Do you bend over backwards to avoid being called selfish? For people pleasers, that word feels like the worst insult of all — and it’s exactly why so many of us swallow our truth, say yes when we mean no, and lose ourselves in the process.
But here’s the dark truth: the very behaviors we think make us “nice” are actually manipulative — and they’re keeping us stuck.
In this episode, I share:
- The hidden ways people pleasers morph and control situations without realizing it
- Why constant apologizing and over-explaining erode real connection
- How saying yes when you want to say no breeds resentment and disconnection
- The sneaky habits (like hinting or testing others) that keep you invisible and frustrated
If you’ve ever thought of yourself as “easygoing” but ended up drained, resentful, or invisible, this conversation will hit home. And the good news? You’ll also get simple, practical steps you can start using today to stop the cycle and reclaim your voice.
Grab my free guide with 20 ways to say no (without feeling like the bad guy) — link below:
20 Ways to Say NO Guide
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