Why do we keep repeating the same painful relationship patterns—and how do we finally break free?
In this Part 2 conversation, I continue my discussion with Roy Biancalana, nationally recognized relationship coach, bestselling author, and host of the Attracting Lasting Love podcast. Roy is passionate about helping people prepare for love by doing the inner work—what he calls getting into “relationship shape.”
In this episode, Roy expands on how unhealed wounds and unconscious patterns often sabotage our relationships. He explains why it’s not just about finding the right partner but becoming the kind of person who can sustain a healthy, lasting relationship. Through his own personal journey of heartbreak and transformation, Roy offers an honest, inspiring look at how to shift from frustration to fulfillment in love.
Whether you’re single, dating, or looking to deepen an existing connection, this episode is packed with insights to help you stop repeating the past and start attracting the kind of relationship you truly deserve.
In this episode you’ll hear:
Why unresolved past wounds keep showing up in your current relationships.
The difference between being in “dating shape” vs. “relationship shape.”
Practical steps to break free from old patterns and attract the love you deserve.
How to move from chemistry-driven choices to values-based connections.
Roy’s insights on what it really takes to be ready for lasting, healthy love.
Key Takeaways:
True love begins with inner work—healing your past and breaking old patterns.
Being in “relationship shape” means breaking patterns, not just playing dating games.
Conscious relationships require self-awareness, authenticity, and vulnerability.
Resources & Links Mentioned
Take the Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment: coachingwithroy.com
Roy’s newest release: Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/
Connect with Roy:
Website: http://coachingwithroy.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/coachingwithroy
Podcast: The Attracting Lasting Love
Download his FREE eBook Relationship Bootcamp: https://mailchi.mp/3a4c571a4bba/relationship-bootcamp
Learn more about Sherri O.:
Website: https://matureallure.net/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure
Instagram: @mature.allure
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