(34:35):
certain times during our cycle,or hormonal cycle, that you
should not be Intermittentfasting, like during the luteal
phase, which is a week leadingup to your period, where I'm a
fucking hot mess.
You need to up your calories,you need to eat more You're.
You're actually burning morecalories during that week.
That is why we crave, you know,sweets and we're kind of like
(34:57):
Moody and poopy-doopy.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
I've never noticed.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
Are you're being sarcastic right, the that week
you should not be intermittentfasting.
Enjoy a nice breakfast, butotherwise it's a.
For me personally it's.
It's definitely helped me.
You know, tighten things up.
I usually break my fast at likea lot, like it's not even that
long.
Like I eat, I usually eat likean early lunch, brunch at 11,
(35:23):
and like my go-to Meal is, youknow, two eggs, chicken sausage,
so there's like it's very highin protein.
I'll put spinach.
You know leafy greens are superhealthy for you and then I'll
have, you know, blueberry.
You know some blueberries.
Blueberries are also very goodfor you and he can't in the
berry fan like anti-cancerousand it's just really good for
(35:46):
you and it's an antioxidant.
Like you know, I get organ likeI make you wash them organic.
All that stuff I'll have, youknow, sourdough bread and
avocado.
So I have a little bit ofeverything.
I have my fruits, my vegetable,my fat, my carb and like it
keeps me full, usually till,like right now, which is 230,
and then I'll have a snack assome sort of snack, you know,
(36:09):
like a nuts or fruit or justsomething to like keep me.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Promix protein bar.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Yeah, promix, I love promix.
It's really good protein brandthat we love.
I'll have a promix protein baror whatever and that'll keep me
going and we'll have an usuallyan early dinner and it's also
the you know a dinner will alsocould be Consists of a protein
in the carb and a vegetable andand we'll have a treat after,
(36:35):
like some, some dessert have tohave a treat.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
Even if it's simple.
Speaker 1 (36:40):
Yeah, and so a lot of people ask me like, how do I
maintain my weight?
But also, like, get to eat thefoods that you know, because we
do eat, go out to eat and theysee that I post on social media
like, oh, how do you, how do youeat all this stuff?
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Like, well, yes 80, 20, 80, 20, because you know
when we post about going out toeat, like it might happen.
Maybe it happens once a week,but when you see it it feels
like in the course of like amonth, it feels like we're
always going out to eat.
Speaker 1 (37:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:11):
And what I understand is that it only feels like that
it's only a couple of times amonth that we go out to eat and
so, like you're saying, the 80,20 rule really does apply to us,
like 20% of the time we'regoing to eat, kind of whatever.
Whatever feels good, because80% of the time we're on point.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
And when we are eating out and ordering, like I,
you generally order whatever myheart desires, because I don't
believe in depriving and I feellike, especially if you deprive
yourself, if you really wantthat thing and you don't order
that thing, you're going to tryto compensate but it's never
going to satisfy you.
So, like there is a nice, likefine balance and that's mindful
eating and it's just like how toeat mindfully, right, and it's
(37:50):
really just learning how to, youknow, eat when you're hungry
and stopping when you're full,which is in the society that we
live in in America, in theUnited States, it's like we
don't know those boundaries oflike, oh, I'm full, we go past
fullness.
So there's like a concept ofeating until you're 80% full and
kind of like it's somethingthat I a skill that I had to
(38:11):
learn, because I did have like abinge eating disorder where I
would just eat to a point whereI'd want to like, yeah, I'd be
sick, so I had to relearn oflike what my hunger cues are and
like really being in touch withmyself and also that comes with
like you know, learning how tomeditate and just being, you
know, being calm before enteringa meal and and that sort of
(38:36):
thing and this is like a wholeseparate.
I feel like we're going to eata whole episode for like mindful
eating intuitive eating and allthat stuff and what that that
means.
So when we do eat out, like Iorder whatever I want and I just
and I eat and I stop when I'mfull, like I generally like okay
, that was delicious, like Ican't eat anymore.
Like I'm 80% full, like I Irarely ever eat to a point where
(38:57):
I'm like completely stuffed.
Speaker 2 (38:59):
We're so great for me because then I go, because then
Tony eats the rest of it, andthen I move on.
Speaker 1 (39:04):
There's no guilt.
There's no like guilt is likethe moment my brain's like oh,
maybe you should have eaten thatLike that's.
You know, my, my, my higherself is like shut the fuck up,
that was delicious, do you, sis?
You only live once.
You know like there's literallya constant war between these
two voices.
So, yeah, that's really enjoylife, and I think that's it for
(39:29):
me, did I?
Oh, cold plunging.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
We talked about that last week.
There were.
There were literally like fourspots where I felt we could
interject with them, but I waslike like I don't want to be
annoying about cold plunging,Like we talk about it all the
time.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
I wore that people, but it definitely has helped my
increase my metabolism.
Like I'm hungrier, I've youknow it works.
Yeah, it's definitely working.
For sure it activates brown fat.
Can we like?
Should we go into that or no?
Speaker 2 (39:58):
we're going to have a cold, we're going to do if the
people aren't absolutely sickand tired of hearing a hearing
about it.
We are going to do a coldplunge episode with an expert so
we can get into some of thenuts and bolts.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
We should do the.
We should interview the expertin the cold plunge with mics.
Wouldn't that be hilarious?
Speaker 2 (40:23):
That would be sick, that would be iconic.
I might have to fake thetemperature so that we're not
sitting in 40 degree water forfor a half an hour, but that
would be.
We'll see if we can do it.
Look forward to that.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Well, thank you for listening episode two.
Make sure you like and followus on social media.
Feel free to DM us yourquestions, yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
Have a good day.
Thank you for listening.
Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye,bye.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye,
bye, bye, bye, bye, bye you.
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