July 9, 2021 • 57 mins
In this podcast episode, we have a little phrase, la petite mort, the female's little death.
And you asked me what does that means? It's an expression in France that means the brief loss or weakening of the consciousness, and in modern usage refers specifically to the sensation of post-orgasmic that's likened to death.
This episode of Marriage's Sexiest Secret talks all about female orgasms. It begins with an in-depth discussion about what is actually happening to the woman's body during a female orgasm.
This episode dives deep into BDSM training and control of the female orgasm. Mr Fox and lk also share a lot of their personal experience with orgasm training.
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Mr Fox (00:00):
Bonjour! Welcome to Marriages. Sexiest Secret
submission. Marriages SexiestSecret. Thats a lot of secrets
Little Kaninchen (00:23):
I love secrets Just in time queuing to French
music. I love it.
Let's start with our voyeursglimpse into today's podcast.
Mr Fox (00:41):
I do.
Little Kaninchen (00:42):
Today's podcast we have a little phrase
More specifically mel la petitemort, the females little death.
And you asked me what does thatmean? It's an expression in
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Today we examine the femaleorgasm and inspire marriages
Its like living on the edge. AndI won't sing Bon Jovi for you.
Mr Fox (01:35):
You're sure you don't want to sing LK?
Little Kaninchen (01:36):
I'm sure.
Let's get started.
Do you want to know a secret?
Secret! Do you want to have athe smallest bit curious.
(02:05):
Shh... Marriage has a sexy newsecret, a relationship accessory
hole, where Mr. Fox and I shareour secrets.
(02:26):
Secrets that will inspire you toexplore, create and build sexual
back. In other words, drink theKool Aid. We can give you all
Mr Fox (02:53):
Let's get this podcast started LK. Are you ready to
Little Kaninchen (02:59):
Oui oui monsieur.
Come with us fall down therabbit hole and into the foxe's
Mr Fox (03:10):
Yes!
Little Kaninchen (03:11):
Yes.
Welcome to marriage's sexiestsecret podcast.
But it's crazy.
(03:34):
So let's talk orgasms. Butfirst, let's talk what is
The clitoris which is made up ofover 8000 individual nerve
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begins to swell and your outerlips separate. This is often
Along with this lubrication, thelower part of your vagina
Mr Fox (04:36):
or toy.
Little Kaninchen (04:37):
Yep. As arousal increases, the person's
There are changes throughout thewhole body. A head to toe kind
(05:13):
chest and your face get all redor pink and rosy. Many artists
Mr Fox (05:22):
You've probably seen it on other people in your life.
Little Kaninchen (05:27):
Yes, testosterone and
have some tension, some tinglingbuilding throughout their body,
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over your whole body. That'scalled my atonia. And it is
orgasm?
Mr Fox (06:21):
No, I didn't. And I would say from our experience,
Little Kaninchen (06:30):
Yes, absolutely. That's when you're
Mr Fox (06:41):
I think that's great.
Back to what you were just
Little Kaninchen (06:54):
Almost.
Mr Fox (06:55):
Maybe that was you telling me
Little Kaninchen (06:56):
I think that might have been me saying that?
Mr Fox (06:59):
Well, we definitely agree.
Little Kaninchen (07:00):
Yes, we agree on that one. Let's talk about
researchers show that gentlereflex is part of the spinal
Mr Fox (07:35):
That makes perfect sense. I'll be honest, like I
Little Kaninchen (07:42):
Yes, so interesting. But if we talk a
Mr Fox (07:54):
I love feeling those
Little Kaninchen (07:56):
The sexual tension caused by lovemaking or
feeling you get. And theafterwards, what some people
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course your breathing returnsback to normal. Women also have
that means when you're watchingporn, you might be able to just
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transmitted directly to thebrain. There are many nerve
Mr Fox (09:09):
I want to know where that pathway is.
Little Kaninchen (09:12):
You find that pathway quite often. Let me just
submissive, you have to keepthose pelvic floor muscles
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that's kind of the goal. Youwant that actual climax of that
Mr Fox (09:57):
So that's really interesting news to me, So if
Little Kaninchen (10:10):
More pleasurable.
Mr Fox (10:11):
pleasurable orgasm.
Little Kaninchen (10:13):
Absolutely.
Mr Fox (10:14):
So all those kegel like you just said the kegel
Little Kaninchen (10:25):
Yes, during your orgasm, before, during and
Mr Fox (10:30):
Hmm. I had no idea.
Little Kaninchen (10:32):
If you think about it, all of us ladies who
Mr Fox (10:42):
Which it pretty much does naturally.
Little Kaninchen (10:44):
Yeah.,
Mr Fox (10:44):
I honestly thought that was like, is it incontinence? Is
Little Kaninchen (10:55):
Absolutely.
That is it's like building any
Mr Fox (10:58):
Right? But I had no idea that by keeping that muscle
Little Kaninchen (11:09):
Yes, it's a pleasure for you. It's pleasure
Mr Fox (11:20):
So as a good dominant I could give you exercises to do
Little Kaninchen (11:28):
Absolutely.
That would be part of the
Mr Fox (11:30):
And it would benefit me.
Little Kaninchen (11:33):
Again, win, win.
Mr Fox (11:34):
I love this. I love it.
Okay, I'll let you continue.
Little Kaninchen (11:38):
Okay, so we were talking about the climax
Mr Fox (11:51):
Now men are so literal, I know men are gonna be out
Little Kaninchen (11:57):
Well, she would kind of the contractions
Mr Fox (12:06):
Unless you're inside her.
Little Kaninchen (12:07):
Right? You could feel that.
Mr Fox (12:08):
Absolutely.
Little Kaninchen (12:09):
If you want to explain about watching someone
Mr Fox (12:13):
Winking is basically when you watch the vagina
Little Kaninchen (12:22):
Yes. So you can count the contractions by
Mr Fox (12:26):
If it is really powerful. It's like she has
Little Kaninchen (12:31):
Okay, everybody would need that
each one of those 12contractions for a minute at a
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orgasms are just physical orjust the body, they're also the
Your brain also is releasingchemicals. Like I said earlier,
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submission. Really, when you'redoing orgasm training, or
reacting, mind and body. So Iwould say and I tell everybody,
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have an orgasm. And I would sayhusbands know their wives
know what her rhythm is. No, Ithink you should explore that
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fun.
Mr Fox (14:40):
All the women in the world are cheering you on right
Little Kaninchen (14:49):
Well, it's so true. So that's just the very
Mr Fox (14:59):
Alright. What I would say to about the orgasms is I
so I mean, orgasms are great foreverybody.
Little Kaninchen (15:18):
Everybody has a part in it. Let me just say
Parners I mean, both partnershave a great benefit and
Mr Fox (15:36):
right, it's the key to
Little Kaninchen (15:40):
a happy marriage.
Mr Fox (15:41):
Yeah, complete ecstasy.
I mean, it is it's the pathway
Little Kaninchen (15:54):
I agree.
Mr Fox (15:55):
So when we talk about orgasm control and training, it
right. That's kind of what theforced orgasm is. So orgasms
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partner, or by yourself. Itinvolves the maintenance of a
Edging. Edging is postponingthat orgasm to achieve a
Orgasm denial, it's pretty muchwhat we say it is. Preventing
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as well. One thing that I'vedone with LK, while I've been
that I don't think she canaccomplish an orgasm in. Right,
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it. How freaking frustrating isthat? And she's usually really
Little Kaninchen (17:42):
Yeah, it builds. I mean, doing like we
Mr Fox (17:51):
Right?
Little Kaninchen (17:51):
It's part of honing her for your arrival.
Mr Fox (17:55):
Yeah. And again, I mean, that can even be done
you know, I'll check in like shetalks about like our check in
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And trust me like, LK, so goodat this control. I've given her
Little Kaninchen (18:33):
Well, I mean, the more you practice, the more
We could be standing in Costco,and he could have said the right
Mr Fox (18:56):
Should we give it a try? Hey I bet this would be
Little Kaninchen (19:02):
Probably. But yeah, so I'm just saying you get
Mr Fox (19:14):
But it's also plain fun. It gives you like, like
Giving her a real opportunity tobe able to have an orgasm.
Little Kaninchen (19:31):
And your Sir is helping you learn how to do
going through my mind the entiretime we're scenning or playing
Mr Fox (19:58):
I don't want to get sidetracked but honestly after
say that lk has some of the bestorgasm control, probably of
Little Kaninchen (20:20):
A lot of years of practice.
Mr Fox (20:22):
And as a dominant, there's still like she can
Little Kaninchen (20:33):
Right.
Mr Fox (20:33):
So like as the dominant I have to think of what my goals
can still find that O.
Little Kaninchen (20:48):
Yeah, we'll talk more about that later.
Mr Fox (20:56):
There really is an art to it, I think I mean, there's
Little Kaninchen (21:05):
Yeah. Another reason, it also increases
tolerate stimulation he givesyou. Some sirs like immediate
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flexibility and stimulation, Iguess I should say. So that's a
duration of your sex or what'sgoing on probably at least twice
Mr Fox (22:05):
I would say done correctly, I believe it makes
doesn't exactly stop. Like Iwant to say a guy's body like my
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the body started off on theright path. It's almost an
Little Kaninchen (22:46):
I think that's the case for most of us ladies.
And then we'll talk about orgasmcontrol can be used to create a
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flexible and what you're tryingand doing. Maybe if he's pushing
please please please I want toplease him. And that's used for
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and subs. This is great whenyou're doing this orgasm
husband in the fact that he iscontrolling that.
Mr Fox (24:02):
Definitely.
Little Kaninchen (24:02):
So by doing this in the beginning, oh, it's
Mr Fox (24:15):
Yeah, there's definitely something very
about the orgasms is we alsorealize that you know, some
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that we do realize that somepeople will have challenges
Little Kaninchen (24:49):
Like you said we could go on and on but
the menopausal a woman. That'sgoing to help her find her mind
Mr Fox (25:10):
Right? And again...
Little Kaninchen (25:11):
Again, another whole subject.
Mr Fox (25:12):
It is, but I also found it fascinating at the beginning
and things besides thepsychological.
Little Kaninchen (25:31):
Yeah.
Mr Fox (25:31):
Besides the hormonal?
Little Kaninchen (25:33):
Like we said, we keep saying orgasm is the
Mr Fox (25:41):
I've been saying that since we were kids. It fixes
Little Kaninchen (25:46):
I have one more listed that the orgasm
the man to not spread his seedto save his seed up. Also, if
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time, teaching you to have it ifhe doesn't touch the clitoris,
virginal or the clitoral, thenthis gives you a chance to
Mr Fox (26:45):
And not to get too far off the topic again but the
areas down around the pelvis andstuff a lot of places you can
Little Kaninchen (27:04):
There's so much more than just the button.
There is soo much more than abutton.
Mr Fox (27:16):
Yes.
Little Kaninchen (27:17):
Its the easy button, like staples.
Mr Fox (27:18):
And what a great name for it.
Little Kaninchen (27:19):
But easy isn't always better. So then we go
submissive to orgasm or notright? Orgasm is command. No
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you already are doing this, youknow exactly what I mean.
sexual plateau. Then he'llquickly reduce the level of
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order to develop and increasedlevel of sexual tension. It's
Mr Fox (28:34):
Yeah, we talked about edging a lot on husDOM.
Little Kaninchen (28:38):
Yeah, I'm gonna start singing 30 Seconds
Mr Fox (28:42):
No, go ahead. Everybody would love that. I would love
Little Kaninchen (28:44):
Yeah, no, no, no, nobody would love it. But
simulation. And by practicingthis with his subMrs to learn
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at some point, the repetitionmay cause the urge to orgasm to
usually stronger due to theincreased tension of the arousal
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your mind telling you that youjust failed on holding back and
wink, funishments, punishments.
Mr Fox (30:05):
And like I was told LK I really don't like the word
would be an opportunity.
Little Kaninchen (30:21):
Right. But if you're like a performer like me,
not reacted the way you wereasked to. So that's the whole
Mr Fox (30:50):
It would ramp up so quickly, right then LK, that y
Little Kaninchen (30:55):
Yeah, you know, I punished myself for
Mr Fox (30:57):
You would be thinking holy shit, what's coming.
Little Kaninchen (30:59):
Right. Because the submissives mind isn't
something else that again, youdon't hold on to that because
Mr Fox (31:26):
Because we'd be going somewhere else pretty quickly.
Little Kaninchen (31:28):
Right. So the flip side of orgasm control,
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go and stop, go get high, high,high stop. Get high high high.
Mr. Fox.
Mr Fox (32:07):
By bondage.
Little Kaninchen (32:09):
Bond. James Bond, no bondage, James bondage.
Mr Fox (32:16):
I'll bet you LK.
Little Kaninchen (32:17):
James bondage.
Mr Fox (32:19):
I'll bet you there is already a porno named James
A forced orgasm isconsensual BDSM or kinky sexual
Little Kaninchen (32:23):
(Sinnging) and over. Without that come down
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period between each orgasm rightbang bang orgasm after orgasm
with zero break and intensity.
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control or train an orgasm of asubmissive physical restraints
(sinnging)
Mr Fox (33:30):
The whole bondage thing though, like there's a whole
Right? If you're edging it, youtie them up and you tease them.
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physical, but it's also a lot ofpsychological intensity that's
bound. Regarding multiple orforced climax, the dominant can
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doing those things, you can saya lot of wonderful things about
Little Kaninchen (34:42):
Use your five senses.
Mr Fox (34:44):
Yes. Yeah, what you say to her can also be incredible
Little Kaninchen (34:50):
We're gonna go into total sexual denial next,
Mr Fox (34:53):
I don't know if I'm gonna like this.
Little Kaninchen (34:55):
I can tell you I don't think anybody likes it,
Mr Fox (35:07):
Three days with no water, I think.
Little Kaninchen (35:09):
Okay, so if you put them out in the desert
total avoidance of any type ofgenital stimulation to any part
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on a man or woman. Remember, thebrain is the largest sexual
It could be your submissivesfavorite turn on our fetish.
Mr Fox (36:02):
And it is though, like we talked about like if I is the
verbalize. But if I've locked upunder lock and key, your
Little Kaninchen (36:23):
Like that pleasure center.
Mr Fox (36:25):
You don't, I know you don't, LK you're so creative
mindfuck of the whole thing.
Little Kaninchen (36:39):
And I have a funny little side note, that
was or is still we still talkabout to this day. And I'm sorry
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husband loves. So it's kind offunny, but we still talk about
Mr Fox (37:16):
it's hilarious.
Little Kaninchen (37:16):
Sorry, his hole, wherever you are. If you
Mr Fox (37:24):
It's great.
Little Kaninchen (37:25):
We're also going to talk about the use of a
all the while denying hissubmissive the ability to
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used to prolong penetrative sex,for the dominant in cases of ED
satisfies a dominant partner'sneed to control his submissives
Mr Fox (38:19):
I'm going to add even to that whole using the dildo in
So to think that during thatscene, you're gonna have an
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to extend penetration andorgasms and just to extend that
Little Kaninchen (38:55):
Yeah. And, you can use it during your orgasm
Mr Fox (39:10):
Right, which is great on so many levels, like even
Little Kaninchen (39:16):
The real thing.
Mr Fox (39:17):
Right? Not just fill my hole, but the real cock she'll
Little Kaninchen (39:23):
Yeah. So there you go.
Mr Fox (39:25):
There is not much hotter than your submissive
Little Kaninchen (39:28):
Yes.
Mr Fox (39:29):
And really needing it.
Little Kaninchen (39:31):
Right.
There's nothing more sexier
Mr Fox (39:39):
Alright, and beginning training and honing her skills.
her to masturbate and how manytimes she can during the day ask
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learns that her orgasms areowned by her dominant. And
Little Kaninchen (40:18):
Lots of practice, practice practice,
We can talk a little bit aboutso many people talk about rules
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it clear that the rule alwaysapplies to her during scenes
Mr Fox (40:54):
Yeah, to be honest, I would say the whole rule is
explicit permission in order tocome. And really, that rule
Little Kaninchen (41:30):
We can talk a little bit about the different
verbal command. That's what youhear in books. That's what you
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tone of voice. How he uses thecommand, or the trigger or the
then you're in the line andsomebody comes over the speaker
Mr Fox (42:30):
LK, it's like ooo,
Little Kaninchen (42:33):
Yes, yeees.
And you'd have one of those
Mr Fox (42:41):
That's hilarious.
We have the touching cue. Thetouching cue is the touch in the
Little Kaninchen (42:42):
So the verbal cue has the tone of voice and
shall we. A couple can use avisual cue. And again, it's just
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visual cue. So you know, hcould flash you three finger
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foot. You really have to bethinking because if he slaps
The countdowns of course.
It's the final countdown.
(Singing)Yes, that's Europe from 1986.
This is probably the most usedin play. So he's counting down
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till you're allowed to come.
Sound cues. I would say the snapof a finger. You can use timers
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helicopter on there and thentrapper in to responding to the
Mr Fox (44:42):
I think you're right and every podcast somehow you're
Little Kaninchen (44:47):
Ah, ok.
Mr Fox (44:49):
I love it.
Little Kaninchen (44:50):
I don't know I think that is how my mind works
Mr Fox (44:51):
What kind of helicopter?
Little Kaninchen (44:52):
See what you have done to me?
You're in all these noises Iwant to like upload a helicopter
After so many years with you Iguess it's just...
Mr Fox (44:59):
I love it. I really do
Little Kaninchen (45:01):
Transforming me. Um, I'll hand it over...
Mr Fox (45:05):
Little by little, I'm transforming you. Little by
Little Kaninchen (45:07):
Im going to hand it over to you to talk
Mr Fox (45:18):
If you're edging or practicing forced orgasms with
that she is physically spentpast her limit. Communicating
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maybe leading to a half, or alltogether disappearing orgasm.
her to orgasm. Even when you'vebeen stimulating her in the
Little Kaninchen (46:15):
Okay, so I have a couple of common
question is, when do you want todo it? Whenever you both Deem
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just a little period of timewhere you practice that. It
annually to add some freshnessto your dynamic and you can also
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aftercare. I also advise peopleto make sure in your downtime
journals? They can journal theirthoughts. What worked for them.
Mr Fox (47:46):
It's not handy during a scene No, but later on. Yes,
Little Kaninchen (47:49):
Yeah. So you can go back and read what worked
Mr Fox (47:51):
And the key for us Dom's probably is to go back and
Little Kaninchen (47:57):
Of course, afterwards, it would be too
Share that with your sir, indowntime even. It's very
Mr Fox (48:24):
I'm gonna go back to your number one because when do
Little Kaninchen (48:30):
Yes.
Mr Fox (48:31):
Every single scene.
Probably from the very first
Little Kaninchen (48:36):
Because my number one rule if I don't come
So the whole time I'm trying toperform for my sir and not do
Mr Fox (48:45):
Right. I would say that that element is in almost every
happen. They're going to somehowhave my control on them. And no
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in the exact same scene. WhichI would think it is in most
Little Kaninchen (49:18):
Well, an actual training sessions where
Mr Fox (49:26):
So the scene is just that.
Little Kaninchen (49:28):
Yes.
Mr Fox (49:28):
Okay.
Little Kaninchen (49:29):
Yes. And people do ask me how many
course, once you get pretty incontrol of yourself, and he's
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you're showing me what you cando. And then you take it a
Mr Fox (50:04):
If a guy asked me, how many times I would tell him,
Little Kaninchen (50:09):
Right. Make a plan. What's your intention?
Mr Fox (50:12):
Right. And then I would use that and figure out how
Little Kaninchen (50:17):
And hopefully, it takes a really long time to
Mr Fox (50:20):
Unlike most goals, because in my mind, I'm thinking
Little Kaninchen (50:23):
Your going to ask the man is a four, we'll do
Mr Fox (50:29):
Right. I would set a goal.
Little Kaninchen (50:31):
And then it is really fun to sit down with the
that come up sometimes duringthose sessions. OOr maybe you're
Mr Fox (50:58):
Somehow we ought to come up with like, when I say
Little Kaninchen (51:09):
Yes, we've done it in the we've done it in
Mr Fox (51:12):
So maybe give everybody like, drop down menus or
Little Kaninchen (51:22):
Absolutely.
You know, there's a couple
Mr Fox (51:32):
Maybe this is a good one.
Little Kaninchen (51:33):
Yeah, I think so.
Mr Fox (51:35):
I'm liking it.
Little Kaninchen (51:35):
Okay. Well, I think that ends our orgasm
Are you thinking this dynamiccould really work for you and
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Little Kaninchen (52:10):
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Little Kaninchen (52:14):
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Little Kaninchen (53:25):
Until next time, au revoir.
GoodbyeFrom our Wonderland This is lk
Mr Fox (53:31):
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Little Kaninchen (53:32):
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Mr Fox (53:33):
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Little Kaninchen (53:41):
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Mr Fox (53:53):
Anymore little French comments put in there LK before
Little Kaninchen (53:58):
How do you say fuck me in French?
Mr Fox (54:01):
I don't know but I bet that's pretty universal.
Little Kaninchen (54:04):
Fuck Me?
Mr Fox (54:04):
Yeah, I bet if you said that to a French man, he would
Little Kaninchen (54:08):
You would think I say fuck you,fuck me.
Mr Fox (54:10):
No, I doubt he would think that.
Baiser Moi Baiser MoiSay like you mean?
Little Kaninchen (54:20):
Baiser Moi...
Mr Fox (54:23):
There you go.
Little Kaninchen (54:27):
Oh, wait, I want you to fuck me.
Here is, I want you to fuck me.
Mr Fox (54:31):
You know I'm gonna put this in the podcast.
Little Kaninchen (54:35):
Right here.
Oh, what it doesn't say it to me
Mr Fox (54:41):
You mean it doesn't talk dirty to you? What kind of
Little Kaninchen (54:47):
I have to get it to say it because I can't say
Mr Fox (54:58):
Oui Oui
Little Kaninchen (54:59):
Ready?
Mr Fox (55:01):
That's a lot to say.
That's a mouthful
Little Kaninchen (55:03):
Je veux que tu me baise
Why don't you just hide yourskirt up and I get the idea.
Je veux que tu me baise,Nevermind.
Mr Fox (55:19):
Just touch yourself lk, I'll understand.
Little Kaninchen (55:21):
We're just ending
Mr Fox (55:22):
Alright.
Bonjour! Welcome to Marriages. Sexiest Secret
submission. Marriages SexiestSecret. Thats a lot of secrets
Little Kaninchen (00:23):
I love secrets Just in time queuing to French
music. I love it.
Let's start with our voyeursglimpse into today's podcast.
Mr Fox (00:41):
I do.
Little Kaninchen (00:42):
Today's podcast we have a little phrase
More specifically mel la petitemort, the females little death.
And you asked me what does thatmean? It's an expression in
(01:19):
Today we examine the femaleorgasm and inspire marriages
Its like living on the edge. AndI won't sing Bon Jovi for you.
Mr Fox (01:35):
You're sure you don't want to sing LK?
Little Kaninchen (01:36):
I'm sure.
Let's get started.
Do you want to know a secret?
Secret! Do you want to have athe smallest bit curious.
(02:05):
Shh... Marriage has a sexy newsecret, a relationship accessory
hole, where Mr. Fox and I shareour secrets.
(02:26):
Secrets that will inspire you toexplore, create and build sexual
back. In other words, drink theKool Aid. We can give you all
Mr Fox (02:53):
Let's get this podcast started LK. Are you ready to
Little Kaninchen (02:59):
Oui oui monsieur.
Come with us fall down therabbit hole and into the foxe's
Mr Fox (03:10):
Yes!
Little Kaninchen (03:11):
Yes.
Welcome to marriage's sexiestsecret podcast.
But it's crazy.
(03:34):
So let's talk orgasms. Butfirst, let's talk what is
The clitoris which is made up ofover 8000 individual nerve
(04:07):
begins to swell and your outerlips separate. This is often
Along with this lubrication, thelower part of your vagina
Mr Fox (04:36):
or toy.
Little Kaninchen (04:37):
Yep. As arousal increases, the person's
There are changes throughout thewhole body. A head to toe kind
(05:13):
chest and your face get all redor pink and rosy. Many artists
Mr Fox (05:22):
You've probably seen it on other people in your life.
Little Kaninchen (05:27):
Yes, testosterone and
have some tension, some tinglingbuilding throughout their body,
(06:01):
over your whole body. That'scalled my atonia. And it is
orgasm?
Mr Fox (06:21):
No, I didn't. And I would say from our experience,
Little Kaninchen (06:30):
Yes, absolutely. That's when you're
Mr Fox (06:41):
I think that's great.
Back to what you were just
Little Kaninchen (06:54):
Almost.
Mr Fox (06:55):
Maybe that was you telling me
Little Kaninchen (06:56):
I think that might have been me saying that?
Mr Fox (06:59):
Well, we definitely agree.
Little Kaninchen (07:00):
Yes, we agree on that one. Let's talk about
researchers show that gentlereflex is part of the spinal
Mr Fox (07:35):
That makes perfect sense. I'll be honest, like I
Little Kaninchen (07:42):
Yes, so interesting. But if we talk a
Mr Fox (07:54):
I love feeling those
Little Kaninchen (07:56):
The sexual tension caused by lovemaking or
feeling you get. And theafterwards, what some people
(08:28):
course your breathing returnsback to normal. Women also have
that means when you're watchingporn, you might be able to just
(08:59):
transmitted directly to thebrain. There are many nerve
Mr Fox (09:09):
I want to know where that pathway is.
Little Kaninchen (09:12):
You find that pathway quite often. Let me just
submissive, you have to keepthose pelvic floor muscles
(09:48):
that's kind of the goal. Youwant that actual climax of that
Mr Fox (09:57):
So that's really interesting news to me, So if
Little Kaninchen (10:10):
More pleasurable.
Mr Fox (10:11):
pleasurable orgasm.
Little Kaninchen (10:13):
Absolutely.
Mr Fox (10:14):
So all those kegel like you just said the kegel
Little Kaninchen (10:25):
Yes, during your orgasm, before, during and
Mr Fox (10:30):
Hmm. I had no idea.
Little Kaninchen (10:32):
If you think about it, all of us ladies who
Mr Fox (10:42):
Which it pretty much does naturally.
Little Kaninchen (10:44):
Yeah.,
Mr Fox (10:44):
I honestly thought that was like, is it incontinence? Is
Little Kaninchen (10:55):
Absolutely.
That is it's like building any
Mr Fox (10:58):
Right? But I had no idea that by keeping that muscle
Little Kaninchen (11:09):
Yes, it's a pleasure for you. It's pleasure
Mr Fox (11:20):
So as a good dominant I could give you exercises to do
Little Kaninchen (11:28):
Absolutely.
That would be part of the
Mr Fox (11:30):
And it would benefit me.
Little Kaninchen (11:33):
Again, win, win.
Mr Fox (11:34):
I love this. I love it.
Okay, I'll let you continue.
Little Kaninchen (11:38):
Okay, so we were talking about the climax
Mr Fox (11:51):
Now men are so literal, I know men are gonna be out
Little Kaninchen (11:57):
Well, she would kind of the contractions
Mr Fox (12:06):
Unless you're inside her.
Little Kaninchen (12:07):
Right? You could feel that.
Mr Fox (12:08):
Absolutely.
Little Kaninchen (12:09):
If you want to explain about watching someone
Mr Fox (12:13):
Winking is basically when you watch the vagina
Little Kaninchen (12:22):
Yes. So you can count the contractions by
Mr Fox (12:26):
If it is really powerful. It's like she has
Little Kaninchen (12:31):
Okay, everybody would need that
each one of those 12contractions for a minute at a
(13:04):
orgasms are just physical orjust the body, they're also the
Your brain also is releasingchemicals. Like I said earlier,
(13:27):
submission. Really, when you'redoing orgasm training, or
reacting, mind and body. So Iwould say and I tell everybody,
(14:03):
have an orgasm. And I would sayhusbands know their wives
know what her rhythm is. No, Ithink you should explore that
(14:38):
fun.
Mr Fox (14:40):
All the women in the world are cheering you on right
Little Kaninchen (14:49):
Well, it's so true. So that's just the very
Mr Fox (14:59):
Alright. What I would say to about the orgasms is I
so I mean, orgasms are great foreverybody.
Little Kaninchen (15:18):
Everybody has a part in it. Let me just say
Parners I mean, both partnershave a great benefit and
Mr Fox (15:36):
right, it's the key to
Little Kaninchen (15:40):
a happy marriage.
Mr Fox (15:41):
Yeah, complete ecstasy.
I mean, it is it's the pathway
Little Kaninchen (15:54):
I agree.
Mr Fox (15:55):
So when we talk about orgasm control and training, it
right. That's kind of what theforced orgasm is. So orgasms
(16:31):
partner, or by yourself. Itinvolves the maintenance of a
Edging. Edging is postponingthat orgasm to achieve a
Orgasm denial, it's pretty muchwhat we say it is. Preventing
(17:05):
as well. One thing that I'vedone with LK, while I've been
that I don't think she canaccomplish an orgasm in. Right,
(17:36):
it. How freaking frustrating isthat? And she's usually really
Little Kaninchen (17:42):
Yeah, it builds. I mean, doing like we
Mr Fox (17:51):
Right?
Little Kaninchen (17:51):
It's part of honing her for your arrival.
Mr Fox (17:55):
Yeah. And again, I mean, that can even be done
you know, I'll check in like shetalks about like our check in
(18:24):
And trust me like, LK, so goodat this control. I've given her
Little Kaninchen (18:33):
Well, I mean, the more you practice, the more
We could be standing in Costco,and he could have said the right
Mr Fox (18:56):
Should we give it a try? Hey I bet this would be
Little Kaninchen (19:02):
Probably. But yeah, so I'm just saying you get
Mr Fox (19:14):
But it's also plain fun. It gives you like, like
Giving her a real opportunity tobe able to have an orgasm.
Little Kaninchen (19:31):
And your Sir is helping you learn how to do
going through my mind the entiretime we're scenning or playing
Mr Fox (19:58):
I don't want to get sidetracked but honestly after
say that lk has some of the bestorgasm control, probably of
Little Kaninchen (20:20):
A lot of years of practice.
Mr Fox (20:22):
And as a dominant, there's still like she can
Little Kaninchen (20:33):
Right.
Mr Fox (20:33):
So like as the dominant I have to think of what my goals
can still find that O.
Little Kaninchen (20:48):
Yeah, we'll talk more about that later.
Mr Fox (20:56):
There really is an art to it, I think I mean, there's
Little Kaninchen (21:05):
Yeah. Another reason, it also increases
tolerate stimulation he givesyou. Some sirs like immediate
(21:38):
flexibility and stimulation, Iguess I should say. So that's a
duration of your sex or what'sgoing on probably at least twice
Mr Fox (22:05):
I would say done correctly, I believe it makes
doesn't exactly stop. Like Iwant to say a guy's body like my
(22:35):
the body started off on theright path. It's almost an
Little Kaninchen (22:46):
I think that's the case for most of us ladies.
And then we'll talk about orgasmcontrol can be used to create a
(23:11):
flexible and what you're tryingand doing. Maybe if he's pushing
please please please I want toplease him. And that's used for
(23:39):
and subs. This is great whenyou're doing this orgasm
husband in the fact that he iscontrolling that.
Mr Fox (24:02):
Definitely.
Little Kaninchen (24:02):
So by doing this in the beginning, oh, it's
Mr Fox (24:15):
Yeah, there's definitely something very
about the orgasms is we alsorealize that you know, some
(24:42):
that we do realize that somepeople will have challenges
Little Kaninchen (24:49):
Like you said we could go on and on but
the menopausal a woman. That'sgoing to help her find her mind
Mr Fox (25:10):
Right? And again...
Little Kaninchen (25:11):
Again, another whole subject.
Mr Fox (25:12):
It is, but I also found it fascinating at the beginning
and things besides thepsychological.
Little Kaninchen (25:31):
Yeah.
Mr Fox (25:31):
Besides the hormonal?
Little Kaninchen (25:33):
Like we said, we keep saying orgasm is the
Mr Fox (25:41):
I've been saying that since we were kids. It fixes
Little Kaninchen (25:46):
I have one more listed that the orgasm
the man to not spread his seedto save his seed up. Also, if
(26:20):
time, teaching you to have it ifhe doesn't touch the clitoris,
virginal or the clitoral, thenthis gives you a chance to
Mr Fox (26:45):
And not to get too far off the topic again but the
areas down around the pelvis andstuff a lot of places you can
Little Kaninchen (27:04):
There's so much more than just the button.
There is soo much more than abutton.
Mr Fox (27:16):
Yes.
Little Kaninchen (27:17):
Its the easy button, like staples.
Mr Fox (27:18):
And what a great name for it.
Little Kaninchen (27:19):
But easy isn't always better. So then we go
submissive to orgasm or notright? Orgasm is command. No
(27:54):
you already are doing this, youknow exactly what I mean.
sexual plateau. Then he'llquickly reduce the level of
(28:23):
order to develop and increasedlevel of sexual tension. It's
Mr Fox (28:34):
Yeah, we talked about edging a lot on husDOM.
Little Kaninchen (28:38):
Yeah, I'm gonna start singing 30 Seconds
Mr Fox (28:42):
No, go ahead. Everybody would love that. I would love
Little Kaninchen (28:44):
Yeah, no, no, no, nobody would love it. But
simulation. And by practicingthis with his subMrs to learn
(29:20):
at some point, the repetitionmay cause the urge to orgasm to
usually stronger due to theincreased tension of the arousal
(29:46):
your mind telling you that youjust failed on holding back and
wink, funishments, punishments.
Mr Fox (30:05):
And like I was told LK I really don't like the word
would be an opportunity.
Little Kaninchen (30:21):
Right. But if you're like a performer like me,
not reacted the way you wereasked to. So that's the whole
Mr Fox (30:50):
It would ramp up so quickly, right then LK, that y
Little Kaninchen (30:55):
Yeah, you know, I punished myself for
Mr Fox (30:57):
You would be thinking holy shit, what's coming.
Little Kaninchen (30:59):
Right. Because the submissives mind isn't
something else that again, youdon't hold on to that because
Mr Fox (31:26):
Because we'd be going somewhere else pretty quickly.
Little Kaninchen (31:28):
Right. So the flip side of orgasm control,
(31:49):
go and stop, go get high, high,high stop. Get high high high.
Mr. Fox.
Mr Fox (32:07):
By bondage.
Little Kaninchen (32:09):
Bond. James Bond, no bondage, James bondage.
Mr Fox (32:16):
I'll bet you LK.
Little Kaninchen (32:17):
James bondage.
Mr Fox (32:19):
I'll bet you there is already a porno named James
A forced orgasm isconsensual BDSM or kinky sexual
Little Kaninchen (32:23):
(Sinnging) and over. Without that come down
(32:45):
period between each orgasm rightbang bang orgasm after orgasm
with zero break and intensity.
(33:18):
control or train an orgasm of asubmissive physical restraints
(sinnging)
Mr Fox (33:30):
The whole bondage thing though, like there's a whole
Right? If you're edging it, youtie them up and you tease them.
(33:58):
physical, but it's also a lot ofpsychological intensity that's
bound. Regarding multiple orforced climax, the dominant can
(34:34):
doing those things, you can saya lot of wonderful things about
Little Kaninchen (34:42):
Use your five senses.
Mr Fox (34:44):
Yes. Yeah, what you say to her can also be incredible
Little Kaninchen (34:50):
We're gonna go into total sexual denial next,
Mr Fox (34:53):
I don't know if I'm gonna like this.
Little Kaninchen (34:55):
I can tell you I don't think anybody likes it,
Mr Fox (35:07):
Three days with no water, I think.
Little Kaninchen (35:09):
Okay, so if you put them out in the desert
total avoidance of any type ofgenital stimulation to any part
(35:41):
on a man or woman. Remember, thebrain is the largest sexual
It could be your submissivesfavorite turn on our fetish.
Mr Fox (36:02):
And it is though, like we talked about like if I is the
verbalize. But if I've locked upunder lock and key, your
Little Kaninchen (36:23):
Like that pleasure center.
Mr Fox (36:25):
You don't, I know you don't, LK you're so creative
mindfuck of the whole thing.
Little Kaninchen (36:39):
And I have a funny little side note, that
was or is still we still talkabout to this day. And I'm sorry
(37:10):
husband loves. So it's kind offunny, but we still talk about
Mr Fox (37:16):
it's hilarious.
Little Kaninchen (37:16):
Sorry, his hole, wherever you are. If you
Mr Fox (37:24):
It's great.
Little Kaninchen (37:25):
We're also going to talk about the use of a
all the while denying hissubmissive the ability to
(37:57):
used to prolong penetrative sex,for the dominant in cases of ED
satisfies a dominant partner'sneed to control his submissives
Mr Fox (38:19):
I'm going to add even to that whole using the dildo in
So to think that during thatscene, you're gonna have an
(38:50):
to extend penetration andorgasms and just to extend that
Little Kaninchen (38:55):
Yeah. And, you can use it during your orgasm
Mr Fox (39:10):
Right, which is great on so many levels, like even
Little Kaninchen (39:16):
The real thing.
Mr Fox (39:17):
Right? Not just fill my hole, but the real cock she'll
Little Kaninchen (39:23):
Yeah. So there you go.
Mr Fox (39:25):
There is not much hotter than your submissive
Little Kaninchen (39:28):
Yes.
Mr Fox (39:29):
And really needing it.
Little Kaninchen (39:31):
Right.
There's nothing more sexier
Mr Fox (39:39):
Alright, and beginning training and honing her skills.
her to masturbate and how manytimes she can during the day ask
(40:07):
learns that her orgasms areowned by her dominant. And
Little Kaninchen (40:18):
Lots of practice, practice practice,
We can talk a little bit aboutso many people talk about rules
(40:40):
it clear that the rule alwaysapplies to her during scenes
Mr Fox (40:54):
Yeah, to be honest, I would say the whole rule is
explicit permission in order tocome. And really, that rule
Little Kaninchen (41:30):
We can talk a little bit about the different
verbal command. That's what youhear in books. That's what you
(42:04):
tone of voice. How he uses thecommand, or the trigger or the
then you're in the line andsomebody comes over the speaker
Mr Fox (42:30):
LK, it's like ooo,
Little Kaninchen (42:33):
Yes, yeees.
And you'd have one of those
Mr Fox (42:41):
That's hilarious.
We have the touching cue. Thetouching cue is the touch in the
Little Kaninchen (42:42):
So the verbal cue has the tone of voice and
shall we. A couple can use avisual cue. And again, it's just
(43:12):
visual cue. So you know, hcould flash you three finger
(43:42):
foot. You really have to bethinking because if he slaps
The countdowns of course.
It's the final countdown.
(Singing)Yes, that's Europe from 1986.
This is probably the most usedin play. So he's counting down
(44:15):
till you're allowed to come.
Sound cues. I would say the snapof a finger. You can use timers
(44:37):
helicopter on there and thentrapper in to responding to the
Mr Fox (44:42):
I think you're right and every podcast somehow you're
Little Kaninchen (44:47):
Ah, ok.
Mr Fox (44:49):
I love it.
Little Kaninchen (44:50):
I don't know I think that is how my mind works
Mr Fox (44:51):
What kind of helicopter?
Little Kaninchen (44:52):
See what you have done to me?
You're in all these noises Iwant to like upload a helicopter
After so many years with you Iguess it's just...
Mr Fox (44:59):
I love it. I really do
Little Kaninchen (45:01):
Transforming me. Um, I'll hand it over...
Mr Fox (45:05):
Little by little, I'm transforming you. Little by
Little Kaninchen (45:07):
Im going to hand it over to you to talk
Mr Fox (45:18):
If you're edging or practicing forced orgasms with
that she is physically spentpast her limit. Communicating
(45:48):
maybe leading to a half, or alltogether disappearing orgasm.
her to orgasm. Even when you'vebeen stimulating her in the
Little Kaninchen (46:15):
Okay, so I have a couple of common
question is, when do you want todo it? Whenever you both Deem
(46:48):
just a little period of timewhere you practice that. It
annually to add some freshnessto your dynamic and you can also
(47:18):
aftercare. I also advise peopleto make sure in your downtime
journals? They can journal theirthoughts. What worked for them.
Mr Fox (47:46):
It's not handy during a scene No, but later on. Yes,
Little Kaninchen (47:49):
Yeah. So you can go back and read what worked
Mr Fox (47:51):
And the key for us Dom's probably is to go back and
Little Kaninchen (47:57):
Of course, afterwards, it would be too
Share that with your sir, indowntime even. It's very
Mr Fox (48:24):
I'm gonna go back to your number one because when do
Little Kaninchen (48:30):
Yes.
Mr Fox (48:31):
Every single scene.
Probably from the very first
Little Kaninchen (48:36):
Because my number one rule if I don't come
So the whole time I'm trying toperform for my sir and not do
Mr Fox (48:45):
Right. I would say that that element is in almost every
happen. They're going to somehowhave my control on them. And no
(49:12):
in the exact same scene. WhichI would think it is in most
Little Kaninchen (49:18):
Well, an actual training sessions where
Mr Fox (49:26):
So the scene is just that.
Little Kaninchen (49:28):
Yes.
Mr Fox (49:28):
Okay.
Little Kaninchen (49:29):
Yes. And people do ask me how many
course, once you get pretty incontrol of yourself, and he's
(49:57):
you're showing me what you cando. And then you take it a
Mr Fox (50:04):
If a guy asked me, how many times I would tell him,
Little Kaninchen (50:09):
Right. Make a plan. What's your intention?
Mr Fox (50:12):
Right. And then I would use that and figure out how
Little Kaninchen (50:17):
And hopefully, it takes a really long time to
Mr Fox (50:20):
Unlike most goals, because in my mind, I'm thinking
Little Kaninchen (50:23):
Your going to ask the man is a four, we'll do
Mr Fox (50:29):
Right. I would set a goal.
Little Kaninchen (50:31):
And then it is really fun to sit down with the
that come up sometimes duringthose sessions. OOr maybe you're
Mr Fox (50:58):
Somehow we ought to come up with like, when I say
Little Kaninchen (51:09):
Yes, we've done it in the we've done it in
Mr Fox (51:12):
So maybe give everybody like, drop down menus or
Little Kaninchen (51:22):
Absolutely.
You know, there's a couple
Mr Fox (51:32):
Maybe this is a good one.
Little Kaninchen (51:33):
Yeah, I think so.
Mr Fox (51:35):
I'm liking it.
Little Kaninchen (51:35):
Okay. Well, I think that ends our orgasm
Are you thinking this dynamiccould really work for you and
(51:59):
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Mr Fox (52:05):
We want to take a minute now to thank our podcast
Little Kaninchen (52:10):
Merci.
Mr Fox (52:11):
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Little Kaninchen (52:14):
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Mr Fox (52:18):
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Little Kaninchen (52:22):
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Mr Fox (52:52):
And I do want to say that okay and I are also looking
Instagram which is bunnybunninfox Bunny N Fox. My
Little Kaninchen (53:25):
Until next time, au revoir.
GoodbyeFrom our Wonderland This is lk
Mr Fox (53:31):
and Mr. Fox
Little Kaninchen (53:32):
Reminding you that
Mr Fox (53:33):
our communities are the only place to learn bedroom
Little Kaninchen (53:41):
Discover our method and live the dynamic
Mr Fox (53:53):
Anymore little French comments put in there LK before
Little Kaninchen (53:58):
How do you say fuck me in French?
Mr Fox (54:01):
I don't know but I bet that's pretty universal.
Little Kaninchen (54:04):
Fuck Me?
Mr Fox (54:04):
Yeah, I bet if you said that to a French man, he would
Little Kaninchen (54:08):
You would think I say fuck you,fuck me.
Mr Fox (54:10):
No, I doubt he would think that.
Baiser Moi Baiser MoiSay like you mean?
Little Kaninchen (54:20):
Baiser Moi...
Mr Fox (54:23):
There you go.
Little Kaninchen (54:27):
Oh, wait, I want you to fuck me.
Here is, I want you to fuck me.
Mr Fox (54:31):
You know I'm gonna put this in the podcast.
Little Kaninchen (54:35):
Right here.
Oh, what it doesn't say it to me
Mr Fox (54:41):
You mean it doesn't talk dirty to you? What kind of
Little Kaninchen (54:47):
I have to get it to say it because I can't say
Mr Fox (54:58):
Oui Oui
Little Kaninchen (54:59):
Ready?
Mr Fox (55:01):
That's a lot to say.
That's a mouthful
Little Kaninchen (55:03):
Je veux que tu me baise
Why don't you just hide yourskirt up and I get the idea.
Je veux que tu me baise,Nevermind.
Mr Fox (55:19):
Just touch yourself lk, I'll understand.
Little Kaninchen (55:21):
We're just ending
Mr Fox (55:22):
Alright.
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