August 19, 2025 • 17 mins
Men, are you ready to become the man you know you were meant to be? In this episode, we discuss how to transition from merely surviving to truly thriving in life as the man you want to be.
We cover a four-stage roadmap to help you achieve your goals: Surviving, Stabilizing, Rebuilding, and Thriving.
You'll learn how to address your mindset, eliminate harmful habits, develop healthy routines, build strong relationships, set and achieve goals, and deepen your faith.
00:00 The Ultimate Roadmap to Thriving
01:39 Stage 1: Surviving
04:23 Stage 2: Stabilizing
08:38 Stage 3: Rebuilding
13:22 Stage 4: Thriving
15:19 Conclusion and Community Invitation
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Don Ross (00:00):
Men, are you ready to thrive?
Is it time to finally become theman that you truly want to be?
I, I know that that's what youwant.
I know because I hear it fromyou and because this is why you
are tuning into content likethis on a channel called
something like Manhood Tribes.
You are looking for a way to beand to become the man that you
(00:22):
really do want to be.
That's great.
I'm so glad that that's what youwant, and I want to be able to
help you with that.
But I think if we're honest,most of us don't feel like we're
in that place.
We feel like we're doing more ofjust a little bit of surviving
instead of thriving.
And so today I want to try tohelp all of us, I wanna lay out
a little bit of a roadmap on howwe can go from that place of
(00:45):
just surviving and getting by toreally living and thriving as
the kind of men that we actuallywant to be.
So today here on the ManhoodTribes Channel, that's exactly
what we're gonna do.
I'm gonna give you something ofan ultimate roadmap to show you
how to move from a place ofdarkness to really, to into a
place of light and health andoverall goodness and achieving
(01:06):
things in your life that youreally do want to achieve.
Okay, so let's get into it.
First, I just wanna remind youthat here at the Manhood Tribes
Channel, my job is to try to dothree things.
I want to give you a clearvision of what it means to be a
man.
I want to give you a clearchallenge to build strong male
friendships, and I want to giveyou a clear path on how you can
(01:29):
do both.
And so really here today, we'regonna talk about that third
thing, a clear path towards thethings that you want to actually
be and do as a man.
Okay?
Let's get into it.
I am gonna talk about it interms of four different stages,
and the first stage is what I'llcall the surviving stage.
You're really just kind ofgetting by.
(01:49):
You're doing your best to sortof hang in there, but life is
not feeling like you want it tofeel, and it's not moving in the
direction that you want it tomove in.
You are just barely hanging onand just making it from day to
day, from paycheck to paycheck,from one moment to the next
because.
Things just feel difficult.
Maybe they even feel out ofcontrol, but whatever the
(02:11):
feeling is exactly for you, yyou know, your life isn't what
you want it to be, and you'reready for it to move in a
different direction.
So what do you do when you'restarting kind of from scratch
when you're starting at rockbottom and you need to be able
to find a way out.
The first thing you wanna try toaddress in this surviving stage
is your mindset, and inparticular, the lies that you
(02:34):
probably are believing aboutyourself and about your life.
Because you're in this place, Iwant you to go back and watch
episode 12 here on the channel,which will help you deal with
confronting the lies in yourlife.
You need to identify these liesthat you're believing and how
you can confront them with sometruth so that you can start
adjusting your mindset.
(02:56):
You can start really payingattention to the things that
matter and believing the thingsabout yourself and about life
that actually are correct.
Otherwise, you're going to bestuck here at the bottom of the
drain for a while.
You need to confront those liesand help you get into a better
mental space so that you canmove in the right direction.
The second thing you need to doin this surviving area is that
(03:19):
you need to actually address thevices in your life that are kind
of keeping you stuck in thisbottom place.
Okay?
So I want you to also go backand watch episode 41 where I
talk about some of the crutchesthat we as men tend to use for
coping, the things that we tryto use to avoid the pain in our
life, guys.
It's time to be done with thosethings, whether it's porn,
(03:42):
whether it's weed, whether it'sworkaholism, whether it's video
games, whatever it is for you.
And it's a bunch of differentthings for different men, and
that's okay, but it's time toactually address it in a way
that you can move away from it.
It's time to get some freedomfrom those areas so that you can
start moving towards things thatare gonna be bring real good and
(04:03):
real value into your life.
Okay, so in this survivingstage, those are the couple
things that you need to try toaddress so that you can start
moving away from the bottom ofthe drain.
You gotta get your mind rightand you gotta get some of your
behaviors and your habits movingin the right direction so that
you can take some steps awayfrom this surviving stage.
(04:23):
All right.
The second stage that we'regonna talk about is what I'll
call the stabilizing stage.
This is where you just sort ofstart to get your life to a
healthy baseline.
You're trying to get yourrhythms.
Moving in the right direction.
You're trying to get yourrelationships a little more
healthy and you're just tryingto, again, stabilize things.
(04:43):
You're trying to get to ahealthy baseline.
So let's talk about rhythms.
We've talked about that somebefore here on the channel, but
what you want to try to do isjust develop good.
Daily habits.
You need to be getting eighthours of sleep a night.
You need to mostly be going tobed and waking up at the same
time every day.
You need to be limiting theamount of technology that you're
(05:03):
exposed to, especially firstthing in the morning and last
thing in the evening.
Take a break from that dangphone.
It doesn't need to dominate yourlife the way that you let it.
So set it aside.
Develop some healthy boundariesand some healthy rhythms in
terms of the way that you usetechnology.
Develop your healthy habitsaround food and fitness.
(05:25):
What is it that you're eating?
How can you start, whether it'stracking your calories or just
measuring your intake in someother way.
How can you help get yourself toa place of eating the things
that are actually going toempower you to be the kind of
man that you want to be and notjust.
Fuel your negative emotionsbecause you're sad or lonely or
(05:45):
frustrated or just bored.
And you, what you go to as yourbyproduct of boredom is food.
Okay?
It is time to lay that aside anddevelop some healthy habits
around food and around fitness.
If you don't go to the gymregularly, well that's okay if
you're doing something else tobe able to maintain a fit and
healthy lifestyle, but you needto be doing something.
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One of the five marks ofmanhood.
And especially kind of the coreof what it means to be a man is
this mark of strength.
Men's bodies are meant to bestrong.
You need to be developingyourself physically.
You need to be challengingyourself to be stronger and
healthier than you have been.
This is how you move towards ahealthy baseline.
(06:28):
All right.
So getting some of those rhythmsin place will help you be able
to do that well.
You also need to get yourrelationships to a healthy
baseline in this stage as well.
So whether that's your familyrelationships, which are
probably your most importantrelationships, your wife, your
kids, if you have them.
Or if you're single and you'rewanting to move towards those
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kinds of relationships, what doyou need to do to do that?
What do you need to do to startmoving towards a woman who you
could see her being a long-termpartner for you?
What do you need to do toactually approach the idea of
marriage?
If you've been dating for awhile and you're not sure if
you're the kind of guy who couldactually be married, how do you
become that?
You need to start moving towardsthat as your healthy baseline.
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But, and maybe most importantly,for all of us as men, you need
to be getting some healthy andstrong male friendships in your
life, okay?
I say it over and over on thischannel, you are not going to
become the kind of man that youwant to be without strong male
friendships in your life.
It is time to start putting someenergy into developing those
(07:34):
male friendships.
All right.
I've talked on multiple episodeson this channel before about how
to do that.
In fact, I did a whole series ondeveloping strong male
friendships.
So go back and watch.
That series that will help youfigure out what you need to do
to develop those friendships nomatter what stage you're in.
If you have no friends at all,and you need to figure out how
(07:54):
you can get outta your house andstart getting around some guys,
I talk about that.
If you want to talk about how tobe able to take your current guy
friendships.
To a deeper and more significantstage of friendships so that
those friendships are pushingyou to be the kind of man you
want to be.
I talk about some of that aswell.
If you want to talk about how tobring your friends together into
something of a tribe so thatyou're doing those kinds of
(08:16):
things together as a group, Italk about that as well.
Go back and watch those episodesas a way to help you figure out
how do you develop the kinds offriendships that you need to
have as a man.
Okay, so this is the stabilizingstage, and this is how you get
to a healthy baseline.
You're creating the things inyour life that are gonna help
you get to where you want to go.
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I.
The third stage is therebuilding stage.
This is when you're actuallystarting to put some scaffolding
in place to start building thekind of life that you really do
want to have.
Stage two is probably more aboutbuilding the foundation.
Stage three is when we'reactually gonna start putting
together the building that youwant to see.
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That is the kind of life thatyou want to be living.
And so this is where you need tostart doing some things like
setting goals.
It's time to actually figure outwhere are the places where I
want to be succeeding?
Where do I want to actuallyachieve some things in my life?
Maybe that's relational goals.
Maybe that's career andfinancial goals.
(09:19):
Maybe that's friendship goals.
Maybe that's retirement goals.
Maybe you, you name it, whateveryour goals actually are.
Those are okay things, but it'stime to begin putting those
things into place and writingthem down, put them on paper,
and don't just set long-termgoals.
Set short-term goals as well.
So maybe you've got a goal aboutyour health and fitness, where
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you want to get to a certainbody path.
Body fat percentage and to beable to see your abs.
Okay, great.
That's a common goal for a wholelot of guys.
That's no problem, but you'renot going to accomplish that
overnight.
So what are you gonna do in theshort term?
How are you gonna set someattainable goals that are gonna
help you be able to get there?
Can you change what your food?
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Patterns look like.
Can you increase what you'redoing in terms of exercise or
just change up the way that youexercise so that you're helping
yourself be able to get to thosegoals?
Here is where you start reallybuilding into those kinds of
things that make a difference inyour life for the long haul.
You also want to start taking alook at some of the things that
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really matter more in your lifethan just some of those baseline
things.
So this is where it's time tolook at those marks of manhood
of things like honor andallegiance.
To what extent are you being akind of man who is honorable?
Are you living the way that thegroup of men around you would
encourage you to live?
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Are you upholding the sharedvalues of that group and are the
shared values of that group thekind of values that you want to
prioritize?
If not, maybe it's time to getsome new friends.
The point is, are you being aman of honor?
Are you living in such a waythat you are upholding the
values of your peers, of the menaround you so that you can be
worthy of honor and that you canhonor them as well?
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Allegiance, especially when itcomes to ultimate allegiance.
It's time to really take a lookat your faith.
What are you doing in terms ofyour relationship with God?
Are you following God in the waythat you actually want to?
For a lot of men, I know thatfaith can tend to be a back
burner issue.
It becomes that thing that yousort of put off and put off and,
(11:27):
oh, I'll get to it.
But you know, I've got my careerto have to focus on and I've got
my family that I've gotta takecare of and.
You know, finances need to getan order and we're planning for
retirement.
And, you know, all of thosethings can feel like they are
bigger priorities, or at leastthey're more urgent than dealing
with your faith.
But your faith is going to bethe thing that all of those
other things begin to orbitaround when you get your faith
(11:51):
right, all of those otherpriorities start to take their
appropriate place in your right,in your life, and you get them.
Aligned correctly, and you startactually succeeding in those
places because you know what thegoals are.
It's not just about giving timeand energy to your finances or
time and energy to your familyrelationships or time and energy
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to your career.
You start to have purpose.
Those things because your faithis what becomes your grounding
center, and it gives purpose toall of those other things.
How much time and energy shouldyou be spending on your career?
Your faith will help you figurethat out because God will help
give you a centering place and apurpose for your career.
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Why are you working?
Is it because you really lovethe thing that you're doing?
Is it because you're makingmoney that you can invest in
other things?
Is it because the differencethat you're making in the world
is something that you reallywant to do?
Or maybe are you in the wrongjob altogether?
Is the purpose of what you'redoing not lined up with any of
those kinds of things?
Only your faith is going to beable to help you.
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Understand that kind of purposein your life, for your career,
for your family, for yourfinances, for your health, for
every area of your life.
So it's time to focus on yourfaith, get right in your
relationship with God.
Find other men around you whoare going to prioritize the same
thing and hold each otheraccountable to growing in your
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faith of God.
Alright, so that's the thirdstage, the rebuilding stage.
And now the fourth stage is thethriving stage.
This is when things really beginto fire on all cylinders.
It's when you start to see allthose goals begin to pay off.
You've got some structure inplace in your life that is
helping you stay.
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Keeping on in the rightdirection, and you've got the
relationships in your life thatare helping you enjoy the life
that you have and encourage youto continue getting better.
Now, this is what a lot of guyswould call rarefied air, right?
This is the place that.
All of us want to be, but I hopeyou can see that it doesn't
happen overnight and it doesn'thappen without a lot of other
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things in place.
I'll be honest, I don't feellike I'm in this stage yet.
I feel like I'm probably instage three trying to help all
of us be able to move towardsthat direction of being in stage
four.
I would like to be thriving.
But I know that I've got somework to do when it comes to
continuing to set the kinds ofgoals that I want to accomplish
and building the things in placethat are gonna help me
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accomplish them.
Okay, so I wanna encourage youto do those same things as well
so that you can move on to thatstage four, that you can get to
that place of thriving where youfeel like you have the things in
place in your life to help youactually enjoy the life that you
are living, to being the kind ofman that you truly want to be,
and to seeing your life countfor the things that you want it
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to count for.
Joy comes when you feel like youare living out your purpose and
you're able to see the fruit ofdoing that.
This isn't about living aperfect life because that's not
a thing.
No man lives a perfect life, butit is about making progress.
With purpose.
And as you begin to build thoseright relationships and those
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right rhythms and those goalsand your faith and all of those
things start to align, that'swhen you get to a sense of,
yeah, I am becoming and I ambeing the man that I truly want
to be.
I hope this roadmap has been ofsome help to you and that you've
got some ideas of things thatyou want to do to help yourself
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move from surviving to thriving.
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Other guys with this kind ofcontent.
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This is a season where men arestruggling and we will struggle
(15:47):
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Yes, that will help me, butmostly you're helping other men
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If you're wanting to get betterat being a man, if you're
wanting to get better in yourrelationship with Jesus, and if
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Are able to launch it and thereare some spots that open up.
I hope that you'll do thatbecause I would love to connect
with you inside our ManhoodTribes community.
I wanna leave you in this videoby encouraging you to comment
below.
Just say, what is one area whereyou are wanting to grow and get
better as a man?
What's one area that you want totry to improve at as a man, I
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can't wait to read your commentsand to engage with you there,
and I look forward to seeing younext time right here on the
Manhood Tribes Channel.
I'll see you then.
Men, are you ready to thrive?
Is it time to finally become theman that you truly want to be?
I, I know that that's what youwant.
I know because I hear it fromyou and because this is why you
are tuning into content likethis on a channel called
something like Manhood Tribes.
You are looking for a way to beand to become the man that you
(00:22):
really do want to be.
That's great.
I'm so glad that that's what youwant, and I want to be able to
help you with that.
But I think if we're honest,most of us don't feel like we're
in that place.
We feel like we're doing more ofjust a little bit of surviving
instead of thriving.
And so today I want to try tohelp all of us, I wanna lay out
a little bit of a roadmap on howwe can go from that place of
(00:45):
just surviving and getting by toreally living and thriving as
the kind of men that we actuallywant to be.
So today here on the ManhoodTribes Channel, that's exactly
what we're gonna do.
I'm gonna give you something ofan ultimate roadmap to show you
how to move from a place ofdarkness to really, to into a
place of light and health andoverall goodness and achieving
(01:06):
things in your life that youreally do want to achieve.
Okay, so let's get into it.
First, I just wanna remind youthat here at the Manhood Tribes
Channel, my job is to try to dothree things.
I want to give you a clearvision of what it means to be a
man.
I want to give you a clearchallenge to build strong male
friendships, and I want to giveyou a clear path on how you can
(01:29):
do both.
And so really here today, we'regonna talk about that third
thing, a clear path towards thethings that you want to actually
be and do as a man.
Okay?
Let's get into it.
I am gonna talk about it interms of four different stages,
and the first stage is what I'llcall the surviving stage.
You're really just kind ofgetting by.
(01:49):
You're doing your best to sortof hang in there, but life is
not feeling like you want it tofeel, and it's not moving in the
direction that you want it tomove in.
You are just barely hanging onand just making it from day to
day, from paycheck to paycheck,from one moment to the next
because.
Things just feel difficult.
Maybe they even feel out ofcontrol, but whatever the
(02:11):
feeling is exactly for you, yyou know, your life isn't what
you want it to be, and you'reready for it to move in a
different direction.
So what do you do when you'restarting kind of from scratch
when you're starting at rockbottom and you need to be able
to find a way out.
The first thing you wanna try toaddress in this surviving stage
is your mindset, and inparticular, the lies that you
(02:34):
probably are believing aboutyourself and about your life.
Because you're in this place, Iwant you to go back and watch
episode 12 here on the channel,which will help you deal with
confronting the lies in yourlife.
You need to identify these liesthat you're believing and how
you can confront them with sometruth so that you can start
adjusting your mindset.
(02:56):
You can start really payingattention to the things that
matter and believing the thingsabout yourself and about life
that actually are correct.
Otherwise, you're going to bestuck here at the bottom of the
drain for a while.
You need to confront those liesand help you get into a better
mental space so that you canmove in the right direction.
The second thing you need to doin this surviving area is that
(03:19):
you need to actually address thevices in your life that are kind
of keeping you stuck in thisbottom place.
Okay?
So I want you to also go backand watch episode 41 where I
talk about some of the crutchesthat we as men tend to use for
coping, the things that we tryto use to avoid the pain in our
life, guys.
It's time to be done with thosethings, whether it's porn,
(03:42):
whether it's weed, whether it'sworkaholism, whether it's video
games, whatever it is for you.
And it's a bunch of differentthings for different men, and
that's okay, but it's time toactually address it in a way
that you can move away from it.
It's time to get some freedomfrom those areas so that you can
start moving towards things thatare gonna be bring real good and
(04:03):
real value into your life.
Okay, so in this survivingstage, those are the couple
things that you need to try toaddress so that you can start
moving away from the bottom ofthe drain.
You gotta get your mind rightand you gotta get some of your
behaviors and your habits movingin the right direction so that
you can take some steps awayfrom this surviving stage.
(04:23):
All right.
The second stage that we'regonna talk about is what I'll
call the stabilizing stage.
This is where you just sort ofstart to get your life to a
healthy baseline.
You're trying to get yourrhythms.
Moving in the right direction.
You're trying to get yourrelationships a little more
healthy and you're just tryingto, again, stabilize things.
(04:43):
You're trying to get to ahealthy baseline.
So let's talk about rhythms.
We've talked about that somebefore here on the channel, but
what you want to try to do isjust develop good.
Daily habits.
You need to be getting eighthours of sleep a night.
You need to mostly be going tobed and waking up at the same
time every day.
You need to be limiting theamount of technology that you're
(05:03):
exposed to, especially firstthing in the morning and last
thing in the evening.
Take a break from that dangphone.
It doesn't need to dominate yourlife the way that you let it.
So set it aside.
Develop some healthy boundariesand some healthy rhythms in
terms of the way that you usetechnology.
Develop your healthy habitsaround food and fitness.
(05:25):
What is it that you're eating?
How can you start, whether it'stracking your calories or just
measuring your intake in someother way.
How can you help get yourself toa place of eating the things
that are actually going toempower you to be the kind of
man that you want to be and notjust.
Fuel your negative emotionsbecause you're sad or lonely or
(05:45):
frustrated or just bored.
And you, what you go to as yourbyproduct of boredom is food.
Okay?
It is time to lay that aside anddevelop some healthy habits
around food and around fitness.
If you don't go to the gymregularly, well that's okay if
you're doing something else tobe able to maintain a fit and
healthy lifestyle, but you needto be doing something.
(06:07):
One of the five marks ofmanhood.
And especially kind of the coreof what it means to be a man is
this mark of strength.
Men's bodies are meant to bestrong.
You need to be developingyourself physically.
You need to be challengingyourself to be stronger and
healthier than you have been.
This is how you move towards ahealthy baseline.
(06:28):
All right.
So getting some of those rhythmsin place will help you be able
to do that well.
You also need to get yourrelationships to a healthy
baseline in this stage as well.
So whether that's your familyrelationships, which are
probably your most importantrelationships, your wife, your
kids, if you have them.
Or if you're single and you'rewanting to move towards those
(06:49):
kinds of relationships, what doyou need to do to do that?
What do you need to do to startmoving towards a woman who you
could see her being a long-termpartner for you?
What do you need to do toactually approach the idea of
marriage?
If you've been dating for awhile and you're not sure if
you're the kind of guy who couldactually be married, how do you
become that?
You need to start moving towardsthat as your healthy baseline.
(07:13):
But, and maybe most importantly,for all of us as men, you need
to be getting some healthy andstrong male friendships in your
life, okay?
I say it over and over on thischannel, you are not going to
become the kind of man that youwant to be without strong male
friendships in your life.
It is time to start putting someenergy into developing those
(07:34):
male friendships.
All right.
I've talked on multiple episodeson this channel before about how
to do that.
In fact, I did a whole series ondeveloping strong male
friendships.
So go back and watch.
That series that will help youfigure out what you need to do
to develop those friendships nomatter what stage you're in.
If you have no friends at all,and you need to figure out how
(07:54):
you can get outta your house andstart getting around some guys,
I talk about that.
If you want to talk about how tobe able to take your current guy
friendships.
To a deeper and more significantstage of friendships so that
those friendships are pushingyou to be the kind of man you
want to be.
I talk about some of that aswell.
If you want to talk about how tobring your friends together into
something of a tribe so thatyou're doing those kinds of
(08:16):
things together as a group, Italk about that as well.
Go back and watch those episodesas a way to help you figure out
how do you develop the kinds offriendships that you need to
have as a man.
Okay, so this is the stabilizingstage, and this is how you get
to a healthy baseline.
You're creating the things inyour life that are gonna help
you get to where you want to go.
(08:38):
I.
The third stage is therebuilding stage.
This is when you're actuallystarting to put some scaffolding
in place to start building thekind of life that you really do
want to have.
Stage two is probably more aboutbuilding the foundation.
Stage three is when we'reactually gonna start putting
together the building that youwant to see.
(08:58):
That is the kind of life thatyou want to be living.
And so this is where you need tostart doing some things like
setting goals.
It's time to actually figure outwhere are the places where I
want to be succeeding?
Where do I want to actuallyachieve some things in my life?
Maybe that's relational goals.
Maybe that's career andfinancial goals.
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Maybe that's friendship goals.
Maybe that's retirement goals.
Maybe you, you name it, whateveryour goals actually are.
Those are okay things, but it'stime to begin putting those
things into place and writingthem down, put them on paper,
and don't just set long-termgoals.
Set short-term goals as well.
So maybe you've got a goal aboutyour health and fitness, where
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you want to get to a certainbody path.
Body fat percentage and to beable to see your abs.
Okay, great.
That's a common goal for a wholelot of guys.
That's no problem, but you'renot going to accomplish that
overnight.
So what are you gonna do in theshort term?
How are you gonna set someattainable goals that are gonna
help you be able to get there?
Can you change what your food?
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Patterns look like.
Can you increase what you'redoing in terms of exercise or
just change up the way that youexercise so that you're helping
yourself be able to get to thosegoals?
Here is where you start reallybuilding into those kinds of
things that make a difference inyour life for the long haul.
You also want to start taking alook at some of the things that
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really matter more in your lifethan just some of those baseline
things.
So this is where it's time tolook at those marks of manhood
of things like honor andallegiance.
To what extent are you being akind of man who is honorable?
Are you living the way that thegroup of men around you would
encourage you to live?
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Are you upholding the sharedvalues of that group and are the
shared values of that group thekind of values that you want to
prioritize?
If not, maybe it's time to getsome new friends.
The point is, are you being aman of honor?
Are you living in such a waythat you are upholding the
values of your peers, of the menaround you so that you can be
worthy of honor and that you canhonor them as well?
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Allegiance, especially when itcomes to ultimate allegiance.
It's time to really take a lookat your faith.
What are you doing in terms ofyour relationship with God?
Are you following God in the waythat you actually want to?
For a lot of men, I know thatfaith can tend to be a back
burner issue.
It becomes that thing that yousort of put off and put off and,
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oh, I'll get to it.
But you know, I've got my careerto have to focus on and I've got
my family that I've gotta takecare of and.
You know, finances need to getan order and we're planning for
retirement.
And, you know, all of thosethings can feel like they are
bigger priorities, or at leastthey're more urgent than dealing
with your faith.
But your faith is going to bethe thing that all of those
other things begin to orbitaround when you get your faith
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right, all of those otherpriorities start to take their
appropriate place in your right,in your life, and you get them.
Aligned correctly, and you startactually succeeding in those
places because you know what thegoals are.
It's not just about giving timeand energy to your finances or
time and energy to your familyrelationships or time and energy
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to your career.
You start to have purpose.
Those things because your faithis what becomes your grounding
center, and it gives purpose toall of those other things.
How much time and energy shouldyou be spending on your career?
Your faith will help you figurethat out because God will help
give you a centering place and apurpose for your career.
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Why are you working?
Is it because you really lovethe thing that you're doing?
Is it because you're makingmoney that you can invest in
other things?
Is it because the differencethat you're making in the world
is something that you reallywant to do?
Or maybe are you in the wrongjob altogether?
Is the purpose of what you'redoing not lined up with any of
those kinds of things?
Only your faith is going to beable to help you.
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Understand that kind of purposein your life, for your career,
for your family, for yourfinances, for your health, for
every area of your life.
So it's time to focus on yourfaith, get right in your
relationship with God.
Find other men around you whoare going to prioritize the same
thing and hold each otheraccountable to growing in your
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faith of God.
Alright, so that's the thirdstage, the rebuilding stage.
And now the fourth stage is thethriving stage.
This is when things really beginto fire on all cylinders.
It's when you start to see allthose goals begin to pay off.
You've got some structure inplace in your life that is
helping you stay.
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Keeping on in the rightdirection, and you've got the
relationships in your life thatare helping you enjoy the life
that you have and encourage youto continue getting better.
Now, this is what a lot of guyswould call rarefied air, right?
This is the place that.
All of us want to be, but I hopeyou can see that it doesn't
happen overnight and it doesn'thappen without a lot of other
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things in place.
I'll be honest, I don't feellike I'm in this stage yet.
I feel like I'm probably instage three trying to help all
of us be able to move towardsthat direction of being in stage
four.
I would like to be thriving.
But I know that I've got somework to do when it comes to
continuing to set the kinds ofgoals that I want to accomplish
and building the things in placethat are gonna help me
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accomplish them.
Okay, so I wanna encourage youto do those same things as well
so that you can move on to thatstage four, that you can get to
that place of thriving where youfeel like you have the things in
place in your life to help youactually enjoy the life that you
are living, to being the kind ofman that you truly want to be,
and to seeing your life countfor the things that you want it
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to count for.
Joy comes when you feel like youare living out your purpose and
you're able to see the fruit ofdoing that.
This isn't about living aperfect life because that's not
a thing.
No man lives a perfect life, butit is about making progress.
With purpose.
And as you begin to build thoseright relationships and those
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right rhythms and those goalsand your faith and all of those
things start to align, that'swhen you get to a sense of,
yeah, I am becoming and I ambeing the man that I truly want
to be.
I hope this roadmap has been ofsome help to you and that you've
got some ideas of things thatyou want to do to help yourself
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move from surviving to thriving.
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Guys, we need to be helping eachother out right now.
This is a season where men arestruggling and we will struggle
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Just say, what is one area whereyou are wanting to grow and get
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