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Mr Fox (00:17):
Welcome to the
Marriages Sexiest Secret
Little Kaninchen (00:33):
Okay, so
today, on this podcast, we're
Why we chose the subject matter,for this month is in the method
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really begin to build therelationship. And then another
we'll be talking from thesubmissives perspective, during
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dynamic? What is a FormalAcceptance? And how do you do
Mr Fox (01:37):
Okay, we have a lot to
go over here. LK.
Little Kaninchen (01:41):
I'm ready.
Mr Fox (01:42):
All right. Why don't
you take my hand? Let's do this.
Little Kaninchen (01:50):
I thought
Theresa just something else
Mr Fox (01:53):
We're gonna do that in
the Fox's Den
Little Kaninchen (01:55):
It sounds good
to me.
Mr Fox (01:56):
All right.
Little Kaninchen (02:01):
Do you want to
know a secret?
Mr Fox (02:03):
SECRET
Little Kaninchen (02:05):
Do you want to
have a secret? A dirty little
Mr Fox (02:16):
Oh, come on. You must
be curious.
Little Kaninchen (02:20):
Marriage has a
new secret or relationship
your marriage ever getting cut.
Welcome to married with a twist
Mr Fox (02:40):
Greetings everyone. Mr.
Fox and little kaninchen or lk?
Little Kaninchen (02:55):
Oh man, you
just told him the secret secret.
So let's talk community first.
subMrs. February and review. Sothings self love. And I know all
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you dirty minds out therethe quote says loving thyself
helps us love others more. Butworkshop for toys and tools and
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we have a wonderful elf subMrs.
Mr Fox (04:05):
nice gift.
Little Kaninchen (04:06):
It was a it
was a wonderful discussion. One
you get your dessert together.
Just be careful not to get it in
Mr Fox (04:25):
I was gonna say
something's going in the crack
Little Kaninchen (04:27):
Yeah, a little
bit but you have to be careful.
really one of the best groupdiscussions we've ever had about
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discussions we have every singlemonth on subMrs. So I encourage
that your brain is your largestsex organ. But even more
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a confidence every singleSunday, we posted a great thing
chakra, great information. Ifyou're not a part of
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journey, what steps to take whatmethod what parts of the method
Valentine's night? everybodyenjoyed that so much. So I would
Mr Fox (06:15):
I'm gonna leave all
that with one more comment. And
just go subMrs.com/events andyou'll be able to see everything
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goes to the calendar, orbackslash events, and you'll be
Little Kaninchen (06:46):
Yeah, anything
you want to know about the
Mr Fox (06:56):
Alright, let's get some
good stuff then.
Little Kaninchen (06:58):
Okay, the good
stuff, the cream of the Oreo,
Mr Fox (07:00):
Yep.
Little Kaninchen (07:01):
How to ask for
Marriage's Sexy Secret Dynamic,
of it, if you boiled everythingdown, that there's one word that
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going to start,
Mr Fox (07:37):
Right is crucial if you
don't put in the work, but you
and you bring this up to yourhusband or your spouse, if it's
Little Kaninchen (07:57):
Yeah. So the
preparation, we'll just talk
I'll back us up just a littlebit and say that you know, your
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something new, that might be alittle bit shocking. You know,
Mr Fox (08:41):
You need to build the
atmosphere, you need to set that
Little Kaninchen (08:45):
Yes, the
framework, that's a good word
journal or just a notebook andstart writing some stuff down.
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or some paper, just write downthese few things in preparation.
general. You can find thoseterms on subMrs on husDom, you
Mr Fox (09:48):
Right. So terms would
be I mean, just some ideas get
or Dominance and submissionstyle relationship, if that's
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down the rabbit hole, but justhave an idea in your mind
Little Kaninchen (10:22):
Right.
Mr Fox (10:23):
So again, when you're
reading it, and you go search
your partner of what thisrelationship or lifestyle is
Little Kaninchen (10:40):
Yeah, and if
you're not sure, we'll just you
covered this before, but it isbased on the relationship first,
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There's that question of howcould you want something like
promote monogamy. That's one bighuge difference. I'll just state
Mr Fox (11:38):
Yeah, I'll just say I
don't think that's hot topic at
might draw on their mindprobably doesn't have to do with
Little Kaninchen (12:02):
So the second
thing I would do is, go through
or you don't even know whatthose would be, you can get on
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place someplace where cruelty isshown. I don't know. You know,
it's real, and things arehappening and happening the way
Mr Fox (13:00):
That's the
entertainment value I think but
pain. They don't want todisrespect her in any type of
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pictures of somebody humiliatingand degrading and punishing and
instantly put up a barrier or awall because he would never want
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into if you get hurt you and itbecomes a more selfish point of
Yeah. Like I basically, in thewhole entire thing says stay
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would say.
And back to I think you saidthis in the very beginning of
people, we would recommendstarting somewhere where it's
Little Kaninchen (14:37):
So I would say
the next thing is copy excerpts
can just get your iPad out andjust show him that. Again. This
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also suggest to him to go tohusDom.com and register there
concerns, when they start adynamic like this, he's going to
Mr Fox (15:36):
And as you're talking
about that, I can even think of
resolve the feelings that I wasfeeling inside about, you know,
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anything it was trying to findresolution in my own mind and
Little Kaninchen (16:16):
Yes. And then,
you know, I always tell
would be great that you guyshave found this couples site.
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just add a lineup of BDSM,images, tumblers, again, don't
doing this as as you're showingthese pictures, don't just show
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quite like we do or theywouldn't guess that we feel. so
then he can get a better idea ofwhat it is that you're wanting,
Mr Fox (17:38):
Yeah, feelings are
really powerful. Most guys don't
think that again, as a man, I'mprobably just seeing the kink
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popping into his mind. You haveto express it like lk is saying
Little Kaninchen (18:11):
Yes. Well,
then we get to, once we get
preparations in order, you'regoing to pick the right time to
Mr Fox (18:34):
And one of the things
that I want to say too, is like
these things in our ownrelationship. There was no
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trying to choose the right timeand not just choose the right
Little Kaninchen (19:08):
Yeah, I'll
give you just a little This is a
slept for three days. I think Iread everything. Then I started
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how this could work for us. Mr.
Fox is a very dominant person,was just like, I got to figure
out a way to do this. Thisstarted writing down. How a
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marriage not really think aboutcould you make this work? I
would say it was probably I sayrepresentation for the married
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couple, monogamous couple. Therewhat I did. So yeah, I mean, I
would say it was weeks and
Mr Fox (20:54):
But planning the event,
like what day I would be home
a lot of preparation and preplanning and a whole lot of
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relationship figured out, andthen came to me with all the
acceptance until they figure itall out, because it's a journey
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like, what would it look like?
So you can answer those
Little Kaninchen (21:46):
So when you're
picking your time, I kinda like
Mr Fox (21:59):
Where ther kids are
yelling and screaming.
Little Kaninchen (22:01):
Yeah, where
something is stressful, you
a getaway, someplace where thestress is not on.
Mr Fox (22:22):
Right. And I'm going to
add to that it's not just like,
me away and kind of like allthose got me away from all of
Little Kaninchen (22:47):
Yeah, and Mr.
Fox had the word there, softenI'm going to remind all the
subMrs out there or futureor make those hard parts soft, I
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guess I don't know where I'm
Mr Fox (23:22):
No the hard parts are
hard.
Little Kaninchen (23:23):
Yeah. So like,
you know, so have lots of sex
stomach, but it really is thepenis.
Mr Fox (23:44):
Its the penis.
Little Kaninchen (23:44):
Then the
stomach, I would say you have to
Mr Fox (23:49):
Right? Because I cannot
eat.
Little Kaninchen (23:51):
Yeah, that's
what I'm saying. So think about
the point where you can speak tohis heart. Some guys you can
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time or setting up theatmosphere for everything. You
gonna get into the atmospherehere. But you know, I bought a
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you get out of the shower beforehim, you kind of set up some
you step out of the shower, andyou have the lighting, maybe
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and kneel to him, have that allset up for him, when he gets
doing this. So you take hishands and you say, you know, I
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are is mine. But you just askedhim, please, we come in here and
you just drop your robe. And youkneel to him. And you say,
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to just at that point, you haveto just stop and listen to what
don't ask, then zip your lips.
And just listen to what he says.
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of secondary thoughts, you cananswer those. So you have to
Mr Fox (27:02):
And also though its the
power, there's a huge power
can do that gives somebody themost humility is first of all,
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other thing is when somebodykneels in front of you is
my emotions into words aboutlike, I didn't understand what
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Dominant. Like she says, justwait for an answer. It might
maybe it was 30 seconds. It feltlike a lifetime. Like I just,
Little Kaninchen (28:20):
Up until that
point, it was a power struggle
Yeah. But I don't think therewere any signs. I mean, there
Yeah, and I would say you'regiven them a few seconds to
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you're very serious about maybemore serious about than just
marriage, and also do somethingto enrich it and make it a
Mr Fox (29:15):
Yeah, it's commitment
and vulnerability, I think. I
position in front of me. I mean,it was, I was awestruck, and
Little Kaninchen (29:34):
Yeah. And then
he may even ask you questions
sport. Basically this thingwe're going to do together.
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it's kind of like I scratch yourback, you scratch mine, you get
D|s-M dynamic is based on honestcommunication, and healthy
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closet, you're going to have allthis other things to do that
responsibilities. And this isjust not one sided, where the
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knew, blah, blah, blah, youknow, but we none of us have a
maybe once he is your dominant,they really do start thinking a
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things.
Mr Fox (31:39):
What I'm about to say
is not very common, but it does
that, or however they justifiedin our mind. But it really, that
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mistaking when you're the manthe level of like lk saying
be unforgettable. And both ofyour lives very crucial, right
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experience, I think and thenlike, lk said, so there's so
Little Kaninchen (32:48):
Yeah, like I
said, a rite of passage, you
depends on you know how thingsgo, some people are so nervous
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handed it to him like, but thenthey don't feel it as much. So
kind of a really clusterfuck forbetter other words to use. But I
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the fact and go back over it andsuggest to him afterwards to
to other guys at first or feellike they don't want to be
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away. And it's really great thathe gets the gist of from others
Mr Fox (34:24):
One of the things that
went through my mind when you're
it's been if it's five, ten,twienty or thirty years ago, I
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minute. Would you remember thatmoment in your life? I mean,
intimate manner than that. Andthat's the whole purpose of
Little Kaninchen (35:26):
Yeah, it's
it's, and and I tell everybody,
I mean, it is work. And you dohave to make your marriage a
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to what he says. And most thetime everybody kind of reports
the type of husband that reallyhas to know everything before he
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not asking him to like, I don'tknow, cut off his right arm or
Mr Fox (36:43):
So you're not asking
him to have any answers. That's
with me? Like, I don't have itfigured out? I know, you don't
Little Kaninchen (37:09):
Yes, the first
step is what we're really asking
Mr Fox (37:13):
Because if you don't
take that you're not on a Right?
Little Kaninchen (37:25):
Yeah. And it's
the best I would say I crack up.
Mr Fox (37:33):
The research, the
research, once you get on the
Little Kaninchen (37:36):
Yes, yes. And
it's fun, and you laugh a lot,
because we quit learning aboutone another. And that's, that's
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partner, but you don't like allof us are ever evolving. You
you really, you take the goodknowledge you already had. And
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other shoot, some of us hadn'tseen each other naked for 20
Mr Fox (38:48):
Yeah. And people will
have that communication
started on the journey, they'relike, I didn't realize the
Little Kaninchen (39:07):
Depths that
they have never went before and
Mr Fox (39:11):
so you might be coming
to this with the best
other that you never know.
Because every single person I've
Little Kaninchen (39:34):
Yeah.
Mr Fox (39:35):
Out of 20000 people
yeah, there has not been a
Little Kaninchen (39:40):
So well.
Basically that's our you know,time because we know everybody's
time is so goldenAre you thinking this dynamic
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could really work for you anddrink me toss it back and drink
the Wonderland Kool Aid becausemarriage accessory