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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, welcome back
to Mental Health-ish Podcast.
I'm super excited because I'mactually recording today's
episode at home in my homestudio I guess you could say.
I have my little setup going,I'm sitting in my office, so
this is super cool, and so I'mgoing to record this and see
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about uploading it onto theMental Health-ish YouTube.
I have had people request videopodcast episodes, and so maybe
this will be something new thatI could try.
I don't know, we'll see righthow it goes, but anywho, it has
been a very cold and rainy week.
I think last week it rainedlike three days out of the week,
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and today it's like super,super freezing outside.
I just went to pick up Emmafrom school and the wind was
literally ice cold, literallyice cold.
So I know it's expected to rainthe next three days, so I know
it's going to be freezing onceagain.
But yeah, I had an interestingweek at work last week, because
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I love the rain Number one, I'ma rainy day girl and so I was at
work and it was raining, and soI decided to go sit outside in
the courtyard and just kind oflisten to the rain and watch the
rain, and I literally sat outthere for like an hour and a
half just hanging out, like justtaking a break, you know,
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admiring the rain.
The rain sounds, getting some,you know, water on my face, like
when I was drizzling no, I wasnot standing in a heavy downpour
of rain, no, but I was walking,you know, a little bit in the
drizzle and then it startedraining more and I was starting
to think about, like why doesthis bring me so much peace?
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Like just rainy days, likerainy days bring me so much
peace.
And I know it's different foreveryone.
I know there are people thatcan't stand the rain and they
hate it.
Can't stand the rain and theyhate it.
But if you're like me, rainydays kind of bring these cozy
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type of vibes.
So I was trying to figure outwhy do I like the rain?
And I, low key, started feelinga little nostalgic and
remembering rainy days growingup.
So rainy days number one did notchange anything for me
personally in my day-to-daygrowing up.
So rainy days number one didnot change anything for me
personally, like in my day today growing up, because I never
had an umbrella, I never hadrain jackets, like I don't know.
I know we didn't havesmartphones back then to where,
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like we could check the weatherapp, you know, like, what's the
weather going to be liketomorrow, type thing, or like.
So, in order for you to knowthe weather, I feel like you had
to watch the news.
And obviously, like, growing uplike we're kids, we're
teenagers, like we're notsitting down and watching the
news right To know what theweather is going to be like, so
I feel like the weather wasliterally unpredictable growing
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up, right?
So, yeah, I never had any rainjackets, I never had umbrellas,
nothing.
And I started having like rainyday memories growing up.
So, like, my hair is like kindof wavy, slash, curly, if I
really like style it and putproducts in it and all that, but
nowadays I just like straightenit and blow dry it, but my
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original hair, or my hair, iswavy.
So I remember I used to loverainy days, but then, at the
same time, I used to like lowkey, not like them, because if
you have curly, wavy hair, youknow that any type of humidity
or like wetting your hair isgoing to make it frizzy, is
going to make it puffy, as Iwould say, and so I remember
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always, like knowing that I wasgoing to have a bad hair day
whenever it was going to be arainy day and I would always
tell people like my hair isgoing to get puffy, you know,
and so, but either way, I stilllove the rain, right.
But that was just like aninteresting memory that came up
was just feeling, I don't wantto say embarrassed, but just
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kind of feeling nervous aboutlike my hair getting puffy in
the rain.
Another thing was like once Ihit high school, I always walked
home from school, so I wasnever picked up from school, so
I always made my way home with,usually, friends, like we would
walk home together.
And I remember this oneparticular rainy day it was
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pouring rain, it was pouringrain and I remember there was a
little fair that they set uplike at the corner of where I
lived and they did not care thatit was raining, they did not
care those carnivals and likethings.
In the hood I guess you couldsay like I don't know if it's
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the same now, but back then,like people didn't care, like
you're not gonna rain is notgonna stop you from you know
making money, or just you knowit was business as usual.
So I remember there was like alittle fair and I was walking
home with like a couple offriends and we went to the fair
in the rain.
We had no sweaters, we had nosweaters, we had no jackets, no
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umbrellas, and we just went tothe fair and we got on rides and
everything in the rain.
It was pouring down on us, Iwas soaked, wet, my hair was
extremely puffy and curly atthat point, and so that was just
like another memory that cameup.
As I was like sitting in therain, like watching the the rain
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, I was like, oh okay, like doyou guys ever get nostalgic and
just start remembering randomthings from like your past or
from your childhood, like whenyou're doing things?
Like I feel like I getnostalgic so much.
And yeah, like I was justthinking about those things and
speaking of nostalgia, I hadlike this super cute thing
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happen with Emma.
Emma is now eight years old, soI feel like she's getting at
that age where she's notcompletely like a teenager, but
she's also not a baby anymore,right, she's also not a toddler,
she's not a kid, like she'skind of in this very like
interesting age where, gosh,like even she's starting to get
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nostalgic and she's only eightyears old.
So I thought that was reallycute and we were driving to
Knott's last week and we were inthe car listening to music and
me and Emma always have a goodtime, like, whether we're in the
car, wherever we're at, like wehave a good time, like we're
happy, like we just, you know.
So we're listening to music andI forgot what song was playing,
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so I don't think it was relatedto the song, it might have been,
I don't know.
But I turn around and look ather and she's kind of just in
deep thought, you know, likelooking out the window, and then
I hear her say like, kind of ina low tone of voice she's like
like I'm about to cry right now.
And I was like, what?
Like?
Why are you about to cry?
You know, I was like are youokay?
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And she's like, yeah, I'm okay,but I just I feel like I'm just
growing up so fast and I'm nota baby anymore.
And she was in her feelingsabout that.
I was like, oh my gosh, likeyou're only eight, but can you
believe that she was having herown little nostalgia moment and
she was just like I miss being ababy and I'm growing up and I'm
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like it's okay, baby.
You know, I'm like it's okay,like you're still always going
to be my baby, I'm always goingto love you, like it's okay.
You know, like we all grow up.
So I'm like, you know, havingthat little pep talk with her
and like making her, trying tomake her feel better, and at
some point like I reached overand like touched her cheek or
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something.
I'm like it's okay and you know, like her shoulder and like
comforting her and she literallylike turns around and she's
like if you touch me one moretime I'm gonna bite you.
And I was like, so that's justlike a picture right Of like the
things to come.
I hope not, but the things tocome, I mean, and it's normal,
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even if it does, it's just thechanges in hormones, right, as
kids grow up, as my little girlbecomes a teenager and then an
adult, like it's just going tobe an emotional roller coaster
and I honestly feel kind ofexcited and just like ready for
it.
You know, I feel like as she'sgotten older, it's just been,
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it's just, it's just been fun,and if you guys have kids this
age, I'm sure you guys canrelate.
They're independent, but at thesame time they still like
hanging out with you and sothat's been really fun, Like we
have a lot of fun together, evenif it's just watching TV or
coloring or whatnot.
But I thought that was cute andI thought that was interesting,
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like really interesting andadorable.
Anywho, on another topic, Ithink slowing down.
Slowing down is important andtime goes by so fast and I think
I've talked about this before,but learning to slow down and
really appreciate the moment isso important, because next thing
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you know, your kid is eight andhaving nostalgic moments.
No, but for all, I thinkslowing down has been like a big
thing for me this week, in allsense of the word, like
physically and mentally andthings that I do.
I'm really trying to take mytime with things and slow down
and do things my own way,without comparing myself to what
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other people are doing, andeven like right now, I'm kind of
thinking about going to the gym, but I'm kind of unsure because
the type of and I'll tell youguys how this relates like last
week I went to the gym.
I think I haven't been to thegym in a week because the last
time I went was on Tuesday andif you guys follow my Instagram
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stories, I go to like this veryhigh intensity bootcamp classes,
type gym.
And so years ago, when Emma wasa baby, I would go to the gym a
lot and I was, I got in shapeand you know I was really strong
and I would go crazy at the gym.
But now, as I've gotten older,I think just I need to slow down
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and if you're in the same boat,remember to take care of your
body, because it's your body.
So if you get injured, likeyou're the one that's going to
have to be in your body andyou're the one that's going to
have to take care of whateverinjury it is.
But anywho, I went to the gymlast Tuesday and it was leg day
and these classes are superintense, and so they have you
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doing all sorts of exerciseswith dumbbells and kettlebells
and squats, squat jumps, lunges,like it's just over the top,
like high intensity HIIT classes, and so, anywho, I ended up
injuring my back with one of theexercises.
I think it was a kettlebelldeadlift, if I want to, yeah, a
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kettlebell deadlift.
So, anywho, at the time, likethe kettlebell didn't feel heavy
, but as you kept like, as Ikept doing the exercise, my back
started to hurt.
So now, thinking back, althoughit's not heavy for me and I
know I'm strong and I could doit.
Like my legs are strong.
Heavy for me and I know I'mstrong and I could do it.
Like my legs are strong, likesometimes you just have to slow
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down and get a lighter weight,like it's going to be okay, like
who cares what other people aredoing.
And I'm not saying that I didit because other people were
watching me, because, trust me,like I really could care less
what other people think of me.
Like literally, but yeah, just.
But if that's something thatyou experience at the gym, right
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, it's like other people lookingat you or I don't know.
But the whole point is like justlearning to listen to your body
and slowing down when you arefeeling like something's wrong.
So like my back was hurting, Ipushed through it and then I
ended up being injured the wholeweek.
So this whole past week my backwas just like and I think it's
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like my back slash sciatic nerve, like on my right side it was
hurting so bad I literallycouldn't walk.
I couldn't really move thatmuch.
I had pushed through.
Obviously I went to work andeverything, but it hurt so bad
and I wasn't because of that, Iwasn't able to go to the gym the
rest of the week I had pushedthrough.
Obviously, I went to work andeverything, but it hurt so bad
and I wasn't.
Because of that I wasn't ableto go to the gym.
The rest of the week I wasn'table to go for a run, and so it
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was actually less helpful topush through the exercise than
to just slow down, because thenthat affected me the rest of the
week.
So yeah, lesson learned, lessonlearned.
But today I'm kind ofcontemplating, like should I go
to the gym, should I not?
I kind of feel like going andjust like, maybe taking it slow,
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maybe like just doing somelight weights, not being
pressured into doing likeanything too heavy, but at the
same time I'm kind of like maybeI should just go for a little
walk or jog, because I'm kind offeeling better today.
So, anywho, guys, remember tolisten to your body and slow
down and don't compare yourselfto what other people are doing
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at the gym.
Follow your own journey andtake things at your own pace and
don't injure yourself.
Take things at your own paceand don't injure yourself.
Don't injure yourself trying toget to your goals, you know, at
a faster rate, because that'sactually going to end up slowing
you down eventually at somepoint.
So take your time, listen toyour body.
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You're the expert of your body.
And the same thing goes withother things, right, like slow
down and enjoy the moment andthe present.
And yeah, I think that's thetheme for me.
Right Is slowing down, becausethen your kids I'm going back to
Emma then your kid's going tobe eight and she's going to be
saying things like what thesigma Like, what does that even
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mean?
Like she'll just randomly saythese things now and I'm just
like I think it's cute and Ilaugh and then at the same time,
I'm kind of like, oh my gosh,you're like growing up.
But anywho, guys, thank youguys for listening to this
episode.
Let me know if you relate toanything that I shared today.
I'm keeping these episodesreally short and really cute,
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really quick, and so, if you'reable to go, listen to any of my
past episodes.
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Some of my past episodes are alittle longer, but they're good.
I have people that had to comeon to share their expertise on
different topics and differentthings, and I also will be
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creating longer episodes, too,with guests.
So remember to check out mywebsite, mentalhealthishcom.
I actually just posted a newblog this past week and it's a
really interesting blog and soif you haven't looked at it, go
check it out.
It talks a lot about birthdaysand like trauma.
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You know trauma and birthdays.
If that kind of interests, yougo check it out.
It's at mentalhealthishcom.
And yeah, let me get out ofhere, let me go, let me go to
the gym and get a little workoutin.
But thank you for listening.
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