Married With Benefits™

Married With Benefits™

We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner? Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying “I do.”

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June 13, 2024 29 mins


You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational mindset shift can help you move from frustration to affection and from grumpy to gracious.
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"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Change—even "good" change and growth—can be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of.
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Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research. Dr. Wilcox is a Professor of Sociology and Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, as wel...

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March 28, 2023 36 mins

Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything.
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Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make Al...

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March 21, 2023 37 mins

Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom.
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Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the...

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Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness.
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Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
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Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.”
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Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Sur...

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February 28, 2023 53 mins

Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling—or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot.
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Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Ma...

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Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.


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Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That...

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Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.
Show Notes and Resources

Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That ...

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When it comes to sex…what’s normal? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss research about drive, initiative, and other questions.
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Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference.

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Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?"
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Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship.
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For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
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In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conf...

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June 29, 2020 26 mins

Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's wife Jen, dig into the "why" behind women's tears and some helpful "dos" and "don'ts" as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears.
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In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking that a good love story answers? What insecurities does she carry that she's hoping you will cover? Good news: You don't need to go ice skating or build a rocking chair out of raw cedar to win ...

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Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore this common experience with humor, wisdom, and insight on how to finally "lock in" her answer.
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How can a couple restore trust in the area of sexual brokenness (pornography, affairs, etc.)? Licensed sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to instruct husbands and wives on the necessary steps to take to bring the darkness into the light and tenaciously hold on to the God of hope.
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From season 1: "Questions Every Wife is Asking: How Can A Good Man Be Tempted By Porn...

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As crazy as it sounds, it's not uncommon for trust to be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by FamilyLife Today co-host Ann Wilson to offer hope and wise counsel for couples needing to restore trust between them.
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For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com
Check out Dave and Ann Wilson's Vertical Marriage S...

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Have you ever wondered why, just when your mind is shutting down for the night, your wife's mind seems to be just getting started? Married with Benefits host Brian Goins, along with Harvard trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn, discuss this and reveal a simple truth that explains so much about your wife. And they offer 3 steps you can take to navigate this late-night impasse.
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