January 7, 2025 • 27 mins
We open up about prioritizing our partnership by placing God and each other first, setting a strong foundation for a vibrant marriage that defies societal myths of dullness.
Amidst the distractions of modern life, discover how quality time can transform your relationship. We humorously tackle the social media habits that siphon away your attention and suggest practical ways to shift focus from "me time" to "we time." By dedicating weekends to bonding and using creative tools like conversation cards, we explore how these small changes can lead to unexpectedly deep connections with your spouse.
Navigating the complexities of intimacy, we delve into defining cheating, the necessity of transparency, and the importance of understanding love languages. Our discussion highlights how mutual support and effort can lead to a resilient partnership, emphasizing grace and communication as cornerstones. As we look to 2025 with hope and gratitude, we invite you to renew your commitment to marriage, drawing strength from faith and community, fostering a lasting bond that inspires others.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
here's a question for you is marriage overrated?
Why aren't?
People getting married anymorea new pew research poll found
that two and five young adultsthink marriage is an outdated
tradition.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Marriage rates are at their lowest.
Right now.
Is marriage really even worthit?
More than half of marriages endin divorce.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
If you get married, you have to be stuck with this
person for the rest of your life, right?
That's why you get married.
So that's why it's declining.
Why would you get married ifyou don't, if you want to have
just one partner?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
when you can have multiple Marriage is stupid.
Welcome to the Married AFPodcast, the self-proclaimed
greatest marriage relationshippodcast in the world.
We are your hosts, matthew andMonica Powers.
Back Brand new year, new year,new me.
2025 is upon us, baby.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
New you.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
That's what everyone says new year, new me.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
You gonna be everybody else.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
No, but I'll say new year, new us, because we got
ways to increase your connection, your intimacy, in 2025, or 26,
27, depending on the year thatpeople see and listen to this.
But in the new year, how areyou going to be better?
How are you going to increaseyour connection with your spouse
, your intimacy?
They may seem basic principlesthat everyone would be like well
(01:19):
duh, that makes total sense.
However, that everyone would belike, well, duh, that makes
total sense.
However, they're not being done, so we might as well talk about
them.
So, ways to increase yourintimacy in your marriage in
2025 and beyond you ready Forsome intimacy.
(01:40):
Yeah, you ready for someintimacy?
Yeah, how you doing.
That's number one.
That's not number one.
We'll get to that, though We'llget to that for sure.
I think number one ispriorities.
Yeah, prioritizing yourrelationship, your spouse, your
family, everything in thecorrect manner, because, for
those of us with kids, we sooftentimes want to put our
(02:03):
children first, and we don'tneed to put our kids first, and
that's contrary to so manythings that people believe.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
That's the worldly view.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
But your kids don't need to be first in your life.
Of course Jesus needs to benumber one.
He's my number one, he's yournumber one.
That's clearly stated.
But you are my number two.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
You're my number two.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
And then kids are three, sometimes four depending
on.
But kids, your career, yourfinances, all of the other stuff
falls in.
After that, your other family.
But you're Wait, wait, wait,wait, like your, aunts and your
uncles.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Just you have to explain that.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
We're no Rush Probst around here with second families
running around.
For those people in Alabama,they would know what I'm talking
about.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
But he's not the only one that has things like that,
but he was, so there was soprominent.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
whenever it happened it was like, oh my gosh, the
Hoover High football coaches gotall second family.
Yeah, but no, I'm talking toaunts and uncles.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
People do that don't have a status.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Hey, you want to be better in your marriage?
Don't have a second family.
If anyone listens to this.
You got a second family.
Ditch that second family.
Focus on your first family.
How about them apples?
But prioritization God has tobe first, because he wants your
marriage to thrive, despite whatsome people think, like I just
(03:28):
got to tough it out, I'm justgoing to stick it out, is all
I'm going to do.
Ball and chain, ball and chain.
I'm stuck with her forever.
I'm just going to make it last.
No, god wants your marriage tothrive and be good and be better
, and he wants to see success inyour marriage throughout it all
.
You don't have to just stick itout.
(03:49):
So when we place him number one, everything else falls into
place, but making your spousethe second in line, Well, most
people think well, if I put Godfirst, especially in my marriage
, then that's going to be boring.
It's so not Listen.
Speaking from experience, it'stotally not.
(04:11):
It only makes it far and awaybetter.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Because we've been on the other side where God was
not first.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Yes, like we've been early in our marriage where we
didn't even place each otherfirst.
We placed myself first, Iplaced me first, you placed you
first, me, me, me, me, me, me,and it set up for disaster in
our relationship.
But once we kind of learnedthings, we got ourselves
corrected.
We shouldn't have lasted.
(04:38):
No way Marriage should havebeen over.
There's no way we should behere right now, but somehow we
were and it's only through thegrace of God that we are.
But when you put God first inyour marriage, it makes
everything else fall into placeso much easier.
It doesn't mean it's going tobe sunshine and rainbows every
time.
No, it's going to be a littlemore difficult sometimes, yes,
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but you know that you're both init for each other.
You know God wants it best foryourself and it's just going to
make it so much better than youcould ever imagine.
And I promise it's not boring.
So many people think thatchurch it's boring, god's boring
the Bible's boring.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
You're going to the wrong church.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
It's going to make.
It's going to make we're notgoing to have fun with each
other.
The sex is going to be terrible.
They believe all that stuff andevery bit of that is a lie of
the enemy.
It's not at all what God hasset for your marriage whatsoever
, nope.
So priorities are huge and yourspouse being number two.
You have to put your spouseabove your kids.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Because kids are made to move out.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Yes, if you do your job as a parent, your kids will
grow up.
They'll get married, havechildren of their own, have
their own lives.
And they're gone.
They're still your kids.
You still love them.
You're still going to care forthem.
All of that remains true.
However, your spouse is the onewho's always going to be there,
so you don't want your kids tomove out and the spouse be like
(06:04):
who are you?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
They're just roommates.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
And that's it and that's not at all what you want.
I think so many people have itflipped around where I'm too
worried about my kids' schooland their schedule and the ball
games and the gymnastics and thethis and the choir, the play
and all of the activities andmaking sure they have the
friends and they go to thesleepovers and they're involved
in every party and we're moreconcerned with that than time
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with our spouse and it takesaway time with your spouse,
which I think is kind of numbertwo on all this.
Intentionally spend time withyour spouse.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Date your spouse.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
When was the last time married couples thought
about a date?
I mean, I know people that goon dates.
That's great.
And you need to, even if it'sjust a dinner.
A dinner, it can be Just youtwo alone.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
It can be something at home.
The biggest thing is, it's justyou two.
You're all by yourselves.
You're focused on one another.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
With zero distractions.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Yes, that means Put your phone down.
Put your phone away, put the dogaway, send the kids somewhere
and just spend time with eachother, being intentional on that
time.
For us to grow in ourrelationship, we have to spend
time with each other, beingintentional on that time.
For us to grow in ourrelationship, we have to spend
time with each other.
I've made the example so manytimes.
But how good would our marriagebe if I was just never here, I
(07:33):
never came home, I was neveraround, we were never together,
and that's just how it was.
Things are going to completelyfall apart very, very quickly.
If you do that, you just gonnahave to hang on to that this
thing is driving me insane I cantell you're just gonna have to
hold on.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
It doesn't want me to talk to it.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
It keeps going this way well, listen, we're just
gonna have farther and farther.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I'm going to hold it like this.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Hold it like that cradle it like uh, I don't know
what you're cradling it like, Idon't know, but spend time with
one another.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Like this podcast is not our time together.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
No, this is far from being our time together.
This is not what we do to spendjust our time with one another.
We intentionally spend timewith one another.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Especially the weekends are huge.
When we have time to be able to, we are hey, we're gonna go
down to the basement watch theshow.
Hey, we're gonna go do thistogether.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
we're gonna go do whatever we can and spend that
time together I feel like itmight be easier for us because
our kids are to the age nowwhere we can sit in the basement
and watch things that the kidsare either not interested or
(08:52):
should not watch they're,they're very, uh,
self-sufficient now, yes, andthey can take care of themselves
pretty well, and that helps.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
When you have younger children it's harder, but if
it's important to you, you'llmake sure it works.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Yeah, you know you get them to bed, put them to bed
you find time to scroll socialmedia.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
You have time to watch the shows that you want to
watch.
You have time to go shop withthings that you don't
necessarily need to.
So take some of that time.
Prioritize that to your spouserather than yourself all those
facebook marketplace pickupsexactly all that time you scroll
through tiktok be intentionalwith the time that you spend
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with your spouse, because themore time you spend together and
if you prioritize that timetogether, man, it's only going
to flourish and make things somuch better than you could have
thought so before All that timespent on the toilet scrolling
those poop likes.
Side note, if you don't know,most of the likes that you're
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getting on social media arewhile people are sitting on the
toilet and pooping.
It's just the way that it is.
It is very true, because wetake 25, 30-minute poops because
we're not actually pooping,we're just scrolling you want
people to think you're pooping?
Speaker 1 (10:09):
yes, so people don't come in there.
And you're, you have your metime.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yes, that's, you're just giving yourself hemorrhoids
instead of having me time, havesome we time, spend some time
turn that me upside down andthen you're right when you do
put the distractions away, putthe phones away, put all the
junk away, spend that timetogether and have like deep,
meaningful, meaningfulconversation with one another,
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ask yourself, ask questions toeach other, all sorts of stuff.
You know we did this a whileago but we got these like
conversation type card thingsand it's just a way to have
conversations, ask questionsthat maybe you wouldn't think
about.
I just want, just on the hop,what do you, what do you
consider cheating?
And we've done these and we'vetalked about these.
But you can ask some of theseoff the wall questions to your
(10:55):
spouse and really get to knowthem a little bit more and
they're fun to kind of see whateach other thinks and you can
talk about it and haveconversations because those are
things that people don'tnecessarily talk about they're
not going to talk about this.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
What do you think cheating is?
Speaker 2 (11:08):
I think cheating is any type of emotional connection
with anybody as well asphysical, um any, any
relationship that you may haveor that you're growing upon or
that you're spending time with,that your spouse does not know
about.
That is a form of cheating tome.
Now, care who it is or whatyou're talking about, but if
you're trying to keep it awayfrom your not know about, that
is a form of cheating to me.
Now, I don't care who it is orwhat you're talking about, but
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if you're trying to keep it awayfrom your spouse, there is a
reason for it, so I would saythat's considered cheating.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
All those work relationships that they might
not know about.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
I mean tell your partner one thing you adore
about them.
I mean just stuff like that canget the conversation going.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
I love the way you look at me.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
You do yeah, why is that?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
I don't know.
I feel like I'm the only girlin the world.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Well, it's true.
Well, you're not the only girlin the world, but for me In your
eyes you are.
Absolutely 100%.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Especially if I'm doing something, if I'm speaking
as in front of people, if Ijust happen to glance over and
you're looking, it's just this,I don't know.
I feel like Reese Witherspoonand, uh, legally blondes.
(12:20):
They did special lightingbehind her, where she always lit
up.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I feel like that's happening to you when I see you
see me doing something I love.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I uh yeah kind of.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
It makes it even more predominant with the lights
behind you, like angels aresinging.
You know that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I mean in a way yeah, I most certainly do see it that
way.
Whenever I look at you, it'sjust, I'm in awe, essentially.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
That's the better word, I guess.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
And I hope most people are able to see their
spouse in that way.
That that's the better word, Iguess.
And I hope most people are ableto see their spouse in that way
that, no matter what they'redoing, they're looking at them.
It's like I only have eyes foryou.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
That's the way it should be, and that you can
actually tell in those thingsthat it's not fake, because you
can't fake that.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
No, it's so authentic , it's very, very authentic.
But yeah, I mean, these can begreat.
When did you realize that youand your partner were a good
match?
You know?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
First time I saw you.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Just stuff like that.
What's one thing you and yourpartner can do this week to make
your relationship stronger?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Ooh.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
I mean stuff like that what's one thing you want
your partner to do every singleday?
What's one habit that yourpartner has that drives you
crazy?
I mean even that.
And these can be fun, and thereare, you know, there's ones
that are more adults, of course,that get along with that, which
can lead to having some morefun with each other, which you
need to have, which is kind of.
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The next one is you need to getphysical with each other.
What, what?
Just the way you said it.
Why Just get physical with eachother?
You?
Speaker 1 (13:56):
have some sex.
How about that?
Is that better?
Because some people, dependingon what part of the world
they're in, some people like toget physical yeah, don't do that
.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Have some sex, get intimate, take your clothes off,
have sex with each other pullthe naked man.
Pull the naked man, the nakedwoman works definitely every
single time.
Put on something, takesomething off.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
I've had a 100% return rate on that.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Every single time.
I can guarantee you willcontinue to have a 100% return
rate on that.
But sex is a need for people.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
It's a major need for men.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Yes, it is.
It is one of our major basicneeds and it's just like
anything else If you don't getyour needs met, you're going to
find a way to go get your needsmet.
It doesn't make it right, no,wives, if you're not supplying
for your husband and husbands,don't think they're just going
to give it to you because you'rewho you are, I mean you have to
your husband that You're whoyou are.
Submit to your husband, that'snot what that means you have to
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put in the work.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I mean you have to make an effort.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
That's where these love languages come in.
So huge.
If physical touch is her numberone and you are sitting on the
opposite side of the couch oryou're in your chair, your
wife's on the couch.
You're in your chair, yourwife's on the couch, you're in
the chair.
That's not feeding her lovelanguage at all no, no, either
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physical touch or quality time.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
If you, if you, if you're not sure, on love
languages.
We had an episode a while ago.
Go back and find it, watch it.
We talked in depth about thelove languages, what they are,
why they, why they're importantand how to fulfill those needs
for your spouse and that is oneway to get intimate with each
other is understanding andfulfilling their love languages.
But man don't think that justbecause you're so awesome and
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sexy and she wants you so badthat she is just going to take
her clothes off for you everysingle step of the way whenever
you want it.
Don't work that way, man.
You've said it so many times ifyou want to do it, do something
you gotta do something to do itdo something.
But then, wives, you also can'thave a headache every single
night and then scroll socialmedia for three hours on the
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other side of the bed where he'slike I mean, what the heck?
Ripping and roaring ready to goand you're too tired.
You're tired, but that thumb isthat thumb thumb's going crazy,
and that happens so often forso many marriages where I'm
tired, I just don't feel like ittonight you're gonna headache.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
You know why you got a headache because you've been
on your phone all day because?
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Because you're scrolling your phone in bed.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Your eyes are in pain .
Look up.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Look up.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Look what's in front of you, and sometimes you might
not like it, so turn the lightsoff.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
It can work.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
It does, it does.
I don't know what else to say.
I mean you don't have to put onsomething sexy, Looks better in
the floor.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Totally Now.
It may help get it going, butit's going to come off shortly
after.
But the biggest reason peopledon't have sex is they're just
too tired or too busy.
Could not imagine that life.
I'm too tired, I'm too busy,and if you find yourself there,
it's time to really evaluatewhat you have going on.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
You're given so many hours a day.
Your priorities are not inorder.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
You're given so many hours in a day and you can't
make more time, but you canbegin to chip away at the things
that are not necessarily apriority or not that important.
So you know we're going to cutA, b and C out of our lives
because that's interfering withus.
This is the most importantearthly relationship you will
ever have, so why not take thetime to spend it together, enjoy
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it together, have sex with eachother, get physical, because
that, just that, creates an evencloser relationship.
When you do that, you know sexwasn't meant to just go feel
good with any person that youwant to.
That's not how it was created.
We want to watch other people onporn, go at it and take care of
yourself we wonder why we haveso many problems in this world,
(18:05):
especially when it revolvesaround sex, is because it wasn't
created the way we're using it,created between husband and
wife.
God created it and it's amazingand it's awesome.
But if we just did things theway the creator made it, we'd
have so many less problems inour world, we would not have all
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the struggles and worries thatwe do.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
Be a lot less selfish people because it ain't about
us.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I mean the the abortion talk that we have in
this country.
If we did it according the waythat it was created, this would
never be a topic of discussion.
But because we thought we werebetter, we thought we were
smarter, and do it my way, wesay where it got us yep, it's a
form of birth control it is, andit just that's not not okay,
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not okay at all.
It's just going against the, thecreation of it all and it's
ruining it's.
It's ruining relationships,it's ruining marriages, because
we just don't have itprioritized the right way.
And it's so frustrating whenyou see it.
You almost just want to grabsomeone and shake them, but
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can't.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
You see what else needs to be done for you to wake
up?
Speaker 2 (19:23):
but why can't we do that?
Why can't we see it?
Speaker 1 (19:26):
why can't we shake people?
Speaker 2 (19:27):
no, I know I can't shake people, it's assault,
can't do that but why do we notsee it, even when it's right
there in front of our faces?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Because we don't want to see it.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
You think that's it.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Yeah, nobody.
It seems like nobody ever wantsto take the easy way out.
There's no blame, nobody wantsto be at fault for anything.
If that were the case, we'd beable to say okay, I did this,
I'm sorry.
Those are words that don'tleave people's mouth anymore
either.
I'm sorry, I messed up.
I apologize.
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Now it's more of a who made,who did something to make me act
this way.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
It's hard to look in the mirror.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
But we're not perfect .
We never will be.
We're never going to get itright.
But when we do things and haveour priorities straight because
God is number one in our lives,things are going to get a lot
easier.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Well, that's maybe another thing for this is you
need to be able to show somegrace.
Show some grace in yourmarriage.
When your spouse doesn't get itright, don't beat them down.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Told you, so I knew you couldn't do it.
Those are things that shouldnever be pushed on.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Agreed.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
They're going to think you're going to do that
and say that every single timethey fail, they're never going
to try something new ever Pickthem up, Lift them up, Say hey
it's OK to fail.
That's how we learn.
You learn from mistakes.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
It's a, it's an, ok, it's going to be all right.
And hey, I'm here with you.
I got your back, I got youcovered.
You're not going to go at thisalone, you're going to be all by
yourself.
Instead of that, see, told youso, told you, I was right,
because I'll just do thingsmyself.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Show some grace to one another, If you were to tell
me that after doing somethingand I knew I should have
listened to you and I did what Iwanted to do anyways and you
were going to tell me that I'dnever do anything again.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
You'd have no desire to try and do anything again.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Because I don't ever want to hear those words.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
leave your mouth, but if you did that and I said,
well, hey, baby, it's okay, Comeon, let's do this, We'll take
care of this.
You feel like?
Okay, it's like all right, Iknow I've got someone who's got
my back.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
I, I want to do everything by myself, that
independent woman.
That's not my mindset.
I just know how I want it done,so I just go and do it.
There are a lot of times that Ineed a lot of help and I will
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not ask for it and you'll justbe sitting there, baby.
You need anything?
No, I can do it, baby, let meget that Fine.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
And then it's Okay if you can do this and do this.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Can you help me do this?
Speaker 2 (22:25):
I'm like you know.
All you gotta do is ever ask.
And I'm never gonna ask no,you're not, so I have to.
I have to pry it out of you thevery best that I can.
But it's okay, I don't sitthere and get frustrated.
I'll just sit back and watchand be like you should have
asked me for help.
I'm just like, hey, can I doanything for you?
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Baby, do you need this?
I'll be standing on the top ofa ladder, knowing I'm still two
feet away from something thatI'm too short to reach and I
should have just handed yousomething to do it anyways, and
it would not have been a problem.
Yep, but I'll still try it.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Yes, and I'll show you grace through that every
single time, because that's whatwe do.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
You also think it's funny.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
I do think it's funny and we got to laugh.
You got to be able to laughevery now and again.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
Baby, do you need me?
No, I got it Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Baby.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Baby.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Don't hurt yourself.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
Fine.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Yeah, that's the word Fine.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
And our son has now started doing the same thing.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Yes, he will.
He'll ask you multiple times ifyou need help with something.
I think that's just.
You know, he's watched me forso long and he's just saying,
okay, well, this is what I'msupposed to do, which, as a
parent, that's what you want.
You want your kids to learnfrom you.
What kind of example are yousetting for your kids?
Greatest gift is a happymarriage.
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Happy and healthy marriage isthe greatest gift we can give
our children.
Absolutely that's what they'regoing to find and look for.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
I wholeheartedly know that our children it's not
going to matter what theirspouse looks like.
They're going to look for aspouse.
Our daughter's going to lookfor someone who's going to treat
her like you treat me, and Cashis going to find someone who
treats him like I treat you.
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And that's because ourpriorities are in order, because
we put God first, each othersecond.
And our children are in order,because we put God first, each
other second and our childrenare third, and they can see how
we model that.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
And they may not even realize it now, but it's all
going to come full circle andcircle back, because that's what
mom and dad used to do.
It's what we want.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
But that's a healthy marriage, Totally so healthy
marriage, Totally so.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Healthy marriage 2025 , do these things Just evaluate.
You may have it all together,but chances are you don't have
it all together.
Maybe there's just a littletweak that you need to make.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Just a small communication.
Issues taken care of.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
And don't don't expect perfection.
Ever, You're never going to findperfection in your marriage.
You know, seek excellence, butdon't seek perfection, because
you're going to be let down.
But if you try to seekexcellence, to do all that you
can and just be a little bitbetter today than you were
yesterday, and if you fail it'sokay, show grace to one another,
pick yourselves up and move onand go together.
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But that's how we do it andhopefully there's just one
little thing Anyone can take ishey, you know what, we can be a
little better there and at leastbegin to ask yourself Some
questions and evaluate where youare and say, alright, yeah, we
can improve A little bit here.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
What were you saying this morning?
Proverbs fall down Seven times.
Though Proverbs fall down seventimes.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Though a righteous man falls down seven times, he
gets back up, though we keepfalling.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
You fall down seven, you get up eight.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Yep, you just keep getting up.
You keep giving up, you keepgoing.
You have someone there who'sgoing to do it.
Be there for each other, and itcan.
Your marriage can be thegreatest it's ever been, and you
can model that for other people.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Anything to add before we dip out?
Speaker 1 (26:04):
I don't know.
2025 is going to be a crazyyear.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Here's to a happy, healthy, thriving 2025 for all
of the Married AF audience.
Let's go.
Let's go, God.
We love you.
God.
We're thankful for thisplatform.
We're AF audience.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
Let's go, god, we love you.
God, we're thankful for thisplatform, we're thankful for
what you're doing.
We're thankful for our marriage.
I'm thankful for my wife youprovided it and, God, we just
want to honor you and honor whatyou have given us.
I pray that through thisplatform, our story will be told
, it will resonate with people,it will help people where they
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need it, wherever that may be.
That you will allow it to reachthe ears that need to hear it,
and we give you all the gloryfor it.
It belongs to you and you'rethe only one who can do anything
with it, and we'll listen toyou every step of the way.
God, we love you and we thankyou In Jesus' name, amen.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Amen Play ball.
here's a question for you is marriage overrated?
Why aren't?
People getting married anymorea new pew research poll found
that two and five young adultsthink marriage is an outdated
tradition.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Marriage rates are at their lowest.
Right now.
Is marriage really even worthit?
More than half of marriages endin divorce.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
If you get married, you have to be stuck with this
person for the rest of your life, right?
That's why you get married.
So that's why it's declining.
Why would you get married ifyou don't, if you want to have
just one partner?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
when you can have multiple Marriage is stupid.
Welcome to the Married AFPodcast, the self-proclaimed
greatest marriage relationshippodcast in the world.
We are your hosts, matthew andMonica Powers.
Back Brand new year, new year,new me.
2025 is upon us, baby.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
New you.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
That's what everyone says new year, new me.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
You gonna be everybody else.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
No, but I'll say new year, new us, because we got
ways to increase your connection, your intimacy, in 2025, or 26,
27, depending on the year thatpeople see and listen to this.
But in the new year, how areyou going to be better?
How are you going to increaseyour connection with your spouse
, your intimacy?
They may seem basic principlesthat everyone would be like well
(01:19):
duh, that makes total sense.
However, that everyone would belike, well, duh, that makes
total sense.
However, they're not being done, so we might as well talk about
them.
So, ways to increase yourintimacy in your marriage in
2025 and beyond you ready Forsome intimacy.
(01:40):
Yeah, you ready for someintimacy?
Yeah, how you doing.
That's number one.
That's not number one.
We'll get to that, though We'llget to that for sure.
I think number one ispriorities.
Yeah, prioritizing yourrelationship, your spouse, your
family, everything in thecorrect manner, because, for
those of us with kids, we sooftentimes want to put our
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children first, and we don'tneed to put our kids first, and
that's contrary to so manythings that people believe.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
That's the worldly view.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
But your kids don't need to be first in your life.
Of course Jesus needs to benumber one.
He's my number one, he's yournumber one.
That's clearly stated.
But you are my number two.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
You're my number two.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
And then kids are three, sometimes four depending
on.
But kids, your career, yourfinances, all of the other stuff
falls in.
After that, your other family.
But you're Wait, wait, wait,wait, like your, aunts and your
uncles.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Just you have to explain that.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
We're no Rush Probst around here with second families
running around.
For those people in Alabama,they would know what I'm talking
about.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
But he's not the only one that has things like that,
but he was, so there was soprominent.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
whenever it happened it was like, oh my gosh, the
Hoover High football coaches gotall second family.
Yeah, but no, I'm talking toaunts and uncles.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
People do that don't have a status.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Hey, you want to be better in your marriage?
Don't have a second family.
If anyone listens to this.
You got a second family.
Ditch that second family.
Focus on your first family.
How about them apples?
But prioritization God has tobe first, because he wants your
marriage to thrive, despite whatsome people think, like I just
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got to tough it out, I'm justgoing to stick it out, is all
I'm going to do.
Ball and chain, ball and chain.
I'm stuck with her forever.
I'm just going to make it last.
No, god wants your marriage tothrive and be good and be better
, and he wants to see success inyour marriage throughout it all
.
You don't have to just stick itout.
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So when we place him number one, everything else falls into
place, but making your spousethe second in line, Well, most
people think well, if I put Godfirst, especially in my marriage
, then that's going to be boring.
It's so not Listen.
Speaking from experience, it'stotally not.
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It only makes it far and awaybetter.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Because we've been on the other side where God was
not first.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Yes, like we've been early in our marriage where we
didn't even place each otherfirst.
We placed myself first, Iplaced me first, you placed you
first, me, me, me, me, me, me,and it set up for disaster in
our relationship.
But once we kind of learnedthings, we got ourselves
corrected.
We shouldn't have lasted.
(04:38):
No way Marriage should havebeen over.
There's no way we should behere right now, but somehow we
were and it's only through thegrace of God that we are.
But when you put God first inyour marriage, it makes
everything else fall into placeso much easier.
It doesn't mean it's going tobe sunshine and rainbows every
time.
No, it's going to be a littlemore difficult sometimes, yes,
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but you know that you're both init for each other.
You know God wants it best foryourself and it's just going to
make it so much better than youcould ever imagine.
And I promise it's not boring.
So many people think thatchurch it's boring, god's boring
the Bible's boring.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
You're going to the wrong church.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
It's going to make.
It's going to make we're notgoing to have fun with each
other.
The sex is going to be terrible.
They believe all that stuff andevery bit of that is a lie of
the enemy.
It's not at all what God hasset for your marriage whatsoever
, nope.
So priorities are huge and yourspouse being number two.
You have to put your spouseabove your kids.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Because kids are made to move out.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Yes, if you do your job as a parent, your kids will
grow up.
They'll get married, havechildren of their own, have
their own lives.
And they're gone.
They're still your kids.
You still love them.
You're still going to care forthem.
All of that remains true.
However, your spouse is the onewho's always going to be there,
so you don't want your kids tomove out and the spouse be like
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who are you?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
They're just roommates.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
And that's it and that's not at all what you want.
I think so many people have itflipped around where I'm too
worried about my kids' schooland their schedule and the ball
games and the gymnastics and thethis and the choir, the play
and all of the activities andmaking sure they have the
friends and they go to thesleepovers and they're involved
in every party and we're moreconcerned with that than time
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with our spouse and it takesaway time with your spouse,
which I think is kind of numbertwo on all this.
Intentionally spend time withyour spouse.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Date your spouse.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
When was the last time married couples thought
about a date?
I mean, I know people that goon dates.
That's great.
And you need to, even if it'sjust a dinner.
A dinner, it can be Just youtwo alone.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
It can be something at home.
The biggest thing is, it's justyou two.
You're all by yourselves.
You're focused on one another.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
With zero distractions.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Yes, that means Put your phone down.
Put your phone away, put the dogaway, send the kids somewhere
and just spend time with eachother, being intentional on that
time.
For us to grow in ourrelationship, we have to spend
time with each other, beingintentional on that time.
For us to grow in ourrelationship, we have to spend
time with each other.
I've made the example so manytimes.
But how good would our marriagebe if I was just never here, I
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never came home, I was neveraround, we were never together,
and that's just how it was.
Things are going to completelyfall apart very, very quickly.
If you do that, you just gonnahave to hang on to that this
thing is driving me insane I cantell you're just gonna have to
hold on.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
It doesn't want me to talk to it.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
It keeps going this way well, listen, we're just
gonna have farther and farther.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I'm going to hold it like this.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Hold it like that cradle it like uh, I don't know
what you're cradling it like, Idon't know, but spend time with
one another.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Like this podcast is not our time together.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
No, this is far from being our time together.
This is not what we do to spendjust our time with one another.
We intentionally spend timewith one another.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Especially the weekends are huge.
When we have time to be able to, we are hey, we're gonna go
down to the basement watch theshow.
Hey, we're gonna go do thistogether.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
we're gonna go do whatever we can and spend that
time together I feel like itmight be easier for us because
our kids are to the age nowwhere we can sit in the basement
and watch things that the kidsare either not interested or
(08:52):
should not watch they're,they're very, uh,
self-sufficient now, yes, andthey can take care of themselves
pretty well, and that helps.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
When you have younger children it's harder, but if
it's important to you, you'llmake sure it works.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Yeah, you know you get them to bed, put them to bed
you find time to scroll socialmedia.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
You have time to watch the shows that you want to
watch.
You have time to go shop withthings that you don't
necessarily need to.
So take some of that time.
Prioritize that to your spouserather than yourself all those
facebook marketplace pickupsexactly all that time you scroll
through tiktok be intentionalwith the time that you spend
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with your spouse, because themore time you spend together and
if you prioritize that timetogether, man, it's only going
to flourish and make things somuch better than you could have
thought so before All that timespent on the toilet scrolling
those poop likes.
Side note, if you don't know,most of the likes that you're
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getting on social media arewhile people are sitting on the
toilet and pooping.
It's just the way that it is.
It is very true, because wetake 25, 30-minute poops because
we're not actually pooping,we're just scrolling you want
people to think you're pooping?
Speaker 1 (10:09):
yes, so people don't come in there.
And you're, you have your metime.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Yes, that's, you're just giving yourself hemorrhoids
instead of having me time, havesome we time, spend some time
turn that me upside down andthen you're right when you do
put the distractions away, putthe phones away, put all the
junk away, spend that timetogether and have like deep,
meaningful, meaningfulconversation with one another,
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ask yourself, ask questions toeach other, all sorts of stuff.
You know we did this a whileago but we got these like
conversation type card thingsand it's just a way to have
conversations, ask questionsthat maybe you wouldn't think
about.
I just want, just on the hop,what do you, what do you
consider cheating?
And we've done these and we'vetalked about these.
But you can ask some of theseoff the wall questions to your
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spouse and really get to knowthem a little bit more and
they're fun to kind of see whateach other thinks and you can
talk about it and haveconversations because those are
things that people don'tnecessarily talk about they're
not going to talk about this.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
What do you think cheating is?
Speaker 2 (11:08):
I think cheating is any type of emotional connection
with anybody as well asphysical, um any, any
relationship that you may haveor that you're growing upon or
that you're spending time with,that your spouse does not know
about.
That is a form of cheating tome.
Now, care who it is or whatyou're talking about, but if
you're trying to keep it awayfrom your not know about, that
is a form of cheating to me.
Now, I don't care who it is orwhat you're talking about, but
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if you're trying to keep it awayfrom your spouse, there is a
reason for it, so I would saythat's considered cheating.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
All those work relationships that they might
not know about.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
I mean tell your partner one thing you adore
about them.
I mean just stuff like that canget the conversation going.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
I love the way you look at me.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
You do yeah, why is that?
Speaker 1 (11:47):
I don't know.
I feel like I'm the only girlin the world.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Well, it's true.
Well, you're not the only girlin the world, but for me In your
eyes you are.
Absolutely 100%.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Especially if I'm doing something, if I'm speaking
as in front of people, if Ijust happen to glance over and
you're looking, it's just this,I don't know.
I feel like Reese Witherspoonand, uh, legally blondes.
(12:20):
They did special lightingbehind her, where she always lit
up.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yes, yes.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I feel like that's happening to you when I see you
see me doing something I love.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I uh yeah kind of.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
It makes it even more predominant with the lights
behind you, like angels aresinging.
You know that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I mean in a way yeah, I most certainly do see it that
way.
Whenever I look at you, it'sjust, I'm in awe, essentially.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
That's the better word, I guess.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
And I hope most people are able to see their
spouse in that way.
That that's the better word, Iguess.
And I hope most people are ableto see their spouse in that way
that, no matter what they'redoing, they're looking at them.
It's like I only have eyes foryou.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
That's the way it should be, and that you can
actually tell in those thingsthat it's not fake, because you
can't fake that.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
No, it's so authentic , it's very, very authentic.
But yeah, I mean, these can begreat.
When did you realize that youand your partner were a good
match?
You know?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
First time I saw you.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Just stuff like that.
What's one thing you and yourpartner can do this week to make
your relationship stronger?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Ooh.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
I mean stuff like that what's one thing you want
your partner to do every singleday?
What's one habit that yourpartner has that drives you
crazy?
I mean even that.
And these can be fun, and thereare, you know, there's ones
that are more adults, of course,that get along with that, which
can lead to having some morefun with each other, which you
need to have, which is kind of.
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The next one is you need to getphysical with each other.
What, what?
Just the way you said it.
Why Just get physical with eachother?
You?
Speaker 1 (13:56):
have some sex.
How about that?
Is that better?
Because some people, dependingon what part of the world
they're in, some people like toget physical yeah, don't do that
.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Have some sex, get intimate, take your clothes off,
have sex with each other pullthe naked man.
Pull the naked man, the nakedwoman works definitely every
single time.
Put on something, takesomething off.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
I've had a 100% return rate on that.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Every single time.
I can guarantee you willcontinue to have a 100% return
rate on that.
But sex is a need for people.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
It's a major need for men.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Yes, it is.
It is one of our major basicneeds and it's just like
anything else If you don't getyour needs met, you're going to
find a way to go get your needsmet.
It doesn't make it right, no,wives, if you're not supplying
for your husband and husbands,don't think they're just going
to give it to you because you'rewho you are, I mean you have to
your husband that You're whoyou are.
Submit to your husband, that'snot what that means you have to
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put in the work.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I mean you have to make an effort.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
That's where these love languages come in.
So huge.
If physical touch is her numberone and you are sitting on the
opposite side of the couch oryou're in your chair, your
wife's on the couch.
You're in your chair, yourwife's on the couch, you're in
the chair.
That's not feeding her lovelanguage at all no, no, either
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physical touch or quality time.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
If you, if you, if you're not sure, on love
languages.
We had an episode a while ago.
Go back and find it, watch it.
We talked in depth about thelove languages, what they are,
why they, why they're importantand how to fulfill those needs
for your spouse and that is oneway to get intimate with each
other is understanding andfulfilling their love languages.
But man don't think that justbecause you're so awesome and
(15:46):
sexy and she wants you so badthat she is just going to take
her clothes off for you everysingle step of the way whenever
you want it.
Don't work that way, man.
You've said it so many times ifyou want to do it, do something
you gotta do something to do itdo something.
But then, wives, you also can'thave a headache every single
night and then scroll socialmedia for three hours on the
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other side of the bed where he'slike I mean, what the heck?
Ripping and roaring ready to goand you're too tired.
You're tired, but that thumb isthat thumb thumb's going crazy,
and that happens so often forso many marriages where I'm
tired, I just don't feel like ittonight you're gonna headache.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
You know why you got a headache because you've been
on your phone all day because?
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Because you're scrolling your phone in bed.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Your eyes are in pain .
Look up.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Look up.
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Look what's in front of you, and sometimes you might
not like it, so turn the lightsoff.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
It can work.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
It does, it does.
I don't know what else to say.
I mean you don't have to put onsomething sexy, Looks better in
the floor.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Totally Now.
It may help get it going, butit's going to come off shortly
after.
But the biggest reason peopledon't have sex is they're just
too tired or too busy.
Could not imagine that life.
I'm too tired, I'm too busy,and if you find yourself there,
it's time to really evaluatewhat you have going on.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
You're given so many hours a day.
Your priorities are not inorder.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
You're given so many hours in a day and you can't
make more time, but you canbegin to chip away at the things
that are not necessarily apriority or not that important.
So you know we're going to cutA, b and C out of our lives
because that's interfering withus.
This is the most importantearthly relationship you will
ever have, so why not take thetime to spend it together, enjoy
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it together, have sex with eachother, get physical, because
that, just that, creates an evencloser relationship.
When you do that, you know sexwasn't meant to just go feel
good with any person that youwant to.
That's not how it was created.
We want to watch other people onporn, go at it and take care of
yourself we wonder why we haveso many problems in this world,
(18:05):
especially when it revolvesaround sex, is because it wasn't
created the way we're using it,created between husband and
wife.
God created it and it's amazingand it's awesome.
But if we just did things theway the creator made it, we'd
have so many less problems inour world, we would not have all
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the struggles and worries thatwe do.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
Be a lot less selfish people because it ain't about
us.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I mean the the abortion talk that we have in
this country.
If we did it according the waythat it was created, this would
never be a topic of discussion.
But because we thought we werebetter, we thought we were
smarter, and do it my way, wesay where it got us yep, it's a
form of birth control it is, andit just that's not not okay,
(18:58):
not okay at all.
It's just going against the, thecreation of it all and it's
ruining it's.
It's ruining relationships,it's ruining marriages, because
we just don't have itprioritized the right way.
And it's so frustrating whenyou see it.
You almost just want to grabsomeone and shake them, but
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can't.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
You see what else needs to be done for you to wake
up?
Speaker 2 (19:23):
but why can't we do that?
Why can't we see it?
Speaker 1 (19:26):
why can't we shake people?
Speaker 2 (19:27):
no, I know I can't shake people, it's assault,
can't do that but why do we notsee it, even when it's right
there in front of our faces?
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Because we don't want to see it.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
You think that's it.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Yeah, nobody.
It seems like nobody ever wantsto take the easy way out.
There's no blame, nobody wantsto be at fault for anything.
If that were the case, we'd beable to say okay, I did this,
I'm sorry.
Those are words that don'tleave people's mouth anymore
either.
I'm sorry, I messed up.
I apologize.
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Now it's more of a who made,who did something to make me act
this way.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
It's hard to look in the mirror.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
But we're not perfect .
We never will be.
We're never going to get itright.
But when we do things and haveour priorities straight because
God is number one in our lives,things are going to get a lot
easier.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Well, that's maybe another thing for this is you
need to be able to show somegrace.
Show some grace in yourmarriage.
When your spouse doesn't get itright, don't beat them down.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Told you, so I knew you couldn't do it.
Those are things that shouldnever be pushed on.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Agreed.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
They're going to think you're going to do that
and say that every single timethey fail, they're never going
to try something new ever Pickthem up, Lift them up, Say hey
it's OK to fail.
That's how we learn.
You learn from mistakes.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
It's a, it's an, ok, it's going to be all right.
And hey, I'm here with you.
I got your back, I got youcovered.
You're not going to go at thisalone, you're going to be all by
yourself.
Instead of that, see, told youso, told you, I was right,
because I'll just do thingsmyself.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Show some grace to one another, If you were to tell
me that after doing somethingand I knew I should have
listened to you and I did what Iwanted to do anyways and you
were going to tell me that I'dnever do anything again.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
You'd have no desire to try and do anything again.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Because I don't ever want to hear those words.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
leave your mouth, but if you did that and I said,
well, hey, baby, it's okay, Comeon, let's do this, We'll take
care of this.
You feel like?
Okay, it's like all right, Iknow I've got someone who's got
my back.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
I, I want to do everything by myself, that
independent woman.
That's not my mindset.
I just know how I want it done,so I just go and do it.
There are a lot of times that Ineed a lot of help and I will
(22:12):
not ask for it and you'll justbe sitting there, baby.
You need anything?
No, I can do it, baby, let meget that Fine.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
And then it's Okay if you can do this and do this.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Can you help me do this?
Speaker 2 (22:25):
I'm like you know.
All you gotta do is ever ask.
And I'm never gonna ask no,you're not, so I have to.
I have to pry it out of you thevery best that I can.
But it's okay, I don't sitthere and get frustrated.
I'll just sit back and watchand be like you should have
asked me for help.
I'm just like, hey, can I doanything for you?
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Baby, do you need this?
I'll be standing on the top ofa ladder, knowing I'm still two
feet away from something thatI'm too short to reach and I
should have just handed yousomething to do it anyways, and
it would not have been a problem.
Yep, but I'll still try it.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Yes, and I'll show you grace through that every
single time, because that's whatwe do.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
You also think it's funny.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
I do think it's funny and we got to laugh.
You got to be able to laughevery now and again.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
Baby, do you need me?
No, I got it Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Baby.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Baby.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Don't hurt yourself.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
Fine.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Yeah, that's the word Fine.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
And our son has now started doing the same thing.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Yes, he will.
He'll ask you multiple times ifyou need help with something.
I think that's just.
You know, he's watched me forso long and he's just saying,
okay, well, this is what I'msupposed to do, which, as a
parent, that's what you want.
You want your kids to learnfrom you.
What kind of example are yousetting for your kids?
Greatest gift is a happymarriage.
(23:43):
Happy and healthy marriage isthe greatest gift we can give
our children.
Absolutely that's what they'regoing to find and look for.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
I wholeheartedly know that our children it's not
going to matter what theirspouse looks like.
They're going to look for aspouse.
Our daughter's going to lookfor someone who's going to treat
her like you treat me, and Cashis going to find someone who
treats him like I treat you.
(24:10):
And that's because ourpriorities are in order, because
we put God first, each othersecond.
And our children are in order,because we put God first, each
other second and our childrenare third, and they can see how
we model that.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
And they may not even realize it now, but it's all
going to come full circle andcircle back, because that's what
mom and dad used to do.
It's what we want.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
But that's a healthy marriage, Totally so healthy
marriage, Totally so.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
Healthy marriage 2025 , do these things Just evaluate.
You may have it all together,but chances are you don't have
it all together.
Maybe there's just a littletweak that you need to make.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
Just a small communication.
Issues taken care of.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
And don't don't expect perfection.
Ever, You're never going to findperfection in your marriage.
You know, seek excellence, butdon't seek perfection, because
you're going to be let down.
But if you try to seekexcellence, to do all that you
can and just be a little bitbetter today than you were
yesterday, and if you fail it'sokay, show grace to one another,
pick yourselves up and move onand go together.
(25:19):
But that's how we do it andhopefully there's just one
little thing Anyone can take ishey, you know what, we can be a
little better there and at leastbegin to ask yourself Some
questions and evaluate where youare and say, alright, yeah, we
can improve A little bit here.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
What were you saying this morning?
Proverbs fall down Seven times.
Though Proverbs fall down seventimes.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Though a righteous man falls down seven times, he
gets back up, though we keepfalling.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
You fall down seven, you get up eight.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Yep, you just keep getting up.
You keep giving up, you keepgoing.
You have someone there who'sgoing to do it.
Be there for each other, and itcan.
Your marriage can be thegreatest it's ever been, and you
can model that for other people.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
Anything to add before we dip out?
Speaker 1 (26:04):
I don't know.
2025 is going to be a crazyyear.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Here's to a happy, healthy, thriving 2025 for all
of the Married AF audience.
Let's go.
Let's go, God.
We love you.
God.
We're thankful for thisplatform.
We're AF audience.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
Let's go, god, we love you.
God, we're thankful for thisplatform, we're thankful for
what you're doing.
We're thankful for our marriage.
I'm thankful for my wife youprovided it and, God, we just
want to honor you and honor whatyou have given us.
I pray that through thisplatform, our story will be told
, it will resonate with people,it will help people where they
(26:38):
need it, wherever that may be.
That you will allow it to reachthe ears that need to hear it,
and we give you all the gloryfor it.
It belongs to you and you'rethe only one who can do anything
with it, and we'll listen toyou every step of the way.
God, we love you and we thankyou In Jesus' name, amen.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Amen Play ball.
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