Make Him Wonder
Dating and Relationship Coach Paula Grooms, LMSW invites real women to talk about their romantic lives. In these intimate, one-on-one conversations, Paula helps each guest get-real, get focused, and get moving on what works with men for connected and committed love.
Episodes
After only a few months of dating, 44-yr-old Fred started spending every night with 52-yr-old Sariah, and expressed interest in living together. Despite telling Fred that she required engagement to do so, on their one-yr anniversary, Fred told Sariah that he wasn’t ready for marriage and didn’t want to be engaged. On this episode, Paula helps Sariah make sense of what Sariah deemed as Fred’s retraction, understand...
Upon separating from her husband, 41-yr-old Darlene moved back to her hometown and reconnected with her old beau, 40-yr-old Paul. The two quickly began hooking-up and their friendship is strong. Paul tells Darlene he loves her, so she can’t understand why the relationship can’t be more. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Darlene seeks Paula’s answer on how to get this FWB relationship to feature all she desires.
While on a weekend trip to her old college town, 41-yr-old Elaine met 39-yr-old Leo through a mutual friend. Feeling like she made missteps landing her in the just-for-fun category, Elaine is anxious about the possibility of Leo ever seeing her as wife/mother material. On this episode, Paula explains how trying to control the category in her initial interactions rendered Elaine confusing to Leo rather than m...
Single mom, 37-yr-old Piper, met 36-yr-old Tony online. Having just quit his job, and recently divorced, Piper questions if Tony is ready, willing, and able to go the distance, especially as a stepfather. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Piper get clarity on whether to clear the way for Tony to come forward or if it’s best to retreat.
44-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, reached out to 45-yr-old divorced dad, Rob, on Bumble. Rob eventually asked Leisel to meet and the two have been dating for about 3 months. But Rob only agrees to see Leisel every two weeks and doesn’t stay in much contact between times. When asked about where they stand, Rob says that he doesn't like labels and wants to "take things slow." Most concerning to Leisel is...
56-yr-old Maddy and 44-yr-old Andrew have had 4 breakups in 3.5 years of their relationship. Successful, happy with her life, and accommodating, Maddy is confused as to why Andrew is so confused about her. Despite saying he loves her Andrew will go for a certain amount of time before telling Maddy he “can’t.” On this episode, Paula explains why Andrew feels as he does, and what Maddy can do for the best chance of ...
44-yr-old Emily is seeking a hypergamous relationship from online dating. As a Rules Girl, Emily states that she expects a man to see her as his “dream girl” and start wining and dining her without texting between dates. Confused as to why telling her prospective wealthy men what it is that she expects of them isn’t leading her to the relationship she desires, Emily comes on this episode to get Paula’s coaching advice.
35-yr-old Shana set out wanting 47-yr-old Paul to see her as more than just for fun. But a casual boat trip and a late-night invite steered things off-course, and Paul drifted off. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, hear what Shana can text to allow Paul to see her as potential wife/mother material so that this prospective relationship doesn’t get dry-docked before it has a chance to launch.
Despite 43-yr-old Terri knowing that casual relationships don’t work for her, she finds herself going on hook-up sites and predominately dating much younger men. They eventually leave, then Terri becomes obsessed, wondering why they didn’t like her enough. On this episode, Terri discovers the source of the dissonance between what she intellectually knows is her value and the feelings of unworthiness that drive her...
28-yr-old Loni wasn’t particularly interested in 28-yr-old James when they first met. But upon showing her the kind of care and attention Loni hadn’t ever before received from a man, James won her heart. The couple now have a newborn together, but all is not blissful. Loni admits that she allowed her insecurities and jealousy to take over, and James moved out. Now in regret, Loni comes on Make Him Wonder to hear w...
54-yr-old Kit found committed love for the first time in her late 40s. It was tragically taken away in only 4 years when her husband died unexpectedly. A few years later, a former HS classmate came back into her life and gave Kit hope of having love once again. But due to his football coaching career, 53-yr-old Shaun doesn’t have the best track record of giving time to a relationship. On this episode o...
31-yr-old voice actor and media host, Raven Brinson has moved many times for her career, and has recently relocated to Los Angeles. Doing all that she can socially to meet new people, Raven is perplexed as to why dating seems so much harder now, than in the past. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Raven choose her core-four must-haves, unpack her resistance to online dating, and discuss mindset ...
Three months into dating 39-yr-old Coco, 36-yr-old Steven’s mother was diagnosed with Cancer, his grandpa went on hospice, and he got laid off. Despite being in therapy and the fact that the adverse life circumstances were not permanent they were too much for Steven, and he broke things off. Being told “it’s not you, it’s me,” Coco decided she should nurture Steven through the tough times by being there for h...
52-yr-old Jack has been single for the past 25 years and only dated much younger women. 46-yr-old Charleigh is worried that this makes Jack see her as more of an “age-appropriate companion” rather than a girlfriend. Adding to Charleigh’s anxiety is the fact that she was cheated on by her ex-husband when he was away on business, and Jack is a bit of a big-spending partier when he’s out-of-town. Charleigh want...
While only together for 2 years, 32-yr-old Ruby and 32-yr-old Paul are on their 4th breakup. Ruby says Paul is heavily influenced by his friends and family, doesn’t make her a priority, and isn’t mature enough for marriage. On this episode, Paula helps Ruby reframe Paul’s behavior, reset her focus to solve the real issues, and see a future where the two can restart a new and committed relationship that will remain...
Having been the lead on two reality dating shows, with appearances on Dr. Phil and several talk shows to discuss her single status, Sonali Chandra is likely the most famous 36-yr-old virgin. But why, with her beauty, poise, talent, and intelligence, is she finding it so hard to date and find her Mr. Right? On this episode, Sonali bares her heartbreak over 65-yr-old Mr. LAP who she claims is the "love of her life," ...
39-yr-old Isla says she suffers from anxious attachment and keeps “pushing men away.” Having dated 35-yr-old Ivan for only a few months, Isla began experiencing what she feared most. Feeling like Ivan wasn’t spending enough time with her, Isla spurred one too many arguments. Will this time of being ghosted help Isla face her demons and slay the dragon of anxiety that drags her down? On this episode of Make Him Won...
After only a few months of dating, 44-yr-old Fred started spending every night at the home of 51-yr-old Sariah. But despite knowing that she should be the one to set better boundaries, Sariah can’t seem to say no. On this episode, Paula helps Sariah make sense of her anxiety around disappointing Fred and understand what she must do to inspire him to take the steps necessary for a lifetime of love and commitment.
36-yr-old Elle pursued 36-yr-old Sam until the two started hooking-up on New Year’s Eve. But because Elle wanted more, misunderstandings and mixed-messaging caused an on-again-off again situationship that was no cause for celebration. Following a particularly volatile episode where Sam was headed to the police to file a restraining order, Elle woke up to the necessity of restraining herself and reevaluating her wa...
When 54-yr-old Suzanne worked on her self-concept and combined it with what worked for 66-yr-old Sam to see her as his one, she began to see her dream relationship materialize. Now heading towards engagement, Suzanne can’t help but feel uneasy about the frequency of Sam connecting with his ex-girlfriends, and ex-wife. On this episode, Paula helps Suzanne stay current, stem the occasional rising tide of anxiety, and stay...
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