Make Him Wonder

36-yr-old mother of three, Kaitlyn made the first move when she introduced herself to her gym’s new yoga instructor, 26-yr-old, David. David moved to Kaitlyn’s country from another country, only 8 months ago. Given the age difference and the fact that the two share a gym, Kaitlyn comes on Make Him Wonder wanting my coaching on the potential for this relationship to go the distance and how to set it up correctly by not s...

Love is for anyone who chooses to have it.  But unless you're one of the very lucky few, it doesn't "just happen," or come to us when "we least expect it."  If you're past the age of 30, you've likely endured many heartbreaks and romantic dry spells. If you're enduring one now, you can feel defeated, if not downright depressed.  But what if you're not in the mindset to manifest, or you can't override what...

Nine months ago, 26-yr-old Amara told me she was “too clingy, needy, and emotional” in her relationship.  After our discussion, Amara took action. She is now at a much better place with her boyfriend, Tony, but continues to question if she is “asking for too much.” Tony says he feels Amara “doesn’t appreciate him,” so he is unwilling to move forward with getting engaged.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, I ...

33-yr-old Esme and 37-yr-old Ivan have been dating for 6 weeks. Despite all indicators that Ivan wants to move forward in a relationship, Esme is concerned that once the two have sex, the positive momentum could abruptly stop. Wondering what will give her the best chance of Ivan wanting her for his forever “one,” and not distancing, Esme comes on Make Him Wonder to find out when it’s okay to spend the night and have sex...

It was love at first sight for 30-yr-old Lucia when she saw 23-yr-old Brian performing on a street in her city. Artistic and sweet, Lucia viewed Brian as different from other men, both younger and older, and let herself fall hard.  Now, only 3 weeks later, Lucia is feeling intense anxiety over Brian not showing up for her in the ways she expected.  On this episode, Paula helps Lucia explore her struggle with a...

35-yr-old Christine, reached out to her ex, 35-yr-old Maurice, who lives in another state. He responded positively and has been consistent, but Christine continues to sabotage her chances by openly questioning Maurice on his level of interest. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula outlines what changes Christine needs to make regarding her self-love, so that she can see Maurice’s attention in a positive light and ma...

36-yr-old single mom, Madison, slept with 31-yr-old Mike on the first date. But despite Mike’s continued pursuit and behavior that suggests he’s thinking of Madison as a possible girlfriend, Madison can’t quell her anxiety and negative thoughts. Despite trying hard to text and behave in ways that show her self-worth, Madison made a big misstep on social media that caused Mike to ghost her. In this episode, Paula gives M...

36-yr-old Pippa had a great, connected relationship with 31-yr-old Dan.  With so much in common, things starting-off right, and Dan wanting to spend most of his free time with Pippa, she was blindsided when he went awol.  Finding out that he had started seeing someone else, Pippa went-off on Dan, and now she’s blocked.  Wanting to get back on track, Pippa comes on Make Him Wonder to get Paula’s coaching t...

After three years of having an affair with 46-yr-old married man, Jim, 43-yr-old Morgan’s dream of Jim being separated finally came to pass.  But instead of Jim being freer to be with Morgan, he has retreated.   On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula discovers that there is much more to the story of Morgan and Jim than what she was initially told.  More than a “simple” love triangle, the effects o...

About 3 years following the loss of her husband, 55-yr-old Kitt reconnected with 53-yr-old Shaun, who she had known in HS.  But Shaun was not ready or willing to commit to a serious relationship and went silent, leaving Kitt wondering what had happened.  Since then, Kitt met 56-yr-old Mike, and all seemed to be going well.  But on the heels of the death of her husband, the recent death of her mother, and ...

42-yr-old Kate is a single mom of three children under the age of 16. Kate is not looking to get married or live with a man until her children are off to college. However, she does want a long-term committed relationship.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, I give Kate my opinion on involving her children in her dating, spending the night with a man when children are home, and how long is too long to date without ...

38-yr-old divorced mom, Autumn, realizes that her neediness caused 40-yr-old Danny to call it quits, despite loving her and her children. Stating that she is “finally ready to do the work needed to get Danny back,” Autumn wonders if it’s too late, and if she has ruined her chances for good. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula outlines her Lure-Him-Back approach and how it will work for Autumn, should she commit to...

29-yr-old Lauren has been dating 31-yr-old Luke for only 6 months, and Luke is planning on moving in with Lauren very soon.  Lauren says she is so happy that she worked on herself and is now with someone she feels is worth committing to, yet she worries that she might be taking things "too fast."  As she wants to ensure this great relationship keeps moving forward towards engagement, Lauren comes back on Make ...

32-yr-old Kaira felt lucky to have 29-yr-old Giovanni living with her, but soon became disenchanted. At the time, Giovanni was using Tinder and pics of his past women as his porn and not paying his full share of the rent.  But instead of focusing on what Giovanni was doing, Kaira got busy working on what she could control.  She got a new job and focused on her self-concept. Giovanni has since made a ...

39-yr-old divorced mom of three, Bev, has found it challenging to date.  Her ex-husband is highly achieved and very successful financially. Now dating 47-yr-old Juan, Bev is concerned that Juan's lack of complete commitment is due to him being challenged by her ex's lifestyle and feeling like he doesn't measure up. Bev asks herself if she made a mistake and wonders if she should just go back with her ex. On th...