August 22, 2025 • 50 mins
How much of your peace are you giving away without permission? This eye-opening episode dives deep into the essential practice of protecting your mental and emotional space from those who would drain it without adding value to your life.
Lady P vulnerably shares a personal experience where her joyful day was completely derailed by someone who came in "pointing fingers and accusing." What hurt most wasn't the accusation itself, but realizing she had allowed someone else to steal her peace. Through powerful insights and real-life examples, she explains why boundaries aren't selfish—they're necessary for survival in a world that constantly demands our energy.
"Your peace is priceless," Lady P reminds us, sharing practical strategies for taking back control: shifting focus to what truly matters, quieting your thoughts through journaling and meditation, challenging negativity, and letting go of what you can't control. The episode features moving calls from listeners like Nikki, who shares how she's teaching her 11-year-old daughter about boundaries after a friend's hurtful comment disrupted her peace.
Whether you're the person who always ends up planning the entire party when you only agreed to "help," or you find yourself drained by friends who dump their drama on you, this episode offers compassionate wisdom for setting boundaries without guilt. As Lady P beautifully states: "Peace is my power and I won't trade it for anything or anyone." Ready to reclaim your power? This conversation is your permission slip to protect what's precious—you.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We are back in the house.
Thank you so much for joiningus.
For those of you who do notknow me, my name is Lady P False
Lady.
I'm Eric Foss and I thank youso much for joining us.
This is episode four.
I believe Four or five, I thinkit's five and I want to thank
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you for hanging in there with meas I go and travel this journey
.
I'm learning and growing aswell, so I feel like each
episode gets just a tad bitbetter and I get just a little
bit more comfortable.
I'm so used to being in theback screen and just doing what
I have to do back there, but I'mgetting a little adjusted.
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I won't say comfortable, butdefinitely adjusted.
So again, I am Lady P and youare tuning in to let's Talk
About it with the girl.
I want to just let you knowthat I appreciate you tuning in
and joining.
I don't take it lightly when Isee you out there.
(01:07):
It gives me a little bit morecomfort to know that you're
actually out there rooting me onand you're in the girl's corner
.
So I do appreciate it.
I don't take it lightly at all.
I send blessings and love toeach and every one of you, If
you haven't already like andshare.
Like and share.
You never know.
You might come across someonethat just need a little bit of
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pick me up, or someone that justmay want to share something.
So, with that being said, we'regoing to roll.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
my Trying to be more than the test Clear to be an
expert, and then clear to be abunch of people Clear to be a
member of the test.
Provoking a star to the cancerClose.
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Clear to be a member of thetest and then clear to be an
expert.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
All right, let's get started.
Oh, where have I been up?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
to.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I've been up to quite a bit this last couple of two
weeks A lot of resting as well,because you know that school has
just started back and we got awhole bunch of new babies that
we just loving on.
For some reason lately we'vebeen getting identical twins and
being a twin mom it's sointeresting that I can never
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tell those other kids apart.
But I can tell my kids apart bytheir personalities and I'm
pretty sure that their parentscan too.
So I'm always calling themnicknames.
But the funny thing about it is, as young as they are, they
just answer.
So I enjoy that and gettingcaught up in that and playing.
I got an opportunity this weekto actually sit on the floor and
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play with the babies a coupleof days, not every day.
I get so busy with all of themanagement part of the job, but
I had an opportunity to sit downand build blocks and listen to
them and they're talking already.
So these pandemic babies, theyain't wasting no time.
They talking early and theytransitioning and they know
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exactly what they're saying whenthey say it.
It just brings me so muchpleasure, although you know I
think my time there is prettymuch done.
We did have the opportunity tohave an in-service with the
saints at our real life churchand I just so enjoyed it and met
with the saints when theylifting up the Lord together and
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worshiping, you know, and justgiving Him praise.
So I truly enjoyed it, seeingtheir faces and seeing that
they're okay.
You know, everything's notalways hunky-dory with everybody
.
You don't get everything.
However, when you're in themidst of somebody that you know
that's serving the same personthat you're serving, the same
God that you're serving, itmakes it so much easier for you
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to say if God can do for thatperson, god can do for me, you
know.
So I truly enjoyed that.
I sing on the praise team, somy vocals wasn't the best.
Since we haven't really been inservice.
I've been still laughing, sothe vocals weren't the best.
So I'm definitely going to betrying to focus on that and get
that better.
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Also, girl, I have some news I'mgoing back to school.
I'm excited about that.
I will be moving out of earlychild care.
I just think that my journeyand my season in that is done.
So I'm going to be moving intosomething else in a social work
capacity, which will probablystill end up dealing with
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children, but not the hands-onpart of it, just the guidance
and direction for parents or formoms.
So I am excited about that, notabout the study, but my kids.
They're going to help me out,right, they're going to help me
out, so I'm excited about that.
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So let's just go ahead and getinto our topic tonight.
Don't disturb me.
You know, a lot of times wegive so much to people and they
take and take and when we, onceit's all gone and we're there,
the left to pick up our own notfair, and you know we don't
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realize the power that we get.
Um, I just want to share.
So I'll be a bit transparentand please, if you have any
words to encourage me or suggesthow I can deal with certain
situations, I would love it.
I would love it.
I woke up on Tuesday morning andI was so happy it's six o'clock
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in the morning.
I got music on, I'm dancing andsinging and my husband coming
around like, oh, you're in agood mood, I'm in a great mood.
I was ready to hit the groundrunning, start the day and just
enjoy myself.
And I got to work and kids weregood.
I didn't have to rescue any ofthe teachers, everything.
That was the day that I had anopportunity to sit on the floor
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and play with the kids and atthe end of the day, lo and
behold, someone comes in andjust start pointing fingers and
accusing and I just totally lostit.
I totally lost it and I end upwalking out and at that moment I
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had allowed that to steal mypeace and I was so upset with
myself because two nights Icouldn't sleep behind it.
But not that I was upset withwhat the person said, but I was
more upset with myself forallowing it to happen.
So in our lives, we have to becareful who we allow to come
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into our space and how much ofour peace we're going to allow
space and how much of our peacewe're going to allow.
Not that we're trying tocontrol all aspects of
situations, because that is notthe way that we should be as
human beings, but when it comesdown to yourself, you have to
take control or people will takecontrol of you.
So, with that being said, I'mgoing to roll this video.
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This young lady reallyencouraged me with her words, so
I wanted to share it with myaudience and please, if you
haven't liked and shared, likeand share and also if you want
to call in and make you knowsome suggestions, or just you
know share.
The number is 754-222-19.
Can we roll that video, sir?
Speaker 3 (08:07):
It's out on you videos, sir.
So now you protect your peace.
You walk away, not in anger, inwisdom.
Stand where you're notrespected drains the best parts
of you.
And the bible says in matthew,chapter 7, verse 6 do not give
what is holy to dog.
Do not throw your pearls beforeswine, or they would trample
them under their feet and turnand tear you to pieces.
You are that pearl.
Pearl, your love, your energy,your heart, all of it is
valuable.
And if they couldn't see thatwhile they had you, then let
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your absence teach them whatyour presence could.
If that spoke to some of yourspirit, read the tears that
taught me.
This book helped me releasewhat was breaking me and find
peace without bitterness.
It's not just healing, it'sbecoming Type.
I am the pearl in the commentsand send this to someone who's
finally learning how to let goall right, all right, all right.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I think you love that because in a lot of ways you,
if you don't set boundaries yougot to be okay with saying no.
You got to be okay with sayingno without feeling guilty, that
you said no Because not everyrequest deserves your time and
you have to understand that evenif you give people this time,
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are they giving you the value ofyour time?
They're not.
They're taking advantage, andnot everybody, but you know the
one, you know the one.
It's okay to say no because atthe end of the day, you're
picking up your own and tryingto put your own puzzle back
together, and that's not fair.
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Life is full of ups and downs,but we have to control the downs
that we're going to allow fromother people.
So at the end of the day, youhave to put yourself down.
Have you ever been involvedwhere someone wants you to help
with the party?
You end up planning the party,cooking the dishes, driving the
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food around, and then, at theend of the day, what do you have
left?
You're exhausted, you're tiredand probably didn't even get an
opportunity to even enjoy thatevent, because you were supposed
to be helping.
But now it has all been dumpedon you.
But they say it's okay.
You know, if you don't stand upand say anything, someone
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they're going to say, oh, don'tworry about it, she can do it.
It's so funny that I waswatching this episode of
Girlfriends it's Girlfriendsback in the day.
I think we were in the firstepisode and one of the
characters on there, her name isJoan, and whenever something
went down, she was right there.
She was planning and she wasdoing it and she was pulling
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everything together.
Well, on this one episode thatI was seeing, she was trying to
gather family members of peoplewho were in iraq, because her
fiance was in iraq.
So she kind of like we all gotthe same thing in common we
missing him.
So why don't we get together?
And, you know, do a cookout andlet's do this.
So as everybody get together toher house for this meeting,
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they she starts saying okay, sowho's going to bring this?
Nobody said anything.
Okay, she said don't worryabout it, I'll bring that.
So who would like to bring this?
Nobody said anything.
So she said okay, I'll bring it.
By the time she finished, shewas doing everything.
No one volunteered.
You know why?
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Because they knew she would doit.
They knew she would do it.
And when people get comfortablewith you saying, okay, I don't
mind helping, I'll step in andI'll do, yeah, I'll help out.
And at the end of the day, it'sleft on you.
You have to guard your peace.
Your peace is so important,your peace is power and you
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can't just let any and everybodydilly and dag into your peace,
your space.
You have to take it.
You know they act.
You know someone may ask hey,well, you know, would you like
to go and do this?
Perfect example.
Back in the days I had friendsthat asked me hey, would you
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like to come do so-and-so withus?
And I was like sure I'll come,only to get there and find out
that I end up paying foreverything.
Wait a minute.
I was invited, but because Iwas comfortable with saying oh,
okay, don't worry about it, Igot this, they are okay,
inviting me to somewhere with nomoney and I have to pick it up
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because I'm there now.
You know, and I don't want toleave anybody behind.
That's how people take advantageof you, that's how people
invade your space, that's howpeople invade your peace and
it's not fair.
And then, when you speak up onit, then you're the person
that's causing the problem.
But you're never, never, everwrong when you're standing up
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for yourself.
You have to stand up, so youhave to do it in a manner where,
if you're in a professionalsetting, you have to do it
professionally and if you're inyour family, you know how your
family get down.
You have to let them know andeven sometimes with your best
friends or your distant friends,you have to limit toxic
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influence.
That's fine.
You have to, and I'm a bigmedia TikTok person.
I rode through TikTok a lot, tothe point where they say, hey,
would, would you like to getpaid for this?
Yeah, I need to fast from that.
Reduce the time with people thatcause you, people that don't
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focus on what's important to you.
You have to reduce that time,reduce time from social media.
Any environment that's going todrain you is not going to help
build you up.
You need to like eliminate that, anything that's not going to
take.
Focus on the things that youneed done for you.
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Don't put yourself to the sideto satisfy other people because
at the end of the day, wouldthey do the the same for you?
Now I have some friends that Iknow I could call my best friend
in high school.
We don't talk every day,sometimes we don't talk a year,
but when we see each other, orif I call her and say, hey, val
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Val's going to drop what she'sdoing and she's going to come to
me, no matter what it is, I canbe wrong too.
I saw another video where itsaid, hey, we're going to hurt
some people Don't ask me noquestions why this need to be
taken care of.
The vows are going to say youwant to take your car or mine?
That's a friend, that's aperson that I can allow my peace
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to be disturbed for a moment,that I can allow my peace to be
disturbed for a moment.
You know so you do have thosepeople in your life where, yeah,
those are people that you'reokay with.
You also have people that willcall you in the middle of the
date and dump drama on you andyou're saying wait a minute,
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wait, wait, wait.
My day was going so good andnow, all of a sudden, I feel
like that kid from Charlie Brownwith a big old cloud hanging
over my head just raining.
On my day when my day startedout good.
But I took a moment out of myday to answer my phone and this
is the result that I ended upwith.
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You have to be careful, you haveto be careful.
You have to be careful.
Some people you'd be like youknow what, it's fine, I'm going
to walk away from my business,you need me, right?
But then you have some peoplethat just drop stuff on you
about other people.
You don't need that in yourlife.
So you have to really, reallybe careful about what you allow
into your space, and not to bemean or angry or anything like
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that, but just to have someboundaries, set some boundaries.
So I came across this othervideo, which I thought was just
awesome as well, because this ishow things get misinterpreted
and then we have to roll backand say wait a minute, wait a
minute.
This is not how I want this togo.
So I'm going to go ahead androll this next video.
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Can you roll that second videofor me?
Speaker 4 (16:18):
With my peace.
I will block your numbers Overmy peace.
I will mute you on social media.
Over my peace.
I will walk out of the ring.
Over my peace.
I'll let you think you won theargument.
You win Over my peace.
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My peace is priceless right now.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Absolutely.
My peace is priceless right now.
Absolutely, I love that.
My peace is priceless.
Your peace is priceless and noone deserves it.
Unless you're willing to giveit, it is priceless.
You have to choose your battlewhen it comes down to your peace
.
Not everything you desire is areaction and it's okay.
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You have to set that wall andnot a wall that you want someone
to break down.
But you gotta be careful.
You gotta guard your heart,your mind and definitely your
peace and let it go.
Let it go Because if you don'tlet it go mentally and
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physically, it's going to tearyou down.
And again, when you approach aperson on a subject, an issue
that they created and yourresponse, you become the problem
.
You become the problem.
It happens all the time.
And let it not be any judgment.
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I'm not judging you.
I'm not judging you.
I just want you to understand.
There's a limit to what I'mgoing to allow At this day and
time.
There's so much going on in theworld.
We really really limit to whatI'm gonna allow at this day and
time.
There's so much going on in theworld.
We really really have to becareful what we allow, listen if
anybody want to call in andmaybe share a time or a moment
where your peace was disturbedand just you know idea on how
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you got it back.
That'd be 754-222-2219.
Yeah, you got to be careful.
You really, really do, Becauseat the end of the day, everybody
wants peace and in order for usto have that, we have to set
some boundaries.
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We just do and, like I said,when people call you and start
tearing up stuff about otherpeople, you have to determine if
this is something that you wantto allow.
I remember when my girls wasgrowing up and I would tell them
don't let these little boyscontrol your day.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
And they would go like well, what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (19:05):
by that mommy, and I would say, well, what I mean by
it is if you just talked to himthe day before and everything
was wonderful, but now you guysget to school, and now he's not
even speaking to you, and thenhe's been fussing over you all
week and now all of a sudden,he's not speaking to you.
And now you're feelingustingover you all week, and now, all
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of a sudden, he's not speakingyou and now you're feeling bad
because now you think you didsomething wrong.
You haven't done anything wrong.
That's how God's out.
So really be careful.
So really really be careful howyou allow people to take over
control.
I have a caller on the line.
Hello caller.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (19:49):
hello, hello oh, hi hello, can you?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
hear me.
I can hear you now.
How are you?
I'm doing great.
How are you?
This is Nikki calling fromTallahassee.
Hey, nikki from Tallahassee,hello, I was calling in because
just to to piggyback off of whatyou were saying.
It's so interesting because Iwas just on my way to checkers
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with jisoo in the car and wewere talking about givers and
takers.
She's got, she's in her secondweek of middle school and things
are already happening, all themiddle school things are already
happening, and I was tellingher about boundaries and how you
not train, but you show peoplehow to teach, how to treat you
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based on your boundaries and saythis is a line and if you cross
this line, which just startswith my peace, these are the
consequences for crossing thisline, and that consequence can
be anything, but it could alsobe you not having access to me,
you're not being my friendanymore and I think that what as
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a young girl, as a young ladygoing to be 12 soon?
It was important for me to talkto her about that because she
had a friend who called her name.
It's this week and it reallyhurt her feelings.
It caused her to cry and I saidthis person is disrupting your
peace.
Like you, you are so high.
At the beginning of the day,you were so happy being in
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middle school and seeing allyour friends, and that person
said one word to you and calledyou one word.
And now you're sitting in thecar crying with me and I
encouraged her to be strong butalso to demonstrate to that
friend what happened when youcrossed the boundary and that
boundary you're going to be myfriend.
Like you were saying, I needyou, got you can't just take
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from me.
You have to give because I'mgoing to be my friend.
Like you were saying, I needyou can't just take from me.
You have to give because I'mgoing to give to you.
And I'm kind of going throughsomething similar.
Like my piece is a littledestructive, with the
relationship that I thought wasgoing to last longer than what I
thought.
But I had to ask the questionabout whether that person was
serious or not.
That person gave me an answerand so I have to draw the line.
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That means you don't haveaccess to me.
I am not going to be in thesespots, you know, acting as a
girlfriend to you because youmade it clear that you're not
ready and this individual isclearly very confused, still
trying to see me, you stilltrying to treat me as a
girlfriend.
But I gave that as an exampleto use the answers to the
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callers about creating that line.
My piece was very disruptive.
I talked to you about it, Italked to Nat about it.
I was very confused and youknow, the Bible says, you know
that God is not the author ofconfusion, so if there's
confusion then he's not in it.
And so, right, my teeth wasdisrupted, I wrestled with it
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and now I've got the answer, andnow I'm clear about it.
And so I have to move forwardwith consequences and the
boundaries that I created.
Because I'm valuable, like the,like the video, like I'm a
pearl, so I can't.
I have to really, uh, use,considered peace as something
very precious to me and I can'tcontinue to wrestle and go back
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and forth within somebody aboutwhether they're going to be
serious with me or not and justknow that.
Know, a rejection is not arejection.
You know it's God putting hisdivine timing into it.
And so I just wanted to call inand say that my 11-year-old is
learning about it and me, atalmost 38 years old, is still
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learning about protecting mypeace and creating boundaries
with how people treat me.
Thank you so much for callingin.
I appreciate it and you gaveyour daughter the best advice
that she could ever getBoundaries, boundaries.
So give her my love and I thankyou again for calling in.
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Have a great evening.
Okay, thank you, you too, and Ilove this subject.
It's very, very interesting andgood.
Okay, thank you.
We all say bye, bye, bye.
Let me give a shout out.
There's some people that's onthe line, of course, you guys.
You heard nikki and how sheencouraged her daughter and I,
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you know I really prayed aboutthis.
I said you know, lord, I haveno idea what I'm going to do
this week.
I don't know.
I said I'm just leaning on youand again, I couldn't sleep
because I had that situation andhe was just said you know what?
Your peace was disturbed today.
And I said you're absolutelyright, it was so, yeah, yeah.
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So this is how I came up withthat, because it's just so
important to me and I realizedwhen I turned 40 that time is
out for what people think aboutme, what people say about me.
I have a life to live.
I have some new grandbabiescoming into my life that I want
to share with them.
Shout out to my sister girls,it's a click of me and my
granddaughter, and it's justtime.
It's a click of humangranddaughters, and it's just
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time.
It's time I have a very specialfriend that is joining me
tonight.
I have Jackie Sinise, all theway from North Carolina.
Thank you for joining me.
We just had a new baby, y'all.
I can't wait to see her.
So congratulations on yourlittle bump with Joy, and I love
the pictures that you sent.
Melissa is on the line.
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Hey, cousin, I haven't spokento you in a while, but I'm going
to read your comment.
Her comment says this is agreat topic and as she matures
in life, she values her peace somuch more, and that her piece
is everything.
That's what I'm talking about Acopy type of everything we
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can't, just, we just can't letpeople have.
People will dream and dream anddraw and take, and you're
sitting around like, oh my God,like how did I get to this point
?
I'm like, oh my God, like howdid I get to this point?
I love this topic, thank youLord.
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I love it Because at this pointI'm taking my peace back, I'm
taking my joy back.
I'm not going to allow anybodyto walk, no more.
And I'm going to do it in aprofessional setting.
I'm going to do it with myfamily, my extended family.
I'm not going to, I'm just notgoing to do it.
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Melissa also said she'd agreewith Nikki.
She also teach her thateverybody is not your friend.
You hear that.
The earlier she understands it,the easier it will be for her
to sit down and ask you mature.
It's so true.
We, you know, even with thebaby, even in the classroom with
the babies, if you don't setboundaries with them, they'll be
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up on top of the tables andswinging from the chandeliers.
And you can start early settingboundaries with them.
So you're teaching them how toset boundaries with others.
And they don't have to be partof the clique, they don't have
to be in the that used to sayhip with the groove.
They don't have to be.
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They can be their own person.
And sometimes it's okay to be byyourself, and being by yourself
is going to bring you peace.
You're okay Because, truly, Iused to think that, oh, I wasn't
doing anything if I wasn'tsitting at my house, or if I
wasn't at this person's house,if I wasn't going here and I
wasn't going there.
But now that I'm older, I value, when I get off of work, that I
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come home, lay on the couch,roll through the net, value
peace, my peace is so importantit is and we can't allow people
to take that and I knowsometimes we don't intend to do
it, it just for some crazyreason just happens.
We let our guard down andbefore you know it, like this
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person is doing crazy.
I remember this one pastor sayif you really look at people,
you realize people crazy and youprobably wanted is crazy.
I remember this one pastor sayif you really look at people,
you realize people crazy and youprobably wanted to create
people.
But it's okay, you know.
It's okay to draw back, it'sokay to be you.
It's okay to set thoseboundaries in relationships
boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance,husband and wife.
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You can still set boundarieswith yourself girlfriend, fiance
, husband and wife.
You can still set boundarieswith your spouse.
You can set boundaries withyour spouse.
You have to.
And I'm not talking about I'mnot picking for him type of
boundaries.
I'm just saying you know, ifyou don't say, hold up, I can't
do this right now, I'm going todo this on Thursday and they may
want it done.
Then you know what they can do.
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They can do it themselves.
They can do it themselves, theycan do it, just so.
In other words, everything doesnot require every action.
Just let some things go.
People gonna talk about you.
Oh yeah, they're gonna talkabout you.
They are, but you know whatthey talking about you.
They thinking about you.
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They're gonna say stuff whenyou're up and they gonna say
stuff when you're down.
You cannot control what peoplegonna say about you, how they
gonna judge you.
It is what it is.
I used to, my daughter used tosay that to me.
It is what it is, mom, and Iused to say that's such a
nonchalant response it is whatit is, it's like it, I don't
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care anything about it, it's,that's just what's going to
happen.
But when it comes down topeople judging you, yeah, let it
be what it is, because theydon't believe what they want to
believe and guess what.
You don't have to go to court.
Prove them wrong.
Whoever they talking to, ifthey know you, like they say
they know you, they'll be likeyeah, that ain't something she
would do.
Well, he would do.
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Yeah, that.
That that's the key on that.
How to take control of your feet.
I have four things that I wantto share with you on how you can
take control of your feet.
Shift your focus.
If, whatever it is, it's notgoing to give you any attention,
it's not going to give you anyattention if not going to
benefit you, let it go.
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Focus on the gratitude you havefor yourself, the progress that
you have for yourself, okay,and whatever solutions or goals
that you set for yourself.
That's one of the things youcan do is shift your focus.
I have a caller on the line.
Hey, caller.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Hi Cousin Patsy.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Hey, it's my cousin, Melissa from Atlanta.
Y'all how you doing, I don'tknow.
It's been so long.
I'm doing well, it's just beenso long and I've been missing
your show.
I've been getting the reminders, so this is why I wanted to
call in For all.
I've been getting the reminders, so this is why I wanted to
call in for all of you mothersto give to these kids.
I understand we have these kids, but now I'm dealing with adult
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kids y'all.
But these kids have had thesethreats now since July 31st and
I'd say glance over theirsituation, flying all over the
place to make sure that they'reokay.
And my husband said to me theyare adults, let it go, send them
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home, let them figure it out.
I just had to let it go and Isaid I'm letting go and I'm
letting God.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
And everybody on this line.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
I tell you I was so stressed out to the point I
started to feel ill.
Going from New York, sanAntonio, new York now I've got
to go to Pensacola.
It was just a little too much.
So for you mothers, that'sgreat.
Kids and us to be here, that'sgreat.
Let's do what we can as mothersuntil they become adults and as
adults, let's learn how toprotect our peace, let's learn
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how to set boundaries and let'sjust learn to let go and let God
it is okay with these adultkids.
That's what I had to say.
Well, thank you so much forcalling in and I told them we
agree with you and you know Igot the back paddle on.
Why are you making your kidsmove out?
Why are you doing this?
You shouldn't make them do that, and I wasn't making them
because I felt like the toolswas given for them to be out
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there in that world.
Your goal is to get them outjust so they can have their days
now, if they fall down, amen.
You know, mommy's gonna, mommyoh, I'll be like eric I got a
kiss flight, hey.
Hey.
I tried to move to town Rightand down the street from the
college, but Jordan and I didn'twant to let go.
That was my baby.
He was going to college at 17.
Right, but I'm a big fan.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
I totally get it.
I totally get it.
Speaker 1 (32:45):
Oh yeah, I know, cedric, I understand.
I'm there with you, Iunderstand.
But basically you tell Ty I sayhello and thank you so much for
calling in.
He heard you, he's listening.
But thank you, you're doing agreat job and congratulations on
returning to school.
My mom used to always say howsmart you were.
I'm so proud of you for makingthat choice and then having that
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trajectory for your career.
So congratulations, thank youso much, and hi Ty.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Thanks Teri.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Bye-bye.
You know, and I know so manyparents that won't let their
adult children be adults.
It's okay to scoop in there andhelp them pick up stuff and get
back on track.
There's nothing wrong with that.
Let me tell you, my kids know Imade sure we had a guest room
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so, if anything happens, mybabies can come home, regroup
and get right back out thereagain.
And we've had a few of themthat have come home.
All of them have come home withone another.
I can't wait until I turn 18 18I'm moving out of this house.
Oh, on that 18th birthday.
Well, guess what?
You're 18, what are your plans?
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And?
But my kids had a plan.
I mean, I had one at firstgrade.
She had already decided whatcollege she was going to go to
give them the tools that theyneed to get out there.
When they get out there andthey're successful, that's when
you know you did a good job.
That's when you know I gavethem what they needed.
And now they're out there andthey're doing their thing.
I love it.
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I love it.
I'm proud of them.
I can't take all the credit forit because they did right there
in the same corner with mesaying, hey, we got to encourage
this and we got to do that and,with the help of the Lord, it
was awesome.
How to take control of yourpeace.
Well, we've already finished.
Give your focus.
Give attention to what helpsyou develop.
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Give attention to what helpsyou grow.
Give attention to what bringsyou satisfaction.
Walk away from whatever is notgoing to be beneficial in your
leisure time.
Take a moment, like I juststarted journaling.
That's something that I forgotto put on.
I did.
The pastor had encouraged us tojournal and I used to a long
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time ago, maybe 20 years ago.
I just started back journalingand I've been going back and
reading from when I firststarted up until the present day
and I realized that I have somuch growth in what I feel about
me which, the more I writeabout it, the more I say you
know I need to go to school, I'mgoing to go to school, so I'm
excited about that.
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But that journaling really,really, really helped, helped me
focus on me.
I try meditating on what I read,my word, I pray and I try, you
know, meditate on what I've readand my prayers, and I try.
I was just telling someone inBible study last night sometimes
I'll be praying so much, Iforget to pray for myself.
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I don't know if that everhappened to any of y'all, but I
get so caught up in the prayerof other people and the Bible
center and seeing your angels toprotect them, protect us.
I get so involved in everybodyelse that I totally forget about
.
And oh yeah, lord, let's notforget about passing, but that
meditating, releasing clutterfrom your mind.
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You know first episode.
On a second episode, we talkedabout self-care.
Do self-care every single day.
If you are a career person andyou get a paycheck every two
weeks, go buy yourself something.
I don't care if it's underwear,mascara.
Buy something for yourself toshow you that you appreciate you
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and you deserve to beappreciated.
And not only that, how Nikkisaid, you have to set the tone
on how you, you deserve to beappreciated.
And not only that, how Nikkisaid, you have to set the tone
on how you're going to betreated.
And if you don't, you'll bewalked all over.
So try meditation and journaling.
Journaling is so good I never.
I just realized how much Ienjoyed it back then.
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I'm really and truly enjoyingit now.
And take all that clutter out,like melissa was saying, she was
so busy about everybody else'sbusiness that she started to
feel sick.
It happens, and we don't eventhink it's happening.
Until that body is shut down on, you Say hello, we need to do
this, and you'll be stuck homeand won't be able to do much of
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nothing.
So quiet your thoughts, yourthoughts, meditating, praying,
journaling, and just an Ustahmoment.
This next one is one of myfavorite out of the four
Challenge and negativity.
If someone is bringingsomething negative to your era
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and your space, ask yourself twoquestions Is this what this
person is saying is true?
And if this is worth my peace?
If it's not worth my peace,it's not worth me even wondering
if it's true or not, because ifit's going to destroy this
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little unit that I got going onhere, I want nothing to do with
it and that's how we have to be.
And I don't hope I sound like amean girl, because I'm not
trying to sound like a mean girl, but it's been too many walks
in life where you have allowedpeople to just enter in and then
they just walk away and leaveyou holding it back and you're
thinking what really happenedhere.
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I was giving my all, I wassupportive If you needed a ride,
if you needed groceries.
I was doing everything like afriend should do and all of a
sudden you're gone.
And now here I am trying towonder what I did.
You didn't do nothing.
You didn't do nothing.
People will take advantage ofyou if you allow them to.
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If you don't set the boundaries, like the caller said, people
will treat you how they want totreat you.
Yeah, that's the challenge ofnegativity, is it true?
Is it worth my peace?
Is it worth my time?
And if it's not, let it go.
Let it go.
People are going to be mad atyou either way.
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That's just the way it is.
They're just going to be thatway the way.
That's just the way it is.
It's just going to be that way.
The fourth one is control whatyou can and what you can't.
Let it go, no matter theoutcome or how things have been
done in the past, no matter howyou have done things in the past
.
Control what you can in yourlife, and I think the most
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important thing that we cancontrol in our lives is our
peace and who we want to allowto give a little bit of that to.
It's so important.
If you have grudges againstpeople, let it go.
It ain't worth it.
Because sometimes we'll hold agrudge against a person and
they'll be over there livingtheir best life and we think how
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can they be so happy afterdoing what they did to me?
They don't care what they didto you, because if they did,
they'll be trying to fix thesituation and not be living
their best life until they fixit.
I remember when I first startedworking at my school there was a
plumber At that time I think Iwas a, I was a classroom
assistant and there was thislady there that she just made
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all of the teachers was justmiserable with this woman.
She just made life miserable foreverybody.
And so we came then we figured,hey, we don't want to, we're
going to walk on eggshells andwe're just going to stay out of
her way, which nobody wants togo to work like that.
And I remember one day sheasked one of the little girls,
asked me this littletwo-year-old baby, and I'm
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pretty sure she was probablysaying what is going on with
this lady.
But you walked in and I saidhey, keelani, how was your
weekend?
And she said good, I said.
And she turned to me.
She said how was yours?
And I said you know this joythat I have, the world didn't
give it and the world can't takeit away, and I refused to let
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this happen again.
And then I kind of caughtmyself and looked over at her
and she was looking like can Iget that cookie?
Like how did we get here?
But that's how I felt and atthat point I went to work my
head.
You know, I want to know thesmile and if her foot was
stepped on, it was stepped on.
Good morning everybody.
I had a wonderful weekend.
This, that and the other Peoplewill do that.
This lady trained, drained theentire department and my friend
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from North Carolina.
She can vouch on that.
But when you take back thatpower and when I took that power
back and became the director,she quit Because she didn't want
to be underneath me.
However, when you allow peopleto take that power, you've got
to be in that place.
Where you got to get it back,you have to get it back.
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So I never held a grudgeagainst this person, but I
remember it was a valuablelesson that I was taught and I
use that a lot.
I share that with people a lotabout how you can't give, give
and then you're not gettinganything back.
You give until you give out andthen you're left to pick up
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your own pieces.
So, with that being said, thatkind of wraps things up.
Just have, don't putunrealistic expectations on
yourself and don't try to pleaseeverybody either.
I love people.
I love hanging out with mygirls.
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Y'all know I'm crazy aboutbabies.
I love hanging out with myfamily, but at the end of the
day, if I can't love, who elseis going to love me?
Well, eric will Eric's going tolove me.
He's going to do it for me.
But Eric will Eric's in lovewith me.
He's hurting me for years but Igotta love me.
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I'm important and we have to beimportant to ourselves.
So one of the things if you guyshave those sticky pads or
sticky notepads, that'ssomething that you can write on
and put it on your bathroommirror so in the morning you can
read this to yourself.
I want you to read this Peaceis my power and I won't trade it
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for anything or anyone.
If you put that on your mirrorwhen you're in the morning,
after you get your stufftogether, say that to yourself
my peace is my power and I'm nottrading it for anything and
anyone.
I'll choose who I want to sharemy peace with and if it's not
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going to bring me joy, if it'snot going to be beneficial to
the way I'm trying to go, thegoals I'm trying to reach, then
you can't have it, you can'thave it.
The Lord gave it to me not tojust give it away and just throw
it and toss it around.
I'm going to say that again mypeace is my power and I won't
trade it for anything or anyone.
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All right, I like that.
I like that.
So, listen, I have about oh, Ihave about 13 minutes.
If anyone want to call in andjust share with us, even if you
have an idea as to how you setboundaries with therapy, I am
going to ask you guys a questionand hopefully someone can
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either put in the chat or callme and let me know.
I am headed into a meetingsometime next week.
I'm very passionate, but when Iget to talking, people always
feel like I'm yelling or I'mangry.
So if you can just give me anidea, maybe some breathing
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exercises I can do when I'm inthat meeting, because I have to
get these things off my chest.
It's just going on long and youknow, even if you just want to,
if you have my personal number,you can text me and let me know
, and that would be great.
Again, if you want to call in,the number is 754-222-2219.
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So give me a call if you can.
If not, you can put it in thechat and I'll go ahead and I'll
read it off again.
I want to thank you guys fortuning in with me.
I appreciate it.
I really really do, and thecalls were great.
It really encourages my heartto hear that I'm not the only
person that's having issues withsaying no, yeah and then saying
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no and then feeling guilty ofit.
We can't do that.
We have to be on the up and up.
We have to be able to say yeah,not today, I'm busy, even if
you ain't busy.
I remember my daughter called meone day and she said hey, mom,
are you busy?
And I said yep.
She said what you doing?
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I said nothing and she was likeso you're not busy.
I said yeah, I'm busy doingnothing, this is what I want to
do, this is my busyness, and shewas like crazy.
She was like this woman is nuts.
But if I went into control ofthat, she probably had me
running an errand, going to dothis, going to do that.
So I'm busy doing nothing andit's okay to be busy doing
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absolutely nothing.
It's where you get the rest.
It's where you get the rest.
Thank you, ty.
Ty said hey, cousin, great topic.
Thank you, Ty, I appreciate it,but you know, okay, I'm not
going to get any phone calls.
I'm trying to hold out a littlebit.
I don't want to shut you guysout, but I also just want to
know, you know, this has reallybeen so therapeutic for me.
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That moment, really, it reallytook my joy away and this was
just.
I guess this was a lot for meand I'm grateful that I that I
was obedient and did theresearch on it and got
information that really helped.
I kind of scrolled throughTikTok and got a few calls, got
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a few videos and a few words ofencouragement.
I know that book that younglady said about tears of pride.
I going to definitely go andget that book.
Oh yeah, natalie, put in thechat.
Rest is essential.
Let me tell you everybody, frommy job to my church and my
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church itself, in the summertime, when I'm out from 2 to 4, I'm
taking a nap.
And now this time is the right.
You can't ask it in betweenthose hours.
I'd be like, hello, how yousleep?
Well, no, I'm not sleeping if Ianswer the phone, but everybody
know I get my risk.
I really, really need my risk,and Natalie also put in there.
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By the way, hang that deep,deep belly breathing, okay, my,
while I'm in the meeting when Istart to feel my temperature
rise, just okay, I can do that.
I'm going to be working on itbecause it's next week so I got
time to work on that.
I'm just.
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When it comes down to children,I'm just so passionate I'm
actually going to argue.
The fact that there's atwo-year-old that's in the room
with babies, that told us theother day, told the teacher the
other day when he wanted toleave the circle time.
Come on, man.
I was like this child is not,he doesn't like to be here.
It's nice to be here and I findit is a lot with, you know, a
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lot of the minority not minoritychildren Hispanic, black, asian
that you know they'll do thattoo, but in this particular
program it's pretty muchcentered around a lot of the
minorities.
We don't have a lot ofnon-minorities in there.
But it's an excellent program,I think, you know, with a good
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curriculum and teachers.
I think the sky is the limit.
So yeah, I'll definitely trythat deep daily breathing and
I'll make sure I get a goodnight's rest the night before.
I can either wake upprofessionally and handle this
All righty then.
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Well, we are coming to a closeand again I'm gonna leave you
guys with a video and I wanty'all to really listen to it and
take in what this young lady issaying.
But again, I'm gonna thank you.
Thank you for joining.
Even you can also share thisafter the podcast, because it
will run again on youtube, aswell as our other outlets I
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believe Spotify, apple I'm notsure with all of them, but the
same outlets that we have forthe Marriage in Real Life
podcast, which is coming back inSeptember.
I'm excited about that.
We got some good stuff going on.
So, with that being said, Ithank you.
I thank you from the bottom ofmy heart for tuning in.
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You guys made me so happy.
I feel so much better, felt.
Said I thank you.
I thank you from the bottom ofmy heart for tuning in.
You guys made me so happy.
I feel so much better.
Felt like I got a lot off mychest, and the encouraging calls
was just on top of it, and Ijust want to give a shout out to
everyone who have been here.
And again, I thank you and youhave a good night.
Roll that last video for me,dave, sir, a good night.
Speaker 3 (50:03):
Roll that last video for me dave, we protect your
peace and don't apologize for it.
Some folks thrive in chaos, butthat don't mean you got to
invite it to your doorstep.
Speaker 2 (50:24):
I'm going to find them in the post office.
Bring them to the cancer Countsand maybe I'll make it.
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I'm here for the animals.
They're gone.
We are back in the house.
Thank you so much for joiningus.
For those of you who do notknow me, my name is Lady P False
Lady.
I'm Eric Foss and I thank youso much for joining us.
This is episode four.
I believe Four or five, I thinkit's five and I want to thank
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you for hanging in there with meas I go and travel this journey
.
I'm learning and growing aswell, so I feel like each
episode gets just a tad bitbetter and I get just a little
bit more comfortable.
I'm so used to being in theback screen and just doing what
I have to do back there, but I'mgetting a little adjusted.
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I won't say comfortable, butdefinitely adjusted.
So again, I am Lady P and youare tuning in to let's Talk
About it with the girl.
I want to just let you knowthat I appreciate you tuning in
and joining.
I don't take it lightly when Isee you out there.
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It gives me a little bit morecomfort to know that you're
actually out there rooting me onand you're in the girl's corner
.
So I do appreciate it.
I don't take it lightly at all.
I send blessings and love toeach and every one of you, If
you haven't already like andshare.
Like and share.
You never know.
You might come across someonethat just need a little bit of
(01:29):
pick me up, or someone that justmay want to share something.
So, with that being said, we'regoing to roll.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
my Trying to be more than the test Clear to be an
expert, and then clear to be abunch of people Clear to be a
member of the test.
Provoking a star to the cancerClose.
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Clear to be a member of thetest and then clear to be an
expert.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
All right, let's get started.
Oh, where have I been up?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
to.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I've been up to quite a bit this last couple of two
weeks A lot of resting as well,because you know that school has
just started back and we got awhole bunch of new babies that
we just loving on.
For some reason lately we'vebeen getting identical twins and
being a twin mom it's sointeresting that I can never
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tell those other kids apart.
But I can tell my kids apart bytheir personalities and I'm
pretty sure that their parentscan too.
So I'm always calling themnicknames.
But the funny thing about it is, as young as they are, they
just answer.
So I enjoy that and gettingcaught up in that and playing.
I got an opportunity this weekto actually sit on the floor and
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play with the babies a coupleof days, not every day.
I get so busy with all of themanagement part of the job, but
I had an opportunity to sit downand build blocks and listen to
them and they're talking already.
So these pandemic babies, theyain't wasting no time.
They talking early and theytransitioning and they know
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exactly what they're saying whenthey say it.
It just brings me so muchpleasure, although you know I
think my time there is prettymuch done.
We did have the opportunity tohave an in-service with the
saints at our real life churchand I just so enjoyed it and met
with the saints when theylifting up the Lord together and
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worshiping, you know, and justgiving Him praise.
So I truly enjoyed it, seeingtheir faces and seeing that
they're okay.
You know, everything's notalways hunky-dory with everybody
.
You don't get everything.
However, when you're in themidst of somebody that you know
that's serving the same personthat you're serving, the same
God that you're serving, itmakes it so much easier for you
(04:04):
to say if God can do for thatperson, god can do for me, you
know.
So I truly enjoyed that.
I sing on the praise team, somy vocals wasn't the best.
Since we haven't really been inservice.
I've been still laughing, sothe vocals weren't the best.
So I'm definitely going to betrying to focus on that and get
that better.
(04:24):
Also, girl, I have some news I'mgoing back to school.
I'm excited about that.
I will be moving out of earlychild care.
I just think that my journeyand my season in that is done.
So I'm going to be moving intosomething else in a social work
capacity, which will probablystill end up dealing with
(04:45):
children, but not the hands-onpart of it, just the guidance
and direction for parents or formoms.
So I am excited about that, notabout the study, but my kids.
They're going to help me out,right, they're going to help me
out, so I'm excited about that.
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So let's just go ahead and getinto our topic tonight.
Don't disturb me.
You know, a lot of times wegive so much to people and they
take and take and when we, onceit's all gone and we're there,
the left to pick up our own notfair, and you know we don't
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realize the power that we get.
Um, I just want to share.
So I'll be a bit transparentand please, if you have any
words to encourage me or suggesthow I can deal with certain
situations, I would love it.
I would love it.
I woke up on Tuesday morning andI was so happy it's six o'clock
(05:54):
in the morning.
I got music on, I'm dancing andsinging and my husband coming
around like, oh, you're in agood mood, I'm in a great mood.
I was ready to hit the groundrunning, start the day and just
enjoy myself.
And I got to work and kids weregood.
I didn't have to rescue any ofthe teachers, everything.
That was the day that I had anopportunity to sit on the floor
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and play with the kids and atthe end of the day, lo and
behold, someone comes in andjust start pointing fingers and
accusing and I just totally lostit.
I totally lost it and I end upwalking out and at that moment I
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had allowed that to steal mypeace and I was so upset with
myself because two nights Icouldn't sleep behind it.
But not that I was upset withwhat the person said, but I was
more upset with myself forallowing it to happen.
So in our lives, we have to becareful who we allow to come
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into our space and how much ofour peace we're going to allow
space and how much of our peacewe're going to allow.
Not that we're trying tocontrol all aspects of
situations, because that is notthe way that we should be as
human beings, but when it comesdown to yourself, you have to
take control or people will takecontrol of you.
So, with that being said, I'mgoing to roll this video.
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This young lady reallyencouraged me with her words, so
I wanted to share it with myaudience and please, if you
haven't liked and shared, likeand share and also if you want
to call in and make you knowsome suggestions, or just you
know share.
The number is 754-222-19.
Can we roll that video, sir?
Speaker 3 (08:07):
It's out on you videos, sir.
So now you protect your peace.
You walk away, not in anger, inwisdom.
Stand where you're notrespected drains the best parts
of you.
And the bible says in matthew,chapter 7, verse 6 do not give
what is holy to dog.
Do not throw your pearls beforeswine, or they would trample
them under their feet and turnand tear you to pieces.
You are that pearl.
Pearl, your love, your energy,your heart, all of it is
valuable.
And if they couldn't see thatwhile they had you, then let
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your absence teach them whatyour presence could.
If that spoke to some of yourspirit, read the tears that
taught me.
This book helped me releasewhat was breaking me and find
peace without bitterness.
It's not just healing, it'sbecoming Type.
I am the pearl in the commentsand send this to someone who's
finally learning how to let goall right, all right, all right.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I think you love that because in a lot of ways you,
if you don't set boundaries yougot to be okay with saying no.
You got to be okay with sayingno without feeling guilty, that
you said no Because not everyrequest deserves your time and
you have to understand that evenif you give people this time,
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are they giving you the value ofyour time?
They're not.
They're taking advantage, andnot everybody, but you know the
one, you know the one.
It's okay to say no because atthe end of the day, you're
picking up your own and tryingto put your own puzzle back
together, and that's not fair.
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Life is full of ups and downs,but we have to control the downs
that we're going to allow fromother people.
So at the end of the day, youhave to put yourself down.
Have you ever been involvedwhere someone wants you to help
with the party?
You end up planning the party,cooking the dishes, driving the
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food around, and then, at theend of the day, what do you have
left?
You're exhausted, you're tiredand probably didn't even get an
opportunity to even enjoy thatevent, because you were supposed
to be helping.
But now it has all been dumpedon you.
But they say it's okay.
You know, if you don't stand upand say anything, someone
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they're going to say, oh, don'tworry about it, she can do it.
It's so funny that I waswatching this episode of
Girlfriends it's Girlfriendsback in the day.
I think we were in the firstepisode and one of the
characters on there, her name isJoan, and whenever something
went down, she was right there.
She was planning and she wasdoing it and she was pulling
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everything together.
Well, on this one episode thatI was seeing, she was trying to
gather family members of peoplewho were in iraq, because her
fiance was in iraq.
So she kind of like we all gotthe same thing in common we
missing him.
So why don't we get together?
And, you know, do a cookout andlet's do this.
So as everybody get together toher house for this meeting,
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they she starts saying okay, sowho's going to bring this?
Nobody said anything.
Okay, she said don't worryabout it, I'll bring that.
So who would like to bring this?
Nobody said anything.
So she said okay, I'll bring it.
By the time she finished, shewas doing everything.
No one volunteered.
You know why?
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Because they knew she would doit.
They knew she would do it.
And when people get comfortablewith you saying, okay, I don't
mind helping, I'll step in andI'll do, yeah, I'll help out.
And at the end of the day, it'sleft on you.
You have to guard your peace.
Your peace is so important,your peace is power and you
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can't just let any and everybodydilly and dag into your peace,
your space.
You have to take it.
You know they act.
You know someone may ask hey,well, you know, would you like
to go and do this?
Perfect example.
Back in the days I had friendsthat asked me hey, would you
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like to come do so-and-so withus?
And I was like sure I'll come,only to get there and find out
that I end up paying foreverything.
Wait a minute.
I was invited, but because Iwas comfortable with saying oh,
okay, don't worry about it, Igot this, they are okay,
inviting me to somewhere with nomoney and I have to pick it up
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because I'm there now.
You know, and I don't want toleave anybody behind.
That's how people take advantageof you, that's how people
invade your space, that's howpeople invade your peace and
it's not fair.
And then, when you speak up onit, then you're the person
that's causing the problem.
But you're never, never, everwrong when you're standing up
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for yourself.
You have to stand up, so youhave to do it in a manner where,
if you're in a professionalsetting, you have to do it
professionally and if you're inyour family, you know how your
family get down.
You have to let them know andeven sometimes with your best
friends or your distant friends,you have to limit toxic
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influence.
That's fine.
You have to, and I'm a bigmedia TikTok person.
I rode through TikTok a lot, tothe point where they say, hey,
would, would you like to getpaid for this?
Yeah, I need to fast from that.
Reduce the time with people thatcause you, people that don't
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focus on what's important to you.
You have to reduce that time,reduce time from social media.
Any environment that's going todrain you is not going to help
build you up.
You need to like eliminate that, anything that's not going to
take.
Focus on the things that youneed done for you.
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Don't put yourself to the sideto satisfy other people because
at the end of the day, wouldthey do the the same for you?
Now I have some friends that Iknow I could call my best friend
in high school.
We don't talk every day,sometimes we don't talk a year,
but when we see each other, orif I call her and say, hey, val
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Val's going to drop what she'sdoing and she's going to come to
me, no matter what it is, I canbe wrong too.
I saw another video where itsaid, hey, we're going to hurt
some people Don't ask me noquestions why this need to be
taken care of.
The vows are going to say youwant to take your car or mine?
That's a friend, that's aperson that I can allow my peace
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to be disturbed for a moment,that I can allow my peace to be
disturbed for a moment.
You know so you do have thosepeople in your life where, yeah,
those are people that you'reokay with.
You also have people that willcall you in the middle of the
date and dump drama on you andyou're saying wait a minute,
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wait, wait, wait.
My day was going so good andnow, all of a sudden, I feel
like that kid from Charlie Brownwith a big old cloud hanging
over my head just raining.
On my day when my day startedout good.
But I took a moment out of myday to answer my phone and this
is the result that I ended upwith.
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You have to be careful, you haveto be careful.
You have to be careful.
Some people you'd be like youknow what, it's fine, I'm going
to walk away from my business,you need me, right?
But then you have some peoplethat just drop stuff on you
about other people.
You don't need that in yourlife.
So you have to really, reallybe careful about what you allow
into your space, and not to bemean or angry or anything like
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that, but just to have someboundaries, set some boundaries.
So I came across this othervideo, which I thought was just
awesome as well, because this ishow things get misinterpreted
and then we have to roll backand say wait a minute, wait a
minute.
This is not how I want this togo.
So I'm going to go ahead androll this next video.
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Can you roll that second videofor me?
Speaker 4 (16:18):
With my peace.
I will block your numbers Overmy peace.
I will mute you on social media.
Over my peace.
I will walk out of the ring.
Over my peace.
I'll let you think you won theargument.
You win Over my peace.
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My peace is priceless right now.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Absolutely.
My peace is priceless right now.
Absolutely, I love that.
My peace is priceless.
Your peace is priceless and noone deserves it.
Unless you're willing to giveit, it is priceless.
You have to choose your battlewhen it comes down to your peace
.
Not everything you desire is areaction and it's okay.
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You have to set that wall andnot a wall that you want someone
to break down.
But you gotta be careful.
You gotta guard your heart,your mind and definitely your
peace and let it go.
Let it go Because if you don'tlet it go mentally and
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physically, it's going to tearyou down.
And again, when you approach aperson on a subject, an issue
that they created and yourresponse, you become the problem
.
You become the problem.
It happens all the time.
And let it not be any judgment.
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I'm not judging you.
I'm not judging you.
I just want you to understand.
There's a limit to what I'mgoing to allow At this day and
time.
There's so much going on in theworld.
We really really limit to whatI'm gonna allow at this day and
time.
There's so much going on in theworld.
We really really have to becareful what we allow, listen if
anybody want to call in andmaybe share a time or a moment
where your peace was disturbedand just you know idea on how
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you got it back.
That'd be 754-222-2219.
Yeah, you got to be careful.
You really, really do, Becauseat the end of the day, everybody
wants peace and in order for usto have that, we have to set
some boundaries.
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We just do and, like I said,when people call you and start
tearing up stuff about otherpeople, you have to determine if
this is something that you wantto allow.
I remember when my girls wasgrowing up and I would tell them
don't let these little boyscontrol your day.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
And they would go like well, what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (19:05):
by that mommy, and I would say, well, what I mean by
it is if you just talked to himthe day before and everything
was wonderful, but now you guysget to school, and now he's not
even speaking to you, and thenhe's been fussing over you all
week and now all of a sudden,he's not speaking to you.
And now you're feelingustingover you all week, and now, all
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of a sudden, he's not speakingyou and now you're feeling bad
because now you think you didsomething wrong.
You haven't done anything wrong.
That's how God's out.
So really be careful.
So really really be careful howyou allow people to take over
control.
I have a caller on the line.
Hello caller.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (19:49):
hello, hello oh, hi hello, can you?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
hear me.
I can hear you now.
How are you?
I'm doing great.
How are you?
This is Nikki calling fromTallahassee.
Hey, nikki from Tallahassee,hello, I was calling in because
just to to piggyback off of whatyou were saying.
It's so interesting because Iwas just on my way to checkers
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with jisoo in the car and wewere talking about givers and
takers.
She's got, she's in her secondweek of middle school and things
are already happening, all themiddle school things are already
happening, and I was tellingher about boundaries and how you
not train, but you show peoplehow to teach, how to treat you
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based on your boundaries and saythis is a line and if you cross
this line, which just startswith my peace, these are the
consequences for crossing thisline, and that consequence can
be anything, but it could alsobe you not having access to me,
you're not being my friendanymore and I think that what as
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a young girl, as a young ladygoing to be 12 soon?
It was important for me to talkto her about that because she
had a friend who called her name.
It's this week and it reallyhurt her feelings.
It caused her to cry and I saidthis person is disrupting your
peace.
Like you, you are so high.
At the beginning of the day,you were so happy being in
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middle school and seeing allyour friends, and that person
said one word to you and calledyou one word.
And now you're sitting in thecar crying with me and I
encouraged her to be strong butalso to demonstrate to that
friend what happened when youcrossed the boundary and that
boundary you're going to be myfriend.
Like you were saying, I needyou, got you can't just take
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from me.
You have to give because I'mgoing to be my friend.
Like you were saying, I needyou can't just take from me.
You have to give because I'mgoing to give to you.
And I'm kind of going throughsomething similar.
Like my piece is a littledestructive, with the
relationship that I thought wasgoing to last longer than what I
thought.
But I had to ask the questionabout whether that person was
serious or not.
That person gave me an answerand so I have to draw the line.
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That means you don't haveaccess to me.
I am not going to be in thesespots, you know, acting as a
girlfriend to you because youmade it clear that you're not
ready and this individual isclearly very confused, still
trying to see me, you stilltrying to treat me as a
girlfriend.
But I gave that as an exampleto use the answers to the
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callers about creating that line.
My piece was very disruptive.
I talked to you about it, Italked to Nat about it.
I was very confused and youknow, the Bible says, you know
that God is not the author ofconfusion, so if there's
confusion then he's not in it.
And so, right, my teeth wasdisrupted, I wrestled with it
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and now I've got the answer, andnow I'm clear about it.
And so I have to move forwardwith consequences and the
boundaries that I created.
Because I'm valuable, like the,like the video, like I'm a
pearl, so I can't.
I have to really, uh, use,considered peace as something
very precious to me and I can'tcontinue to wrestle and go back
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and forth within somebody aboutwhether they're going to be
serious with me or not and justknow that.
Know, a rejection is not arejection.
You know it's God putting hisdivine timing into it.
And so I just wanted to call inand say that my 11-year-old is
learning about it and me, atalmost 38 years old, is still
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learning about protecting mypeace and creating boundaries
with how people treat me.
Thank you so much for callingin.
I appreciate it and you gaveyour daughter the best advice
that she could ever getBoundaries, boundaries.
So give her my love and I thankyou again for calling in.
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Have a great evening.
Okay, thank you, you too, and Ilove this subject.
It's very, very interesting andgood.
Okay, thank you.
We all say bye, bye, bye.
Let me give a shout out.
There's some people that's onthe line, of course, you guys.
You heard nikki and how sheencouraged her daughter and I,
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you know I really prayed aboutthis.
I said you know, lord, I haveno idea what I'm going to do
this week.
I don't know.
I said I'm just leaning on youand again, I couldn't sleep
because I had that situation andhe was just said you know what?
Your peace was disturbed today.
And I said you're absolutelyright, it was so, yeah, yeah.
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So this is how I came up withthat, because it's just so
important to me and I realizedwhen I turned 40 that time is
out for what people think aboutme, what people say about me.
I have a life to live.
I have some new grandbabiescoming into my life that I want
to share with them.
Shout out to my sister girls,it's a click of me and my
granddaughter, and it's justtime.
It's a click of humangranddaughters, and it's just
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time.
It's time I have a very specialfriend that is joining me
tonight.
I have Jackie Sinise, all theway from North Carolina.
Thank you for joining me.
We just had a new baby, y'all.
I can't wait to see her.
So congratulations on yourlittle bump with Joy, and I love
the pictures that you sent.
Melissa is on the line.
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Hey, cousin, I haven't spokento you in a while, but I'm going
to read your comment.
Her comment says this is agreat topic and as she matures
in life, she values her peace somuch more, and that her piece
is everything.
That's what I'm talking about Acopy type of everything we
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can't, just, we just can't letpeople have.
People will dream and dream anddraw and take, and you're
sitting around like, oh my God,like how did I get to this point
?
I'm like, oh my God, like howdid I get to this point?
I love this topic, thank youLord.
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I love it Because at this pointI'm taking my peace back, I'm
taking my joy back.
I'm not going to allow anybodyto walk, no more.
And I'm going to do it in aprofessional setting.
I'm going to do it with myfamily, my extended family.
I'm not going to, I'm just notgoing to do it.
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Melissa also said she'd agreewith Nikki.
She also teach her thateverybody is not your friend.
You hear that.
The earlier she understands it,the easier it will be for her
to sit down and ask you mature.
It's so true.
We, you know, even with thebaby, even in the classroom with
the babies, if you don't setboundaries with them, they'll be
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up on top of the tables andswinging from the chandeliers.
And you can start early settingboundaries with them.
So you're teaching them how toset boundaries with others.
And they don't have to be partof the clique, they don't have
to be in the that used to sayhip with the groove.
They don't have to be.
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They can be their own person.
And sometimes it's okay to be byyourself, and being by yourself
is going to bring you peace.
You're okay Because, truly, Iused to think that, oh, I wasn't
doing anything if I wasn'tsitting at my house, or if I
wasn't at this person's house,if I wasn't going here and I
wasn't going there.
But now that I'm older, I value, when I get off of work, that I
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come home, lay on the couch,roll through the net, value
peace, my peace is so importantit is and we can't allow people
to take that and I knowsometimes we don't intend to do
it, it just for some crazyreason just happens.
We let our guard down andbefore you know it, like this
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person is doing crazy.
I remember this one pastor sayif you really look at people,
you realize people crazy and youprobably wanted is crazy.
I remember this one pastor sayif you really look at people,
you realize people crazy and youprobably wanted to create
people.
But it's okay, you know.
It's okay to draw back, it'sokay to be you.
It's okay to set thoseboundaries in relationships
boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance,husband and wife.
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You can still set boundarieswith yourself girlfriend, fiance
, husband and wife.
You can still set boundarieswith your spouse.
You can set boundaries withyour spouse.
You have to.
And I'm not talking about I'mnot picking for him type of
boundaries.
I'm just saying you know, ifyou don't say, hold up, I can't
do this right now, I'm going todo this on Thursday and they may
want it done.
Then you know what they can do.
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They can do it themselves.
They can do it themselves, theycan do it, just so.
In other words, everything doesnot require every action.
Just let some things go.
People gonna talk about you.
Oh yeah, they're gonna talkabout you.
They are, but you know whatthey talking about you.
They thinking about you.
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They're gonna say stuff whenyou're up and they gonna say
stuff when you're down.
You cannot control what peoplegonna say about you, how they
gonna judge you.
It is what it is.
I used to, my daughter used tosay that to me.
It is what it is, mom, and Iused to say that's such a
nonchalant response it is whatit is, it's like it, I don't
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care anything about it, it's,that's just what's going to
happen.
But when it comes down topeople judging you, yeah, let it
be what it is, because theydon't believe what they want to
believe and guess what.
You don't have to go to court.
Prove them wrong.
Whoever they talking to, ifthey know you, like they say
they know you, they'll be likeyeah, that ain't something she
would do.
Well, he would do.
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Yeah, that.
That that's the key on that.
How to take control of your feet.
I have four things that I wantto share with you on how you can
take control of your feet.
Shift your focus.
If, whatever it is, it's notgoing to give you any attention,
it's not going to give you anyattention if not going to
benefit you, let it go.
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Focus on the gratitude you havefor yourself, the progress that
you have for yourself, okay,and whatever solutions or goals
that you set for yourself.
That's one of the things youcan do is shift your focus.
I have a caller on the line.
Hey, caller.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Hi Cousin Patsy.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Hey, it's my cousin, Melissa from Atlanta.
Y'all how you doing, I don'tknow.
It's been so long.
I'm doing well, it's just beenso long and I've been missing
your show.
I've been getting the reminders, so this is why I wanted to
call in For all.
I've been getting the reminders, so this is why I wanted to
call in for all of you mothersto give to these kids.
I understand we have these kids, but now I'm dealing with adult
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kids y'all.
But these kids have had thesethreats now since July 31st and
I'd say glance over theirsituation, flying all over the
place to make sure that they'reokay.
And my husband said to me theyare adults, let it go, send them
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home, let them figure it out.
I just had to let it go and Isaid I'm letting go and I'm
letting God.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
And everybody on this line.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
I tell you I was so stressed out to the point I
started to feel ill.
Going from New York, sanAntonio, new York now I've got
to go to Pensacola.
It was just a little too much.
So for you mothers, that'sgreat.
Kids and us to be here, that'sgreat.
Let's do what we can as mothersuntil they become adults and as
adults, let's learn how toprotect our peace, let's learn
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how to set boundaries and let'sjust learn to let go and let God
it is okay with these adultkids.
That's what I had to say.
Well, thank you so much forcalling in and I told them we
agree with you and you know Igot the back paddle on.
Why are you making your kidsmove out?
Why are you doing this?
You shouldn't make them do that, and I wasn't making them
because I felt like the toolswas given for them to be out
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there in that world.
Your goal is to get them outjust so they can have their days
now, if they fall down, amen.
You know, mommy's gonna, mommyoh, I'll be like eric I got a
kiss flight, hey.
Hey.
I tried to move to town Rightand down the street from the
college, but Jordan and I didn'twant to let go.
That was my baby.
He was going to college at 17.
Right, but I'm a big fan.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
I totally get it.
I totally get it.
Speaker 1 (32:45):
Oh yeah, I know, cedric, I understand.
I'm there with you, Iunderstand.
But basically you tell Ty I sayhello and thank you so much for
calling in.
He heard you, he's listening.
But thank you, you're doing agreat job and congratulations on
returning to school.
My mom used to always say howsmart you were.
I'm so proud of you for makingthat choice and then having that
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trajectory for your career.
So congratulations, thank youso much, and hi Ty.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Thanks Teri.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
Bye-bye.
You know, and I know so manyparents that won't let their
adult children be adults.
It's okay to scoop in there andhelp them pick up stuff and get
back on track.
There's nothing wrong with that.
Let me tell you, my kids know Imade sure we had a guest room
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so, if anything happens, mybabies can come home, regroup
and get right back out thereagain.
And we've had a few of themthat have come home.
All of them have come home withone another.
I can't wait until I turn 18 18I'm moving out of this house.
Oh, on that 18th birthday.
Well, guess what?
You're 18, what are your plans?
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And?
But my kids had a plan.
I mean, I had one at firstgrade.
She had already decided whatcollege she was going to go to
give them the tools that theyneed to get out there.
When they get out there andthey're successful, that's when
you know you did a good job.
That's when you know I gavethem what they needed.
And now they're out there andthey're doing their thing.
I love it.
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I love it.
I'm proud of them.
I can't take all the credit forit because they did right there
in the same corner with mesaying, hey, we got to encourage
this and we got to do that and,with the help of the Lord, it
was awesome.
How to take control of yourpeace.
Well, we've already finished.
Give your focus.
Give attention to what helpsyou develop.
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Give attention to what helpsyou grow.
Give attention to what bringsyou satisfaction.
Walk away from whatever is notgoing to be beneficial in your
leisure time.
Take a moment, like I juststarted journaling.
That's something that I forgotto put on.
I did.
The pastor had encouraged us tojournal and I used to a long
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time ago, maybe 20 years ago.
I just started back journalingand I've been going back and
reading from when I firststarted up until the present day
and I realized that I have somuch growth in what I feel about
me which, the more I writeabout it, the more I say you
know I need to go to school, I'mgoing to go to school, so I'm
excited about that.
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But that journaling really,really, really helped, helped me
focus on me.
I try meditating on what I read,my word, I pray and I try, you
know, meditate on what I've readand my prayers, and I try.
I was just telling someone inBible study last night sometimes
I'll be praying so much, Iforget to pray for myself.
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I don't know if that everhappened to any of y'all, but I
get so caught up in the prayerof other people and the Bible
center and seeing your angels toprotect them, protect us.
I get so involved in everybodyelse that I totally forget about
.
And oh yeah, lord, let's notforget about passing, but that
meditating, releasing clutterfrom your mind.
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You know first episode.
On a second episode, we talkedabout self-care.
Do self-care every single day.
If you are a career person andyou get a paycheck every two
weeks, go buy yourself something.
I don't care if it's underwear,mascara.
Buy something for yourself toshow you that you appreciate you
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and you deserve to beappreciated.
And not only that, how Nikkisaid, you have to set the tone
on how you, you deserve to beappreciated.
And not only that, how Nikkisaid, you have to set the tone
on how you're going to betreated.
And if you don't, you'll bewalked all over.
So try meditation and journaling.
Journaling is so good I never.
I just realized how much Ienjoyed it back then.
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I'm really and truly enjoyingit now.
And take all that clutter out,like melissa was saying, she was
so busy about everybody else'sbusiness that she started to
feel sick.
It happens, and we don't eventhink it's happening.
Until that body is shut down on, you Say hello, we need to do
this, and you'll be stuck homeand won't be able to do much of
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nothing.
So quiet your thoughts, yourthoughts, meditating, praying,
journaling, and just an Ustahmoment.
This next one is one of myfavorite out of the four
Challenge and negativity.
If someone is bringingsomething negative to your era
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and your space, ask yourself twoquestions Is this what this
person is saying is true?
And if this is worth my peace?
If it's not worth my peace,it's not worth me even wondering
if it's true or not, because ifit's going to destroy this
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little unit that I got going onhere, I want nothing to do with
it and that's how we have to be.
And I don't hope I sound like amean girl, because I'm not
trying to sound like a mean girl, but it's been too many walks
in life where you have allowedpeople to just enter in and then
they just walk away and leaveyou holding it back and you're
thinking what really happenedhere.
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I was giving my all, I wassupportive If you needed a ride,
if you needed groceries.
I was doing everything like afriend should do and all of a
sudden you're gone.
And now here I am trying towonder what I did.
You didn't do nothing.
You didn't do nothing.
People will take advantage ofyou if you allow them to.
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If you don't set the boundaries, like the caller said, people
will treat you how they want totreat you.
Yeah, that's the challenge ofnegativity, is it true?
Is it worth my peace?
Is it worth my time?
And if it's not, let it go.
Let it go.
People are going to be mad atyou either way.
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That's just the way it is.
They're just going to be thatway the way.
That's just the way it is.
It's just going to be that way.
The fourth one is control whatyou can and what you can't.
Let it go, no matter theoutcome or how things have been
done in the past, no matter howyou have done things in the past
.
Control what you can in yourlife, and I think the most
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important thing that we cancontrol in our lives is our
peace and who we want to allowto give a little bit of that to.
It's so important.
If you have grudges againstpeople, let it go.
It ain't worth it.
Because sometimes we'll hold agrudge against a person and
they'll be over there livingtheir best life and we think how
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can they be so happy afterdoing what they did to me?
They don't care what they didto you, because if they did,
they'll be trying to fix thesituation and not be living
their best life until they fixit.
I remember when I first startedworking at my school there was a
plumber At that time I think Iwas a, I was a classroom
assistant and there was thislady there that she just made
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all of the teachers was justmiserable with this woman.
She just made life miserable foreverybody.
And so we came then we figured,hey, we don't want to, we're
going to walk on eggshells andwe're just going to stay out of
her way, which nobody wants togo to work like that.
And I remember one day sheasked one of the little girls,
asked me this littletwo-year-old baby, and I'm
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pretty sure she was probablysaying what is going on with
this lady.
But you walked in and I saidhey, keelani, how was your
weekend?
And she said good, I said.
And she turned to me.
She said how was yours?
And I said you know this joythat I have, the world didn't
give it and the world can't takeit away, and I refused to let
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this happen again.
And then I kind of caughtmyself and looked over at her
and she was looking like can Iget that cookie?
Like how did we get here?
But that's how I felt and atthat point I went to work my
head.
You know, I want to know thesmile and if her foot was
stepped on, it was stepped on.
Good morning everybody.
I had a wonderful weekend.
This, that and the other Peoplewill do that.
This lady trained, drained theentire department and my friend
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from North Carolina.
She can vouch on that.
But when you take back thatpower and when I took that power
back and became the director,she quit Because she didn't want
to be underneath me.
However, when you allow peopleto take that power, you've got
to be in that place.
Where you got to get it back,you have to get it back.
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So I never held a grudgeagainst this person, but I
remember it was a valuablelesson that I was taught and I
use that a lot.
I share that with people a lotabout how you can't give, give
and then you're not gettinganything back.
You give until you give out andthen you're left to pick up
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your own pieces.
So, with that being said, thatkind of wraps things up.
Just have, don't putunrealistic expectations on
yourself and don't try to pleaseeverybody either.
I love people.
I love hanging out with mygirls.
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Y'all know I'm crazy aboutbabies.
I love hanging out with myfamily, but at the end of the
day, if I can't love, who elseis going to love me?
Well, eric will Eric's going tolove me.
He's going to do it for me.
But Eric will Eric's in lovewith me.
He's hurting me for years but Igotta love me.
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I'm important and we have to beimportant to ourselves.
So one of the things if you guyshave those sticky pads or
sticky notepads, that'ssomething that you can write on
and put it on your bathroommirror so in the morning you can
read this to yourself.
I want you to read this Peaceis my power and I won't trade it
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for anything or anyone.
If you put that on your mirrorwhen you're in the morning,
after you get your stufftogether, say that to yourself
my peace is my power and I'm nottrading it for anything and
anyone.
I'll choose who I want to sharemy peace with and if it's not
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going to bring me joy, if it'snot going to be beneficial to
the way I'm trying to go, thegoals I'm trying to reach, then
you can't have it, you can'thave it.
The Lord gave it to me not tojust give it away and just throw
it and toss it around.
I'm going to say that again mypeace is my power and I won't
trade it for anything or anyone.
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All right, I like that.
I like that.
So, listen, I have about oh, Ihave about 13 minutes.
If anyone want to call in andjust share with us, even if you
have an idea as to how you setboundaries with therapy, I am
going to ask you guys a questionand hopefully someone can
(44:16):
either put in the chat or callme and let me know.
I am headed into a meetingsometime next week.
I'm very passionate, but when Iget to talking, people always
feel like I'm yelling or I'mangry.
So if you can just give me anidea, maybe some breathing
(44:38):
exercises I can do when I'm inthat meeting, because I have to
get these things off my chest.
It's just going on long and youknow, even if you just want to,
if you have my personal number,you can text me and let me know
, and that would be great.
Again, if you want to call in,the number is 754-222-2219.
(45:00):
So give me a call if you can.
If not, you can put it in thechat and I'll go ahead and I'll
read it off again.
I want to thank you guys fortuning in with me.
I appreciate it.
I really really do, and thecalls were great.
It really encourages my heartto hear that I'm not the only
person that's having issues withsaying no, yeah and then saying
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no and then feeling guilty ofit.
We can't do that.
We have to be on the up and up.
We have to be able to say yeah,not today, I'm busy, even if
you ain't busy.
I remember my daughter called meone day and she said hey, mom,
are you busy?
And I said yep.
She said what you doing?
(45:46):
I said nothing and she was likeso you're not busy.
I said yeah, I'm busy doingnothing, this is what I want to
do, this is my busyness, and shewas like crazy.
She was like this woman is nuts.
But if I went into control ofthat, she probably had me
running an errand, going to dothis, going to do that.
So I'm busy doing nothing andit's okay to be busy doing
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absolutely nothing.
It's where you get the rest.
It's where you get the rest.
Thank you, ty.
Ty said hey, cousin, great topic.
Thank you, Ty, I appreciate it,but you know, okay, I'm not
going to get any phone calls.
I'm trying to hold out a littlebit.
I don't want to shut you guysout, but I also just want to
know, you know, this has reallybeen so therapeutic for me.
(46:34):
That moment, really, it reallytook my joy away and this was
just.
I guess this was a lot for meand I'm grateful that I that I
was obedient and did theresearch on it and got
information that really helped.
I kind of scrolled throughTikTok and got a few calls, got
(46:55):
a few videos and a few words ofencouragement.
I know that book that younglady said about tears of pride.
I going to definitely go andget that book.
Oh yeah, natalie, put in thechat.
Rest is essential.
Let me tell you everybody, frommy job to my church and my
(47:16):
church itself, in the summertime, when I'm out from 2 to 4, I'm
taking a nap.
And now this time is the right.
You can't ask it in betweenthose hours.
I'd be like, hello, how yousleep?
Well, no, I'm not sleeping if Ianswer the phone, but everybody
know I get my risk.
I really, really need my risk,and Natalie also put in there.
(47:38):
By the way, hang that deep,deep belly breathing, okay, my,
while I'm in the meeting when Istart to feel my temperature
rise, just okay, I can do that.
I'm going to be working on itbecause it's next week so I got
time to work on that.
I'm just.
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When it comes down to children,I'm just so passionate I'm
actually going to argue.
The fact that there's atwo-year-old that's in the room
with babies, that told us theother day, told the teacher the
other day when he wanted toleave the circle time.
Come on, man.
I was like this child is not,he doesn't like to be here.
It's nice to be here and I findit is a lot with, you know, a
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lot of the minority not minoritychildren Hispanic, black, asian
that you know they'll do thattoo, but in this particular
program it's pretty muchcentered around a lot of the
minorities.
We don't have a lot ofnon-minorities in there.
But it's an excellent program,I think, you know, with a good
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curriculum and teachers.
I think the sky is the limit.
So yeah, I'll definitely trythat deep daily breathing and
I'll make sure I get a goodnight's rest the night before.
I can either wake upprofessionally and handle this
All righty then.
(49:02):
Well, we are coming to a closeand again I'm gonna leave you
guys with a video and I wanty'all to really listen to it and
take in what this young lady issaying.
But again, I'm gonna thank you.
Thank you for joining.
Even you can also share thisafter the podcast, because it
will run again on youtube, aswell as our other outlets I
(49:23):
believe Spotify, apple I'm notsure with all of them, but the
same outlets that we have forthe Marriage in Real Life
podcast, which is coming back inSeptember.
I'm excited about that.
We got some good stuff going on.
So, with that being said, Ithank you.
I thank you from the bottom ofmy heart for tuning in.
(49:43):
You guys made me so happy.
I feel so much better, felt.
Said I thank you.
I thank you from the bottom ofmy heart for tuning in.
You guys made me so happy.
I feel so much better.
Felt like I got a lot off mychest, and the encouraging calls
was just on top of it, and Ijust want to give a shout out to
everyone who have been here.
And again, I thank you and youhave a good night.
Roll that last video for me,dave, sir, a good night.
Speaker 3 (50:03):
Roll that last video for me dave, we protect your
peace and don't apologize for it.
Some folks thrive in chaos, butthat don't mean you got to
invite it to your doorstep.
Speaker 2 (50:24):
I'm going to find them in the post office.
Bring them to the cancer Countsand maybe I'll make it.
(50:48):
I'm here for the animals.
They're gone.
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