February 26, 2024 • 38 mins
Ever found yourself wondering why, despite your best efforts, life doesn't always pan out as you'd hoped? Today's episode unveils the surprising truth that our amygdala, the emotional hub of the brain, holds the blueprints of our reality—a concept that's often overlooked in the pursuit of our aspirations. From my sunny Louisville home base, I'm excited to share insights on how inherited beliefs, often not our fault, can lead to unfulfilled dreams, and what we can do about it.
As we dig deeper, you'll discover why battling subconscious fears with sheer positivity might not cut it. Instead, I advocate for a more nuanced dance with our protective instincts. By acknowledging and understanding these instincts, we can create a harmony that resonates with our conscious goals. I'll walk you through the steps to tell a solution-oriented narrative that stays true to your emotional experiences while setting the stage for tangible progress.
The journey to a life beyond your wildest dreams is not just about the destination but understanding and evolving with the process. So, as we part ways till the next episode, remember that every moment spent in self-reflection is paving the way to a more fulfilling life. Join me, Greg Kuhn, as we celebrate the belief and determination that forge our shared path to transformation.
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Greg Kuhn (00:12):
Hello everybody, hello, my wonderful manifesting
friends, welcome to anotherafternoon together.
It's Greg Kuhn coming to youlive from Louisville, kentucky.
A sunny, beautiful day here inLouisville.
If you're not joining me fromthis part of the United States,
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I hope you are experiencing somepleasant weather where you are.
Either way, thank you so muchfor joining me today to continue
our discussion about being yourown manifesting coach by
coaching your subconscious tomanifest better versions of
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reality for you.
I'm really excited abouttoday's topic because this is
probably my favorite part ofmanifesting reality
intentionally, and I'm veryhappy that you are joining us
Now.
Of course, the whole reason tobe together on an afternoon is
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to take a deep dive intomanifesting our life differently
, and as a wonderful manifestingsoul, you, like me, have an
interest in manifesting parts ofyour life differently that are
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disappointing, unfulfilling,painful, especially when we know
that more is possible, thatbetter is possible, and
especially when those parts ofour life are areas that are
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really important to usSpirituality, marriage,
relationships, parenting, money,your body, our health, our
fitness, our relationships, ourcareer.
These are parts of human lifethat well.
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They're wonderful opportunitiesto bring God to life and to be
fulfilled.
They're really tailor made forhuman fulfillment in the 21st
century.
And I don't know about you.
I've never had any luckpretending that I didn't care
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about those most important partsof my life, and so that's what
we're here together.
We're brought together by acommon desire, a communal
knowing that more is possiblefor us, that in these parts of
our lives, when we'redisappointed, that's not the end
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of the road for us.
You know that.
I know that, and I'm here totell you that your knowing is
correct.
And what I talk about in mybooks and my podcast, on my
website, my blog, my newsletterI try to make it hard for you to
ignore me what I share about inall of these venues is all
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scientifically backed.
It's all based on science, tothe point that I would say I
will be surprised if thesethings don't work for you
because of their basis inscience.
And today we're really leaninghard into neurobiology All right
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, it's a fancy word for the waythat our brain works and the way
that our brain functions as aphysical entity.
I do want to say that, when itcomes to manifesting parts of
our lives in ways that aredisappointing, in ways that are
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displeasing and, yes, it is truethat you are manifesting the
bad parts, just as you are thegood parts and everything in
between, just as I am.
We manifest it all.
We can't stop manifesting life.
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That's what humans do here inthis, in this world, in this
universe that we inhabit.
We are the source.
You are the source of yourworld, your universe, your life.
You are manifesting it.
I want to start by making sureyou know that you're not to
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blame for the bad things.
No, your beliefs aremanifesting your life, the
beliefs you inherited as a smallchild, up through age nine.
You did not choose them, youinherited them and they took up
and have.
Well, they took up residence inyour amygdala, in your limbic
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system.
That's what we've been talkingabout the last few weeks, and
there they have stayed,manifesting your life in each
moment.
It's tempting sometimes to feellike we're doing something wrong
when the life we're manifestingis displeasing or disappointing
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.
We're not.
We're not.
Let's take your weight.
Let's take, for example, adesire to have a more
comfortable weight.
That's a pretty common desire,especially as we get older.
Well, we can easily look aroundand see that so many other
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people are manifesting a weight,a physical form that is much
more like the one we would liketo have.
They're doing it, but we're not.
But that does not mean that youare manifesting your body the
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wrong way.
I'll put that in quotes.
It doesn't mean you'remanifesting your body wrong or
incorrectly.
You're actually manifestingyour body just as you're
manifesting everything else, theway that you're able.
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You're manifesting your body asyou believe and remember.
These are inherited beliefs.
You did not select them andthey're still in there in your
limbic system, in your amygdala,running the show, manifesting
your life.
Let me illustrate what I'mtalking about here.
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I'm talking about lettingyourself off the hook when it
comes to blaming yourself forthe disappointing parts of your
life that you're manifesting,that we're all manifesting.
I'm talking about giving youpermission to put down the stick
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and stop beating yourself up.
Think about a dog Now.
Maybe you have a pet dog.
We've all been around dogs andwe all know that dogs can smell
things that people can't.
So I'm taking my dog out for awalk and my dog is smelling.
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I mean, he's going crazy.
You know how dogs behave onwalks.
You can't smell any of thatstuff that my dog is smelling.
Does that mean that I'msmelling the wrong things?
Or is the dog smelling thewrong things?
No, of course not.
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I'm smelling what I can smell,and my dog is doing the same
thing.
I'm not smelling the wrongthings.
I'm smelling what I can, andthat's the way manifesting our
reality works as well.
We manifest what we can.
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We manifest the things in well.
We manifest our life inaccordance with the beliefs that
we inherited and are nowcurrently stored in our amygdala
.
We can't just like a dog can'tsmell anything it can't and a
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human can't smell anything itcan't.
You can't manifest anythingthat you don't believe.
Furthermore, you can onlymanifest that which you believe,
and the same goes for me.
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So, when our life becomesdisappointing, we're being shown
that we have beliefs that weinherited, beliefs that are now
proving themselves incapable ofmanifesting life aligned with
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our desires.
Displeasing life events,manifesting disappointing
versions of life that's feedback.
We get feelings, we get painfulfeelings from those
disappointing events, and thosepainful feelings are feedback.
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Both of those things are clearindicators to us that we have
limiting beliefs, and we all do,and we all receive that type of
feedback every single day.
And when we get that feedback,what can we do about it?
How can we change?
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Well, that's what this episodeis about, right, this episode is
about coaching our subconscious.
Now, the first thing we need toknow is that it's called our
subconscious for a reasonbecause it's below our conscious
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awareness.
Our subconscious, however, isincredibly powerful, although
our conscious awareness, whicharises from our cortex, the most
modern part of our brain, isthe part of us that we call the
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thinker or the decider.
When you are thinking and youare talking to yourself, inside
your own head, that is yourcortex, that is the CEO, if you
will, of the physical body thatyou inhabit at the moment.
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Well, the CEO, your thinker,your decider, your conscious
mind, it wants what it wants.
It wants that svelte body, itwants that fat bank account, it
wants that soulmate relationship, it wants that spiritual
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connection to a higher power, itwants to be the mentor, parent
and on.
Those desires are very real forus, and yet we encounter life
that runs in opposition to thosedesires quite often.
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But, as we've alreadyestablished, is a sign that our
amygdala, which operates belowour conscious awareness, has
limiting beliefs, that youinherited, limiting beliefs.
Like all of us, we all havelimiting beliefs because we were
all raised by imperfect people.
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Goodness, I've passed alonglimiting beliefs to my four sons
, I guarantee you, notintentionally, but there's
really no way around it.
So we all have limiting beliefs.
We're all seeing their shadowsin our daily lives.
Those shadows are painful lifeevents that are not aligned with
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our desires.
We don't have to go overexamples of those events.
We all know.
So what do we do when this ishappening?
Well, the first thing I willtell you is this we do not.
One of the least effective waysto coach ourselves to manifest
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better versions of reality is toshout down our amygdala.
Our amygdala does not speak tous using words, because our
amygdala does not understandwords.
It understands feelings, and itonly understands feelings that
are real, that it knows are real.
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In other words, it onlyunderstands feelings that are
not too different from what'salready inside of it.
And what do I mean by shoutingdown our amygdala?
I'm talking about positivethinking.
Yeah, I know that soundsstrange to have a manifesting
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coach demonize positive thinking.
What could I be thinking to saythat to you?
Well, here's what I'm gettingat, and I think you will agree
with this when I explain it thisway.
Although positive thinking is awonderful tool, there's nothing
wrong with positive thinking.
Positive thinking helps us feelbetter, or it can help us feel
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better, among other things thatit can do.
However, when life isdisappointing and painful, we've
already established that meansI am manifesting a disappointing
and painful version of reality.
Only I, technically, I am notmanifesting it In my
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subconscious mind.
My subconscious is manifestingdisappointing and painful
version of reality.
So when that happens, when I amgiving myself positive thought
or positive affirmations in thatsituation, it's 100% guaranteed
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that those positive thoughtsand positive affirmations are
going to be very different fromwhat's already inside my
amygdala.
How do I know that If I felt,if I truly felt those positive
thoughts, if I if that's trulyhow I felt about the reality I
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was manifesting right now, Iwouldn't be intentionally
crafting positive thoughts aboutit.
That makes sense, right?
I don't use positiveaffirmations when the reality
I'm manifesting is pleasing.
When that's happening, I'mgrateful, but I'm not looking in
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the mirror and recitingpositive affirmations.
So every time a situation ariseswhere I would use standard
techniques of positiveaffirmations and positive
thinking, you can bet that is meessentially shouting down my
amygdala.
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That is me telling my amygdalayou're wrong, sit down, shut up
and let me, meaning my consciousmind, run the show.
And that does not work.
Our amygdala ignores thatbecause it has a job to do keep
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us alive and safe and it can'tdo its job very well if it is
ignoring its own evidence.
Now, the amygdala we talkedabout this last week.
The amygdala senses things.
Just like that dog example, theamygdala senses tons of things
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that we can't consciously senseSmell, sight, sounds, touches,
energy fields, and on and on andon.
The amygdala has its ownsensory input that it considers
above and beyond, well beforeanything that our conscious mind
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is contributing to the story.
So the first thing I would sayis, given all this, when life is
being manifested in adisappointing, frustrating and
painful manner, the first thingwe want to do is call a truce
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right, don't.
We don't want to browbeat ouramygdala.
We don't want to tell ouramygdala it's wrong.
We don't want to shout it down,we don't want to talk over it.
That is not helpful.
It's not going to lead tomanifesting better versions of
reality, it's only going tofrustrate us, and you know that
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We've all had those experiences.
Well, now I'm telling you whyyou get so frustrating, because
that really doesn't work.
Declare peace between yourconscious mind and your amygdala
.
You know your amygdala's job isto look for changes which it
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considers threats to your safety.
It doesn't matter if thosechanges are positive changes or
negative changes.
It's looking for changes,irrespective of whether they're
desired or not, and when itdetects changes according to
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what you believe and what you'veexperienced from those beliefs,
that is a threat and it isalerting you to it.
It is manifesting your life inthat way, your amygdala.
Here's the reason why I say wedeclare a truce.
Your amygdala is not usuallywrong about what it senses.
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It's almost always completelycorrect in what it senses.
The amygdala isn't wrong aboutwhat it senses, but it is very
often wrong about the level ofthreat that what it senses
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represents to you.
Okay, it is not a greattechnique, it is not a success
habit to shout down, ignore,talk over, chastise your
amygdala for the threat level itis alerting you to.
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So I want to talk about what todo instead.
So what do we do instead?
We don't want to plaster overour amygdala with positive
thinking.
What do we do instead?
Oh, what we do instead isreally simple B not hard, I'll
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even say easy to do and C Idon't know why my fingers are
representing letters of thealphabet, but C it's kind of hmm
bricks us into doing somethingthat's even more powerful to
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sculpt and manifest a differentversion of reality.
And let me explain what I'mgetting at here.
What we do instead instead ofshouting over our amygdala, we
tell ourselves the best feelingbelievable story that is
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possible for us.
I want to emphasize that ispossible, right, because we
don't need to reach for pie inthe sky.
We don't need to reach for thetop rung of the ladder when
we're crafting a story in theface of disappointing reality.
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Right, I look in the mirror andI see and I'm going to go back
to the weight example I wasusing earlier I look in the
mirror and I see a body thatdoes not please me.
It is not aligned with mydesires for it.
I, in that moment, I want totell myself the best feeling
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believable story that ispossible for me in that moment.
Now, what does that mean?
Well, the way to make the storybest feeling and, by the way,
this is all constructed so thatwe can coach our amygdala
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Telling the best feelingbelievable story is an amygdala
coaching technique.
It works wonderfully.
The best feeling story is thatis possible, is going to be a
story that acknowledges thedisappointment.
I look in the mirror and I say,yes, it is true that my body
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doesn't look the way I want itto right now.
It doesn't look the way I washoping it was going to right now
and it's disappointing to mebecause I was expecting
something different.
I was hoping for somethingdifferent, and that's true.
All right.
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So we want to acknowledge thedisappointment.
We're not encasing it in cement, we're simply acknowledging it
and then we make this believableby incorporating the things
that we are doing or the thingsthat we're committed to start
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doing, if we're not currentlythat are leading us towards
solutions.
So I would make my storybelievable and once again, this
is believable to the amygdalaand best feeling to the amygdala
, I would say and at the sametime, I know that I am committed
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To my practices of hydratingmyself, drinking lots of water,
to my practice of not eatingafter eight o'clock at night.
I know that I'm also committedto my practice of getting out
and going for a 30 minute walktoday and each day, and I know
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that I'm committed to mypractice of being a mindful
eater and being committed to ahealthy diet to the best of my
ability.
These things are all true and,given that I know that, I can
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say that I'm on the path andthat, while the results aren't
what I'm looking for at themoment, or they didn't align
with my highest desires for mybody, I can't deny and I'm
encouraged by the fact that I amon the path and that, even
though I'm disappointed by whatI'm manifesting in this moment,
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I do know that I am walkingtowards a more aligned body Now.
So that's a best-feelingbelievable story, and I said
that we're kind of trickingourselves.
Well, the reason we're trickingourselves in a good way, by the
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way is because, if that's mybest-feeling believable story
that I'm telling myself inresponse to manifesting a
disappointing or painful versionof my body, well, for that
best-feeling believable story towork, for it to change the
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reality that I'm manifesting,I'd have to actually be doing
those things that I claimed.
That's super important,otherwise it's not believable.
I mean, if I said, yeah, I seeyour body and I'm really
disappointed by it, and that'strue, however, I also know that
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when I wake up tomorrow, mybody's gonna be perfect.
Or I also know that I'm gonnago to the gym later today and,
after a couple hours of workingout, my body's gonna be perfect.
I mean, those are ridiculousstatements, right, but those are
examples of unbelievablestatements.
And why are they unbelievable?
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Because not only are they nottrue, they're not what's really
going on, they're not what I'mreally doing.
So telling a best feeling,believable story requires me to
tell the truth about what I'mdoing, and so I can't tell a
best-feeling, believable storywithout actually doing something
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that is solution-oriented, thatreally is leading me towards
resolution of this pain in mylife.
So if I commit to telling thebest-feeling, believable story,
I know that I'm committed to Arecognizing, listening to my
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amygdala.
What is it telling me?
Affirming what it's telling me,recognizing what it's telling
me rather than blowing it off,ignoring it or trying to shout
it down.
I'm also committing myself tobeing involved in
solution-oriented activity thatI've legitimately identified as
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the best next-right things to doto lead me in the direction of
manifesting my desires, becauseI can't include that information
unless I'm really doing it andunless what I'm really doing
really is focused on thesolution.
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Now, I don't have to have it allfigured out.
I mean, what parts of life dowe have all figured out?
I get wrapped up in thatsometimes I don't know about you
wanting to have it all figuredout.
I got to know, I got to know Ido that, but the truth is the
parts of my life where I'mknocking it out of the park, the
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parts of my life that are themost fulfilling.
None of that happens because Ihave it all figured out, but
what does happen, in the waythat those parts of my life have
grown into such fulfillingversions of life, is because I
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have declared a truth.
I've declared peace between myconscious mind, my cortex, and
my limbic system, or mysubconscious mind, particularly
my amygdala.
As we've been saying, I'vedeclared a truth, I've declared
peace, and I've reinforced thatby listening to what my amygdala
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is sharing with me, not shamingit or shouting it down, but
really hearing and acknowledgingwhat it is sharing with me.
Yes, you're right, there's nodenying that I'm disappointed by
this or this isn't the way Iwanted it.
And then adding the legitimate,solution-oriented activities
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that I am authentically engagedin.
So, a, it motivates me to beengaged in such activities, and
then, b, it allows me to utilizethat engagement in ways that
calm and coach my amygdala.
So, yeah, the best feeling,believable story.
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So then?
So here's my challenge to you.
Okay, thumbs up.
My challenge to you is this whenyou run into something
disappointing today, whatever itis big or small, don't beat
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yourself up, don't blameyourself.
It's your beliefs that aremanifesting your life, your
inherited beliefs.
You're not responsible for thebeliefs that you inherited, but
you are responsible formanifesting a different version
of reality, if that's what youwant and you get to, if you want
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to.
So, when you, the next time youencounter something painful or
disappointing in your life which, if you're like me, won't take
very long to happen I want youto tell the best feeling,
believable story that you can.
I want you to acknowledge whatyour amygdala is telling you
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about, what's wrong, and then Iwant you to soothe your amygdala
by lovingly and compassionatelyreassuring it by talking about
the things that you are doing,the concrete things that you are
doing that are solutionoriented.
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I'll give you an example andthen we'll close today.
I think I may have mentionedthis in an earlier life, like
months ago, but I distinctlyremember going out to my garage
getting ready to go for a runand as I was putting my head, my
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earbuds in, I noticed, wow, Iam so discouraged right now
about manifest the big stuff,about my business.
I am so discouraged right nowbecause I had received some
disappointing outcomes.
You know nothing, earthshattering.
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I'd gotten some outcomes herein my business that definitely
were not aligned with my desiresfor them, and I'm thinking, wow
, I am just so discouraged, Ijust want to quit right now.
That's how discouraged I'mfeeling in the moment.
Now, this isn't how I normallyfeel about manifest, the big
stuff.
I thought.
So this is an opportunitytailor made for a best feeling,
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believable story.
And so what I said to myself isyeah, you know what?
The disappointing outcomes are100% disappointing.
There's no doubt about that.
I'm not going to pretend likeI'm happy at all about what is
going on.
I'm disappointed and it is notwhat I wanted.
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And at the same time, I alsoknow that I've experienced
roadblocks and detours in thepast that really have never
completely derailed me.
I also know that everythingI've done that led to the
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disappointing results was allgiven my best effort and all
appeared to me to be the rightthings to do.
So if I went back in time, I'mquite certain I would do these
things again, and I know thatthe way that the best parts of
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my life have continued to growand become even better is
because I am committed to usingmy reality and the feelings it
elicits as feedback, asinformation to inform me and
guide me.
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I also know that I'm committedto learning, growing and
changing and that I'm going tocontinue to give my best efforts
based on what I'm learning.
And, furthermore, I know thatI'm a hard worker.
I've been working hard and I'mgoing to continue to work hard.
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So, all those things considered,it is perfectly reasonable for
me to say and know that, whiledisappointing, these results
that I'm manifesting are not thefinal outcome.
They're not an apocalypse,they're not doom and gloom.
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They're simply a wrinkle that Iwill learn from, grow from and
change what I'm doing based uponand that was the real, best
feeling, believable story that Ireally gave myself.
And what did that do for meright there in the garage?
Well, it didn't make.
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I can tell you this.
It did not instantly transformthat part of my reality like a
genie, but what it did do was ittransformed me in that moment.
It transformed my perspective,it transformed what I see, what
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I saw past tense.
It transformed what I saw andwhat I understood in that moment
.
And you know what it's.
What manifesting is Manifesting?
While it might be a esoteric ormystical topic at different
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times, it really is nothing morethan seeing an understanding.
That's what manifesting is.
So when we change what we seeand we understand, we change
what we manifest.
So I am counting on you to takethis practice and practice it,
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even if you don't get itperfectly.
You'll know that you're makingprogress when you feel you're
amygdala starting to soothe,when you still notice what's
disappointing, but the threatlevel has a base.
The threat level has abatedbecause you're investing in
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yourself.
What should next week's topicbe?
Why don't we talk next weekabout research based ways to
begin your day, your morningroutine?
I'll share about my morningroutine and I'll talk to you
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about research based techniques,practices and habits that turn
up your manifesting power.
I can't wait to share with youabout this, and thank you so
much to all who joined me today.
What an exciting way to spend aThursday afternoon.
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And until we meet up again,please keep believing and keep
manifesting my beautiful souls.
Hello everybody, hello, my wonderful manifesting
friends, welcome to anotherafternoon together.
It's Greg Kuhn coming to youlive from Louisville, kentucky.
A sunny, beautiful day here inLouisville.
If you're not joining me fromthis part of the United States,
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I hope you are experiencing somepleasant weather where you are.
Either way, thank you so muchfor joining me today to continue
our discussion about being yourown manifesting coach by
coaching your subconscious tomanifest better versions of
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reality for you.
I'm really excited abouttoday's topic because this is
probably my favorite part ofmanifesting reality
intentionally, and I'm veryhappy that you are joining us
Now.
Of course, the whole reason tobe together on an afternoon is
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to take a deep dive intomanifesting our life differently
, and as a wonderful manifestingsoul, you, like me, have an
interest in manifesting parts ofyour life differently that are
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disappointing, unfulfilling,painful, especially when we know
that more is possible, thatbetter is possible, and
especially when those parts ofour life are areas that are
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really important to usSpirituality, marriage,
relationships, parenting, money,your body, our health, our
fitness, our relationships, ourcareer.
These are parts of human lifethat well.
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They're wonderful opportunitiesto bring God to life and to be
fulfilled.
They're really tailor made forhuman fulfillment in the 21st
century.
And I don't know about you.
I've never had any luckpretending that I didn't care
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about those most important partsof my life, and so that's what
we're here together.
We're brought together by acommon desire, a communal
knowing that more is possiblefor us, that in these parts of
our lives, when we'redisappointed, that's not the end
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of the road for us.
You know that.
I know that, and I'm here totell you that your knowing is
correct.
And what I talk about in mybooks and my podcast, on my
website, my blog, my newsletterI try to make it hard for you to
ignore me what I share about inall of these venues is all
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scientifically backed.
It's all based on science, tothe point that I would say I
will be surprised if thesethings don't work for you
because of their basis inscience.
And today we're really leaninghard into neurobiology All right
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, it's a fancy word for the waythat our brain works and the way
that our brain functions as aphysical entity.
I do want to say that, when itcomes to manifesting parts of
our lives in ways that aredisappointing, in ways that are
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displeasing and, yes, it is truethat you are manifesting the
bad parts, just as you are thegood parts and everything in
between, just as I am.
We manifest it all.
We can't stop manifesting life.
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That's what humans do here inthis, in this world, in this
universe that we inhabit.
We are the source.
You are the source of yourworld, your universe, your life.
You are manifesting it.
I want to start by making sureyou know that you're not to
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blame for the bad things.
No, your beliefs aremanifesting your life, the
beliefs you inherited as a smallchild, up through age nine.
You did not choose them, youinherited them and they took up
and have.
Well, they took up residence inyour amygdala, in your limbic
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system.
That's what we've been talkingabout the last few weeks, and
there they have stayed,manifesting your life in each
moment.
It's tempting sometimes to feellike we're doing something wrong
when the life we're manifestingis displeasing or disappointing
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.
We're not.
We're not.
Let's take your weight.
Let's take, for example, adesire to have a more
comfortable weight.
That's a pretty common desire,especially as we get older.
Well, we can easily look aroundand see that so many other
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people are manifesting a weight,a physical form that is much
more like the one we would liketo have.
They're doing it, but we're not.
But that does not mean that youare manifesting your body the
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wrong way.
I'll put that in quotes.
It doesn't mean you'remanifesting your body wrong or
incorrectly.
You're actually manifestingyour body just as you're
manifesting everything else, theway that you're able.
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You're manifesting your body asyou believe and remember.
These are inherited beliefs.
You did not select them andthey're still in there in your
limbic system, in your amygdala,running the show, manifesting
your life.
Let me illustrate what I'mtalking about here.
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I'm talking about lettingyourself off the hook when it
comes to blaming yourself forthe disappointing parts of your
life that you're manifesting,that we're all manifesting.
I'm talking about giving youpermission to put down the stick
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and stop beating yourself up.
Think about a dog Now.
Maybe you have a pet dog.
We've all been around dogs andwe all know that dogs can smell
things that people can't.
So I'm taking my dog out for awalk and my dog is smelling.
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I mean, he's going crazy.
You know how dogs behave onwalks.
You can't smell any of thatstuff that my dog is smelling.
Does that mean that I'msmelling the wrong things?
Or is the dog smelling thewrong things?
No, of course not.
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I'm smelling what I can smell,and my dog is doing the same
thing.
I'm not smelling the wrongthings.
I'm smelling what I can, andthat's the way manifesting our
reality works as well.
We manifest what we can.
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We manifest the things in well.
We manifest our life inaccordance with the beliefs that
we inherited and are nowcurrently stored in our amygdala
.
We can't just like a dog can'tsmell anything it can't and a
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human can't smell anything itcan't.
You can't manifest anythingthat you don't believe.
Furthermore, you can onlymanifest that which you believe,
and the same goes for me.
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So, when our life becomesdisappointing, we're being shown
that we have beliefs that weinherited, beliefs that are now
proving themselves incapable ofmanifesting life aligned with
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our desires.
Displeasing life events,manifesting disappointing
versions of life that's feedback.
We get feelings, we get painfulfeelings from those
disappointing events, and thosepainful feelings are feedback.
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Both of those things are clearindicators to us that we have
limiting beliefs, and we all do,and we all receive that type of
feedback every single day.
And when we get that feedback,what can we do about it?
How can we change?
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Well, that's what this episodeis about, right, this episode is
about coaching our subconscious.
Now, the first thing we need toknow is that it's called our
subconscious for a reasonbecause it's below our conscious
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awareness.
Our subconscious, however, isincredibly powerful, although
our conscious awareness, whicharises from our cortex, the most
modern part of our brain, isthe part of us that we call the
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thinker or the decider.
When you are thinking and youare talking to yourself, inside
your own head, that is yourcortex, that is the CEO, if you
will, of the physical body thatyou inhabit at the moment.
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Well, the CEO, your thinker,your decider, your conscious
mind, it wants what it wants.
It wants that svelte body, itwants that fat bank account, it
wants that soulmate relationship, it wants that spiritual
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connection to a higher power, itwants to be the mentor, parent
and on.
Those desires are very real forus, and yet we encounter life
that runs in opposition to thosedesires quite often.
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But, as we've alreadyestablished, is a sign that our
amygdala, which operates belowour conscious awareness, has
limiting beliefs, that youinherited, limiting beliefs.
Like all of us, we all havelimiting beliefs because we were
all raised by imperfect people.
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Goodness, I've passed alonglimiting beliefs to my four sons
, I guarantee you, notintentionally, but there's
really no way around it.
So we all have limiting beliefs.
We're all seeing their shadowsin our daily lives.
Those shadows are painful lifeevents that are not aligned with
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our desires.
We don't have to go overexamples of those events.
We all know.
So what do we do when this ishappening?
Well, the first thing I willtell you is this we do not.
One of the least effective waysto coach ourselves to manifest
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better versions of reality is toshout down our amygdala.
Our amygdala does not speak tous using words, because our
amygdala does not understandwords.
It understands feelings, and itonly understands feelings that
are real, that it knows are real.
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In other words, it onlyunderstands feelings that are
not too different from what'salready inside of it.
And what do I mean by shoutingdown our amygdala?
I'm talking about positivethinking.
Yeah, I know that soundsstrange to have a manifesting
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coach demonize positive thinking.
What could I be thinking to saythat to you?
Well, here's what I'm gettingat, and I think you will agree
with this when I explain it thisway.
Although positive thinking is awonderful tool, there's nothing
wrong with positive thinking.
Positive thinking helps us feelbetter, or it can help us feel
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better, among other things thatit can do.
However, when life isdisappointing and painful, we've
already established that meansI am manifesting a disappointing
and painful version of reality.
Only I, technically, I am notmanifesting it In my
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subconscious mind.
My subconscious is manifestingdisappointing and painful
version of reality.
So when that happens, when I amgiving myself positive thought
or positive affirmations in thatsituation, it's 100% guaranteed
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that those positive thoughtsand positive affirmations are
going to be very different fromwhat's already inside my
amygdala.
How do I know that If I felt,if I truly felt those positive
thoughts, if I if that's trulyhow I felt about the reality I
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was manifesting right now, Iwouldn't be intentionally
crafting positive thoughts aboutit.
That makes sense, right?
I don't use positiveaffirmations when the reality
I'm manifesting is pleasing.
When that's happening, I'mgrateful, but I'm not looking in
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the mirror and recitingpositive affirmations.
So every time a situation ariseswhere I would use standard
techniques of positiveaffirmations and positive
thinking, you can bet that is meessentially shouting down my
amygdala.
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That is me telling my amygdalayou're wrong, sit down, shut up
and let me, meaning my consciousmind, run the show.
And that does not work.
Our amygdala ignores thatbecause it has a job to do keep
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us alive and safe and it can'tdo its job very well if it is
ignoring its own evidence.
Now, the amygdala we talkedabout this last week.
The amygdala senses things.
Just like that dog example, theamygdala senses tons of things
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that we can't consciously senseSmell, sight, sounds, touches,
energy fields, and on and on andon.
The amygdala has its ownsensory input that it considers
above and beyond, well beforeanything that our conscious mind
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is contributing to the story.
So the first thing I would sayis, given all this, when life is
being manifested in adisappointing, frustrating and
painful manner, the first thingwe want to do is call a truce
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right, don't.
We don't want to browbeat ouramygdala.
We don't want to tell ouramygdala it's wrong.
We don't want to shout it down,we don't want to talk over it.
That is not helpful.
It's not going to lead tomanifesting better versions of
reality, it's only going tofrustrate us, and you know that
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We've all had those experiences.
Well, now I'm telling you whyyou get so frustrating, because
that really doesn't work.
Declare peace between yourconscious mind and your amygdala
.
You know your amygdala's job isto look for changes which it
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considers threats to your safety.
It doesn't matter if thosechanges are positive changes or
negative changes.
It's looking for changes,irrespective of whether they're
desired or not, and when itdetects changes according to
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what you believe and what you'veexperienced from those beliefs,
that is a threat and it isalerting you to it.
It is manifesting your life inthat way, your amygdala.
Here's the reason why I say wedeclare a truce.
Your amygdala is not usuallywrong about what it senses.
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It's almost always completelycorrect in what it senses.
The amygdala isn't wrong aboutwhat it senses, but it is very
often wrong about the level ofthreat that what it senses
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represents to you.
Okay, it is not a greattechnique, it is not a success
habit to shout down, ignore,talk over, chastise your
amygdala for the threat level itis alerting you to.
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So I want to talk about what todo instead.
So what do we do instead?
We don't want to plaster overour amygdala with positive
thinking.
What do we do instead?
Oh, what we do instead isreally simple B not hard, I'll
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even say easy to do and C Idon't know why my fingers are
representing letters of thealphabet, but C it's kind of hmm
bricks us into doing somethingthat's even more powerful to
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sculpt and manifest a differentversion of reality.
And let me explain what I'mgetting at here.
What we do instead instead ofshouting over our amygdala, we
tell ourselves the best feelingbelievable story that is
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possible for us.
I want to emphasize that ispossible, right, because we
don't need to reach for pie inthe sky.
We don't need to reach for thetop rung of the ladder when
we're crafting a story in theface of disappointing reality.
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Right, I look in the mirror andI see and I'm going to go back
to the weight example I wasusing earlier I look in the
mirror and I see a body thatdoes not please me.
It is not aligned with mydesires for it.
I, in that moment, I want totell myself the best feeling
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believable story that ispossible for me in that moment.
Now, what does that mean?
Well, the way to make the storybest feeling and, by the way,
this is all constructed so thatwe can coach our amygdala
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Telling the best feelingbelievable story is an amygdala
coaching technique.
It works wonderfully.
The best feeling story is thatis possible, is going to be a
story that acknowledges thedisappointment.
I look in the mirror and I say,yes, it is true that my body
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doesn't look the way I want itto right now.
It doesn't look the way I washoping it was going to right now
and it's disappointing to mebecause I was expecting
something different.
I was hoping for somethingdifferent, and that's true.
All right.
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So we want to acknowledge thedisappointment.
We're not encasing it in cement, we're simply acknowledging it
and then we make this believableby incorporating the things
that we are doing or the thingsthat we're committed to start
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doing, if we're not currentlythat are leading us towards
solutions.
So I would make my storybelievable and once again, this
is believable to the amygdalaand best feeling to the amygdala
, I would say and at the sametime, I know that I am committed
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To my practices of hydratingmyself, drinking lots of water,
to my practice of not eatingafter eight o'clock at night.
I know that I'm also committedto my practice of getting out
and going for a 30 minute walktoday and each day, and I know
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that I'm committed to mypractice of being a mindful
eater and being committed to ahealthy diet to the best of my
ability.
These things are all true and,given that I know that, I can
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say that I'm on the path andthat, while the results aren't
what I'm looking for at themoment, or they didn't align
with my highest desires for mybody, I can't deny and I'm
encouraged by the fact that I amon the path and that, even
though I'm disappointed by whatI'm manifesting in this moment,
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I do know that I am walkingtowards a more aligned body Now.
So that's a best-feelingbelievable story, and I said
that we're kind of trickingourselves.
Well, the reason we're trickingourselves in a good way, by the
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way is because, if that's mybest-feeling believable story
that I'm telling myself inresponse to manifesting a
disappointing or painful versionof my body, well, for that
best-feeling believable story towork, for it to change the
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reality that I'm manifesting,I'd have to actually be doing
those things that I claimed.
That's super important,otherwise it's not believable.
I mean, if I said, yeah, I seeyour body and I'm really
disappointed by it, and that'strue, however, I also know that
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when I wake up tomorrow, mybody's gonna be perfect.
Or I also know that I'm gonnago to the gym later today and,
after a couple hours of workingout, my body's gonna be perfect.
I mean, those are ridiculousstatements, right, but those are
examples of unbelievablestatements.
And why are they unbelievable?
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Because not only are they nottrue, they're not what's really
going on, they're not what I'mreally doing.
So telling a best feeling,believable story requires me to
tell the truth about what I'mdoing, and so I can't tell a
best-feeling, believable storywithout actually doing something
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that is solution-oriented, thatreally is leading me towards
resolution of this pain in mylife.
So if I commit to telling thebest-feeling, believable story,
I know that I'm committed to Arecognizing, listening to my
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amygdala.
What is it telling me?
Affirming what it's telling me,recognizing what it's telling
me rather than blowing it off,ignoring it or trying to shout
it down.
I'm also committing myself tobeing involved in
solution-oriented activity thatI've legitimately identified as
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the best next-right things to doto lead me in the direction of
manifesting my desires, becauseI can't include that information
unless I'm really doing it andunless what I'm really doing
really is focused on thesolution.
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Now, I don't have to have it allfigured out.
I mean, what parts of life dowe have all figured out?
I get wrapped up in thatsometimes I don't know about you
wanting to have it all figuredout.
I got to know, I got to know Ido that, but the truth is the
parts of my life where I'mknocking it out of the park, the
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parts of my life that are themost fulfilling.
None of that happens because Ihave it all figured out, but
what does happen, in the waythat those parts of my life have
grown into such fulfillingversions of life, is because I
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have declared a truth.
I've declared peace between myconscious mind, my cortex, and
my limbic system, or mysubconscious mind, particularly
my amygdala.
As we've been saying, I'vedeclared a truth, I've declared
peace, and I've reinforced thatby listening to what my amygdala
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is sharing with me, not shamingit or shouting it down, but
really hearing and acknowledgingwhat it is sharing with me.
Yes, you're right, there's nodenying that I'm disappointed by
this or this isn't the way Iwanted it.
And then adding the legitimate,solution-oriented activities
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that I am authentically engagedin.
So, a, it motivates me to beengaged in such activities, and
then, b, it allows me to utilizethat engagement in ways that
calm and coach my amygdala.
So, yeah, the best feeling,believable story.
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So then?
So here's my challenge to you.
Okay, thumbs up.
My challenge to you is this whenyou run into something
disappointing today, whatever itis big or small, don't beat
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yourself up, don't blameyourself.
It's your beliefs that aremanifesting your life, your
inherited beliefs.
You're not responsible for thebeliefs that you inherited, but
you are responsible formanifesting a different version
of reality, if that's what youwant and you get to, if you want
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to.
So, when you, the next time youencounter something painful or
disappointing in your life which, if you're like me, won't take
very long to happen I want youto tell the best feeling,
believable story that you can.
I want you to acknowledge whatyour amygdala is telling you
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about, what's wrong, and then Iwant you to soothe your amygdala
by lovingly and compassionatelyreassuring it by talking about
the things that you are doing,the concrete things that you are
doing that are solutionoriented.
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I'll give you an example andthen we'll close today.
I think I may have mentionedthis in an earlier life, like
months ago, but I distinctlyremember going out to my garage
getting ready to go for a runand as I was putting my head, my
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earbuds in, I noticed, wow, Iam so discouraged right now
about manifest the big stuff,about my business.
I am so discouraged right nowbecause I had received some
disappointing outcomes.
You know nothing, earthshattering.
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I'd gotten some outcomes herein my business that definitely
were not aligned with my desiresfor them, and I'm thinking, wow
, I am just so discouraged, Ijust want to quit right now.
That's how discouraged I'mfeeling in the moment.
Now, this isn't how I normallyfeel about manifest, the big
stuff.
I thought.
So this is an opportunitytailor made for a best feeling,
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believable story.
And so what I said to myself isyeah, you know what?
The disappointing outcomes are100% disappointing.
There's no doubt about that.
I'm not going to pretend likeI'm happy at all about what is
going on.
I'm disappointed and it is notwhat I wanted.
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And at the same time, I alsoknow that I've experienced
roadblocks and detours in thepast that really have never
completely derailed me.
I also know that everythingI've done that led to the
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disappointing results was allgiven my best effort and all
appeared to me to be the rightthings to do.
So if I went back in time, I'mquite certain I would do these
things again, and I know thatthe way that the best parts of
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my life have continued to growand become even better is
because I am committed to usingmy reality and the feelings it
elicits as feedback, asinformation to inform me and
guide me.
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I also know that I'm committedto learning, growing and
changing and that I'm going tocontinue to give my best efforts
based on what I'm learning.
And, furthermore, I know thatI'm a hard worker.
I've been working hard and I'mgoing to continue to work hard.
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So, all those things considered,it is perfectly reasonable for
me to say and know that, whiledisappointing, these results
that I'm manifesting are not thefinal outcome.
They're not an apocalypse,they're not doom and gloom.
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They're simply a wrinkle that Iwill learn from, grow from and
change what I'm doing based uponand that was the real, best
feeling, believable story that Ireally gave myself.
And what did that do for meright there in the garage?
Well, it didn't make.
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I can tell you this.
It did not instantly transformthat part of my reality like a
genie, but what it did do was ittransformed me in that moment.
It transformed my perspective,it transformed what I see, what
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I saw past tense.
It transformed what I saw andwhat I understood in that moment
.
And you know what it's.
What manifesting is Manifesting?
While it might be a esoteric ormystical topic at different
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times, it really is nothing morethan seeing an understanding.
That's what manifesting is.
So when we change what we seeand we understand, we change
what we manifest.
So I am counting on you to takethis practice and practice it,
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even if you don't get itperfectly.
You'll know that you're makingprogress when you feel you're
amygdala starting to soothe,when you still notice what's
disappointing, but the threatlevel has a base.
The threat level has abatedbecause you're investing in
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yourself.
What should next week's topicbe?
Why don't we talk next weekabout research based ways to
begin your day, your morningroutine?
I'll share about my morningroutine and I'll talk to you
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about research based techniques,practices and habits that turn
up your manifesting power.
I can't wait to share with youabout this, and thank you so
much to all who joined me today.
What an exciting way to spend aThursday afternoon.
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And until we meet up again,please keep believing and keep
manifesting my beautiful souls.
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