When People Can't Feel What They're Feeling: A Journey Through Emotional Awareness

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Emotional disconnection creates a dangerous divide between our feelings and our self-perception. That friend who yells but insists they aren't angry? The coworker paralyzed by anxiety who refuses to acknowledge their fear? These disconnections aren't random – they're protective mechanisms formed during times when feeling emotions felt too dangerous.
 
 A recent phone call with a former client brought this reality into sharp focus. Despite displaying classic anxiety symptoms—fear of public spaces, scattered thinking, constant worry, and circular logic that blocked every potential solution—she vehemently rejected the suggestion that anxiety might be driving her sleeplessness. This denial trapped her in suffering when potential relief stood just outside her comfort zone.
 
 The roots of emotional blindspots often trace back to survival mechanisms. When emotions become overwhelming, especially during childhood trauma or abusive relationships, disconnecting becomes necessary for survival. People operating in what I call "3D human consciousness" function from lower vibrational states: fear (100), anger (150), and pride (175). These states manifest in recognizable patterns—hypervigilance, hostility, black-and-white thinking, status consciousness, and an inability to compromise.
 
 Moving beyond these patterns requires courage (200) and honest self-reflection. We must recognize that others often mirror our unacknowledged traits—if someone's dishonesty triggers us, perhaps we've been dishonest with ourselves. This courageous inner work opens the door to transformation, but must pair with self-compassion to prevent sliding back into fear-based thinking.
 
 Ready to reconnect with your authentic emotional experience? Download my free ebooks on consciousness levels and begin exploring where your emotional blindspots might be keeping you stuck. Remember, it's not about perfection but progress—transformation happens one courageous step at a time. 

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