Do you say yes when you REALLY wanna say no — just to avoid disappointing someone? Or say no, but then immediately feel guilty?
Yeah… the guilt? It’s not about that moment — it’s about a deeper belief you probably don't realize you’re carrying.
In this episode, we’re unpacking why so many women end up chasing approval without realizing it… and how that need to be liked or seen as “good” keeps us stuck in people-pleasing patterns that feel like love, but aren’t.
We’ll cover:
- Why disappointing others feels so unsafe — and what it’s really tied to
- How approval became a stand-in for love (and how to spot where it's still happening)
- What it looks like to give yourself unconditional love — instead of earning it through self-sacrifice
This one’s for the woman who’s tired of twisting herself into knots to feel worthy — and is ready to write a new story.
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