September 16, 2025 • 16 mins
How can men better themselves in a world where they are currently struggling? We introduce the concept that the missing piece in most discussions about manhood is the need for men to build strong, intimate friendships with other men.
Highlighting key elements from Don's book, 'How to Be a Man,' we dive into how men can develop camaraderie and attain freedom by forming a tribe.
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Join us as we explore what real, meaningful male friendships look like and how they can transform your life.
00:00 Introduction: The State of Men Today
00:48 The Missing Piece in Conversations About Manhood
01:29 The Importance of Male Friendships
01:53 Defining Real and Intimate Friendships
04:03 The Concept of a Tribe
04:55 Building a Tribe: Manhood, Camaraderie, and Freedom
05:50 Camaraderie: Trust and Shared Experiences
08:07 Adventure and Getting Naked: Building Deeper Connections
11:17 Freedom: Overcoming Life's Biggest Obstacles
14:11 Conclusion: Becoming the Man You Want to Be
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(00:00):
There's a lot of conversationtoday about what it looks like
to be a man and how men can bedoing better in our world.
That's because, honestly, rightnow, men are not doing well in
our world.
We know the statistics.
We've heard a lot about the poorstate that men are in at the
moment, and that's one of thereasons that.
This channel, the Manhood TribesChannel exists is because I want
(00:23):
to be able to help men becomethe kind of men that we actually
want to be.
The challenge is that even withall the good advice that's out
there, men still aren't movingmostly in the right direction.
We're a little bit stuck andmaybe even getting worse.
Despite all the self-help andall the good ideas, men aren't
(00:45):
going the way that we would liketo go.
I believe that's because there'sone really big missing piece in
most of the conversation aboutmen today.
It is so important in fact thatI dedicated the second half of
my book to talking about it.
That's right.
I have launched a book, it'scalled How to Be A Man By Me,
Don Ross, and it's available forpurchase now on Amazon or
(01:09):
anywhere.
Books are sold as an ebook, as apaperback, and I know it is
gonna be of benefit to you,because it addresses that one
big missing piece that mostconversations about manhood just
really aren't talking about.
So what is that?
What is the big missing piecethat most of us aren't
discussing?
Really, honestly, it's just theidea that men need to be in
(01:35):
community with other men.
Men need real strong.
Intimate friendships with othermen.
Now I know some of those wordsthat I used might throw you off
a little bit.
We need real friendships, likeare there fake friendships?
Well, hell yeah.
There are.
Our whole world is made up offake friendships right now,
(01:56):
whether that's through socialmedia or artificial
intelligence, or even just.
Showing up to your workplace andpretending like you're actually
getting to know your coworkers.
When you know you're really not,you actually don't know much
about them at all, and theydon't know much about you.
That's not a real friendship.
Even though you might spendhours around those people.
(02:17):
You need real friendships.
You need strong friendships.
You need friendships that aregonna last.
You need friendships that aregonna talk about important
things.
You need friendships that aregonna call you on your bullshit.
You need friendships that aregonna actually show up in your
life and make a difference.
Those are strong friendships andmost men don't have those kinds
(02:38):
of friends anymore.
But you also need intimatefriendships.
Now, this is a word that, eh, Ithink most men get a little
uncomfortable with.
That's because for the mostpart, in our society, we've
reserved the word intimate fortalking about the way that.
A man and his wife relate toeach other.
Sometimes we use that to meansex.
(02:59):
Sometimes we just mean it tomean the in-depth romance and
private conversations that menand women have with each other
in the context of a committedrelationship.
And so, because we have tendedto use it that way, we get
really uncomfortable about theidea of intimacy between men.
But the truth is, is that menneed intimate friendships.
(03:21):
It just means that those arepeople that you talk about.
All of the really important andsignificant things in your life
with those people.
You need men who know theintimate details of your world.
That just means they're involvedin your life.
They know what's going on withyou.
They know your history.
They know your past.
(03:41):
They know your struggles.
They know your successes andyour failures.
They know your weaknesses andyour temptations.
They know all the stupid stuffthat you've done, right?
You need men in your life whoknow these kinds of things about
you.
You need real strong andintimate male friends in your
life.
You need that kind of community.
(04:03):
And here at Manhood Tribes,that's what we call a tribe.
You need a tribe of men aroundyou.
But the truth is, is that mostmen don't have that and don't
really have any way to get it.
But even if they did, theywouldn't know how to do it.
We, we've lost complete.
Touch with what it looks like todevelop those kinds of male
(04:25):
friendships in our life.
And so that's why I spent awhole half of my book talking
about those kinds of things isbecause it is a truly lost art
in our world today that needs alot of attention and a lot more
attention, especially to bebrought to it and the
conversations about manhood thatare happening in our world.
So.
(04:45):
Let's talk then just a littlebit about what makes up this
kind of tribe style ofrelationship among men.
How do you develop those kindsof things?
Well, when it comes to the ideaof tribe that I lay forward in
this book, how to Be a Man,there are really three key
elements that are a part of itthat we need to discuss.
(05:05):
The first is manhood.
Okay?
When you think about tribe ofmen, you need to think about
manhood.
That's because the men of thetribe need to be pursuing what
it looks like to be a man.
Now, if you go back to the videobefore this, or really just
about any video where I'vetalked about manhood on this
channel, you will hear about thefive marks of manhood, strength,
(05:25):
courage, skill, honor, andallegiance.
And pursuing manhood just lookslike doing those things and
getting better at them.
So I'm not gonna spend a wholelot of time on that in this
video today,'cause I covered itpretty well in the last video.
And you can go back and watchthat one if you want some more
details about what manhood lookslike in the context of trap.
It is the second and the thirdpoints that I think are most
(05:47):
important and that I want totalk about today.
The second one is what I'll callcamaraderie.
camaraderie is really just thatfeeling that develops among men
when you cultivate trust andshared experience over time,
trust and shared experience overtime.
As men develop those things,they develop the type of
(06:10):
relationship where they justenjoy being with one another.
And there is a sense of, theseare my guys, these are my
people.
We have so much that existsbetween us.
Some good, some not so good.
And you know, mostly good,mostly for the better.
But enough has happened betweenus that we've got some bumps and
(06:31):
bruises in that relationship aswell.
And so because of that, we havebuilt something significant.
It's the kind of relationshipthat is meant to last, and that
even if there's a gap in therelationship for a while,
there's something there that youcan pick back up on because you
have developed trust and sharedexperience.
Over time.
(06:51):
That's what camaraderie reallylooks like among men.
camaraderie is a term that getsassociated a lot of times with
the military because we hear ofcamaraderie existing in that
sort of environment verynaturally.
And that's because when you'vegot guys who are going to battle
with each other.
They very naturally have todevelop trust, and they are put
through the kinds of scenarioswhere that shared experience
(07:14):
happens all the time.
They're encountering the typesof scenarios where they're
developing memories, they'regoing through hardships
together, they're facingchallenges that they have to
overcome.
They are interdependent of oneanother as they go through those
things, and so that kind ofshared experience and trust
develops very quickly in thatkind of environment.
camaraderie comes very naturallyin those settings.
(07:37):
But for most of us guys, wearen't living lives that look
anything like that.
We aren't encountering thosekinds of scenarios, and we're
not forced to be going throughthem with other men around us.
And so we tend to live veryquiet lives and very isolated
lives that exist almost entirelywithout camaraderie.
So we are going to have to bereally intentional to develop
(07:59):
that kind of camaraderie in ourlives and in our relationships
with other men.
There's two key ways that I talkabout in the book to be able to
do that.
The first is simply throughadventure.
Most of us as adult men don'thave nearly enough.
Adventure and fun in our lives.
What little fun we do have isusually spent with our wife and
children if we have a family ormaybe on some kind of singles
(08:21):
trip where we're mostly justinterested in hooking up or
pursuing a romantic or sexualrelationship, right?
It doesn't actually tend to havesomething to do with
relationships with other guys,and yet that's exactly where men
need to be spending their timepursuing adventure.
Men need adventure in our liveswith other men.
That's the best place topractice.
(08:43):
Building camaraderie is simplyby doing something fun and
challenging and maybe even alittle dangerous with some other
men.
So thinking about how you coulddo that is just a matter of
like, how do you get around agroup of guys who's doing
something that's a little bitoutta your comfort zone, but
that sounds kind of fun to you.
Could you join a canoeing cluband go canoeing down a river
(09:04):
with some guys?
Could you find a meetup withsome guys who are checking out a
local blacksmith and learningto, you know, forge a dagger or
something really cool like that?
Whatever it is for you.
Find something that would be acool way of getting around other
guys who might be interested inthe things that you're
interested in, and just go dosomething fun with them, even if
you don't know them that wellyet, that might be the perfect
(09:26):
way to start building somecamaraderie with the guys in
your life, or finding new guysto develop camaraderie with.
Once you start having thosekinds of relationships, though,
you need to be able to take itto a deeper level, and that does
require some specific effort inthe book.
It's what I call Getting nakeddoesn't actually mean taking
(09:48):
your clothes off, okay?
So don't, don't get too worried.
What it means is though, thatyou've got to actually start
exposing yourself to these otherguys.
Not your body, but your heart,your soul.
You've actually got to startsharing the real you with some
men in your life so that youbegin developing trust.
(10:08):
Now, I just trust about simplethings like, hey, if I need
somebody to come over and helpme move a couch, I know who I
can call.
That's not real trust.
You need trust with some guyswho you're like, if my world is
falling apart.
And some past thing has comeback up to haunt me and I am
taken out by it.
Who are the guys that I canactually talk to about that and
(10:29):
that they're really gonna beable to help me?
You need men in your life likethat, and the only way to
develop that kind of trust is bysharing with some guys your.
By getting naked about thethings that have formed you into
the kind of man that you aretoday.
How did you get there?
What has shaped you into the manthat you are?
That's what getting Naked is allabout.
(10:50):
Now, when you add those twothings together, adventure and
getting naked, you start todevelop that trust and shared
experience over time.
That really does begin to buildcamaraderie.
That is the second part of whatit looks like to be a tribe and
a really key ingredient intobuilding the kind of community
that you want with other men.
(11:10):
But the third ingredient isprobably the one that's the most
important and actually the onethat's of most benefit to you.
That third ingredient is what Icall freedom, and it just means
the ability to overcome thebiggest obstacles in your life.
Most of us as men know that weare tempted and probably pinned
down by some really significantthings in our lives.
(11:33):
We've got some challenges thatwe've just not been able to
overcome.
Whether it's a porn addiction ora drinking habit, or anger
towards your family members orgossip, or a sports betting
problem, or, hey, you name it,you know what your issue or even
issues might be.
It's something that has a holdon you and feels like it's
(11:55):
bigger than who you are.
You are not free right now to bethe man that you want to be
because of some of these placesin your life.
A tribe needs to help surroundyou and fight for you to help
you overcome those kinds ofchallenges, and that's what
freedom really looks like.
With that kind of freedom, youstart to be able.
(12:17):
To become the kind of man thatyou actually want to be, but
you're not gonna get there onyour own.
You already know that you'vetried to get there on your own,
but these challenges are biggerthan you.
You cannot overcome them simplyby your force of will alone.
You need brothers around you whoare going to fight for you and
(12:38):
help you figure out a wayforward through these obstacles.
In the book, I talk about acouple key areas where freedom
is most needed.
One is in the area of lies.
As men, we all tend to believethings about ourselves and about
our world that simply aren'ttrue.
But because of our stories, theymight have a ring of truth to
(12:59):
them.
And so they become these kind ofcrippling beliefs about
ourselves that we simply don'tknow how to get out of because.
For some reason, they feel trueto us.
We need the perspective thatcomes with other men around us
who can help us see a bettertruth, a better reality about
ourselves that they can point usto and help us be able to get
(13:19):
there.
But we also might need freedomfrom addictions, any kind of
thing in our life, whetherthat's a substance or not can
can be an addiction for us.
If it has control over us.
If it is the kind of thing thatwe just can't seem to get free
from by our own effort, then ithas become an addiction for us.
(13:40):
That's the kind of thing where.
You simply will not get out fromunder it without bringing it
into the light.
In the context of a very closecommunity.
You need other men fighting foryou so that you can gain freedom
from those types of addictions.
Now, in the book, how to Be aMan, I go over some really
specific ways to be able toaddress those lies and those
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addictions in the context ofyour tribe so that you can start
to gain some freedom.
But again, you need somedirection on that and you need
some men around you to be ableto help you get there.
You need manhood, camaraderie,and freedom, all in the context
of a group of men so that youcan become the kind of man that
you actually want to be.
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These things are gonna help meneverywhere be able to actually
grow into men that are worthadmiring and becoming.
That's what we all want, right?
That's what all of thisdiscussion today about manhood
is really all about, is how dowe figure out what it means to
be the kind of man that we knowwe want to be, but none of us
seem to know how to get there.
This book, how to Be a Man ismeant to help you actually do
(14:44):
that.
So I want to encourage you to gopick up a copy of it right now.
You can find it on Books Sellersjust about anywhere.
You can go on Amazon and get apaperback or an ebook copy of
it.
You can buy a few to be able togive to some friends or to some
guys in your world that youknow, I guarantee it is gonna be
helpful to you and to them.
I hope you will enjoy the book,and I would love to engage with
(15:07):
you around the information thatis in there.
And in fact, I have created away for us to be able to do
that.
If you read the book or if youhave just watched this content
and you're thinking, gosh, Iwould love to be part of
something like that, I wish Ihad some men in my world that
were pursuing those kinds ofthings.
I have created a community foryou to be a part of so that you
can start pursuing that not onlyfor yourself, but by connecting
(15:30):
with other men who are trying topursue it as well.
The Manhood Tribes community isthe place for you, and so you
can check it out at manhoodtribes.com/community.
The book will actually give youa free code to be able to get
one month of membership in ourcommunity for free.
So yet another reason to gocheck out the book, the cost of
(15:50):
the book is cheaper than a monthof membership in the community.
So it's a great way to be ableto get an opt-in to something
that you already know you wantto be a part of, uh, and here's
a way to be able to do it forcheap.
So go get how to be a man andthen go check out manhood
tribes.com/community to get yourname on the list for the next
time that our community doorsopen.
(16:13):
Now if you have enjoyed thiscontent, I hope that you will
like this video and subscribe tothe channel, and I would love to
discuss it with you.
Would you write down in thecomments what about camaraderie
or freedom most appeals to you,and where do you feel like you
most need that in your liferight now?
I look forward to engaging withwhat you have to say, and I look
forward to talking to you againhere next time on the Manhood
(16:35):
Tribes Channel.
I hope you'll go check out howto be a Man by Don Ross.
There's a lot of conversationtoday about what it looks like
to be a man and how men can bedoing better in our world.
That's because, honestly, rightnow, men are not doing well in
our world.
We know the statistics.
We've heard a lot about the poorstate that men are in at the
moment, and that's one of thereasons that.
This channel, the Manhood TribesChannel exists is because I want
(00:23):
to be able to help men becomethe kind of men that we actually
want to be.
The challenge is that even withall the good advice that's out
there, men still aren't movingmostly in the right direction.
We're a little bit stuck andmaybe even getting worse.
Despite all the self-help andall the good ideas, men aren't
(00:45):
going the way that we would liketo go.
I believe that's because there'sone really big missing piece in
most of the conversation aboutmen today.
It is so important in fact thatI dedicated the second half of
my book to talking about it.
That's right.
I have launched a book, it'scalled How to Be A Man By Me,
Don Ross, and it's available forpurchase now on Amazon or
(01:09):
anywhere.
Books are sold as an ebook, as apaperback, and I know it is
gonna be of benefit to you,because it addresses that one
big missing piece that mostconversations about manhood just
really aren't talking about.
So what is that?
What is the big missing piecethat most of us aren't
discussing?
Really, honestly, it's just theidea that men need to be in
(01:35):
community with other men.
Men need real strong.
Intimate friendships with othermen.
Now I know some of those wordsthat I used might throw you off
a little bit.
We need real friendships, likeare there fake friendships?
Well, hell yeah.
There are.
Our whole world is made up offake friendships right now,
(01:56):
whether that's through socialmedia or artificial
intelligence, or even just.
Showing up to your workplace andpretending like you're actually
getting to know your coworkers.
When you know you're really not,you actually don't know much
about them at all, and theydon't know much about you.
That's not a real friendship.
Even though you might spendhours around those people.
(02:17):
You need real friendships.
You need strong friendships.
You need friendships that aregonna last.
You need friendships that aregonna talk about important
things.
You need friendships that aregonna call you on your bullshit.
You need friendships that aregonna actually show up in your
life and make a difference.
Those are strong friendships andmost men don't have those kinds
(02:38):
of friends anymore.
But you also need intimatefriendships.
Now, this is a word that, eh, Ithink most men get a little
uncomfortable with.
That's because for the mostpart, in our society, we've
reserved the word intimate fortalking about the way that.
A man and his wife relate toeach other.
Sometimes we use that to meansex.
(02:59):
Sometimes we just mean it tomean the in-depth romance and
private conversations that menand women have with each other
in the context of a committedrelationship.
And so, because we have tendedto use it that way, we get
really uncomfortable about theidea of intimacy between men.
But the truth is, is that menneed intimate friendships.
(03:21):
It just means that those arepeople that you talk about.
All of the really important andsignificant things in your life
with those people.
You need men who know theintimate details of your world.
That just means they're involvedin your life.
They know what's going on withyou.
They know your history.
They know your past.
(03:41):
They know your struggles.
They know your successes andyour failures.
They know your weaknesses andyour temptations.
They know all the stupid stuffthat you've done, right?
You need men in your life whoknow these kinds of things about
you.
You need real strong andintimate male friends in your
life.
You need that kind of community.
(04:03):
And here at Manhood Tribes,that's what we call a tribe.
You need a tribe of men aroundyou.
But the truth is, is that mostmen don't have that and don't
really have any way to get it.
But even if they did, theywouldn't know how to do it.
We, we've lost complete.
Touch with what it looks like todevelop those kinds of male
(04:25):
friendships in our life.
And so that's why I spent awhole half of my book talking
about those kinds of things isbecause it is a truly lost art
in our world today that needs alot of attention and a lot more
attention, especially to bebrought to it and the
conversations about manhood thatare happening in our world.
So.
(04:45):
Let's talk then just a littlebit about what makes up this
kind of tribe style ofrelationship among men.
How do you develop those kindsof things?
Well, when it comes to the ideaof tribe that I lay forward in
this book, how to Be a Man,there are really three key
elements that are a part of itthat we need to discuss.
(05:05):
The first is manhood.
Okay?
When you think about tribe ofmen, you need to think about
manhood.
That's because the men of thetribe need to be pursuing what
it looks like to be a man.
Now, if you go back to the videobefore this, or really just
about any video where I'vetalked about manhood on this
channel, you will hear about thefive marks of manhood, strength,
(05:25):
courage, skill, honor, andallegiance.
And pursuing manhood just lookslike doing those things and
getting better at them.
So I'm not gonna spend a wholelot of time on that in this
video today,'cause I covered itpretty well in the last video.
And you can go back and watchthat one if you want some more
details about what manhood lookslike in the context of trap.
It is the second and the thirdpoints that I think are most
(05:47):
important and that I want totalk about today.
The second one is what I'll callcamaraderie.
camaraderie is really just thatfeeling that develops among men
when you cultivate trust andshared experience over time,
trust and shared experience overtime.
As men develop those things,they develop the type of
(06:10):
relationship where they justenjoy being with one another.
And there is a sense of, theseare my guys, these are my
people.
We have so much that existsbetween us.
Some good, some not so good.
And you know, mostly good,mostly for the better.
But enough has happened betweenus that we've got some bumps and
(06:31):
bruises in that relationship aswell.
And so because of that, we havebuilt something significant.
It's the kind of relationshipthat is meant to last, and that
even if there's a gap in therelationship for a while,
there's something there that youcan pick back up on because you
have developed trust and sharedexperience.
Over time.
(06:51):
That's what camaraderie reallylooks like among men.
camaraderie is a term that getsassociated a lot of times with
the military because we hear ofcamaraderie existing in that
sort of environment verynaturally.
And that's because when you'vegot guys who are going to battle
with each other.
They very naturally have todevelop trust, and they are put
through the kinds of scenarioswhere that shared experience
(07:14):
happens all the time.
They're encountering the typesof scenarios where they're
developing memories, they'regoing through hardships
together, they're facingchallenges that they have to
overcome.
They are interdependent of oneanother as they go through those
things, and so that kind ofshared experience and trust
develops very quickly in thatkind of environment.
camaraderie comes very naturallyin those settings.
(07:37):
But for most of us guys, wearen't living lives that look
anything like that.
We aren't encountering thosekinds of scenarios, and we're
not forced to be going throughthem with other men around us.
And so we tend to live veryquiet lives and very isolated
lives that exist almost entirelywithout camaraderie.
So we are going to have to bereally intentional to develop
(07:59):
that kind of camaraderie in ourlives and in our relationships
with other men.
There's two key ways that I talkabout in the book to be able to
do that.
The first is simply throughadventure.
Most of us as adult men don'thave nearly enough.
Adventure and fun in our lives.
What little fun we do have isusually spent with our wife and
children if we have a family ormaybe on some kind of singles
(08:21):
trip where we're mostly justinterested in hooking up or
pursuing a romantic or sexualrelationship, right?
It doesn't actually tend to havesomething to do with
relationships with other guys,and yet that's exactly where men
need to be spending their timepursuing adventure.
Men need adventure in our liveswith other men.
That's the best place topractice.
(08:43):
Building camaraderie is simplyby doing something fun and
challenging and maybe even alittle dangerous with some other
men.
So thinking about how you coulddo that is just a matter of
like, how do you get around agroup of guys who's doing
something that's a little bitoutta your comfort zone, but
that sounds kind of fun to you.
Could you join a canoeing cluband go canoeing down a river
(09:04):
with some guys?
Could you find a meetup withsome guys who are checking out a
local blacksmith and learningto, you know, forge a dagger or
something really cool like that?
Whatever it is for you.
Find something that would be acool way of getting around other
guys who might be interested inthe things that you're
interested in, and just go dosomething fun with them, even if
you don't know them that wellyet, that might be the perfect
(09:26):
way to start building somecamaraderie with the guys in
your life, or finding new guysto develop camaraderie with.
Once you start having thosekinds of relationships, though,
you need to be able to take itto a deeper level, and that does
require some specific effort inthe book.
It's what I call Getting nakeddoesn't actually mean taking
(09:48):
your clothes off, okay?
So don't, don't get too worried.
What it means is though, thatyou've got to actually start
exposing yourself to these otherguys.
Not your body, but your heart,your soul.
You've actually got to startsharing the real you with some
men in your life so that youbegin developing trust.
(10:08):
Now, I just trust about simplethings like, hey, if I need
somebody to come over and helpme move a couch, I know who I
can call.
That's not real trust.
You need trust with some guyswho you're like, if my world is
falling apart.
And some past thing has comeback up to haunt me and I am
taken out by it.
Who are the guys that I canactually talk to about that and
(10:29):
that they're really gonna beable to help me?
You need men in your life likethat, and the only way to
develop that kind of trust is bysharing with some guys your.
By getting naked about thethings that have formed you into
the kind of man that you aretoday.
How did you get there?
What has shaped you into the manthat you are?
That's what getting Naked is allabout.
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Now, when you add those twothings together, adventure and
getting naked, you start todevelop that trust and shared
experience over time.
That really does begin to buildcamaraderie.
That is the second part of whatit looks like to be a tribe and
a really key ingredient intobuilding the kind of community
that you want with other men.
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But the third ingredient isprobably the one that's the most
important and actually the onethat's of most benefit to you.
That third ingredient is what Icall freedom, and it just means
the ability to overcome thebiggest obstacles in your life.
Most of us as men know that weare tempted and probably pinned
down by some really significantthings in our lives.
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We've got some challenges thatwe've just not been able to
overcome.
Whether it's a porn addiction ora drinking habit, or anger
towards your family members orgossip, or a sports betting
problem, or, hey, you name it,you know what your issue or even
issues might be.
It's something that has a holdon you and feels like it's
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bigger than who you are.
You are not free right now to bethe man that you want to be
because of some of these placesin your life.
A tribe needs to help surroundyou and fight for you to help
you overcome those kinds ofchallenges, and that's what
freedom really looks like.
With that kind of freedom, youstart to be able.
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To become the kind of man thatyou actually want to be, but
you're not gonna get there onyour own.
You already know that you'vetried to get there on your own,
but these challenges are biggerthan you.
You cannot overcome them simplyby your force of will alone.
You need brothers around you whoare going to fight for you and
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help you figure out a wayforward through these obstacles.
In the book, I talk about acouple key areas where freedom
is most needed.
One is in the area of lies.
As men, we all tend to believethings about ourselves and about
our world that simply aren'ttrue.
But because of our stories, theymight have a ring of truth to
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them.
And so they become these kind ofcrippling beliefs about
ourselves that we simply don'tknow how to get out of because.
For some reason, they feel trueto us.
We need the perspective thatcomes with other men around us
who can help us see a bettertruth, a better reality about
ourselves that they can point usto and help us be able to get
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there.
But we also might need freedomfrom addictions, any kind of
thing in our life, whetherthat's a substance or not can
can be an addiction for us.
If it has control over us.
If it is the kind of thing thatwe just can't seem to get free
from by our own effort, then ithas become an addiction for us.
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That's the kind of thing where.
You simply will not get out fromunder it without bringing it
into the light.
In the context of a very closecommunity.
You need other men fighting foryou so that you can gain freedom
from those types of addictions.
Now, in the book, how to Be aMan, I go over some really
specific ways to be able toaddress those lies and those
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addictions in the context ofyour tribe so that you can start
to gain some freedom.
But again, you need somedirection on that and you need
some men around you to be ableto help you get there.
You need manhood, camaraderie,and freedom, all in the context
of a group of men so that youcan become the kind of man that
you actually want to be.
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These things are gonna help meneverywhere be able to actually
grow into men that are worthadmiring and becoming.
That's what we all want, right?
That's what all of thisdiscussion today about manhood
is really all about, is how dowe figure out what it means to
be the kind of man that we knowwe want to be, but none of us
seem to know how to get there.
This book, how to Be a Man ismeant to help you actually do
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that.
So I want to encourage you to gopick up a copy of it right now.
You can find it on Books Sellersjust about anywhere.
You can go on Amazon and get apaperback or an ebook copy of
it.
You can buy a few to be able togive to some friends or to some
guys in your world that youknow, I guarantee it is gonna be
helpful to you and to them.
I hope you will enjoy the book,and I would love to engage with
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you around the information thatis in there.
And in fact, I have created away for us to be able to do
that.
If you read the book or if youhave just watched this content
and you're thinking, gosh, Iwould love to be part of
something like that, I wish Ihad some men in my world that
were pursuing those kinds ofthings.
I have created a community foryou to be a part of so that you
can start pursuing that not onlyfor yourself, but by connecting
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with other men who are trying topursue it as well.
The Manhood Tribes community isthe place for you, and so you
can check it out at manhoodtribes.com/community.
The book will actually give youa free code to be able to get
one month of membership in ourcommunity for free.
So yet another reason to gocheck out the book, the cost of
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the book is cheaper than a monthof membership in the community.
So it's a great way to be ableto get an opt-in to something
that you already know you wantto be a part of, uh, and here's
a way to be able to do it forcheap.
So go get how to be a man andthen go check out manhood
tribes.com/community to get yourname on the list for the next
time that our community doorsopen.
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Now if you have enjoyed thiscontent, I hope that you will
like this video and subscribe tothe channel, and I would love to
discuss it with you.
Would you write down in thecomments what about camaraderie
or freedom most appeals to you,and where do you feel like you
most need that in your liferight now?
I look forward to engaging withwhat you have to say, and I look
forward to talking to you againhere next time on the Manhood
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Tribes Channel.
I hope you'll go check out howto be a Man by Don Ross.
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