December 10, 2024 • 25 mins
Dive into a topic that impacts every manifestation journey: emotional blocks. While thoughts and actions are important, your emotions create your vibrational frequency and determine what you attract. But what happens when emotions like doubt, fear, or unworthiness get in the way?
This Episode Covers:
- Common emotional blocks that prevent manifestation
- Why suppressing emotions doesn’t work—and what to do instead.
- How to use your emotions as indicators to uncover limiting beliefs.
- Steps to acknowledge, shift, and replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones.
- The importance of pairing positive emotions with new beliefs to heal blocks and raise your frequency.
- Why self-compassion is key to this process
If you’re ready to clear the resistance holding you back and manifest from a place of alignment, this episode is for you.
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- The Feel to Flourish Masterclass for deeper emotional shifting
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there and welcome back to the Live Life
Unapologetically podcast.
I am Shannon, and today we aretalking about something that
impacts every manifestationjourney emotional blocks.
But before we dive in, I wantto be crystal clear I am a coach
, not a therapist, while I dohave a degree in psychology.
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What we are going to exploretoday is about the manifesting
process, not therapy.
If you are struggling with deepemotional wounds or trauma, I
encourage you to seek supportfrom a mental health
professional.
That is always a good idea.
If you're looking to understandhow your emotions affect your
ability to manifest and how toalign those emotions with your
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desire, then this episode is foryou.
So now that we have thatcovered, I want you to grab your
favorite drink, cozy up and wecan officially dive in.
You see, manifesting isn't justabout thoughts and actions.
It's about emotions.
Emotions create yourvibrational frequency, and that
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frequency determines what youattract.
Positive, aligned emotions helpyou to attract your desires
because they're reinforcing yourbeliefs.
They are helping you to buildnew beliefs that tell you that
anything is possible, whilenegative emotions like doubt,
fear or frustration can createblocks that keep those desires
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at bay.
Here are a few examples ofemotions that can block your
manifestations, and I said a fewbecause there are many and you
have to explore your own.
These are some that I hear themost when I'm speaking with
women about manifestation.
The first is doubt what if thisdoesn't work out?
Or fear I'm scared to take thenext step.
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Unworthiness I don't deservethis Guilt.
I shouldn't want more.
Or this is asking too muchFrustration.
Why isn't it happening yet?
And shame I failed before, soI'll probably fail again.
These emotions are like signalstelling you something is out of
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alignment.
Here's where a lot of peopleget it wrong.
They think they have to ignoreor suppress these emotions to
manifest.
You know the drill Just thinkpositive, control your and think
happy thoughts.
But pushing emotions down doesnot make them disappear.
In fact, it solidifies theblock even more.
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Ignoring the signal doesn'tsolve the problem.
It just keeps you stuck,because the more you're focused
on trying to suppress or ignore,the more you're focusing on
that emotion.
Anyway, you're still giving itattention, so you're just
cementing it over and over andover.
So that's why around here, wedo not suppress emotions.
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We can mindset shift to take usfrom things that aren't serving
us to things that are serving us.
We can acknowledge them.
We don't have to sit in them,we don't have to accept them,
but we do have to acknowledgethem.
The first step is just that toacknowledge any emotional block
you may have.
It's okay to feel doubt, it'sokay to feel fear or frustration
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.
You are human and thoseemotions are valid.
Acknowledging them doesn't meanyou're giving them power.
It means you're understandingthe message they're sending to
you, because emotions areindicators.
They are going to clue you in,especially when an emotion
arises that's attached to adesire that you're trying to
manifest.
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I like to think of my emotionsas my dashboard for
manifestation.
If you're feeling doubt, it's awarning light saying, hey,
there's a limiting belief here.
Once you acknowledge thatemotion, you can look deeper and
ask what limiting belief iscausing this feeling, because
many times we have limitingbeliefs that we don't even know
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we have, and emotions can clueus into that, because limiting
beliefs can be so ingrained inour subconscious we're not even
consciously aware of what theyare.
I told this story a while ago onanother episode.
I'm going to tell it to youagain.
When I was going through myjourney of manifesting the
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wealth that I have.
I had gotten to a certain placeand it stalled Like everything
was moving, moving, moving acertain place and it stalled
Like everything was moving,moving, moving, moving and it
stalled.
I sat there and I was like whatis going on?
I just really listened to myemotions and I started thinking
about the wealth and where I wasand I clued in on this emotion
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of unworthiness.
Why did I feel like I wasunworthy to go to the next level
in my financial manifestation,in my money manifestation?
Come to find out.
I had a limiting belief that Ifelt my older brother and sister
needed to stay above me in thewealth brackets.
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The backstory to this is mybrother and sister have a
different father than me.
I'm my father's only child.
Their father came from a familythat had wealth.
My father did not.
They were the wealthy kids fromthe wealthy family and I was
just the normal kid from theeveryday family.
They were supposed to have morethan me because their last name
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carried more wealth than mylast name carried.
It was this unspoken thing thatwent on through growing up,
through the gifts that theywould give, the opportunities
they had, the fact that theycould go to their father's beach
house, like their father owneda home, and then there was this
family beach house.
It was beautiful.
It was just this unspoken thingthat they had more than I did.
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So I grew up believing thatthey should have more than I
have.
Throughout our adult lives theyalways had more than I did.
When I finally got to thisplace where I was nipping at
their heels, so to speak,financially, everything just
stalled right there becausesubconsciously, I had this
limiting belief of unworthinessthat they had to do better than
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me.
I wasn't worthy to reach thefinancial place where they were
because I didn't come from thatfamily.
They were always supposed tohave more than me.
I say this with limiting beliefsall the time.
There's nobody to blame forthis limiting belief in myself.
It was just observation,experience and my perception.
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Growing up, my brother andsister never came to me and were
like you're never going to havewhat we have because we have
the best daddy.
They didn't say that to me.
They didn't act that waytowards me.
It was just little things thatI was experiencing throughout my
environment that to me.
They didn't act that waytowards me.
It was just little things thatI was experiencing throughout my
environment that I noticed.
That's why I said it was likethis unspoken theme Limiting
beliefs don't have to havesomewhere to lay blame.
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When we're talking aboutemotional blocks and feeling
certain ways, I want you to takeblame out of it.
You don't have to lay blamesomewhere like oh well, I feel
this way and I have thislimiting belief because my mama
did this, my daddy did this, myex did that, my you know friend,
who I thought was my friend butwas really my hater, did this.
We don't have to find blame.
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The purpose is to just seewhere did it come from and to
understand that was myperception.
There is.
It doesn't matter where itreally to me and that's why it's
not therapy it doesn't reallymatter where it came from.
Where are you now?
Even if and I want to reiterateagain that my brother and sister
did not grew up teasing mesaying that they had a wealthy
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dad and I did not is irrelevantto my limiting belief that I
felt as if I could not make thesame amount or more money than
them.
It's irrelevant.
What am I doing with that now?
What choice am I making?
Am I going to choose to saysomebody teased me about
something so I'm going to staystuck forever, or am I going to
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say, okay, well, that's wherethat belief came from.
Now, what?
That's how I approach things,that's how I encourage my
clients to approach things.
We can rehash the past andboohoo and blame, or we can say
I acknowledge it, this is how Ifeel, this is the belief that's
attached to it.
That's getting in my way.
This feeling, this emotion,indicated I had a limiting
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belief.
Oh, I see where they'reconnected in relation to this
desire.
Now, what can I do?
You'll create your reality soyou can choose to give your
reality over to somebody elsewhen it comes to limiting
beliefs, because some limitingbeliefs are ingrained into us
because of the actions of others.
Sometimes they are, sometimesthey aren't.
That's not what this is about.
This is about moving forward.
What am I going to do now?
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What do I choose to do now?
Do I choose to now be thecreator and take this and move
forward?
Because you don't need anyinput from anybody else to
change your belief.
You just get to change yourbelief.
Here's another example of howemotions are indicators when
they're negative and how, oncewe acknowledge them, we can find
a limiting belief that is theblock.
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Say, you're feeling doubt aboutstarting a business.
I have so many clients andfriends who are starting
businesses right now Say theyfeel doubt.
Maybe they discovered that theunderlying belief is I failed
before, so I'll fail again.
That's where the doubt feelingcomes from.
When that's acknowledged, thenyou can choose to shift it.
So not only are weacknowledging our emotions,
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we're not suppressing them,we're not ignoring them.
We're saying, huh, where isthis coming from?
And you choose to shift.
You don't have to stay stuck inthat story.
You create a new empoweringbelief that aligns with what you
want to manifest.
I could have stayed stuck inthe story that my brother and my
sister always have to make moremoney than I do, because,
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simply, of who their DNA ispaired with.
Or I choose and I made a choicethat that is so silly.
What does that have to do withme, my life, what I want?
Not a thing.
I am just as deserving asanybody else, regardless if my
parents had money or didn't.
I shifted the belief and Icreated new empowering beliefs.
That's where my belief I amworthy simply because I exist
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really started to take form inmy life.
Simply because I'm here, I amworthy to have that.
And you know what?
My money manifestations pickedback up again once I went
through this process that we'regoing to be talking about,
because it is a process I didn'tjust say one day well, that's a
stupid thing to think.
That's a dumb limiting belief,because, honestly, I did tell
myself that I was like Shannonthat is the silliest thing.
Why the hell would you thinkyou have to stay below anybody
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else on this planet?
Why would you think that when Isaid it out loud, it sounded so
stupid and silly, but I stilldidn't overcome it just because
I acknowledged it?
So I want you to know sometimes, when you say a limiting belief
out loud and we get to theheart of it, you might think to
yourself what in the world thisis ridiculous.
Sometimes it's ridiculous,sometimes it's valid.
In all of this, just have somecompassion for yourself, because
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I didn't sit there and tellmyself now I didn't create a new
negative pattern of God.
You're so dumb for thinkingthat so long.
Why the fuck did you think thatfor so long?
You know how much further alongyou'd be if you didn't have
like.
I didn't sit there and beatmyself up about the belief.
I just acknowledged it and,honestly, when I said it out
loud, coming up with theempowering belief didn't seem
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like such a hurdle, if thatmakes sense.
So let's go back to the otherexample.
If the limiting belief is, Ifailed before, so I'll fail
again, make an empowering belief.
You have to make a belief thatis opposite of the negative or
limiting belief.
Whatever is limiting you, justflip it and make it the opposite
.
I'm learning how to run asuccessful business.
Flip it and make it theopposite.
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I'm learning how to run asuccessful business.
My dreams are valid.
My business will thrive.
Failure is only giving up.
Learning is pushing forward.
The key here is to replace thebelief, but not just with words,
because now you have to pairthe new belief with a positive
emotion.
So remember your negativeemotion with I failed before, so
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I'll fail again was doubt, andthat's the emotion that was
attached to it.
Now, with your new empoweringbelief the words, because those
are just words now you attach anew emotion Because the reason
emotional blocks stick is thatwe focus so much on these
affirmations that we're makingand we're not changing the
emotion attached to it theseaffirmations that we're making
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and we're not changing theemotion attached to it.
So, if you find yourself stuckin this process, really key in
on emotions, because it's anemotional block.
We're talking about healingemotional blocks today.
So we have to not only changethe words, but we have to change
the emotion.
The old emotion of fear, doubtand frustration is going to keep
pulling you back into thelimiting belief if you don't
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create a new emotion that youattach to the new affirmation or
empowering belief, affirmations, empowering beliefs same thing.
You're empowering yourself,you're affirming a new belief to
yourself, but you have toattach an emotion to that.
When you create the new belief,ask yourself what positive
emotion can I attach to this newbelief?
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Maybe it's excitement aboutgrowing a business, or gratitude
for the opportunity to learn,or confidence in your ability to
figure things out.
In my case, the emotion wasbeing free to be me.
I just felt this sense offreedom and release and peace
and joy that I didn't have to bestuck in an arbitrary box that
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I made for myself to always bebehind somebody else.
In my Manifestation Made SimpleMasterclass, which is available
on my website,livelifeunapologeticallycom, I
talk about the easiest way to doemotional shifting and that's
by understanding emotions sothat you can shift.
There are four quadrants ofemotions.
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There's high-intensity negative, high-intensity positive,
low-intensity negative andlow-intensity positive.
So there's an opposite for eachand within those it's easier to
shift from the same intensity.
So if your limiting belief isattached to a high intensity
negative, then you want tocultivate a high intensity
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positive emotion to your newempowering belief.
If you have a low intensitynegative emotion with your
limiting belief, then you'regoing to want to switch or shift
with a low intensity positiveemotion.
Now you can switch through allof the quadrants.
It's just more advanced to dothat when you're just starting.
It's good to stay with the sameintensity level to go from one
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to the other, and so that's howI recommend starting.
For instance, if you have a highintensity negative emotion
attached to a limiting belief,like frustration, shock,
nervousness, you're frightened,you're stressed, then you can
move it over to a high intensitypositive, like motivated,
optimistic, enthusiastic,inspired or blissful.
It just makes the shiftingeasier emotionally to stay on
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that same because you're on ahigher, like frequency per se
what they say is a frequencyit's really not a frequency.
You're on a higher intensitylevel, so just move over to
another high intensity level.
If you're on a low intensitylevel and you're feeling
hopeless or exhausted,disheartened, bored, maybe
you're embarrassed, then justgently move yourself to a low
intensity positive, like youdon't have to go into like an
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extreme high, you could just begrateful, restful, serene, you
could just be chill, carefree.
You can use those emotions.
So if you're not sure what newemotion to try to switch to, or
if you want to learn more aboutthe types of emotions and how to
move from one to the next, thenI want you to grab the Feel to
Flourish Masterclass.
If you want to go more in depth, if you want to learn more
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about that, the goal is reallyto feel the new emotion deeply
and consistently and that's whathelps you to shift your
vibration and align with yourdesires.
I've already mentioned it, butI want to mention this again
because I feel like this iscrucial.
I want to talk aboutself-compassion, because
changing limiting beliefs andhealing emotional blocks takes
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time.
It is like going to the gym.
You do not expect to go to thegym on day one and lift heavy
weights.
You start small, you build yourstrengths and you celebrate
your progress.
Manifestation is the same way.
You are building new neuralpathways in your brain.
That doesn't happen overnight.
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It happens one step at a time.
So every time you'reacknowledging the emotional
block and you're like that's thelimiting belief.
You create that new empoweringbelief with the positive emotion
.
You strengthen that muscle, youstrengthen that new pathway.
You should celebrate everysmall step that you take, every
that new pathway.
You should celebrate everysmall step that you take, every
single small step.
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What is a small step?
When I was going through andchanging the belief that my
brother and sister had to makemore money than me anytime,
things would start to get movingand I would find myself kind of
shirking back because I was nowaware, because I didn't ignore
or suppress and I could attachthe emotion that I needed to
heal to the limiting belief.
I could say, oh, I rememberthat's a limiting belief, but
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you know what?
And I would just reaffirm tomyself my new empowering belief
and I would feel that emotion.
I would take a moment and closemy eyes and really feel into it
and be into it.
I would encompass andencapsulate that emotion through
my whole being.
It works like this the more youdo it, the longer periods of
time before that little limitingbelief kind of creeps back in.
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Right, maybe you really have tobe consistent and super focused
on this new empowering belieffor almost all day.
Every day you feel like itbecause you know, now that
you've acknowledged it andyou're aware, you're going to be
more conscious of it.
And when it's being applied inyour life, I always say this how
you talk to yourself matters.
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This is really how you'retalking to yourself, feeling
about yourself and feeling aboutyour desire.
When I used to do things likestub my toe or you know simple
little things, I used to alwayssay, shannon, stub my toe, or
you know simple little things.
I used to always say, shannon,you're such an idiot.
Well, I was reinforcing tomyself that I was unworthy, I
was dumb and I'm so smart Likethat's crazy to me because I'm
so smart.
But I was reinforcing this inmy brain.
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Once I became aware, I noticedI was doing it all the time.
Like I thought I just did itevery now and then I was like,
oh, don't do that again.
And then, when I became aware,I noticed I was doing it all the
time.
But then I would change myself-talk like, okay, everybody
stubs their toe.
Mistakes aren't a big deal,that's not even a thing anymore.
That's been eliminated.
I don't have that issue anymore, but it takes time.
So when I was doing it ofcourse I was really then it
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would come up randomly here orthere and I would just have to
go back and reinforce it again.
So it's the same thing.
You're just building a muscle.
You're just trying to let onebelief leave your mind and
another one cement itself inyour mind, and that takes time.
You don't go to the gym onetime and expect to be ripped.
So I don't want you to do thiswork once and think everything
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is going to change immediately.
Didn't think you failed in someway, or you missed the mark, or
you screwed up, or this shitjust does not work.
Be kind to yourself.
Self-compassion keeps youmotivated and it keeps you
aligned, especially when you'rechanging limiting beliefs.
I also want to say and I saidit before, I will say it again,
I'm going to keep saying itbecause repetition Some limiting
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beliefs are going to be easierto overcome than others.
Some things are not as deeplyrooted in you when it comes to
these emotional blocks and theemotions they elicit than others
.
I want you to sit with that andrealize that, and that's why
you have compassion.
I can't, even if I wanted to, Ican't sit here and tell you
that, oh well, if you do thisfor seven days, you're good to
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go.
It doesn't work like that.
Your brain is very complex,emotions are complex and they're
different.
You may have feelings ofself-doubt about one area of
your life but not another.
But it's deeper in another areaof your life.
I have a little bit ofself-doubt when it comes to
relationships, but I have a lotwhen it comes to business.
Well then, the self-doubt andlimiting beliefs, feeling,
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emotion of doubt is going to beeasier to overcome in the area
of relationships and business.
It just depends on how deeplyit is rooted.
But it is possible.
You can rewire your brain.
That is possible.
So practice self-compassion.
You are literally working outyour brain and changing your
brain.
I don't know why people thinkthis happens overnight.
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It frustrates me in themanifesting world that it's like
dude, just change your thoughtstomorrow and your life's going
to change exponentially.
It's a process.
Now, once you learn thisprocess, it gets easier, it gets
faster and you manifest quicker.
You overcome things because youknow how to do it.
It just depends on where you'restarting and depends on how
deeply rooted these emotions arein you.
So here's an exercise you cantry this week.
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These emotions are in you.
So here's an exercise you cantry this week and I'm not going
to tell you that you're going tohave a complete change of the
belief.
What I will tell you is that ifyou continue to do this
consistently, you are going tosee change.
You are going to feel better,lighter, more empowered right
away, because you're dealingwith it, you're not hiding from
it and you're tapping into newpower, but you're going to see
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the effects more and more andmore over time.
I gave this example to somebodywho had commented on one of my
videos on TikTok.
Sometimes we have to start withsomething that's very small,
not a lot attached to it, justto get used to the process.
I decided, after a conversationwith another coach, that I was
going to get within the firstthree parking spaces at every
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store I went to without havingto wait for somebody to pull out
, like it was just going to beopen and I pull right in.
I started working on that andwhy.
I thought that wasn't going tohappen for me.
Like guys, I literally thoughtthat somebody else deserved the
space more, somebody elsedeserved to be closer to the
store than I did.
I know, but anyway I worked onthat belief.
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No-transcript, it's not thatyou're not going to see anything
, it just may be a little spotty, but it just becomes more and
more consistent.
So the first thing you're goingto do is you're going to
identify an emotional block.
Think of an area where you'restuck or frustrated.
If you have to start withsomething, that's just parking
spaces, start there just toprove to yourself that you can
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do this.
Notice any emotions that comesup Is it doubt, is it fear, is
it unworthiness?
And then ask yourself whatlimiting belief is creating that
emotion and write it down.
Then you're going to choose anew empowering belief that is
positive and aligned and writethat down as your affirmation.
Your affirmation is the oppositeof the limiting belief.
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Your affirmation is not thedesire.
It's the opposite of yourlimiting belief, because you're
trying to change the belief toallow the desire to come.
If the desire is I want to be amillionaire, but the limiting
belief is I'm not deservingwealth, you can say I'm going to
be a millionaire as much as youwant, but you're still going to
be blocked.
I'm not deserving of wealthbecomes I am worthy and
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deserving of wealth.
You say that you bring in themillionaire status.
So you're going to identifyyour block.
Ask yourself create theempowering belief.
And now comes the fun part,where you pair it with the
positive emotions.
Close your eyes, take a fewdeep breaths and feel the
emotion that you want to attachto your new belief.
Maybe it's joy, excitement orconfidence.
Let yourself feel it fully,repeat and celebrate.
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Repeat the practice regularlyrecognition and finding and
feeling that new emotion andthen celebrate the little times
that you see it showing up, likefor me when I was sporadically
getting within the first threeand I celebrated it every single
time until it just becamenormal, consistent and always is
.
If you really want to go deeper,if you need some more guidance,
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things that are morepersonalized, in my Manifest
Sheet coaching program we do gointo identifying and shifting
these emotional blocks.
We build the self-worth.
We align the beliefs with yourdesires.
We create a consistent practicethat makes the manifesting
natural.
It makes manifesting fun andvery personalized because you
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don't have to do it alone.
If you're ready to releaseresistance and manifest from a
place of alignment, thenManifest.
She may be perfect for you.
You can find the link in theshow notes or you can just go to
coachingwithshannonkcom.
Remember, emotional blocks arejust signals.
You have the power to shiftthem one step at a time.
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Be kind to yourself, trust theprocess and keep showing up.
I know that you have got thisand I will chat with you next
week.
Hey there and welcome back to the Live Life
Unapologetically podcast.
I am Shannon, and today we aretalking about something that
impacts every manifestationjourney emotional blocks.
But before we dive in, I wantto be crystal clear I am a coach
, not a therapist, while I dohave a degree in psychology.
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What we are going to exploretoday is about the manifesting
process, not therapy.
If you are struggling with deepemotional wounds or trauma, I
encourage you to seek supportfrom a mental health
professional.
That is always a good idea.
If you're looking to understandhow your emotions affect your
ability to manifest and how toalign those emotions with your
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desire, then this episode is foryou.
So now that we have thatcovered, I want you to grab your
favorite drink, cozy up and wecan officially dive in.
You see, manifesting isn't justabout thoughts and actions.
It's about emotions.
Emotions create yourvibrational frequency, and that
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frequency determines what youattract.
Positive, aligned emotions helpyou to attract your desires
because they're reinforcing yourbeliefs.
They are helping you to buildnew beliefs that tell you that
anything is possible, whilenegative emotions like doubt,
fear or frustration can createblocks that keep those desires
(01:27):
at bay.
Here are a few examples ofemotions that can block your
manifestations, and I said a fewbecause there are many and you
have to explore your own.
These are some that I hear themost when I'm speaking with
women about manifestation.
The first is doubt what if thisdoesn't work out?
Or fear I'm scared to take thenext step.
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Unworthiness I don't deservethis Guilt.
I shouldn't want more.
Or this is asking too muchFrustration.
Why isn't it happening yet?
And shame I failed before, soI'll probably fail again.
These emotions are like signalstelling you something is out of
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alignment.
Here's where a lot of peopleget it wrong.
They think they have to ignoreor suppress these emotions to
manifest.
You know the drill Just thinkpositive, control your and think
happy thoughts.
But pushing emotions down doesnot make them disappear.
In fact, it solidifies theblock even more.
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Ignoring the signal doesn'tsolve the problem.
It just keeps you stuck,because the more you're focused
on trying to suppress or ignore,the more you're focusing on
that emotion.
Anyway, you're still giving itattention, so you're just
cementing it over and over andover.
So that's why around here, wedo not suppress emotions.
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We can mindset shift to take usfrom things that aren't serving
us to things that are serving us.
We can acknowledge them.
We don't have to sit in them,we don't have to accept them,
but we do have to acknowledgethem.
The first step is just that toacknowledge any emotional block
you may have.
It's okay to feel doubt, it'sokay to feel fear or frustration
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.
You are human and thoseemotions are valid.
Acknowledging them doesn't meanyou're giving them power.
It means you're understandingthe message they're sending to
you, because emotions areindicators.
They are going to clue you in,especially when an emotion
arises that's attached to adesire that you're trying to
manifest.
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I like to think of my emotionsas my dashboard for
manifestation.
If you're feeling doubt, it's awarning light saying, hey,
there's a limiting belief here.
Once you acknowledge thatemotion, you can look deeper and
ask what limiting belief iscausing this feeling, because
many times we have limitingbeliefs that we don't even know
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we have, and emotions can clueus into that, because limiting
beliefs can be so ingrained inour subconscious we're not even
consciously aware of what theyare.
I told this story a while ago onanother episode.
I'm going to tell it to youagain.
When I was going through myjourney of manifesting the
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wealth that I have.
I had gotten to a certain placeand it stalled Like everything
was moving, moving, moving acertain place and it stalled
Like everything was moving,moving, moving, moving and it
stalled.
I sat there and I was like whatis going on?
I just really listened to myemotions and I started thinking
about the wealth and where I wasand I clued in on this emotion
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of unworthiness.
Why did I feel like I wasunworthy to go to the next level
in my financial manifestation,in my money manifestation?
Come to find out.
I had a limiting belief that Ifelt my older brother and sister
needed to stay above me in thewealth brackets.
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The backstory to this is mybrother and sister have a
different father than me.
I'm my father's only child.
Their father came from a familythat had wealth.
My father did not.
They were the wealthy kids fromthe wealthy family and I was
just the normal kid from theeveryday family.
They were supposed to have morethan me because their last name
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carried more wealth than mylast name carried.
It was this unspoken thing thatwent on through growing up,
through the gifts that theywould give, the opportunities
they had, the fact that theycould go to their father's beach
house, like their father owneda home, and then there was this
family beach house.
It was beautiful.
It was just this unspoken thingthat they had more than I did.
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So I grew up believing thatthey should have more than I
have.
Throughout our adult lives theyalways had more than I did.
When I finally got to thisplace where I was nipping at
their heels, so to speak,financially, everything just
stalled right there becausesubconsciously, I had this
limiting belief of unworthinessthat they had to do better than
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me.
I wasn't worthy to reach thefinancial place where they were
because I didn't come from thatfamily.
They were always supposed tohave more than me.
I say this with limiting beliefsall the time.
There's nobody to blame forthis limiting belief in myself.
It was just observation,experience and my perception.
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Growing up, my brother andsister never came to me and were
like you're never going to havewhat we have because we have
the best daddy.
They didn't say that to me.
They didn't act that waytowards me.
It was just little things thatI was experiencing throughout my
environment that to me.
They didn't act that waytowards me.
It was just little things thatI was experiencing throughout my
environment that I noticed.
That's why I said it was likethis unspoken theme Limiting
beliefs don't have to havesomewhere to lay blame.
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When we're talking aboutemotional blocks and feeling
certain ways, I want you to takeblame out of it.
You don't have to lay blamesomewhere like oh well, I feel
this way and I have thislimiting belief because my mama
did this, my daddy did this, myex did that, my you know friend,
who I thought was my friend butwas really my hater, did this.
We don't have to find blame.
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The purpose is to just seewhere did it come from and to
understand that was myperception.
There is.
It doesn't matter where itreally to me and that's why it's
not therapy it doesn't reallymatter where it came from.
Where are you now?
Even if and I want to reiterateagain that my brother and sister
did not grew up teasing mesaying that they had a wealthy
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dad and I did not is irrelevantto my limiting belief that I
felt as if I could not make thesame amount or more money than
them.
It's irrelevant.
What am I doing with that now?
What choice am I making?
Am I going to choose to saysomebody teased me about
something so I'm going to staystuck forever, or am I going to
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say, okay, well, that's wherethat belief came from.
Now, what?
That's how I approach things,that's how I encourage my
clients to approach things.
We can rehash the past andboohoo and blame, or we can say
I acknowledge it, this is how Ifeel, this is the belief that's
attached to it.
That's getting in my way.
This feeling, this emotion,indicated I had a limiting
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belief.
Oh, I see where they'reconnected in relation to this
desire.
Now, what can I do?
You'll create your reality soyou can choose to give your
reality over to somebody elsewhen it comes to limiting
beliefs, because some limitingbeliefs are ingrained into us
because of the actions of others.
Sometimes they are, sometimesthey aren't.
That's not what this is about.
This is about moving forward.
What am I going to do now?
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What do I choose to do now?
Do I choose to now be thecreator and take this and move
forward?
Because you don't need anyinput from anybody else to
change your belief.
You just get to change yourbelief.
Here's another example of howemotions are indicators when
they're negative and how, oncewe acknowledge them, we can find
a limiting belief that is theblock.
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Say, you're feeling doubt aboutstarting a business.
I have so many clients andfriends who are starting
businesses right now Say theyfeel doubt.
Maybe they discovered that theunderlying belief is I failed
before, so I'll fail again.
That's where the doubt feelingcomes from.
When that's acknowledged, thenyou can choose to shift it.
So not only are weacknowledging our emotions,
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we're not suppressing them,we're not ignoring them.
We're saying, huh, where isthis coming from?
And you choose to shift.
You don't have to stay stuck inthat story.
You create a new empoweringbelief that aligns with what you
want to manifest.
I could have stayed stuck inthe story that my brother and my
sister always have to make moremoney than I do, because,
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simply, of who their DNA ispaired with.
Or I choose and I made a choicethat that is so silly.
What does that have to do withme, my life, what I want?
Not a thing.
I am just as deserving asanybody else, regardless if my
parents had money or didn't.
I shifted the belief and Icreated new empowering beliefs.
That's where my belief I amworthy simply because I exist
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really started to take form inmy life.
Simply because I'm here, I amworthy to have that.
And you know what?
My money manifestations pickedback up again once I went
through this process that we'regoing to be talking about,
because it is a process I didn'tjust say one day well, that's a
stupid thing to think.
That's a dumb limiting belief,because, honestly, I did tell
myself that I was like Shannonthat is the silliest thing.
Why the hell would you thinkyou have to stay below anybody
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else on this planet?
Why would you think that when Isaid it out loud, it sounded so
stupid and silly, but I stilldidn't overcome it just because
I acknowledged it?
So I want you to know sometimes, when you say a limiting belief
out loud and we get to theheart of it, you might think to
yourself what in the world thisis ridiculous.
Sometimes it's ridiculous,sometimes it's valid.
In all of this, just have somecompassion for yourself, because
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I didn't sit there and tellmyself now I didn't create a new
negative pattern of God.
You're so dumb for thinkingthat so long.
Why the fuck did you think thatfor so long?
You know how much further alongyou'd be if you didn't have
like.
I didn't sit there and beatmyself up about the belief.
I just acknowledged it and,honestly, when I said it out
loud, coming up with theempowering belief didn't seem
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like such a hurdle, if thatmakes sense.
So let's go back to the otherexample.
If the limiting belief is, Ifailed before, so I'll fail
again, make an empowering belief.
You have to make a belief thatis opposite of the negative or
limiting belief.
Whatever is limiting you, justflip it and make it the opposite
.
I'm learning how to run asuccessful business.
Flip it and make it theopposite.
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I'm learning how to run asuccessful business.
My dreams are valid.
My business will thrive.
Failure is only giving up.
Learning is pushing forward.
The key here is to replace thebelief, but not just with words,
because now you have to pairthe new belief with a positive
emotion.
So remember your negativeemotion with I failed before, so
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I'll fail again was doubt, andthat's the emotion that was
attached to it.
Now, with your new empoweringbelief the words, because those
are just words now you attach anew emotion Because the reason
emotional blocks stick is thatwe focus so much on these
affirmations that we're makingand we're not changing the
emotion attached to it theseaffirmations that we're making
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and we're not changing theemotion attached to it.
So, if you find yourself stuckin this process, really key in
on emotions, because it's anemotional block.
We're talking about healingemotional blocks today.
So we have to not only changethe words, but we have to change
the emotion.
The old emotion of fear, doubtand frustration is going to keep
pulling you back into thelimiting belief if you don't
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create a new emotion that youattach to the new affirmation or
empowering belief, affirmations, empowering beliefs same thing.
You're empowering yourself,you're affirming a new belief to
yourself, but you have toattach an emotion to that.
When you create the new belief,ask yourself what positive
emotion can I attach to this newbelief?
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Maybe it's excitement aboutgrowing a business, or gratitude
for the opportunity to learn,or confidence in your ability to
figure things out.
In my case, the emotion wasbeing free to be me.
I just felt this sense offreedom and release and peace
and joy that I didn't have to bestuck in an arbitrary box that
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I made for myself to always bebehind somebody else.
In my Manifestation Made SimpleMasterclass, which is available
on my website,livelifeunapologeticallycom, I
talk about the easiest way to doemotional shifting and that's
by understanding emotions sothat you can shift.
There are four quadrants ofemotions.
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There's high-intensity negative, high-intensity positive,
low-intensity negative andlow-intensity positive.
So there's an opposite for eachand within those it's easier to
shift from the same intensity.
So if your limiting belief isattached to a high intensity
negative, then you want tocultivate a high intensity
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positive emotion to your newempowering belief.
If you have a low intensitynegative emotion with your
limiting belief, then you'regoing to want to switch or shift
with a low intensity positiveemotion.
Now you can switch through allof the quadrants.
It's just more advanced to dothat when you're just starting.
It's good to stay with the sameintensity level to go from one
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to the other, and so that's howI recommend starting.
For instance, if you have a highintensity negative emotion
attached to a limiting belief,like frustration, shock,
nervousness, you're frightened,you're stressed, then you can
move it over to a high intensitypositive, like motivated,
optimistic, enthusiastic,inspired or blissful.
It just makes the shiftingeasier emotionally to stay on
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that same because you're on ahigher, like frequency per se
what they say is a frequencyit's really not a frequency.
You're on a higher intensitylevel, so just move over to
another high intensity level.
If you're on a low intensitylevel and you're feeling
hopeless or exhausted,disheartened, bored, maybe
you're embarrassed, then justgently move yourself to a low
intensity positive, like youdon't have to go into like an
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extreme high, you could just begrateful, restful, serene, you
could just be chill, carefree.
You can use those emotions.
So if you're not sure what newemotion to try to switch to, or
if you want to learn more aboutthe types of emotions and how to
move from one to the next, thenI want you to grab the Feel to
Flourish Masterclass.
If you want to go more in depth, if you want to learn more
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about that, the goal is reallyto feel the new emotion deeply
and consistently and that's whathelps you to shift your
vibration and align with yourdesires.
I've already mentioned it, butI want to mention this again
because I feel like this iscrucial.
I want to talk aboutself-compassion, because
changing limiting beliefs andhealing emotional blocks takes
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time.
It is like going to the gym.
You do not expect to go to thegym on day one and lift heavy
weights.
You start small, you build yourstrengths and you celebrate
your progress.
Manifestation is the same way.
You are building new neuralpathways in your brain.
That doesn't happen overnight.
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It happens one step at a time.
So every time you'reacknowledging the emotional
block and you're like that's thelimiting belief.
You create that new empoweringbelief with the positive emotion
.
You strengthen that muscle, youstrengthen that new pathway.
You should celebrate everysmall step that you take, every
that new pathway.
You should celebrate everysmall step that you take, every
single small step.
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What is a small step?
When I was going through andchanging the belief that my
brother and sister had to makemore money than me anytime,
things would start to get movingand I would find myself kind of
shirking back because I was nowaware, because I didn't ignore
or suppress and I could attachthe emotion that I needed to
heal to the limiting belief.
I could say, oh, I rememberthat's a limiting belief, but
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you know what?
And I would just reaffirm tomyself my new empowering belief
and I would feel that emotion.
I would take a moment and closemy eyes and really feel into it
and be into it.
I would encompass andencapsulate that emotion through
my whole being.
It works like this the more youdo it, the longer periods of
time before that little limitingbelief kind of creeps back in.
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Right, maybe you really have tobe consistent and super focused
on this new empowering belieffor almost all day.
Every day you feel like itbecause you know, now that
you've acknowledged it andyou're aware, you're going to be
more conscious of it.
And when it's being applied inyour life, I always say this how
you talk to yourself matters.
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This is really how you'retalking to yourself, feeling
about yourself and feeling aboutyour desire.
When I used to do things likestub my toe or you know simple
little things, I used to alwayssay, shannon, stub my toe, or
you know simple little things.
I used to always say, shannon,you're such an idiot.
Well, I was reinforcing tomyself that I was unworthy, I
was dumb and I'm so smart Likethat's crazy to me because I'm
so smart.
But I was reinforcing this inmy brain.
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Once I became aware, I noticedI was doing it all the time.
Like I thought I just did itevery now and then I was like,
oh, don't do that again.
And then, when I became aware,I noticed I was doing it all the
time.
But then I would change myself-talk like, okay, everybody
stubs their toe.
Mistakes aren't a big deal,that's not even a thing anymore.
That's been eliminated.
I don't have that issue anymore, but it takes time.
So when I was doing it ofcourse I was really then it
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would come up randomly here orthere and I would just have to
go back and reinforce it again.
So it's the same thing.
You're just building a muscle.
You're just trying to let onebelief leave your mind and
another one cement itself inyour mind, and that takes time.
You don't go to the gym onetime and expect to be ripped.
So I don't want you to do thiswork once and think everything
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is going to change immediately.
Didn't think you failed in someway, or you missed the mark, or
you screwed up, or this shitjust does not work.
Be kind to yourself.
Self-compassion keeps youmotivated and it keeps you
aligned, especially when you'rechanging limiting beliefs.
I also want to say and I saidit before, I will say it again,
I'm going to keep saying itbecause repetition Some limiting
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beliefs are going to be easierto overcome than others.
Some things are not as deeplyrooted in you when it comes to
these emotional blocks and theemotions they elicit than others
.
I want you to sit with that andrealize that, and that's why
you have compassion.
I can't, even if I wanted to, Ican't sit here and tell you
that, oh well, if you do thisfor seven days, you're good to
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go.
It doesn't work like that.
Your brain is very complex,emotions are complex and they're
different.
You may have feelings ofself-doubt about one area of
your life but not another.
But it's deeper in another areaof your life.
I have a little bit ofself-doubt when it comes to
relationships, but I have a lotwhen it comes to business.
Well then, the self-doubt andlimiting beliefs, feeling,
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emotion of doubt is going to beeasier to overcome in the area
of relationships and business.
It just depends on how deeplyit is rooted.
But it is possible.
You can rewire your brain.
That is possible.
So practice self-compassion.
You are literally working outyour brain and changing your
brain.
I don't know why people thinkthis happens overnight.
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It frustrates me in themanifesting world that it's like
dude, just change your thoughtstomorrow and your life's going
to change exponentially.
It's a process.
Now, once you learn thisprocess, it gets easier, it gets
faster and you manifest quicker.
You overcome things because youknow how to do it.
It just depends on where you'restarting and depends on how
deeply rooted these emotions arein you.
So here's an exercise you cantry this week.
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These emotions are in you.
So here's an exercise you cantry this week and I'm not going
to tell you that you're going tohave a complete change of the
belief.
What I will tell you is that ifyou continue to do this
consistently, you are going tosee change.
You are going to feel better,lighter, more empowered right
away, because you're dealingwith it, you're not hiding from
it and you're tapping into newpower, but you're going to see
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the effects more and more andmore over time.
I gave this example to somebodywho had commented on one of my
videos on TikTok.
Sometimes we have to start withsomething that's very small,
not a lot attached to it, justto get used to the process.
I decided, after a conversationwith another coach, that I was
going to get within the firstthree parking spaces at every
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store I went to without havingto wait for somebody to pull out
, like it was just going to beopen and I pull right in.
I started working on that andwhy.
I thought that wasn't going tohappen for me.
Like guys, I literally thoughtthat somebody else deserved the
space more, somebody elsedeserved to be closer to the
store than I did.
I know, but anyway I worked onthat belief.
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No-transcript, it's not thatyou're not going to see anything
, it just may be a little spotty, but it just becomes more and
more consistent.
So the first thing you're goingto do is you're going to
identify an emotional block.
Think of an area where you'restuck or frustrated.
If you have to start withsomething, that's just parking
spaces, start there just toprove to yourself that you can
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do this.
Notice any emotions that comesup Is it doubt, is it fear, is
it unworthiness?
And then ask yourself whatlimiting belief is creating that
emotion and write it down.
Then you're going to choose anew empowering belief that is
positive and aligned and writethat down as your affirmation.
Your affirmation is the oppositeof the limiting belief.
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Your affirmation is not thedesire.
It's the opposite of yourlimiting belief, because you're
trying to change the belief toallow the desire to come.
If the desire is I want to be amillionaire, but the limiting
belief is I'm not deservingwealth, you can say I'm going to
be a millionaire as much as youwant, but you're still going to
be blocked.
I'm not deserving of wealthbecomes I am worthy and
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deserving of wealth.
You say that you bring in themillionaire status.
So you're going to identifyyour block.
Ask yourself create theempowering belief.
And now comes the fun part,where you pair it with the
positive emotions.
Close your eyes, take a fewdeep breaths and feel the
emotion that you want to attachto your new belief.
Maybe it's joy, excitement orconfidence.
Let yourself feel it fully,repeat and celebrate.
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Repeat the practice regularlyrecognition and finding and
feeling that new emotion andthen celebrate the little times
that you see it showing up, likefor me when I was sporadically
getting within the first threeand I celebrated it every single
time until it just becamenormal, consistent and always is
.
If you really want to go deeper,if you need some more guidance,
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things that are morepersonalized, in my Manifest
Sheet coaching program we do gointo identifying and shifting
these emotional blocks.
We build the self-worth.
We align the beliefs with yourdesires.
We create a consistent practicethat makes the manifesting
natural.
It makes manifesting fun andvery personalized because you
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don't have to do it alone.
If you're ready to releaseresistance and manifest from a
place of alignment, thenManifest.
She may be perfect for you.
You can find the link in theshow notes or you can just go to
coachingwithshannonkcom.
Remember, emotional blocks arejust signals.
You have the power to shiftthem one step at a time.
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Be kind to yourself, trust theprocess and keep showing up.
I know that you have got thisand I will chat with you next
week.
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