November 5, 2024 • 23 mins
Take a powerful dive into how societal programming holds women back from stepping into their full manifesting potential. From the subtle messages we receive as young girls to the deeply ingrained expectations around selflessness and shrinking ourselves, these beliefs shape our worth and limit what we believe is possible.
In this episode explore:
- Where Societal Programming Comes From: Understand how cultural and regional influences create beliefs that limit our desires.
- Why Gender-Specific Limiting Beliefs Matter: Discover how these beliefs impact women more than men, creating unique challenges on the path to manifestation.
- Rewriting the Narrative: Learn how to replace outdated beliefs with empowering ones that align with your true desires.
- Giving Yourself Permission to Dream Big: Find out how to manifest unapologetically by recognizing and releasing limiting beliefs tied to societal expectations.
If you've ever felt like you need to play small, wait for the “right time,” or hold back your desires, this episode will help you uncover and break free from the limitations holding you back. Embrace your power and learn to manifest without apology!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there and welcome back to another episode of the
Live Life Unapologeticallypodcast.
I'm Shannon and today we'rediving into a powerful topic
that affects many of us, andthat's societal programming and
how it holds women back fromfully stepping into their
manifesting powers.
Now this is one of thosedeep-rooted challenges that can
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influence every area of ourlives without even realizing it.
Last week, we talked about thestruggle that women face,
feeling selfish when theyprioritize their desires.
This week, we're going to digdeeper into where that feeling
comes from and how societalexpectations have conditioned us
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to believe that our worth istied to being selfless, always
putting others first andshrinking ourselves to fit into
predefined roles.
You may wonder why that isimportant when it comes to
manifesting.
Well, how can you expect theuniverse to bring you limitless
things into your life, yourdesires, in limitless ways, if
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you have yourself boxed in tosomething predefined that's
holding you back, that makes yousmall?
You have to be big and stepinto your power and all of your
might and your light for theuniverse to bring everything to
you that you want, so that youdon't have a fence around you
saying, well, I can't have thatbecause it doesn't fit into this
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role that I've been assigned bysociety.
So if you've ever felt likeyou've had to put your dreams on
hold, or you have to dumb downyour dreams, make your dreams
smaller, you can't reach for thestars because it doesn't fit
into what society says youshould have or want, or that
manifesting goes against thoseexpectations that have been set
for you.
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This episode is for you.
We're going to break down thelimiting beliefs that show up in
our everyday life and, moreimportantly, how to break free
from them so that you canmanifest unapologetically.
So let's talk about what I meanby societal programming,
because you see, from the timethat we're young women little
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girls we're taught directly andindirectly that our role is to
nurture, support and take careof others.
We're praised for beingselfless.
We're praised for puttingpeople's needs before our own,
for being good girls who followthe rules.
This conditioning can be subtle.
It can show up in many areas ofour life.
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It might be the expectationthat you're going to be the one
to manage the household when yougrow up, or the guilt you feel
when you take care of yourselfinstead of your family.
Maybe it's the belief that yourcareer success isn't as
important as your partner's, orthat your worth is tied to how
much you give rather than howmuch you achieve.
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Maybe it's the idea that youhave to work 10 times as hard to
be recognized for simple workthat men do.
I've been in those positions ina female-dominated field where
women had to do 10 times morethan a man to be respected as a
man and still were seen aslesser than in the field.
It's crazy, but those are thosesubtle messages that become very
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glaring.
They're deeply ingrained insociety and how we're brought up
different cultural factors.
I've lived all over the UnitedStates.
I was a military child and Ican tell you that depending on
where you live, geographically,cultures are very different and
how things are approached.
So it's like regionally,culturally I'm not just talking
about culturally from thestandpoint of your heritage, but
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even regionally where you live.
So all of these things areingrained to us and that's also
why your manifesting journey maynot look the same as somebody
else's, because we have thesegeneralized societal rules and
we have, like these regionalcultural ones, all of these
things that we've literally beenprogrammed with our entire life
.
And since these messages are sodeeply ingrained, they shape the
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way we think about our desires.
They shape the way we thinkabout what we actually want.
So many times when I talk towomen, they're trying to
manifest things that they thinkthey should want Not what they
really want, but what they'vebeen taught they should want.
It directly affects your worthand what you think is possible
for you.
These limitations becausethey're truly limitations make
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it harder for you to prioritizeyour dreams Because on some
level, you've been taught thatdoing that is wrong or selfish
and we talked about this alreadyon the last episode about
feeling guilty, aboutmanifesting for yourself.
And all of these things createblocks to the manifesting
process, more so for women thanmen.
Yes, I said it, more so forwomen than men when we think
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about limiting beliefs andthinking about what we want to
have as women in our societytoday, many times we are taught
that once we have kids, we haveto wait till they're grown up,
or that our worth comes frombeing a mother and having a
family.
And that gives you your worth,that nurturer, that person who
gives and loves and taking careof others, and that makes you
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who you are.
So it blocks this manifestationprocess of trying to receive
things, because we are innatelytaught to give things.
But for men in our society itis not like that.
That is not something that'singrained.
It's ingrained to them thatthey can do whatever and have
whatever and that people aregoing to be there to support
them and care for them in theirlife, that they get the support
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system.
They're not the support system,they get the support system and
therefore, when they go tomanifest, they believe the
universe is going to deliver,because women have been
delivering for them anyway.
They have this already in theirmind, that, oh, you know, I
have a great idea and my wifehelps me get it off the ground,
or I need something done andsomebody comes and does it for
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me Our society.
A lot of times we don't talkabout this in manifesting and
maybe it seems polarizingbecause you want to think it's
just equal across the board,that we can manifest whatever we
want, just as long as webelieve it.
And that is the basis.
You see, manifestation isn'tgender-related, but limiting
beliefs are.
I really want to talk aboutgender-related limiting beliefs
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because we talk about basiclimiting beliefs like oh, if you
grew up poor, you may havelimiting beliefs about money.
If you grew up not feeling veryloved, you may have limiting
beliefs when it comes torelationships and your ability
to be loved.
But rarely do we talk about thefact that if I grow up a woman,
my limiting beliefs are goingto be different than if I grew
up as a man.
I think we just need to tacklethat head on and not skirt
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around the issue period.
Where does your worth come from?
What, were you taught, is yourworth?
Because you are worthy and youhave to know you're worthy to
receive from the universe.
But what makes you worthy as awoman to receive Beauty looks?
I know that's what I was taughtfrom the universe.
But what makes you worthy as awoman to receive Beauty looks?
I know that's what I was taught.
You have to be beautiful andskinny.
That's the only reason.
That's your worth.
Your worth is based on how youlook.
That was part of it, thatbeauty before brains mentality.
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So how were you programmed as awoman?
Oh, people don't like a womanwho speaks their mind.
They wanted to be quiet and sitand be very meek.
Don't be loud.
That's a put off.
What a turn off.
Well, if you're taught thatstepping in your power and your
light and letting your voice beheard is a turn off, then that's
how you're going to relate tothe universe instead of just
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showing up in the fullness ofwho you are, it's going to block
those manifestations.
So how we're programmed matters.
And, yes, gender comes intoplay in that.
So many things come into play.
But let's just go ahead as womenand say, okay, what programs
have created limiting beliefs inme as a woman?
What I can do, can't do, canhave, can't have, should want,
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don't want.
What are they so that I canmove past that A limiting belief
that I had for a long time?
I got rid of this one quiteearly in my life.
But for growing up in a part ofmy adulthood, my beginning
adulthood was that the man hasto make more money than the wife
.
Like that's just how it has tobe, because if a woman makes
more than her husband, it'sgoing to cause problems in the
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relationship.
So if I'm sitting here tryingto manifest the money and stuff,
I'm always going to limit mymanifestation potential to make
sure I'm not getting more thanmy husband.
If I still hold on to thatbelief, do you see what I'm
saying, where it comes from,when I'm talking about gender
limiting beliefs?
That was a big one for me.
Oh, I can't make more than myhusband.
Oh, that'll make him feel bad.
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Like I said, I abandoned thatbelief a long time ago, but I
did believe it for quite sometime, to where, if I still
believed that to this day, Iwould only manifest to the limit
of however much money myhusband made, like I wouldn't go
above that, even if and I knowI do have the power and you have
the power, we all have thepower to manifest more than we
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can even think of if we let theuniverse do the work.
But those are where the blockscome in, because the universe
could say, no, you're going towin the Powerball and be a
billionaire, but in your mindyou think you can't have more
money than your husband, soyou're really never going to win
it.
Because you're like is yourhusband ever going to make a
billion dollars on his own?
And that's how it hinders yourmanifestation.
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See, when you've beenconditioned to believe that your
role is to give, to givewithout receiving, it's hard to
believe you're worthy of havingmore.
That's a big one for women,right?
You have to give and you don'tgive anything and expect
anything in return.
Or you should make less thanyour husband, or you have to
work harder to get that farahead, all of these things that
we're putting in.
So now you have these limitingbeliefs and you're thinking well
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, I shouldn't ask the universefor more.
I need to be grateful for whatI have.
It's selfish to focus on mydreams and they just keep you
stuck in a place of lack.
It feels like there's notenough for you and it also feels
like you're not deserving ofthose things.
You know.
If you can say, if you are a manand none of that apply, would
you be thinking differently?
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Is there a limitation there?
I think with manifestation youalways have to bring it back to
just this like neutral place,where it's not a belief that's
on men or women.
But if they can have it, I canhave it too.
I always say that inmanifestation If they can have
it, I can have it too, and to methat brings it back to neutral.
I always say that inmanifestation, if they can have
it, I can have it too, and to methat brings it back to neutral.
I'm trying to manifestsomething like I talked about a
couple weeks ago a new car and Isee somebody driving down the
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highway in the car that I want.
I say well, if they can have it, I can have it too.
It brings it back to neutral.
It takes that comparison out ofit.
But we put a lot of hindrance onourselves because of societal
expectations programming.
You just believe what you weretaught.
It doesn't mean anything iswrong with you.
It doesn't mean anything waswrong with the person who taught
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it to you.
That was just their program.
But what I'm asking you rightnow is are you ready to stop
playing small?
Because this societalprogramming and expectations can
make you feel like you have toshrink yourself into a box
that's been created for you.
Instead of dreaming big and yousettle for what's acceptable or
safe, you can downplay yourdesires.
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You may be worried about howthey're going to be perceived,
and this is a fear that womenexperience about stepping into
their full potential.
That holds us back frommanifesting what we really want,
if we're going to be honest andwe need to be honest so we can
strip that off, so we can moveforward and actually manifest
our desires.
Oh, shannon, why am I notmanifesting this?
Because there's somethingwithin you that is saying no, no
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, I can't.
We have to teach ourselves.
It's safe to want what we wantand it's okay.
I mean it takes away nothingfrom anyone else, and we talked
about it last week how you beingthe fullness of you and having
your desires met takes awaynothing from anybody else.
You deserve a life that lightsyou up.
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You deserve to manifestabundance and joy and love and
success.
It doesn't make you selfish.
It doesn't make you selfish, itdoesn't make you greedy.
It is empowering for you andyour light then spreads through
the world in a good way.
But we're taught so many timesto make it small, especially as
women.
Don't be a loud woman.
Know your place, your desiresand living in the fullness of
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your life and what you were puthere and destined to do, to
fulfill your passions andpurpose and have a life that
feels good Hard stop.
So how do we break free fromthis societal programming?
Because it's in us.
And these are the things when Isay some limiting beliefs are
very easy to overcome andreplace with empowering beliefs
and some take a little longer.
If you're in a place where it'sbeen so ingrained in you for so
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long, it's going to take alittle bit more time to
reprogram that right.
It's like if you're walking apath and you walk that path for
a week.
Yeah, you may see the trail alittle bit in the ground, but
it's not going to be deep.
But if you were walking thatsame path for 10 years, you
really weren't an out right?
I was speaking with my son andhis friend.
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We were just all kind ofhanging out this weekend.
We had family and food and youknow it was the end of the night
and they were just chilling.
We were just talking and theywere talking about girls.
Okay, girls came up and we weretalking about the difference
between now and when I wasgrowing up and body positivity,
because they were saying thatall the girls that are
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cheerleaders are all thin but somany of them have body issues.
They're like we don'tunderstand that, and so I had to
tell them from my perspective,like now I feel like there's
more body positivity, thatwhat's seen as a beautiful,
healthy body now that hasthicker thighs and more curves
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is acceptable and it's fine.
When I was growing up, if youweren't a stick Stan, it was a
problem.
Anything where you couldn't seesome sort of bone in your body,
you know no curves, just stickstraight.
You were chunky.
I watch TikTok sometimes andwatch interviews of people on
like the 90, early 2000s and howthey would ask women about
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their weight and, oh, you gainweight and they don't even look
big.
It's insane to me, but that'swhat I grew up in and I was
telling them this is somethingthat's very hard because it was
so ingrained in my upbringingand in society at that time that
women had to be real thin orthat they were overweight and
unhealthy, undesirable.
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Nobody's going to want that.
I still struggle with this andhave to catch myself with that
sometimes, oh my gosh, you'rebigger than a size zero.
What's wrong with you?
That was the mentality,society-wise and where I grew up
, just everywhere, and it stickswith you.
Those are the things that areingrained into us that you're
worthy if you're thin.
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Nobody listens to women whoaren't thin.
That's ridiculous to me now,but that's how I grew up and I
still have to catch myself.
I went through a debilitatingillness that made me skin and
bones and I worked so hard tobecome healthy.
I worked so hard to put onweight.
I look at myself now and Ithink I still want to lose
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weight, even though I just wentthrough and manifested health so
I could gain weight.
I had to look at myself and sayI love you just where you are
and looking at you now you'rehealthy, you're happy, you're
not sickly.
But those are how society canimpress upon you for so long,
even into the age where I am now, that I still have to work on
these limiting beliefs, that I'mworthy to show up on camera
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even though I'm not stick thin,that people are still going to
listen to me even if I'm notstick thin.
And I still struggle with that.
But that was impressed upon meso much.
I was a ballerina growing upand back then I weighed 98
pounds and they told me my legswere still too thick for a
ballerina.
They were muscular, but theywere too thick.
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So those are things that do getinto your programming, that you
have to work past.
So how do we do that?
Let's talk about how wereprogram this, because you may
be saying, shannon, what doesyour weight or a woman's weight
have anything to do withmanifestation?
Well, if I don't feel like I'mworthy to show up on video, how
does my business continue tothrive Because of how I look, if
I'm too scared to put myselfout there and I say, oh, I'm
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going to wait.
If I lose five pounds and thengain five pounds.
The universe has to take awaymy success Like do you see how
these things are interconnected?
For women, it's crazy.
Okay, so let's acknowledge theprogramming, and the first step
is awareness, just being aware.
Start paying attention to thebeliefs that pop up when you
think about manifesting yourdesires.
When I thought about starting abusiness, I wanted to look a
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certain way on camera.
Does that even matter?
Does that matter?
Ask yourself if you feel guiltyabout wanting stuff.
Do you feel guilty for wantingto start an endeavor and you may
outpace your husband and makemore money than that person,
your partner, whoever it is?
Do you worry about how otherswill perceive that?
Oh, she makes more than herhusband.
Do you worry about thatperception?
Acknowledge these thoughts andacknowledge also that they're
not your fault.
They're a result of programmingthat you received from society.
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Once you're aware of theprogramming, then, and only then
, can you begin to challenge itand you're going to challenge
those limiting beliefs.
So step two is that, onceyou've identified it, you ask
yourself is this really true?
Is this belief serving me or isit holding me back?
So, if you believe that youshouldn't want more because it's
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selfish, challenge that belief.
If you believe that making moremoney than your husband is
going to cause a problem,challenge that belief.
No, making more than my husbandis just going to make us all
the more happier, because we'regoing to have more of the things
that we want together in thispartnership.
Ask yourself why you think it.
Where did it come from?
And you're often going to findthat it's just an outdated
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societal expectation rather thanyour own truth.
Like I said, I thought that wayfor a while.
Now my husband he's not goingto care where the money comes
from.
He don't care.
He does not care.
As a matter of fact, I'm surehe would love the fact and he
has in the past loved the factwhen I have my own money because
I like to spend money.
He's a saver.
He don't like to spend money.
Now, if I ask for something andI'm like, babe, buy me this,
he's going to buy it for me.
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He spoils me and I love it andwe have this great relationship.
But if I made a million dollarsa year and he still made what
he made and I spent all of that,as long as our bills are paid,
he don't care and he would loveit more if it didn't come out of
his own bank account because heallow the universe to bring me
more and it's fine.
You have to rewrite thenarrative.
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And that's number three,because once you challenge these
limiting beliefs, you have torewrite the story.
You have to replace the oldbeliefs with empowering ones.
So, instead of believing thatmy husband can make more than me
because that would make himfeel bad, I can say money flows
to my whole family, to myself.
It doesn't make him less worthy.
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Does that make sense?
My earning potential doesn'ttake away from who he is.
Period.
Like I said, I rewrote thatbelief a long time ago in my
life.
But what I earn in my potentialdoesn't take away from somebody
else's potential.
It doesn't make somebody elseless than I know.
I'm not going to limit myself.
That was my new story.
I am not going to limit myself.
I am not going to hold myselfback.
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What he makes, he can determinewhat he makes.
I'm going to determine what Imake and I rewired that thought.
So now I don't care.
It's really not a thing.
Now it's not.
And we've been in places in ourmarriage where he's made more
than me, I've made more than him.
I don't care, I'm not going tolet anybody stop me, not even my
husband, from fulfilling mywhole potential and letting the
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universe bring my desires to me.
Period.
It was my new story.
So, whatever your story is,whatever societal belief you
have, rewrite it to help youbreak free from the programming
so that you can step into yourmanifestation power.
When I think about how my bodylooks, I have to think people
don't care what I look like whenI show up, as long as I'm
helping them to manifest thelife they love.
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What my body looks like isirrelevant.
It's not the body, it's themessage.
So how are you rewriting thenarrative?
I see a lot, too, with women,and I'm just going to touch on
this I touched on a little bitlast week of having to wait till
the time is right to go aftertheir desires, because that's a
whole nother societal pressurethat you have to wait till your
kids are older.
You have to put your dreams onhold.
They need you right now.
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You have to focus on that orother responsibilities.
If you don't have kids, maybeyou're waiting for a better time
, when life slows down or whenyou've saved more money.
Whatever the thing may be and Ireally want to touch on the
fact that we have beenconditioned in society that
there's a perfect time andthere's a perfect timeline.
But there is never going to bea perfect time.
The timeline is different foreverybody.
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Everybody's life has its ownchallenges and if you keep
waiting, you'll find that laterreally never comes, because the
truth is, you don't have to waittill everything is perfect to
start manifesting your desires.
You can start now, where youare, even if it feels messy,
even if it feels imperfect.
Women who break free fromsocietal expectations and start
prioritizing their desires now,whether their kids are young or
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grown, their careers are busy orstable, whether they know what
they want to do or don't knowwhat they want to do, they're
the ones that begin to see thebiggest shifts in their life.
They stop waiting forpermission from society and they
start giving themselvespermission to dream big.
Like I said when I was goingthrough that your husband's
supposed to make more money thanyou thing and I decided, no,
that's crap.
I stopped waiting forpermission to say for somebody
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to tell me it's okay.
It's okay, shannon, if you makemore than your husband.
I quit waiting for that and Isaid screw it, I am gonna make
what I wanna make.
I don't care what anybody says.
Give yourself permission.
Here's where the magic happens,because once you're broken free
from societal programming,you're free to manifest without
limitation.
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You're no longer playing small,you're no longer apologizing
for your desires.
You're stepping into your fullpower as a manifester.
And that's when things reallystart to shift.
Reprogramming your mind toembrace your desires
unapologetically is a process,but it starts with giving
yourself permission to want whatyou want unapologetically.
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You don't have to followsocietal rules, you don't.
Just because you're a womandoesn't mean you have to follow
the societal rules that you'regiven when it comes to having
the life that you want.
You get to create your own life, and the more that you affirm
you're worthy, the more theuniverse is going to respond
with opportunities, abundanceand alignment.
So your challenge for this weekis to start noticing the way
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societal programming may beinfluencing your beliefs and
actions.
Identify those limiting beliefs, challenge them and rewrite
them.
Give yourself permission towant more, to dream bigger and
to manifest unapologetically.
If you're really ready to deepdive into reprogramming your
mind and breaking free fromlimiting beliefs, I invite you
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to join the Manifesting MadeSimple Masterclass.
It is all about helping you tomanifest your desires with ease
and confidence, without guilt,without overwhelm.
You can find the link in theshow notes or you can go to
livelifeunapologeticallycom.
Forward, slash manifest to grabit today.
Remember you have the power torewrite your story and manifest
your desires unapologetically.
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Societal programming doesn'tdefine you.
Hey there and welcome back to another episode of the
Live Life Unapologeticallypodcast.
I'm Shannon and today we'rediving into a powerful topic
that affects many of us, andthat's societal programming and
how it holds women back fromfully stepping into their
manifesting powers.
Now this is one of thosedeep-rooted challenges that can
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influence every area of ourlives without even realizing it.
Last week, we talked about thestruggle that women face,
feeling selfish when theyprioritize their desires.
This week, we're going to digdeeper into where that feeling
comes from and how societalexpectations have conditioned us
(00:42):
to believe that our worth istied to being selfless, always
putting others first andshrinking ourselves to fit into
predefined roles.
You may wonder why that isimportant when it comes to
manifesting.
Well, how can you expect theuniverse to bring you limitless
things into your life, yourdesires, in limitless ways, if
(01:07):
you have yourself boxed in tosomething predefined that's
holding you back, that makes yousmall?
You have to be big and stepinto your power and all of your
might and your light for theuniverse to bring everything to
you that you want, so that youdon't have a fence around you
saying, well, I can't have thatbecause it doesn't fit into this
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role that I've been assigned bysociety.
So if you've ever felt likeyou've had to put your dreams on
hold, or you have to dumb downyour dreams, make your dreams
smaller, you can't reach for thestars because it doesn't fit
into what society says youshould have or want, or that
manifesting goes against thoseexpectations that have been set
for you.
(01:49):
This episode is for you.
We're going to break down thelimiting beliefs that show up in
our everyday life and, moreimportantly, how to break free
from them so that you canmanifest unapologetically.
So let's talk about what I meanby societal programming,
because you see, from the timethat we're young women little
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girls we're taught directly andindirectly that our role is to
nurture, support and take careof others.
We're praised for beingselfless.
We're praised for puttingpeople's needs before our own,
for being good girls who followthe rules.
This conditioning can be subtle.
It can show up in many areas ofour life.
(02:33):
It might be the expectationthat you're going to be the one
to manage the household when yougrow up, or the guilt you feel
when you take care of yourselfinstead of your family.
Maybe it's the belief that yourcareer success isn't as
important as your partner's, orthat your worth is tied to how
much you give rather than howmuch you achieve.
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Maybe it's the idea that youhave to work 10 times as hard to
be recognized for simple workthat men do.
I've been in those positions ina female-dominated field where
women had to do 10 times morethan a man to be respected as a
man and still were seen aslesser than in the field.
It's crazy, but those are thosesubtle messages that become very
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glaring.
They're deeply ingrained insociety and how we're brought up
different cultural factors.
I've lived all over the UnitedStates.
I was a military child and Ican tell you that depending on
where you live, geographically,cultures are very different and
how things are approached.
So it's like regionally,culturally I'm not just talking
about culturally from thestandpoint of your heritage, but
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even regionally where you live.
So all of these things areingrained to us and that's also
why your manifesting journey maynot look the same as somebody
else's, because we have thesegeneralized societal rules and
we have, like these regionalcultural ones, all of these
things that we've literally beenprogrammed with our entire life
.
And since these messages are sodeeply ingrained, they shape the
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way we think about our desires.
They shape the way we thinkabout what we actually want.
So many times when I talk towomen, they're trying to
manifest things that they thinkthey should want Not what they
really want, but what they'vebeen taught they should want.
It directly affects your worthand what you think is possible
for you.
These limitations becausethey're truly limitations make
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it harder for you to prioritizeyour dreams Because on some
level, you've been taught thatdoing that is wrong or selfish
and we talked about this alreadyon the last episode about
feeling guilty, aboutmanifesting for yourself.
And all of these things createblocks to the manifesting
process, more so for women thanmen.
Yes, I said it, more so forwomen than men when we think
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about limiting beliefs andthinking about what we want to
have as women in our societytoday, many times we are taught
that once we have kids, we haveto wait till they're grown up,
or that our worth comes frombeing a mother and having a
family.
And that gives you your worth,that nurturer, that person who
gives and loves and taking careof others, and that makes you
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who you are.
So it blocks this manifestationprocess of trying to receive
things, because we are innatelytaught to give things.
But for men in our society itis not like that.
That is not something that'singrained.
It's ingrained to them thatthey can do whatever and have
whatever and that people aregoing to be there to support
them and care for them in theirlife, that they get the support
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system.
They're not the support system,they get the support system and
therefore, when they go tomanifest, they believe the
universe is going to deliver,because women have been
delivering for them anyway.
They have this already in theirmind, that, oh, you know, I
have a great idea and my wifehelps me get it off the ground,
or I need something done andsomebody comes and does it for
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me Our society.
A lot of times we don't talkabout this in manifesting and
maybe it seems polarizingbecause you want to think it's
just equal across the board,that we can manifest whatever we
want, just as long as webelieve it.
And that is the basis.
You see, manifestation isn'tgender-related, but limiting
beliefs are.
I really want to talk aboutgender-related limiting beliefs
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because we talk about basiclimiting beliefs like oh, if you
grew up poor, you may havelimiting beliefs about money.
If you grew up not feeling veryloved, you may have limiting
beliefs when it comes torelationships and your ability
to be loved.
But rarely do we talk about thefact that if I grow up a woman,
my limiting beliefs are goingto be different than if I grew
up as a man.
I think we just need to tacklethat head on and not skirt
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around the issue period.
Where does your worth come from?
What, were you taught, is yourworth?
Because you are worthy and youhave to know you're worthy to
receive from the universe.
But what makes you worthy as awoman to receive Beauty looks?
I know that's what I was taughtfrom the universe.
But what makes you worthy as awoman to receive Beauty looks?
I know that's what I was taught.
You have to be beautiful andskinny.
That's the only reason.
That's your worth.
Your worth is based on how youlook.
That was part of it, thatbeauty before brains mentality.
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So how were you programmed as awoman?
Oh, people don't like a womanwho speaks their mind.
They wanted to be quiet and sitand be very meek.
Don't be loud.
That's a put off.
What a turn off.
Well, if you're taught thatstepping in your power and your
light and letting your voice beheard is a turn off, then that's
how you're going to relate tothe universe instead of just
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showing up in the fullness ofwho you are, it's going to block
those manifestations.
So how we're programmed matters.
And, yes, gender comes intoplay in that.
So many things come into play.
But let's just go ahead as womenand say, okay, what programs
have created limiting beliefs inme as a woman?
What I can do, can't do, canhave, can't have, should want,
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don't want.
What are they so that I canmove past that A limiting belief
that I had for a long time?
I got rid of this one quiteearly in my life.
But for growing up in a part ofmy adulthood, my beginning
adulthood was that the man hasto make more money than the wife
.
Like that's just how it has tobe, because if a woman makes
more than her husband, it'sgoing to cause problems in the
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relationship.
So if I'm sitting here tryingto manifest the money and stuff,
I'm always going to limit mymanifestation potential to make
sure I'm not getting more thanmy husband.
If I still hold on to thatbelief, do you see what I'm
saying, where it comes from,when I'm talking about gender
limiting beliefs?
That was a big one for me.
Oh, I can't make more than myhusband.
Oh, that'll make him feel bad.
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Like I said, I abandoned thatbelief a long time ago, but I
did believe it for quite sometime, to where, if I still
believed that to this day, Iwould only manifest to the limit
of however much money myhusband made, like I wouldn't go
above that, even if and I knowI do have the power and you have
the power, we all have thepower to manifest more than we
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can even think of if we let theuniverse do the work.
But those are where the blockscome in, because the universe
could say, no, you're going towin the Powerball and be a
billionaire, but in your mindyou think you can't have more
money than your husband, soyou're really never going to win
it.
Because you're like is yourhusband ever going to make a
billion dollars on his own?
And that's how it hinders yourmanifestation.
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See, when you've beenconditioned to believe that your
role is to give, to givewithout receiving, it's hard to
believe you're worthy of havingmore.
That's a big one for women,right?
You have to give and you don'tgive anything and expect
anything in return.
Or you should make less thanyour husband, or you have to
work harder to get that farahead, all of these things that
we're putting in.
So now you have these limitingbeliefs and you're thinking well
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, I shouldn't ask the universefor more.
I need to be grateful for whatI have.
It's selfish to focus on mydreams and they just keep you
stuck in a place of lack.
It feels like there's notenough for you and it also feels
like you're not deserving ofthose things.
You know.
If you can say, if you are a manand none of that apply, would
you be thinking differently?
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Is there a limitation there?
I think with manifestation youalways have to bring it back to
just this like neutral place,where it's not a belief that's
on men or women.
But if they can have it, I canhave it too.
I always say that inmanifestation If they can have
it, I can have it too, and to methat brings it back to neutral.
I always say that inmanifestation, if they can have
it, I can have it too, and to methat brings it back to neutral.
I'm trying to manifestsomething like I talked about a
couple weeks ago a new car and Isee somebody driving down the
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highway in the car that I want.
I say well, if they can have it, I can have it too.
It brings it back to neutral.
It takes that comparison out ofit.
But we put a lot of hindrance onourselves because of societal
expectations programming.
You just believe what you weretaught.
It doesn't mean anything iswrong with you.
It doesn't mean anything waswrong with the person who taught
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it to you.
That was just their program.
But what I'm asking you rightnow is are you ready to stop
playing small?
Because this societalprogramming and expectations can
make you feel like you have toshrink yourself into a box
that's been created for you.
Instead of dreaming big and yousettle for what's acceptable or
safe, you can downplay yourdesires.
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You may be worried about howthey're going to be perceived,
and this is a fear that womenexperience about stepping into
their full potential.
That holds us back frommanifesting what we really want,
if we're going to be honest andwe need to be honest so we can
strip that off, so we can moveforward and actually manifest
our desires.
Oh, shannon, why am I notmanifesting this?
Because there's somethingwithin you that is saying no, no
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, I can't.
We have to teach ourselves.
It's safe to want what we wantand it's okay.
I mean it takes away nothingfrom anyone else, and we talked
about it last week how you beingthe fullness of you and having
your desires met takes awaynothing from anybody else.
You deserve a life that lightsyou up.
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You deserve to manifestabundance and joy and love and
success.
It doesn't make you selfish.
It doesn't make you selfish, itdoesn't make you greedy.
It is empowering for you andyour light then spreads through
the world in a good way.
But we're taught so many timesto make it small, especially as
women.
Don't be a loud woman.
Know your place, your desiresand living in the fullness of
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your life and what you were puthere and destined to do, to
fulfill your passions andpurpose and have a life that
feels good Hard stop.
So how do we break free fromthis societal programming?
Because it's in us.
And these are the things when Isay some limiting beliefs are
very easy to overcome andreplace with empowering beliefs
and some take a little longer.
If you're in a place where it'sbeen so ingrained in you for so
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long, it's going to take alittle bit more time to
reprogram that right.
It's like if you're walking apath and you walk that path for
a week.
Yeah, you may see the trail alittle bit in the ground, but
it's not going to be deep.
But if you were walking thatsame path for 10 years, you
really weren't an out right?
I was speaking with my son andhis friend.
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We were just all kind ofhanging out this weekend.
We had family and food and youknow it was the end of the night
and they were just chilling.
We were just talking and theywere talking about girls.
Okay, girls came up and we weretalking about the difference
between now and when I wasgrowing up and body positivity,
because they were saying thatall the girls that are
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cheerleaders are all thin but somany of them have body issues.
They're like we don'tunderstand that, and so I had to
tell them from my perspective,like now I feel like there's
more body positivity, thatwhat's seen as a beautiful,
healthy body now that hasthicker thighs and more curves
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is acceptable and it's fine.
When I was growing up, if youweren't a stick Stan, it was a
problem.
Anything where you couldn't seesome sort of bone in your body,
you know no curves, just stickstraight.
You were chunky.
I watch TikTok sometimes andwatch interviews of people on
like the 90, early 2000s and howthey would ask women about
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their weight and, oh, you gainweight and they don't even look
big.
It's insane to me, but that'swhat I grew up in and I was
telling them this is somethingthat's very hard because it was
so ingrained in my upbringingand in society at that time that
women had to be real thin orthat they were overweight and
unhealthy, undesirable.
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Nobody's going to want that.
I still struggle with this andhave to catch myself with that
sometimes, oh my gosh, you'rebigger than a size zero.
What's wrong with you?
That was the mentality,society-wise and where I grew up
, just everywhere, and it stickswith you.
Those are the things that areingrained into us that you're
worthy if you're thin.
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Nobody listens to women whoaren't thin.
That's ridiculous to me now,but that's how I grew up and I
still have to catch myself.
I went through a debilitatingillness that made me skin and
bones and I worked so hard tobecome healthy.
I worked so hard to put onweight.
I look at myself now and Ithink I still want to lose
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weight, even though I just wentthrough and manifested health so
I could gain weight.
I had to look at myself and sayI love you just where you are
and looking at you now you'rehealthy, you're happy, you're
not sickly.
But those are how society canimpress upon you for so long,
even into the age where I am now, that I still have to work on
these limiting beliefs, that I'mworthy to show up on camera
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even though I'm not stick thin,that people are still going to
listen to me even if I'm notstick thin.
And I still struggle with that.
But that was impressed upon meso much.
I was a ballerina growing upand back then I weighed 98
pounds and they told me my legswere still too thick for a
ballerina.
They were muscular, but theywere too thick.
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So those are things that do getinto your programming, that you
have to work past.
So how do we do that?
Let's talk about how wereprogram this, because you may
be saying, shannon, what doesyour weight or a woman's weight
have anything to do withmanifestation?
Well, if I don't feel like I'mworthy to show up on video, how
does my business continue tothrive Because of how I look, if
I'm too scared to put myselfout there and I say, oh, I'm
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going to wait.
If I lose five pounds and thengain five pounds.
The universe has to take awaymy success Like do you see how
these things are interconnected?
For women, it's crazy.
Okay, so let's acknowledge theprogramming, and the first step
is awareness, just being aware.
Start paying attention to thebeliefs that pop up when you
think about manifesting yourdesires.
When I thought about starting abusiness, I wanted to look a
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certain way on camera.
Does that even matter?
Does that matter?
Ask yourself if you feel guiltyabout wanting stuff.
Do you feel guilty for wantingto start an endeavor and you may
outpace your husband and makemore money than that person,
your partner, whoever it is?
Do you worry about how otherswill perceive that?
Oh, she makes more than herhusband.
Do you worry about thatperception?
Acknowledge these thoughts andacknowledge also that they're
not your fault.
They're a result of programmingthat you received from society.
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Once you're aware of theprogramming, then, and only then
, can you begin to challenge itand you're going to challenge
those limiting beliefs.
So step two is that, onceyou've identified it, you ask
yourself is this really true?
Is this belief serving me or isit holding me back?
So, if you believe that youshouldn't want more because it's
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selfish, challenge that belief.
If you believe that making moremoney than your husband is
going to cause a problem,challenge that belief.
No, making more than my husbandis just going to make us all
the more happier, because we'regoing to have more of the things
that we want together in thispartnership.
Ask yourself why you think it.
Where did it come from?
And you're often going to findthat it's just an outdated
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societal expectation rather thanyour own truth.
Like I said, I thought that wayfor a while.
Now my husband he's not goingto care where the money comes
from.
He don't care.
He does not care.
As a matter of fact, I'm surehe would love the fact and he
has in the past loved the factwhen I have my own money because
I like to spend money.
He's a saver.
He don't like to spend money.
Now, if I ask for something andI'm like, babe, buy me this,
he's going to buy it for me.
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He spoils me and I love it andwe have this great relationship.
But if I made a million dollarsa year and he still made what
he made and I spent all of that,as long as our bills are paid,
he don't care and he would loveit more if it didn't come out of
his own bank account because heallow the universe to bring me
more and it's fine.
You have to rewrite thenarrative.
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And that's number three,because once you challenge these
limiting beliefs, you have torewrite the story.
You have to replace the oldbeliefs with empowering ones.
So, instead of believing thatmy husband can make more than me
because that would make himfeel bad, I can say money flows
to my whole family, to myself.
It doesn't make him less worthy.
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Does that make sense?
My earning potential doesn'ttake away from who he is.
Period.
Like I said, I rewrote thatbelief a long time ago in my
life.
But what I earn in my potentialdoesn't take away from somebody
else's potential.
It doesn't make somebody elseless than I know.
I'm not going to limit myself.
That was my new story.
I am not going to limit myself.
I am not going to hold myselfback.
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What he makes, he can determinewhat he makes.
I'm going to determine what Imake and I rewired that thought.
So now I don't care.
It's really not a thing.
Now it's not.
And we've been in places in ourmarriage where he's made more
than me, I've made more than him.
I don't care, I'm not going tolet anybody stop me, not even my
husband, from fulfilling mywhole potential and letting the
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universe bring my desires to me.
Period.
It was my new story.
So, whatever your story is,whatever societal belief you
have, rewrite it to help youbreak free from the programming
so that you can step into yourmanifestation power.
When I think about how my bodylooks, I have to think people
don't care what I look like whenI show up, as long as I'm
helping them to manifest thelife they love.
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What my body looks like isirrelevant.
It's not the body, it's themessage.
So how are you rewriting thenarrative?
I see a lot, too, with women,and I'm just going to touch on
this I touched on a little bitlast week of having to wait till
the time is right to go aftertheir desires, because that's a
whole nother societal pressurethat you have to wait till your
kids are older.
You have to put your dreams onhold.
They need you right now.
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You have to focus on that orother responsibilities.
If you don't have kids, maybeyou're waiting for a better time
, when life slows down or whenyou've saved more money.
Whatever the thing may be and Ireally want to touch on the
fact that we have beenconditioned in society that
there's a perfect time andthere's a perfect timeline.
But there is never going to bea perfect time.
The timeline is different foreverybody.
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Everybody's life has its ownchallenges and if you keep
waiting, you'll find that laterreally never comes, because the
truth is, you don't have to waittill everything is perfect to
start manifesting your desires.
You can start now, where youare, even if it feels messy,
even if it feels imperfect.
Women who break free fromsocietal expectations and start
prioritizing their desires now,whether their kids are young or
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grown, their careers are busy orstable, whether they know what
they want to do or don't knowwhat they want to do, they're
the ones that begin to see thebiggest shifts in their life.
They stop waiting forpermission from society and they
start giving themselvespermission to dream big.
Like I said when I was goingthrough that your husband's
supposed to make more money thanyou thing and I decided, no,
that's crap.
I stopped waiting forpermission to say for somebody
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to tell me it's okay.
It's okay, shannon, if you makemore than your husband.
I quit waiting for that and Isaid screw it, I am gonna make
what I wanna make.
I don't care what anybody says.
Give yourself permission.
Here's where the magic happens,because once you're broken free
from societal programming,you're free to manifest without
limitation.
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You're no longer playing small,you're no longer apologizing
for your desires.
You're stepping into your fullpower as a manifester.
And that's when things reallystart to shift.
Reprogramming your mind toembrace your desires
unapologetically is a process,but it starts with giving
yourself permission to want whatyou want unapologetically.
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You don't have to followsocietal rules, you don't.
Just because you're a womandoesn't mean you have to follow
the societal rules that you'regiven when it comes to having
the life that you want.
You get to create your own life, and the more that you affirm
you're worthy, the more theuniverse is going to respond
with opportunities, abundanceand alignment.
So your challenge for this weekis to start noticing the way
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societal programming may beinfluencing your beliefs and
actions.
Identify those limiting beliefs, challenge them and rewrite
them.
Give yourself permission towant more, to dream bigger and
to manifest unapologetically.
If you're really ready to deepdive into reprogramming your
mind and breaking free fromlimiting beliefs, I invite you
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to join the Manifesting MadeSimple Masterclass.
It is all about helping you tomanifest your desires with ease
and confidence, without guilt,without overwhelm.
You can find the link in theshow notes or you can go to
livelifeunapologeticallycom.
Forward, slash manifest to grabit today.
Remember you have the power torewrite your story and manifest
your desires unapologetically.
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Societal programming doesn'tdefine you.
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