Make Him Wonder

44-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, reached out to 45-yr-old divorced dad, Rob, on Bumble.  Rob eventually asked Leisel to meet and the two have been dating for about 3 months. But Rob only agrees to see Leisel every two weeks and doesn’t stay in much contact between times. When asked about where they stand, Rob says that he doesn't like labels and wants to "take things slow."  Most concerning to Leisel is...

56-yr-old Maddy and 44-yr-old Andrew have had 4 breakups in 3.5 years of their relationship. Successful, happy with her life, and accommodating, Maddy is confused as to why Andrew is so confused about her.  Despite saying he loves her Andrew will go for a certain amount of time before telling Maddy he “can’t.” On this episode, Paula explains why Andrew feels as he does, and what Maddy can do for the best chance of ...

Despite 43-yr-old Terri knowing that casual relationships don’t work for her, she finds herself going on hook-up sites and predominately dating much younger men.  They eventually leave, then Terri becomes obsessed, wondering why they didn’t like her enough. On this episode, Terri discovers the source of the dissonance between what she intellectually knows is her value and the feelings of unworthiness that drive her...

28-yr-old Loni wasn’t particularly interested in 28-yr-old James when they first met. But upon showing her the kind of care and attention Loni hadn’t ever before received from a man, James won her heart. The couple now have a newborn together, but all is not blissful.  Loni admits that she allowed her insecurities and jealousy to take over, and James moved out. Now in regret, Loni comes on Make Him Wonder to hear w...

54-yr-old Kit found committed love for the first time in her late 40s. It was tragically taken away in only 4 years when her husband died unexpectedly.  A few years later, a former HS classmate came back into her life and gave Kit hope of having love once again.  But due to his football coaching career, 53-yr-old Shaun doesn’t have the best track record of giving time to a relationship.  On this episode o...

31-yr-old voice actor and media host, Raven Brinson has moved many times for her career, and has recently relocated to Los Angeles. Doing all that she can socially to meet new people, Raven is perplexed as to why dating seems so much harder now, than in the past.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Raven choose her core-four must-haves, unpack her resistance to  online dating, and discuss mindset ...

Three months into dating 39-yr-old Coco, 36-yr-old Steven’s mother was diagnosed with Cancer, his grandpa went on hospice, and he got laid off.  Despite being in therapy and the fact that the adverse life circumstances were not permanent they were too much for Steven, and he broke things off. Being told “it’s not you, it’s me,” Coco decided she should nurture Steven through the tough times by being there for h...

 52-yr-old Jack has been single for the past 25 years and only dated much younger women. 46-yr-old Charleigh is worried that this makes Jack see her as more of an “age-appropriate companion” rather than a girlfriend.  Adding to Charleigh’s anxiety is the fact that she was cheated on by her ex-husband when he was away on business, and Jack is a bit of a big-spending partier when he’s out-of-town. Charleigh want...

While only together for 2 years, 32-yr-old Ruby and 32-yr-old Paul are on their 4th breakup.  Ruby says Paul is heavily influenced by his friends and family, doesn’t make her a priority, and isn’t mature enough for marriage. On this episode, Paula helps Ruby reframe Paul’s behavior, reset her focus to solve the real issues, and see a future where the two can restart a new and committed relationship that will remain...

Having been the lead on two reality dating shows, with appearances on Dr. Phil and several talk shows to discuss her single status, Sonali Chandra is likely the most famous 36-yr-old virgin. But why, with her beauty, poise, talent, and intelligence, is she finding it so hard to date and find her Mr. Right? On this episode, Sonali bares her heartbreak over 65-yr-old Mr. LAP who she claims is the "love of her life," ...

39-yr-old Isla says she suffers from anxious attachment and keeps “pushing men away.” Having dated 35-yr-old Ivan for only a few months, Isla began experiencing what she feared most. Feeling like Ivan wasn’t spending enough time with her, Isla spurred one too many arguments. Will this time of being ghosted help Isla face her demons and slay the dragon of anxiety that drags her down?  On this episode of Make Him Won...

36-yr-old Elle pursued 36-yr-old Sam until the two started hooking-up on New Year’s Eve. But because Elle wanted more, misunderstandings and mixed-messaging caused an on-again-off again situationship that was no cause for celebration.  Following a particularly volatile episode where Sam was headed to the police to file a restraining order, Elle woke up to the necessity of restraining herself and reevaluating her wa...

When 54-yr-old Suzanne worked on her self-concept and combined it with what worked for 66-yr-old Sam to see her as his one, she began to see her dream relationship materialize. Now heading towards engagement, Suzanne can’t help but feel uneasy about the frequency of Sam connecting with his ex-girlfriends, and ex-wife. On this episode, Paula helps Suzanne stay current, stem the occasional rising tide of anxiety, and stay...

Following a sexless and lonely 18-yr marriage, 46-yr-old Grace felt “safe” beginning a FWB relationship with 47-yr-old Tony because he was moving away. But Tony didn’t end up moving, and now Grace wants a full relationship.  Tony, being newly out  of a 5-yr relationship states he “isn’t ready,” and is willing to let Grace go. On this episode, Grace faces some past missteps and wants Paula’s help to put her bes...

​​​​​​​Following 7 years of separation from his second wife who cheated, 61-yr-old Mike is telling 59-yr-old Carla that he is just “starting the process of divorce.” Carla is not convinced, nor is she happy with what appears to be Mike’s Low-T, his need for a great deal of alone time to be on social media, and him stating that he “feels like less of a man” because Carla is significantly more well-off financially. In thi...