February 4, 2025 • 30 mins
Can maintaining a robust sex life within marriage truly be the secret to a healthier heart? Join us as we explore this possibility, revealing the intriguing statistic that men who have sex more than 103 times a year may enjoy significantly lower risks of heart disease. We're Matthew and Monica Powers, and in this episode, we navigate the fascinating links between marital intimacy, sexual health, and modern relationship trends. As we share personal stories, including a humorous debate over lipstick and mustache grooming, we also tackle the shifting perceptions of marriage among young adults who view it as increasingly outdated.
From discussing the health benefits of an active sex life to questioning whether marriage still holds its traditional value amidst changing relationship norms, we cover a lot of ground. With divorce rates soaring and the allure of multiple partners, these topics couldn't be more relevant. We promise to keep the conversation lively and engaging, peppered with laughter and personal anecdotes. And as we wrap up, we tease upcoming episodes inspired by recent articles, ensuring our listeners have plenty of thought-provoking content to look forward to. So, sit back, relax, and enjoy a candid discussion that's both entertaining and enlightening.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you ready for this?
Eight kinds of sex all marriedcouples should put into rotation
.
I cannot wait to get yourthoughts on this.
Oh boy.
Reasons men need to have moresex to reduce the risk of heart
disease.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
And prostate cancer.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
And prostate cancer.
Every single man is going tosave this little snippet, send
it to their wives and be likebaby.
We got to have more sex, butscientists discovered men who
have sex at least 103 times peryear, so that's a little over or
just under two times per week,are 50% less likely to have
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heart disease than men who onlyhave it 12 times per year, AKA
one time per month.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Here's a question for you Is marriage overrated?
Why?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
aren't people getting married anymore?
A new Pew Research poll foundthat two in five young adults
think marriage is an outdatedtradition.
Marriage rates are at theirlowest right now.
Is marriage really even worthit?
More than half of marriages endin divorce.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
If you get married, you have to be stuck with this
person for the rest of your life, right?
That's why you get married, sothat's why it's declining.
Why would you get married ifyou want to have just one
partner when you can havemultiple?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
marriage is stupid welcome to the married af
podcast, the self-proclaimedgreatest marriage relationship
podcast in the world.
We're your host, matthew andmonica powers, not wayne's world
not today not today.
Wayne's world was fun, but Ithink that was a one and done
type of thing.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
So, baby, you look amazing today.
You're sweet.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Thank you.
You ready to jump into this,you just like it when I wear
lipstick.
I love when you wear lipstick.
Yes, I most certainly do.
I hate lipstick, I'm sorry, Ilove it.
If that's any consolation tothis, whatsoever, I do love when
you wear lipstick.
I'm like look how kissablethose lips are.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Noted, you can't even see my top lip anyways.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I can see your top lip.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
It's like I have this .
Speaker 1 (02:07):
You don't.
Can you imagine if you had afinger for your top lip?
Oh gosh, how weird is that?
No, you don't need any fillers.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
You're good, I can't even make my lip look like I
have fillers and even plump upmy lips.
Remember when you got that inCalifornia 20 something years
ago when it first came out.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
So long ago I was like, look at this stuff.
And I kissed you.
I was like, ah, my lips hurt,they're on fire, they hurt.
I didn't like it.
I mean, I liked the way itlooked, but you just liked that
it was glossy.
It was either.
(02:46):
So it's okay, but you have amustache thingy to cover it up,
it's, it's part of the beard.
I could never do a mustache.
You did it once.
Ted lasso for halloween.
It lasted like four hours thankyou, everything off had a
mustache and at the end of thenight it was done.
Beard came back in a week.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
We're good to go we should show everybody this ted
lasso pictures we will share theted lasso pictures were great
they were good.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
It won't come back again.
I hated it.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Hated it so much, so today you had biscuits with the
boss.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I'll have biscuits with my boss every day.
Gross how you doing.
So today we're going to talkabout.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
But that makes sense about what your topic is today.
It does.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Today we're going to talk about that in twofold, two
articles.
One of you sent me one I found.
The first is the scientificscience behind reasons men need
to have more sex to reduce therisk of heart disease.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
And prostate cancer.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
And prostate cancer.
Every single man is going tosave this little snippet, send
it to their wives and be likebaby.
We got to have more sex.
But scientists discovered menwho have sex at least 103 times
per year so that's a little overor just under two times per
week are 50% less likely to haveheart disease than men who only
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have it 12 times per year, akaone time per month.
Only have it 12 times per yearAKA one time per month.
And the reason is because sexit's a get your heart pumping,
gets you going and it's good foryour heart.
But we also found out that menwho finish the job finish the
job, especially on their side,at least, I think, 20 times per
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month, which is a lot, but mangot to love that Highly reduced
the risk of prostate cancer andthe process.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
So, men, you're definitely saving all of this 20
times a month 20 times a month.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
So you know that's.
You know, probably at leastfour times a week, four to four
and a half times a week for men.
So clearly they're going tosave this part of the podcast,
Cause I'm going to be like withtheir wives like, hey, we gotta,
we gotta get this going.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I don't need heart disease or prostate cancer.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
So we need to do it a whole lot more often.
Which, man, if you want thatyou'd like work towards it, do
something.
You are not as desirable as youprobably think that you are.
If you want to do, it dosomething and she will probably
give it to you.
But that leads me into a secondarticle that I found.
Let me find it real quick.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
All right.
Eight kinds of sex.
All married couples need to putin rotation.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Oh, my goodness.
So as we get into this have,you already dissected this
article yes, I've read to see ifwe checked off all eight I've
read.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
I've read read all of it.
We check off all but maybe onewhich we'll have.
We'll have just some discussionon what this one is.
Um disclaimer obviously peoplelistening watching know it's a
sexual in nature podcastrecording that we're doing today
, so you may not want to listento this out in public if you're
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easily embarrassed.
Depending on your workplace.
You may not want to blast thison the airwaves at work.
You might not want to listenaround children, unless you want
to answer those questions which, if you have children, you need
to answer these questions.
You want to answer thosequestions which, if you have
children, you need to answerthese questions.
You need to have thisconversation with your children
because your children need tolearn about sex from you and
nobody else, not the world,because they're going to have a
jacked up view of it if theydon't get the right information
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from you and you want them tocome to you.
But, with that being said, youmay want to listen to this with
earbuds, but definitely share itwith your spouse.
Are you ready for this?
Eight kinds of sex all marriedcouples should put into rotation
.
I cannot wait to get yourthoughts on this.
Oh boy.
So the first one which wait,these are.
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These are not positions, rightnot positions now okay these are
different types of sexdifferent boy want to be on that
podcast Listen.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
That's too personal for me.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
That gets a little too deep into it.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
There's full visual stuff that I don't want.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I agree, this isn't OnlyFans, y'all, we're not doing
that.
So number one, number oneMorning sex.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You're on board with morning sex.
Yep, that's all you got to sayabout that right Morning sex.
Okay, you're on board withmorning sex.
Yep, yep, that's all you got tosay about that right, morning
sex.
The reason is and I fully agreeit is.
I mean, what a better way tostart the day than to right out
of the gate first thing in themorning?
Hey, you're feeling frisky, gota good night's sleep, hopefully
, and what better way to startthe day now.
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That comes with a caveat, youknow, for us especially, you
know, morning breath is a realdeal, say it again.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Morning breath is a real deal yeah, I will not speak
until I brush my teeth as areal thing unless it's an
emergency an absolute emergency.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So you know, for us it's not a hey, let's just wake
up.
All right, go time.
Um, it's a hey, we'll get there.
But let me let me brush myteeth, at least at first,
because we don't want oh yeah, Imean, you're in close proximity
you don't want that hot heavybeen sleeping for eight hours,
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probably mouth wide opensometimes right the movies.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
that where people can go straight into it when they
wake up, gross me out.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah, you've always said something about that.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Ew go brush your teeth.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
And I tend to agree.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I bet he's got some real hot breath.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
No doubt because he's been sleeping like that snoring
mouth's all dry.
You know it stank, but morningsex is what a better way to
start the day, because how oftenwe think about it throughout
the day.
Think about how much productiveyou can be throughout the day
If you start your day with somesex with your wife it's a great
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way to start the weekend.
I mean, that's a great way tostart the weekend.
So we're all in for for morningsex.
It's the best way to get theday started.
Number two, the second type ofsex.
Okay, Quickie sex.
Need to work in that quickieevery now and again.
Why are you laughing?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Okay, we're shooting two for two.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
It's a good day at the plate so far.
Listen, I agree.
I mean you can't always have along drawn out marathon.
No, there are times where it'sjust a hey, we got five minutes,
let's.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
And I Not.
Everybody has to have the sameending.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You want to expound on that?
Just a little bit.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Not everybody's going to be finished.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
It's very possible.
Here's what I know aboutquickie sex Typically man's
going to finish.
Don't take men long, listen,usually in a couple minutes.
I can get it done if they needto.
Women take a little bit more.
So quickie sex can easily leadinto hey, this is a little
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appetizer.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
This is just a tease.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
This is our chips and queso until we get to the
fajitas later.
You know what I mean.
I want that guac.
Yeah, just a little chips andguac to start with, and that
main course will come a littlebit later.
And that's what quickie sex cando.
It can initiate.
It can be what quickie sex cando.
It can initiate, be somethingawesome in the beginning, but
listen, it can move on tosomething that's a lot more in
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depth.
Lock that closet door for aboutfour and a half minutes it'll,
it'll get the job done, and boyit can lead to something,
because you can think about thatthrough the rest of the day and
I think that wasn't enough.
I need more yes, and quickie sexis.
I mean there's no foreplayinvolved.
I mean you're bam, you'regetting right to the point,
you're getting down to itimmediately because hey, you,
just, you can't, you can'tresist, you gotta can't keep
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your hands off each other.
I think it's a good thing formarried couples to be able to
have that quickie sex every nowand again.
Or, hey, we got, we got, we got, like I said, four minutes,
four and a half minutes, that'sit we need it.
We need to to get moving on this.
We've got 240 seconds.
Let's knock this thing out, andyou can't keep your hands off
each other.
It's a very, very good thing.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
So this is one I think that you're probably going
to be like eh, nope, scheduledsex, I can't, I know Now there's
a If I lay out a calendar andgo okay, we have this, this and
this, but Sunday afternoonaround this time we can possibly
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.
That doesn't work for me.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Now I get the idea.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
I'm too spontaneous.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Get the idea of scheduling it and how that can
be important.
If that works for you,definitely do it.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
But I Is that Like in the mornings when we are a
little flirty and we're ooh, I'mgoing to have you when you get
home tonight, Is that?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
scheduling yes and no , because that's kind of the
direction that I'm going.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
For me that's anticipation.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
You can, no, you cannot say all right.
Well, listen, I've got Thursday, I've got a meeting at 12
o'clock to 1 o'clock.
I can pencil you in from 345 to415.
If you can make that work, I'mlike oh, I can't skyrocket.
That don't work for us.
For some people it might itmight, and it works.
But you're right.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
I'm too spontaneous.
Life gets in the way.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Listen, you know Married couples.
If you're in tune enough andyou're open about it, like you
said in the morning, it's just alittle extra flirty.
You know that, hey, something'sgoing to happen today.
It's going to go down at somepoint during the day today,
tonight, this afternoon.
It's going to happen today.
It's going to go down at somepoint during the day today,
tonight, this afternoon it'sgoing to happen.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Nothing better Stop me today.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
That's not necessarily scheduled but it is
kind of on the schedule.
You don't know when, but thatis going to go down at some
point in time and I think when Ithink scheduled sex, that's
kind of the direction I'm going,not that I'm penciling you in
from my two to three, because Igot time during that day.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
I can't do scheduled.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, I got to get it in.
You know, after work, beforepractice, it don't work that way
.
Spontaneous sex is incredible,Well which, okay, that will lead
us to the next one, which isspontaneous sex.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Are you serious?
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Yes, it is.
Spontaneous sex.
Is the the?
I got to have you right thissecond.
I can't resist it.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Nothing is going to stop me.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Nothing is going to stop me whatsoever.
And listen, if you're a littleadventurous, that can become a
little dangerous Because ittalks about you know.
Hey, public places can be a andlisten to each their own.
That's you, that's you Okay.
But that can get risky really,really fast.
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So when I think morespontaneous, it's that mentality
of there ain't nothing that'sgoing to stop this right now.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Not spontaneous places.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
No.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Spontaneous timing.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I want some weirdo trying to, trying to peek in.
I can do it out on a park benchor something like that.
That's crazy.
It's a little crazy, so, butspontaneous.
And it just talks about howthis the unexpectedness of
spontaneous, like oh my gosh, Ididn't see that coming.
So I mean there'll be timeswhere I mean it's, it's a
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straight, I'm like I'm.
I came out of left field, Iwasn't expecting that, but okay,
let's go, that makes for agreat day let's do that.
Spontaneous sex is good too ohit's, it's always really good.
I mean, all of them are so far,but let's you know, go through
that.
Uh, the next one, which this isa this is a must for couples.
Okay, it's an absolute mustbecause, as life, life moves on
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and you got work and you gotkids, and you got appointments
and you got sports and you haveall the things.
Birthday parties I hatebirthday parties, but you have
them, we don't.
Hotel sex.
Oh yes, what is it about itthat just kind of brings it to
another level?
Speaker 2 (14:33):
It's not the typical place where you probably have
sex all the time.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
It definitely isn't.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's almost like having sex with a stranger.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Can be.
In a way, You're definitely ina different environment Because
for most people it's the bedroom, and so for most people that's
going to be the spot.
For some people, that's thespot 100% of the time.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I'm glad we're not some people.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
No, I am too.
But hotel is just, it's takenit to.
This is different.
It's a different place,different atmosphere.
I've got different surroundings.
It brings an extra level ofexcitement.
Maybe, there's less pressure.
Yeah, I mean there's lesspressure for, and I think it can
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be less.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Expectations are met there.
Yeah, cause you know that'swhere you're going to.
You're going to hook up there.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Oh it's going to happen at a hotel.
I mean, there's, there'ssomething about the hotel, it's
just you know it's going tohappen.
But I also think you're maybe alittle more, a little less
reserved in a hotel.
You kind of are a little morefree and a little more
freewheeling a little bit alittle bit at a hotel, because
at home it's home, it's, it's abed, it's where you sleep, it's
where you rest, you're verycomfortable and you're very
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comfortable.
But you can also be reservedbecause, yeah, this is home, but
the hotel it's like hey I don'tcare who's listening next door,
they're getting a show tonight.
Well, that not.
You know, I I'm not gonna bereserved, I'm gonna let it go.
I let it fly.
I'm going to be a little morefree at a hotel, but I think
hotel, uh, hotel sex is very,very important.
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Uh, this next one, you know I'mnot.
They're calling it comfort sex.
Which comfort sex is you're?
You're feeling down on yourselfand I don't really get along
with this one.
The example they use is it saysI remember once going to a
bridal shower and someone askingfor sex advice for the
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bride-to-be.
When it came time for a seniorelder of the church, his wife,
to speak, she said don't denyyour husband until deathly ill.
Some of the women turned uptheir nose at her response and
simply said I've been marriedalmost 50 years.
A lot of you are divorced.
Well, I'm definitely not thewoman who thinks that people
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should have sex when they don'tfeel like it.
I do think it's important formarried people to treat sex like
it's a staple in theirrelationship and not just a
hobby.
Now, I agree with that.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
But doesn't that contradict the comfort sex?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
A little bit.
I can see a little bit I don'tsee why that even correlates.
No comfort sex.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I'm thinking more along the lines of You're having
sex with somebody to make themfeel better.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Make them feel better .
And you're down, that's whatfood is for.
It is Sorry it is.
You're down, that's what foodis for.
It is sorry it is hangry.
That's not what sex is for.
Hangry is very, very true.
What this is talking about isdon't refuse your husband, and
it goes back to what we'vetalked about before.
I mean, it's a need has to bemet.
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But, husbands, are you got todo something Like?
You can't just you can't justwalk in and be like here, I am
Bam.
So a woman's going to be likeyeah, naked man does not always
work, the naked woman alwaysworks.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
It does.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
But the naked man does not always work.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
What is the percentage that it works?
Speaker 1 (17:58):
The naked man or the naked woman?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Well, 100% of the time it works every time.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
I'd say the naked woman, naked man, 50%.
I think he's a little higherthan I am, some are higher, but
I'd say some 50%, because youknow men can be disgusting pigs,
sometimes Manscaped.
I'd say for you definitely,take care of that.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Manscaped that and it makes a world of difference.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
It most certainly does.
Next one is reconciliation sex.
This is sex after Makeup sex.
Makeup sex, Sex after a fight,which I could see.
This because tensions are high,You're passionate about
whatever it is that you'retalking about, whatever may be
going on.
I could see where this would bethe case Now for us.
We don't necessarily.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
I don't know.
I was trying to think of thepast 25 years.
Have we ever had makeup?
Speaker 1 (18:51):
No, because we don't.
We don't fight enough to get afight.
Let me pump the brakes on that.
We don't necessarily.
We don't fight enough to get afight.
Let me pump the brakes on that.
We don't necessarily.
We don't fight.
You know fight.
When I think of fight, I'mthinking of someone's.
Someone's going to come out awinner, someone's going to come
out a loser.
We debate, we disagree onthings, but we have the same
goal in mind.
We're trying to understand eachother, where someone's coming
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from.
We'll come to a compromise oran agreement on that.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
It's not like we don't speak to each other for
weeks or days.
No, don't sleep in the same bed, or?
No, you have to sleep on thecouch because I'm mad at you
listen.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
The only time we haven't slept in the same bed
and been in the same home iswhen someone's deathly sick, as
the one time if you're sick withsome sort of virus or something
like baby, I love you.
If you need me, you need me,let me know.
I will come check on you fromthe door.
I'm not sleeping in the samebed as you, sleeping in a
different room.
I'm staying away from youbecause I don't.
I love you so much and I hopeyou get better, but the last
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thing in the world I want iswhat you got going on right now.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
We are.
Even before we were parents, wedid that, and most of the time
we would would just whoever wassick would be the one that would
sleep in the bed, becausethat's just where your comfort
that's.
Yes, you're comfortable there,and whoever else would sleep on
the couch?
Speaker 1 (20:05):
yeah, totally, and we're still that way now.
And that's a little differentdynamic with kids, because
there's a part of us that, evenwith children, we're like listen
, I know you don't feel goodright now, buddy, but you're,
you're, you're sleeping, you'restaying here.
We'll come check on you, butwe're going to try and stay away
as much as possible.
Now that's more difficultbecause you need to be there.
In most cases, especially withyounger children, you've got to
be there to comfort them, wewould have quarantine rooms.
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We would, and you and I.
At times it almost feels likepaper rock scissors.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Who's going to get sick?
Who's taking the bullet?
Who's the one who can talkthemselves out of throwing up
the most?
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Yes, yeah, basically it was.
It was like all right, who'staking the bullet this time?
Who's going to go, willing torisk it?
Speaker 2 (20:45):
all.
No, it's been very rare for ourchildren.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Luckily.
Thank the Lord.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I remember having the flu for the very first time and
only time in my life.
Cash was six months old and wewere terrified because he hadn't
had you know, been exposed oranything to help him and it was
probably that first time parentthing.
Yes, and I was sick and then Istayed in the bedroom.
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You and Cash stayed maybe inthe nursery most of the time.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
We did, we did.
I slept on the little love seatthat we had in the nursery
Because you did not want, youwould open the door and go.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
You need anything, Okay, bye.
It was more like I don't thinkI saw you all for a week.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
It is like okay, good , you know, trying to hold your
breath so you don't catchanything.
I mean, that's how we operatewhen we're sick.
So that's the only time wehaven't slept in the same bed.
But this idea of makeup sexdoesn't really rely to us.
Now I can see again where itwould be awesome and great
because you're you see it in themovies or shows where.
Movies and shows are all fake.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
They're just so mad and then they get turned to real
passionate and have crazy wildsex.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
I don't think that really exists, think it turns
real passionate and have crazywild sex I don't think that's
really exists.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
I just don't.
I would like to know.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
If it does well listen, we can get a huge fight
over something.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
No, it's not gonna happen for us no, we need to
hear from someone.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Does this really?
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I want someone can tell me.
I want both sides to this story, I don't want just the the dude
to go.
Oh yeah, we have real is hotsex.
Okay, what?
Um, I love you man.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
The movie I love you, man.
Oh, with the um, the friendsdenise and barry yes, who play
poker?
Yes, yep they just try to bemad at each other I argue and
argue, and argue, and argue, andfight and argue.
The whole movie yes.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
And they strictly do that, so they can have like
makeup, makeup sex.
Yeah, yeah.
That's the only thing I couldthink of.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
If that works for somebody, I'd love.
I'd love to hear like, yeah,hey, this is us, this, this
works for us.
Cause I us, because I can'tfully comprehend that, because
we don't get to that point wherewe're so fighting mad.
I mean, we get passionate aboutthings.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
If I'm mad there's zero sexism on my mind I need to
punch a wall.
Yes, hopefully not me Throwsomething.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Back away, hey baby.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
You just know my temper, so you don't.
I just step off.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
I back away.
You know I'm here for you.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
And it's not that we no one likes to be wrong.
No, by any means.
But if I'm fighting aboutsomething, if I am hardcore
angry and if I raise my voiceabout it, it's because I know
I'm right and no one's listeningto me.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
And I know in those moments I just want to back away
.
I'm going to keep my distancefrom you for a little bit, and I
know when to kind of sneak backin, be like, hey, baby, I'm
here for away, I'm going to keepmy distance from you for a
little bit and I know when tokind of sneak back in.
But hey, baby, I'm here for you.
I know you're, I know you'repissed about this, but and then
it's all good.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You do.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Typically those times are not.
They're not directed at eachother.
No, it's a situation.
It's a situation and you can beyou can be mad about something
or somebody.
And mad about something orsomebody or and unfortunately we
can take that out on thosearound us and it's never
intentional.
And I think we've done a prettygood job of knowing that's not
intentional.
You know it's not directed atyou, it's not directed at the
kids.
You know, right now, for meit's directed at the dog.
(24:15):
I'm pissed at everybody butit's that dog's fault, blame the
dog for everything he is he's,he's, he's a terror.
Right now.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
He is an absolute velociraptor that is wreaking
havoc on everything but he gotso good and he was so good for
weeks yeah, and he's been theworst thing and this week this
week I don't know what happened.
I don't either, but the snow orthe ice, whatever that was
supposed to come through didn'thappen.
Maybe he just got really pissedabout it and he's trying to
show his toe well, he's done agreat job of it.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
If, if he doesn't get it together, we're going to
have big problems.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
But there's no reason for you to be all mad about
that and take it out oneverybody, and I get all mad
about you doing that, and thenwe have hot sex.
No, that doesn't work for us itdon't work.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
So if it works for you, we'd love to hear it.
Last one understand um culturewill not understand this at all,
because people think christiansare boring and they don't have
good passionate sex.
But it calls it holy sex.
But it's basically putting godat the center of everything that
you do, center of yourrelationship.
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He created sex yes he fullycreated it and it's not, you
know, not like you're don't wantto go down that path, but
making sure that it's.
He is at the center of it andyou realize that he created it
and he created it for good andyou're expressing that enjoyment
with each other.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
That was number eight .
That was number eight.
Holy sex.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
It's called holy sex.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
What is?
I don't understand.
All I'm hearing right now isforgetting Sarah Marshall.
If God were a city planner, whywould he put the playground
next to what?
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Sewage next next to the sewage water treatment
planner, whatever like that.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Now, basically, what I'm saying is that when a
husband and wife live biblically, the way God created it, the
sex is going to be far superiorto those who are not well, I
don't know about anybody else'ssex life, but very, very beyond
extraordinarily happy with ours,and maybe it is maybe it's not
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that we, that we have a holy sexI don't even know how to say
that but because we have ourpriorities the right way,
everything else just falls inline, which makes sex part of
that, and it's even moreincredible than it was when we
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didn't have God.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
And that's the gist of this is putting God at the
center of your relationship.
Everything flows from ourspiritual side, and you're right
For us, because God is at thecenter of our relationship and
everything that we do and welook to him first, above
everything.
Everything else flows and fallsinto place and yes, sex is a
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reward of that.
It has only gotten better aswe've gotten closer to God and
our faith has grown.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
I swear.
We always say I don'tunderstand.
How does it get better?
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah, which reverts back to the original first
article.
How can people only do this 12times a year?
I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
I don't get it, I would be miserable.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
And I think that's part of it is those people
probably don't necessarily haveGod at the center of their
relationship.
Because he created sex and it'sgood.
He talks about how good it is.
I mean, you got all Song ofSolomon is nothing but about sex
.
The whole dadgum thing.
It's pretty vivid.
It is very about sex.
The whole dadgum thing.
It's pretty vivid.
It is very, very vivid and itis very, very descriptive if you
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read through it.
I mean he created it and it isgood and it's to be pleasing and
we're to enjoy it.
And when you do it the way hecreated it, man oh man, it just
gets better and better it getsbetter and better and better.
So the eight types of sex peopleneed to have married.
People need to put into theirrelationship.
I agree with some.
I don't fully agree with others.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
I think we're about a six out of eight.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
I think so too.
There's no reconciliation sexfor us.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
We don't have makeup, we don't need to make up
anything.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
I'm not putting in my 230 on a Tuesday afternoon,
just don't quite work that wayJust come home for a nooner.
Just come home for a nooner.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
That can always work as well.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
I can knock out two with one.
I can be the quickie as well,so it works.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Come home on your lunch break, baby you got
anything you want to add.
I like that.
That was fun.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
That was fun.
People listen.
We haven't had the sexconversation in a while in a
while, but it's something thatpeople need to be reminded of.
It is an important part of amarriage and relationship,
something that should be takenseriously.
You start your day off withthat.
You're going to have some good,good days.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
You're not wrong.
Let's get out of here.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
God.
We love you, God.
We're thankful for what you do.
We're thankful for thisplatform.
We're thankful for therelationship that you have given
us, god.
We just pray that, as always,this will reach the people that
need to hear it in the momentsthat they need to hear it.
You will find a way and a pathto be able to get it to the ears
that need to hear it, andthat's all.
Our prayer is that people canbecome closer, their
relationships can become betterand they become closer to you
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throughout it all, and we trustyou that you're going to do that
.
God, we love you and we thankyou in Jesus name, amen.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
Amen.
Are you ready for this?
Eight kinds of sex all marriedcouples should put into rotation
.
I cannot wait to get yourthoughts on this.
Oh boy.
Reasons men need to have moresex to reduce the risk of heart
disease.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
And prostate cancer.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
And prostate cancer.
Every single man is going tosave this little snippet, send
it to their wives and be likebaby.
We got to have more sex, butscientists discovered men who
have sex at least 103 times peryear, so that's a little over or
just under two times per week,are 50% less likely to have
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heart disease than men who onlyhave it 12 times per year, AKA
one time per month.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Here's a question for you Is marriage overrated?
Why?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
aren't people getting married anymore?
A new Pew Research poll foundthat two in five young adults
think marriage is an outdatedtradition.
Marriage rates are at theirlowest right now.
Is marriage really even worthit?
More than half of marriages endin divorce.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
If you get married, you have to be stuck with this
person for the rest of your life, right?
That's why you get married, sothat's why it's declining.
Why would you get married ifyou want to have just one
partner when you can havemultiple?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
marriage is stupid welcome to the married af
podcast, the self-proclaimedgreatest marriage relationship
podcast in the world.
We're your host, matthew andmonica powers, not wayne's world
not today not today.
Wayne's world was fun, but Ithink that was a one and done
type of thing.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
So, baby, you look amazing today.
You're sweet.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Thank you.
You ready to jump into this,you just like it when I wear
lipstick.
I love when you wear lipstick.
Yes, I most certainly do.
I hate lipstick, I'm sorry, Ilove it.
If that's any consolation tothis, whatsoever, I do love when
you wear lipstick.
I'm like look how kissablethose lips are.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Noted, you can't even see my top lip anyways.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
I can see your top lip.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
It's like I have this .
Speaker 1 (02:07):
You don't.
Can you imagine if you had afinger for your top lip?
Oh gosh, how weird is that?
No, you don't need any fillers.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
You're good, I can't even make my lip look like I
have fillers and even plump upmy lips.
Remember when you got that inCalifornia 20 something years
ago when it first came out.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
So long ago I was like, look at this stuff.
And I kissed you.
I was like, ah, my lips hurt,they're on fire, they hurt.
I didn't like it.
I mean, I liked the way itlooked, but you just liked that
it was glossy.
It was either.
(02:46):
So it's okay, but you have amustache thingy to cover it up,
it's, it's part of the beard.
I could never do a mustache.
You did it once.
Ted lasso for halloween.
It lasted like four hours thankyou, everything off had a
mustache and at the end of thenight it was done.
Beard came back in a week.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
We're good to go we should show everybody this ted
lasso pictures we will share theted lasso pictures were great
they were good.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
It won't come back again.
I hated it.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Hated it so much, so today you had biscuits with the
boss.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I'll have biscuits with my boss every day.
Gross how you doing.
So today we're going to talkabout.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
But that makes sense about what your topic is today.
It does.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Today we're going to talk about that in twofold, two
articles.
One of you sent me one I found.
The first is the scientificscience behind reasons men need
to have more sex to reduce therisk of heart disease.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
And prostate cancer.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
And prostate cancer.
Every single man is going tosave this little snippet, send
it to their wives and be likebaby.
We got to have more sex.
But scientists discovered menwho have sex at least 103 times
per year so that's a little overor just under two times per
week are 50% less likely to haveheart disease than men who only
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have it 12 times per year, akaone time per month.
Only have it 12 times per yearAKA one time per month.
And the reason is because sexit's a get your heart pumping,
gets you going and it's good foryour heart.
But we also found out that menwho finish the job finish the
job, especially on their side,at least, I think, 20 times per
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month, which is a lot, but mangot to love that Highly reduced
the risk of prostate cancer andthe process.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
So, men, you're definitely saving all of this 20
times a month 20 times a month.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
So you know that's.
You know, probably at leastfour times a week, four to four
and a half times a week for men.
So clearly they're going tosave this part of the podcast,
Cause I'm going to be like withtheir wives like, hey, we gotta,
we gotta get this going.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
I don't need heart disease or prostate cancer.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
So we need to do it a whole lot more often.
Which, man, if you want thatyou'd like work towards it, do
something.
You are not as desirable as youprobably think that you are.
If you want to do, it dosomething and she will probably
give it to you.
But that leads me into a secondarticle that I found.
Let me find it real quick.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
All right.
Eight kinds of sex.
All married couples need to putin rotation.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Oh, my goodness.
So as we get into this have,you already dissected this
article yes, I've read to see ifwe checked off all eight I've
read.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
I've read read all of it.
We check off all but maybe onewhich we'll have.
We'll have just some discussionon what this one is.
Um disclaimer obviously peoplelistening watching know it's a
sexual in nature podcastrecording that we're doing today
, so you may not want to listento this out in public if you're
(05:52):
easily embarrassed.
Depending on your workplace.
You may not want to blast thison the airwaves at work.
You might not want to listenaround children, unless you want
to answer those questions which, if you have children, you need
to answer these questions.
You want to answer thosequestions which, if you have
children, you need to answerthese questions.
You need to have thisconversation with your children
because your children need tolearn about sex from you and
nobody else, not the world,because they're going to have a
jacked up view of it if theydon't get the right information
(06:14):
from you and you want them tocome to you.
But, with that being said, youmay want to listen to this with
earbuds, but definitely share itwith your spouse.
Are you ready for this?
Eight kinds of sex all marriedcouples should put into rotation
.
I cannot wait to get yourthoughts on this.
Oh boy.
So the first one which wait,these are.
(06:35):
These are not positions, rightnot positions now okay these are
different types of sexdifferent boy want to be on that
podcast Listen.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
That's too personal for me.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
That gets a little too deep into it.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
There's full visual stuff that I don't want.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I agree, this isn't OnlyFans, y'all, we're not doing
that.
So number one, number oneMorning sex.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
You're on board with morning sex.
Yep, that's all you got to sayabout that right Morning sex.
Okay, you're on board withmorning sex.
Yep, yep, that's all you got tosay about that right, morning
sex.
The reason is and I fully agreeit is.
I mean, what a better way tostart the day than to right out
of the gate first thing in themorning?
Hey, you're feeling frisky, gota good night's sleep, hopefully
, and what better way to startthe day now.
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That comes with a caveat, youknow, for us especially, you
know, morning breath is a realdeal, say it again.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Morning breath is a real deal yeah, I will not speak
until I brush my teeth as areal thing unless it's an
emergency an absolute emergency.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So you know, for us it's not a hey, let's just wake
up.
All right, go time.
Um, it's a hey, we'll get there.
But let me let me brush myteeth, at least at first,
because we don't want oh yeah, Imean, you're in close proximity
you don't want that hot heavybeen sleeping for eight hours,
(07:57):
probably mouth wide opensometimes right the movies.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
that where people can go straight into it when they
wake up, gross me out.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Yeah, you've always said something about that.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Ew go brush your teeth.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
And I tend to agree.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
I bet he's got some real hot breath.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
No doubt because he's been sleeping like that snoring
mouth's all dry.
You know it stank, but morningsex is what a better way to
start the day, because how oftenwe think about it throughout
the day.
Think about how much productiveyou can be throughout the day
If you start your day with somesex with your wife it's a great
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way to start the weekend.
I mean, that's a great way tostart the weekend.
So we're all in for for morningsex.
It's the best way to get theday started.
Number two, the second type ofsex.
Okay, Quickie sex.
Need to work in that quickieevery now and again.
Why are you laughing?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Okay, we're shooting two for two.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
It's a good day at the plate so far.
Listen, I agree.
I mean you can't always have along drawn out marathon.
No, there are times where it'sjust a hey, we got five minutes,
let's.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
And I Not.
Everybody has to have the sameending.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You want to expound on that?
Just a little bit.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Not everybody's going to be finished.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
It's very possible.
Here's what I know aboutquickie sex Typically man's
going to finish.
Don't take men long, listen,usually in a couple minutes.
I can get it done if they needto.
Women take a little bit more.
So quickie sex can easily leadinto hey, this is a little
(09:47):
appetizer.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
This is just a tease.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
This is our chips and queso until we get to the
fajitas later.
You know what I mean.
I want that guac.
Yeah, just a little chips andguac to start with, and that
main course will come a littlebit later.
And that's what quickie sex cando.
It can initiate.
It can be what quickie sex cando.
It can initiate, be somethingawesome in the beginning, but
listen, it can move on tosomething that's a lot more in
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depth.
Lock that closet door for aboutfour and a half minutes it'll,
it'll get the job done, and boyit can lead to something,
because you can think about thatthrough the rest of the day and
I think that wasn't enough.
I need more yes, and quickie sexis.
I mean there's no foreplayinvolved.
I mean you're bam, you'regetting right to the point,
you're getting down to itimmediately because hey, you,
just, you can't, you can'tresist, you gotta can't keep
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your hands off each other.
I think it's a good thing formarried couples to be able to
have that quickie sex every nowand again.
Or, hey, we got, we got, we got, like I said, four minutes,
four and a half minutes, that'sit we need it.
We need to to get moving on this.
We've got 240 seconds.
Let's knock this thing out, andyou can't keep your hands off
each other.
It's a very, very good thing.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
So this is one I think that you're probably going
to be like eh, nope, scheduledsex, I can't, I know Now there's
a If I lay out a calendar andgo okay, we have this, this and
this, but Sunday afternoonaround this time we can possibly
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.
That doesn't work for me.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Now I get the idea.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
I'm too spontaneous.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
Get the idea of scheduling it and how that can
be important.
If that works for you,definitely do it.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
But I Is that Like in the mornings when we are a
little flirty and we're ooh, I'mgoing to have you when you get
home tonight, Is that?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
scheduling yes and no , because that's kind of the
direction that I'm going.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
For me that's anticipation.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
You can, no, you cannot say all right.
Well, listen, I've got Thursday, I've got a meeting at 12
o'clock to 1 o'clock.
I can pencil you in from 345 to415.
If you can make that work, I'mlike oh, I can't skyrocket.
That don't work for us.
For some people it might itmight, and it works.
But you're right.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
I'm too spontaneous.
Life gets in the way.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Listen, you know Married couples.
If you're in tune enough andyou're open about it, like you
said in the morning, it's just alittle extra flirty.
You know that, hey, something'sgoing to happen today.
It's going to go down at somepoint during the day today,
tonight, this afternoon.
It's going to happen today.
It's going to go down at somepoint during the day today,
tonight, this afternoon it'sgoing to happen.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Nothing better Stop me today.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
That's not necessarily scheduled but it is
kind of on the schedule.
You don't know when, but thatis going to go down at some
point in time and I think when Ithink scheduled sex, that's
kind of the direction I'm going,not that I'm penciling you in
from my two to three, because Igot time during that day.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
I can't do scheduled.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, I got to get it in.
You know, after work, beforepractice, it don't work that way
.
Spontaneous sex is incredible,Well which, okay, that will lead
us to the next one, which isspontaneous sex.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Are you serious?
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Yes, it is.
Spontaneous sex.
Is the the?
I got to have you right thissecond.
I can't resist it.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Nothing is going to stop me.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Nothing is going to stop me whatsoever.
And listen, if you're a littleadventurous, that can become a
little dangerous Because ittalks about you know.
Hey, public places can be a andlisten to each their own.
That's you, that's you Okay.
But that can get risky really,really fast.
(13:19):
So when I think morespontaneous, it's that mentality
of there ain't nothing that'sgoing to stop this right now.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Not spontaneous places.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
No.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Spontaneous timing.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
I want some weirdo trying to, trying to peek in.
I can do it out on a park benchor something like that.
That's crazy.
It's a little crazy, so, butspontaneous.
And it just talks about howthis the unexpectedness of
spontaneous, like oh my gosh, Ididn't see that coming.
So I mean there'll be timeswhere I mean it's, it's a
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straight, I'm like I'm.
I came out of left field, Iwasn't expecting that, but okay,
let's go, that makes for agreat day let's do that.
Spontaneous sex is good too ohit's, it's always really good.
I mean, all of them are so far,but let's you know, go through
that.
Uh, the next one, which this isa this is a must for couples.
Okay, it's an absolute mustbecause, as life, life moves on
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and you got work and you gotkids, and you got appointments
and you got sports and you haveall the things.
Birthday parties I hatebirthday parties, but you have
them, we don't.
Hotel sex.
Oh yes, what is it about itthat just kind of brings it to
another level?
Speaker 2 (14:33):
It's not the typical place where you probably have
sex all the time.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
It definitely isn't.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's almost like having sex with a stranger.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Can be.
In a way, You're definitely ina different environment Because
for most people it's the bedroom, and so for most people that's
going to be the spot.
For some people, that's thespot 100% of the time.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I'm glad we're not some people.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
No, I am too.
But hotel is just, it's takenit to.
This is different.
It's a different place,different atmosphere.
I've got different surroundings.
It brings an extra level ofexcitement.
Maybe, there's less pressure.
Yeah, I mean there's lesspressure for, and I think it can
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be less.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Expectations are met there.
Yeah, cause you know that'swhere you're going to.
You're going to hook up there.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Oh it's going to happen at a hotel.
I mean, there's, there'ssomething about the hotel, it's
just you know it's going tohappen.
But I also think you're maybe alittle more, a little less
reserved in a hotel.
You kind of are a little morefree and a little more
freewheeling a little bit alittle bit at a hotel, because
at home it's home, it's, it's abed, it's where you sleep, it's
where you rest, you're verycomfortable and you're very
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comfortable.
But you can also be reservedbecause, yeah, this is home, but
the hotel it's like hey I don'tcare who's listening next door,
they're getting a show tonight.
Well, that not.
You know, I I'm not gonna bereserved, I'm gonna let it go.
I let it fly.
I'm going to be a little morefree at a hotel, but I think
hotel, uh, hotel sex is very,very important.
(16:01):
Uh, this next one, you know I'mnot.
They're calling it comfort sex.
Which comfort sex is you're?
You're feeling down on yourselfand I don't really get along
with this one.
The example they use is it saysI remember once going to a
bridal shower and someone askingfor sex advice for the
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bride-to-be.
When it came time for a seniorelder of the church, his wife,
to speak, she said don't denyyour husband until deathly ill.
Some of the women turned uptheir nose at her response and
simply said I've been marriedalmost 50 years.
A lot of you are divorced.
Well, I'm definitely not thewoman who thinks that people
(16:47):
should have sex when they don'tfeel like it.
I do think it's important formarried people to treat sex like
it's a staple in theirrelationship and not just a
hobby.
Now, I agree with that.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
But doesn't that contradict the comfort sex?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
A little bit.
I can see a little bit I don'tsee why that even correlates.
No comfort sex.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I'm thinking more along the lines of You're having
sex with somebody to make themfeel better.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Make them feel better .
And you're down, that's whatfood is for.
It is Sorry it is.
You're down, that's what foodis for.
It is sorry it is hangry.
That's not what sex is for.
Hangry is very, very true.
What this is talking about isdon't refuse your husband, and
it goes back to what we'vetalked about before.
I mean, it's a need has to bemet.
(17:31):
But, husbands, are you got todo something Like?
You can't just you can't justwalk in and be like here, I am
Bam.
So a woman's going to be likeyeah, naked man does not always
work, the naked woman alwaysworks.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
It does.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
But the naked man does not always work.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
What is the percentage that it works?
Speaker 1 (17:58):
The naked man or the naked woman?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Well, 100% of the time it works every time.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
I'd say the naked woman, naked man, 50%.
I think he's a little higherthan I am, some are higher, but
I'd say some 50%, because youknow men can be disgusting pigs,
sometimes Manscaped.
I'd say for you definitely,take care of that.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Manscaped that and it makes a world of difference.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
It most certainly does.
Next one is reconciliation sex.
This is sex after Makeup sex.
Makeup sex, Sex after a fight,which I could see.
This because tensions are high,You're passionate about
whatever it is that you'retalking about, whatever may be
going on.
I could see where this would bethe case Now for us.
We don't necessarily.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
I don't know.
I was trying to think of thepast 25 years.
Have we ever had makeup?
Speaker 1 (18:51):
No, because we don't.
We don't fight enough to get afight.
Let me pump the brakes on that.
We don't necessarily.
We don't fight enough to get afight.
Let me pump the brakes on that.
We don't necessarily.
We don't fight.
You know fight.
When I think of fight, I'mthinking of someone's.
Someone's going to come out awinner, someone's going to come
out a loser.
We debate, we disagree onthings, but we have the same
goal in mind.
We're trying to understand eachother, where someone's coming
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from.
We'll come to a compromise oran agreement on that.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
It's not like we don't speak to each other for
weeks or days.
No, don't sleep in the same bed, or?
No, you have to sleep on thecouch because I'm mad at you
listen.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
The only time we haven't slept in the same bed
and been in the same home iswhen someone's deathly sick, as
the one time if you're sick withsome sort of virus or something
like baby, I love you.
If you need me, you need me,let me know.
I will come check on you fromthe door.
I'm not sleeping in the samebed as you, sleeping in a
different room.
I'm staying away from youbecause I don't.
I love you so much and I hopeyou get better, but the last
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thing in the world I want iswhat you got going on right now.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
We are.
Even before we were parents, wedid that, and most of the time
we would would just whoever wassick would be the one that would
sleep in the bed, becausethat's just where your comfort
that's.
Yes, you're comfortable there,and whoever else would sleep on
the couch?
Speaker 1 (20:05):
yeah, totally, and we're still that way now.
And that's a little differentdynamic with kids, because
there's a part of us that, evenwith children, we're like listen
, I know you don't feel goodright now, buddy, but you're,
you're, you're sleeping, you'restaying here.
We'll come check on you, butwe're going to try and stay away
as much as possible.
Now that's more difficultbecause you need to be there.
In most cases, especially withyounger children, you've got to
be there to comfort them, wewould have quarantine rooms.
(20:27):
We would, and you and I.
At times it almost feels likepaper rock scissors.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Who's going to get sick?
Who's taking the bullet?
Who's the one who can talkthemselves out of throwing up
the most?
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Yes, yeah, basically it was.
It was like all right, who'staking the bullet this time?
Who's going to go, willing torisk it?
Speaker 2 (20:45):
all.
No, it's been very rare for ourchildren.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Luckily.
Thank the Lord.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I remember having the flu for the very first time and
only time in my life.
Cash was six months old and wewere terrified because he hadn't
had you know, been exposed oranything to help him and it was
probably that first time parentthing.
Yes, and I was sick and then Istayed in the bedroom.
(21:14):
You and Cash stayed maybe inthe nursery most of the time.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
We did, we did.
I slept on the little love seatthat we had in the nursery
Because you did not want, youwould open the door and go.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
You need anything, Okay, bye.
It was more like I don't thinkI saw you all for a week.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
It is like okay, good , you know, trying to hold your
breath so you don't catchanything.
I mean, that's how we operatewhen we're sick.
So that's the only time wehaven't slept in the same bed.
But this idea of makeup sexdoesn't really rely to us.
Now I can see again where itwould be awesome and great
because you're you see it in themovies or shows where.
Movies and shows are all fake.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
They're just so mad and then they get turned to real
passionate and have crazy wildsex.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
I don't think that really exists, think it turns
real passionate and have crazywild sex I don't think that's
really exists.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
I just don't.
I would like to know.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
If it does well listen, we can get a huge fight
over something.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
No, it's not gonna happen for us no, we need to
hear from someone.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Does this really?
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I want someone can tell me.
I want both sides to this story, I don't want just the the dude
to go.
Oh yeah, we have real is hotsex.
Okay, what?
Um, I love you man.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
The movie I love you, man.
Oh, with the um, the friendsdenise and barry yes, who play
poker?
Yes, yep they just try to bemad at each other I argue and
argue, and argue, and argue, andfight and argue.
The whole movie yes.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
And they strictly do that, so they can have like
makeup, makeup sex.
Yeah, yeah.
That's the only thing I couldthink of.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
If that works for somebody, I'd love.
I'd love to hear like, yeah,hey, this is us, this, this
works for us.
Cause I us, because I can'tfully comprehend that, because
we don't get to that point wherewe're so fighting mad.
I mean, we get passionate aboutthings.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
If I'm mad there's zero sexism on my mind I need to
punch a wall.
Yes, hopefully not me Throwsomething.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Back away, hey baby.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
You just know my temper, so you don't.
I just step off.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
I back away.
You know I'm here for you.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
And it's not that we no one likes to be wrong.
No, by any means.
But if I'm fighting aboutsomething, if I am hardcore
angry and if I raise my voiceabout it, it's because I know
I'm right and no one's listeningto me.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
And I know in those moments I just want to back away
.
I'm going to keep my distancefrom you for a little bit, and I
know when to kind of sneak backin, be like, hey, baby, I'm
here for away, I'm going to keepmy distance from you for a
little bit and I know when tokind of sneak back in.
But hey, baby, I'm here for you.
I know you're, I know you'repissed about this, but and then
it's all good.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You do.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Typically those times are not.
They're not directed at eachother.
No, it's a situation.
It's a situation and you can beyou can be mad about something
or somebody.
And mad about something orsomebody or and unfortunately we
can take that out on thosearound us and it's never
intentional.
And I think we've done a prettygood job of knowing that's not
intentional.
You know it's not directed atyou, it's not directed at the
kids.
You know, right now, for meit's directed at the dog.
(24:15):
I'm pissed at everybody butit's that dog's fault, blame the
dog for everything he is he's,he's, he's a terror.
Right now.
Speaker 2 (24:24):
He is an absolute velociraptor that is wreaking
havoc on everything but he gotso good and he was so good for
weeks yeah, and he's been theworst thing and this week this
week I don't know what happened.
I don't either, but the snow orthe ice, whatever that was
supposed to come through didn'thappen.
Maybe he just got really pissedabout it and he's trying to
show his toe well, he's done agreat job of it.
Speaker 1 (24:43):
If, if he doesn't get it together, we're going to
have big problems.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
But there's no reason for you to be all mad about
that and take it out oneverybody, and I get all mad
about you doing that, and thenwe have hot sex.
No, that doesn't work for us itdon't work.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
So if it works for you, we'd love to hear it.
Last one understand um culturewill not understand this at all,
because people think christiansare boring and they don't have
good passionate sex.
But it calls it holy sex.
But it's basically putting godat the center of everything that
you do, center of yourrelationship.
(25:16):
He created sex yes he fullycreated it and it's not, you
know, not like you're don't wantto go down that path, but
making sure that it's.
He is at the center of it andyou realize that he created it
and he created it for good andyou're expressing that enjoyment
with each other.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
That was number eight .
That was number eight.
Holy sex.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
It's called holy sex.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
What is?
I don't understand.
All I'm hearing right now isforgetting Sarah Marshall.
If God were a city planner, whywould he put the playground
next to what?
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Sewage next next to the sewage water treatment
planner, whatever like that.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Now, basically, what I'm saying is that when a
husband and wife live biblically, the way God created it, the
sex is going to be far superiorto those who are not well, I
don't know about anybody else'ssex life, but very, very beyond
extraordinarily happy with ours,and maybe it is maybe it's not
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that we, that we have a holy sexI don't even know how to say
that but because we have ourpriorities the right way,
everything else just falls inline, which makes sex part of
that, and it's even moreincredible than it was when we
(26:41):
didn't have God.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
And that's the gist of this is putting God at the
center of your relationship.
Everything flows from ourspiritual side, and you're right
For us, because God is at thecenter of our relationship and
everything that we do and welook to him first, above
everything.
Everything else flows and fallsinto place and yes, sex is a
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reward of that.
It has only gotten better aswe've gotten closer to God and
our faith has grown.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
I swear.
We always say I don'tunderstand.
How does it get better?
Speaker 1 (27:17):
Yeah, which reverts back to the original first
article.
How can people only do this 12times a year?
I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
I don't get it, I would be miserable.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
And I think that's part of it is those people
probably don't necessarily haveGod at the center of their
relationship.
Because he created sex and it'sgood.
He talks about how good it is.
I mean, you got all Song ofSolomon is nothing but about sex
.
The whole dadgum thing.
It's pretty vivid.
It is very about sex.
The whole dadgum thing.
It's pretty vivid.
It is very, very vivid and itis very, very descriptive if you
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read through it.
I mean he created it and it isgood and it's to be pleasing and
we're to enjoy it.
And when you do it the way hecreated it, man oh man, it just
gets better and better it getsbetter and better and better.
So the eight types of sex peopleneed to have married.
People need to put into theirrelationship.
I agree with some.
I don't fully agree with others.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
I think we're about a six out of eight.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
I think so too.
There's no reconciliation sexfor us.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
We don't have makeup, we don't need to make up
anything.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
I'm not putting in my 230 on a Tuesday afternoon,
just don't quite work that wayJust come home for a nooner.
Just come home for a nooner.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
That can always work as well.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
I can knock out two with one.
I can be the quickie as well,so it works.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Come home on your lunch break, baby you got
anything you want to add.
I like that.
That was fun.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
That was fun.
People listen.
We haven't had the sexconversation in a while in a
while, but it's something thatpeople need to be reminded of.
It is an important part of amarriage and relationship,
something that should be takenseriously.
You start your day off withthat.
You're going to have some good,good days.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
You're not wrong.
Let's get out of here.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
God.
We love you, God.
We're thankful for what you do.
We're thankful for thisplatform.
We're thankful for therelationship that you have given
us, god.
We just pray that, as always,this will reach the people that
need to hear it in the momentsthat they need to hear it.
You will find a way and a pathto be able to get it to the ears
that need to hear it, andthat's all.
Our prayer is that people canbecome closer, their
relationships can become betterand they become closer to you
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throughout it all, and we trustyou that you're going to do that
.
God, we love you and we thankyou in Jesus name, amen.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
Amen.
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