October 17, 2024 • 38 mins
Noelle is the author of Dream Life Planner: Move From Tired and Overwhelmed to Free and Empowered, co-author of Achieve Wellness and the pretty half of the Smiling Coaching Couple. Noelle helps women awaken their dreams and design a path to reach them. She is a speaker, trainer, author, coach, mom and grandma. She uses her skills and experience to guide women who are unhappy with where they are and seeking the path to their dreams. Join BCC Evolution’s weekly live YouTube show for Mental Health Mondays hosted by the Founder Kelli Melissa where we talk to special guests who are professional mental health experts or guests who experience a mental health challenge or mental health advocates. You can find more about Noelle here: http://empower2dream.com/ / n2r2peterson / n2r2peterson Want to be a guest? Reach out to show@makementalhealthmatter.org and tell us your story. Need more resources? Want to get educated more about mental health and suicide prevention? Check out our programs and website for more information: www.makementalhealthmatter.org Support our cause today to help us bridge the gap by educating people to support those who are faced with a mental health challenge. Become a “Warrior for Mental Health” today for only $20 or more per month!
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Welcome to another episode of Mental Health Mondays, where we
talk to guests who are either professionals in the mental
health space, advocates of mental health, or those that live
with or experience a mental health challenge. And just as
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But I am really excited to bring on my guests
for today, Noel, so let me bring her on without
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furtherir ato. I know, Well, thank you so much for
joining me.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Thanks Kelly, this is gonna be amazing. Thanks for having me.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, absolutely, So tell the audience a little bit about yourself. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
So, I am a wife of thirty years, mother of
two adult children and a couple grandkids that have just
moved in. So I love seeing their beautiful smiles every day.
I was a missionary wife for ten years and a
pastor's wife for ten years. Worked in the church ministry
for women and youth, helping ladies of all ages grow
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into the person that they're meant to be and doing
lots of training over the years in different aspects to
help with leadership and relationships. And my focus now is
helping women discover their idea outside of motherhood so they
can thrive and who they are and just be the
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person God made them to be for the years to come.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
That's amazing, I mean, I know, especially being a mom right, Like,
sometimes that just becomes our label or what we are.
It's I'm Rylan's mom. I don't even have a name anymore. So, yeah,
that can be challenging in itself.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Yeah, we tend to make mom who we are and
we don't focus on who we are meant to be.
So if we do like the mind map kind of
brainstorming exercise, and we put who we are in the
center circle and all of the activities and things we
do as pieces of that as roles, we can get
a better picture. But then we look at that who
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are we And that's where I help focus and help
women discover what their values are, what are their purpose?
What does their passion really want to be so they
can focus more on multiple areas, multiple roles instead just mom.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Yeah, that's such an important and I know, I mean
I've been following your work for quite some time, and
I know the first time when we met, I was like,
oh my gosh, this is just amazing what both you
and your husband do to help entrepreneurs and women and
anyone that really wants to understand how they can be
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the person that they are meant to be.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Potentially, Yeah, as we're all here for a purpose, right.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah, absolutely, I know that. I mean starting my nonprofit,
right it was like this passion driven thing, but I
had no idea or I felt like I had no
idea what I was doing. And up until really quitting
my corporate job and jumping into my nonprofit full time,
I've done a lot of exploration this whole last year
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of like where do I fit? What aligns with me?
Who am I outside of being in the corporate office,
and then also with me my son and everything else
that we do with our family, like who am I?
So I think it's a question that we ask ourselves,
especially as moms.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yeah, I mean I was Pastor's wife, missionary wife that
I turned into Kell's mom, Russell's mom. I am just
now figuring out who Noel is after fifty years on
this earth, and it's there's a lot of what do
I want to do when I grow up? I mean,
that's the phrase I use multiple times in my search
and even nine years in government here in Colorado, I
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was the expert on this, or I was the supervisor
for this. I was not anything that I wanted to
do when I grew up. I wanted to be a stewardess,
which being a missionary and being a missionary wife and
pastor's wife, we got to travel, so that kind of
fulfilled that desire to be on the airplane. But if
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I think for further back, I remember getting a typewriter
as a kid, and that reminds me of I must
have had desire to write. And because I remember sitting
on a kitchen on a living room couch one Christmas
just typing away. I loved it. It was the dream
like what little kid wants to typewrite for Christmas? Like
come on. But now that I actually sit down and
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do writing, I love it and I can't get enough.
And that's what I need to focus on who I
am and what words I can put out to help others.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
That's awesome. We actually, so we've just been binge watched
Wednesday the Adams Family spin off and she had a
typewriter and my son was like, what is that thing?
So that is it's interesting. I mean to think back,
I mean, of course handwriting and then you go to typing,
and then we have technology that comes out. But I
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think that's amazing that you're now exploring really like who
you are, like what your identity is as Noel verse,
all these other things.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Right, and if you think about what brings you passion,
what brings you joy, it's all there's always joy in
what we do because we're not gonna do something we
hate very long. But when like that last week, I
got off a podcast and there's just the energy that
I felt was unexplainable to anything. I couldn't even explain
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it to Robert. It was just mind blowing. I guess
it was just when that passion, when you're doing what
you enjoy and what really pushes your buttons, it's just
it's it's unexplainable, and that's where we need to help
other ladies get to be.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah. I don't think I ever really truly understood that
until I went to this three day event in twenty eighteen,
and that was kind of my first experience, really eye
opening experience of oh wow, like there's a whole nother
world out here and you can actually do what makes
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you fulfilled or what lights you up. And that's what
I call it, is like find those things that light
you up, because if you're not in body and mind,
if you're not getting that sensation of oh, this is
something that I love, that I'm passionate about, that I
want to do for the rest of my life, that
purpose right then for me, and I know that you
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have an experience, it's like why am I here or
why am I living? Right right?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I mean, and I'll go into that. I mean, two
years ago, I lived day to day just like the
rest of the world. I woke up and just did
the things I never thought about. Oh I have breath
in my lungs today. Oh I'm awake today. In August
of twenty one, two hours into my work day, I
got a pain in my neck that felt like it
just like a stick pin went in and then in
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between in my chest, small in tobity pains, but they
didn't go away, and my husband was on his way
out the door, so there were many things that happened
that made it a miraculous event in our situation, but
we ended up calling nine one and ended up in
the er with open heart surgery on a healthy body,
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no pre existing conditions, under doctor's care for nothing, and
genetic testings later on revealed nothing was genetically wrong. I
spent thirteen days in the hospital, half of it in ICU,
and six months of recovery total. My aorda had dissected,
which means it's a garden hose size tube in your
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body with three layers, and the layers had separated into
the blood's flowing on the outside of the layers and
instead of the mill where it's supposed to, which can
lead to aneurysms and other things that are I think
the mortality rate for this is about forty percent. And
if you watch the World Cup, there was a reporter
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who died of an aortic aneurysm, which is very similar
as part of the same issue. And if it because
if it's not found, it's not discovered that that a
order is vital enough, it will take your life. So
my life story when I write the book about it,
is going to be I could have taken a nap,
because if you feel these pains and you don't do
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something about it, you don't acknowledge it, don't get the
scans right, you are you're going to die. So we
talked about if I had just laid down to take
a nap and you know it'll get better, I probably
wanted to woke up.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Wow, Yeah, I knew. I mean, of course I follow
you guys and night. I know that I had heard
about the experience that I mean, it was close to
potentially dying right, but I didn't know all the details
behind it. And that is something to have the conversation
about too, is there are so many and I feel
like I had a guess at one point in time.
(09:44):
We were having a conversation about like if you can
feel you're like, if you feel like you can feel
your skull, then you potentially might have aneurism. Like there's
so many different other signs too that you have to
be aware of or symptoms that you need to be
aware of. And that's important to talk about too, is
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if you're having just even the small pains or don't
feel normal. I guess as a way to explain it,
then you need to go get checked out. And that's
just incredible that you were able to acknowledge and realize
like something's not right.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, Robert, Yeah, Robert could tell if something wasn't right.
And what happened really was it my blood flow to
my left leg had gotten adjusted, because when the blood's
going in the wrong place, it just figures out where
it needs to go. This we discovered this through multiple
situations that happened. But so I lost feeling. I didn't
loose feeling, I lost the capability of moving my legs
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and so when he tried walking me to the car,
I was unable to follow him and to walk next
to him, and I ended up on the floor just
tossing and turning of both sides because it was uncomfortable
and it felt like almost like a nerve issued in
me at the time. But what happened is when they
fixed did a second surgery, I ended up with a
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thirty two centimeters stent in my back. So it's the
garden hoset size stent, but thirty two centimeters, so it's
a lot bigger than the most stents you hear for
heart attacks and stuff. And when I woke up from
that procedure, my left leg was unable to move. It
felt like it was a two hundred pound weight on
my leg. And they pushed my blood pressure up to
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like one hundred and eighty two hundred to try and
push the blood flow back to where it's supposed to be,
and I slowly started regaining ability to move, which kind
of you know, it kind of put the pieces together,
is that's what was originally the problem is the blood
flow through my left leg was altered, so I wasn't
able to walk. So then when it was fixed, it
was a flash of It was flash of demon to
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my lungs and pushed the blood back to my legs
and finally and I woke up from that one hundred
percent different. My first week in the hospital was very
much incoherent and drugged up and just not comfortable. My
blood pressure was way high and they could not get
it under control. They'd give me meds every time they
checked it. Waking up from the second procedure fixed the
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rest of the a order majority of it, and I
woke up, Okay, what do I need to eat? How
much do I need to walk? Let's go, and Robert
could tell my coherency and ability to talk and communicate
was more normal and I was writing I was only
in the hospital like two days after that.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Wow, that's I mean one just having to go through
all of the surgeries and everything else. And I mean
it probably or helped with the oxygen flow to your
brain so that it's functioning properly and to your whole
entire body. Yeah. Wow, that's just incredible. And having to
go through that is really really challenging or can be absolutely.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Yeah, And it's watching out for something that's off. There's
not a whole lot of symptoms. I can tell you.
This is what causes it. Because if you think about
a piece of paper, when you tear a piece of paper,
it's never going to tear the same way twice, right,
And that's an a order in my understanding. It's not
going to dissect or aneurysm in the same way to
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multiple people. So you just have to be aware of
how your body acts and what might not be right today.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
And so do you still have that stinton Uh huh.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
If you take an X ray, it looks like I
have paper clips up and down my spine.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Oh my gosh, it's.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Actually I have to get a sing I am authorized
to get a CT scan every year for the rest
of my life to watch my aora and anything else
that might get shown up in the scan. But I cannot.
My kids cannot tell their doctors I need to watch
out for this or this or this. There's no specific
signs and no tests that they can run to be
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aware of something that might happen.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Wow. So it's really I mean really just knowing. Well,
so what I talk about in some of my classes, like,
you have your baseline of what your normal is, and
so you want to look for those extremes, either highs
or lows. And of course I talk about mental health challenges,
but I think it goes the same with physical health,
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is that we have this baseline of do I feel
okay or normal today, and then if there's anything that's
even slightly off, you need to address it because you
never ever know, especially with your AORDA. Right. Yeah, but
I wanted you to also tell that story too, because
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I think it showcases that purpose is really important and
understanding that you being a mom, being a wife, being
a woman, being a man, also going to work on
a daily basis or doing whatever it might be that
you feel like is the thing that you have to do.
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It doesn't have to define you. And I think that
life changing events obviously transition us to being more aware
or wanting to explore what our purpose is then just
going about day to day. And so if you don't have,
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of course, if you don't have a life event, you
can still have this come up. Right. It's after maybe
your kids are out of the house, or maybe they're
growing up and they don't need your help as much.
It's thinking about, well, who am I, what do I
want to do in my life, and how can I
get there? And I think that's where your experience comes in,
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especially with women, and how would I mean, I feel
like we wake up one day and we're like, you know,
I don't know what I'm even doing in my life?
What does the purpose of me being here? What am
I doing? What am I experiencing? And so in those cases,
what would you say to women or men too?
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Yeah, I mean, it's it's valuable to take a look
at your life and figure out what am I doing?
And do I enjoy what I'm doing? Am I in
the right place? Because you can you can go through
the motions for a long time, but it's not necessarily
going to fulfill you and make you enjoy and passionate
about life. We are all here for a purpose. One
thing that happened because of my near death experience is
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my husband always says, there's something left to do. We're
here for a reason.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
We're not.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
We're not going to take advantage. We need to take
advantage of every moment we have. We don't know how
long we've got. We've seen several people in the mid
fifties pass away in the last few years in the news.
That's our age. You know, we're not old. Mean this
aortic That section happened to me at forty eight. It's
not old, it's not okay. We need to take care
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of who we are, and as you said, look at
that baseline and figure out where we're at. I work
with women, and the first things we do is look
at what are your values and what are you passionate about,
and then we talk about boundaries and protecting those values.
If your values our mental health and taking care of people.
And somebody comes in and says, let's do a podcast
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on business technology. No, it doesn't fit. It's easy to
say no to things that don't fit your values. But
if you don't know what your values are and what
you're focused on. You could take every opportunity that comes
and you're going to just get steered away from your
purpose and you're not going to find that enjoyment. We
need to take care of ourselves so that we can
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take care of others, and it's we need to know
who we are so that we can fill our tanks
with joy and love and peace and passion and purpose.
Then we can help those around us. We can't go
to the food market and you know, the food bank
and be giving out food and expect to feel joy
out of it to the extent that we need to.
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It's going to be valuable, of course, but if we're
not taking care of us, we're not going to get
as much value out of what we do in life.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
And I love two things that you said that made
me think of things. Boundaries like those are really really big,
and it's something that I didn't understand until I actually
got a business coach two years ago, and because I
was I'm like, well, I'm gonna throw whatever I can
at the wall and see if it sticks. And I
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went on every single podcast I possibly could imagine because
it just seemed like that was the right thing to do.
Interestingly enough, they did all align into mental health or
wellness or even the ones that were reaching out, which
was good. But it gave me experience, and it also
gave me the ability to identify which ones do actually
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align with me or don't align. And the boundary part
is something that I didn't understand because I was so
conditioned in a corporate environment to be reactive versus proactive
and really just focusing on emails and getting the daily
things done verse really identifying what was within or in
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alignment with what I was trying to accomplish. So yeah,
I think boundaries are huge even around daily tasks of
well today, Like Mondays are my content day, right, and
then you have your Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. You can
create whatever you want for those days, which I think
is important. Also non negotiables, which is something that I
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never knew was a thing. And she's like, no, you
have to have your non negotiables, especially as an entrepreneur
because you're going to be working all the time. And
I'm like, ah, yeah, that makes sense. So figuring out
those boundaries. And then the other thing that you said
was taking care of yourself and this is something that
has been huge lately. Really, like putting that oxygen mask
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on first, right, you talked about traveling going onto a plane,
and we have to put our oxygen masks on first
to be able to help somebody else. It's the same
way in life. We have to be able to help
ourselves so that we can successfully help other people. And
I think that's something we don't talk about often enough.
And like you said, even just the first week of
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January twenty twenty three, if we had multiple people in
their fifties passing away, and that's we I mean, my
husband was like, he's like, it's a bad day for
being in your fifties, right, And I was like, I
mean joking about it, but like it's true, it's not
old by any means. But if we're not taking care
of ourselves, then there is that chance or possibility, right.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
And you take care of yourself in the way that
works for you. I am not an exercise person. I
am not a person that likes to eat healthy, but
my bodies survived fifty years. But you've got to take
care of who you are mentally as much as physically,
because you cannot take care of anybody else. I know
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that there are moms that think that they need to
put the oxygen mask on their kids first, because that
makes sense. I need to take care of my child.
But if you're out of breath and there isn't anymore,
how can you take care of your kids? And we
don't acknowledge that, and we don't translate that into life,
but it's so true. If we cannot function, if our
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mental health is damaged enough from busyness and life and
just all the things that we take on, we can't
take care of our family and we're not going to
be any good to them. We want to raise healthy
kids physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, all of it. We
don't want just some of it. We really want healthy
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kids all around. And if we're not healthy, we can't
translate that to them.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Yeah, yeah, and it can be I mean, I'm not
any parents, whether it's mom or dad or whomever it
might be, right. I think that that challenge exists for
most all of us because we're so conditioned, especially like
with babies, right they need us, They constantly need us,
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and we have to meet or support their needs. But
then as they get older, we kind of are conditioned
to do that, and so how do you start releasing
or reframing the situation so that you can also start
taking care of yourself. And I think that is really
really huge, And so I love that you work with
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women specifically to help identify these things and move them
through who they are as a person instead of as
mom or whomever else they might identify with. So that
is I just think that's really amazing.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Yeah, and if we know who we are, we can
be better who at what we're doing. And as the
kids grow up, I mean, moms who send their kids
off to kindergarten struggle because they're taking it's a transition.
You've got the kid full time, and then all of
a sudden, you've got free time. And I learned to
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cherish that free time. What can I do? Who can
I be? What can I clean the house or you know,
work on studies or you know, I went to school
or get a part time job or go serve at
the school or whatever while they're there, because you have
this time that you've got back. Really and then when
the kids turn into teenagers and they start doing things
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on their own, they don't need us as much in
the same way they still need us, but they don't
need us helicoptering over them. They need our influence, they
need our love, and they need our support, which looks different.
And as they become adults, they are, you know, those
teen years and adults, they're figuring out who they are
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and they are trying to figure out life and they
need you to support them and guide them. When they're
open to that support, they're also going to be looking
elsewhere and they don't need you one hundred percent because
you know, mom and dads are quite cool enough to
give that. So you've got to have that relationship with
them so that they're looking for that support in the
right places.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yeah. Yeah, it's definitely. I mean it's we have a
nineteen and a seven year old, so we have almost
the two different extremes and it is interesting just based
off of the needs of both of them. But I
also there's a new show called like the Parent Test.
I don't know if you've seen it or not, but yeah,
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we started watching it and it was really interesting because
they take all these different styles of parenting and then
basically put them through challenges and all these things, and
so it was really interesting just to see the different
styles of parenting and how it can play a factor
in how your children grow, but then also how the
parents are reacting to each other and they're all learning.
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Like that's I think that's the best part of being
a human is that we can take our experiences and
then we can learn from them and adjust and if
it doesn't make sense or it's not working, then we
can shift and we can change and we can make
it more in alignment with what we are trying to accomplish.
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So all of those are really great things. But if
a woman is like you know, or a mom or
whomever it is, and they want to work with you,
what do you like? What does it look like working
with you?
Speaker 2 (25:51):
So I mean I can do one on one coaching
work individually and talk through these concepts and help them
come up with these values in boundaries, and we work
through limiting beliefs because we all have them as well
as relationships. And who are you hanging out with that
who's influencing your life, because that's a big part of
it too. Who are you reflecting and are they lifting
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you up and bringing you to the person that you're
meant to be or are they holding your back? And
that could look in different ways, but sometimes it's toxic
and sometimes it's just not helpful. But I also have
a program I just released that is six weeks working
through what are your values? What is your dream? Looking
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through the limiting beliefs and the relationships in a group setting.
And then I'll be working on making that a DIY
as well, so you can do it on your own,
just watching videos and working through projects. I also have
a book that I released last spring that's twenty activities
of working through these kinds of topics on your own.
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You can get on Amazon or on my website if
you want to autograph copy. And then there's just different
ways of working through the same concepts of who are you,
what are you meant to do? And how can we
make that happen? My husband I work both in very
similar ways, just different with different audiences. But it's what
is your dream life? What is it that you really
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want to be doing? What brings you that passion that
just overflows so much that you want to do it
all day long? You do it for free and make
it happen. Now, what would it take to live your
life today doing that? You know, entrepreneur, your business or whatever,
and you build your business in your life around that
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passion so that you can enjoy the life that you
want to live today and not put that dream life off.
If you want to go travel the world, what does
that look like today? How can you make that happen
in twenty twenty three?
Speaker 1 (27:58):
And that's so I mean, all right, so anybody watching.
I did have Robert on I think last month whenever,
but so and him and I had talked a lot
about like men and men's mental health and really like
the entrepreneur and what that means really centered around mental
health in general. So if you didn't get a chance
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and you're watching this and you want to watch Roberts,
you can watch him too. But yeah, I think what
I love about the collaboration that you guys do is
like you are focused more on women and then he
focuses I think on men or business owners in general.
But the partnership I think is really really important. And
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being able to identify is this what you really want
to do? What is your exact purpose in life? And
now is the best time to start. Don't put it
off because you think that it's not feasible or it's
not logistic, Like what if you have a life event
that happened, right, Like, we have to take advantage of
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the time that we have and I know that very well.
Of like, you know, am I spinning my wills over
here in this corporate job or am I going to
jump in full time and like see if it works
and if it doesn't, maybe then you pivot and you change.
But being able to work with somebody who knows how
to guide you through the process instead of having to
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spin your wills like I felt like I did for
so many years, is really really important. So finding that
purpose now versus waiting and you know, not saying like
neither of us are saying quit your job, whatever you're doing,
let's do it on the side, right, Like there's ways
to find it outside of just eliminating what you're doing
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currently and then maybe you move towards it.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
So, yeah, you don't throw away what you have. You've
got to build alongside to find that. And if you
don't have time today to build your dream, are you
really going to have time tomorrow? Yes, it's take advantage
and you need to be intentional about what you do
and how you do things. And if you're not intentionally
(30:14):
building your life the way you want it You're going
to get what the universe gives you.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Yes, yeah, I always I love the Tony Robbins's life
happening for you or to you, And if you think
about it in that way, it makes a lot of sense.
It's like, am I waiting for things to come to
me and allowing it to happen to me? Or am
I creating my experience and allowing life to happen for me?
(30:42):
And I think that's important for people to think about
your life.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
You've got to make those choices.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Yeah, sometimes a're not easy, but no, yeah, definitely it
could be really challenging. We're not saying this is easy
by any means, but having somebody on your side to
support you and guide you, and like you said, is
are people lifting you up? And that makes a huge difference.
At least it has in my life. And I always
(31:09):
heard the the saying like it who you surround yourself matters,
and I didn't really like as I was growing up.
It didn't click in my brain. But now that I'm
in the space that I'm in and finding that tribe
that really truly supports me and that does lift me
up no matter what's happening, has been absolutely life changing
(31:33):
for me and my business. And it is it's all
about like the they say, the like the six people
that you surround yourself with are really really important? And
are they challenging you or they bring you down? So
something to think about.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, look at you, who do you spend your time with?
If you mapped out your week, who are the top
five people that you hang around with and what influence
do they have?
Speaker 1 (32:00):
It's so important. So any tips, tricks, any other things
that you want to share.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
I mean, I'll go back to your boundaries. I was
a principal in an international school back in early two thousands,
and I would just say yes to whatever needed done.
That was the kind of person I am, like many
of us, I think, And I had a group of
teachers working with me and trying to tell me I
can say no. It's okay to say no, and it's
(32:27):
hard for us to think that, yeah, I can say no.
But then I had a speaker that year that talked
to us about saying yes to priorities. If you know
what your priorities are, if you know what your values are,
you can say yes to the kids. I can say
yes to my child instead of saying no to the
activity that comes to mind. It's what are you saying
(32:48):
yes too that matters, and your boundaries that you put
in place because you know what your purpose is. It's
not necessarily that you're saying no to somebody and you
don't want them to feel bad. They'll get over it.
They got other people they can deal with. Focus on
you and your priorities and your values and saying yes
to those and then saying that it was easier.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah, I know that this year or last year. I'm like,
what year are we in anymore? In the summer of
twenty twenty two, I released a lot of things that
were not serving me and my purpose because I was
saying yes to so many things because I was like, oh, yeah,
I'll just pile this on or pile that on, or
(33:30):
pile that on, and I wasn't doing any of them effectively.
And I really got to the point that I was like,
I have to release something, or something's going to break.
Like That's how I felt. And being able to release
those things that didn't serve me or my business or
my purpose was amazing and it has been amazing, and
(33:53):
it's created these spaces that have allowed other things to
come that do align. So I love that you said
that is being able to know your purpose. You can
say yes to the right things that align with you,
your business, what you're trying to accomplish in life, and
say no to the things that don't, and it's okay.
It's okay to say no. So love that. Well, if
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somebody wants to work with you, how can they find you?
Speaker 2 (34:20):
So I'm on socials that into R two Peterson. I
think I just changed one of them, but I should
still find it. And my website is add Value to
Life dot com.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Slash Women also minutes down there too, So if you
are a woman or somebody, anybody a human, she's not
going to turn your away just because you know. But
if you would like to work with Noel, you can
go to her website down here. And keep in mind
(34:52):
that having a guide or a mentor or somebody that
can help you along this journey is going to be
easier and probably less stressful than trying to just spin
your wills and figure it out yourself. So why not
have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Yeah, we didn't get this far in life alone.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Yes, exactly. Well, thank you so much, Noel, I really,
really appreciate you being on today and being my guest.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Thank you, Kelly.
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(01:09):
furtherir ato. I know, Well, thank you so much for
joining me.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Thanks Kelly, this is gonna be amazing. Thanks for having me.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yeah, absolutely, So tell the audience a little bit about yourself. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
So, I am a wife of thirty years, mother of
two adult children and a couple grandkids that have just
moved in. So I love seeing their beautiful smiles every day.
I was a missionary wife for ten years and a
pastor's wife for ten years. Worked in the church ministry
for women and youth, helping ladies of all ages grow
(01:45):
into the person that they're meant to be and doing
lots of training over the years in different aspects to
help with leadership and relationships. And my focus now is
helping women discover their idea outside of motherhood so they
can thrive and who they are and just be the
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person God made them to be for the years to come.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
That's amazing, I mean, I know, especially being a mom right, Like,
sometimes that just becomes our label or what we are.
It's I'm Rylan's mom. I don't even have a name anymore. So, yeah,
that can be challenging in itself.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Yeah, we tend to make mom who we are and
we don't focus on who we are meant to be.
So if we do like the mind map kind of
brainstorming exercise, and we put who we are in the
center circle and all of the activities and things we
do as pieces of that as roles, we can get
a better picture. But then we look at that who
(02:46):
are we And that's where I help focus and help
women discover what their values are, what are their purpose?
What does their passion really want to be so they
can focus more on multiple areas, multiple roles instead just mom.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Yeah, that's such an important and I know, I mean
I've been following your work for quite some time, and
I know the first time when we met, I was like,
oh my gosh, this is just amazing what both you
and your husband do to help entrepreneurs and women and
anyone that really wants to understand how they can be
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the person that they are meant to be.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Potentially, Yeah, as we're all here for a purpose, right.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah, absolutely, I know that. I mean starting my nonprofit,
right it was like this passion driven thing, but I
had no idea or I felt like I had no
idea what I was doing. And up until really quitting
my corporate job and jumping into my nonprofit full time,
I've done a lot of exploration this whole last year
(03:50):
of like where do I fit? What aligns with me?
Who am I outside of being in the corporate office,
and then also with me my son and everything else
that we do with our family, like who am I?
So I think it's a question that we ask ourselves,
especially as moms.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yeah, I mean I was Pastor's wife, missionary wife that
I turned into Kell's mom, Russell's mom. I am just
now figuring out who Noel is after fifty years on
this earth, and it's there's a lot of what do
I want to do when I grow up? I mean,
that's the phrase I use multiple times in my search
and even nine years in government here in Colorado, I
(04:33):
was the expert on this, or I was the supervisor
for this. I was not anything that I wanted to
do when I grew up. I wanted to be a stewardess,
which being a missionary and being a missionary wife and
pastor's wife, we got to travel, so that kind of
fulfilled that desire to be on the airplane. But if
(04:54):
I think for further back, I remember getting a typewriter
as a kid, and that reminds me of I must
have had desire to write. And because I remember sitting
on a kitchen on a living room couch one Christmas
just typing away. I loved it. It was the dream
like what little kid wants to typewrite for Christmas? Like
come on. But now that I actually sit down and
(05:15):
do writing, I love it and I can't get enough.
And that's what I need to focus on who I
am and what words I can put out to help others.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
That's awesome. We actually, so we've just been binge watched
Wednesday the Adams Family spin off and she had a
typewriter and my son was like, what is that thing?
So that is it's interesting. I mean to think back,
I mean, of course handwriting and then you go to typing,
and then we have technology that comes out. But I
(05:47):
think that's amazing that you're now exploring really like who
you are, like what your identity is as Noel verse,
all these other things.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Right, and if you think about what brings you passion,
what brings you joy, it's all there's always joy in
what we do because we're not gonna do something we
hate very long. But when like that last week, I
got off a podcast and there's just the energy that
I felt was unexplainable to anything. I couldn't even explain
(06:16):
it to Robert. It was just mind blowing. I guess
it was just when that passion, when you're doing what
you enjoy and what really pushes your buttons, it's just
it's it's unexplainable, and that's where we need to help
other ladies get to be.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah. I don't think I ever really truly understood that
until I went to this three day event in twenty eighteen,
and that was kind of my first experience, really eye
opening experience of oh wow, like there's a whole nother
world out here and you can actually do what makes
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you fulfilled or what lights you up. And that's what
I call it, is like find those things that light
you up, because if you're not in body and mind,
if you're not getting that sensation of oh, this is
something that I love, that I'm passionate about, that I
want to do for the rest of my life, that
purpose right then for me, and I know that you
(07:19):
have an experience, it's like why am I here or
why am I living? Right right?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I mean, and I'll go into that. I mean, two
years ago, I lived day to day just like the
rest of the world. I woke up and just did
the things I never thought about. Oh I have breath
in my lungs today. Oh I'm awake today. In August
of twenty one, two hours into my work day, I
got a pain in my neck that felt like it
just like a stick pin went in and then in
(07:45):
between in my chest, small in tobity pains, but they
didn't go away, and my husband was on his way
out the door, so there were many things that happened
that made it a miraculous event in our situation, but
we ended up calling nine one and ended up in
the er with open heart surgery on a healthy body,
(08:07):
no pre existing conditions, under doctor's care for nothing, and
genetic testings later on revealed nothing was genetically wrong. I
spent thirteen days in the hospital, half of it in ICU,
and six months of recovery total. My aorda had dissected,
which means it's a garden hose size tube in your
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body with three layers, and the layers had separated into
the blood's flowing on the outside of the layers and
instead of the mill where it's supposed to, which can
lead to aneurysms and other things that are I think
the mortality rate for this is about forty percent. And
if you watch the World Cup, there was a reporter
(08:49):
who died of an aortic aneurysm, which is very similar
as part of the same issue. And if it because
if it's not found, it's not discovered that that a
order is vital enough, it will take your life. So
my life story when I write the book about it,
is going to be I could have taken a nap,
because if you feel these pains and you don't do
(09:10):
something about it, you don't acknowledge it, don't get the
scans right, you are you're going to die. So we
talked about if I had just laid down to take
a nap and you know it'll get better, I probably
wanted to woke up.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Wow, Yeah, I knew. I mean, of course I follow
you guys and night. I know that I had heard
about the experience that I mean, it was close to
potentially dying right, but I didn't know all the details
behind it. And that is something to have the conversation
about too, is there are so many and I feel
like I had a guess at one point in time.
(09:44):
We were having a conversation about like if you can
feel you're like, if you feel like you can feel
your skull, then you potentially might have aneurism. Like there's
so many different other signs too that you have to
be aware of or symptoms that you need to be
aware of. And that's important to talk about too, is
(10:06):
if you're having just even the small pains or don't
feel normal. I guess as a way to explain it,
then you need to go get checked out. And that's
just incredible that you were able to acknowledge and realize
like something's not right.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yeah, Robert, Yeah, Robert could tell if something wasn't right.
And what happened really was it my blood flow to
my left leg had gotten adjusted, because when the blood's
going in the wrong place, it just figures out where
it needs to go. This we discovered this through multiple
situations that happened. But so I lost feeling. I didn't
loose feeling, I lost the capability of moving my legs
(10:45):
and so when he tried walking me to the car,
I was unable to follow him and to walk next
to him, and I ended up on the floor just
tossing and turning of both sides because it was uncomfortable
and it felt like almost like a nerve issued in
me at the time. But what happened is when they
fixed did a second surgery, I ended up with a
(11:05):
thirty two centimeters stent in my back. So it's the
garden hoset size stent, but thirty two centimeters, so it's
a lot bigger than the most stents you hear for
heart attacks and stuff. And when I woke up from
that procedure, my left leg was unable to move. It
felt like it was a two hundred pound weight on
my leg. And they pushed my blood pressure up to
(11:26):
like one hundred and eighty two hundred to try and
push the blood flow back to where it's supposed to be,
and I slowly started regaining ability to move, which kind
of you know, it kind of put the pieces together,
is that's what was originally the problem is the blood
flow through my left leg was altered, so I wasn't
able to walk. So then when it was fixed, it
was a flash of It was flash of demon to
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my lungs and pushed the blood back to my legs
and finally and I woke up from that one hundred
percent different. My first week in the hospital was very
much incoherent and drugged up and just not comfortable. My
blood pressure was way high and they could not get
it under control. They'd give me meds every time they
checked it. Waking up from the second procedure fixed the
(12:11):
rest of the a order majority of it, and I
woke up, Okay, what do I need to eat? How
much do I need to walk? Let's go, and Robert
could tell my coherency and ability to talk and communicate
was more normal and I was writing I was only
in the hospital like two days after that.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Wow, that's I mean one just having to go through
all of the surgeries and everything else. And I mean
it probably or helped with the oxygen flow to your
brain so that it's functioning properly and to your whole
entire body. Yeah. Wow, that's just incredible. And having to
go through that is really really challenging or can be absolutely.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Yeah, And it's watching out for something that's off. There's
not a whole lot of symptoms. I can tell you.
This is what causes it. Because if you think about
a piece of paper, when you tear a piece of paper,
it's never going to tear the same way twice, right,
And that's an a order in my understanding. It's not
going to dissect or aneurysm in the same way to
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multiple people. So you just have to be aware of
how your body acts and what might not be right today.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
And so do you still have that stinton Uh huh.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
If you take an X ray, it looks like I
have paper clips up and down my spine.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Oh my gosh, it's.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Actually I have to get a sing I am authorized
to get a CT scan every year for the rest
of my life to watch my aora and anything else
that might get shown up in the scan. But I cannot.
My kids cannot tell their doctors I need to watch
out for this or this or this. There's no specific
signs and no tests that they can run to be
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aware of something that might happen.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Wow. So it's really I mean really just knowing. Well,
so what I talk about in some of my classes, like,
you have your baseline of what your normal is, and
so you want to look for those extremes, either highs
or lows. And of course I talk about mental health challenges,
but I think it goes the same with physical health,
(14:19):
is that we have this baseline of do I feel
okay or normal today, and then if there's anything that's
even slightly off, you need to address it because you
never ever know, especially with your AORDA. Right. Yeah, but
I wanted you to also tell that story too, because
(14:44):
I think it showcases that purpose is really important and
understanding that you being a mom, being a wife, being
a woman, being a man, also going to work on
a daily basis or doing whatever it might be that
you feel like is the thing that you have to do.
(15:07):
It doesn't have to define you. And I think that
life changing events obviously transition us to being more aware
or wanting to explore what our purpose is then just
going about day to day. And so if you don't have,
(15:29):
of course, if you don't have a life event, you
can still have this come up. Right. It's after maybe
your kids are out of the house, or maybe they're
growing up and they don't need your help as much.
It's thinking about, well, who am I, what do I
want to do in my life, and how can I
get there? And I think that's where your experience comes in,
(15:49):
especially with women, and how would I mean, I feel
like we wake up one day and we're like, you know,
I don't know what I'm even doing in my life?
What does the purpose of me being here? What am
I doing? What am I experiencing? And so in those cases,
what would you say to women or men too?
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Yeah, I mean, it's it's valuable to take a look
at your life and figure out what am I doing?
And do I enjoy what I'm doing? Am I in
the right place? Because you can you can go through
the motions for a long time, but it's not necessarily
going to fulfill you and make you enjoy and passionate
about life. We are all here for a purpose. One
thing that happened because of my near death experience is
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my husband always says, there's something left to do. We're
here for a reason.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
We're not.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
We're not going to take advantage. We need to take
advantage of every moment we have. We don't know how
long we've got. We've seen several people in the mid
fifties pass away in the last few years in the news.
That's our age. You know, we're not old. Mean this
aortic That section happened to me at forty eight. It's
not old, it's not okay. We need to take care
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of who we are, and as you said, look at
that baseline and figure out where we're at. I work
with women, and the first things we do is look
at what are your values and what are you passionate about,
and then we talk about boundaries and protecting those values.
If your values our mental health and taking care of people.
And somebody comes in and says, let's do a podcast
(17:22):
on business technology. No, it doesn't fit. It's easy to
say no to things that don't fit your values. But
if you don't know what your values are and what
you're focused on. You could take every opportunity that comes
and you're going to just get steered away from your
purpose and you're not going to find that enjoyment. We
need to take care of ourselves so that we can
(17:43):
take care of others, and it's we need to know
who we are so that we can fill our tanks
with joy and love and peace and passion and purpose.
Then we can help those around us. We can't go
to the food market and you know, the food bank
and be giving out food and expect to feel joy
out of it to the extent that we need to.
(18:05):
It's going to be valuable, of course, but if we're
not taking care of us, we're not going to get
as much value out of what we do in life.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
And I love two things that you said that made
me think of things. Boundaries like those are really really big,
and it's something that I didn't understand until I actually
got a business coach two years ago, and because I
was I'm like, well, I'm gonna throw whatever I can
at the wall and see if it sticks. And I
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went on every single podcast I possibly could imagine because
it just seemed like that was the right thing to do.
Interestingly enough, they did all align into mental health or
wellness or even the ones that were reaching out, which
was good. But it gave me experience, and it also
gave me the ability to identify which ones do actually
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align with me or don't align. And the boundary part
is something that I didn't understand because I was so
conditioned in a corporate environment to be reactive versus proactive
and really just focusing on emails and getting the daily
things done verse really identifying what was within or in
(19:23):
alignment with what I was trying to accomplish. So yeah,
I think boundaries are huge even around daily tasks of
well today, Like Mondays are my content day, right, and
then you have your Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. You can
create whatever you want for those days, which I think
is important. Also non negotiables, which is something that I
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never knew was a thing. And she's like, no, you
have to have your non negotiables, especially as an entrepreneur
because you're going to be working all the time. And
I'm like, ah, yeah, that makes sense. So figuring out
those boundaries. And then the other thing that you said
was taking care of yourself and this is something that
has been huge lately. Really, like putting that oxygen mask
(20:09):
on first, right, you talked about traveling going onto a plane,
and we have to put our oxygen masks on first
to be able to help somebody else. It's the same
way in life. We have to be able to help
ourselves so that we can successfully help other people. And
I think that's something we don't talk about often enough.
And like you said, even just the first week of
(20:31):
January twenty twenty three, if we had multiple people in
their fifties passing away, and that's we I mean, my
husband was like, he's like, it's a bad day for
being in your fifties, right, And I was like, I
mean joking about it, but like it's true, it's not
old by any means. But if we're not taking care
of ourselves, then there is that chance or possibility, right.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
And you take care of yourself in the way that
works for you. I am not an exercise person. I
am not a person that likes to eat healthy, but
my bodies survived fifty years. But you've got to take
care of who you are mentally as much as physically,
because you cannot take care of anybody else. I know
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that there are moms that think that they need to
put the oxygen mask on their kids first, because that
makes sense. I need to take care of my child.
But if you're out of breath and there isn't anymore,
how can you take care of your kids? And we
don't acknowledge that, and we don't translate that into life,
but it's so true. If we cannot function, if our
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mental health is damaged enough from busyness and life and
just all the things that we take on, we can't
take care of our family and we're not going to
be any good to them. We want to raise healthy
kids physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, all of it. We
don't want just some of it. We really want healthy
(21:59):
kids all around. And if we're not healthy, we can't
translate that to them.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
Yeah, yeah, and it can be I mean, I'm not
any parents, whether it's mom or dad or whomever it
might be, right. I think that that challenge exists for
most all of us because we're so conditioned, especially like
with babies, right they need us, They constantly need us,
(22:25):
and we have to meet or support their needs. But
then as they get older, we kind of are conditioned
to do that, and so how do you start releasing
or reframing the situation so that you can also start
taking care of yourself. And I think that is really
really huge, And so I love that you work with
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women specifically to help identify these things and move them
through who they are as a person instead of as
mom or whomever else they might identify with. So that
is I just think that's really amazing.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Yeah, and if we know who we are, we can
be better who at what we're doing. And as the
kids grow up, I mean, moms who send their kids
off to kindergarten struggle because they're taking it's a transition.
You've got the kid full time, and then all of
a sudden, you've got free time. And I learned to
(23:23):
cherish that free time. What can I do? Who can
I be? What can I clean the house or you know,
work on studies or you know, I went to school
or get a part time job or go serve at
the school or whatever while they're there, because you have
this time that you've got back. Really and then when
the kids turn into teenagers and they start doing things
(23:45):
on their own, they don't need us as much in
the same way they still need us, but they don't
need us helicoptering over them. They need our influence, they
need our love, and they need our support, which looks different.
And as they become adults, they are, you know, those
teen years and adults, they're figuring out who they are
(24:07):
and they are trying to figure out life and they
need you to support them and guide them. When they're
open to that support, they're also going to be looking
elsewhere and they don't need you one hundred percent because
you know, mom and dads are quite cool enough to
give that. So you've got to have that relationship with
them so that they're looking for that support in the
right places.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Yeah. Yeah, it's definitely. I mean it's we have a
nineteen and a seven year old, so we have almost
the two different extremes and it is interesting just based
off of the needs of both of them. But I
also there's a new show called like the Parent Test.
I don't know if you've seen it or not, but yeah,
(24:51):
we started watching it and it was really interesting because
they take all these different styles of parenting and then
basically put them through challenges and all these things, and
so it was really interesting just to see the different
styles of parenting and how it can play a factor
in how your children grow, but then also how the
parents are reacting to each other and they're all learning.
(25:14):
Like that's I think that's the best part of being
a human is that we can take our experiences and
then we can learn from them and adjust and if
it doesn't make sense or it's not working, then we
can shift and we can change and we can make
it more in alignment with what we are trying to accomplish.
(25:35):
So all of those are really great things. But if
a woman is like you know, or a mom or
whomever it is, and they want to work with you,
what do you like? What does it look like working
with you?
Speaker 2 (25:51):
So I mean I can do one on one coaching
work individually and talk through these concepts and help them
come up with these values in boundaries, and we work
through limiting beliefs because we all have them as well
as relationships. And who are you hanging out with that
who's influencing your life, because that's a big part of
it too. Who are you reflecting and are they lifting
(26:14):
you up and bringing you to the person that you're
meant to be or are they holding your back? And
that could look in different ways, but sometimes it's toxic
and sometimes it's just not helpful. But I also have
a program I just released that is six weeks working
through what are your values? What is your dream? Looking
(26:36):
through the limiting beliefs and the relationships in a group setting.
And then I'll be working on making that a DIY
as well, so you can do it on your own,
just watching videos and working through projects. I also have
a book that I released last spring that's twenty activities
of working through these kinds of topics on your own.
(26:56):
You can get on Amazon or on my website if
you want to autograph copy. And then there's just different
ways of working through the same concepts of who are you,
what are you meant to do? And how can we
make that happen? My husband I work both in very
similar ways, just different with different audiences. But it's what
is your dream life? What is it that you really
(27:19):
want to be doing? What brings you that passion that
just overflows so much that you want to do it
all day long? You do it for free and make
it happen. Now, what would it take to live your
life today doing that? You know, entrepreneur, your business or whatever,
and you build your business in your life around that
(27:42):
passion so that you can enjoy the life that you
want to live today and not put that dream life off.
If you want to go travel the world, what does
that look like today? How can you make that happen
in twenty twenty three?
Speaker 1 (27:58):
And that's so I mean, all right, so anybody watching.
I did have Robert on I think last month whenever,
but so and him and I had talked a lot
about like men and men's mental health and really like
the entrepreneur and what that means really centered around mental
health in general. So if you didn't get a chance
(28:19):
and you're watching this and you want to watch Roberts,
you can watch him too. But yeah, I think what
I love about the collaboration that you guys do is
like you are focused more on women and then he
focuses I think on men or business owners in general.
But the partnership I think is really really important. And
(28:42):
being able to identify is this what you really want
to do? What is your exact purpose in life? And
now is the best time to start. Don't put it
off because you think that it's not feasible or it's
not logistic, Like what if you have a life event
that happened, right, Like, we have to take advantage of
(29:03):
the time that we have and I know that very well.
Of like, you know, am I spinning my wills over
here in this corporate job or am I going to
jump in full time and like see if it works
and if it doesn't, maybe then you pivot and you change.
But being able to work with somebody who knows how
to guide you through the process instead of having to
(29:26):
spin your wills like I felt like I did for
so many years, is really really important. So finding that
purpose now versus waiting and you know, not saying like
neither of us are saying quit your job, whatever you're doing,
let's do it on the side, right, Like there's ways
to find it outside of just eliminating what you're doing
(29:47):
currently and then maybe you move towards it.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
So, yeah, you don't throw away what you have. You've
got to build alongside to find that. And if you
don't have time today to build your dream, are you
really going to have time tomorrow? Yes, it's take advantage
and you need to be intentional about what you do
and how you do things. And if you're not intentionally
(30:14):
building your life the way you want it You're going
to get what the universe gives you.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Yes, yeah, I always I love the Tony Robbins's life
happening for you or to you, And if you think
about it in that way, it makes a lot of sense.
It's like, am I waiting for things to come to
me and allowing it to happen to me? Or am
I creating my experience and allowing life to happen for me?
(30:42):
And I think that's important for people to think about
your life.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
You've got to make those choices.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Yeah, sometimes a're not easy, but no, yeah, definitely it
could be really challenging. We're not saying this is easy
by any means, but having somebody on your side to
support you and guide you, and like you said, is
are people lifting you up? And that makes a huge difference.
At least it has in my life. And I always
(31:09):
heard the the saying like it who you surround yourself matters,
and I didn't really like as I was growing up.
It didn't click in my brain. But now that I'm
in the space that I'm in and finding that tribe
that really truly supports me and that does lift me
up no matter what's happening, has been absolutely life changing
(31:33):
for me and my business. And it is it's all
about like the they say, the like the six people
that you surround yourself with are really really important? And
are they challenging you or they bring you down? So
something to think about.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, look at you, who do you spend your time with?
If you mapped out your week, who are the top
five people that you hang around with and what influence
do they have?
Speaker 1 (32:00):
It's so important. So any tips, tricks, any other things
that you want to share.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
I mean, I'll go back to your boundaries. I was
a principal in an international school back in early two thousands,
and I would just say yes to whatever needed done.
That was the kind of person I am, like many
of us, I think, And I had a group of
teachers working with me and trying to tell me I
can say no. It's okay to say no, and it's
(32:27):
hard for us to think that, yeah, I can say no.
But then I had a speaker that year that talked
to us about saying yes to priorities. If you know
what your priorities are, if you know what your values are,
you can say yes to the kids. I can say
yes to my child instead of saying no to the
activity that comes to mind. It's what are you saying
(32:48):
yes too that matters, and your boundaries that you put
in place because you know what your purpose is. It's
not necessarily that you're saying no to somebody and you
don't want them to feel bad. They'll get over it.
They got other people they can deal with. Focus on
you and your priorities and your values and saying yes
to those and then saying that it was easier.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah, I know that this year or last year. I'm like,
what year are we in anymore? In the summer of
twenty twenty two, I released a lot of things that
were not serving me and my purpose because I was
saying yes to so many things because I was like, oh, yeah,
I'll just pile this on or pile that on, or
(33:30):
pile that on, and I wasn't doing any of them effectively.
And I really got to the point that I was like,
I have to release something, or something's going to break.
Like That's how I felt. And being able to release
those things that didn't serve me or my business or
my purpose was amazing and it has been amazing, and
(33:53):
it's created these spaces that have allowed other things to
come that do align. So I love that you said
that is being able to know your purpose. You can
say yes to the right things that align with you,
your business, what you're trying to accomplish in life, and
say no to the things that don't, and it's okay.
It's okay to say no. So love that. Well, if
(34:16):
somebody wants to work with you, how can they find you?
Speaker 2 (34:20):
So I'm on socials that into R two Peterson. I
think I just changed one of them, but I should
still find it. And my website is add Value to
Life dot com.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
Slash Women also minutes down there too, So if you
are a woman or somebody, anybody a human, she's not
going to turn your away just because you know. But
if you would like to work with Noel, you can
go to her website down here. And keep in mind
(34:52):
that having a guide or a mentor or somebody that
can help you along this journey is going to be
easier and probably less stressful than trying to just spin
your wills and figure it out yourself. So why not
have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Yeah, we didn't get this far in life alone.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
Yes, exactly. Well, thank you so much, Noel, I really,
really appreciate you being on today and being my guest.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Thank you, Kelly.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
All Right, y'all, that was another amazing episode of Mental
Health Mondays where we talk to guests who are either
professionals in the mental health space, advocates of mental health,
or those that live with or struggle with a mental
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