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Yvette Sitters (00:00):
Welcome to the
Manage my Wedding podcast, where
we believe your wedding is themost important time in your life
and you deserve to feelsupported and organised when
planning the wedding of yourdreams.
I'm your host, yvette Sidders.
Hello, welcome back to theManage my Wedding podcast.
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I am your host, yvette, andtoday I'm going to be talking
about my own wedding venue,because this week is my 10th
wedding anniversary.
We got married on the 24th ofJanuary 2014 and last week,
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after 10 years, we went back toour wedding venue and it was
absolutely incredible.
It was just beautiful and magicand, oh my gosh, I just love it
as much today as I did backthen.
I live in Queensland.
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For those of you who don't knowand might be new to the podcast,
I live on the Gold Coast insunny Queensland.
I got married in Perth, whichis like a six hour flight away.
It's the other side ofAustralia and Western Australia
and it feels like it's the otherside of earth.
I love it.
It's a beautiful place.
The water is amazing, thebeaches, everything is
incredible, but it's just.
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It is quite far and I realisethat now and all my wedding
guests travelled to come therebecause we were living there.
We fell in love there.
We wanted everyone to see howmuch we loved the place.
So, yeah, everyone travelled tocome and see us.
But, honestly, going back therewas just really magical.
Like we wandered around withthe biggest, biggest miles on
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our face.
It just felt amazing.
We parked like right down onthe street in the car park
because it's actually a privatevenue so you can't actually
we're not meant to go thereunless you are a member.
It's called the RoyalFreshwater Bay Yacht Club.
It's in Peppermint Grove inPerth and you actually can only
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have your wedding or eventsthere, if you remember.
But luckily at the time I wasworking for quite a big company
in Perth and I knew had acontact who got me in.
So that was pretty amazingbecause the venue is just
beautiful.
So we kind of snuck through thefront gate and we walked right
from like the bottom of thedriveway right up.
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We walked up the balcony that Iguess would have walked on and
around the massive balcony thatwent around our reception down
to the ceremony area.
And oh my gosh, I tell you whatit was just so nostalgic, it
truly was just amazing.
We just loved it so much.
But it was funny becauseeverything looks so much smaller
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than when we got married, likeyou know, when you are a kid,
and everything just looksmassive.
Well, it was like that andwe're like, oh, it's like
outside in the ceremony area wasso much smaller than we
remember but like maybe thetrees in that grove or whatever,
but the actual looking in atthe reception room, we couldn't
get into that because it waslocked.
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But looking into the receptionroom, we're like, oh yeah, that
still looks the same size.
That was really big.
But we had these beautiful bigbalconies that wrapped around
this reception room, which issomething we really always like
visualise for our wedding.
And when we found it, we justknew that that was our wedding
venue, because we wantedeveryone to look out at the
beautiful river that Perth hasand we just, yeah, we wanted
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everyone to have that feel andhow much we loved it.
So we were just so happy whenwe found that venue and then we
had a contact to get in there.
But, oh my gosh, it was justmagic.
I shared a really cuteInstagram reel, actually, of us
there and I showed like myhusband, james, like waiting at
the end of the aisle and then Ishowed me walking down to him.
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So I'm going to link it in theshow notes if you want to go and
have a look, because it'sreally sweet and I just I don't
know I just felt so happy there.
I really felt so happy.
That's when you know that youreally truly booked a venue that
you both loved and that wasyour love story.
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Like it really really tickedall the boxes for us.
It met all our priorities thatwe wanted for our wedding.
You know, it really really hitthe nail on it.
What I would envision was andwe could actually look back
together and still to this dayso that they say that there is
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not one thing we would havechanged, like not one thing.
But there were some things thatdid stand out to us and that we
kind of talked about as we werethere.
And one of those things whichactually I talk about in my reel
, was how hot it really was andhow hot it would have been for
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our wedding guests.
So when we were there visitinglast week it was 37 degrees and
now wedding day, I think it saidI think I remember the
temperature thing on my phonesaying it was going to be 38
that day.
But we were in wedding heaven.
The adrenaline was high, thenerves, everything.
So we didn't notice as much asthe wedding guests.
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I do remember having to likepull my wedding dress up a lot
to let like air flow, so it wasobviously hot, but for our
wedding guests it must have beenso hot, but it, like last week,
the sweat was just streamingdown us like we couldn't
actually be there too longbecause it was so hot.
But luckily on our wedding daythere was this beautiful breeze
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that came up from the water.
So that wasn't there last week.
So we're like old tick.
But I'm also so glad that thatceremony space that we booked
had lots of shady trees, so thatmade a huge difference and we
were there at about the exactsame time as what our wedding
guests would have been arrivingfor our ceremony.
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So I just stood there going, ohmy gosh, I'm so glad that there
was so much shade and weactually put two massive big
white umbrellas up for thebridal party so that they were
under shade as well.
So I highly recommend that thatis something you consider.
You know, we always talk aboutwet weather backup plans, but we
often forget to think about,you know, hot summer backup
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plans as well, or insane wind,when you really can't have your
wedding outside because it's sowindy and things like that.
So make sure you are coveringall weather backup plans.
I'll link actually in the shownotes as well, to a podcast I
did years ago where the backupplans and you can have a listen
to that.
The second thing that we noticedwas that we actually walked on
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the most unsaifest, scariestlittle skinny planks over the
water for photographs and myhusband was like James was like,
oh my gosh, look look at thoseplanks, remember those?
He goes.
I was so scared walking onthose that we're gonna fall in.
But I don't remember beingscared because I'm one of those
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people.
I'm like no, it'll be fine,let's go on it.
But when I looked at it lastweek I was like oh my gosh, that
is crazy.
You know he just wanted photoson it because it had this
beautiful scenery kind of aroundit and it was basically like
two wooden planks that was superlong that went to this like
shed over the water.
And I just think to myself, ohmy gosh, I remember nearly
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slipping actually in here andJames grabbing me just in time.
But I'm just thinking to myself.
I didn't have a second dress.
A second dress wasn't a thingback then.
So why we did that, I don'tknow, and they're not my
favorite photos.
Actually out of all of themthey're nice but they're not my
favorite.
And then none of those ones Ihave printed.
I'll make sure this weekactually I'll show you those
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photos on Instagram as well andFacebook.
The third thing was I wish thathaving someone film content was
a thing back then, and notbecause I wanted to be in my
wanted my wedding to be Instaworthy, because I didn't know.
I'm really cared back then andI still don't believe in that
now.
I've done a whole podcastepisode on that to link that in
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the show notes to.
But really for my own memories,because I know you now see, and
if some people are like what isyou know, getting content
filmed, mean there's people nowthat you can hire that basically
do like snippets of videos asyour day is kind of going and my
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gosh them.
They're so amazing.
I see them sometimes on socialmedia and they're just little
clips and the photographer stilldoing it sing and they're not
in the way, but they just get somuch behind the scenes and the
emotions and I was like, oh mygosh, I wish that was a thing
when I got married.
We didn't get a videographerbecause they are so expensive
and we spent a lot of money onour wedding, but that would have
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been an amazing option.
So do look into that andconsider it.
The fourth thing was that wetalked about was that we're so
glad that we extended for anextra hour, because you know,
most drink packages are likefive hours, but we knew everyone
had travelled so far for ourwedding and we always know at
the end of the night everyonesays, oh my gosh, that went so
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fast.
The night's over and people aredancing and having the best
time and although us as a couple, we were totally exhausted,
like exhausted, like I couldn'tactually wait for it to end, in
the end, in the last like Ireckon, half an hour, I was like
I'm done, I can't talk toanyone anymore, I'm shattered.
But all our guests were havingthe best time and I remember
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when it ended, even after theextension, my, I remember out my
parents particularly being sosad and going, oh my gosh, where
did that go?
It's what, it's already over,like they were devastated.
So I'm so glad that I did that.
I really, truly am.
The fifth thing is that I'mreally glad that we had
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everything in one space, so youknow, the ceremony and the
reception in the one venue,because we had 90% of our guests
travelling and it just madeeverything so much easier and it
just made such a hugedifference, like it really did,
and we had a bus bring themthere and a bus take them back
to the hotel and there were acouple other stops along the way
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.
But I'm just so glad that wedid that, because I just think
when you've got that many gueststravelling, it's just difficult
enough for them and costlyenough.
So, yeah, that was something wewere so glad for.
And the other thing, the lastthing I want to mention, the
sixth thing is I'm so glad thatwe did things the way we wanted.
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We didn't worry about otherpeople's opinions and thoughts
and what other people wanted,and we were very lucky we didn't
have a lot of that and it madesuch a big difference.
You know, doing what we wantedand it was a tough decision to
make everyone travel.
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That was a big decision, butI'm so glad we did because in
the end we got our dream day.
We got everything that wewished for.
Our wedding vision truly camealive.
And that to me now is just soimportant and it's why I just go
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on about it so much in all ofmy episodes.
You know, it's also why I dolessons on it in the calm bride
planner course because you knowI help couples in there come up
with how to handle thoseobjections and do those things.
Because it honestly makes thedifference to your memories.
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You know.
Honestly it just makes thebiggest difference because, like
I said, there is 10 years on.
There is still nothing we wouldchange because we did
everything the way we wanted.
It was our love story, it wasour decisions, it was our dreams
and we honestly woke up thenext day going that was the best
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day of our life.
That was the best day of ourlife.
And the other biggest thing Isaid that was my last one, but
one of the biggest things thatstood out to us and this is a
little bit different, it's moreabout marriage and not so much
about the wedding but stood outto us is that we truly married
the love of our life, that wehave loved each other so much
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for the past 10 years of ourlife and you know there's been
massive ups and downs for us,not so much in our relationship.
We've got an amazingrelationship and our
communication is beautiful, butwe've had huge ups and downs.
You know, with COVID, myhusband worked in the travel
industry, had a wedding business.
You know, we've moved intostate twice.
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We had a premature baby Likewe've had so many things happen.
We've had health scares with mydaughter.
She has a couple of thingsabout a lifelong.
You know, I've had healthscares Like we've had so many
things that life throws at you.
But honestly, they have felt soeasy to handle with the right
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person by my side and we truly,truly love each other and I
really believe that on that dayit showed, because everyone
talks about how it was the bestwedding ever.
And, yeah, they talk about allthe fun things that we organised
and all the.
You know the oyster shaka andthe ice cream van that rocked up
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and you know the fairy glow inthe dark fairy floss and all
those little things they talkabout.
But everyone always commentsabout how in love we looked and
how happy we looked and thatjust flowed through our wedding
day and we both remembered thatwhen we were at the venue.
We were just like, yeah, it's,it was.
It's really hard to put intowords, but it's really special
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and we both looked at each otherlast week at the venue and we
were just looked at each other,just going.
We just knew what we werethinking.
We're just nodding our heads,big smiles on our faces, and
just looking and feeling in loveand just going.
Wow, how amazing.
So glad we picked this venue,so glad, all the decisions that
we made, so, so glad.
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So I wanted to share that.
I really wanted to share it,and I wanted you to understand
the importance of having avision and doing what you want
for your day.
So that is it.
I hope that gives you somethingto think about.
And to my husband, if you'relistening, happy anniversary.
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I love you so, so, very much.
I'm so glad I get to do thislife with you and everyone.
Until next time, enjoy beingengaged and staying stress free
and organized while planning thewedding of your dreams.