In today's episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron interviews Sathiya and Shaloma Sam, founders of Deep Clean Coaching. After five years of marriage and welcoming their 15-month-old son, they share their journey of building a ministry that helps men overcome pornography addiction while maintaining a strong marriage foundation. Sathiya transparently discusses his personal struggle with pornography and how it shaped his passion to help others find freedom, while Shaloma offers valuable perspective on supporting a spouse through recovery.
In this transparent conversation, we explore:
- How to build a ministry without sacrificing your marriage, including the importance of non-negotiable date nights
- Why confessing temptations is often more powerful than confessing mistakes in breaking addiction cycles
- The healing power of bringing struggles into the light through open and honest communication
- How shame keeps us trapped in cycles of addiction and secrecy
- Practical ways spouses can create a safe environment for confession and vulnerability
- The role of empathy and compassion in supporting a partner through recovery
- Why pornography addiction is fundamentally an intimacy disorder
- How focusing on the light rather than obsessing over darkness leads to freedom
- The dangers of the "trickle truth" approach and why complete honesty is necessary
- Why healthy marriages and families are the backbone of a thriving society
Whether you're struggling with pornography, supporting a spouse through recovery, or seeking to build a ministry while protecting your marriage, this conversation offers biblical wisdom, practical strategies, and hope for lasting freedom.
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- Podcast: Man Within https://www.sathiyasam.com/podcast
- Instagram: @sathiyasam - https://www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam/
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