Contracts and Consent: The Backbone of BDSM Relationships

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Step into the fascinating world of BDSM relationships as we unpack the essential role contracts play in establishing boundaries and building trust. Daddy J shares intimate details of his own Dom/sub agreements, revealing the careful balance of power, responsibility, and mutual respect that makes these dynamics work.

Ever wondered what actually goes into a BDSM contract? We break down the elements piece by piece—from safety protocols and outfit approvals to punishment guidelines and communication requirements. You'll learn why these agreements aren't just kinky paperwork but vital tools that protect everyone involved. The conversation highlights an often-overlooked truth: in healthy BDSM relationships, communication remains paramount even during punishment periods.

Between serious discussions about consent and boundaries, we take a hilariously candid detour into hookup territory with a cautionary tale about cigarette smokers that will have you both laughing and cringing. This segues into thoughtful reflection on the differences between casual encounters, friends-with-benefits arrangements, and deeper emotional connections—raising important questions about how we navigate intimacy in all its forms.

Whether you're actively involved in kink culture or simply curious about alternative relationship structures, this episode offers valuable insights into communication and boundary-setting that could benefit any relationship style. Listen in as we demystify the world of BDSM contracts while keeping it real, relatable, and occasionally irreverent.

Want to learn more about creating your own agreements? Check out resources like FetLife.com for community guidance or search for legally-vetted BDSM contract templates online. Remember—consent, communication, and mutual respect form the foundation of any healthy dynamic, vanilla or not!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
what's up, gremlins?
Welcome to another podcast.
My name is daddy j.
I hope everyone is doing it anddoing it well.
You know the drill.
This is the mature mischiefpodcast always savor like that,

(00:22):
favor, like I'm soaking a wood.
Y'all thought I was gonna saythe real thing.
Y'all nasties.
I'm a lady too, you know oh,not today, you ain't never, not
today.

Speaker 2 (00:37):
You ain't you know why why, because you know what
today is.

Speaker 1 (00:42):
Today is Freaky Friday.
Freaky Friday, freaky Friday,freaky Friday, we're going to
get freaky today Well, not withDidi, but we're going to get
freaky.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
I certainly hope not.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
Can you imagine Awkward Be like oh you come here
too.
Wait what?
What are you doing in doing thebathhouse?
This is for all men.
Uh, I know it, you know it, thewhole world fucking knows it.
I like saying my name twice.
I am your host, daddy jay and Iam your co-host delicious d,

(01:21):
delicious d.
What it do, girl, damn shedelicious with two d's.
If you don't know where thesecond d is coming from, I can't
help you on that and it's notthe d you're thinking of it's
delicious, the fuck.
two d's, Look two Ds.
Delicious D hello we don't knowwho's a dick.

(01:47):
Yes, she has her own strap onand it comes in many shapes and
sizes, from beginners to expert,sexpert, sexpert.
Speaking of sexperts, today'scategory, well before we go into
the category, what did youthink of the podcast with uh

(02:10):
master cat?

Speaker 2 (02:11):
that was awesome was it I I need to be here.
We need, we need to collaboratea little bit better on time
because, holy shit balls, Icould have sworn.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
I told you the time, uh, for master cat and um, I
didn't.
So it's all good, I knew of theday.

Speaker 2 (02:27):
I knew of the recording.
I just I didn't know that.
I figured it was the usual time, that's all yeah, so I was kind
of like okay, it's not tillseven, I get out of work before
then we're gravy and you're like, oh, it's something like I work
at that time.
Wait what?
What just happened?
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yeah, I know it's cool, we'll get it.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
We'll get it.
We're learning, you guys.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
We are learning.
We learned that communicationis a fucking key.
It's a thing because we shouldnever assume, because you make
an ass out of you and me.

Speaker 2 (02:59):
So we were asses this time, yay.
So what's with the category?

Speaker 1 (03:04):
Jenny, this time yay.
So what's with the?

Speaker 2 (03:11):
category jenny.
Um, no, jenny, uh what.
I am so lost right now and youare mute.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
I'm like I thought I told you this what's?
What's a feet, what they call afemale donkey in switzerland no
I'm jenny, because I was tryingto go what's, what's?
Uh, we should make an aside ofyou.
I was like, yeah, jenny, andyou said the categories already.

Speaker 2 (03:43):
I'm like jenny, that's.
I'm like what?
Who the hell is jenny?

Speaker 1 (03:48):
that's such an insult thing.
He's such a jenny, such adonkey I mean it could be worse
it could be worse it could beworse it could be worse you
could be a platypus how is thatworse than a donkey?
Because platypus should not bea fucking mammal.
I don't even think it'ssupposed to even exist, but

(04:10):
somehow it is.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
Platypuses are so weird okay, that was random as
shit I'll take it.
I'll take it you don't have to.
You dished it, the rest of ushave to take it.

Speaker 1 (04:25):
It's supposed to be A freaky Friday and we're talking
about Weird shit, weird shit.
But we are gonna talk Aboutweird shit Because the last
episode that we had talked aboutWith me and Master Cat, who was
in your place as the co-host,which was so cute To have him
say the jingle- that was, thatwas my favorite part.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
That was my favorite part.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
I think he tried to say it, but I think he mumbled
it.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
I don't even care.
I don't even care, it's awesome.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah, it's fucking great.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
The fact that y'all both chimed in and I was like I
love it yeah it was awesome.

Speaker 1 (04:57):
I think that's just going to be the shtick from now
on.
I think that's just going to bethe shtick from now on.
If anybody comes on here, theyhave to say the jingle with us.
You have to sing it.
You have to sing it with us.

Speaker 2 (05:09):
Yes, Sounds like a what's your Face from that movie
.
Sing the dinner song.
Sing the dinner song.

Speaker 1 (05:14):
Sing the dinner song.

Speaker 2 (05:16):
Sing the dinner song.

Speaker 1 (05:17):
Jesus.
Today's topic is contracts.
Contracts is today's uh topicbecause the reason why I say
contracts?
Because most uh cases in theculture of bdsm and kink there
are contracts that are placedfor boundaries to be able to

(05:40):
stick to what you have, andthose contracts can be null and
voided.
I think when me and Master Cathad talked about it, I think we
did touch a little bit on it,just a tad, I think.
I'm not too sure if we did, Ican't remember, I have to go
back and re-listen to theepisode.
But contracts are very crucialin the culture because it's

(06:04):
something that two people areagreeing upon, something that
it's going to be that uh, for meand rad, we have a contract.
The contract is very to thepoint.
Talk about it.
Um, things that would not putthem in a certain situation,
would not put them in a certainpredicament at all whatsoever,

(06:24):
uh, there's, we're very playful.
I think I like the dynamic.
That's very playful, it'swhatnot.
I think I got him in trouble touh the couple of days ago.
Uh, because I told him he cameover on tuesday right after work
and I told him to go tickle hishusband.
So so his husband's just likeoh, you can't see Daddy J in 72

(06:45):
hours.
Well, that is going to changebecause I'm going to reach out
to his master and let him knowthat I'm not allowed to play
with my own boy or see him for72 hours.
So we'll see how that works out.
You got to remember, if you'regoing to play the game, I can be
just as petty, but anywho,that's just me I have a question
then, because I'm not familiarwith how that plays into.

Speaker 2 (07:10):
If you have a contract with somebody, yet they
are married to this person,does one outrank the other does
a?

Speaker 1 (07:17):
marriage outrank.
Marriage will always outrank,the dom, always will always
outrank the contract.
Okay, will always outrank thedog, always, we'll always
outrank the contract okay, we'llalways outrank the contract,
but the one main thing I saywith the contract is that
communication is key.
Don't take away thatcommunication.
You can take away the cuddlesif you want, because I rarely
see my boys as much as I shouldsee them.

(07:38):
You know what I mean.
But the communication is stilla thing.
I still talk to him.
I just collared him on tuesdayso he has his own dog tags, he
has his own collar, he haseverything, um, but yeah, so we
pretty much contact can berestricted, but communication
should not I don't think so, andthat's just my opinion, at

(07:59):
least.
Only reason because, um, I liketo make sure to see, because if
there are events that they do goto, they have to have an outfit
approved, they have to have thelook approved, depending on
where they're going, whatthey're doing, everything it's
an image of an embodiment of me.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
It's a representation of you Exactly.

Speaker 1 (08:19):
So if you go out looking like a hot mess and I'll
give you an example, because Idid talk to rad about it and
there was a leather movie eventthat he went to, instead of
wearing leather he wore a onesieof a dinosaur outfit and that
was a big no-no because I didnot approve the outfit.
So it's one of those things Ihave to approve the outfit.

(08:39):
Even when he went to austinkink week, let me see what
you're wearing.
What are you going to bewearing?
Okay, cool then.
I love it yeah, it's great,it's perfect, it's beautiful.
Um, yeah, go for it.
Yeah, you know what I mean,because it's a rep, it's your
represent.
You're not just representingyourself, you're representing
your dom.
They do need to take care oftheir equipment, like their
leather or their toys.
Their leather cannot touch theground at all whatsoever.

(09:02):
So as soon as they get home,they must hang up their leather,
because leather can crinkle upvery, very badly and if it's not
packed right, if it's not putin the right area, it can be
very you can really fuck it up.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
You know, because leather is not.
It's cheap, in a sense,depending on where you're
getting the leather from.
But leather is not cheap, yeah.
So it's cheap, in a sense,depending on where you're
getting the leather from.
But leather is not cheap Becausethere's a lot that goes into it
, because you have your bootblacks that can do leather for
you and whatnot.
So on that particular matter,but my boy knows to take care of

(09:40):
his stuff.
The only thing that he has nottaken care of properly is his
pup hood.
The only reason he hasn't isbecause it's a cheap pup hood
that he's got off on amazon.
It would be me to buy him thepup hood because I want to as a
representation of him as my boyand be like I'm gonna give you
this rightso being being collared or be

(10:02):
giving a pup hood because I am ahandler is a significant thing
for me and him, because it showsthat he's earned it.
He's earned his hood, he'searned what it all is and all
that stuff.
So he's my first pup or boythat I've actually collared or

(10:22):
gave him a collar and it doessay pup rad.
And it's so cute because I puthis little zodiac sign, which is
a sagittarius, which is reallycute, and I have his, um, his,
in the back it says handler,daddy j and must ask permission
to play with others.
So that's what it says on theback of the thing.

(10:43):
So it's embroidered.
So he's accepted, he has towear he's agreed.
He's agreed.
Now I told him I gave him anecklace.
It's not too tight but it'sperfect for him Because he
doesn't have a really big neck,but it's perfect.
I told him, if it becomes toomuch and it's too small for him
and he wants something longer, Iwould get him a longer one

(11:06):
because it's waterproof, allthat stuff, so he can wear it as
much time as he wants.
He can take a shower with it,he can go to the pool with it.
He can do pretty much anythingwith it.
Now, if he does lose it or ifit does come off for whatever
reason, he needs to let me knowso I can replace it and get
another one for him.
Um, on that.
So he did give me a ring.

(11:27):
I thought it was really reallycute.
Uh, it will never replace mywedding rings at all, period.
Uh, but it's, I will continueto wear it as a symbolization
for him.
So anytime I go anywhere, thiswill always be on my hand, just
like my wedding rings yeah so Ido love it.
It's uh, I do love the gift, Ido love the sentiment by it, uh,

(11:49):
everything on there.
So I haven't heard anythingfrom him since he got in trouble
.
So I probably I have to callhim tomorrow and see if how much
trouble he really is in.
But he knew I it's.
One of those things is that you, it's, it's not.
It's a fun game to kind of playaround with, though, but when
you're kind of playing with alot of people on this, do I

(12:12):
agree with how things werehandled?
I don't think so.
I don't think the punishmentfor 72 hours for him not to do
it just because it was justplaying around type or a deal,
right, I get that it's hishusband, but at the same time
just like that's a bit much,even for my taste, um, but I'm
just like okay, whatever, 72hours, I don't see him often or
whatnot right but I may justpush back on it and be like no,

(12:34):
he needs to come, no questionsasked.
Like you saved him once, I'mgonna save him.
I'm throwing the savior card inthere.
So, um, no, like he needs tocome, like I'm the one that told
him, and if you're gonna getmad at him for my mistake, then
it's not gonna work out that way.
So, anywho, uh, that's justpretty much it.
Contracts are contracts.

(12:55):
I do have the contract set foruh, me and rad, uh, for his
husband, grim.
He already has a handleralready and we're in the disgust
of being his quote unquotepart-time handler if he ever
needs it, but it's somethingthat he has to run by his serve
first and be able to do it.
I will never be a double domwith somebody who handles

(13:19):
somebody with somebody else,unless we are co-opping in a
scene, if you will yeah and Ihave to listen to what their
master is saying, what he likes.
So I'm paying attention to thebody, uh, the body language, and
what he's doing.
I'm asking questions how areyou feeling?

(13:41):
How does it feel?
Um, are you doing okay?
Yes, some people like that alot when you're checking up on
them, and some people don't,which is really weird.
I'm someone who likes to checkup on my boys as much as
possible.
Mm-hmm, I will.
There are certain do's anddon'ts.
I will always say no drugs.

(14:03):
The only drug that I wouldprobably allow is maybe poppers
and the marijuana which is, youknow, thc or whatever it is.
To a point I need to coherentstill.
You know what I mean.
If you're not coherent then Ican't do what I need to do.
But there are a lot of scenesout there because they're CNC

(14:24):
consent, not consent and that'sit's fun.
But it can be.
That's like a hard negotiation,like what's the limit, what are
we doing?
Because we're consenting butwe're also not consenting.
And one of the examples that meand Kat gave is we're like come
for me and we're just like no,yeah, no, that's kind of like

(14:44):
that falls in that CNC type ofthing.
But it's a lot of fun becauseyou don't want to take too long
in negotiating a contract.
Limit for me for negotiating acontract is two months.
I will get to know you firstpersonally for a whole year.
Uh, what's what I did with Rad?
I got to know him for a goodcouple of months until I decided

(15:05):
I wanted to call her him.
I tell him I'm not going tocall her you until I know I'm
100% ready to do so and we willgo to events and whatever and
whatnot.
So, um, but that's it on thatpart.
I I don't know of anything elsethat I can think of.
But contracts, yeah, you don'twant to go no more than a month

(15:26):
or two for any type of contracts.
I think contracts are greateven for relationships, because
contracts are just no differentthan somebody getting married
and wanting to do a prenup.

Speaker 2 (15:36):
Right.

Speaker 1 (15:37):
So that's kind of like that thing Basically you
come in broke, you're leavingbroke, type road deal.
But it's um, it is what it ison that so I don't know.
It's interesting to actuallysee I?

Speaker 2 (15:54):
I get it because even like these people, the
generation nowadays that do thesituationships or whatever I'm
kind of do y'all have somethinglike that in place, because
y'all are literally givingrelationship level everything
and you're not.

(16:15):
What are you?
What's the point?
What are you getting out of it?
Not that you're supposed to getsomething out of it, but what's
the point?
What are you getting out of it?
Not that, not that you'resupposed to get something out of
it, but what is the point?
yeah you're literally pretendinglike you're in a relationship,
but you're like oh no, but we'rejust in a situation ship.
I'm like okay, so do you havesomething in place then?
Right because that's for me.
I'm not, I'm.

(16:35):
I can't wrap my head aroundthat.
Like aren't you just thenmessing with somebody?
You know what I mean.
Like, isn't that just messingwith somebody on a regular basis
, like a friends with benefitthing?
You know what I mean.
Like okay, cool, but again, doyou have anything in place?

Speaker 1 (16:50):
Right.

Speaker 2 (16:51):
Because the friends with benefits, the
situationships that can go leftreally quick.
And then what?
See, I think Because y'alldidn't talk about it.

Speaker 1 (17:01):
You didn't put anything that was friends with
benefits.
It's um, I will always say I'mprofessional friends with
benefits.
I am very.
I have a t-shirt it says I'm aprofessional fuck buddy that's
awesome yeah, I have a shirtthat says professional fuck
buddy.
Have I ever worn it?
No, not yet.

Speaker 2 (17:19):
I'll tell you why later okay, I can tell you why.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
Now I was gonna say you've worn worse shirts, the
only reason I didn't wear isbecause I had it at a time that
I was with my ex, wasn't thethird?
okay um, he just got kind oflike little pissy or jealous, I
guess, because it said oh,you're a professional fuck buddy
.
I'm like I mean technically,yeah, I mean this is way before
I met you, but it kind ofbothered him a bit so I never

(17:44):
wore it.
Yeah, it was very interesting,but I have it as a t-shirt and I
love that shirt.
I just have not worn it justyet, but there's a, there will
be occasions where I probablywill have it.
Yeah, and I have another onethat says uh, big cock, but the
cock is a rooster.
But I'm actually going to cutthat one up and I'm going to
give it to somebody Not Rad,because I know he has one, but

(18:08):
I've already promised that oneover to someone who we know
mutually.

Speaker 2 (18:13):
Oh cool.

Speaker 1 (18:13):
Yeah, so I said I would give it to him if anything
on that.
But being a friends withbenefits does come with a big
territory, because they'reyou're right, it's a lot of
communication and it's always.

Speaker 2 (18:30):
It's always the other person that falls in love hard
there's gonna be one, there'salways gonna be, always gonna be
one.

Speaker 1 (18:36):
That's like you can fall in love with somebody and
still be friends with benefitswith somebody.
However, you have to have tokeep your emotions in check,
because I'm giving a scenario.
Say, like you and I wereprofessional, like professionals
, say you and I were friendswith benefits right, and let's
say that we both had agreed,that that's all it is right.

(19:00):
And one day we're doing thedeed and I say I love you and
it's just like oh fuck.
And I'm just like oh fuck.
Now we're like oh fuck, great.
You just ruined a good, intimatemoment of me just going yes,
I've done that before in severalscenes or somebody else or

(19:20):
whatnot, but it's just in theheat of the moment.
And I was always asked did youreally mean that, or was that
just like in the heat of themoment?
Like it, it was in the heat ofthe moment.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
I'm just like that's what I'm saying.
Like when you're in a friendswith benefits or in a situation
ship, when shit like thathappens, like then what?

Speaker 1 (19:43):
Well, did y'all talk about it?
Did y'all discuss it beforehand?
When you're done with the sexscene and it's done, it's
something to be I will say givethem.
If you don't want to talk aboutit immediately because you're
still in that sex high and it'svery good, then I would say give
yourself about 24 to about72-hour cool-down period until
whatnot.
And then when it becomes timeto talk about it, then it's good

(20:04):
and I will say, if you have nottalked about it within 72 hours
, it's null and voided, likeit's not even worth bringing it
up, because it's just like ifyou're still fucking and it's
still happening and y'all arejust having fun and it's just
about go about your day, yeah,then it's kind of a mutual
understanding.

Speaker 2 (20:19):
Yeah, but you know and you know what, and then I
agree with you.
I really do.
However, my thing is kind oflike if you said something and
I'm confused, I'd like to bringit up, Only to for clarity, for
clarity purposes.

Speaker 1 (20:34):
It all depends on who's going to bring it up first
, because, remember, I said 72hours.

Speaker 2 (20:46):
I didn't say who had to bring it up, of course not,
no.
But I'm saying, if, if I wasthe one, if somebody told me
that they loved me, uh-huh,during a sex moment you know
what I'm saying afterwards, thenI'll be like uh, I'm gonna ask.
I am gonna ask because I wantclarity.
Is like, was that just becauseit was in the moment, or did you
mean?

Speaker 1 (20:57):
that to some degree.
I I won't ask only reason.
I won't ask right when it'sdone.
I've always given the person atleast a good 24 hours to like
chill for a moment and I'd belike, hey, do you want to go get
some coffee?
And if they say yes, thenthat's the moment I'm gonna ask,
because then I can then I canmentally kind of prepare for
everything and be like okay,yeah, let's, let's sit down and

(21:18):
let's talk about that.

Speaker 2 (21:19):
That's what I said.
I'm going to be the afterwards.
After everything, I'm going toask because, I need the clarity
because I don't want todisrespect it, If they actually
meant it.

Speaker 1 (21:29):
I will say, if you try to bring it up and it
doesn't come through within 72hours, and you're trying and
you're not, you're then it wasin the moment.
It was just in the moment you.
You just need to assume it's inthe moment.
I hate the word assume becauseyou make an ass out of you and
me.
Yeah, but you have to assumethat it was just in the moment,
because it's like, if the person, if you're like hey, I'm horny

(21:50):
and they're like, okay, can Icome over, then yeah, come over.
You know, but if you just gotto know that, if he says it
again or whatnot, you know it'sjust in the moment, because it's
how, what is what was it?
that I used to say a kiss is nota kiss without the heart.
Basically, fucking is notfucking.
Without the heart and theintimacy, fucking anybody can

(22:10):
fuck I think that's I.

Speaker 2 (22:12):
I think that's what certain people though okay.

Speaker 1 (22:14):
Well, here's the thing am I fucking you just to
fuck you or am I fucking you tomake love?
Because the thing is I'mfucking you to fuck.
I'm like I have a job, I got amission.
We are going to get you know.
If one of us, at the end of theday, has a goal and one of us
is going to get off, right.
If one of us can get off,mission completed, right.

(22:35):
Because if I don't get off, I'mfine.
I did my part right.
Because if I don't get off, I'mfine.
I did my part, I.
I satisfy the other person.
But I've always told person,like, are you fucking me just to
fuck me?
Are you fucking me becauseyou're in love?
I'm like, if I ever slow downjust to enjoy you, then I'm
making love to you because I'min the intimate moment, right.
But if you tell me to fucking,like, take your brains out, then

(22:56):
I'm gonna fucking take yourbrains out, right, but it's,
it's the my thing is I can't, Idon't function that way yeah, I
can't, no one does I well, likeyou said, like there are people
they fuck just to fuck yeahbecause it is what it is.

Speaker 2 (23:09):
I can't do that no, it's not for everybody that's
why I said it's impossible forme to I cannot engage with
anyone sexually that I do notalready have a bond with
mentally and emotionally that'sfine.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
Can you imagine how somebody feels when they're in a
poly or an open relationship?

Speaker 2 (23:28):
that's, that's that's why I say like sometimes I,
because I see you navigatingthat and I'm just like me, I
can't I couldn't.

Speaker 1 (23:34):
You know, it's actually fun navigating.

Speaker 2 (23:37):
It's so much for someone like you because you can
, you're capable of doing that.
I can't, because my thing is,once I have that bond created
with that person, that's on thatmental and emotional, then I'm
actually aroused by them,correct?
I cannot just be like I couldsee somebody be like, oh,
they're attractive, they'reattractive, sure, but I can't
feel anything for this.
So I can't sleep with them.

(23:58):
I can't like, even if there wasthis whole thing, like I will
not be able to physically,emotionally and mentally be in
the moment because I'm just likeI can't do this.
I don't even know you, I don'tknow you, I can't.
But if I do have it, then thatone person gets my everything.
So for me it's very hard.
For me I'm just like I don'tknow if I could spread my 100

(24:20):
you know what I mean likeamongst more than one person,
because of course, naturally,I've only done it, done that
with one person right but mything is like just being able to
understand the concept of yougiving this person your love.
This person, your love thisperson, your love me.
I'm kind of like, yeah, Iprobably couldn't, I I would.
I'd be like, okay, I'mglitching here, it's I'm

(24:41):
glitching so a couple of things.

Speaker 1 (24:43):
Why relationships work the way they do when
they're poly or when they'reopen relationship is because
people forget to how to haveconversations with other adults,
like when you're having aconversation.
Remember we used to talk aboutlike how dating and I've always
said fuck on the first nightbecause you know someone's gonna
want everyone's gonna.
That's how you know.
And people are like, oh, Ican't do that.
I'm just like it's better to doit on the first night than to

(25:06):
be broken on the fucking first,second or third month in the
relationship.
Because men are hunters.
Men will hunt until they getwhat they want and sometimes,
when the hunt becomes boring,men will tend to ghost you.
Same thing with women, becausewe can't say it's all men,
because women are just as bad.
Right, so equal opportunityhere.

(25:26):
And it becomes very hardbecause now we are in this time
period or this day and age whereapps are a thing People forgot
how to go out on and asksomebody like me I'm still how
to connect I'm still that person.

(25:47):
I forget how to connect becausewhen I see a hot person or
somebody that we're making eyecontact, I'm checking on grinder
right away to see if they're ongrinder.
I'm not even going asking theperson like, hey, can I take you
out for a cup of coffee?
Or hey, can we do this?
Because there's a guy who I goto like that does mooshu, tigger
and all that stuff.
He's really fucking hot, likevery rock, kind of looks like

(26:09):
almost like boo thing, almostlooks like boo thing, and I'm
just like, dude, I can get me aboo thing, but someone who I can
fuck, you know, and he's supercute and he's I want to know how
awkward boo thing is.
Feels when he hears oh, he's notgonna care, he we you'd be like
bro bro, I can't fuck him, evenif I wanted to.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
He's I know that's what I'm saying like I would
love to see his face or knowwhat's on his head when you hear
saying he's here and he's likewhat?

Speaker 1 (26:39):
I'm telling you, if I got someone who's exactly like
boo thing I'm, I'm fucking himhard because I'm gonna be like
dude I fucked you and it'sfucking grades.
Or I got fucked by you and itwas fucking amazing oh my god
it's crazy and people are like,oh my god, I can't believe he's
talking about gay sex.
Bitch, if you can pick your ownhusband and he liked it and

(27:01):
enjoyed, I'm pretty sure hewould not be going to men period
.
Um, just saying, straight menare the reason why we fuck
straight men because their womandoesn't want to put a strap on.
And that's the main thing thatpeople don't realize is have
that conversation, because noman, no straight man or no
conservative man, will wipe hisass or put water on his butt,

(27:26):
crack and not wash it properly.
It's a thing, it's a real thing.
Yes, there are men out there inthis world that will wash their
body with soap and water butwill not let soap or water touch
their ass crack or theirbutthole no sir yep no sir yep,
and there's some guys to thisday that feel that if they're

(27:46):
like, if they have like a stainor a streak, that women should
just it should just be a naturalthing, because their
masculinity is who they are andapparently touching your own
butthole makes you gay.
Um no, you just know that ifyou touch your own butthole, you
know you're gonna like it I waslike you're gonna like it.

(28:08):
That's why I'm just sayingbecause there are some shower
heads that fucking push reallyhard, and if you actually did
put that on your butthole youwould flinch too.

Speaker 2 (28:19):
I should wash my butt more often.
That's what's gonna happen.

Speaker 1 (28:22):
I don't think a lot of people realize that you
really need, but there's alsowomen out there in the world
thinking that men who wipe theirown ass are not masculine at
all.
Period, and it's a.
This world is so fucking weirdit really is.
I don't get it and I don'tunderstand it.
I'm just like what?
Why I even women who don't washtheir, their genitalia?

(28:46):
Why was that so hard to say?

Speaker 2 (28:48):
like.
Are you looking for a specificword?

Speaker 1 (28:51):
here.
I was trying to be clean aboutit, but why am I trying to be
clean?
Girls who don't wash their ownlips, their own, their, their
secondary lips downstairs, ifyou will their pussy is that
they.
There are some women out therewho don't do that filling
wearing pad.
There are women out there whobuy reusable pads that they can
wash and reuse again.

(29:12):
I've seen people who are usingreusing toilet paper again that
you can wash and roll up and usethem again.
Yeah, this world, this cultureis, humans are just fucking vile
.
I said it once and I'll say itagain when I die, bring me back
as an AI because I can fuckinglike talk shit to you and tell

(29:35):
you how stupid you are.
But anywho, but because nobodyhas taught you're supposed to
really wash your body with awashcloth, in a sense, some
people still do loofah.
Some people do that.
It doesn't do well of a job asa loofah does.
This is why I have so manywashcloths on there.
Hubby likes his loofah.

(29:56):
I'm just like um bro, you'renot like I was like you, do you?
I love this for you, but anywho, it's one of those things like
you need to like kind of washyour ass, you know, and when
you're in the gay community, youreally need to wash your ass,
because there's some buttmunchers out there that wouldn't
want to munch on your bootyhole.
And if it's not clean, wellpass hard pass, hard pass.

(30:24):
We're not doing that.
I'm sorry not sorry not sorryoh well, speaking of which,
because I didn't get to talkabout this, is now I can talk
about it, my dirty hookup thisis gonna be so much fun my dirty
hook.
Now I'm not saying that he wasdirty, I'm just saying what came

(30:47):
out of him was dirty.
And we're not talking about theback door either.
Smokers, how fucking dare youcigarette smokers?
Marble menthols, marble 100s,marble, short packs, camel
anybody who smokes amotherfucking cigarette.
I've had people smoke weed thatdon't taste as awful.

(31:11):
I literally had a guy did.
The deed went down on him.
I gave him a sloppy fucking joe, if you will, and he and he
came hard.
His baby making seed tasted likecigarettes she tastes like

(31:37):
cigarettes she tastes likecigarette and not even like, not
even good cigarette.
I don't even know what a goodcigarette would taste like.
Like, do you know when?
Like if, when you were at likea party, when you were at a
kid's party and you had like arelative or somebody who would
smoke and they would put theircigarette butt like ash inside

(31:57):
the coke bottle and everythingand you thought it was yours and
you accidentally drank it andit wasn't like not a great taste
.
Yeah, that's how it was andpeople are.
That's a very specific type oftaste or description and that's
the only smell of cigarette,ashes inside of cans of coke or

(32:17):
beer just smelling the smoker'smouth and then having to get
that.
Um, and I'm not talking about alittle drop this motherfucker
filled my mouth like I was likefucking chick monk cheeks.
I don't know how in the fuck hedid it, but this motherfucker
did.
I asked for a paper towel and Ispit that shit out.

(32:40):
I'm like that was vile, fuckingvile.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
I don't know how you did not get.
Askel, I would have just bruh.

Speaker 1 (32:53):
I've sucked a crackhead's nut off and it
didn't even fucking taste thatbad.
That's saying a lot.
Even fucking taste that bad,that's saying a lot.
I fucking sucked someone elsewho have fucking had ice and it
wasn't even that I may havegotten high off of his nut, but
I spit that shit out quick.
But even then those particlesin the nut was just like damn,

(33:16):
damn has anybody everexperienced that?
Because that I did not consentto that, that was awesome.

Speaker 2 (33:30):
I remember when you called me afterwards.

Speaker 1 (33:33):
You were so offended I dude, I was super fucking
offended.
I'm never offended by anything,but this motherfucker offended
me across the board you were he.

Speaker 2 (33:48):
Oh, you felt violated .
I felt dude.

Speaker 1 (33:50):
He violated, he essayed.
My tongue bites hard your tastebuds he yes, every fucking
particle in my tongue tastedthat and was screaming fuck you
at the top of their lungs.
Like fuck, no homes and ladiesdon't act like.
This is like brand new shit toyou.

(34:11):
Like, oh my god, that's sogross.
Like if you have a husband whohas it and you never give him
him a sloppy blowjob because youknow what is going to come out
of him.
You know, you motherfucker,even drinkers, even alcoholics,
even coffee.
That's a real thing.

(34:33):
When you drink coffee andalcohol and everything, you get
that strong bitter taste.
It is vile that's why, when guysare like, yeah, come suck me,
I'm so fucking drunk and chaledude, no way like.
I love alcohol, but not the waythat's coming from.

Speaker 2 (34:54):
Fuck that dude, I didn't.
I didn't order that kind ofpickleback Jack.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
Yeah, I'm into water sports, but that's not the Not
from that pickle.
I said Long Island, not gaga.

Speaker 2 (35:06):
No sir.

Speaker 1 (35:11):
Pick a struggle.
Shit oh, it's just so hardbecause you can't.
I mean, you could mask thetaste of cigarettes, like if
you're horny and you know youare, drink a shit ton of water
and flush that shit out and eatsomething.
But those who smoke likefucking chain smokers, dude,

(35:35):
it's bad, because I can taste iton your genitalia, I can taste
it on your nutsack when I'mtrying to lick you, I can taste
it on your fucking bodu holelike that's yeah, you're gonna
taste it on your thing yourbutthole's not even smoking, and
I can smell the fucking smokecoming from her dude.
How does your fucking buttholebecome potpourri for cigarettes?

Speaker 2 (35:50):
that's what I said, like people's houses, smokers
houses alone.
You know what it's like bitch.

Speaker 1 (35:55):
We saw a few houses yeah, because everything's
yellowed dude it is smell it andit's in.

Speaker 2 (36:00):
It permeates the carpets and the leathers and the
fabrics and everything.
If it does that to thesurrounding areas imagine what
it's doing to the human bodyyeah so of course you're gonna
smell it.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
I'd rather suck somebody who's fucking out of
their pores, holy shit at leastthe vapes are for you you know
what?
You're not wrong, because Ithink I talked about somebody
who was like.
I was like wow, this is really.
Oh, I vape a lot really.
This is is that pineapple?

Speaker 2 (36:29):
is that mango strawberry?

Speaker 1 (36:30):
I could taste a strawberry in that one dude the
snozzberries tastes likesnozzberries that's so fucking
bad, I mean that.
Dude, you're fucking telling me.

Speaker 2 (36:43):
Querías cumbia.

Speaker 1 (36:44):
Quería reggaeton.
Fuck, if I can turn back time.

Speaker 2 (36:54):
No too late.

Speaker 1 (36:55):
Too late, too late.
I am glad I did not swallowbecause I could not bring myself
to do so.
I, I, I couldn't, and it wasjust it.
It was vile, I would.
I've never been insulted in myentire life.

(37:15):
I I've been called so manyfucking things in my entire
lifetime, but that was like.

Speaker 2 (37:22):
That took the cake.

Speaker 1 (37:23):
That took the fucking .
I wanted to cut my tongue offand rip it off.
That's how bad it was.
It was nasty Gross.
I blocked the motherfucker.
He became super annoying, superfucking annoying.
That was funny.
Never again.

Speaker 2 (37:40):
That was funny Because I remember you said you
were going to go home and justrinse your mouth out.
I don't know what I was.
I dude you.
I actually have to use a bar ofsoap this time bitch.

Speaker 1 (37:50):
I need a fucking dawn soap for that one man.
Shit, get the tire off of mytongue.
I feel like that.
Now I know how the fuckingducks feel when they're covered
in fucking like oil and shit.
God damn man, even my tonguewas going quack, quack, quack,
quack, quack, quack.
They would dance up.

Speaker 2 (38:08):
Like is this used motor oil, sir what?

Speaker 1 (38:15):
How dare y'all.
But it's funny because it'strue that the human anatomy of
what you're doing inside yourbody, anything that's done
orally or on your skin, it doesstain.
It's there, it goes throughyour pores.
You have a certain stench, youhave a certain smell when it

(38:37):
comes to smoking or smoking weedAlthough smoking weed I don't
know.
That's just so weird because Ihaven't had a bad experience yet
.
But those who do like ice andthose who do coke, those who do
whatever it is, you physicallycan taste it and you can get
secondhand stuff off of that.
People just don't realize thatthey can't.
Yeah, that's when people arelike I don't know, I felt it

(38:59):
Talk to us Instead realize thatthey can't.
Yeah, that's when people arelike I don't know, I felt the
talk to us.
Instead, I was dirty.
I'm like wait, what I was like?
Did your boyfriend do coke whenhe fucked you?
Yeah, he did bitch, that's inhis fucking seed, the fuck you
mean.
I was like.
And then, if you probablydidn't wipe or clean your washer
, I was like I don't know, power, wash your shit, drink your
water, man just ouch lips justflying everywhere oh god, that's

(39:26):
horrible what did john tell me?
because I was like I was, Ithink I put on my story I'm mad,
I'm getting old, but I'm stilldead.
He goes yeah, old pussy, and Iput relic pussy on him pitch,
because that sounds like areally good.
He got old pussy and I putrelic pussy on him bitch because
that sounds like a really goodmovie.
Yeah, old pussy versus afucking, uh, relic pussy.

(39:47):
See who's gonna win oh godbecause I, sir, I'm a, it goes,
I'm uh, I'm a lady.
I was like no, I'm asophisticated relic, I'm like
bitch, the only thing ofsophisticated is your parkinson
sophisticated parkinson.
That's horrible it is horrible,but he fucking laughed his ass

(40:14):
off.
Oh dear god, but it's um, yeah,so back to contracts.
I just wanted to give thatlittle story because that shit
was horrible.
That shit was just fuckingnasty dude.

Speaker 2 (40:31):
That was the Freaky Friday horror story.

Speaker 1 (40:33):
Do better.

Speaker 2 (40:35):
And that's for me, that's for everybody out there.
Do better.

Speaker 1 (40:39):
No, I need to make better choices.
The fuck Fine If I should havesaid everybody, shit me, that's
for everybody out there.
Do better.
No, I need to make betterchoices, the fuck fine if I
should have said everybody andthat's because it's just like I
should have known something,because I heard I smelled
cigarettes in the air.
I just didn't think it was himuntil like later on.
I'm just like, no, sir.

Speaker 2 (41:08):
No sir.

Speaker 1 (41:09):
He's like swallow it.

Speaker 2 (41:11):
The hell I will.

Speaker 1 (41:17):
God, if I could spit it back in his face I would
Fucking hate it.
I dl man so nasty, nasty, gross.

Speaker 2 (41:32):
But anyhow, that's in the past unfortunately
unfortunately, and I would loveto keep it there because that
shit was just nasty, so this isgoing to be the one and only
time that you guys hear about ityeah, that's it because after
that it's buried and it'll staywith this podcast and you can
bring it up whenever you feellike it, because that shit is

(41:57):
nasty and I'll slow down Nasty.

Speaker 1 (42:02):
I don't even have to ask.
Fucking A dude, how dare he?
I should go and slap him.
What you're looking for?
A midnight snack, Tanjiro.

Speaker 2 (42:17):
I just walked into the kitchen all casual.

Speaker 1 (42:18):
Yeah, like he's looking for food.
How you doing, buddy?
I'm feeling rather peckish.
You're hungry, you're a fatbitch, he loves his pets, but
anywho, yeah.
So the moral of the story isfuck smokers this is why I don't
I'm telling you on my profileanytime I'm on grind I put no

(42:41):
smokers weed yes, smokers no.
I know occasionally I'll have acigar here and there, but if I
have a cigar I'm not doinganything that day.
Yeah, I'm washing my mouth, I'mcleaning out everything, but
yeah, child, I do.
We ain't doing that like.

(43:01):
I like to have a good cigar butI do it for show than anything
else so.
And it's so weird because in theleather community if you have a
cigar apparently if you haveleather and a cigar in your hand
, you're like the fuckinghottest dude ever.
It's so weird.
And then when I see leather andI see a cigar, I'm just like
you're poor leather, because youcan smell this and that's the

(43:26):
thing.
Once you get smoke on anything,it is so hard to get it off.
And including leather, becauseleather is just like skin yep,
it is seeps through like.
That's why when I go to barsand everything, I'm glad.
It's like like I'm gonna go outfor a smoke.
I'm like, okay, you want to gojoin us?
No, like, why not, dude, I'mwearing leather and if your

(43:46):
cigarette smell gets on thisthing, chale dude, it's.
It's hard to get off like Icould.
And you can't febreze it like,even if you fucking want it to,
like you can't just go.
Yeah, that'll ruin it.
It will.
Well, was it one of my uh boysfrom corpus?
Uh, pup max?

(44:06):
I didn't know that.
Because, yeah, I'm gonna put myleather in the washing machine.
No, don't do that.
He fucking got it out.
I'm just like, oh, my god, ohmy, I know, I mean, it wasn't
genuinely 100 leather.
It was pleather, but at thesame time I'm like no, a little

(44:26):
slow motion.

Speaker 2 (44:27):
No, oh God.

Speaker 1 (44:31):
Because, oh shit, Thank you, I was about to
fucking.
I was like dude, you would haveruined $100, $200 jackets.

Speaker 2 (44:39):
And that was the one thing that James missed the most
was being able to have hiscigars and his martinis.

Speaker 1 (44:44):
Yeah, yeah, I can imagine.

Speaker 2 (44:47):
It wasn't like an all the time thing, it was just an
occasional thing.
But after he got sick hecouldn't.

Speaker 1 (44:53):
That's the hard part.

Speaker 2 (44:54):
Yeah, because it would restrict his blood vessels
too much, so he couldn't do it.
He did buy one last chocolatecigar, and I don't mean the
candy kind, that are made ofchocolate, I mean there was
actually cocoa cocoa, and thencigarette, yeah, cigar yes, yeah
, fuck yes he did get thatbecause our favorite thing was

(45:14):
to go to specs and, uh, he wouldgo into the cigar room and.
And of course he's pickingwhatever cigar he wanted and
we'd like to get the littleboxes that they would sell for
like two bucks or four bucks,because they're empty.

Speaker 1 (45:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (45:27):
Right, they're empty cigar boxes.
We like to get the cigar boxesbecause we did crafty things
with them, but the smell, thesmell of them.
Cigar boxes are so good.

Speaker 1 (45:36):
There's so much better than cigars I mean
cigarettes there's so muchbetter than cigars?

Speaker 2 (45:39):
yeah, cause you could just smell.

Speaker 1 (45:41):
I'm just like, oh my god, it smells so good, but I
still wouldn't suck a guy's dickwith a cigar, because even that
shit's nasty.

Speaker 2 (45:46):
No, so that chocolate one that he had.
It lasted him so long becauseonce he found out he couldn't
have it he was like crap, like Ijust got this, I just bought
this.
But luckily his hellboy cosplaycalls for a cigar oh yeah,
because he was carrying a cigarhe'd still use it he'd still be

(46:08):
able to use it he would smoke itor whatever but of course not
in the convention places,because there's no smoking or
whatever he would turn it off orwhatever, but he'd be able to
still walk around with his cigargenuine yeah, genuine cigar.

Speaker 1 (46:20):
I think that's actually pretty cool though, but
yeah, no, it's I.
That's one of the things thatwe have in the contracts, um on
there is that hygiene.
Hygiene is very, very important, like you need, but it's to me
it depends on the hygiene,because I do occasionally like a
little musking.
So like when rad came over onon tuesday, he had that, um,

(46:42):
that white collar musk on himwhere it's like not harsh, but
just perfect, like the perfect,like right where his pits were,
and it's just like okay, I cando that.
Yeah, don't go, ew, because weall somebody has a like a fetish
for musk and it's it's genuine,right so.
But there's, there's adifference between genuine musk,

(47:02):
like that's very where it'ssupposed to be at and there's
mess.
This is like like really rightyeah, very like bro, like are
you?
Do you?
Are you wearing onion fordeodorant?
Like damn, like, um, you'regonna have to go wash because I
can't do that.
Yeah, but no, there's a levelof stench.
But some people who do enjoythat very ripeness and that is

(47:26):
quite fine with them.
But I can't but Rad had thenice, perfect stench that I like
, I was like that's perfect.
Because there's some people thattheir BO is so over the top,
even when I go and hug them I'mjust like whoa buddy, like can't

(47:46):
do that, that's.
But there's some people whojust like wearing it naturally
but don't realize that it'spretty offending, like, yeah, I,
I get it.
Some cultures or aspects andcultures don't require you to
wear it and but again, bobecomes to point to it,
depending on what you eat, right, right.
So it's like if you're eatinglike greasy food going out,

(48:08):
you're going to get a veryfucking strong odor, right?
If you're eating healthy, withfruity stubs, vegetables, it
tends to be a little bit moretamed, you know.
But you also got to be carefulwith the fruits and vegetables
you're eating too as well,because, just like onions, you
get a.
You get a nice onions breath ortaste coming out, from whatever
area.
This is why I don't do a wholelot of onion.

(48:29):
I love onions, I love sauteedonions, I love cooked onions,
but occasionally onions for meand a salad.
I do get the occasional onionbreath and I just can't do it.
But in you, hygiene's in acontract is a very must thing
type of do.
Um.
I think I wrote a few couple ofthings here with it and I can

(48:50):
share it here with you on thatum, why I'm looking that up.
You, you want to negotiateeverything when it comes down to
what you're going to haveinside your contract.
Because if you both agree like,yeah, this is um going to be
the thing that it's going tomake us or break us for a lot of
the things and yeah, you wantto do it right.

(49:11):
So one of the contracts I'llread to you um, it says I, my
name, also known as daddy j orsergey, will be the Sir to Pup
Rad.
As Daddy J or Sir, I agreed tobe responsible for keeping my
pup, aka Baby Boy, safe at alltimes.
I will acknowledge and respectBaby Boy and Pup's limits at all
times.
I will maintain my own healthand hygiene, knowing my own

(49:34):
status, because we do need toget tested, because you know
we're a couple of sluts, whichis fine.
Tested because you know we're acouple of sluts, which is fine.
Um, with testing at least everythree months, baby boy and pup
will maintain their own healthhygiene and know their status
every three months as well.
All parties must share theirstatus in of any stis or stds or

(49:55):
hiv status to make sure thatall parties are taken care of
properly.
I will never request my baby boyor my pub to participate in any
activities that are demeaned,dangerous or can cause permanent
bodily harm.
So that's one of the mainthings.
That's like very you knowwhatnot.
And ask me if I came up withthis on my own.

(50:15):
No, I didn't.
I looked at other people'scontracts and this was like the
more sufficient one that Iactually did.
Like I'm like okay, cool, I canchange a couple of things here,
right.
So, just to keep in mind, I hadto look up what would be more
on that.
Permanent bodily harm shall bedetermined by death, right?
So that's one of them.
Damage that involves loss ormorbidity or functions Sorry,

(50:40):
loss of mobility or function,permanent marks on the skin, you
know stuff like that.
Loss of hair, unless acceptableby baby boy or pup, because pup
rat is also baby boy too aswell.
So anytime I say it's a babyboy, I will ensure that there
will be no injuries thatrequires medical attention.

(51:01):
Boy, I will ensure that therewill be no injuries that
requires medical tensions.
I will not loan out my, my pupor baby boy to another dom or
sir or daddy or master withouttheir consent.
If you agree to please type toagree in the chat or sign right
once all parties agree, thenyou're pretty much all set on
there for you.
Uh, they agree, then you'repretty much all set on that for

(51:29):
you.
Uh, I know I had one for therules.
I can't never figure out whatthe rules were and, like you
wrote this, you should know yourrules.
You should know your rules.
Yes, I should know my rules,but rules have always changed
for some reason, because youwant to make sure that all rules
can be changed, like if there'sa rule that you're not liking

(51:51):
or you don't agree with, andit's just like I was going to
say rules should change, Becauseshit is always changing anyways
.
And you need to keep up with itin order to keep everybody safe
you pretty much have to covered,just saying yeah, um,
everybody's ass needs to becovered and anything, because

(52:12):
it's very important to know thatthese rules are are in it
because there are punishments,and you can go over punishments
of what you want and what youdeem that is appropriate for a
punishment.
My punishments, uh, can vary.
Uh, kneeling on a kneeling onrice is one of them.

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Uh, that's just something thatI actually have.
Lego blocks too as well.
Uh, bolts, nope, the littlebolts that you can get that you
can fucking do that too as well.
Yeah, those fucking hurt.
Um, also, you also got toremember, uh, before I do any of
this or minister any of this, Igotta know how that feels and
it's not great, but I canactually last a lot longer

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because I'm a sadist masochist.
So you knew, of course, um, Idid do the 10 commandments, like
kind of like that's right yeah,so I did the content amendments
.
So, uh, the 10 commandments forthe house of fuckery.
So this is something I got froma girl from tiktok for the
house of fuckery.
She's the one that came up withthis.
She gets 100 credit.

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I just don't remember thetiktok person's name, I don't
whatsoever, but she's the onethat came up with it.
I just pretty much copy andpaste, uh, what she was pretty
much saying on there yeahbecause I fucking love it.
It was great.
Uh, so it's one.
Number one is go forth andspread the good fuckery fuck
around and find out.
Is number two.
Number three is trust your gut,for it's a fucking alarm, uh.

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Number four others, opinions ofyou don't fucking matter.
Number five all fuckeries arefucking equal.
Number six thou shall not befucking a fucking cunt.
Number seven those who spreadthe bad fuckery will catch these

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hands nice.
Number eight to give a fuck,one must give a fuck.
Number nine having a fuck, havea fucking sense of humor.
Number 10 when in doubt, fuck.
Uh, when in doubt, fuck it.
Daddy said it was okay nice oh,I'm gonna bring this up too,
because that punishment would bemore avoided loopholes.

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So, uh, the rules, uh, for whatrad has to follow by.
This is also kind of includingme too, as well.
Uh, number one if you need meto stop, or if you need me to
stop, or directions are not okayor they're unclear, they just
don't make sense.
You're just having a hard timecomprehending.

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Let me know, speak up, it's oneof those things.
Number two direct questions anddirections should be answered
with daddy or sir.
So, in other words, sir, I havea question for you, daddy, I
have a question for you.
So it's always to have thatrespect.
Three no negative self-talk.

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You are wonderful in love, solove yourself.
And can't tell you how manypeople fail to understand that,
because a lot of people arealways so hard on themselves.

Speaker 2 (55:17):
You know what I mean.
I was going to say everybodyhas self-esteem issues nowadays,
Everybody so hard on themselves.
I was going to say everybodyhas self-esteem issues nowadays,
Everybody.

Speaker 1 (55:23):
I don't care who you are.
I do, yeah, so, but that's,that's a rule.
You cannot be hard on yourself.

Speaker 2 (55:27):
You will love yourself, no matter what, and if
you don't, I can see why a lotof people fail that one.

Speaker 1 (55:32):
Yeah, but if it's one of those.
If it's, I need to write me 30sentences I do love myself, I do
matter, I do love myself, I domatter, and you will write that
30 times, um until it's embeddedin you right uh.
Number five if you are upset,tell me and tell me why you are.
Number six say thank you afterboth rewards and punishment.

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Both are, both are for yourbenefit and pleasure, so it's
also rewarding.
Seven communication is key.
Please keep it up.
Daddy slash sir will approve alloutfits when we go out to
events.
Number nine give daddy a monthin advance for planning for

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events or travels, because Godknows I need plenty of time to
know what is going on with myjob.
I think I have to switch that.
I need at least three months inevents for events.
Rewards will be given.
Uh will be given good boys orgood pups, because I love buying
gifts for my baby's boys andpups.
So that's including, like puphoods, hats, right, whatever.

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If you do good, it's, it's areward.
I will do that.
Uh.
Then there are playtime rules.
We got some time.
Uh.
One never be ashamed of whatgets you excited and I want to
hear what you desire.
To two no touching yourself,alone or otherwise, without
asking for permission.
Number three no orgasms withoutasking for permission.

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Uh, punishments, those are.
Those are my three playtimerules.
Uh, punishment, any punishmentwill be discussed, agreed upon
beforehand.
Uh.
Two uh, being uh when beingspanked, you will count account.
So, yes, uh, that is one ofthem that's there too as well,

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which I actually do like on thattoo as well.
So, um, so, with that beingsaid, that's just pretty much
just kind of like the tip of theiceberg.
On there, there is a bdsmcontract that you can actually
buy off of amazon.
That kind of gives you littletips and tricks on what you can
do.
You can use that to fill it out, and then you even have one too

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as well.
I do recommend that one.
That one's actually reallygreat.
It's created by real lawyerswho wrote it out.
So, yes, it's a legitimatecontract.
That's crazy by both parties.
So you can either take it, runwith it both parties agree it's
a contract now these contractsdo hold up in the court of law.
Good, because two parties areagreeing and consenting to it

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right and they understand thatwhat they're getting themselves
into is pretty much going to bethat right.
So that's just going to be themain thing, because I remember
there was a story that was on.
I can't remember there was aguy or a pup that signed a
contract or signed somethingthat they would give up 100
equal rights and includingpaychecks, bills, all of that
stuff and whatnot.

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Whatever they owned, he ownedthem at a hundred percent.
Like you can't talk, text,breathe, do whatever it is that,
yeah, these contracts soundslike a cult kind of contract to
me.
Now it was type of a dealbecause that's how it was.
But be careful, because thereare fake doms, there are fake
submissives out there, and if Ihad to give you time I would

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have to do it on another podcaston that, because you just got
to remember what red flags areand what green flags are,
because every person has them.
As for me, I know that somedoms these days and old school
ones punishments.
There are no red flags.
They will.
You're going to earn yourpunishment.

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And a lot of, a lot ofsubmissives don't like that
because they feel there shouldbe a limit.
Missus don't like that becausethey feel there should be a
limit.
But if you fuck around and findout, you're gonna fucking find
out very quickly for a lot ofpeople, and some people are just
like some people will utilizethat.
I don't, because I still I feellike you're not a kid.

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You know what I mean.
If you're gonna fuck around andfind out, then you're gonna
find out very quickly.
You know what I mean.
If you're gonna fuck around andfind out, then you're gonna
find out very quickly.
You know what I mean.
So it's just one of thosethings.
Like it happens, you know it's.
You gotta have that discussionand if there's something you
don't like, like I said, rulesare always meant to be changed,
no matter what it is, but thereare some.
There's one, uh dom namedgoddess, goddess dom or

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something like that.
She does it professionally allday, every day, like they have
to say a.
She has a few slaves, I guess,and one of the slaves I do like
this it was was that if theyneed to go use the restroom,
they have to address, uh, theyhave to say a particular word in
order for them to go and do itlike if they need to go to the
restroom, they say goddess, uh,I so and so needs to go use the

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restroom.
May I say, goddess, I so-and-soneeds to go use the restroom,
may I go?
And the goddess will say yes orno, and they have to go.
Well, there was a point in timewhere they said they didn't
want to do it anymore and shegoes okay, that's fine, we don't
have to say it, but you'regoing to regret not ever saying
that.
Yeah, and they were beggingAfter a.

(01:00:42):
Say it again.
And they were begging andbegging and begging.
Yeah, the way she was givingout the class was actually
pretty cool.
There are BDSM classes 101s outthere, guys, there really are.
So you just need to go tofetlifecom, look up in your own
little city what they have andsee what the community is, and
you'll find you can find areally good community or you can
find a really shitty community.
It's up to you.
Just know, just know who you'regetting involved with, because
there are doms are very wellknown out there, super well

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known out there.
I'm not a very well known domor daddy or whatever, because
I'm not in the scene as much.
I'm more of a guy that's kindof like behind the scenes but
know what the fuck he's doing.
Yeah, and master cash is like Ican vouch for you because you
were very good, you know exactlywhat you're doing and I always
told master cat I think it'svouch for you because you were
very good, you know exactly whatyou're doing and I always told
master cat I think it's justfunny that when you're trying to
tell me to do something, I'mjust like, yeah, I know.

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But the main thing, I also gotto remember cats.
When I'm playing with my boysit's a little bit more
aggressive.
So I've got to be careful whoI'm transitioning with and
playing with, because thatperson's not going to like that
aggressiveness like my boys do.
You know what I mean?
So it's it's just transitioningover to who you're playing with
, because you do need to go slowand I always will hear my boys.

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When you want me to go faster,I'll go faster.
When you want me to goaggressive, I'll go aggressive.
You tell me where we're at.
Colors are always going to belike green, red and yellow.
Those are always going to beyour safe words for no matter
what it is.
Yes, the running joke.
Those are always going to beyour safe words for no matter
what it is.
Yes, the running joke.
Pineapple is the running joke.
Whatever it is, that is fine.
You can use it if you want to,but I always will use the

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three-color system and whatnot.
Green means you're good.
If I ask you how you're doingand I can't hear you and you
yell green, it means we cancontinue.
Right, if I hear yellow, I caneither slow it down or we stop
what we're doing on thatparticular scene and we move on
to the next.
What I do is pretty much I getall my um.
I'll I'll go like five moreminutes on this here, really

(01:02:30):
until a little after is I willhave all the tools and the
equipments that I have layingout on my bed, right, and I
learned this from master catbecause it was great.
Um, I never did this.
So what he did was pick outwhat you want, get you to try
and the toys would go from whatyou want to start off with first

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, and then we'll go up to thebiggest toy I have and then get
you stretched out and we're kindof going to do it, and he does
his stuff with music a lot andthat's one of the things we
talked about, because sometimesyou need like a nice little
tempo.
He needs a little, you know,kind of get the flow going.
And I can't tell you how manytimes me and Kat we talk and
we're just like you know whatnot.
We're just talking, we'retelling each other stories and

(01:03:14):
we're having a good time andwhatnot, and just like oh yeah,
this and that, and how do youmake this?
Oh yeah, I was working on thistoo as well.
It's just like.
It's just like are we doingthis right or no, it's just two.
It's just two doms and onedaddy, one master, just
literally just having aconversation.
I've seen videos where peopleare fucking checking off their

(01:03:34):
fucking bills and making surethat everything's doing right.
Hey, did you do this?
Yeah, I did that.
And your fucking hands far deepin there and you're up in the
elbow deep and you're just likeoh, okay, cool.
So, uh, did we do the dinner?
Yeah, what do you want fordinner tonight?
And you're in their answer andyou're just like are you
enjoying this?
Oh, dude, you have no idea likeyour knuckles are so fucking

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like.
Okay, just making sure, becausewe're having a good
conversation and this doesn'tseem to phase you.
So I'm I'm concerned, it's mylike, is my arm too small for
you?
Dang, you know what I mean, butit's it shows.
It kind of goes to show youthat people have different mind,
mentalities.
They can actually do whatthey're doing on that and
whatnot crazy yeah, it's fun.

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It's one of those thingsliterally at the end of this
when I say more of the story getto know your body, because
knowing your body and knowingwho you are as a person, even
when it becomes like aprofessional friends with
benefits, and getting to knowwhat you like, everybody is
going to be different, no matterwhat you.
You're going to be differentbecause you have an attachment
with your heart and with yourfeelings I don't, I can I.

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I mean, yes, I have anattachment with my love, my
feelings.

Speaker 2 (01:04:42):
I do love right, but you can also do the opposite.

Speaker 1 (01:04:45):
Oh, exactly like nothing you know, if brad had
told me tomorrow like I know youjust got me this, but I want to
give this back to you yeah fuck, it's gonna kill me because I
just got you know, we just didthis and this is what he wants
to do.
I'm gonna have no choice but torespect it, right, you know, do
I have?
That's up to him he's.

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Then he'll be free to dowhatever he wants, you know, and
I will always ask questions.
What's going on?
Did I do something wrong?
That you know, was it, am I not?
And occasionally, the most ofthe boys.
Reason why he's my first andthe rest have failed is because
I was so busy.
He actually stayed through andthrough with my schedule and we
made, he wanted to make thingswork and he understood that's

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cool, yeah, so that that's gonnabe your peoples yeah, that's
how you know your peoples, butanywho, that's the end of our
show for freaky friday.
I do appreciate y'all tuning inhashtag get to know who you are.
Hashtag know your status,hashtag contracts for BDSM and
yo hashtag professional fuckbuddies.
So yes, it's the same, butanywho, thank y'all so much for

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tuning in.
I am your host, daddy J.

Speaker 2 (01:05:54):
And I am your co-host .
Dee, dee, dee, dee.
Well, we'll go with that.
You know, it is what it is.

Speaker 1 (01:06:03):
But I appreciate y'all so much and I know y'all
didn't hear much, a whole lotfrom Didi, because she's still
learning my, my world still, ifyou will, because it's just like
, ooh, this is intriguing, likeshe has questions.
I love that you do askquestions, because it helps me
out too as well.