March 2, 2025 • 13 mins
In this episode, we unpack how our internal narratives often exaggerate the challenges of everyday tasks, making even simple chores feel overwhelming. We explore how reframing our thoughts can lead to action. We also discuss the importance of stepping outside our comfort zones, especially when it comes to making new connections and friendships.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Everyone.
Welcome back to MentalHealth-ish.
I hope you all had a greatValentine's Day.
Valentine's Day just passed.
Yes, I am recording this lateand I usually upload my episodes
late, so I'm sorry for that.
But yeah, I hope you all had agreat Valentine's Day.
I think I didn't do anything forValentine's Day.
(00:20):
I think I ended up going towork.
I think it fell on a Thursdayright or Friday, so, anywho, I
just went to work, so I didn'tdo anything special or fun, but
it was a nice day, pretty chill,pretty chill.
Anywho, one of the things thathas been sticking out to me this
week that I kind of wanted totalk about was how sometimes we
(00:42):
put off doing difficult things,like we procrastinate not just
procrastinate with, like thingsthat we need to do, but I'm
talking about putting off oravoiding situations that cause
us to feel anxious.
Putting off situations thatcause us to feel anxious.
Anywho, I think one of thethings that kind of got me
(01:03):
thinking about this is KyliePerkins yes, kylie Perkins, and
uh, if you're on TikTok, youmight have come across videos by
Kylie Perkins or about KyliePerkins, but, anywho, this lady
on TikTok she's a lady on TikTokwho started making videos where
(01:24):
she's literally screaming atyou, the viewer, or whatever, to
motivate you to get up andstart cleaning your house.
So that's literally all she does.
At first I was confused becauseI kept coming across people's
videos, where they were, youknow, showing videos of their
clean house or whatever, andthey were saying, wow, all it
(01:47):
took was Kylie Perkins yellingat me to get this done, or,
thank you, kylie Perkins, youknow things like that.
So I was like who the heck isKylie Perkins and what are they
talking about?
And so I started doing like youknow my little, looking for
videos and stuff like that onTikTok, going down the rabbit
hole, and I found the videos ofthis lady named Kylie Perkins,
(02:10):
who I guess her videos are meantto motivate you into like doing
things that you're just puttingoff, like chores, cleaning up
your house, things like that.
But she's also trying to changethe way that you think about
these things and so, like, oneof the things that she was
saying was, washing dishes isn'thard or, you know, wiping down
(02:34):
a table isn't in itself like ahard thing to do, right, it's
pretty easy.
Vacuuming, like all of theselittle things that we do around
the house, like, when you thinkabout it like they're not really
that hard.
So she's like so why are we notdoing it?
And so she started talkingabout how it's the things that
(02:57):
we tell ourselves in that momentwhere we don't feel like doing
something, so something assimple as like wiping a table
down or whatever.
It's the things that we tellourselves that make that thing
or situation hard or seem hard.
Not that it's hard because it'snot right, it's like a simple
(03:17):
thing that we might need to do.
But the things that we tellourselves to make things seem
harder than they are.
And then we just lose themotivation and we just don't
feel like doing whatever it isthat we need to do, like
cleaning the table, etc.
So this lady is literally makingvideos yelling at people to
(03:38):
encourage them and motivate themto get up and get things done.
Get things done that they'vebeen procrastinating or like not
wanting to do so.
She'll literally be on thevideo and say, okay, it's time
to wash these dishes.
Come on, we need to get up, weneed to wash these dishes, like
(03:59):
your kids don't deserve, youknow, dirty dishes or whatever.
And she's literally yellingwhile she's doing this.
She's literally yelling so damn, like I guess that's that's
what it takes, right?
A lot of people that watchthese videos have commented and
they're like okay, like gettingup, going to wash my dishes now.
(04:22):
This is the motivation that Ineeded.
So I thought that was veryinteresting because it is
somewhat true A lot of the times, like we talk ourselves out of
doing things that we don't wantto do or that we're feeling a
little uncomfy with doing and weneed, like that extra push.
But then I was thinking likewhy can't we be our own, like
(04:45):
inner, like motivational, likescreaming voice, like right,
like we're not going to screamat ourselves, but why can't we
motivate ourselves to do thesethings that we don't want to do
sometimes?
But yeah, I started thinkingabout that and I've been guilty
of it.
I've, you know, talked myselfout of doing things so many
(05:09):
times, like too many times tocount this year.
So one of the goals that I hadfor this year was to try to get
out more, try to meet new people, make new friends, make new mom
friends.
In the area I'm in the InlandEmpire and come to find out
there's a lot of social groups,if that makes sense, like
there's a lot of different momgroups, and I'm sure it's the
(05:30):
same with every city.
So wherever you're located, I'msure you could find like groups
of women or moms or you know,people that have same interest
as you to hang out with and dothings with.
So I found a lot of like momgroups online for people that
want to make friends or peoplelike kind of just to socialize.
I guess that's why I calledthem social groups, because it's
(05:53):
pretty much like open toanybody who's interested, right
Like to meet others to hang out.
So, for example, I justrecently found an Inland Empire
girls hiking group and so thisgroup of women, for example,
meet up on Saturday mornings orSundays, you know whatever the
(06:14):
day, and they all meet up in themorning and they go do a hike,
for example.
So there's a lot of differentgroups like that that do
different things for people likeme who maybe don't have a lot
of friends or don't have familyto hang out with or, you know,
are just recovering from socialanxiety or whatever.
And so I found like a lot ofthese different groups where I
(06:36):
really want to put myself outthere and kind of get out of my
comfort zone and like make newfriends and meet new people, and
so that was one of my goalsthis year was to be a little
more social and put myself outthere and just kind of see what
happens, see who I meet, becausewhen you do put yourself out
there, you kind of like thingswill happen, like once you get
(06:59):
over that initial, like fear andanxiety about things, like
things will happen, you'll meetpeople, you'll make friends,
because that's another thing isthat I found out is that a lot
of us want friends, a lot of usneed that, some type of social
interaction and most of the timewe don't have it, and most of
the time we get caught up in ourroutines and write our busy
(07:20):
work schedules, kids, and so alot of the time we don't have it
, and most of the time we getcaught up in our routines and
right Our busy work schedules,kids, and so a lot of the times,
like we end up staying toourselves inside at home, things
like that.
And so I I feel like that'ssomething that we all have more
in common than we think iswanting more friends and wanting
to be more social.
So, anyhow, I found all ofthese groups and there's already
(07:41):
been a couple of times where Ikind of talk myself out of going
to some of these events thatthese groups host.
And so I know I still have likea little social anxiety about
it and I'll start coming up withlike all of these excuses as to
why I shouldn't go.
Or you know, you know what Imean, like if you've ever been
in that situation where you'rekind of talking yourself out of
(08:03):
doing something or doingsomething new.
So, for example, I signed upfor this vision board workshop I
guess vision board workshopwith this group of women I don't
know anyone, but it's like afriend making group you know
like I've been talking about.
I signed up for a vision boardthing back in January and I
(08:24):
remember when the day came, Ifelt so anxious.
I felt so anxious Not only wasI tired because I worked the day
before, but I started kind oftalking myself out of it.
I was still recovering frombeing sick.
Like if you've listened to thepast episodes, you know I've
been.
I was sick like all of January.
So I started kind of talkingmyself out of it, like telling
(08:46):
myself things like I'm tired.
You know I went to work lastnight maybe I should stay home
and sleep like just kind ofmaking all of these excuses.
I don't want to drive it's far,which it wasn't even that far,
but you know it was a littledrive and so I ended up not
going and then I kind of likeregretted it after because it
looked like it was a lot of fun.
I saw pictures online andthings like that.
(09:08):
But anywho, yeah, I'm sure we'veall been in like those
situations where we're just kindof avoiding something, whether
it be like a situation thatmakes us uncomfortable or, you
know, being socially anxiousabout going somewhere, all sorts
of things and you, the morethat you avoid those situations
that make you feel anxious andscared, I feel like the worse
(09:32):
that it gets.
You know, because you're kindof keeping yourself safe in that
situation, which will give yousome relief in that moment.
Like, yes, like you're going tofeel good in that moment and
comfy, maybe at home or whatever.
But then when the nextsituation comes, is anything
going to be different?
And the answer is probably no,like you're probably still going
(09:54):
to feel anxious and scared thenext time it comes up, and so
are you really going to live infear or feeling scared, you know
, forever just going to go andjust kind of see what happens,
(10:18):
and most of the time it's not asbad as we feel that it's going
to be.
Most of the time it's not asbad as we feel that it's going
to be, and it's just the thingsthat we tell ourselves in that
moment to make ourselves feelscared if that makes sense, the
things that we tell ourselves tomake things seem harder than
they actually are, and so that'ssomething that you have to
notice, like, the next time thatyou're feeling scared or
(10:38):
anxious about something isreally trying to push yourself
right To just do it and thenkind of see how you feel after
and just reminding yourself thatit's not scary and you could do
it.
Pushing ourselves sometimes canbe beneficial and we could learn
a lot from being in theseuncomfortable situations,
(11:00):
because then at the end of theday, are we going to feel regret
or guilty for not doingsomething or not.
You know, meeting this personor whatever the situation is
like.
Are we gonna feel guilt orregret after?
And sometimes we do so.
(11:21):
Yeah, that was like my bigspiel.
Um, I actually was recordingthis episode before my work
shift in my car and then we gota work call, so I paused it and
now I'm resuming the recording.
So I kind of lost my spiel andmy train of thought of what I
(11:42):
was saying, but I know I wastalking about how sometimes we
talk ourselves out of doingthings that we're uncomfortable
with doing, and so I hope thatyou were able to resonate with
anything that I said in thisepisode and just kind of thought
about yourself and your ownpast situations.
Or maybe you've talked yourselfout of doing something or
getting outside of your comfortzone and just seeing that maybe
(12:04):
it could be beneficial.
You know to sometimes pushourselves to do new things or
just put ourselves out there andyou just never know who you
might meet or what you might.
Yeah, it might not be as bad asmaybe it feels like it is, and
I hope that you try somethingnew or put yourself out outside
of your comfort zone afterlistening to this.
(12:26):
But, yeah, remember tosubscribe, like and share.
Thank you so much for listeningand check out my website for
all past episodes and thispodcast is also available on all
platforms spotify, apple,amazon all that good stuff and
so I hope that you guys enjoyand check out the social media
(12:48):
pages as well mental healthish,mentalhealthishcom and thank you
guys for listening.
Everyone.
Welcome back to MentalHealth-ish.
I hope you all had a greatValentine's Day.
Valentine's Day just passed.
Yes, I am recording this lateand I usually upload my episodes
late, so I'm sorry for that.
But yeah, I hope you all had agreat Valentine's Day.
I think I didn't do anything forValentine's Day.
(00:20):
I think I ended up going towork.
I think it fell on a Thursdayright or Friday, so, anywho, I
just went to work, so I didn'tdo anything special or fun, but
it was a nice day, pretty chill,pretty chill.
Anywho, one of the things thathas been sticking out to me this
week that I kind of wanted totalk about was how sometimes we
(00:42):
put off doing difficult things,like we procrastinate not just
procrastinate with, like thingsthat we need to do, but I'm
talking about putting off oravoiding situations that cause
us to feel anxious.
Putting off situations thatcause us to feel anxious.
Anywho, I think one of thethings that kind of got me
(01:03):
thinking about this is KyliePerkins yes, kylie Perkins, and
uh, if you're on TikTok, youmight have come across videos by
Kylie Perkins or about KyliePerkins, but, anywho, this lady
on TikTok she's a lady on TikTokwho started making videos where
(01:24):
she's literally screaming atyou, the viewer, or whatever, to
motivate you to get up andstart cleaning your house.
So that's literally all she does.
At first I was confused becauseI kept coming across people's
videos, where they were, youknow, showing videos of their
clean house or whatever, andthey were saying, wow, all it
(01:47):
took was Kylie Perkins yellingat me to get this done, or,
thank you, kylie Perkins, youknow things like that.
So I was like who the heck isKylie Perkins and what are they
talking about?
And so I started doing like youknow my little, looking for
videos and stuff like that onTikTok, going down the rabbit
hole, and I found the videos ofthis lady named Kylie Perkins,
(02:10):
who I guess her videos are meantto motivate you into like doing
things that you're just puttingoff, like chores, cleaning up
your house, things like that.
But she's also trying to changethe way that you think about
these things and so, like, oneof the things that she was
saying was, washing dishes isn'thard or, you know, wiping down
(02:34):
a table isn't in itself like ahard thing to do, right, it's
pretty easy.
Vacuuming, like all of theselittle things that we do around
the house, like, when you thinkabout it like they're not really
that hard.
So she's like so why are we notdoing it?
And so she started talkingabout how it's the things that
(02:57):
we tell ourselves in that momentwhere we don't feel like doing
something, so something assimple as like wiping a table
down or whatever.
It's the things that we tellourselves that make that thing
or situation hard or seem hard.
Not that it's hard because it'snot right, it's like a simple
(03:17):
thing that we might need to do.
But the things that we tellourselves to make things seem
harder than they are.
And then we just lose themotivation and we just don't
feel like doing whatever it isthat we need to do, like
cleaning the table, etc.
So this lady is literally makingvideos yelling at people to
(03:38):
encourage them and motivate themto get up and get things done.
Get things done that they'vebeen procrastinating or like not
wanting to do so.
She'll literally be on thevideo and say, okay, it's time
to wash these dishes.
Come on, we need to get up, weneed to wash these dishes, like
(03:59):
your kids don't deserve, youknow, dirty dishes or whatever.
And she's literally yellingwhile she's doing this.
She's literally yelling so damn, like I guess that's that's
what it takes, right?
A lot of people that watchthese videos have commented and
they're like okay, like gettingup, going to wash my dishes now.
(04:22):
This is the motivation that Ineeded.
So I thought that was veryinteresting because it is
somewhat true A lot of the times, like we talk ourselves out of
doing things that we don't wantto do or that we're feeling a
little uncomfy with doing and weneed, like that extra push.
But then I was thinking likewhy can't we be our own, like
(04:45):
inner, like motivational, likescreaming voice, like right,
like we're not going to screamat ourselves, but why can't we
motivate ourselves to do thesethings that we don't want to do
sometimes?
But yeah, I started thinkingabout that and I've been guilty
of it.
I've, you know, talked myselfout of doing things so many
(05:09):
times, like too many times tocount this year.
So one of the goals that I hadfor this year was to try to get
out more, try to meet new people, make new friends, make new mom
friends.
In the area I'm in the InlandEmpire and come to find out
there's a lot of social groups,if that makes sense, like
there's a lot of different momgroups, and I'm sure it's the
(05:30):
same with every city.
So wherever you're located, I'msure you could find like groups
of women or moms or you know,people that have same interest
as you to hang out with and dothings with.
So I found a lot of like momgroups online for people that
want to make friends or peoplelike kind of just to socialize.
I guess that's why I calledthem social groups, because it's
(05:53):
pretty much like open toanybody who's interested, right
Like to meet others to hang out.
So, for example, I justrecently found an Inland Empire
girls hiking group and so thisgroup of women, for example,
meet up on Saturday mornings orSundays, you know whatever the
(06:14):
day, and they all meet up in themorning and they go do a hike,
for example.
So there's a lot of differentgroups like that that do
different things for people likeme who maybe don't have a lot
of friends or don't have familyto hang out with or, you know,
are just recovering from socialanxiety or whatever.
And so I found like a lot ofthese different groups where I
(06:36):
really want to put myself outthere and kind of get out of my
comfort zone and like make newfriends and meet new people, and
so that was one of my goalsthis year was to be a little
more social and put myself outthere and just kind of see what
happens, see who I meet, becausewhen you do put yourself out
there, you kind of like thingswill happen, like once you get
(06:59):
over that initial, like fear andanxiety about things, like
things will happen, you'll meetpeople, you'll make friends,
because that's another thing isthat I found out is that a lot
of us want friends, a lot of usneed that, some type of social
interaction and most of the timewe don't have it, and most of
the time we get caught up in ourroutines and write our busy
(07:20):
work schedules, kids, and so alot of the time we don't have it
, and most of the time we getcaught up in our routines and
right Our busy work schedules,kids, and so a lot of the times,
like we end up staying toourselves inside at home, things
like that.
And so I I feel like that'ssomething that we all have more
in common than we think iswanting more friends and wanting
to be more social.
So, anyhow, I found all ofthese groups and there's already
(07:41):
been a couple of times where Ikind of talk myself out of going
to some of these events thatthese groups host.
And so I know I still have likea little social anxiety about
it and I'll start coming up withlike all of these excuses as to
why I shouldn't go.
Or you know, you know what Imean, like if you've ever been
in that situation where you'rekind of talking yourself out of
(08:03):
doing something or doingsomething new.
So, for example, I signed upfor this vision board workshop I
guess vision board workshopwith this group of women I don't
know anyone, but it's like afriend making group you know
like I've been talking about.
I signed up for a vision boardthing back in January and I
(08:24):
remember when the day came, Ifelt so anxious.
I felt so anxious Not only wasI tired because I worked the day
before, but I started kind oftalking myself out of it.
I was still recovering frombeing sick.
Like if you've listened to thepast episodes, you know I've
been.
I was sick like all of January.
So I started kind of talkingmyself out of it, like telling
(08:46):
myself things like I'm tired.
You know I went to work lastnight maybe I should stay home
and sleep like just kind ofmaking all of these excuses.
I don't want to drive it's far,which it wasn't even that far,
but you know it was a littledrive and so I ended up not
going and then I kind of likeregretted it after because it
looked like it was a lot of fun.
I saw pictures online andthings like that.
(09:08):
But anywho, yeah, I'm sure we'veall been in like those
situations where we're just kindof avoiding something, whether
it be like a situation thatmakes us uncomfortable or, you
know, being socially anxiousabout going somewhere, all sorts
of things and you, the morethat you avoid those situations
that make you feel anxious andscared, I feel like the worse
(09:32):
that it gets.
You know, because you're kindof keeping yourself safe in that
situation, which will give yousome relief in that moment.
Like, yes, like you're going tofeel good in that moment and
comfy, maybe at home or whatever.
But then when the nextsituation comes, is anything
going to be different?
And the answer is probably no,like you're probably still going
(09:54):
to feel anxious and scared thenext time it comes up, and so
are you really going to live infear or feeling scared, you know
, forever just going to go andjust kind of see what happens,
(10:18):
and most of the time it's not asbad as we feel that it's going
to be.
Most of the time it's not asbad as we feel that it's going
to be, and it's just the thingsthat we tell ourselves in that
moment to make ourselves feelscared if that makes sense, the
things that we tell ourselves tomake things seem harder than
they actually are, and so that'ssomething that you have to
notice, like, the next time thatyou're feeling scared or
(10:38):
anxious about something isreally trying to push yourself
right To just do it and thenkind of see how you feel after
and just reminding yourself thatit's not scary and you could do
it.
Pushing ourselves sometimes canbe beneficial and we could learn
a lot from being in theseuncomfortable situations,
(11:00):
because then at the end of theday, are we going to feel regret
or guilty for not doingsomething or not.
You know, meeting this personor whatever the situation is
like.
Are we gonna feel guilt orregret after?
And sometimes we do so.
(11:21):
Yeah, that was like my bigspiel.
Um, I actually was recordingthis episode before my work
shift in my car and then we gota work call, so I paused it and
now I'm resuming the recording.
So I kind of lost my spiel andmy train of thought of what I
(11:42):
was saying, but I know I wastalking about how sometimes we
talk ourselves out of doingthings that we're uncomfortable
with doing, and so I hope thatyou were able to resonate with
anything that I said in thisepisode and just kind of thought
about yourself and your ownpast situations.
Or maybe you've talked yourselfout of doing something or
getting outside of your comfortzone and just seeing that maybe
(12:04):
it could be beneficial.
You know to sometimes pushourselves to do new things or
just put ourselves out there andyou just never know who you
might meet or what you might.
Yeah, it might not be as bad asmaybe it feels like it is, and
I hope that you try somethingnew or put yourself out outside
of your comfort zone afterlistening to this.
(12:26):
But, yeah, remember tosubscribe, like and share.
Thank you so much for listeningand check out my website for
all past episodes and thispodcast is also available on all
platforms spotify, apple,amazon all that good stuff and
so I hope that you guys enjoyand check out the social media
(12:48):
pages as well mental healthish,mentalhealthishcom and thank you
guys for listening.
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