You were part of a recent RIF at work, and you immediately start blaming your boss for not protecting you, your toxic work environment, and the crappy job market.
Maybe you’re backing out of the parking spot at the supermarket while your son is incessantly talking at you and you don’t see the car coming down the aisle and you have to hit your brake...hard. You turn and get annoyed at your son for distracting you.
Maybe the phone rang, and it was your mother-in-law and you forgot the cookies you were baking in the oven… now they’re burnt to a crisp. You’re steaming at your mother in law.
The blame game is something many of us play. But it’s a bad habit and low-level energy that can hurt your ability to see beyond the immediate and more importantly, keep you stuck.
In this episode, we are going to unravel blame, why we blame and how choosing to react differently can give us much better results.
Why we blame:
- Humans point blame for self preservation: Our subconscious protects us from our truths, keeps our status in tact.
- Humans need to know why: Pointiing blame gives them a false understanding around why something happened.
- Humans like to live in black and white: The world is gray, everything isn’t easily put into a compartment or bucket, often things spill ove.
How to stop blaming:
- Decide you no longer want to navigate life this way.
- Bring awareness to yourself when you start blaming.
- Do a blame download. Sit down and handwrite a list of everything you blame for your situation. Then start to break out the facts from the fiction.
- Recognize it’s never one singular event that causes a situation.
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