Married to Addiction

If you've ever gone looking for help and come away feeling like nothing quite fit — today's episode will explain why.

Most resources for people affected by someone else's drinking weren't built for you specifically. And that gap matters more than you might realize.

Today I'm naming exactly what's missing — and why being the WIFE makes your experience fundamentally different from anyone else's.

You'll learn:

💛 The specific ...

When you’ve been hurt, disappointed, or ignored enough times, you learn to stop talking.

At first, it might seem like mostly an annoyance. But what happens when all those little things you stop saying create a bigger problem that you never saw coming?

In this episode, we’ll explore:

💛 The progression that happens when you stop sharing things with your husband

💛 What this does to you under the surface

💛 The unexpected cost...

What happens when the one thing holding you together starts to feel like it's slipping?

This episode is for the woman whose faith has carried her through everything.....until even that started slipping.

You'll learn:

💛 Why what you're feeling doesn't mean what you think it means

💛 Why the questions you've been afraid to ask are older than you think

💛 Why barely holding on might be the most courageous thing you've ever done

Friend, you...

There's an emotion almost every wife of an alcoholic has felt, but a lot don't want to admit to.

Today we're naming it. And we're focusing on what to do with it.

We'll talk about:

💛 Why this emotion makes complete sense, even though you might feel like a bad person for feeling it

💛 The question you've been afraid to ask God

💛 Why it's not a neutral emotion — and what it's quietly doing to you

You are not alone in this. Let's tal...

There's a kind of grief that doesn't have a name.

It's not the grief of losing someone. It's not the grief of a marriage that ended. It's the grief of mourning a version of your relationship that's gone — while you're still living inside it.

Today's episode is for the woman who has been carrying that quietly, heavily, with nowhere to put it.

You'll learn:

💛 Why grieving your marriage doesn't mean you've decided to leave

💛 The sp...

You've probably heard me mention some of the resources I offer (both free and paid) — but I promise you don't know about everything that's available to you!

Today I'm walking you through all of Married to Addiction's offerings — free and paid — so you can find your next step.

👉 In this episode you'll learn...

- What's available to you completely free

- About the new 'Smaller Steps' resources for when you need help wi...

Most people assume the holidays are the hardest time of year when you're married to an alcoholic.

But for many women, it's actually summer.

If you've ever found yourself feeling more overwhelmed, anxious, disappointed, or exhausted once school lets out, this episode is for you.

Today we're talking about why summer can feel so difficult, what makes this season uniquely challenging, and what I want you to focus on as you head into the ...

One of the hardest parts of being married to an alcoholic is carrying a pain that no one around you can see.

In this episode, we talk about the deep loneliness of pretending everything is fine while quietly struggling behind closed doors — and why keeping this secret for so long can leave you emotionally exhausted and stuck.

You’ll learn:

💛 Why so many wives stay silent about addiction at home

💛 The emotional toll of cons...

If you’ve been praying, hoping, and trying to trust God… but your situation still feels painfully the same, you’re not alone.

Living with addiction can create a deep tension between faith and reality. You want to trust God, but it’s hard when the same patterns keep repeating and nothing seems to be changing.

In this episode, we talk honestly about that struggle—and why your weariness does not mean your...

If you feel like you’re constantly trying to figure out what to do, what to say, or how to respond… you’re not alone.

Living with alcoholism can feel like one long series of decisions. You’re always thinking, adjusting, and second-guessing—and over time, it becomes mentally and emotionally exhausting. In this episode, we talk about why this happens and what actually begins to bring relief.

You’ll ...

If bedtime feels heavy, anxious, or even a little overwhelming, you’re not alone.

When you’re sharing a space with someone who is drinking at night, it can be incredibly hard for your body to relax — even when you’re exhausted.

In this episode, we talk about why nights feel so triggering and how to create small pockets of peace, even if your situation hasn’t changed.

You’ll learn:
💛 Why your ne...

When you’re living with an addicted husband, it’s easy to get pulled into quick emotional reactions — and later wish you had handled the moment differently.

In this episode, we talk about a simple 3-minute check-in that can help you pause, calm your nervous system, and respond with intention instead of reacting in the heat of the moment.

You’ll learn:
💛 Why your body reacts so quickly in stressful situatio...

When you’re married to an alcoholic, it’s easy to believe progress only counts if he stops drinking. But your growth matters too.

In this episode, we talk about how and why *your* small wins are real signs of healing.

You’ll learn:

• Why celebrating small victories builds resilience

• How to stop measuring progress by his behavior

• Simple ways to track your growth and build momentum

You don’t need a dramatic b...

The night may be over, but the tension isn’t.

If the morning after drinking leaves you angry, exhausted, and unsure how to respond without making things worse, this episode is for you.

We talk about what’s really happening in your body and emotions — and how to protect your peace without suppressing your feelings or escalating conflict.

In this episode I'll give you three important to-do's for 'mornings after' in a ...

If evenings fill you with tension, dread, or emotional exhaustion, you’re not alone.

For many wives of alcoholics, nights are when drinking escalates and peace feels out of reach.

In this episode, I share why evenings are so triggering — and walk you through a simple, practical evening action plan to help you feel calmer, safer, and more grounded when the drinking begins.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

💛 Why evening...

If the idea of “new year, new you” makes you feel tired instead of motivated, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we talk about three small, gentle shifts that can help this year feel steadier and more manageable — not perfect, but more grounded and supportive of your nervous system, your heart, and your faith.

You’ll learn....

💛 Why healing doesn’t happen through intensity, but through safety and ...

If your stomach drops every time your phone buzzes or dings with a message from your husband, you’re not alone.
When you’re married to an alcoholic, a single text can set off hours of anxiety — and deciding whether to reply or stay silent can feel impossible.

In this episode, we’ll talk about what healthy phone boundaries really look like when addiction is in the picture — and how to protect your pea...

Your heart sinks when you hear the door open.
You can tell before he even speaks — he’s been drinking again.

What do you do in that moment?
How do you keep from spiraling into anger, panic, or tears… when all you want is peace?

In this episode, you’ll learn four simple, calm scripts you can use the next time he comes home drunk — to help you protect your peace, avoid escalation, and stay emotional...

In this special episode, Julie does something she’s never done before—she’s sharing a full Secret Sisters Circle lesson right here on the podcast!

This exclusive teaching, called “Common Pitfalls,” dives into the six major traps that wives of alcoholics often fall into—pitfalls that can keep them feeling stuck, hopeless, and emotionally drained for years.

Julie explains how recognizing and avoidin...