January 14, 2025 • 49 mins
Is your marriage vibrant and full of spontaneous moments all year round, or does it thrive only on anniversaries and special occasions? Discover how to infuse daily life with celebrations and appreciation, whether you’re married or single. This episode promises to transform your perspective on relationships by offering insights into cherishing both the highs and lows, and the profound impact of remembering why you fell in love in the first place.
Throughout our lively discussion, we uncover the secrets to a strong marriage connection. From recalling the foundational elements of friendship in your relationship to exploring the power of small acts like surprise dates or breakfast in bed, learn how to invigorate your bond and nurture a loving dynamic. By focusing on the importance of mutual support and fulfilling marriage vows, we offer practical advice for facing life's ups and downs together, ensuring that your relationship remains resilient and robust.
Celebrate your marriage every day with the meaningful rituals we explore, designed to keep attraction alive and connections strong. From dedicating just a few minutes each day for distraction-free conversation to the joys of cooking together, these small gestures create lasting memories and strengthen intimacy. As we prepare for 2025, the journey of nurturing and celebrating healthy relationships takes center stage, encouraging you to embrace the strength and love needed to face challenges together. With personal anecdotes and heartfelt wishes, we invite you to cherish your loved ones and celebrate love every day.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So tonight we're talking about how to celebrate
your marriage all year For the2025,.
You need to celebrate yourmarriage all year.
And look at this Even if you'renot married, you need to
celebrate yourself all year,right, yeah, you need to
celebrate, because one thing Iunderstood this is that if you
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don't celebrate yourself, youcan't rely on nobody else to
celebrate you.
You got to celebrate yourselfand if you're married, you
celebrate yourself and youcelebrate your spouse.
That's what you should do, allright?
And so you and your spouse, asyou go through 2025, you're
going to need to celebrate yourmarriage throughout the year.
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Right?
Because, again, if nobodycelebrates your marriage, you
should celebrate your marriage,the ups and the downs.
You still should have some kindof celebrations.
And it says anniversaries arewonderful.
That's a time to reflect.
It seems like, with marriages,that the only time we want to
celebrate is on our anniversary.
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That's a big big-do or whateverlike that.
That's the time we want tocelebrate our marriage, right?
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I guess you're kind of celebrating that we're still
together.
We weathered the storm ups anddowns and we're still together.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
We're still together downs, and we still together, we
still we still together.
So tonight we're going to givefive points on how to celebrate
your marriage all year long, allyear, all year long, not just
anniversary time, but all yearlong.
So are you ready?
I'm ready all right, all right.
Point number one just what Ineed you do, what I need you to
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constantly reflect on youryear's best memory.
So, throughout the year, youneed to constantly reflect on
your year's best memory.
Matter of fact, you can lookback at 2024 and just bring your
year's best memories.
Reason why I think that isnumber one is that oftentimes we
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say it that you can do 99things right and you do one
thing wrong, and that one thingwrong will overshadow the 99
things that you did right, right.
And so what happens, I believe,in the marriage, is that you
have the ups and the downs andyou have a lot of ups, but when
that down happened, you just getdown, down, down and you forget
about all the ups that you hadRight.
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You forget all about that.
So you should.
Why are you taking pictures Likewe went to Charleston and I got
you jumping up?
Hey, baby, take me jumping up.
That's that's a sense ofhappiness.
That's the shows that hey, gotyou jumping up.
Hey, baby, take me jumping up.
That's a sense of happiness.
That's to show us that hey, wewere once happy.
Even if we get down, we canlook back and say we were once
happy.
We need to get back to it.
Remember, you said that we gotto get back to it, and what do
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we need to do to get back to it?
And so we need to write.
Whatever we need to do, we needto write it down.
But if we never look at thememories, if we never think
about the memories, if we neverhave pictures of the memories or
videos of the memories, thenI'm mine, hey, I'm look, I'm 58
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and some things I don't forget.
You constantly have to remindme of things, right, yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I'm a bit worried about that.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Oh Lord.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Because I don't need you going with your memory loss
so early in the game.
We're still in the game.
Yeah, yeah, pull it together.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
I'm pulling it together, but you forget, and so
that's why you need to havethose pictures and stuff like
that, and you need to constantlyreflect on that, constantly
remind yourself of the happytimes that you and your spouse
has had.
What do you think?
You think so, I agree.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I agree.
I think, again, you're going tohave some rough patches, you're
going to have some bad days.
But you know, if you don't havebad days, how are you going to
know that the good days are gooddays?
You got to go through somethingto get to something and you
remind yourself that this iswhere I fell in love, this is
where we became not just husbandand wife but best friends and
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homies.
How to go back to those littlethings and just kind of remind
yourself this is why I love thisperson.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Right right, right right.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
I didn't love him for everything to be 100 all the
time.
I loved him for the ups and thedowns and everything that goes
around and around to build ourfoundation and our relationship
Right.
So it's so important to go backand find it so important to go
back and find it.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, yeah, you gotta , you gotta find it.
No, because marriages wemarriage in real life, right
marriages you're gonna have somedowns you're gonna have where
your spouse is not feeling well,right and and you have to step
up and do more.
You may have to cook more.
You may have to clean more.
You may have to do things foryour spouse.
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You may have those times thatyou may happen and it may go
vice versa.
That's why.
That's why you, like you got tobe careful on how you treat
people and you got to be carefulon how you treat your spouse.
Right, you never know when youmight need it.
Whenever you might need,whenever you might, you might be
in that position where you needthem to to clean you and wipe
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you and and do all of these kindof stuff.
It it may happen.
So you got to be.
What was that movie with tylerperry where he he went in and he
chopped up half of the of theuh, diary of a mad black, is it
that?
that Is that right, how hetreated his wife, treated his
wife and then when.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
He got shot in court.
He needed her, he needed her.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
So you never know what might happen.
You may be all healthy one day.
Then, all of a sudden,something happened and you need
your spouse in order to help you.
So you got to make sure you heylook, and again you took a vow
to be in this marriage forbetter or for worse, or for
sickness and in health Right,and so you got to live up to
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those vows.
You got to do that Right.
Thanks, pastor Bar.
You go back to listen to PastorBar.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Podcast.
We had her on and you'll findthat out All right.
So you got to constantlyreflect on your year's best
moments.
Take pictures.
Whenever you're out andenjoying one another, take
pictures.
Hey, let me take a selfie.
That's because there's going tobe some times where you
couldn't go out or just reflecton some good times, right?
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Absolutely All right.
What's number two?
What's number two?
Number two says celebratespontaneously.
Whoa, I love a spontaneous.
Call me at work.
Hey, baby, you got some planstonight.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I ain'tgot no plans tonight.
I live with you.
What you talking about?
I'm taking you out on a date.
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Come on.
Relax, get yourself together.
I'm taking you.
I love spontaneous dates.
I love spontaneous moments Like, hey, you know what, let's just
ride down and walk on theboulevard on Hollywood Beach,
let's just do something.
Let's create some memories,some marriage memories.
I know we say we creatememories with the family in
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general, with everybody.
I'm still upset with you aboutthat.
You know we create memories witheverybody, the entire family
but let's create some memoriesfor just you and I.
Right, you know so when we dothose things, that's spontaneous
.
I simply love those.
Okay, do we have a few samples?
Surprise your spouse withbreakfast in bed on a random
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weekday.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Oh man, that was good .
I love that baby.
That was good.
Hey, I did this Sunday.
I did bring you some coffee andwalk you up gently and I stood
there.
I didn't have my wife be thereon, or nothing like that.
What did you get ready to?
Speaker 3 (08:03):
say no, you did.
You brought me coffee, but it'dbe nice, it'd be some pancakes,
some sausage or something withit.
And I'm not saying that I'mbeing bougie or whatever, but
when I bring you breakfast inbed, bro, I bring you breakfast
in bed.
I wake you up so you can eatit's all nice and spread out for
you, and then I'll be like Icome back and I get in.
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I'll be like go back to sleep.
You got a full belly Now.
Ain't no sense in you gettingup.
Go ahead and rest.
I do that for you, but we ain'tgoing to talk about that.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
I give you a shout out for hooking me up for
breakfast in bed.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I do my part.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
I do my part.
I do my part, all right, okay.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
But I do appreciate the coffee because you could
have just woke me up.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
It's time to get up and go to church.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Notes, like write a little sticky note on the
refrigerator have a great day.
I love you because you'recoming in when I'm leaving.
It's the little things, guysleaving.
So just, it's a little thing,it's the little things, guys.
It's, trust me, it's the littlethings and we don't need all of
the big stuff, we don't needall the material things, we just
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need that little bitty thing.
That'd be like oh, he thoughtabout me yeah yeah, oh,
something just so simple.
And then and then you, you, youalready got us, but when you do
those little bitty things, itmakes us want to do more for you
, it makes us want to Submit Ihate to say it.
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I mean, I don't hate to say it,but submit is not a bad word
but it makes us want to complymore with the household or the
relationship.
It's a little things.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Okay, okay.
And we don't need to do it juston special occasions.
Anytime, we need to do itanytime.
Write that text, just send anemoji of love, and so you're
celebrating yourself yourmarriage constantly, and you're
doing it spontaneously.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
I know, so let me just share this with you.
I'm in school now.
I'm trying to get mycredentials straightened out,
and when you come in and you seeme working and you just rub my
shoulders, I'd be like, oh Imust have gone his mind.
He's struggling.
So I appreciate that, becauseit's just those small gestures
that make a real difference?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
you would not believe Also, you plan a mini vacation.
I think, too, is that when wewent to Charleston yes, we went
to see your mom, but we said youknow what, let's just go, let's
just go.
We went to Ridgeville with noreception, but we went out to
Charleston and just said let'sjust go and take a couple of
days and have the mini vacation,austin, and just say, let's
just go and take a couple ofdays and have the mini vacation.
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Even when we went to Lakelandand we stayed there we didn't go
to every service, you know whatI mean we said we're going to
spend some time together, that'sjust a little mini vacation,
one.
It could be one day orsomething like that.
But you need to celebrate and doit spontaneously that.
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But you need to celebrate, Imean, and do it spontaneously.
And, and I think again, withguys, we we got to learn how to
be spontaneous.
We got to, we got to learn howto just say, hey, you know what,
let's go for a ride or let's go, let's do this or let's do that
.
We have to learn that.
I could say my dad was neverlike that and people, men I
don't know a lot of men in mylife that's like that.
So I have to.
It's a learned behavior.
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If my wife likes that, I just Igot to get out of my comfort
zone and be spontaneous, right,just, you know that's what I do.
I see you smiling baby.
Hey, before we go into, fatherIzzy is here.
Izzy, hey, hey girl, how youdoing, how you doing.
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Happy New Year, happy New Yearto you.
And we see the Little Richardsare on.
He says Amai says hi.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
Hey, muffin hey.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Muffin.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Hey girl, All right.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
And so Lindsey says consistent intentionality is
good and easy.
I guess she would put that 100submit thing.
I guess when we do yeah, she isspoiled already, lucille, when
we do those things it makes yousay, okay, yeah, I'll follow you
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.
Like you said, I'll follow youas long as you follow in Christ
and you're doing right andyou're okay.
Yeah, I'll follow you.
Like you say, I'll follow youas long as you follow in christ
and you're doing right andyou're leading.
I'll follow you, just by doingthe little things yeah, the
little things.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
And communication, communication.
I can't really say that enough.
I go back to that all the time.
Things don't always go right,but don't shut down on us,
because when you shut down on us, we automatically think you
don't care.
Okay, okay, okay, you don'tshut down on us, because when
you shut down on us, weautomatically think you don't
care.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
He don't care about me because he shut down.
It goes two ways.
If you shut down, you give methat energy, I'm giving you back
the same energy, right?
Right, you get nothing doneyeah.
He says for better, for worse.
Mm-hmm.
For richer, for poor.
Mm-hmm.
Seek me sin and or sickness andin health.
So in order to keep that thingin tune, you got to plan those
little sneak aways and don'ttell nobody where you're at.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Oh, that's it.
You can't tell nobody whereyou're going.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Let's go, let's go you know I'm with Eric being a
pastor and being busy andrunning the businesses while I'm
at work and working full time,like he be exhausted.
But I'd be like yo dude, we gotto go do something because I
need to regroup, I need thespace, I need to boost our
moment.
I'll drag him oh, no, we going.
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But he actually said, hey, Iwant to go somewhere cold for
Christmas, let's go see my mom.
And then we was like, okay, sowe can see my mom these days,
and then we'll shoot down theCharleston, just the two of us.
And mom was like, oh, that's sosweet.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
And she went.
My husband, never take me,you're going to leave Mom and
Big Papa alone.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, so I mean, in order to make things, happen
we've got to be spontaneous,we've got to communicate, we've
got to know when enough isenough, when it's time to drop
everything and go.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Okay, all right, all right.
Number three is establishunique traditions.
Establish unique traditions.
So creating traditions that aremeaningful to your relationship
f intimacy and gives you bothsomething to look forward to.
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These traditions can reflectyour shared history and
interests.
So, whatever the tradition is,it's unique to you and your
spouse, right?
It's not somebody else.
So, for instance, if we'regoing to movies on christmas,
that's unique to us.
Not a lot of people do that andmaybe some people do that, but
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that's something that we do.
We're gonna find a movie we'regonna.
We're gonna do maybe it's aride every every first and third
sunday something that we do.
That is unique to us.
Maybe you go fishing, or maybewe're not doing that.
All right, Maybe we need I knowwe need to get back on those
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four wheelers.
I know we love that.
I'll do that.
Yeah, that's what you know whatit is.
So some of the examples are youcould celebrate your first date
anniversary.
Well, what was our first date?
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Well, I don't know.
The first time you broke upwhen we broke my heart, oh Jesus
.
I don't remember that, oh Lord.
But the second one, I think itwas really inexpensive we went
for a walk on the beach.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
Walk on the beach, all right, okay.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
All right, that first one I don't remember, you don't
remember.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
You don't remember, all right, okay.
So you can celebrate your firstdate anniversary by each year
by recreating that date orvisiting the same location.
So, however, you want to dothat.
Another one is you can pick aunique holiday, all right.
So this example here that wecame up with is that the day you
moved into your home togetherto celebrate with a special
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dinner activity Okay, all right.
So February 18th, we could dothat.
That was the day that we movedin, baby, and got our home
together with a special dinner.
That's something unique to us.
It's not unique to nobody else,but that's us, right, okay, all
right.
The next one is create a movieor game night tradition where
you explore genres and games youboth love.
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So maybe you could sit thereand have your own karaoke.
Come on, now, I'll sing to you,baby.
You'll sing to me.
I'll sing to you, sing, baby.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Sing, you know I'll sing to you.
I want you to sing, I want tobe your lover.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
I want to be your lover.
I want to be your lover.
Yeah, yeah, I like that one.
What would you want?
Speaker 3 (16:54):
me to sing to you, baby, on our karaoke.
Oh, I can't think of nothingright off the top of my head.
Or you can sing Do Me Baby, I'mnot doing you, I don't know, we
got a little karaoke machinetoo.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Yeah yeah, so yeah, but I'm just saying but that's
what we're saying is beingspontaneous and something that's
unique to you all on a certaindate, whatever it is and again
we're talking about how to havethat Just don't celebrate your
anniversary, because that's whatcouples do they celebrate that
one day and then all the rest ofthe days.
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They're not being spontaneous,they're not having a unique
tradition, they're not doinganything.
They just take that one yearand that one day out of the year
and they make it big.
But no, you got to do thisthroughout the year, throughout
the year, throughout the year.
All right, all right, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
What's next one then?
Okay, let's look at some of thecomments.
Look, it's Peaches.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Peaches, hey, peach.
Hey, Peaches Love you.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
Y'all say hey to my baby, my baby on the left.
Yeah, y'all say the one thatmade me a mama, so I want to go
back to what we were talkingabout?
Oh, you got some shout outs Foryour birthday.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Oh hey, thank you for all the shout outs.
I thank you for all thepersonal messages and the calls
and the texts.
I really, really appreciatethat.
All right, what are you goingback to?
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Oh, I was going to go back to where Ismael said.
She said about 100% withsubmission.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
She said something else and Ican't find it, but anyway, so
we'll move on.
Yeah, yeah.
Incorporate daily celebration.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Daily celebration.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Daily celebrations Daily.
I saw this video and I don'tknow if you guys might want to
do it, but I haven't done itwith Eric yet but I plan to.
It's a new year, new thingwhere this husband and wife they
every day for five minutes.
They sit like he would sit withhis legs straight and she would
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scrowl on him and they would bein the middle of the bed and
that I think it was five, fiveto ten minutes and he had five
minutes to say whatever hewanted to say to her at that
moment she had five minutes tosay whatever it could have been
about the day if the day wasgood, the day was bad I missed
you today.
I just felt like I wanted to beclose to you today, whatever.
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And I thought, five minutes tosay whatever it could have been
about the day if the day wasgood, if the day was bad, I
missed you today.
I just felt like I wanted to beclose to you today, whatever,
and I thought, wow, that'sinteresting.
Now you don't have to do thatin the middle of bed, you can
sit across from in the livingroom and you can still do it,
but just to have that time whereit's like and and you're
looking face to face each other.
You're not looking to the side,you're looking right in each
other's face, not on the phone.
Not on the phone, not looking,and no distraction, no music, no
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TV blast and nothing.
And you just sit there and youlook at each other and you tell
them whatever happened today andgive them the opportunity to
respond.
I thought that was sointeresting because sometimes we
get so caught up in theday-to-day work doing this,
doing that, just so busy that wedon't get the opportunity to
stop and really say like, howwas your day?
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And really listen how that daywent.
How that day went.
Yeah, yeah, yeah did you hearwhat I said?
Yeah, you said something aboutwhat happened and now I feel
like you don't even listen, youdon't even care, right, right,
listen.
So celebrating daily I think Ithought that would be a great,
great idea, just sharing thingswith them.
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Tell your lady she cute todayand she smelled good today, yeah
, yeah all that tell your mansay compliment.
Compliments play a big rolebecause as women we want to know
that you guys are stillattracted to us okay, and I'm
pretty sure y'all want to knowif we still attracted to y'all,
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of course.
So compliments, that can be adaily thing and you could be out
the door.
Hey, babe, you're looking goodgirl have a good day, dude,
you're looking good.
Right.
Have a great day.
Little bitty things and, likeI've been saying, for the most
part it's the small things thatmatter, okay, so in this it says
even small, consistent gesturescan make a big difference in a
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marriage Note it.
Celebrating daily doesn'trequire grand gestures.
It's about showing appreciationand staying connected, like I
said.
So some of the examples thatthey have is this Each day, end
each day by sharing one thingthat you appreciated about your
partner.
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Schedule 10 minutes everyevening to chat about your day
without distractions.
Celebrate small victoriestogether, such as finishing a
tough project.
When I finish school, I want towant your support.
All right, yeah, passing schoolor overwhelming a challenge by
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treating yourself to ice creamor a massage or a foot massage
yeah yeah, yeah, we try to dothat.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we try to do that.
Small victories together, notjust by like if your spouse has
completed something, celebrateit.
Speaker 3 (22:11):
Celebrate it.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
That's one thing.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
I've got Get a new promotion.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Yeah, celebrate it.
Get a little raise, celebrateit.
And I think the thing is thatyou don't have to celebrate a
raise or promotion by going andspending big time money.
You know what I'm saying.
You can celebrate a raise andpromotion just by saying you
know what?
I am so proud of you.
That's celebration, I think,too, is that, as husbands, I
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think we need to tell, tell ourwives and I think men need to
hear it too just to say that I'mproud of you, I'm proud of you
for doing this, I'm proud of youfor doing it.
I thank you for doing that,showing some gratitude to the
person.
A lot of times we we just say,because we married, especially
if you've been married overthree years, four years you
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think that that person supposedto do this, they suppose.
But people love gratitude.
Thank you for doing this, thankyou for doing that.
That's part of celebratingsomebody, just saying thank you,
right.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Okay, so Virtual Melody, he say, because they try
to not go a date withouthugging or kissing.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
That's it.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
When's the last time you kissed me?
Speaker 1 (23:35):
What do you mean?
When's the last time I kissedyou?
Didn't you kiss me.
Today I kissed you.
Alright, come on over here,baby.
No, no, no, come on.
That's not a kiss.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
I'm talking about a kiss, all right that's a little
pic, that's a little pic oh,y'all make someone want to get
married.
But yeah, and she also saidappreciation counts and
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gratitude do count, because ifyou don't show that you
appreciate what I'm doing, I'mgoing to stop doing it.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Right.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
I'm going to stop doing it.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right, mm hmm, yeah,
yep, yep, yep, all right.
So the the last one that we gotall right, the last one we got
is that focus on togethernessover formality.
Focus on togetherness overformality is again you, my wife,
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you, you're my wife and you'resupposed to do this.
You, my husband, and you'resupposed to do this.
That's formality.
I do it because I love you withall my heart.
I do it, and when we do thingstogether, it's good, such as
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they gave an example here.
But this is something that wetry to tell couples cook
together, cook together.
So if you could sit down andyou can get some kind of unique
recipe from TikTok or Facebookor wherever, that you can get a
unique recipe that you don'teven know anything about, that
(25:29):
way you can sit down, you cansay hey, this is what we need
from the grocery store.
Can you imagine you got arecipe and you say okay, patsy,
we're going to cook thistogether.
All right, cool, let's sit down, let's do the rest.
Let's do that, and I drag youto the grocery store, because I
know you hate the grocery store,where you get breakout in hives
right, I'm not the only I dragyou to and, but we're shopping
(25:51):
for the ingredients right right,we shopping for the ingredients
, we we leave there, we comehome, you cook this.
Yeah, I cook that, like you,you're better in, like the gravy
, I like that.
I say, hey, I need that.
I say I need you, come on, Ineed to cook the gravy.
But there's some things and wecook together.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yeah, we set the table together and we eat
together and, most importantly,while we're doing it, we're
talking so yeah, and I'm gladthat's something that we tell
the couples to do too, becauseit gets serious in the kitchen.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah, you can have some fun in the kitchen,
especially if you have someflour or something like that.
Some wine yeah, get some wine,don't burn stuff.
Speaker 3 (26:32):
All right, of course it's a form of intimacy.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Yeah, it's a form of intimacy.
You can get serious in thatkitchen.
You have to turn off the heatand say, look, let me turn the
heat up, let me turn this heatdown.
And whatever you do in yourkitchen, that's what you do in
your kitchen.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
You know what you need prayer.
You need prayer, father God.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
I got to do the Catholic thing yeah but you know
what?
Speaker 3 (26:57):
You can take a walk together If you're on your
health kick.
Oh, let me just say hello Fresh.
Have some really good recipes.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
Yes, sir.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Really good recipes and you know like, go for a walk
together if you're on yourhealth journey or even if you
just want to get out Now I knowright now Melissa and Ty can't
be out there walking in snow Insnow.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Why you can't walk?
Speaker 3 (27:19):
in the snow, I wouldn't walk in the snow.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I don't understand why you can't walk in the snow.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
I wouldn't walk in the snow.
I don't understand why youcan't walk in the snow.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
You can if you choose to, but I don't know, it's just
a lot to go along with thatWell.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
I don't think we can walk in the ice, but walking in
the snow is pretty good.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Remember that time I was pussing at you and walking
outside in the snow Fail, uh-huh, that's what you get.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
We don of that.
All right.
Yeah, it's like take a walk.
Talk about your goals that youplan for last at 2024, what
you're gonna do 2025.
Just get out there, get somevitamin d yeah, even or not
being outside does take a lot ofstress away.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it does goout there and get out there, get
out there and walk a little bityeah, yeah, or.
Or even another thing too go fora drive, let the windows down.
(28:05):
Don't use the air conditioningif it's not hot, I mean if it's
not freezing cold.
Go out there, because sometimesEric and I we'll hop in, sadie,
and put the roof back and letthe windows down and ride along
the coast, and we have somealmost interesting moments when
we do that.
Yeah.
It's just the two of us, so weare building memories by just
(28:26):
doing that Just by doing that.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Lindsay says just make sure the countertops
counter wipe afterwards.
Lord have mercy.
Izzy says save all that forlater.
When I give you that kiss saidsave all that for later.
When I gave you that kiss, saveall that for later.
I'm saving a little bit forlater, ty and Melissa.
(28:54):
Most of the snow melted inAtlanta so we can walk now.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Good, I want y'all to be safe.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Yeah, we want you to be safe.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
I can't wait to see them in April.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
Yeah, yeah, we just want to celebrate marriages safe
.
Yeah, we want you to be safe,but I can't wait to see them in
april.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's, it's.
We just want to celebratemarriages.
I, I, I say as a podcast I wantto celebrate marriages all year
and I just want to say that notall marriages make it another
year.
So if you do make it anotheryear, you celebrate it, but
every day you should celebrateit.
But every day you shouldcelebrate, like we said, every
(29:24):
day, because not all marriagesmake it.
Just that next day.
Right, you know how we say youget up because God's mercies are
renewed every morning.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Right.
Your marriage does don't haveto survive overnight.
It doesn't have to have tosurvive overnight.
It doesn't have to.
But because God allows it andbecause you allow it together to
survive another night, you canget up and say you know what,
thank you, lord and thank youbabe, thank you for sticking
(29:55):
with me, because yesterday Iknow it was tough, I know it was
tough, but thank you, and maybeyesterday wasn't tough, but you
can still say thank you,because there are many I tell
guys all the time there are manyladies that just leave.
They don't want to, they don'twant to deal with it, they don't
want to, they don't want todeal with you trying to learn
(30:18):
how to be a great husband or agreat man.
They don't want to deal andthey just leave.
They say no, I don't want to dothat.
And so they just walk out.
Right, and so you should justcelebrate your wife, say thank
you for sticking with me.
Thank you for sticking with me.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
And we want something that's worth fighting for.
And if you're not worthfighting for, well, don't read
those.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
I see what Izzy said.
That's why I don't eat at y'allpeople's houses Y'all nasty,
you know.
That's why you got to make sureyou have a clean house.
Speaker 3 (31:00):
I'm calling her later .
I am.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
When you walk into the house and you smell bleach
and all that stuff.
Speaker 3 (31:06):
You know something went down.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
You know something went down Pneumonia Fabulosa.
You smell all that stuff.
You say, oh yeah, somethingwent down in here last night.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
You know what?
Izzy can't talk.
She the one who reproduces.
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
So celebrating marriages all 2025 and I just
want to give a shout out to allthe marriages, all the married
people that's online tonight Iwant to say we love you all and
we celebrate you all.
We do.
Relationships are hard, yeah,relationships are hard when you
stand to fight.
Speaker 3 (31:48):
remember I said, I think in a few seasons ago, if
we in the boxing ring, I need tobe able to tag you in when I
can't do it anymore and you needto be able to tag me in when
you can't.
And it goes the same way whenthe enemy is on your back and
you can't get a breakthrough.
You got to tag me in so I canget on my knees and start
(32:08):
praying too yeah we need eachother to survive and we gonna,
if we gonna, if we gonna I'm notreading anymore if we gonna
make it in this relationship, wegot to do it together.
We got to be unified.
Yeah, gotta be unified so we gotto be able to reflect and
express the love that we havefor one another, even in the bad
times.
(32:28):
I'm telling you, if you don'tgo through bad stuff, how do you
know the good things are goodand how do you know how to fight
the next bad thing that'scoming up?
Because it's going to come?
You just got to know how tohandle it.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
You got to know how to handle it.
You got to know how to handleit.
Stay in the ring, stay in thefight.
Yep, stay in the fight, becauseI'm telling you it's worth it.
If you stay in the fight.
It is, it's worth it.
Speaker 3 (32:53):
Especially if you know what it was and you reflect
back to it and you continue tofight for it.
Yep, but we got to do ittogether.
I can't, I can't, fight bymyself, right, we?
If we want to maintain thisrelationship, this marriage, we
got to be honest, we got to becommunicative, we got to share,
yeah, and we got to be share ourfeelings.
(33:15):
When you know, like I'm not madat you for not bringing me this
in bed.
I'm really not mad about that,because you've done so many
other things.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
I just kind of wanted to bring it to your attention,
because that's what this paperthat you made me study said.
Speaker 3 (33:29):
I was like oh he ain't bring me no bread.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Oh man, I guess I'm sorry that I don't clean or cook
in my wife beater.
Speaker 3 (33:39):
Box of wreaths in a wife beater, oh Jesus, with a
towel over your shoulder and anapron on.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
That's how you need to cook.
Yeah, I studied you best.
He just said my goodness, oh,my goodness.
Oh man.
Well, hey, if you want to callin and just talk to us a little
bit, you can dial in754-222-2219.
(34:13):
754-222-2219.
You can dial in and we'll beglad to host you a little bit
before we get ready to get outof here.
We had some fun tonight.
Yep, we had some fun tonight.
Yeah, we had some fun tonight,so we love it's going to put us
(34:35):
in time out.
You just come get your parents.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Don't call me, I'm saying, but you know what I tell
you what eric and I have havesuch a good marriage.
I, I, I won't say it's notperfect but, it's good, because
we, we vibe off of each other.
We get mad at each other.
I well, I get mad at him.
He shut down and don't talk tome.
(35:03):
I get in the caddy roll thewindows down and I hit it.
I'm like, okay, I need somespace, he needs some space.
But for the most part we we tryto feed off each other's energy
and, like I said, if you givingme a bad energy, I'm giving it
right back to you, right, right.
(35:24):
Because if you come up and say,weigh my dinner, I'm going to
be like you ain't stop to get it.
It's not about to go down, heyweigh my vittles.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
You know what, when I walk in the door, I want to
have my vittles.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
Be like hmm.
Okay.
I think how we respond to eachother, our tone of voice and our
body language, makes a bigdifference, as well as how we
receive, how you coming off yeahhey, we want to make sure you
like and share.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
Make sure you like we forgot to say this throughout
there make sure you like, pleaselike this video, share it with
somebody that you know that tohelp them.
And then, if you want to sowinto our marriage ministry, you
can.
You can do it by Super Chat.
You can go hit right there, hitthe Super Chat and you can give
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(36:18):
Again, we're trying to get aproducer and somebody else, so
we're trying to grow in ourmarriage podcast in 2025.
Yeah, we're growing.
Yeah, yeah yeah yeah.
So we're trying to grow a littlebit more and so, however you
want to support, you can and wewill appreciate it.
It's all tax deductiblewhatever you give, so we would
(36:40):
love to that.
So if you want to call in again754-222-2219,.
You can call in and we can talkabout some how you're going to
celebrate this year.
What are, what are some thingsthat you're thinking about doing
that throughout the year, notjust that one day of anniversary
, but daily.
I love what you say, that dailyI love.
You know, when you come homeand and I'm sitting there
(37:02):
watching TV or doing whatever,and you say and I say, how's
your day?
You just start, you know,spilling the tea.
When I say, when I say tea, I'mjust saying you start spilling.
Just what's going on in you,how was your day?
And I just love that You'll saywell, I had a good day, or I had
(37:23):
a bad day, or something likethat.
Or if you had a good day, yousay how it was good.
You just won't say I had a goodday.
You say how it was good.
If you say I had a bad day, youexplain to me how it was good.
You just won't say I had a goodday you say how it was good.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
If you say I had a bad day.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
you explain to me how it was bad these babies crazy.
Speaker 3 (37:35):
Yeah, you say the baby's crazy, or the parents.
These parents are crazy, let metell you.
They bring those kids in nowarm clothes and I'll be all
wrapped like it's snowingoutside.
My hands will freeze that I belike.
Oh my God, I can't believe thisbaby don't have on no t-shirt.
This baby got on a onesie and adiaper.
It's cold outside.
This is South Florida, we'renot used to that.
(37:56):
Yeah.
So, yeah, I enjoy telling youabout my day and I always ask
you what you've been up to.
Yeah.
But see, today you called meabout five times Did.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
I call you too much today.
Speaker 3 (38:14):
Yeah, we had the video once we did the video babe
, then I think, you called methree more times after that.
Yeah, yeah, you did so.
That's too many times, but yeah, that's kind of too many times.
Okay, all right, I'll try youknow, but the one time you
called me it was on me becauseyou were.
You went to get me some makeupwipes and you want to know how
many and what you know.
So I appreciate that, but allthe other three.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
You know that was a lot, oh man, okay, I remember
but.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
But all my teachers know they said eric called miss
patsy, miss eric called misspatsy, at one o'clock every day
yeah, well, yeah, I think, izzy.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
I think ferg's probably trying to thaw out
because he was at the BaltimoreRavens game.
He was out there and he boughttickets.
He didn't know how cold it was,so he maybe had to thaw out.
He might be frozen.
He might be frozen.
He might be frozen.
Yeah, he might be frozen.
Well, since nobody has calledin, we just want to thank you
(39:13):
for joining us tonight, where wehad some laughs and some good
times, and again, we want you tocelebrate your marriage.
If you're married, celebrate it.
Celebrate it every day, becausesome marriages are failing, but
thank God that your marriagemay not be all that.
You may see somebody else'smarriages, but you, you married,
(39:34):
and you, you used to celebrate.
Celebrate one another.
Celebrate one another.
And if you're not celebratingone another, we're not hugging
somebody, we're not kissing onyou, on the person, if you're
not just being spontaneous.
We want to encourage you to doit.
Speaker 3 (39:49):
Be spontaneous and if you're not married, take these
nuggets and put them aside forwhen you do get married.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
When you get married.
But you know, you can bespontaneous, just being single
too.
You can just get up and say youknow what?
I'm just going to take myselfout to eat.
Absolutely, I'm going to go andpay for my own massage.
I'm just talking about beingsingle.
If you, you're single.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
that's what I'm saying and your husband won't
give you a massage, he shouldpay yeah thou shalt pay.
Speaker 1 (40:17):
That's in deuteronomy that's what that's the, the
11th commandment yep, thou shaltpay for a massage, absolutely
all right.
Thou shalt pay for a massage,all right.
So I guess, guys, that'ssomething we got to do.
Thou shalt pay for a massagethis year.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
Or give it.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
Or give it.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
Because I did find this one guy.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Oh no, you ain't inviting that joker to come and
give you no massage At our house.
It doesn't matter if he's at,you'll be right there.
No, no, it doesn't matter ifhe's right there.
No, no, I ain't going to watchnobody.
Get all all it all up and giveyou a massage, I'll send you out
.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
That ain't sensual, it's a massage.
So you seen it from aperspective that that's not what
it is.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
No, no, I saw that video of him giving.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
That's the first thing your mind go through.
That is sexual, it's a massage.
It's a massage.
It's a mobile massage.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
Then why he got to be in his drawers.
Speaker 3 (41:16):
He is not in his drawers, he's in a massage
outfit.
We not going to talk about this, uh-uh.
No, look at what is it's makingyou.
All right, it's not your thing.
Speaker 1 (41:27):
Look, any guys on this chat right here.
Have y'all seen this videowhere this guy I mean he all
oiled up, muscular, all oiled up, and he bring the table to the
house or whatever like that, andhe?
Speaker 3 (41:41):
is getting a massage.
No oil on him at all.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
He is all oiled up.
He all oiled up, looking allshiny like grease, like he
coming out, like he a chicken orsomething like that I'm gonna
find the video and we gonna postit next time.
Alright, but that joke oftheirs is I mean, give it up.
No, mm-mm Lucille agree withthat.
(42:04):
She says look, I know that'sright, brother.
No, no, no, that's right.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
Whatever Lindsay said , at times it's not all it seems
to be so water your own grasslindsey, we were talking about
that some people like they.
They always think the grass isgreen on the other side.
But if you nurture and wateryour grass, your grass will be
just just as green.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
yeah, because even if you go to the other side, right
and and you don't water andnotch, it's going to be just as
dead as what you think was onthe other side.
There you go, right.
So you got to make sure thatyou do everything you can in
order for your marriage to live.
(42:44):
Now, some marriages, if youfall, if that person don't love,
it's just dead with a plant.
It's just, some plants are dead, ain't nothing you can do, but
some plants I ain't even looking, but some plants you got to
just repot it.
Yeah Right.
Put some new soil in it, putsome new soil in it, fertilize
it and everything.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
Get a bigger pot.
Get a bigger pot so it canexpand its territory.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Oh, expanded territory.
Oh man, you prophesied.
Sometimes you got to get abigger pot because you're so
small minded.
You got to think big.
You and your spouse got tothink big in order for your
marriage to grow.
Speaker 3 (43:22):
Absolutely.
And Melissa said mostimportantly, don't compare
yourself to what others have.
Because that is so true,because so many people and this
is people look at Eric and I andpeople be like, oh, I want what
they have.
They look like they're just soloving what Eric and I have gone
(43:44):
through.
Some people we have lost it.
Yeah, yeah, you don't want that.
You don't want that Too much isgiven.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
Much is required.
Speaker 3 (43:54):
And when people say well, you guys, it looks so easy
.
What it's not easy?
No, it's not.
So I agree with you on that,cousin, I truly do.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Oh, that was peaches.
You can find that guy.
No, you can't find him.
We'll talk.
Speaker 3 (44:16):
No massages at all.
Jordan, the massage outfit.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
That's it, jordan.
I'm telling you, it's notMassage outfit, that just draws.
Speaker 3 (44:25):
When I find the video , when I find the video, but,
like I said, send the link.
That's my daughter.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
Izzy says that man nasty, he be doing too much.
You don't see the video, and itis I know you don't see the
video Mm-hmm.
Uh-huh.
And Rob G said thank you, Rob.
Rob, I know what video you'retalking about, Pastor.
It's not happening, that'sright.
I'm telling you it's nothappening, it's not happening
right.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
If it's the brother.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
You say is the brother your thing?
Are you talking about?
Absolutely not.
That's right, that's it.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
Melissa says focus on what you have, because
everything that glitters ain'tgo and yuck.
Keep that grass water.
That girl is dropping nuggets.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
All right, that's it.
Yes, sir.
Well, we want to thank you allfor joining us tonight.
We love the conversation.
We thank you, thank you.
Thank you for joining and,again, you could have been doing
something else this Monday, butyou decided to join us.
I want you to make sure thatyou join us.
In two weeks We'll be doing aninterview.
We had one interview scheduledbut that person they're in
(45:29):
school and they're getting theirmaster's, so they can't do it.
So we're going to make surethat we do some interviews this
time.
We have an interview all theway scheduled in February
already from a couple inGreenville, but so we want to
make sure we have an interviewscheduled for the next time and
you can come and join us and askquestions or send questions,
but we want to thank you, thankyou so much, ask questions or
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(46:12):
You make this comment all right, but we want to thank you for
what I'm saying.
Oh, lucia said I'm calling yourmama right now.
Call all, yeah, that's it.
That's it, that's it, yeah.
So you got any parting words,babe?
You got any parting words thatyou want?
Speaker 3 (46:28):
to just go out, there be great love on one another.
Remember always try and findwhatever it was that you that
made you fall in love with thatperson.
Sometimes you get upset and yoube like like I was saying
something to one of myco-workers and I said eric is so
lucky, he's so cute.
I'm ready to call him and tellhim off.
(46:50):
I say, but you know what?
Speaker 1 (46:52):
What did I do I?
Speaker 3 (46:53):
can't remember.
Okay, probably not.
It's probably something thatyou didn't do, that you didn't
know you were supposed to do, orsomething I'm conjuring up in
my mind.
Like you know what he thinkhe's slick, and then I'd be like
he lucky, he's so cute, just socute, just so cute.
(47:15):
And so I just kind of remindyou just whatever it is, go out
there, be great guys, tell theworld about your beautiful wife
and how much you adore her.
Be a little careful, becausesometimes, when other women hear
how much you like, your wife.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
They try to hit on you, but then remind them that
she is the one, she's the one,so and I say my thing is
celebrate, celebrate your spouse, celebrate them, no matter what
, how little is and, like yousaid, it's gonna be the little
things.
Whatever the little things is,celebrate.
You know, write the notes, do asticky, get a yellow sticky and
(47:44):
just write I love you.
Put it in the car.
You know, do something.
You don't have to go and get adozen of roses and all that
stuff.
Like you say, it's the littlethings.
Buy their favorite candy, youknow, buy their favorite soda or
whatever it is.
But, you know, do something foryour spouse and celebrate,
please this year.
Celebrate one another, yep,celebrate one another, all right
(48:08):
.
Well, good night and happy 2025, everybody.
God bless you.
Speaker 3 (48:13):
Thank you so much for joining us.
So tonight we're talking about how to celebrate
your marriage all year For the2025,.
You need to celebrate yourmarriage all year.
And look at this Even if you'renot married, you need to
celebrate yourself all year,right, yeah, you need to
celebrate, because one thing Iunderstood this is that if you
(00:23):
don't celebrate yourself, youcan't rely on nobody else to
celebrate you.
You got to celebrate yourselfand if you're married, you
celebrate yourself and youcelebrate your spouse.
That's what you should do, allright?
And so you and your spouse, asyou go through 2025, you're
going to need to celebrate yourmarriage throughout the year.
(00:43):
Right?
Because, again, if nobodycelebrates your marriage, you
should celebrate your marriage,the ups and the downs.
You still should have some kindof celebrations.
And it says anniversaries arewonderful.
That's a time to reflect.
It seems like, with marriages,that the only time we want to
celebrate is on our anniversary.
(01:04):
That's a big big-do or whateverlike that.
That's the time we want tocelebrate our marriage, right?
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I guess you're kind of celebrating that we're still
together.
We weathered the storm ups anddowns and we're still together.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
We're still together downs, and we still together, we
still we still together.
So tonight we're going to givefive points on how to celebrate
your marriage all year long, allyear, all year long, not just
anniversary time, but all yearlong.
So are you ready?
I'm ready all right, all right.
Point number one just what Ineed you do, what I need you to
(01:45):
constantly reflect on youryear's best memory.
So, throughout the year, youneed to constantly reflect on
your year's best memory.
Matter of fact, you can lookback at 2024 and just bring your
year's best memories.
Reason why I think that isnumber one is that oftentimes we
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say it that you can do 99things right and you do one
thing wrong, and that one thingwrong will overshadow the 99
things that you did right, right.
And so what happens, I believe,in the marriage, is that you
have the ups and the downs andyou have a lot of ups, but when
that down happened, you just getdown, down, down and you forget
about all the ups that you hadRight.
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You forget all about that.
So you should.
Why are you taking pictures Likewe went to Charleston and I got
you jumping up?
Hey, baby, take me jumping up.
That's that's a sense ofhappiness.
That's the shows that hey, gotyou jumping up.
Hey, baby, take me jumping up.
That's a sense of happiness.
That's to show us that hey, wewere once happy.
Even if we get down, we canlook back and say we were once
happy.
We need to get back to it.
Remember, you said that we gotto get back to it, and what do
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we need to do to get back to it?
And so we need to write.
Whatever we need to do, we needto write it down.
But if we never look at thememories, if we never think
about the memories, if we neverhave pictures of the memories or
videos of the memories, thenI'm mine, hey, I'm look, I'm 58
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and some things I don't forget.
You constantly have to remindme of things, right, yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I'm a bit worried about that.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Oh Lord.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Because I don't need you going with your memory loss
so early in the game.
We're still in the game.
Yeah, yeah, pull it together.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
I'm pulling it together, but you forget, and so
that's why you need to havethose pictures and stuff like
that, and you need to constantlyreflect on that, constantly
remind yourself of the happytimes that you and your spouse
has had.
What do you think?
You think so, I agree.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I agree.
I think, again, you're going tohave some rough patches, you're
going to have some bad days.
But you know, if you don't havebad days, how are you going to
know that the good days are gooddays?
You got to go through somethingto get to something and you
remind yourself that this iswhere I fell in love, this is
where we became not just husbandand wife but best friends and
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homies.
How to go back to those littlethings and just kind of remind
yourself this is why I love thisperson.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Right right, right right.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
I didn't love him for everything to be 100 all the
time.
I loved him for the ups and thedowns and everything that goes
around and around to build ourfoundation and our relationship
Right.
So it's so important to go backand find it so important to go
back and find it.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, yeah, you gotta , you gotta find it.
No, because marriages wemarriage in real life, right
marriages you're gonna have somedowns you're gonna have where
your spouse is not feeling well,right and and you have to step
up and do more.
You may have to cook more.
You may have to clean more.
You may have to do things foryour spouse.
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You may have those times thatyou may happen and it may go
vice versa.
That's why.
That's why you, like you got tobe careful on how you treat
people and you got to be carefulon how you treat your spouse.
Right, you never know when youmight need it.
Whenever you might need,whenever you might, you might be
in that position where you needthem to to clean you and wipe
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you and and do all of these kindof stuff.
It it may happen.
So you got to be.
What was that movie with tylerperry where he he went in and he
chopped up half of the of theuh, diary of a mad black, is it
that?
that Is that right, how hetreated his wife, treated his
wife and then when.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
He got shot in court.
He needed her, he needed her.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
So you never know what might happen.
You may be all healthy one day.
Then, all of a sudden,something happened and you need
your spouse in order to help you.
So you got to make sure you heylook, and again you took a vow
to be in this marriage forbetter or for worse, or for
sickness and in health Right,and so you got to live up to
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those vows.
You got to do that Right.
Thanks, pastor Bar.
You go back to listen to PastorBar.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Podcast.
We had her on and you'll findthat out All right.
So you got to constantlyreflect on your year's best
moments.
Take pictures.
Whenever you're out andenjoying one another, take
pictures.
Hey, let me take a selfie.
That's because there's going tobe some times where you
couldn't go out or just reflecton some good times, right?
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Absolutely All right.
What's number two?
What's number two?
Number two says celebratespontaneously.
Whoa, I love a spontaneous.
Call me at work.
Hey, baby, you got some planstonight.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I ain'tgot no plans tonight.
I live with you.
What you talking about?
I'm taking you out on a date.
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Come on.
Relax, get yourself together.
I'm taking you.
I love spontaneous dates.
I love spontaneous moments Like, hey, you know what, let's just
ride down and walk on theboulevard on Hollywood Beach,
let's just do something.
Let's create some memories,some marriage memories.
I know we say we creatememories with the family in
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general, with everybody.
I'm still upset with you aboutthat.
You know we create memories witheverybody, the entire family
but let's create some memoriesfor just you and I.
Right, you know so when we dothose things, that's spontaneous
.
I simply love those.
Okay, do we have a few samples?
Surprise your spouse withbreakfast in bed on a random
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weekday.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Oh man, that was good .
I love that baby.
That was good.
Hey, I did this Sunday.
I did bring you some coffee andwalk you up gently and I stood
there.
I didn't have my wife be thereon, or nothing like that.
What did you get ready to?
Speaker 3 (08:03):
say no, you did.
You brought me coffee, but it'dbe nice, it'd be some pancakes,
some sausage or something withit.
And I'm not saying that I'mbeing bougie or whatever, but
when I bring you breakfast inbed, bro, I bring you breakfast
in bed.
I wake you up so you can eatit's all nice and spread out for
you, and then I'll be like Icome back and I get in.
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I'll be like go back to sleep.
You got a full belly Now.
Ain't no sense in you gettingup.
Go ahead and rest.
I do that for you, but we ain'tgoing to talk about that.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
I give you a shout out for hooking me up for
breakfast in bed.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
I do my part.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
I do my part.
I do my part, all right, okay.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
But I do appreciate the coffee because you could
have just woke me up.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
It's time to get up and go to church.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Notes, like write a little sticky note on the
refrigerator have a great day.
I love you because you'recoming in when I'm leaving.
It's the little things, guysleaving.
So just, it's a little thing,it's the little things, guys.
It's, trust me, it's the littlethings and we don't need all of
the big stuff, we don't needall the material things, we just
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need that little bitty thing.
That'd be like oh, he thoughtabout me yeah yeah, oh,
something just so simple.
And then and then you, you, youalready got us, but when you do
those little bitty things, itmakes us want to do more for you
, it makes us want to Submit Ihate to say it.
(09:35):
I mean, I don't hate to say it,but submit is not a bad word
but it makes us want to complymore with the household or the
relationship.
It's a little things.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Okay, okay.
And we don't need to do it juston special occasions.
Anytime, we need to do itanytime.
Write that text, just send anemoji of love, and so you're
celebrating yourself yourmarriage constantly, and you're
doing it spontaneously.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
I know, so let me just share this with you.
I'm in school now.
I'm trying to get mycredentials straightened out,
and when you come in and you seeme working and you just rub my
shoulders, I'd be like, oh Imust have gone his mind.
He's struggling.
So I appreciate that, becauseit's just those small gestures
that make a real difference?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
you would not believe Also, you plan a mini vacation.
I think, too, is that when wewent to Charleston yes, we went
to see your mom, but we said youknow what, let's just go, let's
just go.
We went to Ridgeville with noreception, but we went out to
Charleston and just said let'sjust go and take a couple of
days and have the mini vacation,austin, and just say, let's
just go and take a couple ofdays and have the mini vacation.
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Even when we went to Lakelandand we stayed there we didn't go
to every service, you know whatI mean we said we're going to
spend some time together, that'sjust a little mini vacation,
one.
It could be one day orsomething like that.
But you need to celebrate and doit spontaneously that.
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But you need to celebrate, Imean, and do it spontaneously.
And, and I think again, withguys, we we got to learn how to
be spontaneous.
We got to, we got to learn howto just say, hey, you know what,
let's go for a ride or let's go, let's do this or let's do that
.
We have to learn that.
I could say my dad was neverlike that and people, men I
don't know a lot of men in mylife that's like that.
So I have to.
It's a learned behavior.
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If my wife likes that, I just Igot to get out of my comfort
zone and be spontaneous, right,just, you know that's what I do.
I see you smiling baby.
Hey, before we go into, fatherIzzy is here.
Izzy, hey, hey girl, how youdoing, how you doing.
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Happy New Year, happy New Yearto you.
And we see the Little Richardsare on.
He says Amai says hi.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
Hey, muffin hey.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Muffin.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Hey girl, All right.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
And so Lindsey says consistent intentionality is
good and easy.
I guess she would put that 100submit thing.
I guess when we do yeah, she isspoiled already, lucille, when
we do those things it makes yousay, okay, yeah, I'll follow you
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.
Like you said, I'll follow youas long as you follow in Christ
and you're doing right andyou're okay.
Yeah, I'll follow you.
Like you say, I'll follow youas long as you follow in christ
and you're doing right andyou're leading.
I'll follow you, just by doingthe little things yeah, the
little things.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
And communication, communication.
I can't really say that enough.
I go back to that all the time.
Things don't always go right,but don't shut down on us,
because when you shut down on us, we automatically think you
don't care.
Okay, okay, okay, you don'tshut down on us, because when
you shut down on us, weautomatically think you don't
care.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
He don't care about me because he shut down.
It goes two ways.
If you shut down, you give methat energy, I'm giving you back
the same energy, right?
Right, you get nothing doneyeah.
He says for better, for worse.
Mm-hmm.
For richer, for poor.
Mm-hmm.
Seek me sin and or sickness andin health.
So in order to keep that thingin tune, you got to plan those
little sneak aways and don'ttell nobody where you're at.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Oh, that's it.
You can't tell nobody whereyou're going.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Let's go, let's go you know I'm with Eric being a
pastor and being busy andrunning the businesses while I'm
at work and working full time,like he be exhausted.
But I'd be like yo dude, we gotto go do something because I
need to regroup, I need thespace, I need to boost our
moment.
I'll drag him oh, no, we going.
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But he actually said, hey, Iwant to go somewhere cold for
Christmas, let's go see my mom.
And then we was like, okay, sowe can see my mom these days,
and then we'll shoot down theCharleston, just the two of us.
And mom was like, oh, that's sosweet.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
And she went.
My husband, never take me,you're going to leave Mom and
Big Papa alone.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, so I mean, in order to make things, happen
we've got to be spontaneous,we've got to communicate, we've
got to know when enough isenough, when it's time to drop
everything and go.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Okay, all right, all right.
Number three is establishunique traditions.
Establish unique traditions.
So creating traditions that aremeaningful to your relationship
f intimacy and gives you bothsomething to look forward to.
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These traditions can reflectyour shared history and
interests.
So, whatever the tradition is,it's unique to you and your
spouse, right?
It's not somebody else.
So, for instance, if we'regoing to movies on christmas,
that's unique to us.
Not a lot of people do that andmaybe some people do that, but
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that's something that we do.
We're gonna find a movie we'regonna.
We're gonna do maybe it's aride every every first and third
sunday something that we do.
That is unique to us.
Maybe you go fishing, or maybewe're not doing that.
All right, Maybe we need I knowwe need to get back on those
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four wheelers.
I know we love that.
I'll do that.
Yeah, that's what you know whatit is.
So some of the examples are youcould celebrate your first date
anniversary.
Well, what was our first date?
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Well, I don't know.
The first time you broke upwhen we broke my heart, oh Jesus
.
I don't remember that, oh Lord.
But the second one, I think itwas really inexpensive we went
for a walk on the beach.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
Walk on the beach, all right, okay.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
All right, that first one I don't remember, you don't
remember.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
You don't remember, all right, okay.
So you can celebrate your firstdate anniversary by each year
by recreating that date orvisiting the same location.
So, however, you want to dothat.
Another one is you can pick aunique holiday, all right.
So this example here that wecame up with is that the day you
moved into your home togetherto celebrate with a special
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dinner activity Okay, all right.
So February 18th, we could dothat.
That was the day that we movedin, baby, and got our home
together with a special dinner.
That's something unique to us.
It's not unique to nobody else,but that's us, right, okay, all
right.
The next one is create a movieor game night tradition where
you explore genres and games youboth love.
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So maybe you could sit thereand have your own karaoke.
Come on, now, I'll sing to you,baby.
You'll sing to me.
I'll sing to you, sing, baby.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Sing, you know I'll sing to you.
I want you to sing, I want tobe your lover.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
I want to be your lover.
I want to be your lover.
Yeah, yeah, I like that one.
What would you want?
Speaker 3 (16:54):
me to sing to you, baby, on our karaoke.
Oh, I can't think of nothingright off the top of my head.
Or you can sing Do Me Baby, I'mnot doing you, I don't know, we
got a little karaoke machinetoo.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Yeah yeah, so yeah, but I'm just saying but that's
what we're saying is beingspontaneous and something that's
unique to you all on a certaindate, whatever it is and again
we're talking about how to havethat Just don't celebrate your
anniversary, because that's whatcouples do they celebrate that
one day and then all the rest ofthe days.
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They're not being spontaneous,they're not having a unique
tradition, they're not doinganything.
They just take that one yearand that one day out of the year
and they make it big.
But no, you got to do thisthroughout the year, throughout
the year, throughout the year.
All right, all right, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
What's next one then?
Okay, let's look at some of thecomments.
Look, it's Peaches.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Peaches, hey, peach.
Hey, Peaches Love you.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
Y'all say hey to my baby, my baby on the left.
Yeah, y'all say the one thatmade me a mama, so I want to go
back to what we were talkingabout?
Oh, you got some shout outs Foryour birthday.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Oh hey, thank you for all the shout outs.
I thank you for all thepersonal messages and the calls
and the texts.
I really, really appreciatethat.
All right, what are you goingback to?
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Oh, I was going to go back to where Ismael said.
She said about 100% withsubmission.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
She said something else and Ican't find it, but anyway, so
we'll move on.
Yeah, yeah.
Incorporate daily celebration.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
Daily celebration.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Daily celebrations Daily.
I saw this video and I don'tknow if you guys might want to
do it, but I haven't done itwith Eric yet but I plan to.
It's a new year, new thingwhere this husband and wife they
every day for five minutes.
They sit like he would sit withhis legs straight and she would
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scrowl on him and they would bein the middle of the bed and
that I think it was five, fiveto ten minutes and he had five
minutes to say whatever hewanted to say to her at that
moment she had five minutes tosay whatever it could have been
about the day if the day wasgood, the day was bad I missed
you today.
I just felt like I wanted to beclose to you today, whatever.
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And I thought, five minutes tosay whatever it could have been
about the day if the day wasgood, if the day was bad, I
missed you today.
I just felt like I wanted to beclose to you today, whatever,
and I thought, wow, that'sinteresting.
Now you don't have to do thatin the middle of bed, you can
sit across from in the livingroom and you can still do it,
but just to have that time whereit's like and and you're
looking face to face each other.
You're not looking to the side,you're looking right in each
other's face, not on the phone.
Not on the phone, not looking,and no distraction, no music, no
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TV blast and nothing.
And you just sit there and youlook at each other and you tell
them whatever happened today andgive them the opportunity to
respond.
I thought that was sointeresting because sometimes we
get so caught up in theday-to-day work doing this,
doing that, just so busy that wedon't get the opportunity to
stop and really say like, howwas your day?
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And really listen how that daywent.
How that day went.
Yeah, yeah, yeah did you hearwhat I said?
Yeah, you said something aboutwhat happened and now I feel
like you don't even listen, youdon't even care, right, right,
listen.
So celebrating daily I think Ithought that would be a great,
great idea, just sharing thingswith them.
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Tell your lady she cute todayand she smelled good today, yeah
, yeah all that tell your mansay compliment.
Compliments play a big rolebecause as women we want to know
that you guys are stillattracted to us okay, and I'm
pretty sure y'all want to knowif we still attracted to y'all,
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of course.
So compliments, that can be adaily thing and you could be out
the door.
Hey, babe, you're looking goodgirl have a good day, dude,
you're looking good.
Right.
Have a great day.
Little bitty things and, likeI've been saying, for the most
part it's the small things thatmatter, okay, so in this it says
even small, consistent gesturescan make a big difference in a
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marriage Note it.
Celebrating daily doesn'trequire grand gestures.
It's about showing appreciationand staying connected, like I
said.
So some of the examples thatthey have is this Each day, end
each day by sharing one thingthat you appreciated about your
partner.
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Schedule 10 minutes everyevening to chat about your day
without distractions.
Celebrate small victoriestogether, such as finishing a
tough project.
When I finish school, I want towant your support.
All right, yeah, passing schoolor overwhelming a challenge by
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treating yourself to ice creamor a massage or a foot massage
yeah yeah, yeah, we try to dothat.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we try to do that.
Small victories together, notjust by like if your spouse has
completed something, celebrateit.
Speaker 3 (22:11):
Celebrate it.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
That's one thing.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
I've got Get a new promotion.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Yeah, celebrate it.
Get a little raise, celebrateit.
And I think the thing is thatyou don't have to celebrate a
raise or promotion by going andspending big time money.
You know what I'm saying.
You can celebrate a raise andpromotion just by saying you
know what?
I am so proud of you.
That's celebration, I think,too, is that, as husbands, I
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think we need to tell, tell ourwives and I think men need to
hear it too just to say that I'mproud of you, I'm proud of you
for doing this, I'm proud of youfor doing it.
I thank you for doing that,showing some gratitude to the
person.
A lot of times we we just say,because we married, especially
if you've been married overthree years, four years you
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think that that person supposedto do this, they suppose.
But people love gratitude.
Thank you for doing this, thankyou for doing that.
That's part of celebratingsomebody, just saying thank you,
right.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Okay, so Virtual Melody, he say, because they try
to not go a date withouthugging or kissing.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
That's it.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
When's the last time you kissed me?
Speaker 1 (23:35):
What do you mean?
When's the last time I kissedyou?
Didn't you kiss me.
Today I kissed you.
Alright, come on over here,baby.
No, no, no, come on.
That's not a kiss.
Speaker 3 (23:48):
I'm talking about a kiss, all right that's a little
pic, that's a little pic oh,y'all make someone want to get
married.
But yeah, and she also saidappreciation counts and
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gratitude do count, because ifyou don't show that you
appreciate what I'm doing, I'mgoing to stop doing it.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Right.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
I'm going to stop doing it.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, all right, mm hmm, yeah,
yep, yep, yep, all right.
So the the last one that we gotall right, the last one we got
is that focus on togethernessover formality.
Focus on togetherness overformality is again you, my wife,
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you, you're my wife and you'resupposed to do this.
You, my husband, and you'resupposed to do this.
That's formality.
I do it because I love you withall my heart.
I do it, and when we do thingstogether, it's good, such as
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they gave an example here.
But this is something that wetry to tell couples cook
together, cook together.
So if you could sit down andyou can get some kind of unique
recipe from TikTok or Facebookor wherever, that you can get a
unique recipe that you don'teven know anything about, that
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way you can sit down, you cansay hey, this is what we need
from the grocery store.
Can you imagine you got arecipe and you say okay, patsy,
we're going to cook thistogether.
All right, cool, let's sit down, let's do the rest.
Let's do that, and I drag youto the grocery store, because I
know you hate the grocery store,where you get breakout in hives
right, I'm not the only I dragyou to and, but we're shopping
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for the ingredients right right,we shopping for the ingredients
, we we leave there, we comehome, you cook this.
Yeah, I cook that, like you,you're better in, like the gravy
, I like that.
I say, hey, I need that.
I say I need you, come on, Ineed to cook the gravy.
But there's some things and wecook together.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
Yeah, we set the table together and we eat
together and, most importantly,while we're doing it, we're
talking so yeah, and I'm gladthat's something that we tell
the couples to do too, becauseit gets serious in the kitchen.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah, you can have some fun in the kitchen,
especially if you have someflour or something like that.
Some wine yeah, get some wine,don't burn stuff.
Speaker 3 (26:32):
All right, of course it's a form of intimacy.
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Yeah, it's a form of intimacy.
You can get serious in thatkitchen.
You have to turn off the heatand say, look, let me turn the
heat up, let me turn this heatdown.
And whatever you do in yourkitchen, that's what you do in
your kitchen.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
You know what you need prayer.
You need prayer, father God.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
I got to do the Catholic thing yeah but you know
what?
Speaker 3 (26:57):
You can take a walk together If you're on your
health kick.
Oh, let me just say hello Fresh.
Have some really good recipes.
Speaker 1 (27:03):
Yes, sir.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Really good recipes and you know like, go for a walk
together if you're on yourhealth journey or even if you
just want to get out Now I knowright now Melissa and Ty can't
be out there walking in snow Insnow.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Why you can't walk?
Speaker 3 (27:19):
in the snow, I wouldn't walk in the snow.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I don't understand why you can't walk in the snow.
Speaker 3 (27:23):
I wouldn't walk in the snow.
I don't understand why youcan't walk in the snow.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
You can if you choose to, but I don't know, it's just
a lot to go along with thatWell.
Speaker 3 (27:32):
I don't think we can walk in the ice, but walking in
the snow is pretty good.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
Remember that time I was pussing at you and walking
outside in the snow Fail, uh-huh, that's what you get.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
We don of that.
All right.
Yeah, it's like take a walk.
Talk about your goals that youplan for last at 2024, what
you're gonna do 2025.
Just get out there, get somevitamin d yeah, even or not
being outside does take a lot ofstress away.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it does goout there and get out there, get
out there and walk a little bityeah, yeah, or.
Or even another thing too go fora drive, let the windows down.
(28:05):
Don't use the air conditioningif it's not hot, I mean if it's
not freezing cold.
Go out there, because sometimesEric and I we'll hop in, sadie,
and put the roof back and letthe windows down and ride along
the coast, and we have somealmost interesting moments when
we do that.
Yeah.
It's just the two of us, so weare building memories by just
(28:26):
doing that Just by doing that.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Lindsay says just make sure the countertops
counter wipe afterwards.
Lord have mercy.
Izzy says save all that forlater.
When I give you that kiss saidsave all that for later.
When I gave you that kiss, saveall that for later.
I'm saving a little bit forlater, ty and Melissa.
(28:54):
Most of the snow melted inAtlanta so we can walk now.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Good, I want y'all to be safe.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Yeah, we want you to be safe.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
I can't wait to see them in April.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
Yeah, yeah, we just want to celebrate marriages safe
.
Yeah, we want you to be safe,but I can't wait to see them in
april.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's, it's.
We just want to celebratemarriages.
I, I, I say as a podcast I wantto celebrate marriages all year
and I just want to say that notall marriages make it another
year.
So if you do make it anotheryear, you celebrate it, but
every day you should celebrateit.
But every day you shouldcelebrate, like we said, every
(29:24):
day, because not all marriagesmake it.
Just that next day.
Right, you know how we say youget up because God's mercies are
renewed every morning.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Right.
Your marriage does don't haveto survive overnight.
It doesn't have to have tosurvive overnight.
It doesn't have to.
But because God allows it andbecause you allow it together to
survive another night, you canget up and say you know what,
thank you, lord and thank youbabe, thank you for sticking
(29:55):
with me, because yesterday Iknow it was tough, I know it was
tough, but thank you, and maybeyesterday wasn't tough, but you
can still say thank you,because there are many I tell
guys all the time there are manyladies that just leave.
They don't want to, they don'twant to deal with it, they don't
want to, they don't want todeal with you trying to learn
(30:18):
how to be a great husband or agreat man.
They don't want to deal andthey just leave.
They say no, I don't want to dothat.
And so they just walk out.
Right, and so you should justcelebrate your wife, say thank
you for sticking with me.
Thank you for sticking with me.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
And we want something that's worth fighting for.
And if you're not worthfighting for, well, don't read
those.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
I see what Izzy said.
That's why I don't eat at y'allpeople's houses Y'all nasty,
you know.
That's why you got to make sureyou have a clean house.
Speaker 3 (31:00):
I'm calling her later .
I am.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
When you walk into the house and you smell bleach
and all that stuff.
Speaker 3 (31:06):
You know something went down.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
You know something went down Pneumonia Fabulosa.
You smell all that stuff.
You say, oh yeah, somethingwent down in here last night.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
You know what?
Izzy can't talk.
She the one who reproduces.
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
So celebrating marriages all 2025 and I just
want to give a shout out to allthe marriages, all the married
people that's online tonight Iwant to say we love you all and
we celebrate you all.
We do.
Relationships are hard, yeah,relationships are hard when you
stand to fight.
Speaker 3 (31:48):
remember I said, I think in a few seasons ago, if
we in the boxing ring, I need tobe able to tag you in when I
can't do it anymore and you needto be able to tag me in when
you can't.
And it goes the same way whenthe enemy is on your back and
you can't get a breakthrough.
You got to tag me in so I canget on my knees and start
(32:08):
praying too yeah we need eachother to survive and we gonna,
if we gonna, if we gonna I'm notreading anymore if we gonna
make it in this relationship, wegot to do it together.
We got to be unified.
Yeah, gotta be unified so we gotto be able to reflect and
express the love that we havefor one another, even in the bad
times.
(32:28):
I'm telling you, if you don'tgo through bad stuff, how do you
know the good things are goodand how do you know how to fight
the next bad thing that'scoming up?
Because it's going to come?
You just got to know how tohandle it.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
You got to know how to handle it.
You got to know how to handleit.
Stay in the ring, stay in thefight.
Yep, stay in the fight, becauseI'm telling you it's worth it.
If you stay in the fight.
It is, it's worth it.
Speaker 3 (32:53):
Especially if you know what it was and you reflect
back to it and you continue tofight for it.
Yep, but we got to do ittogether.
I can't, I can't, fight bymyself, right, we?
If we want to maintain thisrelationship, this marriage, we
got to be honest, we got to becommunicative, we got to share,
yeah, and we got to be share ourfeelings.
(33:15):
When you know, like I'm not madat you for not bringing me this
in bed.
I'm really not mad about that,because you've done so many
other things.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
I just kind of wanted to bring it to your attention,
because that's what this paperthat you made me study said.
Speaker 3 (33:29):
I was like oh he ain't bring me no bread.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Oh man, I guess I'm sorry that I don't clean or cook
in my wife beater.
Speaker 3 (33:39):
Box of wreaths in a wife beater, oh Jesus, with a
towel over your shoulder and anapron on.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
That's how you need to cook.
Yeah, I studied you best.
He just said my goodness, oh,my goodness.
Oh man.
Well, hey, if you want to callin and just talk to us a little
bit, you can dial in754-222-2219.
(34:13):
754-222-2219.
You can dial in and we'll beglad to host you a little bit
before we get ready to get outof here.
We had some fun tonight.
Yep, we had some fun tonight.
Yeah, we had some fun tonight,so we love it's going to put us
(34:35):
in time out.
You just come get your parents.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Don't call me, I'm saying, but you know what I tell
you what eric and I have havesuch a good marriage.
I, I, I won't say it's notperfect but, it's good, because
we, we vibe off of each other.
We get mad at each other.
I well, I get mad at him.
He shut down and don't talk tome.
(35:03):
I get in the caddy roll thewindows down and I hit it.
I'm like, okay, I need somespace, he needs some space.
But for the most part we we tryto feed off each other's energy
and, like I said, if you givingme a bad energy, I'm giving it
right back to you, right, right.
(35:24):
Because if you come up and say,weigh my dinner, I'm going to
be like you ain't stop to get it.
It's not about to go down, heyweigh my vittles.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
You know what, when I walk in the door, I want to
have my vittles.
Speaker 3 (35:41):
Be like hmm.
Okay.
I think how we respond to eachother, our tone of voice and our
body language, makes a bigdifference, as well as how we
receive, how you coming off yeahhey, we want to make sure you
like and share.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
Make sure you like we forgot to say this throughout
there make sure you like, pleaselike this video, share it with
somebody that you know that tohelp them.
And then, if you want to sowinto our marriage ministry, you
can.
You can do it by Super Chat.
You can go hit right there, hitthe Super Chat and you can give
that way, or however you wantto just do it, we appreciate it.
(36:18):
Again, we're trying to get aproducer and somebody else, so
we're trying to grow in ourmarriage podcast in 2025.
Yeah, we're growing.
Yeah, yeah yeah yeah.
So we're trying to grow a littlebit more and so, however you
want to support, you can and wewill appreciate it.
It's all tax deductiblewhatever you give, so we would
(36:40):
love to that.
So if you want to call in again754-222-2219,.
You can call in and we can talkabout some how you're going to
celebrate this year.
What are, what are some thingsthat you're thinking about doing
that throughout the year, notjust that one day of anniversary
, but daily.
I love what you say, that dailyI love.
You know, when you come homeand and I'm sitting there
(37:02):
watching TV or doing whatever,and you say and I say, how's
your day?
You just start, you know,spilling the tea.
When I say, when I say tea, I'mjust saying you start spilling.
Just what's going on in you,how was your day?
And I just love that You'll saywell, I had a good day, or I had
(37:23):
a bad day, or something likethat.
Or if you had a good day, yousay how it was good.
You just won't say I had a goodday.
You say how it was good.
If you say I had a bad day, youexplain to me how it was good.
You just won't say I had a goodday you say how it was good.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
If you say I had a bad day.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
you explain to me how it was bad these babies crazy.
Speaker 3 (37:35):
Yeah, you say the baby's crazy, or the parents.
These parents are crazy, let metell you.
They bring those kids in nowarm clothes and I'll be all
wrapped like it's snowingoutside.
My hands will freeze that I belike.
Oh my God, I can't believe thisbaby don't have on no t-shirt.
This baby got on a onesie and adiaper.
It's cold outside.
This is South Florida, we'renot used to that.
(37:56):
Yeah.
So, yeah, I enjoy telling youabout my day and I always ask
you what you've been up to.
Yeah.
But see, today you called meabout five times Did.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
I call you too much today.
Speaker 3 (38:14):
Yeah, we had the video once we did the video babe
, then I think, you called methree more times after that.
Yeah, yeah, you did so.
That's too many times, but yeah, that's kind of too many times.
Okay, all right, I'll try youknow, but the one time you
called me it was on me becauseyou were.
You went to get me some makeupwipes and you want to know how
many and what you know.
So I appreciate that, but allthe other three.
Speaker 1 (38:32):
You know that was a lot, oh man, okay, I remember
but.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
But all my teachers know they said eric called miss
patsy, miss eric called misspatsy, at one o'clock every day
yeah, well, yeah, I think, izzy.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
I think ferg's probably trying to thaw out
because he was at the BaltimoreRavens game.
He was out there and he boughttickets.
He didn't know how cold it was,so he maybe had to thaw out.
He might be frozen.
He might be frozen.
He might be frozen.
Yeah, he might be frozen.
Well, since nobody has calledin, we just want to thank you
(39:13):
for joining us tonight, where wehad some laughs and some good
times, and again, we want you tocelebrate your marriage.
If you're married, celebrate it.
Celebrate it every day, becausesome marriages are failing, but
thank God that your marriagemay not be all that.
You may see somebody else'smarriages, but you, you married,
(39:34):
and you, you used to celebrate.
Celebrate one another.
Celebrate one another.
And if you're not celebratingone another, we're not hugging
somebody, we're not kissing onyou, on the person, if you're
not just being spontaneous.
We want to encourage you to doit.
Speaker 3 (39:49):
Be spontaneous and if you're not married, take these
nuggets and put them aside forwhen you do get married.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
When you get married.
But you know, you can bespontaneous, just being single
too.
You can just get up and say youknow what?
I'm just going to take myselfout to eat.
Absolutely, I'm going to go andpay for my own massage.
I'm just talking about beingsingle.
If you, you're single.
Speaker 3 (40:12):
that's what I'm saying and your husband won't
give you a massage, he shouldpay yeah thou shalt pay.
Speaker 1 (40:17):
That's in deuteronomy that's what that's the, the
11th commandment yep, thou shaltpay for a massage, absolutely
all right.
Thou shalt pay for a massage,all right.
So I guess, guys, that'ssomething we got to do.
Thou shalt pay for a massagethis year.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
Or give it.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
Or give it.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
Because I did find this one guy.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Oh no, you ain't inviting that joker to come and
give you no massage At our house.
It doesn't matter if he's at,you'll be right there.
No, no, it doesn't matter ifhe's right there.
No, no, I ain't going to watchnobody.
Get all all it all up and giveyou a massage, I'll send you out
.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
That ain't sensual, it's a massage.
So you seen it from aperspective that that's not what
it is.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
No, no, I saw that video of him giving.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
That's the first thing your mind go through.
That is sexual, it's a massage.
It's a massage.
It's a mobile massage.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
Then why he got to be in his drawers.
Speaker 3 (41:16):
He is not in his drawers, he's in a massage
outfit.
We not going to talk about this, uh-uh.
No, look at what is it's makingyou.
All right, it's not your thing.
Speaker 1 (41:27):
Look, any guys on this chat right here.
Have y'all seen this videowhere this guy I mean he all
oiled up, muscular, all oiled up, and he bring the table to the
house or whatever like that, andhe?
Speaker 3 (41:41):
is getting a massage.
No oil on him at all.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
He is all oiled up.
He all oiled up, looking allshiny like grease, like he
coming out, like he a chicken orsomething like that I'm gonna
find the video and we gonna postit next time.
Alright, but that joke oftheirs is I mean, give it up.
No, mm-mm Lucille agree withthat.
(42:04):
She says look, I know that'sright, brother.
No, no, no, that's right.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
Whatever Lindsay said , at times it's not all it seems
to be so water your own grasslindsey, we were talking about
that some people like they.
They always think the grass isgreen on the other side.
But if you nurture and wateryour grass, your grass will be
just just as green.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
yeah, because even if you go to the other side, right
and and you don't water andnotch, it's going to be just as
dead as what you think was onthe other side.
There you go, right.
So you got to make sure thatyou do everything you can in
order for your marriage to live.
(42:44):
Now, some marriages, if youfall, if that person don't love,
it's just dead with a plant.
It's just, some plants are dead, ain't nothing you can do, but
some plants I ain't even looking, but some plants you got to
just repot it.
Yeah Right.
Put some new soil in it, putsome new soil in it, fertilize
it and everything.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
Get a bigger pot.
Get a bigger pot so it canexpand its territory.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Oh, expanded territory.
Oh man, you prophesied.
Sometimes you got to get abigger pot because you're so
small minded.
You got to think big.
You and your spouse got tothink big in order for your
marriage to grow.
Speaker 3 (43:22):
Absolutely.
And Melissa said mostimportantly, don't compare
yourself to what others have.
Because that is so true,because so many people and this
is people look at Eric and I andpeople be like, oh, I want what
they have.
They look like they're just soloving what Eric and I have gone
(43:44):
through.
Some people we have lost it.
Yeah, yeah, you don't want that.
You don't want that Too much isgiven.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
Much is required.
Speaker 3 (43:54):
And when people say well, you guys, it looks so easy
.
What it's not easy?
No, it's not.
So I agree with you on that,cousin, I truly do.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
Oh, that was peaches.
You can find that guy.
No, you can't find him.
We'll talk.
Speaker 3 (44:16):
No massages at all.
Jordan, the massage outfit.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
That's it, jordan.
I'm telling you, it's notMassage outfit, that just draws.
Speaker 3 (44:25):
When I find the video , when I find the video, but,
like I said, send the link.
That's my daughter.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
Izzy says that man nasty, he be doing too much.
You don't see the video, and itis I know you don't see the
video Mm-hmm.
Uh-huh.
And Rob G said thank you, Rob.
Rob, I know what video you'retalking about, Pastor.
It's not happening, that'sright.
I'm telling you it's nothappening, it's not happening
right.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
If it's the brother.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
You say is the brother your thing?
Are you talking about?
Absolutely not.
That's right, that's it.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
Melissa says focus on what you have, because
everything that glitters ain'tgo and yuck.
Keep that grass water.
That girl is dropping nuggets.
Speaker 1 (45:07):
All right, that's it.
Yes, sir.
Well, we want to thank you allfor joining us tonight.
We love the conversation.
We thank you, thank you.
Thank you for joining and,again, you could have been doing
something else this Monday, butyou decided to join us.
I want you to make sure thatyou join us.
In two weeks We'll be doing aninterview.
We had one interview scheduledbut that person they're in
(45:29):
school and they're getting theirmaster's, so they can't do it.
So we're going to make surethat we do some interviews this
time.
We have an interview all theway scheduled in February
already from a couple inGreenville, but so we want to
make sure we have an interviewscheduled for the next time and
you can come and join us and askquestions or send questions,
but we want to thank you, thankyou so much, ask questions or
(45:52):
send questions, but we're goingto thank you.
Thank you so much for joiningand we know that you you can
listen to us on apple podcast,spotify music, all that kind of
stuff, and when you do that,please just leave us a little
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come back and listen to it.
(46:12):
You make this comment all right, but we want to thank you for
what I'm saying.
Oh, lucia said I'm calling yourmama right now.
Call all, yeah, that's it.
That's it, that's it, yeah.
So you got any parting words,babe?
You got any parting words thatyou want?
Speaker 3 (46:28):
to just go out, there be great love on one another.
Remember always try and findwhatever it was that you that
made you fall in love with thatperson.
Sometimes you get upset and yoube like like I was saying
something to one of myco-workers and I said eric is so
lucky, he's so cute.
I'm ready to call him and tellhim off.
(46:50):
I say, but you know what?
Speaker 1 (46:52):
What did I do I?
Speaker 3 (46:53):
can't remember.
Okay, probably not.
It's probably something thatyou didn't do, that you didn't
know you were supposed to do, orsomething I'm conjuring up in
my mind.
Like you know what he thinkhe's slick, and then I'd be like
he lucky, he's so cute, just socute, just so cute.
(47:15):
And so I just kind of remindyou just whatever it is, go out
there, be great guys, tell theworld about your beautiful wife
and how much you adore her.
Be a little careful, becausesometimes, when other women hear
how much you like, your wife.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
They try to hit on you, but then remind them that
she is the one, she's the one,so and I say my thing is
celebrate, celebrate your spouse, celebrate them, no matter what
, how little is and, like yousaid, it's gonna be the little
things.
Whatever the little things is,celebrate.
You know, write the notes, do asticky, get a yellow sticky and
(47:44):
just write I love you.
Put it in the car.
You know, do something.
You don't have to go and get adozen of roses and all that
stuff.
Like you say, it's the littlethings.
Buy their favorite candy, youknow, buy their favorite soda or
whatever it is.
But, you know, do something foryour spouse and celebrate,
please this year.
Celebrate one another, yep,celebrate one another, all right
(48:08):
.
Well, good night and happy 2025, everybody.
God bless you.
Speaker 3 (48:13):
Thank you so much for joining us.
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