August 20, 2023 • 16 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to the show.
We are covering a very deeptopic for the next two episodes,
this one we are calling theworld as your reflection, and
the intention of this episode isagain to get you to see the
patterns in your life so you canlearn those lessons.
If you keep having the sametype of people or the same
(00:24):
experience showing up over andover and over again, there might
be something you need to learnthat might be there is for sure,
for sure.
And Dr McCall.
He was telling me.
He's like you know, theselessons come up and sometimes
you're like no, I'm not readyfor that one.
And the universe is like okay,and then they come.
The universe comes back with ita couple years later, or a month
later, or whatever.
Yes, it's going to come backuntil you learn it and move on.
(00:47):
You know you, you learn thelessons.
But this is why I want to dothis episode, because this is
such a challenge.
It's such a challenge Like forme.
I know the patterns, I alreadysee them.
Yeah, it's, how do you learnthe lesson is the problem.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I mean, the most basic point is change is hard
and it requires change to changeyour environment.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Like it's hard.
It is hard and we did.
I listened to the otherepisodes we did on this, so we
did episodes.
Episode six make your futureself proud to see your patterns
and learn the lessons.
That was a powerful one aboutpatterns, so listen to that one.
It's some of the foundationalwork we're not going to cover on
what we did the first season.
And then episode 11, let thatshit go.
(01:29):
It's all about your limitingbeliefs that are holding you
back.
So those two episodes, superpowerful.
Go listen to those if you havenot.
This is kind of in addition to,and also a year later, where we
add on this journey.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
For sure yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Because the patterns continue.
Friends, I've been embarrassedalready, I know, but why we
wanted to do?
You know, I love a goodmetaphor and analogy, so we're
using the analogy of a mirror.
The world is like the worldyou're experiencing.
It's a mirror, is reflectingback to you how you are.
Yes, and this goes with WayneDyer's quote that we don't
(02:05):
manifest what we want.
We manifest what we are.
Yes, so your world ismanifesting around you.
Everything around you ismanifesting.
It's a reflection of yourthoughts, your beliefs, your
energy.
Yes, and I hope you can believethat, because this is like it,
this is it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, this is where the real internal work needs to
happen.
It does Because, yeah, you cansay you want these things, but
if you believe different or youbelieve you are worth different,
or you really do see yourselfnot in that deserving light you
are not going to manifest it.
(02:42):
Yes, exactly, it's just plainand simple.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Plain and simple.
So the world around you isreflecting back the lessons and
opportunities for growth in yourlife.
Yeah, Like in.
To summarize it yeah, that isyour opportunity for growth and
we're all here to grow anddevelop and live our journey and
live our purpose.
But in that we are here to youknow better, ourselves, better
the world.
(03:04):
Yeah.
So I liked the analogy of themirror because, as I was
thinking about it, it alsoreflects how conscious you are.
And so, hear me out, theclearer you see the reflection,
the more conscious of where youare.
So imagine that you all have afun house mirror.
Okay, some of us are livingwith a fun house the way like,
(03:25):
and think of it a little bit,body dysmorphia.
Yep, when I look in the mirrorand I see the reflection back,
that is not at all what isreality and I'm like seeing this
, something that's projectingfrom a thought a belief.
You know, something that wasconditioned on to me.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yes, that is a fun house mirror.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
I am not looking at a clear reflection of myself, I'm
looking at a hidden one, yes,so what is your mirror?
The more distorted the mirror,the more closed and conditioned
you are.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
So that is something I really wanted to bring into
this.
What kind of mirror are youlooking through, seriously?
Is it foggy?
Does it have, you know, watersplatters on it?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
and it's like greasy.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
What is your mirror?
Yeah, you really need stepnumber one.
Is the reflection you'relooking at of your life clear,
yeah, or is it foggy, is it?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
distorted.
I need to clean my mirror.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I think I need to.
We all do need to clean ourmirrors.
I don't know anybody whosemirror is like completely, you
know, not personally anyway, yes, yeah, exactly, it's a real
deal.
Yeah, so clean your mirror.
Yeah, this episode is reallyabout cleaning your mirror and
becoming aware that you'relooking at a mirror, that you're
(04:32):
looking at a reflection of whoyou are and what you think and
how you believe things, and allthat.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
So I wanted to talk about three principles in
awareness, because this canmindfuck anyone, for sure this
whole principle.
For sure and we talked a lotabout it last season and we
talked about awareness is key.
Becoming aware is literally thequickest path to inner peace,
enlightenment, likemanifestation, all of those
things.
Becoming aware of what you'rethinking in the moment, like, oh
(05:01):
wow, I'm having that thoughtagain.
That's consciousness, myfriends.
Yeah, it maybe sounds like ascientific term.
That means like you're likethis spiritual being floating on
a cloud and the yoga pose.
No Right, yeah, consciousnessis being aware.
So it's is consciousness, isawareness, and it's living an
intentional, present andmeaningful life Focused on
(05:21):
meaning right, yeah.
Yeah, so number one conscious.
You want to be a conscious badbitch?
Yes, subconscious this is whereit gets a little, a little
crazy.
This subconscious literallymeans just under sub, so it's
just under your awareness.
Subconscious is when you'reliving a reactive and mindless
life.
You're sort of going throughlife, reacting to things,
(05:42):
reacting to your environment.
You also have a bit ofconditioned thinking.
Not a bit, probably a lot.
Yeah, you do things, you knowthere's still a mind body
connection and subconscious.
It's not completely shut off.
Yeah, you're still.
You're doing things for apurpose that you don't really
maybe connect, but it's in there.
Yeah, suppressed versusrepressed.
Yes, yes, yes.
And then unconscious is theabsence of awareness.
(06:04):
So when you're unconscious,moving through life,
disconnected and on autopilot,this is when you arrive at your
destination, your car, andyou're like how did I get here?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
You spent that whole time while you're driving
unconscious.
Yes, seriously, not likephysically, maybe, but mentally.
Yeah, you're you, just you'reautopilot.
You're just driving the car,you're taking the turns, your
body knows which way to go, yourmind, so it just kind of like
closes down.
Yes, that's also repressed.
So when we think of unconsciousit can be, we can repress a lot
(06:34):
of things deep down in thedepths from trauma and all that
stuff, with kids For sure.
Right, yeah, yeah.
So knowing those three termsare super important for your
mirror, because theconsciousness is seeing the
reflection as it is.
It's being aware of thereflection.
Yeah, like even knowing thatthe world is a reflection of who
you are and your thoughts, andall that is consciousness.
Yeah, subconscious is maybethose shitty thoughts you have
(06:56):
about yourself as you're lookingat the reflection.
And then the unconscious isreally the stuff you can't see
in the reflection, but they'reimpacting what you're seeing the
light in the room, you know allof those things that are not
necessarily in the reflection.
Yeah, I think the reason Ireally want to stress this is so
important to get conscious, getaware, understand your thoughts
(07:17):
, be able to catch yourself inthe moment.
Yes, this is how you're goingto recognize your patterns.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah, yeah, you cannot recognize your patterns
without conscious awareness.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
You cannot.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
So this is setting us up for the activity we want to
do in part two of this episode,where you're going to take
yourself through a littleactivity that I kind of created,
based on helping you find yourpatterns.
Man Right, I was like how canyou, if you're somebody who's
like completely unaware,unconscious or unaware of your
patterns, what's the first step?
And for me it's the phrase Ialways, because a lot of times
(07:52):
in our lives you're saying Ialways do this.
Yeah, I always do that.
I always meet people who arethis.
I always date guys like this.
I always amount of money.
I'm always so, while, while it'simportant, the stories you're
telling yourself, which wetouched on the first episode, in
episode six, the story you'retelling yourself is also
creating, manifesting your life.
But this is a time where we'regoing to put that away.
(08:13):
We're going to tuck that away.
You're putting on yourenergetic condom, as Roxy calls
it, and you're going to hear thestory you're telling yeah, so
you're going to journal on Ialways yes, and you cannot do
not overthink it, you have to gofirst.
Everything in your mind, like,whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
So I always, you know , I always have shitty people
who make me feel bad aboutmyself.
I always, you know, meet guysthat are this or whatever.
I always have the worst bossyeah, I always have the worst
boss.
I always have the worst coach.
I always, you know you can'toverthink it, yeah, and then, if
you can't dig this out ofyourself, you need to ask the
(08:51):
people in your life.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
What am I always?
Speaker 1 (08:53):
complaining about.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
What do you see?
What patterns do you see in mylife?
Because I can see the patternsin people's life very clearly.
So I assume everyone's lovedones can, friends and family.
So this is the story you'retelling yourself and that's why
it's important you don'toverthink it.
It's those things.
So once you identify thosethings, you then can sort of
group them, group them into.
(09:17):
You might find that you have alot of relationship patterns,
right, if all your things areabout people and how they treat
you and how they show up.
You might have a lot of careerthings.
You might have repeatedchallenges, something that
you've kind of overcome over andover and over again in your
life.
You know, a pattern for me iswhenever something gets not
(09:38):
challenging, but whenever I kindof just over something, I just
run away, like I move, I leave alot of ex-boyfriends in the
dust.
You know what I'm saying.
And then you might have somehealth and wellness themes.
So what's your theme?
You got to find the themesfinancial, and so this is step
(10:00):
one on the journey.
You really have to become awareof the patterns.
And you got them, you have them.
What's?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
your thoughts.
I mean, none of my thoughts aresuper positive, right this
second.
I just want to like prefacethat.
But yeah, it's being.
I think it's taking ownershiptoo of those thoughts a little
bit and going like these thingsaren't happening to me.
I am creating it, you know.
So when I'm always late to work, right, and then in reality, I
(10:29):
guess I'm not always late towork, but I'm always rushing I'm
always like that's part of myown I don't know my own
reflection that says you don'teven want to start your day.
And why is that?
Do you know what I'm saying?
Like I feel like there's theunderground to like the surface
issue you know, or falling backinto patterns, because it's like
(10:53):
I've been, oh, I recognize thisand I kind of got past it and
moved my way out of feeling likeI'm always broke, I'm always
spending money, I'm always doingthis or I'm always whatever,
and then kind of getting out ofit and then thinking like great,
like goal achieved, and lettingit slip.
And then you sort of start tolike backslide into these old
patterns and these old ways, andwhen you let that shit slide
(11:16):
instead of standing up foryourself and saying this is not
what I want.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
This is not the relationship I want.
This is not the financial piecethat I want.
This is not the you know,internal piece that I want.
When you're not honest withyourself and you're not saying
those things to the peoplearound you, just letting that
shit slide, it's just going tocrumble on top of you and then
you're buried again.
Yeah, it's hard to get out of.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
It is.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
It definitely is hard , but I think realizing that you
create it and you are thereflection is the first step.
Yes, it is for you, it is aboutyou and the work has to be done
by you.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yes, and it's.
You're just kind of mentioningit there.
It's like it's for you.
So the whole point is figuringout what it's for, what is its
purpose in your life.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
It's the same thing that keeps happening over and
over again.
What is that?
How is that serving you?
Right?
It probably is serving apurpose for your sole expansion
that you don't even realize,which is what we're going to
talk about in the next exercise,because it's there to guide you
and it sucks, it's shitty, andwe're actually Right, right,
right, right, right, right,right, right, right, right,
right.
In a couple of episodes.
For now, we're doing a purposeepisode which talk a lot about
(12:25):
that, your purpose, and theycall them quantum shifts, or
those moments in your life whereyou've had an awakening.
Yes, and usually awakeninghappens after something really
shitty happens.
Yeah, so the dark night of thesoul is real, yes, and get aware
of it.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Well and think about if you're one of those people
that has a hard time believingthat you deserve this beautiful
life.
Because if you, for whateverreason, don't feel like you
deserve great things and thenyou have these sort of shitty
thoughts and you see thatreflection, you almost can
you'll play into it and be likeit's because I don't deserve
(13:04):
this.
So I'm going to intentionallychoose to keep moving in this
crappy behavior because it justis reaffirming that I don't
deserve love or money or a greatcareer or a great partner or
whatever it is that you're hungup on.
So I think there's some work todo there.
First is to go like I amchoosing these behaviors over
(13:27):
and over and over again.
Why and what needs to shift forme?
in order to choose something newyes, Choose something different
yes you can.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Yeah, it's hard.
I wish I could just likethere's so many people I just
want to shake, I know, I knowand be like why, why do you keep
doing this to yourself?
I know, but I have those thingstoo, that people probably want
to shake me.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
So I was going to say , I have plenty of things where
I go like that's it, I'm doingit differently, and then 70% of
the time I'm doing itdifferently and 30% of the time
I'm going fuck.
I'm not doing it differently.
I'm doing the same old thingbecause it's so comfortable,
because it's so easy to slipback into and just ignore the
world around me.
But it's just not healthy.
Yes, it's not.
It's not good, it's not right.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
It's not.
So if any of this resonateswith you, you need to come back
to part two and we're just goingto leave you hanging.
That's what we're going to do,because it's something to think
about, but doing that firstexercise again, I always do that
first exercise thoroughly andstart to map out your patterns
and group them, and that'sreally your mission this week.
(14:28):
See that, spend some timejournaling and then come back to
us for part two.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Well, and I think, even if you have all the, you're
confident in your.
I always talk to someone inyour life that you trust,
someone that will be empathetic.
Don't go to somebody that's anasshole, just strike that.
Go to someone you trust, go toa friend, go to your partner, go
to whoever that is empatheticand say what are some patterns
that you see me always doing,what are some things that you
see me complaining about but notchanging?
(14:56):
What are those things?
Again, someone you trust,someone who is going to be
empathetic.
Do not ask an asshole.
Don't do that to yourself.
No, do not, but they may bringup something that you had not
previously thought of.
That could be really importantfor you.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Yes, yes, absolutely, and reflect on the mirror
you're looking in.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
a fun house mirror.
Is it a distorted reality?
Yes, that's mental stuff,ladies.
So check out the next episode.
We're super excited and we'llhelp you through it.
All right, thank you, yes, babe.
Bye, bye.
Welcome back to the show.
We are covering a very deeptopic for the next two episodes,
this one we are calling theworld as your reflection, and
the intention of this episode isagain to get you to see the
patterns in your life so you canlearn those lessons.
If you keep having the sametype of people or the same
(00:24):
experience showing up over andover and over again, there might
be something you need to learnthat might be there is for sure,
for sure.
And Dr McCall.
He was telling me.
He's like you know, theselessons come up and sometimes
you're like no, I'm not readyfor that one.
And the universe is like okay,and then they come.
The universe comes back with ita couple years later, or a month
later, or whatever.
Yes, it's going to come backuntil you learn it and move on.
(00:47):
You know you, you learn thelessons.
But this is why I want to dothis episode, because this is
such a challenge.
It's such a challenge Like forme.
I know the patterns, I alreadysee them.
Yeah, it's, how do you learnthe lesson is the problem.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I mean, the most basic point is change is hard
and it requires change to changeyour environment.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Like it's hard.
It is hard and we did.
I listened to the otherepisodes we did on this, so we
did episodes.
Episode six make your futureself proud to see your patterns
and learn the lessons.
That was a powerful one aboutpatterns, so listen to that one.
It's some of the foundationalwork we're not going to cover on
what we did the first season.
And then episode 11, let thatshit go.
(01:29):
It's all about your limitingbeliefs that are holding you
back.
So those two episodes, superpowerful.
Go listen to those if you havenot.
This is kind of in addition to,and also a year later, where we
add on this journey.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
For sure yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Because the patterns continue.
Friends, I've been embarrassedalready, I know, but why we
wanted to do?
You know, I love a goodmetaphor and analogy, so we're
using the analogy of a mirror.
The world is like the worldyou're experiencing.
It's a mirror, is reflectingback to you how you are.
Yes, and this goes with WayneDyer's quote that we don't
(02:05):
manifest what we want.
We manifest what we are.
Yes, so your world ismanifesting around you.
Everything around you ismanifesting.
It's a reflection of yourthoughts, your beliefs, your
energy.
Yes, and I hope you can believethat, because this is like it,
this is it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, this is where the real internal work needs to
happen.
It does Because, yeah, you cansay you want these things, but
if you believe different or youbelieve you are worth different,
or you really do see yourselfnot in that deserving light you
are not going to manifest it.
(02:42):
Yes, exactly, it's just plainand simple.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Plain and simple.
So the world around you isreflecting back the lessons and
opportunities for growth in yourlife.
Yeah, Like in.
To summarize it yeah, that isyour opportunity for growth and
we're all here to grow anddevelop and live our journey and
live our purpose.
But in that we are here to youknow better, ourselves, better
the world.
(03:04):
Yeah.
So I liked the analogy of themirror because, as I was
thinking about it, it alsoreflects how conscious you are.
And so, hear me out, theclearer you see the reflection,
the more conscious of where youare.
So imagine that you all have afun house mirror.
Okay, some of us are livingwith a fun house the way like,
(03:25):
and think of it a little bit,body dysmorphia.
Yep, when I look in the mirrorand I see the reflection back,
that is not at all what isreality and I'm like seeing this
, something that's projectingfrom a thought a belief.
You know, something that wasconditioned on to me.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yes, that is a fun house mirror.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
I am not looking at a clear reflection of myself, I'm
looking at a hidden one, yes,so what is your mirror?
The more distorted the mirror,the more closed and conditioned
you are.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
So that is something I really wanted to bring into
this.
What kind of mirror are youlooking through, seriously?
Is it foggy?
Does it have, you know, watersplatters on it?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
and it's like greasy.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
What is your mirror?
Yeah, you really need stepnumber one.
Is the reflection you'relooking at of your life clear,
yeah, or is it foggy, is it?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
distorted.
I need to clean my mirror.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
I think I need to.
We all do need to clean ourmirrors.
I don't know anybody whosemirror is like completely, you
know, not personally anyway, yes, yeah, exactly, it's a real
deal.
Yeah, so clean your mirror.
Yeah, this episode is reallyabout cleaning your mirror and
becoming aware that you'relooking at a mirror, that you're
(04:32):
looking at a reflection of whoyou are and what you think and
how you believe things, and allthat.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
So I wanted to talk about three principles in
awareness, because this canmindfuck anyone, for sure this
whole principle.
For sure and we talked a lotabout it last season and we
talked about awareness is key.
Becoming aware is literally thequickest path to inner peace,
enlightenment, likemanifestation, all of those
things.
Becoming aware of what you'rethinking in the moment, like, oh
(05:01):
wow, I'm having that thoughtagain.
That's consciousness, myfriends.
Yeah, it maybe sounds like ascientific term.
That means like you're likethis spiritual being floating on
a cloud and the yoga pose.
No Right, yeah, consciousnessis being aware.
So it's is consciousness, isawareness, and it's living an
intentional, present andmeaningful life Focused on
(05:21):
meaning right, yeah.
Yeah, so number one conscious.
You want to be a conscious badbitch?
Yes, subconscious this is whereit gets a little, a little
crazy.
This subconscious literallymeans just under sub, so it's
just under your awareness.
Subconscious is when you'reliving a reactive and mindless
life.
You're sort of going throughlife, reacting to things,
(05:42):
reacting to your environment.
You also have a bit ofconditioned thinking.
Not a bit, probably a lot.
Yeah, you do things, you knowthere's still a mind body
connection and subconscious.
It's not completely shut off.
Yeah, you're still.
You're doing things for apurpose that you don't really
maybe connect, but it's in there.
Yeah, suppressed versusrepressed.
Yes, yes, yes.
And then unconscious is theabsence of awareness.
(06:04):
So when you're unconscious,moving through life,
disconnected and on autopilot,this is when you arrive at your
destination, your car, andyou're like how did I get here?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
You spent that whole time while you're driving
unconscious.
Yes, seriously, not likephysically, maybe, but mentally.
Yeah, you're you, just you'reautopilot.
You're just driving the car,you're taking the turns, your
body knows which way to go, yourmind, so it just kind of like
closes down.
Yes, that's also repressed.
So when we think of unconsciousit can be, we can repress a lot
(06:34):
of things deep down in thedepths from trauma and all that
stuff, with kids For sure.
Right, yeah, yeah.
So knowing those three termsare super important for your
mirror, because theconsciousness is seeing the
reflection as it is.
It's being aware of thereflection.
Yeah, like even knowing thatthe world is a reflection of who
you are and your thoughts, andall that is consciousness.
Yeah, subconscious is maybethose shitty thoughts you have
(06:56):
about yourself as you're lookingat the reflection.
And then the unconscious isreally the stuff you can't see
in the reflection, but they'reimpacting what you're seeing the
light in the room, you know allof those things that are not
necessarily in the reflection.
Yeah, I think the reason Ireally want to stress this is so
important to get conscious, getaware, understand your thoughts
(07:17):
, be able to catch yourself inthe moment.
Yes, this is how you're goingto recognize your patterns.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah, yeah, you cannot recognize your patterns
without conscious awareness.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
You cannot.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
So this is setting us up for the activity we want to
do in part two of this episode,where you're going to take
yourself through a littleactivity that I kind of created,
based on helping you find yourpatterns.
Man Right, I was like how canyou, if you're somebody who's
like completely unaware,unconscious or unaware of your
patterns, what's the first step?
And for me it's the phrase Ialways, because a lot of times
(07:52):
in our lives you're saying Ialways do this.
Yeah, I always do that.
I always meet people who arethis.
I always date guys like this.
I always amount of money.
I'm always so, while, while it'simportant, the stories you're
telling yourself, which wetouched on the first episode, in
episode six, the story you'retelling yourself is also
creating, manifesting your life.
But this is a time where we'regoing to put that away.
(08:13):
We're going to tuck that away.
You're putting on yourenergetic condom, as Roxy calls
it, and you're going to hear thestory you're telling yeah, so
you're going to journal on Ialways yes, and you cannot do
not overthink it, you have to gofirst.
Everything in your mind, like,whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
So I always, you know , I always have shitty people
who make me feel bad aboutmyself.
I always, you know, meet guysthat are this or whatever.
I always have the worst bossyeah, I always have the worst
boss.
I always have the worst coach.
I always, you know you can'toverthink it, yeah, and then, if
you can't dig this out ofyourself, you need to ask the
(08:51):
people in your life.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
What am I always?
Speaker 1 (08:53):
complaining about.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
What do you see?
What patterns do you see in mylife?
Because I can see the patternsin people's life very clearly.
So I assume everyone's lovedones can, friends and family.
So this is the story you'retelling yourself and that's why
it's important you don'toverthink it.
It's those things.
So once you identify thosethings, you then can sort of
group them, group them into.
(09:17):
You might find that you have alot of relationship patterns,
right, if all your things areabout people and how they treat
you and how they show up.
You might have a lot of careerthings.
You might have repeatedchallenges, something that
you've kind of overcome over andover and over again in your
life.
You know, a pattern for me iswhenever something gets not
(09:38):
challenging, but whenever I kindof just over something, I just
run away, like I move, I leave alot of ex-boyfriends in the
dust.
You know what I'm saying.
And then you might have somehealth and wellness themes.
So what's your theme?
You got to find the themesfinancial, and so this is step
(10:00):
one on the journey.
You really have to become awareof the patterns.
And you got them, you have them.
What's?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
your thoughts.
I mean, none of my thoughts aresuper positive, right this
second.
I just want to like prefacethat.
But yeah, it's being.
I think it's taking ownershiptoo of those thoughts a little
bit and going like these thingsaren't happening to me.
I am creating it, you know.
So when I'm always late to work, right, and then in reality, I
(10:29):
guess I'm not always late towork, but I'm always rushing I'm
always like that's part of myown I don't know my own
reflection that says you don'teven want to start your day.
And why is that?
Do you know what I'm saying?
Like I feel like there's theunderground to like the surface
issue you know, or falling backinto patterns, because it's like
(10:53):
I've been, oh, I recognize thisand I kind of got past it and
moved my way out of feeling likeI'm always broke, I'm always
spending money, I'm always doingthis or I'm always whatever,
and then kind of getting out ofit and then thinking like great,
like goal achieved, and lettingit slip.
And then you sort of start tolike backslide into these old
patterns and these old ways, andwhen you let that shit slide
(11:16):
instead of standing up foryourself and saying this is not
what I want.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
This is not the relationship I want.
This is not the financial piecethat I want.
This is not the you know,internal piece that I want.
When you're not honest withyourself and you're not saying
those things to the peoplearound you, just letting that
shit slide, it's just going tocrumble on top of you and then
you're buried again.
Yeah, it's hard to get out of.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
It is.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
It definitely is hard , but I think realizing that you
create it and you are thereflection is the first step.
Yes, it is for you, it is aboutyou and the work has to be done
by you.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yes, and it's.
You're just kind of mentioningit there.
It's like it's for you.
So the whole point is figuringout what it's for, what is its
purpose in your life.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
It's the same thing that keeps happening over and
over again.
What is that?
How is that serving you?
Right?
It probably is serving apurpose for your sole expansion
that you don't even realize,which is what we're going to
talk about in the next exercise,because it's there to guide you
and it sucks, it's shitty, andwe're actually Right, right,
right, right, right, right,right, right, right, right,
right.
In a couple of episodes.
For now, we're doing a purposeepisode which talk a lot about
(12:25):
that, your purpose, and theycall them quantum shifts, or
those moments in your life whereyou've had an awakening.
Yes, and usually awakeninghappens after something really
shitty happens.
Yeah, so the dark night of thesoul is real, yes, and get aware
of it.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Well and think about if you're one of those people
that has a hard time believingthat you deserve this beautiful
life.
Because if you, for whateverreason, don't feel like you
deserve great things and thenyou have these sort of shitty
thoughts and you see thatreflection, you almost can
you'll play into it and be likeit's because I don't deserve
(13:04):
this.
So I'm going to intentionallychoose to keep moving in this
crappy behavior because it justis reaffirming that I don't
deserve love or money or a greatcareer or a great partner or
whatever it is that you're hungup on.
So I think there's some work todo there.
First is to go like I amchoosing these behaviors over
(13:27):
and over and over again.
Why and what needs to shift forme?
in order to choose something newyes, Choose something different
yes you can.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Yeah, it's hard.
I wish I could just likethere's so many people I just
want to shake, I know, I knowand be like why, why do you keep
doing this to yourself?
I know, but I have those thingstoo, that people probably want
to shake me.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
So I was going to say , I have plenty of things where
I go like that's it, I'm doingit differently, and then 70% of
the time I'm doing itdifferently and 30% of the time
I'm going fuck.
I'm not doing it differently.
I'm doing the same old thingbecause it's so comfortable,
because it's so easy to slipback into and just ignore the
world around me.
But it's just not healthy.
Yes, it's not.
It's not good, it's not right.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
It's not.
So if any of this resonateswith you, you need to come back
to part two and we're just goingto leave you hanging.
That's what we're going to do,because it's something to think
about, but doing that firstexercise again, I always do that
first exercise thoroughly andstart to map out your patterns
and group them, and that'sreally your mission this week.
(14:28):
See that, spend some timejournaling and then come back to
us for part two.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Well, and I think, even if you have all the, you're
confident in your.
I always talk to someone inyour life that you trust,
someone that will be empathetic.
Don't go to somebody that's anasshole, just strike that.
Go to someone you trust, go toa friend, go to your partner, go
to whoever that is empatheticand say what are some patterns
that you see me always doing,what are some things that you
see me complaining about but notchanging?
(14:56):
What are those things?
Again, someone you trust,someone who is going to be
empathetic.
Do not ask an asshole.
Don't do that to yourself.
No, do not, but they may bringup something that you had not
previously thought of.
That could be really importantfor you.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Yes, yes, absolutely, and reflect on the mirror
you're looking in.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
a fun house mirror.
Is it a distorted reality?
Yes, that's mental stuff,ladies.
So check out the next episode.
We're super excited and we'llhelp you through it.
All right, thank you, yes, babe.
Bye, bye.
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