Do you show up one way with others, but feel completely different inside, maybe even the polar opposite of what others see in you? In this episode, I’m revealing what causes us to be this way and how this disconnection leaves us feeling small and invisible.
Listen to hear:
- how the pain of always being what others needed (the helper, the dependable one, the peacekeeper, the “good” girl) disconnects us from ourselves,
- why it feels safer to be what others want, and
- how learning to put other people first causes us to seek external validation in midlife
What causes us to continually shape-shift to fit in with others? And what’s the one key thing that’s needed to stop? That’s what you’ll learn in this episode.
The one common thing I’ve seen in everyone who prioritizes OTHER people over themselves is a struggle to protect their OWN needs. That’s exactly why I created the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz so you can see for yourself. It’s a set of statements that you rate yourself on and the quiz helps you uncover where your boundaries might be leaky without you even realizing it. Download the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz here: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquiz
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