December 2, 2025 • 14 mins
Struggling to find the *perfect Christmas gift* for your wife or girlfriend? You’re not alone. In this episode, Don shares how to take the stress out of holiday shopping and actually give her something that makes her feel seen, loved, and appreciated.
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00:00 Introduction: The Christmas Gift Dilemma
00:50 Understanding the Holiday Stress for Men
01:45 The Key to Picking the Perfect Gift
04:40 Common Gift Mistakes and Lessons Learned
08:11 Crafting Meaningful and Thoughtful Gifts
12:46 Visualizing the Perfect Christmas Morning
14:19 Conclusion and Next Steps
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Don Ross (00:01):
All right men.
It's Christmas time, and youknow what that means?
Time to pick out the perfectgift for your wife or
girlfriend.
And I know you just can't wait.
If you're like most men, youfeel trapped.
Let's be honest.
Trying to pick out the perfectgift can feel like there's just
no right answer, and you'reinevitably gonna do something
(00:23):
that's going to upset her,disappoint her, frustrate her,
or just leave her feelingdisappointed, none of which is
what you want to happen onChristmas.
So today here on the ManhoodTribe Show, let's try to solve
that problem.
Let's see if we can figure outhow to be able to pick out the
perfect gift for your wife orgirlfriend this Christmas.
(00:45):
My name's Don.
I'm the host here on the ManhoodTribe Show, and I'm so glad that
you're joining us.
We are now kicking off kind of anew little mini series here that
we're gonna do for the holidaysto help you as a man navigate
some of the stress points, thepain points of the holiday
season.
Getting through Christmas as aman can actually feel a lot more
(01:05):
stressful than I think.
We as men tend to give ourselvescredit for.
We tend to think about theChristmas holidays as being
something that is more homecentered, and so often that
tends to fall on the shouldersof our wives or girlfriends.
And so the planning, thefestivities, the activities, the
stuff that we do with ourfamilies, a lot of that can seem
like that's kind of left up toour wives and kids, but.
(01:27):
At the same time, we as menstill have things that we have
to be responsible for duringthis season, and those things
can be more stressful at timesthan we give them credit for.
So we wanna try to deal withthat in some of this series.
And of course, at the top of thelist is trying to pick out the
perfect gift for your wife orgirlfriend.
So today what I want us to tryto do is to really dive into
(01:49):
that topic and to give you sometips and some guidance on what
it looks like to be able to dothat well.
Because what all of us want isfor that special lady in our
lives to be up on Christmas andto open up a gift from us and to
feel like.
We've done it, that we nailedit, that she not only loves the
(02:10):
gift, but she feels loved by usbecause of what we got her and
how we thought of her.
That's what we're after onChristmas morning, and if we can
nail that emotion, then we knowwe've gotten just the right
gift.
So that's what we're gonna tryto do.
But uh, we all know that it'smuch harder than it sounds to be
(02:30):
able to do that, right?
I mean, the idea of trying topick out something just feels
like this never ending maze orpuzzle of what on earth do I get
her?
Maybe you've failed more timesthan you can count, uh, for
having to pick out somethingthat just doesn't go well at
all.
Or maybe you've gotten it righton occasion and it feels now
(02:51):
like you've got this.
Pressure of having to do itright every time.
It's like it kind of feels likethe game of golf, right?
It's like you can get one goodshot every few holes, and then
you feel like you're supposed toget a good one every time you
tee it up.
And of course we all know itnever happens that way.
So there's all this pressure forus as guys to have to try to
figure it out and to get itright.
I want to alleviate thepressure, but the way that we're
(03:13):
gonna try to alleviate thepressure is not by telling you
what.
Gift to buy, but by trying togive you the framework for how
to think about how to get herjust the right gift.
So the problem that we guys tendto face is that we think there
is this like magical gift outthere that if we just get her
the gift that everybody seems towant this season or that all the
(03:37):
other women are interested in,that she's just gonna be head
over heels because we gotexactly the right thing at
exactly the right time.
But for the most part, womenaren't wired that way.
Now Sure.
A nice gift and especially atrendy or popular gift can go a
long way at times.
But what most women really wantis something that makes them
feel thought of.
(03:58):
They want something that theycan tell that you not only put
thought into it, but you thoughtespecially of her, that you
noticed her and her life and thethings that are special to her
and that matter to her, and yougot a gift that reflects that.
You got a gift that has.
Meaning you got a gift thatcommunicates love and that is
(04:21):
really the kind of gift that awoman is looking for.
It doesn't have to beextravagant or expensive or even
over the top in some way.
It just needs to be thoughtfulin a way that communicates to
her.
I see you and I love you.
So how do we go after that?
Well, let me give you someexamples of ways that I've tried
(04:42):
to do it and have not beensuccessful.
Okay.
So I have just kind of come tothe conclusion that I should
never buy my wife clothing orjewelry for Christmas unless
it's something that shespecifically picks out and tells
me to get her right, becauseI've just kind of noticed that
like what I think is her taste.
Isn't actually her taste ormight have been a taste, her
(05:03):
taste a while ago, but isn't hertaste anymore.
And so when it comes to pickingout clothing and jewelry, I, I
tend to miss more than I get itright.
And that's usually just becauseI'm, again, trying to go off of
trends and maybe I'm trying tonotice what she likes, but her
tastes are particular to her andthey can change a lot.
So trying to get that.
(05:25):
Right becomes really, reallydifficult when she might be the
only one who really knows whatshe actually likes when it comes
to clothing and jewelry in thatmoment and trying to, you know,
hit the bullseye on that target,which is a moving target from
year to year, is really, reallyhard to do.
And more often than not, shewould honestly just rather go
pick those things out for her,for herself.
(05:47):
So, uh, when I've bought her ashirt that she opened up and,
uh, she kind of just gave thatlook of like, thank you and I
can tell, and you can tell too,right?
Uh, it's not exactly what shewanted.
It's gonna get returned, which,hey, that's okay.
You know, like there is sometruth to the idea that it's the
thought that counts.
(06:07):
You really did think of her.
You tried to get her somethingthat you thought that she was
gonna like, that does matter.
That does feel special toanybody.
But we want to do better thanthat, right?
So instead of spending money ona lot of clothes or jewelry that
I'm uncertain as to whether ornot she's gonna get one time.
I really did get it right and itwasn't about trying to get
(06:27):
something over the top orexpensive.
It was just about getting somelittle things that actually
showed that I saw her and Ireally cared about her.
She was starting a new job and.
Didn't have anything really tobe able to put on her desk.
And so I went and got her just afew kind of little small
trinkets.
I got her, uh, some pens thatlooked like pink flamingos,
which are one of her favoriteanimals.
(06:49):
And I got her a little, uh,plant holder that looked like a
zebra because that's also one ofher favorite animals.
And I got her.
Pink frilly cushion to go in herdesk chair, which was probably
gonna be bland and black orgray, you know, not at all.
The colorful personality thatshe is and something pink and
frilly seemed like her, and sheloved those things.
(07:10):
She thought it was great, andshe thought it was great.
Not again, not because I spent alot of money, because I went
over the top, but because theywere gifts that said, I know
you.
I see you.
There were things that wereparticular to her and they felt
special to her.
They were things that she likedand that I knew that she liked
(07:30):
and probably that maybe otherpeople wouldn't have known that
she liked.
And so because I knew thosethings, it felt really special
and it felt really.
Sensitive to the moment of like,yeah, those were things that she
maybe didn't just need butvalued being able to have
because it made her desk feelspecial and it made it feel like
her.
And so they were real treats toher.
(07:53):
Maybe not even things that shewould've bought for herself, but
because I bought them for her,they felt very meaningful and
she felt very loved.
That's the kind of gift that youwant to go for, something that
communicates, I see you, I thinkyou're special.
I care about you and I know thethings that you care about.
So how do you do that?
(08:13):
How do you pick out that kind ofa gift for your wife or
girlfriend?
First thing lemme say is listento her life, not just to her
words.
Yes, it's okay for you to askher.
Hey babe, what would you wantfor Christmas this year?
It's always okay to get someideas and I recommend.
Buying her a thing or two thatshe specifically asks for, just
(08:34):
as a way of being able toappreciate and enjoy her and let
her know that you honestly canfollow through on the things
that she asks you to do.
But more importantly is to justpay attention to the things
going on in her world.
What kind of hobbies is sheinterested in?
What is she spending her freetime doing?
Where are the places that shelikes to go?
(08:55):
What are the activities that sheenjoys doing?
What are the.
TV shows or the music that shelikes engaging in, pay attention
to all of those kinds of littlethings because you probably can
build off of one of those thingsas a way of being able to get
something that's meaningful toher.
Maybe she has a.
(09:16):
Particular coffee shop that shelikes to go to, but only gets to
go to on occasion.
What if you got her some coffeefrom that coffee shop?
And maybe even like if you knowwhat her favorite kind of coffee
from that coffee shop is?
Maybe you could get that inparticular.
Maybe she's got a restaurantthat she would really like to go
to, but has kind of been on herlist for a long time, but the
(09:38):
two of you have never been ableto make it.
What if you get a gift card andplan a date night to that
particular restaurant?
Something like that communicatesto her.
Oh yeah, I've, I've been payingattention.
I know the things that you'reinterested in, and even though
you maybe didn't ask for this, Iknew that you probably wanted
it.
That's the kind of gift thatsays to your wife, I love you.
(09:59):
It is also okay to mix somethingpractical with something
personal.
So like take the coffee examplethat I just gave.
Maybe that might seem like toosimple of a gift for you.
So, okay.
Buyer, some coffee that comesfrom that coffee shop.
But then also write her ahandwritten note about how much
you appreciate her and how youwant to make sure, sure, that
she's able to carve out sometime just for her to be able to
(10:22):
go to a favorite place and thatyou know that she finds that fun
and enjoyable and life-givingfor her, and you want her to be
able to do the things that arelife-giving for her.
Okay?
That kind of handwritten noteautomatically becomes special
and attentive and takes thatgift.
Up another level.
It makes it not just kind of anafterthought gift, but like I
(10:44):
really put some special thoughtinto this gift and I want you to
have it.
You might also think about howyou can craft an experience.
So again, going with the coffeeshop idea, maybe you buy her
some coffee from that coffeeshop, but maybe you also get a
gift card to that coffee shopand say, Hey, I want us to plan
a date night where we get.
(11:04):
To go to this together and I'vearranged for babysitting for the
kids.
If you have kids and you'vecreated a whole little special
date opportunity for that, maybeif she likes to read, you buy
her a book and the two of youcan take a book together and
just go spend some time readingat her favorite coffee shop.
Now all of a sudden, you'vecreated something that's really
(11:24):
built around her.
Things that she enjoys and sheenjoys being able to do those
things with you as well.
And now you've created anexperience for the two of you
that says, not only did I getyou something meaningful, but I
actually really enjoy you as aperson and I enjoy doing things
with you that you like to do.
Oh wow.
(11:44):
Now you're like, you're firingon all cylinders.
You are ticking all the boxes.
Right.
For really helping her feelknown.
Seen, valued, and loved.
Those are the kinds of thingsthat you want to be able to get
your wife or your girlfriend forChristmas this year because they
communicate that kind of loveand that kind of love always
makes another person feel joyfuland feel cared for.
(12:07):
That's what you're aiming for onChristmas morning, and that's
the kind of thing that's gonnabring about a great experience.
I wrote a little bit about thisin my book called How to Be a
Man, which is an opportunity foryou to really grow and get
better at being a man.
And in that book I particularlydiscuss the idea of honor, which
is about doing right by thepeople in your life who matter
(12:27):
the most to you.
So if you want some ideas on howyou can level up as a man and
get better at not only honoringyour wife, but all of the
important people in your life,go check out how to be a man.
On Amazon.
You can look it up right now andorder yourself a copy.
It'll be here in time forChristmas.
How to Be A Man By Don Ross onAmazon.
Okay, let's now just talk aboutwhat it's going to look like on
(12:50):
Christmas morning.
If you really do get this right,because this is the feeling that
all of us guys are after her.
I want you to imagine heropening up a gift where she
maybe even just tears up alittle bit because she thinks,
oh, he really gets me.
He really knows me.
(13:12):
I want you to imagine hertalking to her friends about
what you got her for Christmasand just smiling and maybe even
giggling about how happy she isand how thought of she feels by
the gift that you got her.
And I want you to imagine thetime that the two of you will
get to spend together.
Doing whatever it is that you'vecome up with for the two of you
(13:34):
to do as a gift for Christmas,and how meaningful that will be
for her and how enjoyable itwill be for the two of you.
That kind of love that kind ofintimacy shared between a couple
can really happen because ofmeaningful gifts, and those are
the kinds of things that youwant to be able to look for for
a Christmas gift for your wifeor girlfriend this year again.
(13:57):
You don't have to be expensive,extravagant, or over the top.
You don't have to spend a lot ofmoney.
And in fact, in our nextepisode, we're gonna talk about
budgeting for Christmas becausethat can be a big stressor for
us guys.
You don't have to spend a lot ofmoney on gifts for your wife in
order for her to know that youlove her and you really do care
about her.
(14:19):
Okay.
I hope that you have reallyenjoyed this episode and have
gotten some benefit out of whatwe've talked about here.
I'd love for you to put down inthe comments what's a gift that
you have gotten for your wife orgirlfriend in the past where you
just knew that you crushed it.
Maybe sharing that story withsome other guys will help them
out if they're feeling a littlebit stuck and they can get some
ideas and some tips from you onwhat to be able to do.
(14:41):
All right.
Uh, thanks guys.
I hope that you have a greatChristmas season and I'll look
forward to talking to you nexttime here on the Manhood Tribe
Show.
We'll see you then.
All right men.
It's Christmas time, and youknow what that means?
Time to pick out the perfectgift for your wife or
girlfriend.
And I know you just can't wait.
If you're like most men, youfeel trapped.
Let's be honest.
Trying to pick out the perfectgift can feel like there's just
no right answer, and you'reinevitably gonna do something
(00:23):
that's going to upset her,disappoint her, frustrate her,
or just leave her feelingdisappointed, none of which is
what you want to happen onChristmas.
So today here on the ManhoodTribe Show, let's try to solve
that problem.
Let's see if we can figure outhow to be able to pick out the
perfect gift for your wife orgirlfriend this Christmas.
(00:45):
My name's Don.
I'm the host here on the ManhoodTribe Show, and I'm so glad that
you're joining us.
We are now kicking off kind of anew little mini series here that
we're gonna do for the holidaysto help you as a man navigate
some of the stress points, thepain points of the holiday
season.
Getting through Christmas as aman can actually feel a lot more
(01:05):
stressful than I think.
We as men tend to give ourselvescredit for.
We tend to think about theChristmas holidays as being
something that is more homecentered, and so often that
tends to fall on the shouldersof our wives or girlfriends.
And so the planning, thefestivities, the activities, the
stuff that we do with ourfamilies, a lot of that can seem
like that's kind of left up toour wives and kids, but.
(01:27):
At the same time, we as menstill have things that we have
to be responsible for duringthis season, and those things
can be more stressful at timesthan we give them credit for.
So we wanna try to deal withthat in some of this series.
And of course, at the top of thelist is trying to pick out the
perfect gift for your wife orgirlfriend.
So today what I want us to tryto do is to really dive into
(01:49):
that topic and to give you sometips and some guidance on what
it looks like to be able to dothat well.
Because what all of us want isfor that special lady in our
lives to be up on Christmas andto open up a gift from us and to
feel like.
We've done it, that we nailedit, that she not only loves the
(02:10):
gift, but she feels loved by usbecause of what we got her and
how we thought of her.
That's what we're after onChristmas morning, and if we can
nail that emotion, then we knowwe've gotten just the right
gift.
So that's what we're gonna tryto do.
But uh, we all know that it'smuch harder than it sounds to be
(02:30):
able to do that, right?
I mean, the idea of trying topick out something just feels
like this never ending maze orpuzzle of what on earth do I get
her?
Maybe you've failed more timesthan you can count, uh, for
having to pick out somethingthat just doesn't go well at
all.
Or maybe you've gotten it righton occasion and it feels now
(02:51):
like you've got this.
Pressure of having to do itright every time.
It's like it kind of feels likethe game of golf, right?
It's like you can get one goodshot every few holes, and then
you feel like you're supposed toget a good one every time you
tee it up.
And of course we all know itnever happens that way.
So there's all this pressure forus as guys to have to try to
figure it out and to get itright.
I want to alleviate thepressure, but the way that we're
(03:13):
gonna try to alleviate thepressure is not by telling you
what.
Gift to buy, but by trying togive you the framework for how
to think about how to get herjust the right gift.
So the problem that we guys tendto face is that we think there
is this like magical gift outthere that if we just get her
the gift that everybody seems towant this season or that all the
(03:37):
other women are interested in,that she's just gonna be head
over heels because we gotexactly the right thing at
exactly the right time.
But for the most part, womenaren't wired that way.
Now Sure.
A nice gift and especially atrendy or popular gift can go a
long way at times.
But what most women really wantis something that makes them
feel thought of.
(03:58):
They want something that theycan tell that you not only put
thought into it, but you thoughtespecially of her, that you
noticed her and her life and thethings that are special to her
and that matter to her, and yougot a gift that reflects that.
You got a gift that has.
Meaning you got a gift thatcommunicates love and that is
(04:21):
really the kind of gift that awoman is looking for.
It doesn't have to beextravagant or expensive or even
over the top in some way.
It just needs to be thoughtfulin a way that communicates to
her.
I see you and I love you.
So how do we go after that?
Well, let me give you someexamples of ways that I've tried
(04:42):
to do it and have not beensuccessful.
Okay.
So I have just kind of come tothe conclusion that I should
never buy my wife clothing orjewelry for Christmas unless
it's something that shespecifically picks out and tells
me to get her right, becauseI've just kind of noticed that
like what I think is her taste.
Isn't actually her taste ormight have been a taste, her
(05:03):
taste a while ago, but isn't hertaste anymore.
And so when it comes to pickingout clothing and jewelry, I, I
tend to miss more than I get itright.
And that's usually just becauseI'm, again, trying to go off of
trends and maybe I'm trying tonotice what she likes, but her
tastes are particular to her andthey can change a lot.
So trying to get that.
(05:25):
Right becomes really, reallydifficult when she might be the
only one who really knows whatshe actually likes when it comes
to clothing and jewelry in thatmoment and trying to, you know,
hit the bullseye on that target,which is a moving target from
year to year, is really, reallyhard to do.
And more often than not, shewould honestly just rather go
pick those things out for her,for herself.
(05:47):
So, uh, when I've bought her ashirt that she opened up and,
uh, she kind of just gave thatlook of like, thank you and I
can tell, and you can tell too,right?
Uh, it's not exactly what shewanted.
It's gonna get returned, which,hey, that's okay.
You know, like there is sometruth to the idea that it's the
thought that counts.
(06:07):
You really did think of her.
You tried to get her somethingthat you thought that she was
gonna like, that does matter.
That does feel special toanybody.
But we want to do better thanthat, right?
So instead of spending money ona lot of clothes or jewelry that
I'm uncertain as to whether ornot she's gonna get one time.
I really did get it right and itwasn't about trying to get
(06:27):
something over the top orexpensive.
It was just about getting somelittle things that actually
showed that I saw her and Ireally cared about her.
She was starting a new job and.
Didn't have anything really tobe able to put on her desk.
And so I went and got her just afew kind of little small
trinkets.
I got her, uh, some pens thatlooked like pink flamingos,
which are one of her favoriteanimals.
(06:49):
And I got her a little, uh,plant holder that looked like a
zebra because that's also one ofher favorite animals.
And I got her.
Pink frilly cushion to go in herdesk chair, which was probably
gonna be bland and black orgray, you know, not at all.
The colorful personality thatshe is and something pink and
frilly seemed like her, and sheloved those things.
(07:10):
She thought it was great, andshe thought it was great.
Not again, not because I spent alot of money, because I went
over the top, but because theywere gifts that said, I know
you.
I see you.
There were things that wereparticular to her and they felt
special to her.
They were things that she likedand that I knew that she liked
(07:30):
and probably that maybe otherpeople wouldn't have known that
she liked.
And so because I knew thosethings, it felt really special
and it felt really.
Sensitive to the moment of like,yeah, those were things that she
maybe didn't just need butvalued being able to have
because it made her desk feelspecial and it made it feel like
her.
And so they were real treats toher.
(07:53):
Maybe not even things that shewould've bought for herself, but
because I bought them for her,they felt very meaningful and
she felt very loved.
That's the kind of gift that youwant to go for, something that
communicates, I see you, I thinkyou're special.
I care about you and I know thethings that you care about.
So how do you do that?
(08:13):
How do you pick out that kind ofa gift for your wife or
girlfriend?
First thing lemme say is listento her life, not just to her
words.
Yes, it's okay for you to askher.
Hey babe, what would you wantfor Christmas this year?
It's always okay to get someideas and I recommend.
Buying her a thing or two thatshe specifically asks for, just
(08:34):
as a way of being able toappreciate and enjoy her and let
her know that you honestly canfollow through on the things
that she asks you to do.
But more importantly is to justpay attention to the things
going on in her world.
What kind of hobbies is sheinterested in?
What is she spending her freetime doing?
Where are the places that shelikes to go?
(08:55):
What are the activities that sheenjoys doing?
What are the.
TV shows or the music that shelikes engaging in, pay attention
to all of those kinds of littlethings because you probably can
build off of one of those thingsas a way of being able to get
something that's meaningful toher.
Maybe she has a.
(09:16):
Particular coffee shop that shelikes to go to, but only gets to
go to on occasion.
What if you got her some coffeefrom that coffee shop?
And maybe even like if you knowwhat her favorite kind of coffee
from that coffee shop is?
Maybe you could get that inparticular.
Maybe she's got a restaurantthat she would really like to go
to, but has kind of been on herlist for a long time, but the
(09:38):
two of you have never been ableto make it.
What if you get a gift card andplan a date night to that
particular restaurant?
Something like that communicatesto her.
Oh yeah, I've, I've been payingattention.
I know the things that you'reinterested in, and even though
you maybe didn't ask for this, Iknew that you probably wanted
it.
That's the kind of gift thatsays to your wife, I love you.
(09:59):
It is also okay to mix somethingpractical with something
personal.
So like take the coffee examplethat I just gave.
Maybe that might seem like toosimple of a gift for you.
So, okay.
Buyer, some coffee that comesfrom that coffee shop.
But then also write her ahandwritten note about how much
you appreciate her and how youwant to make sure, sure, that
she's able to carve out sometime just for her to be able to
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go to a favorite place and thatyou know that she finds that fun
and enjoyable and life-givingfor her, and you want her to be
able to do the things that arelife-giving for her.
Okay?
That kind of handwritten noteautomatically becomes special
and attentive and takes thatgift.
Up another level.
It makes it not just kind of anafterthought gift, but like I
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really put some special thoughtinto this gift and I want you to
have it.
You might also think about howyou can craft an experience.
So again, going with the coffeeshop idea, maybe you buy her
some coffee from that coffeeshop, but maybe you also get a
gift card to that coffee shopand say, Hey, I want us to plan
a date night where we get.
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To go to this together and I'vearranged for babysitting for the
kids.
If you have kids and you'vecreated a whole little special
date opportunity for that, maybeif she likes to read, you buy
her a book and the two of youcan take a book together and
just go spend some time readingat her favorite coffee shop.
Now all of a sudden, you'vecreated something that's really
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built around her.
Things that she enjoys and sheenjoys being able to do those
things with you as well.
And now you've created anexperience for the two of you
that says, not only did I getyou something meaningful, but I
actually really enjoy you as aperson and I enjoy doing things
with you that you like to do.
Oh wow.
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Now you're like, you're firingon all cylinders.
You are ticking all the boxes.
Right.
For really helping her feelknown.
Seen, valued, and loved.
Those are the kinds of thingsthat you want to be able to get
your wife or your girlfriend forChristmas this year because they
communicate that kind of loveand that kind of love always
makes another person feel joyfuland feel cared for.
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That's what you're aiming for onChristmas morning, and that's
the kind of thing that's gonnabring about a great experience.
I wrote a little bit about thisin my book called How to Be a
Man, which is an opportunity foryou to really grow and get
better at being a man.
And in that book I particularlydiscuss the idea of honor, which
is about doing right by thepeople in your life who matter
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the most to you.
So if you want some ideas on howyou can level up as a man and
get better at not only honoringyour wife, but all of the
important people in your life,go check out how to be a man.
On Amazon.
You can look it up right now andorder yourself a copy.
It'll be here in time forChristmas.
How to Be A Man By Don Ross onAmazon.
Okay, let's now just talk aboutwhat it's going to look like on
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Christmas morning.
If you really do get this right,because this is the feeling that
all of us guys are after her.
I want you to imagine heropening up a gift where she
maybe even just tears up alittle bit because she thinks,
oh, he really gets me.
He really knows me.
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I want you to imagine hertalking to her friends about
what you got her for Christmasand just smiling and maybe even
giggling about how happy she isand how thought of she feels by
the gift that you got her.
And I want you to imagine thetime that the two of you will
get to spend together.
Doing whatever it is that you'vecome up with for the two of you
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to do as a gift for Christmas,and how meaningful that will be
for her and how enjoyable itwill be for the two of you.
That kind of love that kind ofintimacy shared between a couple
can really happen because ofmeaningful gifts, and those are
the kinds of things that youwant to be able to look for for
a Christmas gift for your wifeor girlfriend this year again.
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You don't have to be expensive,extravagant, or over the top.
You don't have to spend a lot ofmoney.
And in fact, in our nextepisode, we're gonna talk about
budgeting for Christmas becausethat can be a big stressor for
us guys.
You don't have to spend a lot ofmoney on gifts for your wife in
order for her to know that youlove her and you really do care
about her.
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Okay.
I hope that you have reallyenjoyed this episode and have
gotten some benefit out of whatwe've talked about here.
I'd love for you to put down inthe comments what's a gift that
you have gotten for your wife orgirlfriend in the past where you
just knew that you crushed it.
Maybe sharing that story withsome other guys will help them
out if they're feeling a littlebit stuck and they can get some
ideas and some tips from you onwhat to be able to do.
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All right.
Uh, thanks guys.
I hope that you have a greatChristmas season and I'll look
forward to talking to you nexttime here on the Manhood Tribe
Show.
We'll see you then.
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