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Studies cited
Fear of vulnerability:
YouGov. (2019). Almost one in three men feel uncomfortable discussing their emotions, YouGov survey finds. https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/2019/03/05/almost-one-three-men-feel-uncomfortable-discussing
Scher, S. J., & Mayseless, O. (2013). Intimacy and emotional expressiveness in marriage: A communication framework for individual change. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 105(4), 703–717. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0033664
Kashdan, T. B., & Roberts, J. E. (2006). Social anxiety's impact on affect, curiosity, and social self-efficacy during a high self-focus social threat situation. Cognitive Therapy and Research, 30(2), 119-141. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10608-006-9029-1
Difficulty with emotional regulation:
Jakupcak, M., Tull, M. T., McDermott, M. J., Kaysen, D. L., & Hunt, S. (2010). PTSD symptom clusters in relationship to alcohol misuse among Iraq and Afghanistan war veterans seeking postdeployment VA health care. Addictive Behaviors, 35(9), 840-843. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.addbeh.2010.04.009
American Psychological Association. (2019). Men less likely to seek mental health treatment. https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/03/datapoint
Chiesa, A., & Serretti, A. (2014). Are mindfulness-based interventions effective for substance use disorders? A systematic review of the evidence. Substance Use and Misuse, 49(5), 492-512. https://doi.org/10.3109/10826084.2013.770027
Imposter syndrome:
Sakulku, J., & Alexander, J. (2011). The impostor phenomenon. International Journal of Behavioral Science, 6(1), 73-92. https://doi.org/10.14456/ijbs.2011.6
Parkman, A., & Schwartz, B. (2013). Imposter phenomenon and achievement: A meta-analytic review. Journal of Vocational Behavior, 83(2), 168-182. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jvb.2013.04.010
Kolligian, J., & Sternberg, R. J. (1991). Perceived fraudulence in young adults: Is there an "imposter syndrome"? Journal of Personality Assessment, 56(2), 308-326. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327752jpa5602_10
Work-life balance:
Parker, K., & Patten, E. (2018). Most dads say they spend too little time with their children; about a quarter live apart from them. Pew Research Center. https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2018/06/13/most-dads-say-they-spend-too-little-time-with-their-children-about-a-quarter-live-apart-from-them/
Grzywacz, J. G., & Marks, N. F. (2000). Reconceptualizing the work–family interface: An ecological perspective on the correlates of positive and negative spillover between work and family. Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, 5(1), 111-126. https://doi.org/10.1037/1076-8998.5.1.111
National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health. (2019). Work organization and stress-related disorders. https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/docs/99-101/default.html
Eby, L. T., Casper, W. J., Lockwood, A., Bordeaux, C., & Brinley, A. (2005). Work and family research in IO/OB: Content analysis and review of the literature (1980–2002). Journal of Vocational Behavior, 66(1), 124-197. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jvb.2003.11.003
Lack of self-care:
American Psychological Association. (2018). Self-care. https://www.apa.org/topics/self-care
Osborne, J. W., & Overbay, A. (2004). The power of observation: Wellsprings of wisdom. In R. B. Miller & S. E. Schreiber (Eds.), Acceptance and mindfulness-based approaches to anxiety: Conceptualization and treatment (pp. 93-106). Springer Publishing Co. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-0-387-22473-5_5
Cockerham, W. C. (2012). Social causes of health and disease (2nd ed.). Polity Press.
Fear of vulnerability:
Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. Gotham Books.
Kashdan, T. B., & Roberts, J. E. (2006). Social anxiety's impact on affect, curiosity, and so