If you are someone who loves building healthy relationships, communication skills, and personal growth, then this episode is for you.
A few years ago in couples therapy, I learned one simple relationship tip that completely changed the way I communicate, especially during conflict. It’s something I come back to again and again, whether I’m arguing with my husband or navigating tension with a family member.
This advice is so powerful because it works outside of romantic partnerships too—whether you're navigating tension with a friend, a family member, or anyone you love and respect.
In this episode, I’m walking you through the exact phrase my therapist said that stopped me in my tracks, helped my husband and I reconnect, and later, helped my sister and I move from feeling misunderstood to finally hearing each other.
But first, a big disclaimer: this tip only works with emotionally intelligent, securely attached people. It’s not for those in abusive dynamics or with people who are committed to misunderstanding you. If that’s something you’ve struggled with, I hope this episode gives you clarity on when to apply healthy communication tools—and when to have the self-worth to step away.
You’ll learn:
- Why being “right” is overrated in relationships
- How to shift from objective truth to subjective experiences
- What emotionally-intelligent conflict resolution actually sounds like
- How to move from defensiveness to connection in under 10 minutes
Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just want to improve how you show up for the people you love, this episode will give you the mindset shift you didn’t know you needed.
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- *100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
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