July 16, 2025 • 30 mins
Feeling like you're behind in life because you started your career or business later than others? You're not alone, ka-Kuda!
Society tells us we should have everything figured out by 30 - the perfect career, marriage, kids, and financial success. But in Filipino culture, these expectations are even more pronounced: "Bago ka mag 35 dapat may asawa at anak ka na." Sound familiar?
In this episode, Sheryl and Sariah share their own journeys of finding success after 30, pivoting during the pandemic, and discovering that there's no universal timeline for success. Whether you're 25, 35, or 45, this episode will shift your perspective on what it means to be "on time" in your own life.
What You'll Discover
✨ Why society's timeline doesn't define your success✨ Real stories of career pivots and business breakthroughs after 30✨ How the pandemic became a catalyst for unexpected opportunities✨ Practical steps to stop comparing yourself to others✨ The mindset shift that transforms "late" into "right on time"
Episode Timestamps
1:59 | Intro to the topic - Why we're talking about starting "late"
2:18 | Message from our ka-Kuda - "Feeling niya failure siya kase she started late and she's envious of the younger generations who started their freelancing career early"
2:53 | Pressure from Society - Breaking down the Filipino cultural expectations and invisible timelines we're all supposed to follow
4:08 | You are not late at 30 - Sheryl and Sariah share their freelancing career and business journeys
8:42 | Finding opportunity in crisis - When Sariah started her coaching business during the pandemic while everyone else was losing their businesses, she found hers
14:50 | Pivot power - How Sheryl found her way to pivot during pandemic
16:56 | Finding your own success - Why do you feel you are lost? How do you find your own success
Key Takeaways🎯 Filipino Cultural Expectations Don't Define Your Success
"Late doesn't mean you failed, or may mali kang ginawa" - Your journey is unique, and the cultural pressure to achieve certain milestones by specific ages doesn't account for your individual path.
💪 Crisis Creates Opportunity
The pandemic wasn't just a time of loss - it was also a time of discovery. While some businesses closed, others found their calling.
🌟 Your "Late" Might Be Your "Right Time"
What feels like being behind might actually be perfect timing for your specific circumstances, experience, and life situation.
Remember mga ka-KUDA:
Your timeline is not their timeline. Your success story doesn't have to look like anyone else's. Whether you're starting at 25, 35, or 55 - you're exactly where you need to be.
The question isn't "Am I late?" The question is "Am I ready to begin?"
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Thank you mga Ka-Kuda for joining our conversation this Season 2.
If you haven’t listened to Season 1 yet please take time to listen lalo if you are an aspiring freelancer or already a seasoned freelancer.
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(00:00):
Ay buti pa sya sana all alam mo hate na hate ko marinig yung
sana all kasi it's so defeatist parang wala ka ng pag asa sige
na ikaw na ikaw na yung ganyan ako hindi para dun sa mga
feeling nila lost sila tapos eh kayo you figured it out eh
ganyan ganyan di ba hindi ka lost hindi ka lang gumagalaw.
Ay kasi sabi nila dapat ganitongage nasa school na ako.
(00:21):
You always do things to prove a point kaya kayo nalo lost kasi
lagi niyong ginagawa yung mga bagay hindi para sa sarili niyo
kundi para sa sasabihin ng ibangtao.
Ang dami kasi nating excuses minsan i'm too old for that.
It's too late for me. I can't do that.
Kayo kasi ganyan ako hindi hindikawalan sa babae kung wala kang
anak, hindi porket ayaw mong magkaanak eh kulang na yung
(00:43):
pagkababae mo. Hindi porket ayaw mong mag asawa
eh salot ka sa lipunan pag family reunion sa mga tita na
kailan ka mag aasawa pag nag asawa ka na kelan kayo
magkakaanak pag nagkaanak na kailan nyo susundan?
Nga nila matris yon. Matris niyo ba yon?
May hugot yan. Hello mga ka kuda.
Welcome sa madami akong kudal season two kung saan lahat ng
(01:07):
bawal pag usapan i lalo nating pag uusapan.
I'm sheryl mom entrepreneur and a certified over thinker.
And i'm soria. Sheryl is new co host and ka
coda. I'm a business psychology,
mshado work coach and minsan human emotional support ng mga
pagod na maging girl boss kagayanitong si sheryl.
At pamaya magkaibigan madaming opinyon kahit di tinatanong.
(01:33):
Hello mga ka kuda. Welcome sa episode ten our last
episode of season two last episode agad agad parang kailan
lang nag shoot lang tayo ng trailer ng season two.
Grabe so ang episode natin ngayon ay about sa mga taong
nagwa. Wonder if there is a failure if
they started their careers or businesses na feeling na late na
(01:55):
sila so starting late doesn't mean you failed.
Anong masasabi mo sa title natin?
Totoo yun kasi ako mismo i started late eh.
Pero late doesn't mean failure ka or wala ka ng pag asa or may
mali kang ginawa unang una buwanwhy is it such a big deal to
start late? So by late di ba we have someone
(02:16):
who sent us a question. Ano ba yung question niya?
Freelancer siya parang aspiring free lancer.
Feeling niya late na sya kasi dalawa na daw yung anak niya.
She is thirty. Plus ty so naiinggit sya sa mga
gen z na parang bata pa lang like twenty twenty five
successful. Na nag start ng freelancing.
Yeah pero siya parang ngayon pa lang niya naiisip.
(02:36):
Ngayon pa lang yan nasisimulan. So feeling nya is it still worth
it or failure na ba talaga sya? Yun nga eh saan nanggagaling
yung feeling na failure ka? Porket you started at thirty or
even forty? I think it's because of yung
tinatawag na pressure from society talaga na there are
these timelines na you have to be this by this.
(02:57):
Ano yung mga example lang naisipmong ganun?
Kailangan ganito ka na by ganitong age?
Ano yung mga yun? For example, dapat bago ka mag
thirty five dapat may mga anak ka na.
May asawa ka na. Or else.
Yung egg cells mo ma maluluma ganon.
Ano pa ba? May biological clock na
tinatawag? Dapat by forty may bahay ka.
Na or kaya minsan nga by thirty dapat may bahay ka na may asawa
(03:20):
ka na settled ka na for them. Yung mga ganung bagay parang it
will make them settled yun yung term nila eh parang dapat
ganitong age settled ka na so may mga tao talaga na nape
pressure. Sino ba nag set kasi nun?
Malay ko dyan sa mga yan. Pero yun nga eh.
It's a good thing if you make itan inspiration.
And if yun talaga gusto mo if you want to have a family by
(03:43):
this age, make sure na yun yung gusto mo.
Pero kung ikakasal ka lang just for the sake na every reunion
tinatanong ka bat single ka pa ka sa pagka kinasal ka na kelan
kayo magkakaanak? Yung sunod naman o kailan kayo
kailan yung susundan? Parang walang kapaguran.
As if ma trace nila yung nasasagad at oo nga.
Nila alas bag matres niyo ba yon?
(04:05):
May hugot yan. So yun nga di ba?
Parang make sure na gusto mo talaga sya.
And for me yung nagtanong na yonhindi ka late at thirty if
thirty ka pa lang nag start gusto niyo magkwentuhan na lang
tayo eh ilang taon ka na nag start ka ng freelancing career
mo. Twenty fifteen.
Ilang taon twenty? Fifteen twenty fifteen ilang
(04:28):
taon ako nun teka. Hindi anong taon ilang taon?
Twenty eight na ako. Twenty eight so almost thirty
ish, but already had two kids orone.
One pero nag boom talaga siya. Thirty na thirty.
Plus. Thirty one ganon.
Kumbaga yung peak ng career mo nasa thirties mo and you didn't
feel it was too late di ba? Konti for me nung college ako
(04:49):
parang yung peak ng career. Twenty one.
To. Kasi nag corporate world din ako
eh. So feeling ko hindi ko siya
nagawa tas ngayon ngayon pa langako nagpi peak.
Parang ganun ba? Pero yun nga, hindi ko na lang
iniintindi kasi ang importante na achieve ko pa rin yung gusto
kong ma achieve at my own timeline ng hindi ako masyadong
nag nagpa pressure sa mga. Sa past na hindi ko nga nagawa
(05:11):
yung twenty one to twenty three.Yung pick na ako yun masaya
naman ako na okay lang kahit na thirty plus na ako nag.
So walang late late basta wala eh nung nag start ka ng mag peak
tuloy tuloy na siya. Yun hindi na natigil.
O kaya eh so syempre gusto ko rin bigyan ng context.
So si sheryl kasi she's now a successful six figure free
(05:32):
lancer so meron siyang email marketing agency ba?
Hindi hindi agency eh maliit lang na basta head ka head siya
ng isang email marketing agency.She works from home.
She's a mom of two kids and ako din.
I don't feel na it's it's too late for parang it's just right.
No yung yung time na na reach mosiya ngayon.
Ako naman ay had the career thati really loved at forty.
(05:56):
My life literally began at forty.
Prior to that, i had a lot of different careers and
businesses, so when i graduated college, i didn't know what i
wanted to be. Wala pang.
Internet. May internet pero hindi siya
ganun ka ng college was clothingtechnology.
O di ba? Fashion the business of fashion
(06:16):
but hindi ko talaga sya gusto. Kaya ko lang siya kinuha kasi
may garments business yung mom go and being the only girl.
Parang gusto niyang ipamana sakin yung business but it hindi
ko talaga gusto manahi. Mas gusto ko bumili na lang ng
damit kasi parang na stress akong manahi ganun.
And i tried the fashion industrybut it really wasn't for me.
It was to toxic and stressful. Wala dun yung strength ko tapos
(06:39):
hindi ko talaga alam kung anong gusto ko.
Literally hindi ko alam parang nangyari after that after ko i
try yung garments industry, i tried also putting up my own
garments business with the classmate nung college.
Nag fail yon tas sabi ng nanay ko may sarili tayong garments
nagtayo ka pa ng sarili mo. Gusto ko kasi yung talagang ako
yung nag. Start.
Hindi yung parang pinamana sa akin.
Yung yung term nga ngayon di ba nepo baby ganun di ko pa alam
(07:01):
yung nepo nepo na yan noon pero parang i just wanted something
of my own nag fail and then okaylang si i learn tapos yun na
yung nag start yung mga b p o sapilipinas two thousand three oh
ganun na ako katanda di ba ako yung isa sa pinaka pioneer sa
mga nag call center? Hindi ko rin na enjoy yun hindi
ko siya na enjoy, sobrang stressful pero dahil hindi ko
alam kung anong gusto kong gawin.
(07:22):
Thankful ako na nagkaroon ng ganung klaseng trabaho kasi
parang yun yung sumalo sakin nung time na lost ako.
Anong career ba talaga yung parasakin?
Tapos ah i got married i had kids tapos sabi ko i wanted to
stay at home. Take care of my kids so sakto
naman yun na yung boom na mga online jobs sa internet, wala
pang freelancing, di pa freelancing ang tawag online
(07:43):
jobs like v a magsusulat ka for blogs ganon so yun yung ginagawa
ko nun for nine years yun ginagawa ko lang dahil it it
gave you the opportunity to stayat home.
But i didn't feel like it was a career that you know, i wanted
or felt fulfilled. I felt i was growing.
No, it was really just to pay the bills and honestly i did
feel left behind. So yung nagtanong na yun,
(08:04):
sobrang nage get kita. I felt i was left behind by my
classmates nung high school who became doctors then tist or nasa
abroad na traveling. You know, yung iba naman ah
married really rich, successful guys.
Yung iba naman successful on their own careers and i really
felt like a failure. Yung i i really compared myself
(08:25):
to other people and i was like, okay, i'm working from home
ganyan but, but at least i'm with my kids.
Yun na lang iniisip ko then yun fast forward and then i tried a
lot of different businesses, more on side hustles siya, hindi
talaga siya passion business ganun.
Then nung twenty twenty nung pandemic when everyone else were
losing their jobs, losing their businesses.
(08:48):
That was when i found mine. Parang ironically nung pandemic
nung nawawala na lahat. Dun ko nahanap yung sa akin and
i was turning forty that time. I was almost forty accidentally
naging coach ako kasi nag shift ako to freelancing dahil nawala
yung business ko and then wala akong ine expect like wala akong
ine explore akong goals. Wala akong where do you see
(09:10):
yourself five years from? Honestly, well, i just wanna pay
the bills. Oo yun lang talaga ang mindset
ko nun kasi parang tanggap ko naito na buhay ko eh like nanay
ako ganun augment ko lang incomenung nung tatay nung mga anak ko
ganun tas wala na talaga akong nakikita for me like i thought
it was dead and for me. Cause i was almost forty years
old that time so fast forward nga parang nakakahanap ako ng
(09:32):
clients kahit bago ako so maraming nagtatanong sakin sa
freelancing community. Pano mo ginawa yun?
I shared a short webinar. May mga nagkaroon ng result with
what i shared. Maraming nagtanong sa akin pano
nagpa one on one coaching na so accidentally naging coach ako
tas sabi nung mentor ko nun mag create ka na ng course so nag
create ako ng course kahit di ako marunong ayoko nag show up
(09:54):
sa social media but i had to kasi imagine pandemic.
A lot of people were losing their jobs, their income hindi
mapakain yung pamilya and sabi ko i'm at the position that i
can help these people find clients.
Yung mga hirap na hirap makahanap ng client, ang dami
kong natulungan from zero to nowsix figures talaga just because
na overcome nila yung ano nila yung block nila in finding
(10:17):
clients. So yun na nagkaroon ako ng
course tapos talagang inaano ko lang ang pinromote ko lang tas
nagulat ako daming nag enroll nakailang batch na so hindi ko
alam pano maging coach, hindi koalam may ganung career, hindi ko
alam pano pagkakitaan yun. Ang alam ko lang meron akong
problema na kaya ko i solve. Hindi ko siya pinangarap, hindi
ko siya pinlano and it just happened.
(10:37):
Parang siguro sa iba na naniniwala sa diyos di ba para
adj ado ng diyos ganun? So for me it was the right time.
It wasn't too late but maybe that pandemic was the right time
for me kasi andun na yung boom ng freelancing andun yung
combination ng freelancing internet and then yung yun nga
yung getting your own clients and yun na nga yung parang you
(10:59):
can actually do freelancing as. A big career hindi na sya
sideline or side hustle like it can be a six figure income
career. So dun lang pala kasi
magsisimula yung career ko dahildun pa lang yung combination na
yun mangyayari kumbaga. I was at the right place at the
right time. I was never late pala at forty
(11:19):
years old. Literally my life started forty.
That was the career that i enjoyed most until now i'm still
doing it and masasabi ko it wasn't planned, i wasn't
expecting it. I didnt know how to earn from it
but i did so. Yun nga yung sa last episode di
ba i i shared my journey as a single mother.
Yun yung sumuporta sakin for five years that has been the
currier that has been supportingme, giving me a comfortable
(11:42):
life, allowing myself to providefor my kids and you know, to buy
myself if you luxuries i never experienced before to live in a
place that i like. Yung mga ganon.
I never expected all of that. Would you say na i'm late at
forty? I'm now forty three.
By the way di lang halata. Charot of course cars hindi i
mean at forty three i could say na i feel better healthier.
(12:06):
Happier, more fulfilled than i ever was at twenty or thirties.
Yun nga eh ang hindi ko maintindihan sa society natin
ang hilig nilang mag label ng mga bagay bagay.
And a deadline. Oo may deadline for me yung
twenty twenties mo hindi mo pa talaga kilala yung sarili mo nun
eh. So how can you really figure out
(12:26):
anong type of career or anong type of business or any path ang
pwede sayo? Kung hindi mo pa talaga kilala
yung sarili mo para kasi when you reach thirty or forty is mas
marami ka ng wisdom. Marami ka ng experience mas
marami ka ng alam sa sa buhay. Hindi ka na yung parang still
figuring out things. Well unless talagang nag slack
(12:49):
off ka nung mga panahon na yan talagang kahit mag forty ka na
wala ka pa rin talagang nafi figure out.
Pero yung he with what you shared na figure out mo na rin
eh kung ano yung talagang path mo kahit by accident siya, nare
realize mo rin na gusto mo na rin siya talaga.
And then yung pag try ng pag tryna yun.
Not really obsessing or focusingon.
Ano ba yung career na gusto ko or dapat ganito na ako by ganito
(13:13):
at that time ang iniisip ko langpano ko matutulungan tong mga
taong to and then nagbunga pa siya nag nag branch out siya
into an a totally different direction nung yung mga kino
coach ko nagse six figures na from zero iba na naman problema
nila ibang level naman self sabotage naman self doubt or
andaming blocks internally ang daming issues baggage ganun na
(13:33):
hindi sila makausad sa next level.
So since naranasan ko rin yun nung time na magulo din yung
yung buhay ko and my life was falling apart and then naayos ko
siya. Yun naman yung tinuro ko sa
kanila. Naging another offer na naman
yun dahil ang dami na namang gusto.
Isa ka na dun. Di ba ka na don?
So parang nangyari ngayon nagingano naman ako inner work coach
or shadow work coach ganyan na hindi ko rin ine expect and nae
(13:58):
enjoy ko rin siya and it's also giving me the kind of income and
time freedom that i always wanted na sabi ko siguro yung
twenty plus years na yon na i wasn't sure of what i wanted to
be ngayon yung five years na ineenjoy ko, parang balewala na
yung twenty years na na lost akoeh.
Feeling mo na nasayang. Hindi sya nasayang it all lead
(14:19):
me here and now i'm enjoying it.I i don't feel like its too
late. I mean pati sa health ngayon
lang ako naka naging ganito ka healthy dati lagi akong sakitin
so wala talagang too late wala nasa mind lang natin yung yung
time or nasayang or too late basta try ka lang ng try it's
never too late. Correct alam mo naalala ko yung
(14:39):
sinabi mo na ng pandemic mo na discover yung path mo.
Actually ako rin eh something similar nung pandemic.
Ang dami ko ring na discover na kaya kong gawin.
If naalala ko talaga noon nung sa social media laging yung mga
tao nagrereklamo na ano ba namanto.
Hirap. Ng buhay ganyan.
Hirap makahanap. Ng ang hirap maghanap ng work
baliktad yung nangyari sakin na dun nagsabay sabay yung clients.
(15:04):
Dun ako mas nakaipon kung kailanpandemic at nawawalan ng pag asa
ang ibang tao. Ako ewan ko naalala mo yung
nagkaroon ng free course about digital marketing tapos parang
ginrab. Ko yon ni ryan disebut.
Oo yun kay ryan. Guys.
Shout na ano ako dahil nga ang mga pilipino obsess sa mga
certificate. Yan.
(15:25):
Inano ko fulfill ko yung ganun na ung kuha kaya akong
certificate ng ganitong course ganyan grabe nakalimang course
yata ako nun pero ang differenceko lang sa iba is talagang
inapply ko yung natutunan ko dunsa course na yun.
Grabe as in talaga kahit lahat na sa social media ang daling ma
distract na ang daming nagrereklamo.
Pwede rin akong maging ganun eh pero it's really a matter of
(15:47):
choice na ayoko ayokong ma stucksa ganung mindset na.
Oy ano ngayon kung pandemic eh di mag shift tayo ng ano ng ng
job mag pivot tayo ng ibang waysto earn kasi marami tayong
pwedeng gawin di ba? So yun sa mga nakikinig na
pwedeng sabihin na eh kasi kayo yan kami ganito lang ganun.
(16:08):
Ano masasabi mo dun? Para dun sa mga feeling nila
lost sila tapos eh kayo. You figured it out eh ganyan
ganyan di ba? Actually wala talagang lost
kumbaga susunod ka lang sa agos kung ano yung nandiyan sa
harapan mo kung ano yung all angnakikita mo.
Ano yung mga problema na pwede ko i solve?
Sunod ka lang sa agos. Wag mong isiping lost ka kung
(16:28):
nasaan ka yun yung dapat nandyanka you're at the right place at
the right time always if you feel your lost your not lost.
Like i said i thought i was lostfor twenty years but in
hindsight looking back it all prepared me for where i am right
now. All the experiences, all the
feeling confused and lost. I had to go through all the
pain, all of the heartbreaks andchallenges i had to go through
(16:52):
all of that kasi i wouldn't be able to help people the way i am
helping them right now if i did not so.
Wala talagang lost. Kaya lang naman kayo feeling
lost kasi kino compare nyo nga yung buhay niyo sa iba sa iba
kayong nakatingin sa ibuhay ng ibang tao kayo nakatingin na
feeling nyo for example yung barkada mo nung high school my
god buti pa siya nakapangasawa ng mayaman.
(17:12):
Oo siya successful na yung negosyo niya kaya ka feeling
lost kasi gusto mo ganun din yung buhay.
Mo comparing your chapter one tosomeone else is chapter ten di.
Ba oo eh lahat naman tayo we move at a different pace and yun
nga may lahat tayo may kanya kanyang timing so.
For me i can say na hindi ako naniniwala na may lost.
(17:32):
Na i think hindi ka lost hindi ka lang gumagalaw ay let's say
we're riding a boat or a ship and then a shipwreck siya na
bumagyo nasira yung boat like what happened to my life nasira
lahat right nawala lahat and you're stuck in the middle of
the sea. You, you will only be lost if
you just stay there. Talagang lost ka na.
But if you start swimming and yung goal mo lang kung ano yung
(17:56):
unang makita kong land will go there.
I don't have it figured out yet,but if i keep swimming, i know
makakahanap ako ng land. Ganun lang kasi kaya rin feeling
ng mga tao lost, they feel that they need to figure it out from
step one to step ten eh what if kailangan mo lang ma figure out
yung next step like what happened to me?
Hindi ko pinlano lahat to pero ijust kept moving, keep moving,
(18:18):
kept solving problems, other people's problems, you know.
And then hindi na ako nag obsessover my age di ba?
I just keep moving. You will only feel lost if you
stop swimming or if you just stay there in the middle of the
ocean just swim to wherever the nearest land is meaning you take
action. Kung kung gusto mo kumuha ng
course about email marketing, copywriting go pag hindi mo
(18:38):
nagustuhan change course anotherswimming to another land ganun
lang mahahanap at mahahanap nyo rin yan pero hindi niya mahanap
kung stock kayo palagi wala kayong ginagawa or nagda doubt
kayo sa sarili niyo si yung clarity it only happens kapag
andun ka na. Yeah.
Tas course correct ka na lang. Correct kaya rin kayo nasa stock
kasi you do things based on pressure din and you do things
(19:03):
based on what will people think about you.
Kasi sabi nila dapat gantong age.
Ano na ako? Ganyan na ako successful na ako.
You always do things to prove a point na parang kaya kayo nalo
lost kasi lagi niyong ginagawa yung mga bagay hindi para sa
sarili niyo kundi para sa sasabihin ng ibang tao.
Sa pressure. Pressure sa timeline.
(19:25):
Ng iba sa definition of success of other people.
And did you know parang if you know the designer vera wang si
vera wang, she started designingat forty dun lang siya sumikat
eh pinakasikat k f c colonel sanders di ba?
He. Ilang taon siya?
Sixty two i think when ah k f c.Exploded na matanda na.
(19:45):
Tanda na and he did that knocking on hundreds of doors
offering his recipe for chicken.He didn't stop hundreds of
doors, so sixty two imagine. Now he's a billionaire, his his
name is known in every household, all over the world.
I think it's never too late talaga.
Basta you just keep trying. You just keep swimming.
Sabi nga sa finding me mo di ba?Just keep swimming and let's say
(20:07):
sa health i see a lot of like sixty year olds na biglang ang
fit ng katawan kasi they startedworking out hindi sila ang dami
kasi natin excuses minsan eh. I'm too old for that.
Ano po ba yung mga excuses na binibigay ng mga tao?
Its too late for me ano? Usually too old yung edad.
Lagi i can't do that. Kayo kasi ganyan ako hindi.
(20:28):
Sino ba may sabing hindi ganun pwede maging ganun di ba?
Wala namang ganung rule na you can only do your business.
Pag thirty ka na eh pano kung forty mo na discover yung sarili
mo tsaka yung talagang path mo hindi mo talaga masasabi until
you figure out your own timelineyour own life.
Tsaka ano siguro wag kayong magpa pressure pag family
reunion sa mga tita na kailan kamag aasawa pag nag asawa ka na?
(20:50):
Kelan kayo magkakaanak pag nagkaanak na?
Kelan niyo susundan? Di nga nila matris yun.
Huwag kayong magpa pressure. Di nila ma trace yun sila pa mag
dutertes tsaka pag pini pressurekayong magka anak sila ang mag
aalaga. Oo kayo naman diba?
So you have to figure out your own thing your own timeline.
Kung kailan ka ready magkaanak. Hindi kawalan sa babae kung wala
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kang anak oo totoo ako kasi talagang pangarap ko bata pa
lang ako magka anak pero may mgababae ayaw magkaanak na judge
sila. Hindi porket ayaw mong magka
anak eh kulang na yung pagkababae mo.
Hindi porket ayaw mo mag asawa eh salot ka sa lipunan.
Somethings wrong with. You may kanya kanyang timeline
yan. Ang masaklap pag pinilit mo
hindi ka ready. Nagdamay ka pa ng bata.
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Tas hindi ka ready di ba? So yun so wag na wag nyong
ipipilit yung oras na hindi pa kayo ready and wag niyo rin kayo
magpa pressure na gawin lang yundahil sa may timeline na
binibigay sa inyo yung yung mga tao na na deadline di.
Ba oo tsaka hindi naman siya. Wala naman siya sa batas di ba
na dapat ano ang dapat ganitong edad?
Achieve mo na to ganitong edad perfect na yung buhay mo.
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May dalawang anak ka na housewife wala naman eh.
You really have to figure out your own thing.
Look at the people you're surrounded with.
Look at if they are adding valueto your life or are they just
adding pressure to your life? So make an inventory of the
people you're surrounded with friends relate, audit the kinds
of friends you're surrounded with kasi baka sa kanila
(22:18):
nanggagaling yung pressure. It's okay to you know, parang
medyo distance from them and then surround yourself with
people that you like to be yung people na will influence you for
better or people who make you feel good.
Kahit yun lang kahit di masyadong ma successful but very
positive people ganon accepting sayo supportive sayo marami yan
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ah ako, that's what i did. I have the community di ba tayo?
We were in the same community ofsuper supportive freelancers and
that really boosted my confidence nun nung time na
feeling wala akong karapatang mag coach.
Walang pero you know yung community na isu support ka
talaga. Sobrang helpful siya na feeling
mo hindi ka lost kasi you're alldoing it at the same time
(23:01):
nakikita mo. Yun din yung mga mistakes nila,
yun din yung pinagdaanan, yung mga hugot ay hindi pala tayo
lost, yun lang pala talaga yung part ng journey.
For me ha hindi importante kung gaano ka kaaga nag start ang
importante. Well living your life are you
authentic or can you sustain what you started?
Yun yung importante eh hindi importante na oh ano twenty one
(23:23):
successful na ako pero kaya mo ba siyang i maintain hanggang
fifty ka? Yes kunyari if you for exam for
someone na mga young business owners, sometimes i noticed that
they they act like they ah we figure it out oh ano kami
magaling kami ganyan. The only question in my mind.
Is kaya nyo ba yang i sustain hanggang mga forty na kayo?
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Kaya niyo ba mag commit sa ganung business?
And even if they don't, don't think of yourself as a failure.
Kung yung the business that you started the twenties didn't work
out kasi ang dami mong pang pagdadaanan.
Madami pa talaga. And pwedeng lahat ng pinundar mo
ngayon nawala hindi ka pa rin failure nun.
Start again hindi mawawala sayo skills mo.
You're never starting from scratch your just starting from
(24:07):
experience palagi correct whenever you lose whenever you
make mistakes. Whenever ako, i've experienced a
lot of losses in my life theme. Di ba like being broke?
Tapos, you know, being broke andthen after two months mag ano ka
uli mag six figure, seven figures.
Naranasan ko lahat yan. Akala ko mga imposible pero i
just learned just keep going. Wag mo ng intindihin yung
(24:29):
pressure or i should be here by this time no?
If you need to detox from socialmedia dahil sobrang pressure sa
buhay nyo please do i? I know i do that once a month.
Hindi na ako nagpapaka plastik noh pero nacompare ko rin talaga
yung sarili ko sa iba nung freelancing days ko na.
Bakit yung mga batchmates ko isaisang community na to na mga ano
(24:50):
na agad six figure na on their first year of being a
freelancer? Bakit ako wala pa rin akong
client alam mo may time na sunodsunod talaga nagpo post nila na
mga clients nila parang ako ano na talaga tao lang din ako eh
kinain din ako ng konting inggittsaka na parang kino compare ko
yung sarili ko nag detox ako talaga hindi ko naman sila in
unfriend pero in unfollow pano yung snows ba yun?
(25:13):
Snows lang kasi naaano ako ako yung may problema ako yung nako
consume ng pressure tsaka. Inggit pero at the same time
ginawa ko na siyang inspiration na kailangan ko mag na gusto ko
talagang magsucceed like them kasi freelancing really open a
lot of doors for me for us na hindi na ito yung end nung
(25:33):
career namin pag nag freelancer ka marami pa talagang
mangyayari. Pero yun nga nag detox talaga
ako sa social media kasi na ano na yung psychological ano ko eh
parang oh my god bakit ganon? So it's okay to unfollow.
Okay lang yun k to gusto. Niyo i block block niyo lang.
Kung hindi na nakakatulong sayo okay lang yon hindi hindi ka bad
person for doing and ito na langsiguro last example si sheryl
(25:56):
childhood dream niya maging radio d j this jackie kasi nung
kapanahunan namin uso pa yung radyo noon.
Oo f lapaz spotify wala pa yung youtube f m.
Radio streaming. And meron mga radio d j yan na
sobrang cool di ba monster r x nineteen point one eighty nine
point nine magic dinate ko lang ang sarili natin so pangarap
(26:19):
niya yun nung bata siya pero para syempre walang pera doon.
Ganyan ganyan so diniscourage sya and then now, ilang years
later, ilang decades later, she's actually fulfilling that
dream right in front of your eyes by being a podcast ter me
or hindi siya d j but it's stillthe same she still using her
voice to reach a lot of people so she still reach her dream at
thirty plus. Thirty kailan ba tayo nun season
(26:42):
one? Two years.
Ago thirty six ako. Thirty six so never to ako na in
malay ko bang magpa podcast pag podcast din naman.
I'm forty three. Di ba?
Wala talagang set in stone na? Itong age ka lang dapat mag
podcast maging content creator maging business owner wala eh
walang age na naka ano nasa commandments wala.
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Noon tsaka ako siguro final notena lang.
Instead of when you find yourself being inggit because
inggit is a natural human tendency.
Actually yung inggit is a sign na ah eto pala yung menu of the
universe. Eto pala yung available na hindi
ko alam dati so may pag naiinggit ka yun na yung unang
sign na ah meron palang ganito na pwede for me.
(27:27):
Ngayon ita transmit po yung inggit na yun to inspiration na
okay. Ito pala yung possible for me
hindi yung oy. Buti pa siya sona all alam mo
hate na hate ko marinig yung sana all kasi eh so ano eh so
defeatist parang wala ka ng pag asa ikaw na yung para sige na
ikaw na ikaw na yung ganyan ako hindi so yung inggit na yun
(27:48):
hayaan mo lang siyang lumabas and then isipin mo ah this is
the universe or this is this is a sign from the universe showing
me na this is possible din for me.
It's showing me that this personwas able to have this, so i can
probably have it too, so it's now becoming an inspiration
instead of inggit, di ba turn your inggit into inspiration
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always? Correct kung feeling nyo late na
kayo siguro ito lang yung time na may kailangan pa kayong
matutunan mm na use this time namay kailangan pa kayong
matutunan sa mga current careersniyo or business.
Pero it doesn't nga may check jeep tino.
Eh kami nga nun naging copywriter walang charge jeepy
grabe as in talagang wala kang ma kokopyahan nun.
(28:29):
Di ba ganun tayo ka shonda? Pero yun nga marami ka pang
kailangang matutunan kaya ka feeling mall late.
Hinahanda ka lang dun sa bigger purpose mo or bigger ano mo
venture. Mo tsaka ano um nakalimutan ko
yung sa vita and i mean yun nga sa dami ng information available
(28:50):
sa dami ng opportunities available with a i and
everything youtube free information, hindi na lack of
information and opportunity ang problema natin katamaran.
It's a lack of implementation. Pero yung sinasabi mo yung late
ka oh my gosh. That's just an.
Exam lysis paralisis. Excuse na lang yan.
So just implement dami mo ng courses na na take ang dami mo
(29:11):
nang natanong kay chat. Jibril is right about time to
implement girl. Tama na yung oo tao information.
Over dyan yeah so ayan sana marami kayong natutunan.
Last episode lalo na first season.
Two mag season three pa ba tayo?Let's see.
Gusto niyo po ba mag season three kami or shut up na kami?
(29:31):
Oh sige at dahil dyan i comment nyo kung gusto niyo pa kami mag
season three sa aming spotify. Comment season three youtube,
spotify, facebook page, talk tokfollow us on all those channels
um message us um, if you want a season three ano na yung theme
kasi ngayon theme namin is filipino entrepreneurs and
healing. So kung gusto niyo season three
(29:52):
puro chismisan lang marites or maanghangan spices.
Sumali din kayo sa free community namin.
Ang cool na and club sa. Facebook kung daan club k d a n.
K b m b k l u could dance club. Ayan thank you so much mga kako
dahil sobrang na enjoy namin angkudaan ngayong season na to.
(30:13):
Bye mga ka kuda. Si shai.
Mas kaway na ni shaq. Huli ngayon.
I wanna cry.
Ay buti pa sya sana all alam mo hate na hate ko marinig yung
sana all kasi it's so defeatist parang wala ka ng pag asa sige
na ikaw na ikaw na yung ganyan ako hindi para dun sa mga
feeling nila lost sila tapos eh kayo you figured it out eh
ganyan ganyan di ba hindi ka lost hindi ka lang gumagalaw.
Ay kasi sabi nila dapat ganitongage nasa school na ako.
(00:21):
You always do things to prove a point kaya kayo nalo lost kasi
lagi niyong ginagawa yung mga bagay hindi para sa sarili niyo
kundi para sa sasabihin ng ibangtao.
Ang dami kasi nating excuses minsan i'm too old for that.
It's too late for me. I can't do that.
Kayo kasi ganyan ako hindi hindikawalan sa babae kung wala kang
anak, hindi porket ayaw mong magkaanak eh kulang na yung
(00:43):
pagkababae mo. Hindi porket ayaw mong mag asawa
eh salot ka sa lipunan pag family reunion sa mga tita na
kailan ka mag aasawa pag nag asawa ka na kelan kayo
magkakaanak pag nagkaanak na kailan nyo susundan?
Nga nila matris yon. Matris niyo ba yon?
May hugot yan. Hello mga ka kuda.
Welcome sa madami akong kudal season two kung saan lahat ng
(01:07):
bawal pag usapan i lalo nating pag uusapan.
I'm sheryl mom entrepreneur and a certified over thinker.
And i'm soria. Sheryl is new co host and ka
coda. I'm a business psychology,
mshado work coach and minsan human emotional support ng mga
pagod na maging girl boss kagayanitong si sheryl.
At pamaya magkaibigan madaming opinyon kahit di tinatanong.
(01:33):
Hello mga ka kuda. Welcome sa episode ten our last
episode of season two last episode agad agad parang kailan
lang nag shoot lang tayo ng trailer ng season two.
Grabe so ang episode natin ngayon ay about sa mga taong
nagwa. Wonder if there is a failure if
they started their careers or businesses na feeling na late na
(01:55):
sila so starting late doesn't mean you failed.
Anong masasabi mo sa title natin?
Totoo yun kasi ako mismo i started late eh.
Pero late doesn't mean failure ka or wala ka ng pag asa or may
mali kang ginawa unang una buwanwhy is it such a big deal to
start late? So by late di ba we have someone
(02:16):
who sent us a question. Ano ba yung question niya?
Freelancer siya parang aspiring free lancer.
Feeling niya late na sya kasi dalawa na daw yung anak niya.
She is thirty. Plus ty so naiinggit sya sa mga
gen z na parang bata pa lang like twenty twenty five
successful. Na nag start ng freelancing.
Yeah pero siya parang ngayon pa lang niya naiisip.
(02:36):
Ngayon pa lang yan nasisimulan. So feeling nya is it still worth
it or failure na ba talaga sya? Yun nga eh saan nanggagaling
yung feeling na failure ka? Porket you started at thirty or
even forty? I think it's because of yung
tinatawag na pressure from society talaga na there are
these timelines na you have to be this by this.
(02:57):
Ano yung mga example lang naisipmong ganun?
Kailangan ganito ka na by ganitong age?
Ano yung mga yun? For example, dapat bago ka mag
thirty five dapat may mga anak ka na.
May asawa ka na. Or else.
Yung egg cells mo ma maluluma ganon.
Ano pa ba? May biological clock na
tinatawag? Dapat by forty may bahay ka.
Na or kaya minsan nga by thirty dapat may bahay ka na may asawa
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ka na settled ka na for them. Yung mga ganung bagay parang it
will make them settled yun yung term nila eh parang dapat
ganitong age settled ka na so may mga tao talaga na nape
pressure. Sino ba nag set kasi nun?
Malay ko dyan sa mga yan. Pero yun nga eh.
It's a good thing if you make itan inspiration.
And if yun talaga gusto mo if you want to have a family by
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this age, make sure na yun yung gusto mo.
Pero kung ikakasal ka lang just for the sake na every reunion
tinatanong ka bat single ka pa ka sa pagka kinasal ka na kelan
kayo magkakaanak? Yung sunod naman o kailan kayo
kailan yung susundan? Parang walang kapaguran.
As if ma trace nila yung nasasagad at oo nga.
Nila alas bag matres niyo ba yon?
(04:05):
May hugot yan. So yun nga di ba?
Parang make sure na gusto mo talaga sya.
And for me yung nagtanong na yonhindi ka late at thirty if
thirty ka pa lang nag start gusto niyo magkwentuhan na lang
tayo eh ilang taon ka na nag start ka ng freelancing career
mo. Twenty fifteen.
Ilang taon twenty? Fifteen twenty fifteen ilang
(04:28):
taon ako nun teka. Hindi anong taon ilang taon?
Twenty eight na ako. Twenty eight so almost thirty
ish, but already had two kids orone.
One pero nag boom talaga siya. Thirty na thirty.
Plus. Thirty one ganon.
Kumbaga yung peak ng career mo nasa thirties mo and you didn't
feel it was too late di ba? Konti for me nung college ako
(04:49):
parang yung peak ng career. Twenty one.
To. Kasi nag corporate world din ako
eh. So feeling ko hindi ko siya
nagawa tas ngayon ngayon pa langako nagpi peak.
Parang ganun ba? Pero yun nga, hindi ko na lang
iniintindi kasi ang importante na achieve ko pa rin yung gusto
kong ma achieve at my own timeline ng hindi ako masyadong
nag nagpa pressure sa mga. Sa past na hindi ko nga nagawa
(05:11):
yung twenty one to twenty three.Yung pick na ako yun masaya
naman ako na okay lang kahit na thirty plus na ako nag.
So walang late late basta wala eh nung nag start ka ng mag peak
tuloy tuloy na siya. Yun hindi na natigil.
O kaya eh so syempre gusto ko rin bigyan ng context.
So si sheryl kasi she's now a successful six figure free
(05:32):
lancer so meron siyang email marketing agency ba?
Hindi hindi agency eh maliit lang na basta head ka head siya
ng isang email marketing agency.She works from home.
She's a mom of two kids and ako din.
I don't feel na it's it's too late for parang it's just right.
No yung yung time na na reach mosiya ngayon.
Ako naman ay had the career thati really loved at forty.
(05:56):
My life literally began at forty.
Prior to that, i had a lot of different careers and
businesses, so when i graduated college, i didn't know what i
wanted to be. Wala pang.
Internet. May internet pero hindi siya
ganun ka ng college was clothingtechnology.
O di ba? Fashion the business of fashion
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but hindi ko talaga sya gusto. Kaya ko lang siya kinuha kasi
may garments business yung mom go and being the only girl.
Parang gusto niyang ipamana sakin yung business but it hindi
ko talaga gusto manahi. Mas gusto ko bumili na lang ng
damit kasi parang na stress akong manahi ganun.
And i tried the fashion industrybut it really wasn't for me.
It was to toxic and stressful. Wala dun yung strength ko tapos
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hindi ko talaga alam kung anong gusto ko.
Literally hindi ko alam parang nangyari after that after ko i
try yung garments industry, i tried also putting up my own
garments business with the classmate nung college.
Nag fail yon tas sabi ng nanay ko may sarili tayong garments
nagtayo ka pa ng sarili mo. Gusto ko kasi yung talagang ako
yung nag. Start.
Hindi yung parang pinamana sa akin.
Yung yung term nga ngayon di ba nepo baby ganun di ko pa alam
(07:01):
yung nepo nepo na yan noon pero parang i just wanted something
of my own nag fail and then okaylang si i learn tapos yun na
yung nag start yung mga b p o sapilipinas two thousand three oh
ganun na ako katanda di ba ako yung isa sa pinaka pioneer sa
mga nag call center? Hindi ko rin na enjoy yun hindi
ko siya na enjoy, sobrang stressful pero dahil hindi ko
alam kung anong gusto kong gawin.
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Thankful ako na nagkaroon ng ganung klaseng trabaho kasi
parang yun yung sumalo sakin nung time na lost ako.
Anong career ba talaga yung parasakin?
Tapos ah i got married i had kids tapos sabi ko i wanted to
stay at home. Take care of my kids so sakto
naman yun na yung boom na mga online jobs sa internet, wala
pang freelancing, di pa freelancing ang tawag online
(07:43):
jobs like v a magsusulat ka for blogs ganon so yun yung ginagawa
ko nun for nine years yun ginagawa ko lang dahil it it
gave you the opportunity to stayat home.
But i didn't feel like it was a career that you know, i wanted
or felt fulfilled. I felt i was growing.
No, it was really just to pay the bills and honestly i did
feel left behind. So yung nagtanong na yun,
(08:04):
sobrang nage get kita. I felt i was left behind by my
classmates nung high school who became doctors then tist or nasa
abroad na traveling. You know, yung iba naman ah
married really rich, successful guys.
Yung iba naman successful on their own careers and i really
felt like a failure. Yung i i really compared myself
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to other people and i was like, okay, i'm working from home
ganyan but, but at least i'm with my kids.
Yun na lang iniisip ko then yun fast forward and then i tried a
lot of different businesses, more on side hustles siya, hindi
talaga siya passion business ganun.
Then nung twenty twenty nung pandemic when everyone else were
losing their jobs, losing their businesses.
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That was when i found mine. Parang ironically nung pandemic
nung nawawala na lahat. Dun ko nahanap yung sa akin and
i was turning forty that time. I was almost forty accidentally
naging coach ako kasi nag shift ako to freelancing dahil nawala
yung business ko and then wala akong ine expect like wala akong
ine explore akong goals. Wala akong where do you see
(09:10):
yourself five years from? Honestly, well, i just wanna pay
the bills. Oo yun lang talaga ang mindset
ko nun kasi parang tanggap ko naito na buhay ko eh like nanay
ako ganun augment ko lang incomenung nung tatay nung mga anak ko
ganun tas wala na talaga akong nakikita for me like i thought
it was dead and for me. Cause i was almost forty years
old that time so fast forward nga parang nakakahanap ako ng
(09:32):
clients kahit bago ako so maraming nagtatanong sakin sa
freelancing community. Pano mo ginawa yun?
I shared a short webinar. May mga nagkaroon ng result with
what i shared. Maraming nagtanong sa akin pano
nagpa one on one coaching na so accidentally naging coach ako
tas sabi nung mentor ko nun mag create ka na ng course so nag
create ako ng course kahit di ako marunong ayoko nag show up
(09:54):
sa social media but i had to kasi imagine pandemic.
A lot of people were losing their jobs, their income hindi
mapakain yung pamilya and sabi ko i'm at the position that i
can help these people find clients.
Yung mga hirap na hirap makahanap ng client, ang dami
kong natulungan from zero to nowsix figures talaga just because
na overcome nila yung ano nila yung block nila in finding
(10:17):
clients. So yun na nagkaroon ako ng
course tapos talagang inaano ko lang ang pinromote ko lang tas
nagulat ako daming nag enroll nakailang batch na so hindi ko
alam pano maging coach, hindi koalam may ganung career, hindi ko
alam pano pagkakitaan yun. Ang alam ko lang meron akong
problema na kaya ko i solve. Hindi ko siya pinangarap, hindi
ko siya pinlano and it just happened.
(10:37):
Parang siguro sa iba na naniniwala sa diyos di ba para
adj ado ng diyos ganun? So for me it was the right time.
It wasn't too late but maybe that pandemic was the right time
for me kasi andun na yung boom ng freelancing andun yung
combination ng freelancing internet and then yung yun nga
yung getting your own clients and yun na nga yung parang you
(10:59):
can actually do freelancing as. A big career hindi na sya
sideline or side hustle like it can be a six figure income
career. So dun lang pala kasi
magsisimula yung career ko dahildun pa lang yung combination na
yun mangyayari kumbaga. I was at the right place at the
right time. I was never late pala at forty
(11:19):
years old. Literally my life started forty.
That was the career that i enjoyed most until now i'm still
doing it and masasabi ko it wasn't planned, i wasn't
expecting it. I didnt know how to earn from it
but i did so. Yun nga yung sa last episode di
ba i i shared my journey as a single mother.
Yun yung sumuporta sakin for five years that has been the
currier that has been supportingme, giving me a comfortable
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life, allowing myself to providefor my kids and you know, to buy
myself if you luxuries i never experienced before to live in a
place that i like. Yung mga ganon.
I never expected all of that. Would you say na i'm late at
forty? I'm now forty three.
By the way di lang halata. Charot of course cars hindi i
mean at forty three i could say na i feel better healthier.
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Happier, more fulfilled than i ever was at twenty or thirties.
Yun nga eh ang hindi ko maintindihan sa society natin
ang hilig nilang mag label ng mga bagay bagay.
And a deadline. Oo may deadline for me yung
twenty twenties mo hindi mo pa talaga kilala yung sarili mo nun
eh. So how can you really figure out
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anong type of career or anong type of business or any path ang
pwede sayo? Kung hindi mo pa talaga kilala
yung sarili mo para kasi when you reach thirty or forty is mas
marami ka ng wisdom. Marami ka ng experience mas
marami ka ng alam sa sa buhay. Hindi ka na yung parang still
figuring out things. Well unless talagang nag slack
(12:49):
off ka nung mga panahon na yan talagang kahit mag forty ka na
wala ka pa rin talagang nafi figure out.
Pero yung he with what you shared na figure out mo na rin
eh kung ano yung talagang path mo kahit by accident siya, nare
realize mo rin na gusto mo na rin siya talaga.
And then yung pag try ng pag tryna yun.
Not really obsessing or focusingon.
Ano ba yung career na gusto ko or dapat ganito na ako by ganito
(13:13):
at that time ang iniisip ko langpano ko matutulungan tong mga
taong to and then nagbunga pa siya nag nag branch out siya
into an a totally different direction nung yung mga kino
coach ko nagse six figures na from zero iba na naman problema
nila ibang level naman self sabotage naman self doubt or
andaming blocks internally ang daming issues baggage ganun na
(13:33):
hindi sila makausad sa next level.
So since naranasan ko rin yun nung time na magulo din yung
yung buhay ko and my life was falling apart and then naayos ko
siya. Yun naman yung tinuro ko sa
kanila. Naging another offer na naman
yun dahil ang dami na namang gusto.
Isa ka na dun. Di ba ka na don?
So parang nangyari ngayon nagingano naman ako inner work coach
or shadow work coach ganyan na hindi ko rin ine expect and nae
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enjoy ko rin siya and it's also giving me the kind of income and
time freedom that i always wanted na sabi ko siguro yung
twenty plus years na yon na i wasn't sure of what i wanted to
be ngayon yung five years na ineenjoy ko, parang balewala na
yung twenty years na na lost akoeh.
Feeling mo na nasayang. Hindi sya nasayang it all lead
(14:19):
me here and now i'm enjoying it.I i don't feel like its too
late. I mean pati sa health ngayon
lang ako naka naging ganito ka healthy dati lagi akong sakitin
so wala talagang too late wala nasa mind lang natin yung yung
time or nasayang or too late basta try ka lang ng try it's
never too late. Correct alam mo naalala ko yung
(14:39):
sinabi mo na ng pandemic mo na discover yung path mo.
Actually ako rin eh something similar nung pandemic.
Ang dami ko ring na discover na kaya kong gawin.
If naalala ko talaga noon nung sa social media laging yung mga
tao nagrereklamo na ano ba namanto.
Hirap. Ng buhay ganyan.
Hirap makahanap. Ng ang hirap maghanap ng work
baliktad yung nangyari sakin na dun nagsabay sabay yung clients.
(15:04):
Dun ako mas nakaipon kung kailanpandemic at nawawalan ng pag asa
ang ibang tao. Ako ewan ko naalala mo yung
nagkaroon ng free course about digital marketing tapos parang
ginrab. Ko yon ni ryan disebut.
Oo yun kay ryan. Guys.
Shout na ano ako dahil nga ang mga pilipino obsess sa mga
certificate. Yan.
(15:25):
Inano ko fulfill ko yung ganun na ung kuha kaya akong
certificate ng ganitong course ganyan grabe nakalimang course
yata ako nun pero ang differenceko lang sa iba is talagang
inapply ko yung natutunan ko dunsa course na yun.
Grabe as in talaga kahit lahat na sa social media ang daling ma
distract na ang daming nagrereklamo.
Pwede rin akong maging ganun eh pero it's really a matter of
(15:47):
choice na ayoko ayokong ma stucksa ganung mindset na.
Oy ano ngayon kung pandemic eh di mag shift tayo ng ano ng ng
job mag pivot tayo ng ibang waysto earn kasi marami tayong
pwedeng gawin di ba? So yun sa mga nakikinig na
pwedeng sabihin na eh kasi kayo yan kami ganito lang ganun.
(16:08):
Ano masasabi mo dun? Para dun sa mga feeling nila
lost sila tapos eh kayo. You figured it out eh ganyan
ganyan di ba? Actually wala talagang lost
kumbaga susunod ka lang sa agos kung ano yung nandiyan sa
harapan mo kung ano yung all angnakikita mo.
Ano yung mga problema na pwede ko i solve?
Sunod ka lang sa agos. Wag mong isiping lost ka kung
(16:28):
nasaan ka yun yung dapat nandyanka you're at the right place at
the right time always if you feel your lost your not lost.
Like i said i thought i was lostfor twenty years but in
hindsight looking back it all prepared me for where i am right
now. All the experiences, all the
feeling confused and lost. I had to go through all the
pain, all of the heartbreaks andchallenges i had to go through
(16:52):
all of that kasi i wouldn't be able to help people the way i am
helping them right now if i did not so.
Wala talagang lost. Kaya lang naman kayo feeling
lost kasi kino compare nyo nga yung buhay niyo sa iba sa iba
kayong nakatingin sa ibuhay ng ibang tao kayo nakatingin na
feeling nyo for example yung barkada mo nung high school my
god buti pa siya nakapangasawa ng mayaman.
(17:12):
Oo siya successful na yung negosyo niya kaya ka feeling
lost kasi gusto mo ganun din yung buhay.
Mo comparing your chapter one tosomeone else is chapter ten di.
Ba oo eh lahat naman tayo we move at a different pace and yun
nga may lahat tayo may kanya kanyang timing so.
For me i can say na hindi ako naniniwala na may lost.
(17:32):
Na i think hindi ka lost hindi ka lang gumagalaw ay let's say
we're riding a boat or a ship and then a shipwreck siya na
bumagyo nasira yung boat like what happened to my life nasira
lahat right nawala lahat and you're stuck in the middle of
the sea. You, you will only be lost if
you just stay there. Talagang lost ka na.
But if you start swimming and yung goal mo lang kung ano yung
(17:56):
unang makita kong land will go there.
I don't have it figured out yet,but if i keep swimming, i know
makakahanap ako ng land. Ganun lang kasi kaya rin feeling
ng mga tao lost, they feel that they need to figure it out from
step one to step ten eh what if kailangan mo lang ma figure out
yung next step like what happened to me?
Hindi ko pinlano lahat to pero ijust kept moving, keep moving,
(18:18):
kept solving problems, other people's problems, you know.
And then hindi na ako nag obsessover my age di ba?
I just keep moving. You will only feel lost if you
stop swimming or if you just stay there in the middle of the
ocean just swim to wherever the nearest land is meaning you take
action. Kung kung gusto mo kumuha ng
course about email marketing, copywriting go pag hindi mo
(18:38):
nagustuhan change course anotherswimming to another land ganun
lang mahahanap at mahahanap nyo rin yan pero hindi niya mahanap
kung stock kayo palagi wala kayong ginagawa or nagda doubt
kayo sa sarili niyo si yung clarity it only happens kapag
andun ka na. Yeah.
Tas course correct ka na lang. Correct kaya rin kayo nasa stock
kasi you do things based on pressure din and you do things
(19:03):
based on what will people think about you.
Kasi sabi nila dapat gantong age.
Ano na ako? Ganyan na ako successful na ako.
You always do things to prove a point na parang kaya kayo nalo
lost kasi lagi niyong ginagawa yung mga bagay hindi para sa
sarili niyo kundi para sa sasabihin ng ibang tao.
Sa pressure. Pressure sa timeline.
(19:25):
Ng iba sa definition of success of other people.
And did you know parang if you know the designer vera wang si
vera wang, she started designingat forty dun lang siya sumikat
eh pinakasikat k f c colonel sanders di ba?
He. Ilang taon siya?
Sixty two i think when ah k f c.Exploded na matanda na.
(19:45):
Tanda na and he did that knocking on hundreds of doors
offering his recipe for chicken.He didn't stop hundreds of
doors, so sixty two imagine. Now he's a billionaire, his his
name is known in every household, all over the world.
I think it's never too late talaga.
Basta you just keep trying. You just keep swimming.
Sabi nga sa finding me mo di ba?Just keep swimming and let's say
(20:07):
sa health i see a lot of like sixty year olds na biglang ang
fit ng katawan kasi they startedworking out hindi sila ang dami
kasi natin excuses minsan eh. I'm too old for that.
Ano po ba yung mga excuses na binibigay ng mga tao?
Its too late for me ano? Usually too old yung edad.
Lagi i can't do that. Kayo kasi ganyan ako hindi.
(20:28):
Sino ba may sabing hindi ganun pwede maging ganun di ba?
Wala namang ganung rule na you can only do your business.
Pag thirty ka na eh pano kung forty mo na discover yung sarili
mo tsaka yung talagang path mo hindi mo talaga masasabi until
you figure out your own timelineyour own life.
Tsaka ano siguro wag kayong magpa pressure pag family
reunion sa mga tita na kailan kamag aasawa pag nag asawa ka na?
(20:50):
Kelan kayo magkakaanak pag nagkaanak na?
Kelan niyo susundan? Di nga nila matris yun.
Huwag kayong magpa pressure. Di nila ma trace yun sila pa mag
dutertes tsaka pag pini pressurekayong magka anak sila ang mag
aalaga. Oo kayo naman diba?
So you have to figure out your own thing your own timeline.
Kung kailan ka ready magkaanak. Hindi kawalan sa babae kung wala
(21:12):
kang anak oo totoo ako kasi talagang pangarap ko bata pa
lang ako magka anak pero may mgababae ayaw magkaanak na judge
sila. Hindi porket ayaw mong magka
anak eh kulang na yung pagkababae mo.
Hindi porket ayaw mo mag asawa eh salot ka sa lipunan.
Somethings wrong with. You may kanya kanyang timeline
yan. Ang masaklap pag pinilit mo
hindi ka ready. Nagdamay ka pa ng bata.
(21:33):
Tas hindi ka ready di ba? So yun so wag na wag nyong
ipipilit yung oras na hindi pa kayo ready and wag niyo rin kayo
magpa pressure na gawin lang yundahil sa may timeline na
binibigay sa inyo yung yung mga tao na na deadline di.
Ba oo tsaka hindi naman siya. Wala naman siya sa batas di ba
na dapat ano ang dapat ganitong edad?
Achieve mo na to ganitong edad perfect na yung buhay mo.
(21:56):
May dalawang anak ka na housewife wala naman eh.
You really have to figure out your own thing.
Look at the people you're surrounded with.
Look at if they are adding valueto your life or are they just
adding pressure to your life? So make an inventory of the
people you're surrounded with friends relate, audit the kinds
of friends you're surrounded with kasi baka sa kanila
(22:18):
nanggagaling yung pressure. It's okay to you know, parang
medyo distance from them and then surround yourself with
people that you like to be yung people na will influence you for
better or people who make you feel good.
Kahit yun lang kahit di masyadong ma successful but very
positive people ganon accepting sayo supportive sayo marami yan
(22:38):
ah ako, that's what i did. I have the community di ba tayo?
We were in the same community ofsuper supportive freelancers and
that really boosted my confidence nun nung time na
feeling wala akong karapatang mag coach.
Walang pero you know yung community na isu support ka
talaga. Sobrang helpful siya na feeling
mo hindi ka lost kasi you're alldoing it at the same time
(23:01):
nakikita mo. Yun din yung mga mistakes nila,
yun din yung pinagdaanan, yung mga hugot ay hindi pala tayo
lost, yun lang pala talaga yung part ng journey.
For me ha hindi importante kung gaano ka kaaga nag start ang
importante. Well living your life are you
authentic or can you sustain what you started?
Yun yung importante eh hindi importante na oh ano twenty one
(23:23):
successful na ako pero kaya mo ba siyang i maintain hanggang
fifty ka? Yes kunyari if you for exam for
someone na mga young business owners, sometimes i noticed that
they they act like they ah we figure it out oh ano kami
magaling kami ganyan. The only question in my mind.
Is kaya nyo ba yang i sustain hanggang mga forty na kayo?
(23:45):
Kaya niyo ba mag commit sa ganung business?
And even if they don't, don't think of yourself as a failure.
Kung yung the business that you started the twenties didn't work
out kasi ang dami mong pang pagdadaanan.
Madami pa talaga. And pwedeng lahat ng pinundar mo
ngayon nawala hindi ka pa rin failure nun.
Start again hindi mawawala sayo skills mo.
You're never starting from scratch your just starting from
(24:07):
experience palagi correct whenever you lose whenever you
make mistakes. Whenever ako, i've experienced a
lot of losses in my life theme. Di ba like being broke?
Tapos, you know, being broke andthen after two months mag ano ka
uli mag six figure, seven figures.
Naranasan ko lahat yan. Akala ko mga imposible pero i
just learned just keep going. Wag mo ng intindihin yung
(24:29):
pressure or i should be here by this time no?
If you need to detox from socialmedia dahil sobrang pressure sa
buhay nyo please do i? I know i do that once a month.
Hindi na ako nagpapaka plastik noh pero nacompare ko rin talaga
yung sarili ko sa iba nung freelancing days ko na.
Bakit yung mga batchmates ko isaisang community na to na mga ano
(24:50):
na agad six figure na on their first year of being a
freelancer? Bakit ako wala pa rin akong
client alam mo may time na sunodsunod talaga nagpo post nila na
mga clients nila parang ako ano na talaga tao lang din ako eh
kinain din ako ng konting inggittsaka na parang kino compare ko
yung sarili ko nag detox ako talaga hindi ko naman sila in
unfriend pero in unfollow pano yung snows ba yun?
(25:13):
Snows lang kasi naaano ako ako yung may problema ako yung nako
consume ng pressure tsaka. Inggit pero at the same time
ginawa ko na siyang inspiration na kailangan ko mag na gusto ko
talagang magsucceed like them kasi freelancing really open a
lot of doors for me for us na hindi na ito yung end nung
(25:33):
career namin pag nag freelancer ka marami pa talagang
mangyayari. Pero yun nga nag detox talaga
ako sa social media kasi na ano na yung psychological ano ko eh
parang oh my god bakit ganon? So it's okay to unfollow.
Okay lang yun k to gusto. Niyo i block block niyo lang.
Kung hindi na nakakatulong sayo okay lang yon hindi hindi ka bad
person for doing and ito na langsiguro last example si sheryl
(25:56):
childhood dream niya maging radio d j this jackie kasi nung
kapanahunan namin uso pa yung radyo noon.
Oo f lapaz spotify wala pa yung youtube f m.
Radio streaming. And meron mga radio d j yan na
sobrang cool di ba monster r x nineteen point one eighty nine
point nine magic dinate ko lang ang sarili natin so pangarap
(26:19):
niya yun nung bata siya pero para syempre walang pera doon.
Ganyan ganyan so diniscourage sya and then now, ilang years
later, ilang decades later, she's actually fulfilling that
dream right in front of your eyes by being a podcast ter me
or hindi siya d j but it's stillthe same she still using her
voice to reach a lot of people so she still reach her dream at
thirty plus. Thirty kailan ba tayo nun season
(26:42):
one? Two years.
Ago thirty six ako. Thirty six so never to ako na in
malay ko bang magpa podcast pag podcast din naman.
I'm forty three. Di ba?
Wala talagang set in stone na? Itong age ka lang dapat mag
podcast maging content creator maging business owner wala eh
walang age na naka ano nasa commandments wala.
(27:04):
Noon tsaka ako siguro final notena lang.
Instead of when you find yourself being inggit because
inggit is a natural human tendency.
Actually yung inggit is a sign na ah eto pala yung menu of the
universe. Eto pala yung available na hindi
ko alam dati so may pag naiinggit ka yun na yung unang
sign na ah meron palang ganito na pwede for me.
(27:27):
Ngayon ita transmit po yung inggit na yun to inspiration na
okay. Ito pala yung possible for me
hindi yung oy. Buti pa siya sona all alam mo
hate na hate ko marinig yung sana all kasi eh so ano eh so
defeatist parang wala ka ng pag asa ikaw na yung para sige na
ikaw na ikaw na yung ganyan ako hindi so yung inggit na yun
(27:48):
hayaan mo lang siyang lumabas and then isipin mo ah this is
the universe or this is this is a sign from the universe showing
me na this is possible din for me.
It's showing me that this personwas able to have this, so i can
probably have it too, so it's now becoming an inspiration
instead of inggit, di ba turn your inggit into inspiration
(28:09):
always? Correct kung feeling nyo late na
kayo siguro ito lang yung time na may kailangan pa kayong
matutunan mm na use this time namay kailangan pa kayong
matutunan sa mga current careersniyo or business.
Pero it doesn't nga may check jeep tino.
Eh kami nga nun naging copywriter walang charge jeepy
grabe as in talagang wala kang ma kokopyahan nun.
(28:29):
Di ba ganun tayo ka shonda? Pero yun nga marami ka pang
kailangang matutunan kaya ka feeling mall late.
Hinahanda ka lang dun sa bigger purpose mo or bigger ano mo
venture. Mo tsaka ano um nakalimutan ko
yung sa vita and i mean yun nga sa dami ng information available
(28:50):
sa dami ng opportunities available with a i and
everything youtube free information, hindi na lack of
information and opportunity ang problema natin katamaran.
It's a lack of implementation. Pero yung sinasabi mo yung late
ka oh my gosh. That's just an.
Exam lysis paralisis. Excuse na lang yan.
So just implement dami mo ng courses na na take ang dami mo
(29:11):
nang natanong kay chat. Jibril is right about time to
implement girl. Tama na yung oo tao information.
Over dyan yeah so ayan sana marami kayong natutunan.
Last episode lalo na first season.
Two mag season three pa ba tayo?Let's see.
Gusto niyo po ba mag season three kami or shut up na kami?
(29:31):
Oh sige at dahil dyan i comment nyo kung gusto niyo pa kami mag
season three sa aming spotify. Comment season three youtube,
spotify, facebook page, talk tokfollow us on all those channels
um message us um, if you want a season three ano na yung theme
kasi ngayon theme namin is filipino entrepreneurs and
healing. So kung gusto niyo season three
(29:52):
puro chismisan lang marites or maanghangan spices.
Sumali din kayo sa free community namin.
Ang cool na and club sa. Facebook kung daan club k d a n.
K b m b k l u could dance club. Ayan thank you so much mga kako
dahil sobrang na enjoy namin angkudaan ngayong season na to.
(30:13):
Bye mga ka kuda. Si shai.
Mas kaway na ni shaq. Huli ngayon.
I wanna cry.
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