June 19, 2025 • 59 mins
Marriage doesn't come with a manual, but our season three finale delivers something just as valuable: raw, honest answers to your most pressing relationship questions.
What does it truly mean to keep God at the center of your marriage beyond Sunday service? We explore practical approaches like praying together, studying scripture as a team, and serving others—creating a spiritual foundation that withstands life's inevitable challenges. For couples navigating parenthood, we offer counter-intuitive wisdom: scheduling one-on-one time with each child actually creates more space for your marriage to flourish. The tactical advice ranges from utilizing bedtime routines to finding trusted childcare so you can nurture your relationship without guilt.
Relationship routines can slowly suffocate even the strongest marriages. We discuss why intentional spontaneity matters and how to break patterns before stagnation sets in. Drawing from 33 years of experience, we share how faith shapes conflict resolution, teaching us patience and forgiveness when disagreements arise. Our conversation takes a thoughtful turn when examining what we learned from marriages we witnessed growing up—and how those observations shaped our own relationship journey.
When discussing advice for newlyweds, we don't sugarcoat the reality: marriage requires commitment beyond the wedding day. As one viewer perfectly stated, "Accept that you made the decision, now work on making it the right decision." Our candid discussion of Tyler Perry's film "Straw" highlights the struggles of single parents and the importance of community support, especially for women carrying heavy burdens alone.
Join us for this intimate conversation, and stay tuned for our upcoming projects: Lady P's new podcast "Let's Talk About It" launches June 23rd, focusing on women's perspectives regardless of relationship status. Like, share, and subscribe as we prepare for season four with more authentic conversations about navigating marriage in real life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, welcome to Marriage and Real Life, welcome,
welcome.
We're so glad that you couldjoin us.
This is our last, last one forseason three, the finale.
Yes yes, yes, yes.
Well, hey, what's beenhappening these last two weeks?
(00:21):
What's been happening theselast two weeks?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Finally, the last day of school came.
I think I was more excited thanthe children.
Wow, I was ready to get out ofthere, jesus, oh man, I was so
ready for it to be over, but nowI'm kind of just waving around.
You know, doing my thing.
Sometimes I don't even comb myhair.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Wow yeah.
No makeup around.
You know, doing my things,sometimes I don't even comb my
hair.
Wow, yeah, yeah, no makeup,right right, right right.
Excited about that.
Okay, all right, all right,cool.
Yeah, hey, you know, got alittle bad news for myself, but
I think I'm gonna be.
I'm gonna be all right, youknow, I thank god.
You know that I'm still alive,right?
Yeah, I'm still alive.
(01:03):
So, you know, these last twoweeks it's been great.
Not even two weeks, it's beenmore than two weeks, hasn't it?
Since school has been out?
No, not since school has beenout, since we've been podcasting
.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Absolutely, it's been quite a minute yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yeah, it's been a minute yeah yeah yeah, so well,
thank God that we're back.
Hey, we wanted to make surethat you like and share, like
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We want to just answer somequestions tonight.
We thank each and every personwho sent in questions.
We got a number of questionstonight that we're going to
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being in our little new studio.
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Well, hey, I'm ready to getstarted.
What you got.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
You ready to get started?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, Are you ready to get started, or you want to
wait a little bit?
What's your deal?
Yeah, are you ready to getstarted, or are you what you
want?
You want to wait a little bit?
What's your deal?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
I'm fine, let's let's get this party started.
It's this way.
This time we'll have enoughtime to get through everything.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Oh, okay, hey, I do want to talk about that movie we
saw today though.
Okay today though okay, I dowant to talk about that.
I think we talk about it at theend.
Okay, we'll talk about at theend when we know uh, you see
that I'm a liker, um, my like ishere.
Hey, ferg is here, all right.
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Hey, rob Rob, watching fromOrlando.
All right, let me get we'refrom North Carolina A lot of
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them from Tamarack, tamarack,our old stomping ground.
Yeah, that's an old stompingground right there.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.
So again, we got some questionsin and we're going to just go
through these questions and youknow and see I'll chime in, let
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us know.
Yeah, let us know.
If you got some more questions,you can put it in the chat and
we would love to answer thosequestions.
All right, All right.
So I'm not going to say who thequestions are from.
Questions, all right, all right.
So I'm not going to say who thequestions are from, okay, all
right.
I'm just going to say you knowthat this is the question.
Okay.
Right, and so they know whoasked the question.
Okay, all right.
(03:54):
So the first question is this.
The first question is this howdo you intentionally keep God
first in a marriage as a marriedcouple?
And it is, it is he said.
The person says they're not abroad question, but for it to
not be only go to church or onsome weekends type of marriage,
(04:16):
right?
So I guess that means how doyou keep God first?
And you know, just hey, just goto church.
You know some people say, hey,just go to church, and that's
keeping God first, right.
And so I guess so you want tosay how do you intentionally
keep God first in the marriageas a married couple?
All right, that's the firstquestion.
All right, what you got, whatdo you think?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I think about making it a priority to pray together.
Okay.
To you know everybody studiesdifferently.
But throw a scripture out.
This is a scripture for thisweek.
We concentrate on thatscripture or, individually, we
read that scripture.
Okay, and maybe at dinner time,talk about what did you get
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from that scripture.
Okay.
You know, and how did you?
What was God saying to youdoing that scripture?
Because sometimes we can readthe same scripture and get
something totally different fromit.
Right, right, right right.
So I think by connecting thatway, intentionally doing those
things, will bring out that youknow, okay, we, we, we, we.
We hit it in the rightdirection.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Oh, man, that's good, right there, I got to give you.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's good, right there, I got to give you
.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's it.
That's how you keep God first,keep him in the center.
That make every decision, thatyou make every major decision
like you said, major decisionyou communicate with him and let
him know that he's first Rightby praying, reading the word,
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know and doing those things andserving yeah, definitely, yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
That's something that I love about serving serving
together.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Serving together, right yeah, serving together
maybe an usher or maybe a deaconI mean you know, just I mean,
even if you're just in thecapacity where maybe you can um
talk to you yeah, you don't haveto be in the church, you know,
and you don't have to be, that'sright, you don't have to be at
the church, you know teenagers,especially the teenagers.
Yes, they need us more than everthey need to see a married
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couple right, because what a lotof them see is seen, have seen
is broken homes, right they've.
They've seen the mother, youknow, just taking running with
you know, run with it, you know,and a lot of them haven't seen
the father in it.
They haven't seen marriages.
And so what happens is, I thinkthey grow up and because they
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haven't seen marriages, whenthey talk about getting married
they don't know nothing about itbecause they haven't seen it
right.
So, for marriage, for marriedcouples, if you want to, you
know, again, keep God first.
You know, serve and let themsee what a true married couple
is.
All right, cool.
I hope that answered yourquestion.
(07:01):
I hope that answered yourquestion.
We got some more questions hereand we got some good ones.
My baby, I'm telling you yougot to be up on it now.
All right, All right.
So this is another question howdo you make time for each other
(07:22):
when you have kids?
How do you make time for eachother when you have kids?
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Hmm, hmm, how do you make time for each other?
When you have kids.
It depends.
Okay, if you have babies, thendowntime when you put them down
at night.
That's the time when you could,you know, do what you have to
do spend time with each other.
Right, right, right Go watch amovie, yeah, but then when you
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have older kids, you have to seta schedule.
That's what we did.
Okay, you know, we had whereeverybody had their time.
So we had where everybody hadtheir time.
Well, you know, especially withme, because Eric was, you know,
active duty, so he was a lot ofthe times out of the home.
So what I would do is I wouldset up a schedule for me to
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spend time with each one of thechildren.
Now, the baby always got the endof the schedule, because I
could put him in the bed with meand let him talk about whatever
he want to talk about.
I could put him in the bed withme and let him talk about
whatever he wanted to talk about.
But I would schedule thatquality time with each one of
the children.
I think I started with theoldest and I went down to the
baby, so Peaches had her timewith me, whether I might be in
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the kitchen cooking dinner orsitting in the living room or
sitting in the den watching amovie or watching tv right and
the other kids can interruptthat time and then I think I
spent a lot, most of the timewith nat whenever she was in the
bathtub, okay, or if I'm in thein the bathroom, she would come
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into the in the bathroom andsit on the toilet and talk to me
while I shower and she had atime.
So I should try to map out thattime with each child.
Right Give them their qualitytime.
Right, right.
Believe it or not, it's soimportant for them to have their
time, because once they havetheir time then you ain't got to
worry about no chaos going on.
So when you get ready tosnuggle up with your honey bear,
(09:20):
All right no interruptingbecause they already got.
They already got their time,you know I think that's how we,
we did that.
And again, when it's when youhave a little one, it's
different because they're moodyand sometimes they might
participate.
They might be okay to do this,you know, to settle down right
and then it's times and they belike oh no, I'm up for the night
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so y'all get with the program.
Right, right, right you know.
also, when you do that, you knowfind you a good little
babysitter in the community.
You know even the Red Cross.
You can call them and they havetrained babysitters and get you
a babysitter and take a walk,walk around the block, hold
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hands, you know, get in thatquality time.
It's so important.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Look at what Ferg says.
Ferg says understand that y'allwere first, I mean the couple,
so you have to lovingly ignorethem, kids.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Absolutely.
I agree with that.
I agree with that.
I tell people all the time likethose kids are going to grow up
and move on.
They're going to have their ownfamily, their own relationship,
and what you're going to bedoing is sitting down trying to
figure out who your husband isand who your wife is Right,
right, right I totally agreewith that, because sometimes
you've got to be like hey, y'allgo, sit down, we're going to
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take a nap.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
You've got to take those naps.
We're going to take a nap.
You got to take those naps.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
We're going to take a nap.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
You got to take those naps.
So yeah, so that's that, so youknow again.
I think that's good advice.
And and the person went on tosay what does quality time looks
like?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Oh, quality time can be anything.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Oh, quality time can beanything.
Yeah, it could be a Sundaydrive, just being in the
presence of each other andsharing.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
Maybe, if it's on a Sunday, what I got to do next
week.
What's coming up at work?
You know anything Doing apicnic in the living room.
It don't have to be expensive,although we do like to get taken
out on dates, but vice versa,because I take Eric on dates as
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well.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yes, she does, yes, she does.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Oh, you know she treat a man good, you know that
time and I think the mostimportant point in quality time
is communication okay open andhonest and letting a person you
know.
Let them know how you feel, letthem know what's going on in
there in your life.
You have to realize and I thinkI've said it so many times
before we can't read each otherminds right the lord has truly
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blessed us all with talents, buthe did not give that.
What he didn't do you know that,that that he gave us the choice
to make to serve him so he,he's not going to give us that.
You know, eric is feeling likethis past you know no right
right right tell him if you, ifwe don't share it one another,
we don't communicate with oneanother.
(12:20):
We don't, we don't know right wejust don't know, and I think a
lot of marriages um strugglebecause I don't want to hurt
your feelings or I don't want to.
You know, I don't.
I don't want you to be upsetwith me if I tell you that I
feel this way or you're going toact a certain way if I tell you
that I'm feeling like this youknow, and and sometimes you do
(12:41):
get a little shady.
Now, no, I'm not going say that, sometimes be like I can't
believe you said that all right,you know.
And then other times he'll belike he'll shut down on me, so
then.
So now I'm at this point where,okay, I ain't gonna say nothing
, I'm just gonna let the chipsfall where they may all right,
all right and when they fallwhere they may, I'd be like
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didn't I tell you that was goingto happen?
I knew it, you know, I felt itin my spirit, but I didn't want
to say anything because I didn'twant the silent treatment.
I didn't want the you know thewhat do they?
call it Backlash of it.
So yeah, so it's important.
You know that quality time isso important.
So yeah, so it's important.
(13:23):
You know that quality time isso important.
Even if you can't sayeverything that you feel, write
it down, write a note, write aletter.
Do a sticky note, Because yourspouse does not know if you
don't tell them.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Right, right, right, another question, okay, um,
another question, okay, another.
Another question is how tobreak from routines.
How can a married couple breakfrom routines?
You know, yeah, I mean you justhave to be disciplined to do it
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and you have to make up yourmind that you're going to do it
right.
If you know a routine is you getup in the morning, uh, you do
this and you know it's just like.
You have a routine.
You gotta, the night before yougotta say, okay, when I get up
in the morning, I'm not gonna dothis, I'm going to break the
routine.
You know how they used to tellus, um, like when, when are all
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over the place?
They say make sure you knowdifferent routes to get home,
right, because somebody may befollowing you.
So that means you go differentroutes to get home.
So you don't have a routine,because once somebody knows your
routine, you get in trouble,right, they know, okay, that
person's going to be here, thatperson's going to be there, that
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person's going to be there,that person's going to be there,
and you, you know they couldjust follow you by your routine
and you don't want nobody tofollow you by your routine.
In a sense, you do.
In a sense you don't.
But as a married couple youwant to not have a routine that,
okay, every day I know they'regoing to be here at this time or
they're going to be there atthat time.
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Sometimes you got to do.
You got to have spontaneity,spontaneity in your marriage.
That's what you got to have.
Without spontaneity in yourmarriage, it gets dull.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
And boring and boring .
You know my girl used to tellus that all the time you don't
take the same route, all thetime Change it up, do something
different.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
She was wise.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
And I was like it's going to take me an extra few
minutes to go around the wholeroute when I can just shoot
right through there.
But I get it now because youknow to make a change, to be
spontaneous.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
It's hard, though, when you're working and you got
your careers and you got to getup in the morning, walk the dogs
, feed the dogs.
You know you get complacent Isthat the word.
And it's hard to break out ofthat.
You know, because you know yougot to feed your kids, you got
to feed the dog.
You got to feed the dog, you gotto get everything taken care of
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before you head out the door.
So you know, I would say maybelater.
I would say, you know, break upthe routine like Tuesday,
thursday and Saturday.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Right.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Something different.
Mm-hmm.
You know, and then the nextweek do Monday, wednesday and
Friday.
Mm-hmm.
Just to change things up, addsomething to the routine.
You know, I used to Tell meGrace, before I would leave for
work I'd wake Eric up and dancewith me, like straight up out of
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his sleep.
Like come on, baby.
I like this son come dance withme.
And he's like half asleepbecause he didn't work all night
.
But I just wanted to break, youknow, break, break up that
whole schedule thing and see howit was gonna turn out.
Well, I stopped waking him upthank god I did stop waking him
up, but just the fact that hewas willing to get up, although
he had worked, worked on.
I had just gotten in about six30.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
I was just getting up and getting messed up making
memories and enjoying time witheach other, like you, each
reading your own book but in thesame room, or listen to some
old school, all right.
When it comes down tospontaneity and routines, he
says switch roles once a week.
Wow, kids, be the parents,husband be the wife, and so on,
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so on that sounds like fun ohman yeah that is fun.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Can you imagine your kids acting like you?
Are you acting like them?
Oh boy they'll really feel ohgod, I don't want no kids.
Y'all just don't listen, youknow yeah, yeah, yeah but that
is so true.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
I never really thought about being being the
husband yeah yeah I think I dopretty good at that you just
don't know what people arethinking and what uh is going on
in in their lives.
You try to have empathy foreach other and try to understand
.
You know what each other go toby switching roles.
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Yeah, you know, I wish we couldswitch the roles in the work
space as well.
But yeah, yeah, that's.
That's.
That's pretty good.
I like that.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
If I did your job, they'll fire me.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
I'm not a computer person at all what you wanted me
to attach this to that.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Yeah, I was just checking my email, uh-huh but.
I can give you six hours withmy baby boy.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Look at here, I don't know about that.
You know, I don't like all thatcrying when I be, when don't
cry, they fight I know, but whenthey?
Speaker 3 (18:45):
At the end of the year, when they start crying.
They cry a lot.
Yeah.
After about two weeks they inthere now.
They telling you off.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
They telling me off, mm-hmm what they say you.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
Like this little girl here.
Like you know, I really feellike she said something to me in
Spanish.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
In Spanish, she probably did, she probably did.
Well, you'll see her next year,right, I'll see her next year
She'll be too.
Oh man, She'll probably betalking more.
You know that she will betalking more.
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And yeah, what Ferg said we arenot switching roles during
childbirth.
I hear you, Ferg.
Yeah, that should be the mainone no sir, no sir, we ain't
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switching roles caring, norduring childbirth, no sir we
probably couldn't no, y'allcould, we probably couldn't
nobody knows oh boy, nobodyknows the trouble like a woman.
Nobody knows.
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All right, okay, all right.
So let's go, let's get back tosome more questions and get some
more nice questions all right,here we go, I'm gonna give,
you'm ready.
Okay, you've been answering alot of them, so you're good, all
right.
So the question was how hasyour faith shaped the way you
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approach marriage and handleconflict?
How has your faith shaped theway you approach marriage and
handle conflict?
How about that one?
Hmm, hmm.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
You can paint that one.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Oh, okay, well, I think you know, by my faith of
knowing who God is, what he hasdone for me, right, I can be
more forgiving because I know heforgave me right.
So my faith really helps that,even in conflict, like when I
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said, oh, you're wrong aboutthis, you're wrong about that.
No, that's not how God does it.
Right, god is patient, god isloving, he is kind, Right, he
loves us regardless.
So, even though I may not likewhat you did or like what you
said, right, I still love youRight.
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And so I think that's why Ithink my faith has, has prepared
me and shaped the way Iapproach conflict and marriage,
because God is so loving, right,and he's forgiving and he's
understanding, and so he don'ttry to push himself on you, he
doesn't do all of those kinds ofthings.
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He's weights and so, and hereally he don't try to push
himself on you, he doesn't doall of those kinds of things,
he's weights and so, and hereally he don't argue with you.
You just do what you know, youdon't.
God ain't got time to bearguing with us.
He really don't yeah he reallydon't what you got.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
I think the way faith has shaped our marriage is.
You know, I've learned to trustGod through everything, mm-hmm,
especially the hard times.
You know.
I have to keep reminding myselfthat you know, if God has
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bought us out of so manysituations, there's no way.
Right.
There's no way he's going tolet this marriage fail.
Right.
Even in the midst of ourconflict, I have faith that
God's going to give one of us aword, or give one of us
something encouraging to say tothe other.
Mm-hmm.
You know, we don't have aproblem apologizing when we're
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wrong.
You know, and I think that'sbecause of the relationship
don't have a problem apologizingwhen we're wrong.
You know, and I think that'sbecause of the relationship that
we have with Christ and thatyou know we've built so much
over the years that it's, youknow, it's really easy.
It's easy for me to have faithin God.
It hasn't always been that way,but I've seen his hand move so
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many times in our marriage.
Don't forget.
You know I was getting ready topack up.
I'm about to bounce.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, you're about to bounce.
You're about to go On the giddyup.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
I'm finna take joy, and then we finna go live in the
country until I move toCharleston, because I wasn't
going to stay out there too longwith that wild life, but you
know.
I was about to go and you knowGod just kept reminding me that
he's in control of this and whathe put together, you know, no
man can put asunder.
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So you know to have faith thatthings are going to work out in
our favor and we wouldn't end updivorced or separated.
Right.
Or you know anything like that.
So I think that built my faithand that helped strengthen.
I think with the faith it helpsstrengthen the marriage.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Right, right, right, you know putting God first.
All right, cool, all right.
I like that.
I like that.
Yes, you do, you get a handclap.
All right, what?
This is a good one here.
This is a good question righthere.
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What lessons did you learn aboutlove and commitment from the
marriages you saw growing up?
What lessons did you learnabout love and commitment from
the marriages that you saw up?
I would say this you know, likeI said before, a lot of people
didn't grow up when they, youknow, with marriages.
What I saw with my, with my dadand my mom, was that, you know,
my dad would always, um, I, I,I'm gonna be honest, I can't, I
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can't remember the?
I.
There's times that I would seethem pick or kiss, right, I
can't remember that, but I knewthat he loved, you know, cause
my dad was Jamaican and theyjust had their ways of showing
that they love.
Even though they may not say it,they just believe back.
You know back then, that they.
You know, if I'm taking care ofyou, if I'm doing this, I'm
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doing that.
You know that, that.
You know that I love you.
And one thing that I you knowthat I did admire about my dad
one of the things I did admireabout him was that, you know, my
mom didn't have to ask for likedresses or something like that.
He would just come in and say,hey, go buy your frock you know,
right, just go and buy yourfrock.
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He just saw that and he just sawthe need or the want and she
didn't have to come out becauseshe was making her own money.
But he would say, go ahead andbuy your frock.
You know, just go ahead, buyyour frock.
You know, just go ahead.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
You know, buy that stuff, and and now she was a
clean woman going to church now,yes, she was, and he and he was
clean going to church too.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
So I, you know, that's what I saw in in that,
you know, and again, sometimeswe see in marriages some things
that, um, we want to do better.
You know, and I, you know,again, I saw a lot of the
marriages because where I was inPahokee it was a lot of people
that was married.
You know, I didn't evenremember single mothers in
(26:33):
Pahokee.
I remember married couples, youknow, but all of them were
older.
So you know, that's what I saw.
What about you?
Speaker 3 (26:42):
Well, you know, my family didn't have a lot of
marriages, so it was reallynothing for me to piggyback off
of.
My mom married my stepdad, butthey divorced when I was like 13
.
Okay, I don't know.
I don't remember seeing muchaffection there.
(27:04):
You know, mom cooked, shecleaned, she worked, she took
care of the kids Dad he drovetrucks, so he would be on the
road a lot.
Right.
So I didn't get to see theintimate relationship with them
caring for each other.
But when he came home, mom madesure he had some food.
She made sure his clothes wasclean.
She did her wifely duties,whatever duties home.
(27:25):
Mom made sure he had some food,she made sure his clothes was
clean.
She did, um, like her wifelyduties whatever duties that a
wife should be doing, uh-huh.
Um, I did have an aunt thatthat got married and she moved
to minnesota.
So and for, young people to seemarried couples.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
If it's in the church or it's outside the church.
It's very important that youknow they see those couples.
All right, all right, all right, cool.
Okay.
We answered some questionstonight.
Boy, they coming, they coming.
So what has been your biggestchallenge in marriage and how
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did prayer or scripture help youovercome it?
What has been your biggestchallenge in marriage and how
did prayer or scripture help youovercome it?
Hmm, what has been your biggestchallenge in marriage and how
has prayer or scripture helpedyou overcome it?
What is your biggest challenge?
The biggest challenge iscommunication with me.
Is that it?
Speaker 3 (28:46):
I think one of my biggest challenges no well I can
.
I mean, I guess I can saysometimes I feel like you don't
hear me.
Sometimes I feel like don'thear me.
Sometimes I feel like like youbrush my opinion aside, so I'm
(29:14):
reluctant to share certainthings with you.
However, um, I just pray andI'm like in the past.
In the past, when I felt thisway, I just prayed about it Lord
, what's going on here and Ijust kind of placed it at the
master's feet and I started tosee the change.
(29:37):
I don't apply scripture to alot of stuff when it comes down
to our relationship, unlesswe're together studying
something biblically.
But most of the time when Ifeel like I'm having an issue, I
(29:58):
just take it to the Lord inprayer.
Okay.
Because I don't want to, as mygrandmother would say, shoot
from the hip.
Okay, I don't want to shootfrom the hip and then stir up a
whole bunch of other stuff thatyou know cause a whole how would
I say a whole flood when it'sjust a sprinkle?
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Right right, we got King here, we got King out there
.
Don't worry, we're going tofeed you king.
You got food, okay, yeah.
All right, cool, cool.
Yeah, I mean, prayer is likeyou said is.
(30:42):
I mean oftentimes you tell,especially you tell people, when
you're trying to get somethingdone, when your wife don't see
it or when your husband don'tsee it, you go to God in prayer,
you know, and you go to.
You know, go to God in prayerand and you know, and, and
(31:04):
that's how you do it, becauseonly god can change people,
because when you try to changepeople, it will never work,
right, it would never work.
So you got to make sure you goto god in prayer, right, that's
what you want to do, absolutelyall right.
So that's, if you, if you'rehaving trouble and maybe your
(31:24):
spouse is not listening to youor whatever, go to prayer, go
and go and say you know I'mgoing to prayer and you know, I
said, you know Lord, just uh,help, help my spouse, listen to
me, you know, and and make themunderstand where I'm coming from
.
And you know, let let God dohis work.
Yeah, you know, let God do hiswork, because the Holy Spirit,
(31:45):
man, I'm telling you it will getyou.
Change things.
It will change things.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
That's right.
I would say, like, if thechallenges become abusive, maybe
verbally or physically, if itgets to a point where it's
definitely, you know, pray forsomewhere else to be, I can't
push that enough because youknow your mental health, your
(32:21):
physical health, is so important.
It is it's very important andit's no scripture gonna back up.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
It's okay for you to stay if you're not, if you're
being abused right right so yeah, prayer prayer, yeah, prayer,
yeah, you, you gotta pray, yougotta pray about it and, um, you
know, once you, once you prayabout it, I think, hey, michelle
, hey Michelle, all right, whatdid you say?
(32:47):
She can't wait, what Can't waitfor the single stuff?
All right, hey, ask thequestion about the single stuff.
We will, we'll, we'll make ithappen, we'll make it happen,
all right, all right, I know, Iknow, one question was you know,
what was it that you know thatmade us say that you know it's
(33:11):
marriage time instead.
Of dating time.
Why are you laughing?
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Because you didn't date me, we did date.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
Oh, come on.
But when it came down tomarriage, I just told you, I
said, hey, the next time youcome out to Quantico we're going
to get married.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
I'll hear that proposal Say that again.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
But I had already asked your mom, though.
I had already asked your momand I said the next time you
come out, we're going to getmarried.
And what did you say?
Okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (33:44):
I should have said well, dang no, ring no.
Get down on your knees and saymake me the happiest man on this
earth and be my wife.
None of that.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
That's why, on our 27 , on 27, that was it boy, wasn't
it?
You know, the boy did it.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
No, I ain't saying that, but I think at that point
it was more or less.
You know, eric and I had doneall of the clubbing and hanging
out, and you know this, it wastime, and I think you know when
it's time and I love this storyand I use it all the time.
(34:25):
You know when it's time and Ilove the story and I and I use
it all the time, you you know,and I am with Jordan.
I said to Jordan I was likeJordan, you never date, you
never dated anybody else.
You don't you sure you don'twant to.
You're going to college.
Right, right.
A whole bunch of girls out there.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Right, right.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Right, you know, jordan, I'm like really trying
to boost him out Now that I youknow, I'm like, come on, you
don't want to marry the firstgirl you fall in love with.
And he say mom, when you know,you know and that's it.
And we looking at what?
Six years now?
Speaker 1 (34:56):
Yep, shout out to you , I'm a lucky.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
So you know when it's time you can't lean to your own
understanding.
You definitely want to takethat to the Lord in prayer
because you don't want to jumpout there.
There's so many marriagesdivorce, but they had an
extravagant wedding.
Yes.
Oh, the angels was hanging fromthe ceiling.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
Oh Jesus.
Speaker 3 (35:23):
And 90 days later they trying to figure out why in
the world that we marry eachother.
So you know me.
Go to the courthouse and have anice backyard barbecue.
Go to the courthouse and thenlater in life, if you want to do
, you can do.
Yeah, but I think the mostimportant thing is you know date
.
You have to date.
You have to get to know oneanother.
(35:44):
You can't just go off offeeling right.
Feelings come and go right youknow you got to be in your head
like this is a person that I'mgoing to spend the rest of my
life with not no, I'm gonnamarry him, but my next husband,
no, no, no, no, you don't go init with the second thought yeah
you're going with going it withconcrete commitment, that's
(36:06):
right, loyalty, that's right I'mgonna be loyal to dev.
Do us part.
If he gets sick, I'm gonnabathe him and change his diaper.
If she gets sick, I'm gonnabathe her, change you in this
thing for the long haul.
You have to truly, truly knowwhat you're getting into,
because I say it all the time,marriage is not for the week
it's not it is not for the week.
(36:26):
You can you sometimes you give80, they give 20, sometimes you
give, they give 80, you give 20but that's the balance of it
being able to pick up the, pickup the um, like I said, be able
to tag him in and say I can't dothis no more right, right and
he'd be able to tag you in andsay I can't't.
You know, it's a commitment,it's a unity, and I always say
(36:47):
that you have to be willing tosacrifice even when you don't
want to.
That's right.
And when you finally get marriedif you can don't have no kids
right away enjoy each other,learn, travel, do some stuff you
(37:11):
know.
You see, joining them made uswait a whole two years, but I
but I respect that because theywere learning and growing with
each other.
Now they're no longer collegestudents and in separate
colleges, now they're a marriedcouple together.
So they enjoy that time to getto know one another and I'm so
looking forward to the rest oftheir journey yeah, you know, it
(37:31):
will first say first says y'allapprove that the big and
expensive weddings don'tguarantee happiness and
longevity you better give him aclap, that's right, thank you
for, thank you for.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
And then he only says you know him and donna went to
the jesters of the peace andlasted a good 32 years yeah, and
see, that's what I'm saying,because you, you, your mind was
made up that this is what I wantright right nothing's gonna
sway, nothing's gonna sway me tothe left.
Speaker 3 (37:59):
I'm in love with it, you know not, not no I.
Speaker 1 (38:02):
I guess the point we want to say is that we're not
saying that you're not supposedto have a wedding.
If you want to have a weddingand you can do it, then do it,
but again, don't spend $30,000on a wedding.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
Well, if he's the one , and he's a commitment and a
loyalty, well, if you got$30,000 to spend, then that's on
you.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
I mean what I'm just saying don't put so much on the
wedding, because you still gotlife.
You still got life and you know, don't think marriage is all
about the wedding.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Right, you know Pastor Barr said that so many
people focus so much on thewedding they forget about the
focus of the marriage.
Yeah, they focus on the weddingmore than forget about the
focus of the marriage.
Speaker 1 (38:43):
Marriage yeah, they focus on the wedding more than
the marriage.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
That marriage thing is no joke.
Yeah, it's a rollercoaster ride.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
Because it makes no sense to wind up going through
life three years, four years andget divorced and say I mean
what can you say, okay, you gotwo years, three years and get
divorced and say what can yousay, okay, you go two years,
three years and get divorced andsay, oh, I, but I had a bad
wedding, though, but I had a badwedding.
Hey, no, no, no, no.
You don't want to be rememberedfor your wedding, you want to
be remembered for your marriagefor what people see on the
(39:21):
outside.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
you know it's so funny because people will say,
oh, my goodness, I want what youguys have, y'all been together
forever.
But you know what it's beentrial and error.
It hasn't been perfect and itstill ain't perfect.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Right.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
You know, but it's because we decided that this is
what we're going to stick with,that we're going to love one
another and we're going to bethere for one another, no matter
what.
That's loyalty, that'scommitment, that's unity, that's
tag teaming, you know.
So I mean hey.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Hey, that's what you got to do, you know.
I mean, you got to you know,you just got to you.
Just, man, I'm telling you Ilove you baby, I really do.
Thank you All right?
All right, we're getting readyto wrap it up a little bit,
cause we do want to talk aboutthat movie.
All right, all right.
(40:16):
And what ways have you seen Godwork, through your marriage, to
bless others?
Speaker 3 (40:25):
Wow, you know I often say I can't believe.
People actually want to hearwhat my opinion is about certain
things.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
Right, right right.
Speaker 3 (40:38):
I'd be like why do they think that what I have to
say is important?
They think that what I have tosay is important.
But God showed me the other day.
He said you know, the versethat I put in your mouth are not
for you.
He say you have a I can'tremember what exact verse, but
(40:58):
he says I draw people to me andpeople are willing to hear, and
so when he's speaking through me, he gives me the verse to say
and that's why people think thatI have something to say.
So I see him moving in me, I seehim changing me, the patience
(41:20):
and understanding and empathyand compassion for people you
know, for people, and he saysjust like you are with those
babies, wow, that's the same wayyou have to be with the ladies.
You have to be open, you haveto be patient, you have to
(41:41):
understand where they're comingfrom.
You know, I guess I shouldn'tbe slick at the mouth, but yeah,
you shouldn't be slick at themouth but you know, I just want
to keep things real with people.
I don't want them to think that.
You know, I don't want to biblebeat people, but I also want
them to know the lord and andseek him for themselves.
(42:01):
Don't take me at my word for it.
Get out there and feel it out,feel it, feel him for yourself.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (42:09):
You know.
So I think in that aspect I cansee a change in me, um to the
point where I'm getting ready todo this podcast and I'm so
nervous about yes, yes.
But I'm excited about, about,you know, um, um, talking about
it.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
Yeah, let's talk about it late.
The women's edition?
Yeah, let's talk about it.
Let's talk about it.
Yeah, it's coming.
It's coming this summer.
Um, good, gives plug right inthe middle.
Coming this summer.
Let's talk about it with lady p, all right, and uh, we'll be
putting out the information ofwhen the date is going to come
in.
Is it's for?
(42:49):
You know she's going to betalking to the ladies, you know,
if you have an issue you wantto talk about, you know, just
send it to her and uh, she'sjust gonna rather single or
married, right?
Single married, single marriedwidow divorce, all right?
Speaker 3 (43:02):
we going to talk about everything.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
So you know, I'm looking at June 23rd, looking at
June 23rd, we're looking at,we're ready to start at June
23rd, all right.
So let's say we're here tosupport her.
She'll be right here on thischannel.
Mm-hmm.
And let's talk about it All,and let's talk about it All
right.
All right, now we got, we gotone more, one more.
(43:30):
All right, here we go.
If you could give one piece ofadvice to a newlywed Christian
couple, what would it be and why?
Speaker 3 (43:43):
Learn each other.
Ok, grow together, grow uptogether right right, right
right up together because we'renever finished growing up.
We learn something new every dayand, like I've said in the past
, I mean 33 years with eric andI still learn something new
about him almost every day.
Almost every day I'll be likeyou know, I didn't know that,
(44:08):
you know.
So, um, be open, be be willingto learn, be willing to take
corrective criticism right.
Don't get mad when somebody sayyou know, why are you wearing
them shoes?
Why are you wearing them shoeswith that?
Are you wearing them shoes withthat?
That don't work.
Although they're your favoriteshoes and you've been dying to
wear them.
If a person come and they saythis, or if they say whenever I
(44:31):
come to talk to you, you seemlike I'm annoying you.
You know.
Learn to communicate Date Right.
Don't have kids early on.
Mm, hmm.
At least give yourself a yearor two to get to know each other
.
Okay.
If I had to turn back the handof time, I think I would give
myself about five or six yearsbefore I start having kids.
(44:53):
That long Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (44:55):
Five or six years.
Five or six years, okay.
Speaker 3 (44:57):
That's just my opinion, but of course, with six
children now it's kind of latebut of course, with six children
now right late, but I just seeI see so, I see so many
marriages so stressed out,because, you know, we just, we
just got married, we got tolearn to live together, we got
to learn to grow together andthen, oh no, babe, guess what?
(45:18):
pregnant yeah now six months inthe game.
Now it's going full intoparenthood, right, right, but
the marriage didn't get a chanceto really settle before the kid
came along right, so I thinkit's important okay okay, all
right yeah, I think.
Speaker 1 (45:36):
I think it's very, very important, you know, to
just wait and settle down andget to know each other.
Uh, like, like you said, youknow we can wait on kids Then
then didn't do that.
Um, if you have them, you know,we just we talked about them
earlier.
You know, how does you know?
Um, cause, one thing you alwayssay you know, uh, and I think
we, we try to make sure yourkids are going to get 18 and
(46:01):
they're going to leave, they get19,.
They're going to leave, they'regoing to go, but you and your
spouse is going to be togetherand you don't want to be.
You don't want to stay togetherfor the kids and you do not
want to just put all your energyinto the kids, because when
they're gone, you don't want tobe asking your spouse, hey, what
(46:25):
do you like?
You know, because you don'tspend all your time thinking
about the kids and what they dois put all the energy in the
kids till you haven't put noenergy into your marriage and
it's going to be, you know,going 18 years and 19 years
without putting energy into yourmarriage, your marriage, it's
not going to be good.
It's not going to be good.
It's not going to be good.
So you know, like, even likeFerg was saying, you know, hey,
(46:50):
the kids are going to be,they're going to be all right.
You know, like you said earlier, you know the kids are young.
Find a good babysitter, youknow, and so you can spend some
quality time together.
Speaker 3 (47:03):
Let me read you a first.
All right.
My advice to newlyweds isaccept that you made the
decision.
Now work on making it the rightdecision.
Wow, he is the one, the one Ilove that need to be on a
t-shirt.
Speaker 1 (47:21):
Yeah, he's the one, she's the one.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
I love the part where you know, you, know, you, you,
you, except you made thedecision.
Now work on making the rightdecision and you know what, when
you work on it, it's worth ityeah, when you work on it when
you work on it and don't get allfuzzled and be ready to walk
away at the drop of a dimeanytime something's just not
working out in your, in your way.
But again, if it's any type ofphysical, mental, verbal abuse,
(47:52):
I'm I'm holding it to the fireyou got to walk yeah yeah, I
tell the ladies at church allthe time I say, pastor, come
over here with a knot on hishead and sunglasses.
Y'all know we got.
They don't even see me in there.
But you know, I'm grateful thatI have someone that cherish me.
(48:12):
I don't have to deal withsomething like that.
Thank you, lord.
Speaker 1 (48:18):
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You know we had we still gotnine votes of people liking or
voting, so we want to make sureyou like.
If you just stop what you'redoing now and like this live
stream, that's where we can getit out.
If you want to do a super chat,as I did, super chat, or a you
(48:42):
want to give a donation, you canall those it comes.
You know it'll make us so wecan have a better studio, better
lighting and all that kind ofstuff.
We want to make sure that alady P let's talk about it, lady
P goes off without a hitch,right, without a hitch All right
.
So you know all of those, so youknow all of those.
(49:05):
Those funds go to that.
And also, you know help withthe marriage retreat, you know
so, um, yeah, yeah, so, so,please, please, if you want to
donate, uh, please do that.
Please do that.
All right, but we look you gotking looking at us like hey,
y'all taking too long y'allain't finished yet.
Speaker 3 (49:20):
Look at him.
Speaker 1 (49:22):
He's like y'all ain't finished yet.
I left, I came back, I growleda little bit and y'all still
ain't finished.
Come on now Right, pass mydinner time, all right, so, hey,
so, hey.
So we thank God for thequestions.
Speaker 3 (49:35):
Yes, thank you.
It kind of really made me think.
You know, and again, just theway the Lord is using us with
the marriage retreat is simplyamazing.
I never thought that it wouldgrow like it's grown.
Right right and I'm happy to bewith the couples and I enjoy
(49:58):
their company.
I wish we could do it for alonger amount of time.
Right, right I don't want it toget boring.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
Yeah, we don't want to get on nobody's nerves.
Speaker 3 (50:09):
It's amazing.
Speaker 1 (50:10):
Right, it is amazing.
It's a movie that everybody'stalking about, I think.
I personally think it's one ofthe better Tyler Perry movies.
What is it called?
Straw?
Straw, it's called Straw.
And you know, just watching ittoday, man, it had me.
I don't know about any otherguy, you know I let you go with
(50:34):
my feelings.
I was crying a little bit.
I mean, I had tears coming, man, just to see what this lady
went through and we were talkingabout it.
To see what this lady wentthrough and we were talking
about it.
You never know what somebody'sgoing through.
Nope, you never know.
So you know somebody may snapat you or curse you out or
whatever.
You don't know what kind of daythat they had, and sometimes
(50:57):
you just got to say, okay, youmust be had a bad day.
When you say it in your mind,you must be had a bad day.
I'm just going to step offbecause you never know what
somebody is going to do.
And he has so, so manysubliminal God, I can't say that
word, you know messages in it.
Speaker 3 (51:11):
Yeah, so many hidden.
Speaker 1 (51:14):
So many hidden messages.
You know people that could havewatched and said something and
help her to avoid what she wasgetting ready to do.
Right, you had the teacher orthe principal, whatever that was
.
I don't want to tell the wholemovie, but you, you know, you
had all of those things that wasgoing on that could have have,
(51:36):
you know, stopped her from evendoing what she was getting ready
to do.
Speaker 2 (51:42):
And so I I just want to say she watched it last night
.
Speaker 1 (51:45):
Oh yeah, I watched it twice.
Speaker 3 (51:48):
I truly enjoyed it and one of the I was telling
Eric I say, eric, you know,something she said on that just
really stood out to me.
Out of the entire movie, thisis what stood out to me the most
when she said black womenalways got something.
They got to get over.
And I was like huh.
And then, when I thought aboutthat, is because people expect
(52:09):
us to be so strong all the timeand and we rise, you know, we
rise above some things, butsometimes some people they don't
make it to that point.
They may snap, snap, they maysnap.
So we just, you know, I wastelling Eric, I said you know,
we got to be a little bit morediscerned when people are around
, and especially people that youknow, just kind of notice, you
(52:33):
know, we get it.
We do have our breaking point.
We're going to always be thestrong person, and especially
when it comes down to singlemoms raising their kids on their
own, I know quite a few.
So, yeah, so I was like yeah, Itold Eric, I said you ought to
watch this movie.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
Yeah, yeah, I watched it.
And I would go farther and sayI know she said black women, but
black people period.
Because people have been sayingfor years and years that we
should get over slavery.
They say it in the church, theysay it outside the church.
Y'all need to get over slavery.
(53:13):
That happened over 400 yearsago, that happened this year,
that happened two years ago.
Y'all need to get over it.
You know, y'all keep bringingit up.
That's why people right now aretrying to change history,
because they want us to forgetabout it and they don't want our
children and our grandchildrenand our great grandchildren to
know about it.
So that's why we have, asparents and grandparents, we
(53:36):
have to teach our children aboutwhat real history is and know
that American history is notabout black history, but what
you got.
Speaker 3 (53:45):
Oh, I got to read these.
I mean, ms Shay says it's somany of us single mothers know
all too well that struggle.
Um, that's so true.
Um, and, like I said, you know,she definitely shared it here.
Um, and first is, the shame ofthat movie is that so many women
had empathy with her and somany of the so many of them had
(54:09):
an absent man in their lives.
Men, where are we for our womenand our children?
You dropped the mic on that,bro.
Where where are they?
You know?
And if she even said somethingthat she said to the lady to the
bank, and she said you got tobe careful who you have children
with, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (54:29):
And the first time I heard that.
Speaker 3 (54:30):
We've been saying that for years.
You got to be careful who youchoose.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
And the first time I heard somebody told me, a young
lady told me that you got to becareful.
What did Michelle say?
Speaker 3 (54:42):
I thank God for you and your family when it came to
the virus.
Speaker 1 (54:45):
Yeah, we tried to be there for the virus
Snickerdoodle, snickerdoodle,but he's going to get you I told
him I'll never call him that inpublic, ever again.
Well, you just call him on apodcast on YouTube.
They don't know who it is.
Speaker 3 (54:59):
They don't know who it is, but it's so true, you
know who it is, but it's so true, you know.
It's so many, it's so manywomen out there and um and
single men, not single mentaking care of their, their,
children too.
Now it's not a lot.
It's not okay, I'm not.
I'm not not saying that therearen't any guys out there that's
(55:20):
not doing it in this day andtime.
It's hard by yourself.
Speaker 1 (55:26):
It's hard when you're by yourself, yeah it's hard
because you got social media yougot to mess around with, you
got you know all of these.
You know I mean it is, it is uhtv.
You got all of that stuff thatyou got to deal with, that you
gotta, you know, watch your kidsand make sure they don't go to
the wrong site you know theycould be watching, and or they
(55:49):
they could be watching a cartoonon youtube and then all of a
sudden he goes, something thatyou, that you don't even want to
talk to him about yet, but theylearning it from a young age,
so you know, you gotta thank godlet me read this what Malika
just wrote.
Speaker 3 (56:05):
I love this.
She said there was also amessage about women standing
with other women and havingempathy for each other.
Some of her harshest criticswere women and they were the
landlord, the late girl at thebank, oh man, everybody, that
girl at the bank you know, ohman, everybody, that girl at the
(56:26):
bank she getting drunk, Becauseyou know hey, all she wanted
was $521.
Speaker 1 (56:31):
That's all the boss, man, the boss, you know.
Speaker 3 (56:36):
So yeah, yeah, yeah I think I would have shot him too
.
Speaker 1 (56:41):
Remember I told you I I said why don't you get one of
that broomstick and beat him?
You know that was before.
You know, while he was talkingto this is what Michelle says
she cried many days to Lady P.
She was an exception motivatorto me to keep me, keep pushing
to succeed aww, now stop that.
Speaker 3 (57:02):
Don't get me crying on here get a cry, get a cry.
I will take them off.
Speaker 1 (57:09):
Yes, yes, yes.
Then they come off one timewhile you're in church.
Speaker 3 (57:13):
I took my seat Hold up.
I can't see.
You know I do appreciate you aswell, michelle.
You know you were my go-to.
Now you're in Georgia.
Now I got to take aia.
Now I gotta take a trip.
Speaker 1 (57:24):
I take a trip to make it.
It's in making right.
Making is a nice place, thoughI've been there yeah, making is
a nice because that's that's onthe way to atlanta.
Right, making, yeah, making it.
I think it's on the way toatlanta.
Yeah, I believe.
So it's right there off.
Uh 75, I believe, I believe youknow I'll stop down there.
We got to go to go to Atlantaanyway.
So when we go to Atlanta, wefly, we will drive.
Speaker 3 (57:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (57:50):
All right.
Speaker 3 (57:51):
Oh, thank you I love you.
Speaker 1 (57:53):
Speaking of facts, well, hey, so we're excited, I'm
excited about the new podcast.
We're going to make sure weblow it up it.
You know, do all we can, youknow, take some pictures for it,
and you know, just make sureyou know I'll do that and then
you know, but hopefully maybeI'll do a man edition.
Speaker 3 (58:11):
you know where it's, just number me let me get mine
going, let me hey we're gonnahave both of them going in the
summertime.
Speaker 1 (58:18):
We do it in the summertime, you know, I mean
especially in the daytime.
I could be on, but, yeah, yeah,you know, um, we're looking
forward to your podcast.
We want to make sure thispodcast is on point.
So, uh, once you get the notice, make sure you share with your
friends, make sure you be liveand make sure you go to, uh,
(58:40):
apple and all that kind of stuff, because it's going to be there
too.
So we're excited about it, babe.
Yeah, we are.
We're going to be excited aboutit.
All, right, well, this is seasonthree.
This is a wrap up for seasonthree.
All right, we did it, baby, wemade it through, we made it, we
made it through.
So you know, I'm excited aboutthat.
(59:01):
That.
We made it through.
Me too.
I'm so excited.
So we thank our audience, welove you all, we thank you all
for supporting us for threeseasons and you be with us.
You know, online You've beengoing through the podcast,
you've been downloading thepodcast, and so we thank you for
doing that and loving on us,and we love you all.
(59:22):
Yeah, so we want to saygoodnight and we'll see you next
, season four God bless.
God bless.
Well, welcome to Marriage and Real Life, welcome,
welcome.
We're so glad that you couldjoin us.
This is our last, last one forseason three, the finale.
Yes yes, yes, yes.
Well, hey, what's beenhappening these last two weeks?
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What's been happening theselast two weeks?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Finally, the last day of school came.
I think I was more excited thanthe children.
Wow, I was ready to get out ofthere, jesus, oh man, I was so
ready for it to be over, but nowI'm kind of just waving around.
You know, doing my thing.
Sometimes I don't even comb myhair.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Wow yeah.
No makeup around.
You know, doing my things,sometimes I don't even comb my
hair.
Wow, yeah, yeah, no makeup,right right, right right.
Excited about that.
Okay, all right, all right,cool.
Yeah, hey, you know, got alittle bad news for myself, but
I think I'm gonna be.
I'm gonna be all right, youknow, I thank god.
You know that I'm still alive,right?
Yeah, I'm still alive.
(01:03):
So, you know, these last twoweeks it's been great.
Not even two weeks, it's beenmore than two weeks, hasn't it?
Since school has been out?
No, not since school has beenout, since we've been podcasting
.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Absolutely, it's been quite a minute yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yeah, it's been a minute yeah yeah yeah, so well,
thank God that we're back.
Hey, we wanted to make surethat you like and share, like
and share, you know, like andshare this podcast.
We want to just answer somequestions tonight.
We thank each and every personwho sent in questions.
We got a number of questionstonight that we're going to
(01:42):
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Tell us where you're know.
Hey, please, um, tell us whereyou're watching from.
Uh, tell us.
Wait, tell us where you'rewatching from.
Please tell us where you'rewatching from here.
Uh, give it so we can give youa shout out.
Right?
We want to be able to givepeople a shout out.
You know there's about nine ofthem watching with us, and so we
want to make sure you know wegive, give everybody a shout out
, right?
absolutely, yeah, yeah, yeahwe're just gonna get used to
(02:06):
being in our little new studio.
All right, new studio, yeah,all right, all right.
Well, hey, I'm ready to getstarted.
What you got.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
You ready to get started?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Yeah, Are you ready to get started, or you want to
wait a little bit?
What's your deal?
Yeah, are you ready to getstarted, or are you what you
want?
You want to wait a little bit?
What's your deal?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
I'm fine, let's let's get this party started.
It's this way.
This time we'll have enoughtime to get through everything.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Oh, okay, hey, I do want to talk about that movie we
saw today though.
Okay today though okay, I dowant to talk about that.
I think we talk about it at theend.
Okay, we'll talk about at theend when we know uh, you see
that I'm a liker, um, my like ishere.
Hey, ferg is here, all right.
(02:53):
All right, please make sure youlike and share.
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Hey, rob Rob is here.
Hey, rob Rob, watching fromOrlando.
All right, let me get we'refrom North Carolina A lot of
(03:13):
them from Tamarack, tamarack,our old stomping ground.
Yeah, that's an old stompingground right there.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.
So again, we got some questionsin and we're going to just go
through these questions and youknow and see I'll chime in, let
(03:34):
us know.
Yeah, let us know.
If you got some more questions,you can put it in the chat and
we would love to answer thosequestions.
All right, All right.
So I'm not going to say who thequestions are from.
Questions, all right, all right.
So I'm not going to say who thequestions are from, okay, all
right.
I'm just going to say you knowthat this is the question.
Okay.
Right, and so they know whoasked the question.
Okay, all right.
(03:54):
So the first question is this.
The first question is this howdo you intentionally keep God
first in a marriage as a marriedcouple?
And it is, it is he said.
The person says they're not abroad question, but for it to
not be only go to church or onsome weekends type of marriage,
(04:16):
right?
So I guess that means how doyou keep God first?
And you know, just hey, just goto church.
You know some people say, hey,just go to church, and that's
keeping God first, right.
And so I guess so you want tosay how do you intentionally
keep God first in the marriageas a married couple?
All right, that's the firstquestion.
All right, what you got, whatdo you think?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I think about making it a priority to pray together.
Okay.
To you know everybody studiesdifferently.
But throw a scripture out.
This is a scripture for thisweek.
We concentrate on thatscripture or, individually, we
read that scripture.
Okay, and maybe at dinner time,talk about what did you get
(04:59):
from that scripture.
Okay.
You know, and how did you?
What was God saying to youdoing that scripture?
Because sometimes we can readthe same scripture and get
something totally different fromit.
Right, right, right right.
So I think by connecting thatway, intentionally doing those
things, will bring out that youknow, okay, we, we, we, we.
We hit it in the rightdirection.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Oh, man, that's good, right there, I got to give you.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's good, right there, I got to give you
.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's it.
That's how you keep God first,keep him in the center.
That make every decision, thatyou make every major decision
like you said, major decisionyou communicate with him and let
him know that he's first Rightby praying, reading the word,
(05:44):
know and doing those things andserving yeah, definitely, yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
That's something that I love about serving serving
together.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Serving together, right yeah, serving together
maybe an usher or maybe a deaconI mean you know, just I mean,
even if you're just in thecapacity where maybe you can um
talk to you yeah, you don't haveto be in the church, you know,
and you don't have to be, that'sright, you don't have to be at
the church, you know teenagers,especially the teenagers.
Yes, they need us more than everthey need to see a married
(06:14):
couple right, because what a lotof them see is seen, have seen
is broken homes, right they've.
They've seen the mother, youknow, just taking running with
you know, run with it, you know,and a lot of them haven't seen
the father in it.
They haven't seen marriages.
And so what happens is, I thinkthey grow up and because they
(06:39):
haven't seen marriages, whenthey talk about getting married
they don't know nothing about itbecause they haven't seen it
right.
So, for marriage, for marriedcouples, if you want to, you
know, again, keep God first.
You know, serve and let themsee what a true married couple
is.
All right, cool.
I hope that answered yourquestion.
(07:01):
I hope that answered yourquestion.
We got some more questions hereand we got some good ones.
My baby, I'm telling you yougot to be up on it now.
All right, All right.
So this is another question howdo you make time for each other
(07:22):
when you have kids?
How do you make time for eachother when you have kids?
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Hmm, hmm, how do you make time for each other?
When you have kids.
It depends.
Okay, if you have babies, thendowntime when you put them down
at night.
That's the time when you could,you know, do what you have to
do spend time with each other.
Right, right, right Go watch amovie, yeah, but then when you
(07:53):
have older kids, you have to seta schedule.
That's what we did.
Okay, you know, we had whereeverybody had their time.
So we had where everybody hadtheir time.
Well, you know, especially withme, because Eric was, you know,
active duty, so he was a lot ofthe times out of the home.
So what I would do is I wouldset up a schedule for me to
(08:18):
spend time with each one of thechildren.
Now, the baby always got the endof the schedule, because I
could put him in the bed with meand let him talk about whatever
he want to talk about.
I could put him in the bed withme and let him talk about
whatever he wanted to talk about.
But I would schedule thatquality time with each one of
the children.
I think I started with theoldest and I went down to the
baby, so Peaches had her timewith me, whether I might be in
(08:38):
the kitchen cooking dinner orsitting in the living room or
sitting in the den watching amovie or watching tv right and
the other kids can interruptthat time and then I think I
spent a lot, most of the timewith nat whenever she was in the
bathtub, okay, or if I'm in thein the bathroom, she would come
(08:59):
into the in the bathroom andsit on the toilet and talk to me
while I shower and she had atime.
So I should try to map out thattime with each child.
Right Give them their qualitytime.
Right, right.
Believe it or not, it's soimportant for them to have their
time, because once they havetheir time then you ain't got to
worry about no chaos going on.
So when you get ready tosnuggle up with your honey bear,
(09:20):
All right no interruptingbecause they already got.
They already got their time,you know I think that's how we,
we did that.
And again, when it's when youhave a little one, it's
different because they're moodyand sometimes they might
participate.
They might be okay to do this,you know, to settle down right
and then it's times and they belike oh no, I'm up for the night
(09:42):
so y'all get with the program.
Right, right, right you know.
also, when you do that, you knowfind you a good little
babysitter in the community.
You know even the Red Cross.
You can call them and they havetrained babysitters and get you
a babysitter and take a walk,walk around the block, hold
(10:04):
hands, you know, get in thatquality time.
It's so important.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Look at what Ferg says.
Ferg says understand that y'allwere first, I mean the couple,
so you have to lovingly ignorethem, kids.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Absolutely.
I agree with that.
I agree with that.
I tell people all the time likethose kids are going to grow up
and move on.
They're going to have their ownfamily, their own relationship,
and what you're going to bedoing is sitting down trying to
figure out who your husband isand who your wife is Right,
right, right I totally agreewith that, because sometimes
you've got to be like hey, y'allgo, sit down, we're going to
(10:40):
take a nap.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
You've got to take those naps.
We're going to take a nap.
You got to take those naps.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
We're going to take a nap.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
You got to take those naps.
So yeah, so that's that, so youknow again.
I think that's good advice.
And and the person went on tosay what does quality time looks
like?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Oh, quality time can be anything.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Oh, quality time can beanything.
Yeah, it could be a Sundaydrive, just being in the
presence of each other andsharing.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
Maybe, if it's on a Sunday, what I got to do next
week.
What's coming up at work?
You know anything Doing apicnic in the living room.
It don't have to be expensive,although we do like to get taken
out on dates, but vice versa,because I take Eric on dates as
(11:34):
well.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yes, she does, yes, she does.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Oh, you know she treat a man good, you know that
time and I think the mostimportant point in quality time
is communication okay open andhonest and letting a person you
know.
Let them know how you feel, letthem know what's going on in
there in your life.
You have to realize and I thinkI've said it so many times
before we can't read each otherminds right the lord has truly
(11:59):
blessed us all with talents, buthe did not give that.
What he didn't do you know that,that that he gave us the choice
to make to serve him so he,he's not going to give us that.
You know, eric is feeling likethis past you know no right
right right tell him if you, ifwe don't share it one another,
we don't communicate with oneanother.
(12:20):
We don't, we don't know right wejust don't know, and I think a
lot of marriages um strugglebecause I don't want to hurt
your feelings or I don't want to.
You know, I don't.
I don't want you to be upsetwith me if I tell you that I
feel this way or you're going toact a certain way if I tell you
that I'm feeling like this youknow, and and sometimes you do
(12:41):
get a little shady.
Now, no, I'm not going say that, sometimes be like I can't
believe you said that all right,you know.
And then other times he'll belike he'll shut down on me, so
then.
So now I'm at this point where,okay, I ain't gonna say nothing
, I'm just gonna let the chipsfall where they may all right,
all right and when they fallwhere they may, I'd be like
(13:02):
didn't I tell you that was goingto happen?
I knew it, you know, I felt itin my spirit, but I didn't want
to say anything because I didn'twant the silent treatment.
I didn't want the you know thewhat do they?
call it Backlash of it.
So yeah, so it's important.
You know that quality time isso important.
So yeah, so it's important.
(13:23):
You know that quality time isso important.
Even if you can't sayeverything that you feel, write
it down, write a note, write aletter.
Do a sticky note, Because yourspouse does not know if you
don't tell them.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Right, right, right, another question, okay, um,
another question, okay, another.
Another question is how tobreak from routines.
How can a married couple breakfrom routines?
You know, yeah, I mean you justhave to be disciplined to do it
(14:01):
and you have to make up yourmind that you're going to do it
right.
If you know a routine is you getup in the morning, uh, you do
this and you know it's just like.
You have a routine.
You gotta, the night before yougotta say, okay, when I get up
in the morning, I'm not gonna dothis, I'm going to break the
routine.
You know how they used to tellus, um, like when, when are all
(14:25):
over the place?
They say make sure you knowdifferent routes to get home,
right, because somebody may befollowing you.
So that means you go differentroutes to get home.
So you don't have a routine,because once somebody knows your
routine, you get in trouble,right, they know, okay, that
person's going to be here, thatperson's going to be there, that
(14:46):
person's going to be there,that person's going to be there,
and you, you know they couldjust follow you by your routine
and you don't want nobody tofollow you by your routine.
In a sense, you do.
In a sense you don't.
But as a married couple youwant to not have a routine that,
okay, every day I know they'regoing to be here at this time or
they're going to be there atthat time.
(15:06):
Sometimes you got to do.
You got to have spontaneity,spontaneity in your marriage.
That's what you got to have.
Without spontaneity in yourmarriage, it gets dull.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
And boring and boring .
You know my girl used to tellus that all the time you don't
take the same route, all thetime Change it up, do something
different.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
She was wise.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
And I was like it's going to take me an extra few
minutes to go around the wholeroute when I can just shoot
right through there.
But I get it now because youknow to make a change, to be
spontaneous.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
It's hard, though, when you're working and you got
your careers and you got to getup in the morning, walk the dogs
, feed the dogs.
You know you get complacent Isthat the word.
And it's hard to break out ofthat.
You know, because you know yougot to feed your kids, you got
to feed the dog.
You got to feed the dog, you gotto get everything taken care of
(16:10):
before you head out the door.
So you know, I would say maybelater.
I would say, you know, break upthe routine like Tuesday,
thursday and Saturday.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Right.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Something different.
Mm-hmm.
You know, and then the nextweek do Monday, wednesday and
Friday.
Mm-hmm.
Just to change things up, addsomething to the routine.
You know, I used to Tell meGrace, before I would leave for
work I'd wake Eric up and dancewith me, like straight up out of
(16:45):
his sleep.
Like come on, baby.
I like this son come dance withme.
And he's like half asleepbecause he didn't work all night
.
But I just wanted to break, youknow, break, break up that
whole schedule thing and see howit was gonna turn out.
Well, I stopped waking him upthank god I did stop waking him
up, but just the fact that hewas willing to get up, although
he had worked, worked on.
I had just gotten in about six30.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
I was just getting up and getting messed up making
memories and enjoying time witheach other, like you, each
reading your own book but in thesame room, or listen to some
old school, all right.
When it comes down tospontaneity and routines, he
says switch roles once a week.
Wow, kids, be the parents,husband be the wife, and so on,
(17:32):
so on that sounds like fun ohman yeah that is fun.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Can you imagine your kids acting like you?
Are you acting like them?
Oh boy they'll really feel ohgod, I don't want no kids.
Y'all just don't listen, youknow yeah, yeah, yeah but that
is so true.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
I never really thought about being being the
husband yeah yeah I think I dopretty good at that you just
don't know what people arethinking and what uh is going on
in in their lives.
You try to have empathy foreach other and try to understand
.
You know what each other go toby switching roles.
(18:12):
Yeah, you know, I wish we couldswitch the roles in the work
space as well.
But yeah, yeah, that's.
That's.
That's pretty good.
I like that.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
If I did your job, they'll fire me.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
I'm not a computer person at all what you wanted me
to attach this to that.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Yeah, I was just checking my email, uh-huh but.
I can give you six hours withmy baby boy.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Look at here, I don't know about that.
You know, I don't like all thatcrying when I be, when don't
cry, they fight I know, but whenthey?
Speaker 3 (18:45):
At the end of the year, when they start crying.
They cry a lot.
Yeah.
After about two weeks they inthere now.
They telling you off.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
They telling me off, mm-hmm what they say you.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
Like this little girl here.
Like you know, I really feellike she said something to me in
Spanish.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
In Spanish, she probably did, she probably did.
Well, you'll see her next year,right, I'll see her next year
She'll be too.
Oh man, She'll probably betalking more.
You know that she will betalking more.
Now it's 12 of y'all watchingwith us.
Please make sure you like andshare, Make sure you in the
votes.
We only got six votes so far,so it should be more voting and
(19:30):
more liking, All right, we needto make sure that you are liking
, liking, liking, liking andsharing, All right.
And yeah, what Ferg said we arenot switching roles during
childbirth.
I hear you, Ferg.
Yeah, that should be the mainone no sir, no sir, we ain't
(19:50):
switching roles caring, norduring childbirth, no sir we
probably couldn't no, y'allcould, we probably couldn't
nobody knows oh boy, nobodyknows the trouble like a woman.
Nobody knows.
(20:14):
All right, okay, all right.
So let's go, let's get back tosome more questions and get some
more nice questions all right,here we go, I'm gonna give,
you'm ready.
Okay, you've been answering alot of them, so you're good, all
right.
So the question was how hasyour faith shaped the way you
(20:35):
approach marriage and handleconflict?
How has your faith shaped theway you approach marriage and
handle conflict?
How about that one?
Hmm, hmm.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
You can paint that one.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Oh, okay, well, I think you know, by my faith of
knowing who God is, what he hasdone for me, right, I can be
more forgiving because I know heforgave me right.
So my faith really helps that,even in conflict, like when I
(21:22):
said, oh, you're wrong aboutthis, you're wrong about that.
No, that's not how God does it.
Right, god is patient, god isloving, he is kind, Right, he
loves us regardless.
So, even though I may not likewhat you did or like what you
said, right, I still love youRight.
(21:43):
And so I think that's why Ithink my faith has, has prepared
me and shaped the way Iapproach conflict and marriage,
because God is so loving, right,and he's forgiving and he's
understanding, and so he don'ttry to push himself on you, he
doesn't do all of those kinds ofthings.
(22:05):
He's weights and so, and hereally he don't try to push
himself on you, he doesn't doall of those kinds of things,
he's weights and so, and hereally he don't argue with you.
You just do what you know, youdon't.
God ain't got time to bearguing with us.
He really don't yeah he reallydon't what you got.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
I think the way faith has shaped our marriage is.
You know, I've learned to trustGod through everything, mm-hmm,
especially the hard times.
You know.
I have to keep reminding myselfthat you know, if God has
(22:41):
bought us out of so manysituations, there's no way.
Right.
There's no way he's going tolet this marriage fail.
Right.
Even in the midst of ourconflict, I have faith that
God's going to give one of us aword, or give one of us
something encouraging to say tothe other.
Mm-hmm.
You know, we don't have aproblem apologizing when we're
(23:03):
wrong.
You know, and I think that'sbecause of the relationship
don't have a problem apologizingwhen we're wrong.
You know, and I think that'sbecause of the relationship that
we have with Christ and thatyou know we've built so much
over the years that it's, youknow, it's really easy.
It's easy for me to have faithin God.
It hasn't always been that way,but I've seen his hand move so
(23:27):
many times in our marriage.
Don't forget.
You know I was getting ready topack up.
I'm about to bounce.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Yeah, you're about to bounce.
You're about to go On the giddyup.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
I'm finna take joy, and then we finna go live in the
country until I move toCharleston, because I wasn't
going to stay out there too longwith that wild life, but you
know.
I was about to go and you knowGod just kept reminding me that
he's in control of this and whathe put together, you know, no
man can put asunder.
(23:56):
So you know to have faith thatthings are going to work out in
our favor and we wouldn't end updivorced or separated.
Right.
Or you know anything like that.
So I think that built my faithand that helped strengthen.
I think with the faith it helpsstrengthen the marriage.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Right, right, right, you know putting God first.
All right, cool, all right.
I like that.
I like that.
Yes, you do, you get a handclap.
All right, what?
This is a good one here.
This is a good question righthere.
(24:45):
What lessons did you learn aboutlove and commitment from the
marriages you saw growing up?
What lessons did you learnabout love and commitment from
the marriages that you saw up?
I would say this you know, likeI said before, a lot of people
didn't grow up when they, youknow, with marriages.
What I saw with my, with my dadand my mom, was that, you know,
my dad would always, um, I, I,I'm gonna be honest, I can't, I
(25:12):
can't remember the?
I.
There's times that I would seethem pick or kiss, right, I
can't remember that, but I knewthat he loved, you know, cause
my dad was Jamaican and theyjust had their ways of showing
that they love.
Even though they may not say it,they just believe back.
You know back then, that they.
You know, if I'm taking care ofyou, if I'm doing this, I'm
(25:33):
doing that.
You know that, that.
You know that I love you.
And one thing that I you knowthat I did admire about my dad
one of the things I did admireabout him was that, you know, my
mom didn't have to ask for likedresses or something like that.
He would just come in and say,hey, go buy your frock you know,
right, just go and buy yourfrock.
(25:54):
He just saw that and he just sawthe need or the want and she
didn't have to come out becauseshe was making her own money.
But he would say, go ahead andbuy your frock.
You know, just go ahead, buyyour frock.
You know, just go ahead.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
You know, buy that stuff, and and now she was a
clean woman going to church now,yes, she was, and he and he was
clean going to church too.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
So I, you know, that's what I saw in in that,
you know, and again, sometimeswe see in marriages some things
that, um, we want to do better.
You know, and I, you know,again, I saw a lot of the
marriages because where I was inPahokee it was a lot of people
that was married.
You know, I didn't evenremember single mothers in
(26:33):
Pahokee.
I remember married couples, youknow, but all of them were
older.
So you know, that's what I saw.
What about you?
Speaker 3 (26:42):
Well, you know, my family didn't have a lot of
marriages, so it was reallynothing for me to piggyback off
of.
My mom married my stepdad, butthey divorced when I was like 13
.
Okay, I don't know.
I don't remember seeing muchaffection there.
(27:04):
You know, mom cooked, shecleaned, she worked, she took
care of the kids Dad he drovetrucks, so he would be on the
road a lot.
Right.
So I didn't get to see theintimate relationship with them
caring for each other.
But when he came home, mom madesure he had some food.
She made sure his clothes wasclean.
She did her wifely duties,whatever duties home.
(27:25):
Mom made sure he had some food,she made sure his clothes was
clean.
She did, um, like her wifelyduties whatever duties that a
wife should be doing, uh-huh.
Um, I did have an aunt thatthat got married and she moved
to minnesota.
So and for, young people to seemarried couples.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
If it's in the church or it's outside the church.
It's very important that youknow they see those couples.
All right, all right, all right, cool.
Okay.
We answered some questionstonight.
Boy, they coming, they coming.
So what has been your biggestchallenge in marriage and how
(28:23):
did prayer or scripture help youovercome it?
What has been your biggestchallenge in marriage and how
did prayer or scripture help youovercome it?
Hmm, what has been your biggestchallenge in marriage and how
has prayer or scripture helpedyou overcome it?
What is your biggest challenge?
The biggest challenge iscommunication with me.
Is that it?
Speaker 3 (28:46):
I think one of my biggest challenges no well I can
.
I mean, I guess I can saysometimes I feel like you don't
hear me.
Sometimes I feel like don'thear me.
Sometimes I feel like like youbrush my opinion aside, so I'm
(29:14):
reluctant to share certainthings with you.
However, um, I just pray andI'm like in the past.
In the past, when I felt thisway, I just prayed about it Lord
, what's going on here and Ijust kind of placed it at the
master's feet and I started tosee the change.
(29:37):
I don't apply scripture to alot of stuff when it comes down
to our relationship, unlesswe're together studying
something biblically.
But most of the time when Ifeel like I'm having an issue, I
(29:58):
just take it to the Lord inprayer.
Okay.
Because I don't want to, as mygrandmother would say, shoot
from the hip.
Okay, I don't want to shootfrom the hip and then stir up a
whole bunch of other stuff thatyou know cause a whole how would
I say a whole flood when it'sjust a sprinkle?
Speaker 1 (30:19):
Right right, we got King here, we got King out there
.
Don't worry, we're going tofeed you king.
You got food, okay, yeah.
All right, cool, cool.
Yeah, I mean, prayer is likeyou said is.
(30:42):
I mean oftentimes you tell,especially you tell people, when
you're trying to get somethingdone, when your wife don't see
it or when your husband don'tsee it, you go to God in prayer,
you know, and you go to.
You know, go to God in prayerand and you know, and, and
(31:04):
that's how you do it, becauseonly god can change people,
because when you try to changepeople, it will never work,
right, it would never work.
So you got to make sure you goto god in prayer, right, that's
what you want to do, absolutelyall right.
So that's, if you, if you'rehaving trouble and maybe your
(31:24):
spouse is not listening to youor whatever, go to prayer, go
and go and say you know I'mgoing to prayer and you know, I
said, you know Lord, just uh,help, help my spouse, listen to
me, you know, and and make themunderstand where I'm coming from
.
And you know, let let God dohis work.
Yeah, you know, let God do hiswork, because the Holy Spirit,
(31:45):
man, I'm telling you it will getyou.
Change things.
It will change things.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
That's right.
I would say, like, if thechallenges become abusive, maybe
verbally or physically, if itgets to a point where it's
definitely, you know, pray forsomewhere else to be, I can't
push that enough because youknow your mental health, your
(32:21):
physical health, is so important.
It is it's very important andit's no scripture gonna back up.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
It's okay for you to stay if you're not, if you're
being abused right right so yeah, prayer prayer, yeah, prayer,
yeah, you, you gotta pray, yougotta pray about it and, um, you
know, once you, once you prayabout it, I think, hey, michelle
, hey Michelle, all right, whatdid you say?
(32:47):
She can't wait, what Can't waitfor the single stuff?
All right, hey, ask thequestion about the single stuff.
We will, we'll, we'll make ithappen, we'll make it happen,
all right, all right, I know, Iknow, one question was you know,
what was it that you know thatmade us say that you know it's
(33:11):
marriage time instead.
Of dating time.
Why are you laughing?
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Because you didn't date me, we did date.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
Oh, come on.
But when it came down tomarriage, I just told you, I
said, hey, the next time youcome out to Quantico we're going
to get married.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
I'll hear that proposal Say that again.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
But I had already asked your mom, though.
I had already asked your momand I said the next time you
come out, we're going to getmarried.
And what did you say?
Okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (33:44):
I should have said well, dang no, ring no.
Get down on your knees and saymake me the happiest man on this
earth and be my wife.
None of that.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
That's why, on our 27 , on 27, that was it boy, wasn't
it?
You know, the boy did it.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
No, I ain't saying that, but I think at that point
it was more or less.
You know, eric and I had doneall of the clubbing and hanging
out, and you know this, it wastime, and I think you know when
it's time and I love this storyand I use it all the time.
(34:25):
You know when it's time and Ilove the story and I and I use
it all the time, you you know,and I am with Jordan.
I said to Jordan I was likeJordan, you never date, you
never dated anybody else.
You don't you sure you don'twant to.
You're going to college.
Right, right.
A whole bunch of girls out there.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Right, right.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Right, you know, jordan, I'm like really trying
to boost him out Now that I youknow, I'm like, come on, you
don't want to marry the firstgirl you fall in love with.
And he say mom, when you know,you know and that's it.
And we looking at what?
Six years now?
Speaker 1 (34:56):
Yep, shout out to you , I'm a lucky.
Speaker 3 (34:59):
So you know when it's time you can't lean to your own
understanding.
You definitely want to takethat to the Lord in prayer
because you don't want to jumpout there.
There's so many marriagesdivorce, but they had an
extravagant wedding.
Yes.
Oh, the angels was hanging fromthe ceiling.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
Oh Jesus.
Speaker 3 (35:23):
And 90 days later they trying to figure out why in
the world that we marry eachother.
So you know me.
Go to the courthouse and have anice backyard barbecue.
Go to the courthouse and thenlater in life, if you want to do
, you can do.
Yeah, but I think the mostimportant thing is you know date
.
You have to date.
You have to get to know oneanother.
(35:44):
You can't just go off offeeling right.
Feelings come and go right youknow you got to be in your head
like this is a person that I'mgoing to spend the rest of my
life with not no, I'm gonnamarry him, but my next husband,
no, no, no, no, you don't go init with the second thought yeah
you're going with going it withconcrete commitment, that's
(36:06):
right, loyalty, that's right I'mgonna be loyal to dev.
Do us part.
If he gets sick, I'm gonnabathe him and change his diaper.
If she gets sick, I'm gonnabathe her, change you in this
thing for the long haul.
You have to truly, truly knowwhat you're getting into,
because I say it all the time,marriage is not for the week
it's not it is not for the week.
(36:26):
You can you sometimes you give80, they give 20, sometimes you
give, they give 80, you give 20but that's the balance of it
being able to pick up the, pickup the um, like I said, be able
to tag him in and say I can't dothis no more right, right and
he'd be able to tag you in andsay I can't't.
You know, it's a commitment,it's a unity, and I always say
(36:47):
that you have to be willing tosacrifice even when you don't
want to.
That's right.
And when you finally get marriedif you can don't have no kids
right away enjoy each other,learn, travel, do some stuff you
(37:11):
know.
You see, joining them made uswait a whole two years, but I
but I respect that because theywere learning and growing with
each other.
Now they're no longer collegestudents and in separate
colleges, now they're a marriedcouple together.
So they enjoy that time to getto know one another and I'm so
looking forward to the rest oftheir journey yeah, you know, it
(37:31):
will first say first says y'allapprove that the big and
expensive weddings don'tguarantee happiness and
longevity you better give him aclap, that's right, thank you
for, thank you for.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
And then he only says you know him and donna went to
the jesters of the peace andlasted a good 32 years yeah, and
see, that's what I'm saying,because you, you, your mind was
made up that this is what I wantright right nothing's gonna
sway, nothing's gonna sway me tothe left.
Speaker 3 (37:59):
I'm in love with it, you know not, not no I.
Speaker 1 (38:02):
I guess the point we want to say is that we're not
saying that you're not supposedto have a wedding.
If you want to have a weddingand you can do it, then do it,
but again, don't spend $30,000on a wedding.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
Well, if he's the one , and he's a commitment and a
loyalty, well, if you got$30,000 to spend, then that's on
you.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
I mean what I'm just saying don't put so much on the
wedding, because you still gotlife.
You still got life and you know, don't think marriage is all
about the wedding.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Right, you know Pastor Barr said that so many
people focus so much on thewedding they forget about the
focus of the marriage.
Yeah, they focus on the weddingmore than forget about the
focus of the marriage.
Speaker 1 (38:43):
Marriage yeah, they focus on the wedding more than
the marriage.
Speaker 3 (38:46):
That marriage thing is no joke.
Yeah, it's a rollercoaster ride.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
Because it makes no sense to wind up going through
life three years, four years andget divorced and say I mean
what can you say, okay, you gotwo years, three years and get
divorced and say what can yousay, okay, you go two years,
three years and get divorced andsay, oh, I, but I had a bad
wedding, though, but I had a badwedding.
Hey, no, no, no, no.
You don't want to be rememberedfor your wedding, you want to
be remembered for your marriagefor what people see on the
(39:21):
outside.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
you know it's so funny because people will say,
oh, my goodness, I want what youguys have, y'all been together
forever.
But you know what it's beentrial and error.
It hasn't been perfect and itstill ain't perfect.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
Right.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
You know, but it's because we decided that this is
what we're going to stick with,that we're going to love one
another and we're going to bethere for one another, no matter
what.
That's loyalty, that'scommitment, that's unity, that's
tag teaming, you know.
So I mean hey.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Hey, that's what you got to do, you know.
I mean, you got to you know,you just got to you.
Just, man, I'm telling you Ilove you baby, I really do.
Thank you All right?
All right, we're getting readyto wrap it up a little bit,
cause we do want to talk aboutthat movie.
All right, all right.
(40:16):
And what ways have you seen Godwork, through your marriage, to
bless others?
Speaker 3 (40:25):
Wow, you know I often say I can't believe.
People actually want to hearwhat my opinion is about certain
things.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
Right, right right.
Speaker 3 (40:38):
I'd be like why do they think that what I have to
say is important?
They think that what I have tosay is important.
But God showed me the other day.
He said you know, the versethat I put in your mouth are not
for you.
He say you have a I can'tremember what exact verse, but
(40:58):
he says I draw people to me andpeople are willing to hear, and
so when he's speaking through me, he gives me the verse to say
and that's why people think thatI have something to say.
So I see him moving in me, I seehim changing me, the patience
(41:20):
and understanding and empathyand compassion for people you
know, for people, and he saysjust like you are with those
babies, wow, that's the same wayyou have to be with the ladies.
You have to be open, you haveto be patient, you have to
(41:41):
understand where they're comingfrom.
You know, I guess I shouldn'tbe slick at the mouth, but yeah,
you shouldn't be slick at themouth but you know, I just want
to keep things real with people.
I don't want them to think that.
You know, I don't want to biblebeat people, but I also want
them to know the lord and andseek him for themselves.
(42:01):
Don't take me at my word for it.
Get out there and feel it out,feel it, feel him for yourself.
Speaker 1 (42:08):
Right right.
Speaker 3 (42:09):
You know.
So I think in that aspect I cansee a change in me, um to the
point where I'm getting ready todo this podcast and I'm so
nervous about yes, yes.
But I'm excited about, about,you know, um, um, talking about
it.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
Yeah, let's talk about it late.
The women's edition?
Yeah, let's talk about it.
Let's talk about it.
Yeah, it's coming.
It's coming this summer.
Um, good, gives plug right inthe middle.
Coming this summer.
Let's talk about it with lady p, all right, and uh, we'll be
putting out the information ofwhen the date is going to come
in.
Is it's for?
(42:49):
You know she's going to betalking to the ladies, you know,
if you have an issue you wantto talk about, you know, just
send it to her and uh, she'sjust gonna rather single or
married, right?
Single married, single marriedwidow divorce, all right?
Speaker 3 (43:02):
we going to talk about everything.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
So you know, I'm looking at June 23rd, looking at
June 23rd, we're looking at,we're ready to start at June
23rd, all right.
So let's say we're here tosupport her.
She'll be right here on thischannel.
Mm-hmm.
And let's talk about it All,and let's talk about it All
right.
All right, now we got, we gotone more, one more.
(43:30):
All right, here we go.
If you could give one piece ofadvice to a newlywed Christian
couple, what would it be and why?
Speaker 3 (43:43):
Learn each other.
Ok, grow together, grow uptogether right right, right
right up together because we'renever finished growing up.
We learn something new every dayand, like I've said in the past
, I mean 33 years with eric andI still learn something new
about him almost every day.
Almost every day I'll be likeyou know, I didn't know that,
(44:08):
you know.
So, um, be open, be be willingto learn, be willing to take
corrective criticism right.
Don't get mad when somebody sayyou know, why are you wearing
them shoes?
Why are you wearing them shoeswith that?
Are you wearing them shoes withthat?
That don't work.
Although they're your favoriteshoes and you've been dying to
wear them.
If a person come and they saythis, or if they say whenever I
(44:31):
come to talk to you, you seemlike I'm annoying you.
You know.
Learn to communicate Date Right.
Don't have kids early on.
Mm, hmm.
At least give yourself a yearor two to get to know each other
.
Okay.
If I had to turn back the handof time, I think I would give
myself about five or six yearsbefore I start having kids.
(44:53):
That long Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (44:55):
Five or six years.
Five or six years, okay.
Speaker 3 (44:57):
That's just my opinion, but of course, with six
children now it's kind of latebut of course, with six children
now right late, but I just seeI see so, I see so many
marriages so stressed out,because, you know, we just, we
just got married, we got tolearn to live together, we got
to learn to grow together andthen, oh no, babe, guess what?
(45:18):
pregnant yeah now six months inthe game.
Now it's going full intoparenthood, right, right, but
the marriage didn't get a chanceto really settle before the kid
came along right, so I thinkit's important okay okay, all
right yeah, I think.
Speaker 1 (45:36):
I think it's very, very important, you know, to
just wait and settle down andget to know each other.
Uh, like, like you said, youknow we can wait on kids Then
then didn't do that.
Um, if you have them, you know,we just we talked about them
earlier.
You know, how does you know?
Um, cause, one thing you alwayssay you know, uh, and I think
we, we try to make sure yourkids are going to get 18 and
(46:01):
they're going to leave, they get19,.
They're going to leave, they'regoing to go, but you and your
spouse is going to be togetherand you don't want to be.
You don't want to stay togetherfor the kids and you do not
want to just put all your energyinto the kids, because when
they're gone, you don't want tobe asking your spouse, hey, what
(46:25):
do you like?
You know, because you don'tspend all your time thinking
about the kids and what they dois put all the energy in the
kids till you haven't put noenergy into your marriage and
it's going to be, you know,going 18 years and 19 years
without putting energy into yourmarriage, your marriage, it's
not going to be good.
It's not going to be good.
It's not going to be good.
So you know, like, even likeFerg was saying, you know, hey,
(46:50):
the kids are going to be,they're going to be all right.
You know, like you said earlier, you know the kids are young.
Find a good babysitter, youknow, and so you can spend some
quality time together.
Speaker 3 (47:03):
Let me read you a first.
All right.
My advice to newlyweds isaccept that you made the
decision.
Now work on making it the rightdecision.
Wow, he is the one, the one Ilove that need to be on a
t-shirt.
Speaker 1 (47:21):
Yeah, he's the one, she's the one.
Speaker 3 (47:28):
I love the part where you know, you, know, you, you,
you, except you made thedecision.
Now work on making the rightdecision and you know what, when
you work on it, it's worth ityeah, when you work on it when
you work on it and don't get allfuzzled and be ready to walk
away at the drop of a dimeanytime something's just not
working out in your, in your way.
But again, if it's any type ofphysical, mental, verbal abuse,
(47:52):
I'm I'm holding it to the fireyou got to walk yeah yeah, I
tell the ladies at church allthe time I say, pastor, come
over here with a knot on hishead and sunglasses.
Y'all know we got.
They don't even see me in there.
But you know, I'm grateful thatI have someone that cherish me.
(48:12):
I don't have to deal withsomething like that.
Thank you, lord.
Speaker 1 (48:18):
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.
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All right, but we look you gotking looking at us like hey,
y'all taking too long y'allain't finished yet.
Speaker 3 (49:20):
Look at him.
Speaker 1 (49:22):
He's like y'all ain't finished yet.
I left, I came back, I growleda little bit and y'all still
ain't finished.
Come on now Right, pass mydinner time, all right, so, hey,
so, hey.
So we thank God for thequestions.
Speaker 3 (49:35):
Yes, thank you.
It kind of really made me think.
You know, and again, just theway the Lord is using us with
the marriage retreat is simplyamazing.
I never thought that it wouldgrow like it's grown.
Right right and I'm happy to bewith the couples and I enjoy
(49:58):
their company.
I wish we could do it for alonger amount of time.
Right, right I don't want it toget boring.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
Yeah, we don't want to get on nobody's nerves.
Speaker 3 (50:09):
It's amazing.
Speaker 1 (50:10):
Right, it is amazing.
It's a movie that everybody'stalking about, I think.
I personally think it's one ofthe better Tyler Perry movies.
What is it called?
Straw?
Straw, it's called Straw.
And you know, just watching ittoday, man, it had me.
I don't know about any otherguy, you know I let you go with
(50:34):
my feelings.
I was crying a little bit.
I mean, I had tears coming, man, just to see what this lady
went through and we were talkingabout it.
To see what this lady wentthrough and we were talking
about it.
You never know what somebody'sgoing through.
Nope, you never know.
So you know somebody may snapat you or curse you out or
whatever.
You don't know what kind of daythat they had, and sometimes
(50:57):
you just got to say, okay, youmust be had a bad day.
When you say it in your mind,you must be had a bad day.
I'm just going to step offbecause you never know what
somebody is going to do.
And he has so, so manysubliminal God, I can't say that
word, you know messages in it.
Speaker 3 (51:11):
Yeah, so many hidden.
Speaker 1 (51:14):
So many hidden messages.
You know people that could havewatched and said something and
help her to avoid what she wasgetting ready to do.
Right, you had the teacher orthe principal, whatever that was
.
I don't want to tell the wholemovie, but you, you know, you
had all of those things that wasgoing on that could have have,
(51:36):
you know, stopped her from evendoing what she was getting ready
to do.
Speaker 2 (51:42):
And so I I just want to say she watched it last night
.
Speaker 1 (51:45):
Oh yeah, I watched it twice.
Speaker 3 (51:48):
I truly enjoyed it and one of the I was telling
Eric I say, eric, you know,something she said on that just
really stood out to me.
Out of the entire movie, thisis what stood out to me the most
when she said black womenalways got something.
They got to get over.
And I was like huh.
And then, when I thought aboutthat, is because people expect
(52:09):
us to be so strong all the timeand and we rise, you know, we
rise above some things, butsometimes some people they don't
make it to that point.
They may snap, snap, they maysnap.
So we just, you know, I wastelling Eric, I said you know,
we got to be a little bit morediscerned when people are around
, and especially people that youknow, just kind of notice, you
(52:33):
know, we get it.
We do have our breaking point.
We're going to always be thestrong person, and especially
when it comes down to singlemoms raising their kids on their
own, I know quite a few.
So, yeah, so I was like yeah, Itold Eric, I said you ought to
watch this movie.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
Yeah, yeah, I watched it.
And I would go farther and sayI know she said black women, but
black people period.
Because people have been sayingfor years and years that we
should get over slavery.
They say it in the church, theysay it outside the church.
Y'all need to get over slavery.
(53:13):
That happened over 400 yearsago, that happened this year,
that happened two years ago.
Y'all need to get over it.
You know, y'all keep bringingit up.
That's why people right now aretrying to change history,
because they want us to forgetabout it and they don't want our
children and our grandchildrenand our great grandchildren to
know about it.
So that's why we have, asparents and grandparents, we
(53:36):
have to teach our children aboutwhat real history is and know
that American history is notabout black history, but what
you got.
Speaker 3 (53:45):
Oh, I got to read these.
I mean, ms Shay says it's somany of us single mothers know
all too well that struggle.
Um, that's so true.
Um, and, like I said, you know,she definitely shared it here.
Um, and first is, the shame ofthat movie is that so many women
had empathy with her and somany of the so many of them had
(54:09):
an absent man in their lives.
Men, where are we for our womenand our children?
You dropped the mic on that,bro.
Where where are they?
You know?
And if she even said somethingthat she said to the lady to the
bank, and she said you got tobe careful who you have children
with, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (54:29):
And the first time I heard that.
Speaker 3 (54:30):
We've been saying that for years.
You got to be careful who youchoose.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
And the first time I heard somebody told me, a young
lady told me that you got to becareful.
What did Michelle say?
Speaker 3 (54:42):
I thank God for you and your family when it came to
the virus.
Speaker 1 (54:45):
Yeah, we tried to be there for the virus
Snickerdoodle, snickerdoodle,but he's going to get you I told
him I'll never call him that inpublic, ever again.
Well, you just call him on apodcast on YouTube.
They don't know who it is.
Speaker 3 (54:59):
They don't know who it is, but it's so true, you
know who it is, but it's so true, you know.
It's so many, it's so manywomen out there and um and
single men, not single mentaking care of their, their,
children too.
Now it's not a lot.
It's not okay, I'm not.
I'm not not saying that therearen't any guys out there that's
(55:20):
not doing it in this day andtime.
It's hard by yourself.
Speaker 1 (55:26):
It's hard when you're by yourself, yeah it's hard
because you got social media yougot to mess around with, you
got you know all of these.
You know I mean it is, it is uhtv.
You got all of that stuff thatyou got to deal with, that you
gotta, you know, watch your kidsand make sure they don't go to
the wrong site you know theycould be watching, and or they
(55:49):
they could be watching a cartoonon youtube and then all of a
sudden he goes, something thatyou, that you don't even want to
talk to him about yet, but theylearning it from a young age,
so you know, you gotta thank godlet me read this what Malika
just wrote.
Speaker 3 (56:05):
I love this.
She said there was also amessage about women standing
with other women and havingempathy for each other.
Some of her harshest criticswere women and they were the
landlord, the late girl at thebank, oh man, everybody, that
girl at the bank you know, ohman, everybody, that girl at the
(56:26):
bank she getting drunk, Becauseyou know hey, all she wanted
was $521.
Speaker 1 (56:31):
That's all the boss, man, the boss, you know.
Speaker 3 (56:36):
So yeah, yeah, yeah I think I would have shot him too
.
Speaker 1 (56:41):
Remember I told you I I said why don't you get one of
that broomstick and beat him?
You know that was before.
You know, while he was talkingto this is what Michelle says
she cried many days to Lady P.
She was an exception motivatorto me to keep me, keep pushing
to succeed aww, now stop that.
Speaker 3 (57:02):
Don't get me crying on here get a cry, get a cry.
I will take them off.
Speaker 1 (57:09):
Yes, yes, yes.
Then they come off one timewhile you're in church.
Speaker 3 (57:13):
I took my seat Hold up.
I can't see.
You know I do appreciate you aswell, michelle.
You know you were my go-to.
Now you're in Georgia.
Now I got to take aia.
Now I gotta take a trip.
Speaker 1 (57:24):
I take a trip to make it.
It's in making right.
Making is a nice place, thoughI've been there yeah, making is
a nice because that's that's onthe way to atlanta.
Right, making, yeah, making it.
I think it's on the way toatlanta.
Yeah, I believe.
So it's right there off.
Uh 75, I believe, I believe youknow I'll stop down there.
We got to go to go to Atlantaanyway.
So when we go to Atlanta, wefly, we will drive.
Speaker 3 (57:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (57:50):
All right.
Speaker 3 (57:51):
Oh, thank you I love you.
Speaker 1 (57:53):
Speaking of facts, well, hey, so we're excited, I'm
excited about the new podcast.
We're going to make sure weblow it up it.
You know, do all we can, youknow, take some pictures for it,
and you know, just make sureyou know I'll do that and then
you know, but hopefully maybeI'll do a man edition.
Speaker 3 (58:11):
you know where it's, just number me let me get mine
going, let me hey we're gonnahave both of them going in the
summertime.
Speaker 1 (58:18):
We do it in the summertime, you know, I mean
especially in the daytime.
I could be on, but, yeah, yeah,you know, um, we're looking
forward to your podcast.
We want to make sure thispodcast is on point.
So, uh, once you get the notice, make sure you share with your
friends, make sure you be liveand make sure you go to, uh,
(58:40):
apple and all that kind of stuff, because it's going to be there
too.
So we're excited about it, babe.
Yeah, we are.
We're going to be excited aboutit.
All, right, well, this is seasonthree.
This is a wrap up for seasonthree.
All right, we did it, baby, wemade it through, we made it, we
made it through.
So you know, I'm excited aboutthat.
(59:01):
That.
We made it through.
Me too.
I'm so excited.
So we thank our audience, welove you all, we thank you all
for supporting us for threeseasons and you be with us.
You know, online You've beengoing through the podcast,
you've been downloading thepodcast, and so we thank you for
doing that and loving on us,and we love you all.
(59:22):
Yeah, so we want to saygoodnight and we'll see you next
, season four God bless.
God bless.
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