November 6, 2021 • 31 mins
Today we talk a bit about building a married dominance and submission scene.
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Little Kaninchen (04:18):
Today we talk a bit about building a married
dominance and submission scene.
First, what's the scene? A sceneis a scheduled and planned out
time where a couple us BDSMactivities that may or may not
involve sexual intercourse. Iknow we all want it to but
sometimes it doesn't. So we'llbegin with planning a scene. The
key to a great scene is planningahead together. In DSM we
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suggest to married couples thatthey seen two times a month if
it's possible. Pick your date,taking into consideration meds,
hormones and cycles. begin tothink about what you both want
from your scene. What type ofscene Do you really want to do,
there's different types ofscenes, there's training scenes.
And when I say training scenes,I mean like oral training, anal
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training, orgasm training,position training. Then there's
impact scenes, spanking, usingyour hand, crop, flogging
caning, using multiples of thosethings. Then there's experience
scenes. Those are theexperiences where you want to
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try something new like wax play,Deep Throat play, electro play.
Then I have roleplay, scenes,master slave, Little Princess,
daddy, animal and fuzzy play,pain play. Then we come to the
type of training scene where youuse to Bari and rope. There are
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so many different types ofscenes, but that's the general
list. So your overallatmosphere, what does it look
like? Think about your props,which are like furniture, tools.
When I say tools, I mean thingslike rubber gloves, lubricants.
Also, you could have toys,costumes you might use in your
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atmosphere. General atmosphereis like candle sense music. Then
you think about aftercare. Wheredo we end the scene in your bed?
We've talked about submissivenests. Also with the aftercare,
we talk about the skincare thelotions, rehydrating drinks,
blankets, things that make youfeel very comfortable and loved
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after you have a scene. Soyou're imagining and fantasizing
what the scene will look andfeel like for both of you. A
happy submissive is one that'sgiven things to do in
preparation, am I right? But shedoesn't want to plan the actual
scene. She would like her sir,to plan that actual scene. She
wants to feel his dominancethrough the scene. Now, when I
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say those things, it's okay fora submissive to suggest in the
pre planning. Subs can alwaysadjust and add to the scene. Let
their SIRs know what their likesand dislikes and desires are. So
to follow up, where does thescene start for the sub and Dom?
In the mind, the brain is thelargest sex organ for a woman as
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well as men. Yes, guys, yourbrain is larger than your penis.
When does a scene start? Thescene starts the moment you
schedule it, or begin speakingabout it. A quick rule of thumb
with most things in BDSM is the20 Minute Rule. Now this is
different for everyone. This isa very general rule. So use this
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as your standard time for clips,clamps, you don't want to cough
circulation to areas too long asit can kill the tissue and you
could even lose a nipple. Also,when theming day in a certain
play or position about the sameamount of time, the body needs a
little movement or flexingduring sessions. Even when
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you're orgasming and you'resitting in a certain position,
you keep trying I think to havethat orgasm. But if it's not
happening, if things are nothappening in that scene, use
that 20 minute rule. Sometimesit's even less for some women.
Check in with your SIR, ask ifyou can move a little bit
somehow so you can achieve thepleasure that he's trying to
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give you. There's never anyshame in communication.
So let's move on to ideas forscenes. Use your community. This
community use some Mrs. Yourserves us has done. There's
forums there's groups and chatsto get wonderful ideas. Use that
search bar on some Mrs. AndHassan. There are more than 10
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years of archived ideas inthere. Read a book, read
fictional read nonfictional.
Write down your ideas, keep themin your journals, the husbands
can keep them in their littleblack books. Saying inspired is
all about reading and learningfrom others. And if anything
else, just go watch some goodold porn together that will give
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you some ideas for remember pornis fictional. So let's talk a
little bit about through this amissus eyes. For submissive.
There is yet another key togreat domination submission seen
knowing how to use and work yourinner submissive. Learning how
she responds to differentstimulus is very important.
Learning what's pleasing to yourdominant is very important.
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Building a scene of performingis a true art. It is definitely
a team sport. Yet each personneeds to study and grow in their
roles. I love to think of it asproducing a theater show. It
takes both partners engaging inthe role and doing their best to
come out with a greatproduction. It is very common
that sometimes Mr. Fox and Iwill work on a scene repeatedly
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until it runs smooth. We discussafter every scene what worked
and what did not. Taking thatinfo we apply it and make the
scene better and better. Again,some misses journal has Dom's
put it in your little blackbook. Your notes are golden not
only to your future scenes, butto keep a chronicle of your
journey. Your scenes will startabout an hour is about
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appropriate time and quicklyexpand in time as you try more
and more elements. I have togive a warning on the don't do.
Okay. Never do drugs or drinkbefore a scene for multiple
reasons. The mind? Well, you andyour partner can lose control or
have lack of control.
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Physically, drinking alcohol canmake you bruise more easily. And
when I say drink, some people dohave a drink before they seem a
drink. There's not an issue withthat. But always make sure you
rehydrate after you play. I alsosay a two drink Max. But I would
say with that to drink Max.
Drink Two waters as well. Butlet's talk about the brief the
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brief before the scene, yourdominant Bay want to start with
a briefing. briefing as anaction of informing or
instructing someone briefing canbe in person or written in an
email or given to the submissiveat any point before the scene.
You can discuss things indowntime as well. You know, it
just depends on how much preptime is needed for the scene.
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Your dominant in the brief willtell you his wishes for the
scene. This is when your SIRwill be very business. It's best
at this point to understand thatyou are the object for his
pleasure. What does his DOM one,don't be his wife at this point,
be a submissive in the brief, hewill list his expectations of
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his submissive what he wisheshis submissive to wear. But it
also will instruct thesubmissive on how to begin the
scene where she should start,where you are to be how you are
to be sitting or in a positionif you're allowed to verbalize
or touch him. In a submissiveeyes, you read and make sure to
understand every word that isspoken or written in this
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briefing. Make sure you give himall that's needed from you. If
there's something in question,then you have to let him know
before the scene. sir may I ask?
These questions will cleardoubts in misunderstandings and
help the scene flow moresmoothly. Do not assume
anything. You ask ahead of time.
And this will help your dominantmany ways. always communicate,
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ask and discuss. So when you'rebeginning the scene, the
atmosphere your SIR will besetting atmosphere within the
scene ahead of the time pickingthe activities in the scene.
They will put the tools and toysout that will be needed. As a
submissive you take this time toget the mindset you need.
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Meditate, stretch, you know dosome exercise before you get in
the shower. Anything to keepyour mind moving.
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so we talked about transition into the
mindset of your roles. Thebeginning of the scene this is a
transition time into your roleyou will be bonding and letting
each other know that you're inthis together your SIRs chance
to relax you a bit. It's aloving atmosphere at this point,
you're so remind you have yoursafe words red, yellow, green,
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or word that you both haveagreed on previously. Now this
is a general setup of how Mr.
Fox and I usually do our scenes.
Keep in mind, you can kind ofpull from this what you want and
what works for you and then moveit around if that's what you
need. But usually we start withpetting bonding and like verbal
reminders and option for thebonding. Their dominant may want
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to use a brush or kind of braidyour hair pulling Get back so it
doesn't get in the way of thescene or get caught up in D
rings or whatever. You may wantto sit and he may want to
massage or slather you down inoil, softly touching you
everywhere, the word softly,your neck, your lower back the
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inside of your thighs behindyour knees, except he's not
going to be putting any oil inthose places that you want it
the most. But it's nice that hemay whisper some soft, caring
words in your ears and reassureyou that he will take care of
you, asking you for yoursubmission and your acceptance
of giving it freely, veryimportant. Lastly, your SIR will
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ask and remind you of your safeword red, yellow, green, the
word you have already agreed on.
And then when you when you'rereally looking through the eyes
as a submissive again, yourbutterflies are excitement, our
n but they will start to settle.
You will gain confidence knowingthis is this is your job. This
is what you're doing this foryour his submissive you're not
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looking at as his wife or hisgirlfriend. You're gaining
confidence in your services. Andknowing this is what you want
and he is about to take youunder his hand and play you like
our true instrument. You have tolet go and let him enjoy you,
your body will begin to respondto His words, and you will fall
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into him. The next step of thescene is prepping the body
warming the muscles and the mindand getting those endorphins at
the start. First prepping of thesubmissive skin, the dog may
have already oil to skin or youcan do that now. petting the sub
skin is essential, easily movingher and lightly directing her.
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Again, the key words are easilyand lightly. The DOM wants to
make the subs muscle morepliable and flexible for what
has seen demands. bending herover getting the subs attention
always works for me getting herout of her head and back into
the role of her job. So ifyou're having issues with that,
let your server know that youmay be struggling you're in your
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head and him demanding certainthings of you or making you bend
really quick. Kinda will snapyou back in. So as he does that,
he's getting you out of yourhead, he begins to rub a little
harder, his touch becomes alittle more harsh. His subs back
arms and legs. He keeps rubbingthem as you're doing this, it
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begins to warm skin. This istransitioning your mind, the Dom
has to begin to let go of thelove and move into his
dominance, grabbing the back ofyour neck or pulling at the base
of your hair which we all lovethat sensation, wonderful
sensation. If you've ever read abit about skin and the reaction
impact or spanking, then youknow it's very important before
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that you do any impact that youready the skin. readying the
skin for play is done startingout light thing getting more
vigorous, vigorously rubbing,then cupping into soft pinching
and tapping. throwing somethingsharp, in like a little slap a
little harsher handling in thecombo here and there makes it
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exciting. And it's tricking youboth into your roles moving out
of the loving and soft into thebusiness of your role. The skin
begins to react and both of youand your roles minds, you begin
to react and become yoursubmissive and his Hassan, the
mind in the DOM is falling intohis role as a dominant and now
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prepping the sub skin andtriggering her endorphins to
start moving her into the brainand the female sub is creating
her own lubrication that can bechecked by the dominant. Then
the next step you go intosymbolic bondage and initiating
the implements. Having the subkneel and symbolically placing
the subs wrist and ankle cuffson and color is where the DOM
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marks the change. Personally,from being personal wife into
objectifying his submissives sheis now bound to serve Him in
whatever way he wants her needs.
It's a wonderful way tosymbolize things. She can be
kneeling, she can be standinghowever, the dominant likes.
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After cupping and ownership hasbeen taken implements to
initiate more sensation to thearea so be used further or to
trigger more endorphins in thebrain. A domme may ask yourself
if she wants more endorphins,using his judgment if he wants
her there or not. Theseadditional steps will help make
the scene more physically andmentally a successful
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experience. Aidan may useadditional leather pieces as a
hog tie a leash or rope clips,clamps tape, the list could go
on and on. But always have amedical scissor ready for quick
release. Removing a sense likevision will make the body more
reactive. blindfolding thesubmissive will make her skin
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more alert. It's the dominantsbest friend the blindfold. This
blindfold gives the DOM leniencyon his organization and the sub
her imagination of being in ascene in her head. The one that
she's always read about andloved, blindfolded the sound of
the wander vibrator, not wherewe wanted Of course, we'll take
the scene up a notch. The DOMcan begin the teasing by
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brushing against the tendernerve ending areas with the
wand, his fingers, even hiscock. Verbally the DOM asks, Do
you want it physically askingyou to touch him or take him
into your mouth, licking rubbinghimself against your most
sensitive part, sadly, nopenetration until you perform to
his standards. He should bedriving his son, mind and body
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to the brink, making his sonmore wanton. Begging for his
hands attention. The nipples andthe pressure points should be
tugged on. stimulated in someway, working the sub easily into
impact tools that is planned.
light taps with the crop softswats with a leather glove or
paddle are good things to startwith. Make the submissive beg
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for it. Now in the submissiveseyes, the best thing to do when
doing bondage is the trust you'dhave in your DOM. Don't struggle
against the bondage. You can gethurt very easily by jerking or
pulling too quickly. User safewords, if you need a DOM to slow
down call yellow, but yellow isnot red. Just slow the roll and
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check in with words. If evertriggered in a bad way, read
out, say read. It's a stop,discuss and reschedule the scene
at that point. Now let's getinto application of impact
employments. Now, impact play,the dominant will use any
implement that he may ticklevibrate or strike with. This
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includes his hand a flogger whipcrop, leather straps canes. This
type of activity is why it's soimportant to warm and prepare
the skin. Always ask that yoursir has practiced on something
other than you lots beforetrying a new employment in a
scene. Also, I'd recommendbefore using it in the scene,
use it in play time tested out.
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It's kind of like that exampleof getting those new pair of
high heels you're going to wearto some event. And then you
first time you wear them, youwear them to the event and then
your feet are killing you andyou have blisters for weeks
afterwards. Same thing here, youdon't want blisters, you don't
want some type of surprise, youdon't want to have to take it
off because something badhappened. So always test it out
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usually in a little play timebefore when you actually get
something new. Now with theswelling of tissues under the
skin, the submissive will feelless and less of the impact and
be able to take more and moreintense impact as a session
continues. Very important thatthe DOM learn to submissive
skin, what it looks like. Andwhen it's had enough, the DOM
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does this by always checking in,he can begin doing that by
checking one to 10. Overtime, hewill begin to recognize his
submissive tail tails, even whenshe cannot. Now we've gone into
impact and now we're going toget into the good stuff, right?
We're talking about intercourseand fucking the dominant. When
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satisfied with giving his suball he wants, he stops and pack
takes her off any of theequipment and moves this tub to
a place to reward her. The DOMshould rub shoulders, make sure
his sub is in good condition. Asa good fucking as an order for
all her hard work. The DOMstarts to unwind to become
softer again. This is thefrosting to the cake. Your sir
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will take his final orgasm fromyou and he will climax here. If
my service still wound up, he'llput me on my stomach and explain
he wants a hard release and forme to completely submit to Him
and open up. He rides me untilhis release and he will slowly
turn me over giving me everyrelease I need in a softer way.
A kind DOM will continue with awand or whatever you need until
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he begins counting you down andout of the scene. I always feel
a unique sadness when he tellsme he's beginning the countdown.
Then we get to the aftercare anddebriefing. Right after care.
It's over, you get to relax alittle bit.
The Cara Dom takes of his subsmind and body after a senior
session is aftercare. Also, heshould not forget about his own
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care. A rehydrating drink a warmblanket and a small nap is
appropriate for both partiesafter a scene. The DOM may also
apply any ointments to the skinthat's needed. Who knows you may
come out of this with badges ofhonor. Your dog may even want to
take pics of the rope marks oryour body's badges of honor, so
he couldn't remember the scene.
Mr. Fox always lets me nap whilehe rehydrates and cleans up
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after the scene. I usually am upwithin 45 minutes and in the
shower. You may experience alittle letdown or some call sub
drop. This sub drop is normalFor a few hours, you know your
body in mind. If it's lastingmore than a day, I would say,
then you may want to communicatethat to your SIR. And then it
goes on further, you can eventake it to a therapist or to
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your doctor, it's always betterto figure out that it's fine
than it not end up being, youknow, something that you
definitely struggle with. Now,let's talk about the debrief.
Once you're both feeling moreyourselves, it is good to
debrief or examine the scene, Iadvise you to do it sooner than
later, you will remember thethings that worked or the things
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that led up to those things thatdid not work. So it's very
important that you both arehonest with all your thoughts.
So the scene in play can even bemore successful the next time
around, take notes in yourjournals, and again, has done so
little black box. It may also begood to write your feelings in a
journal, so you can track howyou respond and grow in the
scene, you will surpriseyourself. A few final notes in
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the submissive thoughts. Yourdominant will push and stretch
you and your limits, but hewon't break you. This is his job
and his wish you are toremember, you're his tool to use
to achieve his deepest anddarkest desires. It is your job
to help them receive the highestpeaks. Both parties should be
enjoying the play having awonderful time exploring one
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Anyways, today we examine theerotic art of seening in our
communities this month, ourtheme is seening September why
seening September? WellSeptember is actually pleasure
your mate month and my thoughtwas how do couples pleasure each
other in this thing we do? Wellseening Of course. Today our
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episode we'll be talking throughthis Mrs. Eyes. So there's your
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Little Kaninchen (04:18):
Today we talk a bit about building a married
dominance and submission scene.
First, what's the scene? A sceneis a scheduled and planned out
time where a couple us BDSMactivities that may or may not
involve sexual intercourse. Iknow we all want it to but
sometimes it doesn't. So we'llbegin with planning a scene. The
key to a great scene is planningahead together. In DSM we
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suggest to married couples thatthey seen two times a month if
it's possible. Pick your date,taking into consideration meds,
hormones and cycles. begin tothink about what you both want
from your scene. What type ofscene Do you really want to do,
there's different types ofscenes, there's training scenes.
And when I say training scenes,I mean like oral training, anal
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training, orgasm training,position training. Then there's
impact scenes, spanking, usingyour hand, crop, flogging
caning, using multiples of thosethings. Then there's experience
scenes. Those are theexperiences where you want to
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try something new like wax play,Deep Throat play, electro play.
Then I have roleplay, scenes,master slave, Little Princess,
daddy, animal and fuzzy play,pain play. Then we come to the
type of training scene where youuse to Bari and rope. There are
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so many different types ofscenes, but that's the general
list. So your overallatmosphere, what does it look
like? Think about your props,which are like furniture, tools.
When I say tools, I mean thingslike rubber gloves, lubricants.
Also, you could have toys,costumes you might use in your
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atmosphere. General atmosphereis like candle sense music. Then
you think about aftercare. Wheredo we end the scene in your bed?
We've talked about submissivenests. Also with the aftercare,
we talk about the skincare thelotions, rehydrating drinks,
blankets, things that make youfeel very comfortable and loved
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after you have a scene. Soyou're imagining and fantasizing
what the scene will look andfeel like for both of you. A
happy submissive is one that'sgiven things to do in
preparation, am I right? But shedoesn't want to plan the actual
scene. She would like her sir,to plan that actual scene. She
wants to feel his dominancethrough the scene. Now, when I
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say those things, it's okay fora submissive to suggest in the
pre planning. Subs can alwaysadjust and add to the scene. Let
their SIRs know what their likesand dislikes and desires are. So
to follow up, where does thescene start for the sub and Dom?
In the mind, the brain is thelargest sex organ for a woman as
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well as men. Yes, guys, yourbrain is larger than your penis.
When does a scene start? Thescene starts the moment you
schedule it, or begin speakingabout it. A quick rule of thumb
with most things in BDSM is the20 Minute Rule. Now this is
different for everyone. This isa very general rule. So use this
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as your standard time for clips,clamps, you don't want to cough
circulation to areas too long asit can kill the tissue and you
could even lose a nipple. Also,when theming day in a certain
play or position about the sameamount of time, the body needs a
little movement or flexingduring sessions. Even when
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you're orgasming and you'resitting in a certain position,
you keep trying I think to havethat orgasm. But if it's not
happening, if things are nothappening in that scene, use
that 20 minute rule. Sometimesit's even less for some women.
Check in with your SIR, ask ifyou can move a little bit
somehow so you can achieve thepleasure that he's trying to
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give you. There's never anyshame in communication.
So let's move on to ideas forscenes. Use your community. This
community use some Mrs. Yourserves us has done. There's
forums there's groups and chatsto get wonderful ideas. Use that
search bar on some Mrs. AndHassan. There are more than 10
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years of archived ideas inthere. Read a book, read
fictional read nonfictional.
Write down your ideas, keep themin your journals, the husbands
can keep them in their littleblack books. Saying inspired is
all about reading and learningfrom others. And if anything
else, just go watch some goodold porn together that will give
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you some ideas for remember pornis fictional. So let's talk a
little bit about through this amissus eyes. For submissive.
There is yet another key togreat domination submission seen
knowing how to use and work yourinner submissive. Learning how
she responds to differentstimulus is very important.
Learning what's pleasing to yourdominant is very important.
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Building a scene of performingis a true art. It is definitely
a team sport. Yet each personneeds to study and grow in their
roles. I love to think of it asproducing a theater show. It
takes both partners engaging inthe role and doing their best to
come out with a greatproduction. It is very common
that sometimes Mr. Fox and Iwill work on a scene repeatedly
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until it runs smooth. We discussafter every scene what worked
and what did not. Taking thatinfo we apply it and make the
scene better and better. Again,some misses journal has Dom's
put it in your little blackbook. Your notes are golden not
only to your future scenes, butto keep a chronicle of your
journey. Your scenes will startabout an hour is about
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appropriate time and quicklyexpand in time as you try more
and more elements. I have togive a warning on the don't do.
Okay. Never do drugs or drinkbefore a scene for multiple
reasons. The mind? Well, you andyour partner can lose control or
have lack of control.
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Physically, drinking alcohol canmake you bruise more easily. And
when I say drink, some people dohave a drink before they seem a
drink. There's not an issue withthat. But always make sure you
rehydrate after you play. I alsosay a two drink Max. But I would
say with that to drink Max.
Drink Two waters as well. Butlet's talk about the brief the
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brief before the scene, yourdominant Bay want to start with
a briefing. briefing as anaction of informing or
instructing someone briefing canbe in person or written in an
email or given to the submissiveat any point before the scene.
You can discuss things indowntime as well. You know, it
just depends on how much preptime is needed for the scene.
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Your dominant in the brief willtell you his wishes for the
scene. This is when your SIRwill be very business. It's best
at this point to understand thatyou are the object for his
pleasure. What does his DOM one,don't be his wife at this point,
be a submissive in the brief, hewill list his expectations of
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his submissive what he wisheshis submissive to wear. But it
also will instruct thesubmissive on how to begin the
scene where she should start,where you are to be how you are
to be sitting or in a positionif you're allowed to verbalize
or touch him. In a submissiveeyes, you read and make sure to
understand every word that isspoken or written in this
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briefing. Make sure you give himall that's needed from you. If
there's something in question,then you have to let him know
before the scene. sir may I ask?
These questions will cleardoubts in misunderstandings and
help the scene flow moresmoothly. Do not assume
anything. You ask ahead of time.
And this will help your dominantmany ways. always communicate,
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ask and discuss. So when you'rebeginning the scene, the
atmosphere your SIR will besetting atmosphere within the
scene ahead of the time pickingthe activities in the scene.
They will put the tools and toysout that will be needed. As a
submissive you take this time toget the mindset you need.
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Meditate, stretch, you know dosome exercise before you get in
the shower. Anything to keepyour mind moving.
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Little Kaninchen (14:12):
so we talked about transition into the
mindset of your roles. Thebeginning of the scene this is a
transition time into your roleyou will be bonding and letting
each other know that you're inthis together your SIRs chance
to relax you a bit. It's aloving atmosphere at this point,
you're so remind you have yoursafe words red, yellow, green,
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or word that you both haveagreed on previously. Now this
is a general setup of how Mr.
Fox and I usually do our scenes.
Keep in mind, you can kind ofpull from this what you want and
what works for you and then moveit around if that's what you
need. But usually we start withpetting bonding and like verbal
reminders and option for thebonding. Their dominant may want
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to use a brush or kind of braidyour hair pulling Get back so it
doesn't get in the way of thescene or get caught up in D
rings or whatever. You may wantto sit and he may want to
massage or slather you down inoil, softly touching you
everywhere, the word softly,your neck, your lower back the
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inside of your thighs behindyour knees, except he's not
going to be putting any oil inthose places that you want it
the most. But it's nice that hemay whisper some soft, caring
words in your ears and reassureyou that he will take care of
you, asking you for yoursubmission and your acceptance
of giving it freely, veryimportant. Lastly, your SIR will
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ask and remind you of your safeword red, yellow, green, the
word you have already agreed on.
And then when you when you'rereally looking through the eyes
as a submissive again, yourbutterflies are excitement, our
n but they will start to settle.
You will gain confidence knowingthis is this is your job. This
is what you're doing this foryour his submissive you're not
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looking at as his wife or hisgirlfriend. You're gaining
confidence in your services. Andknowing this is what you want
and he is about to take youunder his hand and play you like
our true instrument. You have tolet go and let him enjoy you,
your body will begin to respondto His words, and you will fall
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into him. The next step of thescene is prepping the body
warming the muscles and the mindand getting those endorphins at
the start. First prepping of thesubmissive skin, the dog may
have already oil to skin or youcan do that now. petting the sub
skin is essential, easily movingher and lightly directing her.
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Again, the key words are easilyand lightly. The DOM wants to
make the subs muscle morepliable and flexible for what
has seen demands. bending herover getting the subs attention
always works for me getting herout of her head and back into
the role of her job. So ifyou're having issues with that,
let your server know that youmay be struggling you're in your
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head and him demanding certainthings of you or making you bend
really quick. Kinda will snapyou back in. So as he does that,
he's getting you out of yourhead, he begins to rub a little
harder, his touch becomes alittle more harsh. His subs back
arms and legs. He keeps rubbingthem as you're doing this, it
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begins to warm skin. This istransitioning your mind, the Dom
has to begin to let go of thelove and move into his
dominance, grabbing the back ofyour neck or pulling at the base
of your hair which we all lovethat sensation, wonderful
sensation. If you've ever read abit about skin and the reaction
impact or spanking, then youknow it's very important before
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that you do any impact that youready the skin. readying the
skin for play is done startingout light thing getting more
vigorous, vigorously rubbing,then cupping into soft pinching
and tapping. throwing somethingsharp, in like a little slap a
little harsher handling in thecombo here and there makes it
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exciting. And it's tricking youboth into your roles moving out
of the loving and soft into thebusiness of your role. The skin
begins to react and both of youand your roles minds, you begin
to react and become yoursubmissive and his Hassan, the
mind in the DOM is falling intohis role as a dominant and now
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prepping the sub skin andtriggering her endorphins to
start moving her into the brainand the female sub is creating
her own lubrication that can bechecked by the dominant. Then
the next step you go intosymbolic bondage and initiating
the implements. Having the subkneel and symbolically placing
the subs wrist and ankle cuffson and color is where the DOM
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marks the change. Personally,from being personal wife into
objectifying his submissives sheis now bound to serve Him in
whatever way he wants her needs.
It's a wonderful way tosymbolize things. She can be
kneeling, she can be standinghowever, the dominant likes.
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After cupping and ownership hasbeen taken implements to
initiate more sensation to thearea so be used further or to
trigger more endorphins in thebrain. A domme may ask yourself
if she wants more endorphins,using his judgment if he wants
her there or not. Theseadditional steps will help make
the scene more physically andmentally a successful
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experience. Aidan may useadditional leather pieces as a
hog tie a leash or rope clips,clamps tape, the list could go
on and on. But always have amedical scissor ready for quick
release. Removing a sense likevision will make the body more
reactive. blindfolding thesubmissive will make her skin
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more alert. It's the dominantsbest friend the blindfold. This
blindfold gives the DOM leniencyon his organization and the sub
her imagination of being in ascene in her head. The one that
she's always read about andloved, blindfolded the sound of
the wander vibrator, not wherewe wanted Of course, we'll take
the scene up a notch. The DOMcan begin the teasing by
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brushing against the tendernerve ending areas with the
wand, his fingers, even hiscock. Verbally the DOM asks, Do
you want it physically askingyou to touch him or take him
into your mouth, licking rubbinghimself against your most
sensitive part, sadly, nopenetration until you perform to
his standards. He should bedriving his son, mind and body
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to the brink, making his sonmore wanton. Begging for his
hands attention. The nipples andthe pressure points should be
tugged on. stimulated in someway, working the sub easily into
impact tools that is planned.
light taps with the crop softswats with a leather glove or
paddle are good things to startwith. Make the submissive beg
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for it. Now in the submissiveseyes, the best thing to do when
doing bondage is the trust you'dhave in your DOM. Don't struggle
against the bondage. You can gethurt very easily by jerking or
pulling too quickly. User safewords, if you need a DOM to slow
down call yellow, but yellow isnot red. Just slow the roll and
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check in with words. If evertriggered in a bad way, read
out, say read. It's a stop,discuss and reschedule the scene
at that point. Now let's getinto application of impact
employments. Now, impact play,the dominant will use any
implement that he may ticklevibrate or strike with. This
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includes his hand a flogger whipcrop, leather straps canes. This
type of activity is why it's soimportant to warm and prepare
the skin. Always ask that yoursir has practiced on something
other than you lots beforetrying a new employment in a
scene. Also, I'd recommendbefore using it in the scene,
use it in play time tested out.
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It's kind of like that exampleof getting those new pair of
high heels you're going to wearto some event. And then you
first time you wear them, youwear them to the event and then
your feet are killing you andyou have blisters for weeks
afterwards. Same thing here, youdon't want blisters, you don't
want some type of surprise, youdon't want to have to take it
off because something badhappened. So always test it out
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usually in a little play timebefore when you actually get
something new. Now with theswelling of tissues under the
skin, the submissive will feelless and less of the impact and
be able to take more and moreintense impact as a session
continues. Very important thatthe DOM learn to submissive
skin, what it looks like. Andwhen it's had enough, the DOM
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does this by always checking in,he can begin doing that by
checking one to 10. Overtime, hewill begin to recognize his
submissive tail tails, even whenshe cannot. Now we've gone into
impact and now we're going toget into the good stuff, right?
We're talking about intercourseand fucking the dominant. When
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satisfied with giving his suball he wants, he stops and pack
takes her off any of theequipment and moves this tub to
a place to reward her. The DOMshould rub shoulders, make sure
his sub is in good condition. Asa good fucking as an order for
all her hard work. The DOMstarts to unwind to become
softer again. This is thefrosting to the cake. Your sir
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will take his final orgasm fromyou and he will climax here. If
my service still wound up, he'llput me on my stomach and explain
he wants a hard release and forme to completely submit to Him
and open up. He rides me untilhis release and he will slowly
turn me over giving me everyrelease I need in a softer way.
A kind DOM will continue with awand or whatever you need until
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he begins counting you down andout of the scene. I always feel
a unique sadness when he tellsme he's beginning the countdown.
Then we get to the aftercare anddebriefing. Right after care.
It's over, you get to relax alittle bit.
The Cara Dom takes of his subsmind and body after a senior
session is aftercare. Also, heshould not forget about his own
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care. A rehydrating drink a warmblanket and a small nap is
appropriate for both partiesafter a scene. The DOM may also
apply any ointments to the skinthat's needed. Who knows you may
come out of this with badges ofhonor. Your dog may even want to
take pics of the rope marks oryour body's badges of honor, so
he couldn't remember the scene.
Mr. Fox always lets me nap whilehe rehydrates and cleans up
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after the scene. I usually am upwithin 45 minutes and in the
shower. You may experience alittle letdown or some call sub
drop. This sub drop is normalFor a few hours, you know your
body in mind. If it's lastingmore than a day, I would say,
then you may want to communicatethat to your SIR. And then it
goes on further, you can eventake it to a therapist or to
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your doctor, it's always betterto figure out that it's fine
than it not end up being, youknow, something that you
definitely struggle with. Now,let's talk about the debrief.
Once you're both feeling moreyourselves, it is good to
debrief or examine the scene, Iadvise you to do it sooner than
later, you will remember thethings that worked or the things
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that led up to those things thatdid not work. So it's very
important that you both arehonest with all your thoughts.
So the scene in play can even bemore successful the next time
around, take notes in yourjournals, and again, has done so
little black box. It may also begood to write your feelings in a
journal, so you can track howyou respond and grow in the
scene, you will surpriseyourself. A few final notes in
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the submissive thoughts. Yourdominant will push and stretch
you and your limits, but hewon't break you. This is his job
and his wish you are toremember, you're his tool to use
to achieve his deepest anddarkest desires. It is your job
to help them receive the highestpeaks. Both parties should be
enjoying the play having awonderful time exploring one
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another's minds and bodies. Areyou thinking this dynamic could
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