Messy Can't Stop Her
Are you a woman feeling overwhelmed by the chaos, crisis and challenges of life? Are you yearning to do something worthwhile with your life, but feel stuck in a cycle of problems? Join Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO, every Thursday on Messy Can’t Stop Her as she shares scientific insights, practical strategies and biblical wisdom to guide you through life’s struggles. With reflections, inspiring interviews, and heartfelt prayers, you will find the motivation and spiritual encouragement to overcome adversity, cultivate inner peace, and build a joy-filled life. If you are a woman who wants to rise above domestic violence, parenting challenges, and the mental health struggles caused by difficult relationships, this podcast reminds you that no matter how messy your story is, with God, your future is full of hope and endless possibilities.
Episodes
Many women in the trenches live with chronic disrespect starting in childhood, showing up in friendships, and continuing into intimate relationships. Some even experience it from people who they shared their struggles with. Over time, that disrespect slowly reshapes how a woman sees herself.
In this episode, JKO explores how disrespect erodes identity and shares seven steps that can help rebuild self-respect.
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Peace can feel impossible when you’re in the middle of life’s challenges. In this episode, we discuss why peace is hard when trauma and stress overwhelm a woman, and the steps that help women in the trenches of life reclaim their peace.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Why peace feels impossible in long-term stress
Common thieves of peace
Steps to reclaim your peace
Key scriptures: John 14:27, Isaiah 26:3, P...
When you’ve been in the trenches long enough, compromise can start to feel like survival. This episode explores how exhaustion, fear, and not knowing your values lead to quiet compromise and how, step by step, you can realign with who God created you to be.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
How self-protection leads to compromise
Being raised to please, perform, or “keep the peace” trains you to ignore your own ...
Have you ever felt that twinge of pain on seeing a friend’s Facebook highlight? That is the twinge of comparison and though it shows up sometimes as jealousy or envy, we are talking about that twinge that makes us wonder if you’ve been forgotten. This episode explores how comparison steals our peace and distorts our worth, and reminds us that our worth was written long before the timeline we see online.
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Have you learned to smile through the pain, to “forgive and move on,” to shrink your rage into something polite and acceptable? Repressed and unspoken anger turns inward but when purified by purpose, it can lead to advocacy, creativity, and healing. If you are a woman who knows what it feels like to seeth with that silent but simmering force that shows up in sarcasm, cynicism and irritability, this episode i...
From the fear of rejection to the fear of being alone, from staying quiet to keep the peace to walking on eggshells for approval, we explore how fear shows up in the lives of women who’ve been overlooked, dismissed, or hurt.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- The voice of fear
- The difference between the fear that protects and fear that paralyzes.
- How fear shows up as “wisdom” or “self-preservation”
- How to he...
Have you ever replayed a moment you wish you could undo over and over again? You may be teetering between conviction and condemnation. This episode explores the difference between guilt that convicts and guilt that condemns, and how guilt can become a path to improving our lives.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The difference between helpful and harmful guilt
The contrast between conviction and condemnation
The...
Shame is one of life’s most painful and powerful emotions and it can destroy us if we allow it. In this episode, we explore how shame takes root, how it hides in our stories, why it silences us, and how we can break free from it.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The effect of shame
How shame attacks our identity and silences our potential
How to counter shame’s lies
The kryptonite that weakens shame
Key Scriptures...
What if gratitude could literally change your brain?
As Canadian Thanksgiving comes up, JKO explores the power of gratitude as a life-changing practice rooted in both neuroscience and scripture.
If you’ve ever struggled to be thankful in the middle of pain, this episode will show you how gratitude can make a difference in life’s painful seasons.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Words change our brains
Grati...
Are you worrying about your marriage, finances, health, children, or even the unrest in our world? Then you know how anxiety can take hold and refuse to let go.
This episode explores the scientific and spiritual reality of anxiety in our lives and how to uncover a path to peace that surpasses understanding.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
God recognizes your anxiety
Science confirms the effect of anxiety
God pro...
If you’ve been wrestling with disappointment, unmet expectations, or regret, OR you’ve been holding tightly to the life you thought you’d have, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Your worth isn’t tied to the life you imagined
Letting go is not weakness
Letting go involves grief, and wrestling with fear and shame
Faith is believing that God is faithful even when life doesn’t match your drea...
This episode shares six powerful lessons from the life and legacy of Charlie Kirk. Whether or not you agreed with him, his story offers insights that can inspire women in the trenches of life. If you believe you are open to learning, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
- Define your mission and focus on it
- Don’t despise the little you have in your hand
- Cultivate kindness in every situatio...
For the woman in the “in-between”, still waiting for her turnaround, her answered prayer, her breakthrough. From Hannah’s waiting and the woman with the issue of blood, learn how faith, honesty, and community sustain us when we’re stuck in that long, slow wait.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The In-Between from the pit to the promise is where your spiritual roots grow deeper
The power that propels lies in you...
For women in the trenches: Discover the power of prayer in the trenches of life from the Washington Post, science and scripture.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Prayer may not always change your circumstances but it calms your body, anchors your worth, and reshapes your relationships
Science shows that prayer reduces stress, anxiety, and improves resilience often more effectively than secular meditation
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Do you find yourself always trying to earn love, safety, or belonging in relationships? Then, this episode is for you. Discover the signs of emotional hustle culture in relationships, its effects on mental and physical health, and how to heal and deal with it.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Links between hustling for love and health issues like insomnia, anxiety, and weight gain
The standard for real love
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Have you ever heard or even believed that people like you should not be talking? That your challenges make you unworthy to add value to anyone’s life? Let’s uncover the truth from the stories of Rahab, Tamar and Annie Lobert, Hookers for Christ.
God doesn’t wait for perfection before He uses us. He chooses you just the way you are.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
The surprising role of Rahab the harlot in G...
Have you ever felt spiritually stuck? Do you feel as if your prayers are dry and your heart is distant? Is your self talk shame and guilt filled? This episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
What spiritual “stuckness” feels like
The difference between performance and presence in your faith walk
Encouragement and a prayer for women feeling numb, distant, or weary
Key scriptures: Isaiah 43:2, Jeremiah...
Back after an unplanned break.
In the midst of loss and grief, faith can be hard and the fear of not being worthy can keep women from living out their purpose. This episode explores how to push through when overwhelm is pulling on you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Grief is strength, not weakness
How fear drives our decisions and actions
What faith looks like in the middle of pain
A prayer for women grieving p...
In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you’re a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you.
JKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Judgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed par...
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