Messy Can't Stop Her
Are you a woman feeling overwhelmed by the chaos, crisis and challenges of life? Are you yearning to do something worthwhile with your life, but feel stuck in a cycle of problems? Join Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO, every Thursday on Messy Can’t Stop Her as she shares scientific insights, practical strategies and biblical wisdom to guide you through life’s struggles. With reflections, inspiring interviews, and heartfelt prayers, you will find the motivation and spiritual encouragement to overcome adversity, cultivate inner peace, and build a joy-filled life. If you are a woman who wants to rise above domestic violence, parenting challenges, and the mental health struggles caused by difficult relationships, this podcast reminds you that no matter how messy your story is, with God, your future is full of hope and endless possibilities.
Episodes
In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you’re a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you.
JKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Judgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed par...
JKO explores the deep impact of losing friends especially when they walk away without explanation. What is true friendship? Why does it hurt so much when people we once trusted choose to disappear? What is the mental toll of these losses? How do we heal? If you're a woman who's lost a friend and has been left confused, heartbroken, and wondering What happened? , this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wi...
In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, JKO shares how yelling cost her her singing voice but self-reflection helped her find peace, gentleness, and healing. She opens up about mental health stigma in faith spaces, the difference between reacting and responding, and her personal transformation through motherhood.
If you're a woman navigating life’s messiness and craving some peace, this episode is...
On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom from this episode
You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different.
Like Africa’s untapped and unprotected resources,...
Advance voting in Canada’s federal election, this Easter weekend, reminded JKO about snap judgment: Fundamental Attribution Error.
In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, she explores how this thinking pattern impacts our wellbeing and what women in the trenches can do to protect themself.
If you’ve ever been misunderstood or misjudged someone else, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
D...
JKO set out to hike her way to healing but pain, a surprising diagnosis, and an unexpected invitation into the water changed everything. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, discover how a closed door led to a new path, fresh joy, and the courage to begin again.
If you're a woman who's ever felt discouraged when life didn’t go as planned, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this ...
In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO reminds us that even in the middle of pain, regret, and unfair circumstances, we may be exactly where we need to be. Through the story of Joseph, we uncover how our current struggles could be positioning us for purpose. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your life’s trajectory, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Your current struggles are a ...
Have you ever felt like the world holds you to a different standard — especially as a mother, a woman, or someone trying to do their best in the midst of chaos? In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO gets real about the crushing weight of double standards and the shame they create.
If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, “Maybe I’m just not enough,” this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom...
In this special episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO shares a heartfelt conversation with Kathy Gleason, host of As I Live and Grieve. Together, they explore the waves of grief, the pain of losing a child and a beloved sister, and the power of healing—especially for mothers. Check out the full episode on As I Live and Grieve.
If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consid...
Chronic stress can silently shape our lives, impacting our health, emotions, and behaviors in ways we don’t always recognize—until it’s too late. In this episode, I share a personal wake-up call that revealed how stress had been taking its toll on my body for years. We’ll explore the science behind stress, how it manifests in our daily lives, and most importantly, how we can fight back. If you’ve ever felt ov...
Many of us live under negative labels, sometimes even believing them. Drawing inspiration from notable figures this episode challenges you to reject false labels and stand firm in the truth of who you are. If you have you ever been misunderstood, labeled unfairly, and even treated differently because of it, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
People's opinions do not define you.
Do n...
JKO encourages you to embrace your vision despite your weaknesses. Your struggles don’t disqualify you—they are the very place where God’s power shines the brightest. If you've ever felt unworthy, inadequate, or stuck, this episode is for you.
If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Your weaknesses do not disqualify you.
Do not let...
JKO opens up about the emotional turmoil that made her miss last week’s episode. She reflects on grief, motherhood, and faithfulness in hard times. If you're going through a difficult season, this episode is for you. You are seen. You are not alone. God is with you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Faithfulness Matters. Even in pain, showing up has value. God honors consistency.
You Are Seen. No matte...
How are you feeling about Valentine’s Day? Excited? Apprehensive? Whether you’re being showered with love or navigating a difficult relationship, this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her is for YOU.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
1. Self-love is a Biblical principle.
2. Celebrate yourself, no matter your relationship status.
3. Treating yourself special sets the standard for how others treat you
4...
These days, friendships dissolve at the speed of a tweet. Cancel culture is real, and betrayal is often public. But are we the kind of friends we'd want in our corner when we are in a crisis?
Looking at real-life examples of friendships tested in the spotlight – Jessica Mulroney & Meghan Markle, Justin Baldoni & Blake Lively – and with guidance from the Word of God, we see what true friendship loo...
In the trenches of life, we all crave deep, meaningful friendships. But sometimes we mistake acquaintances for friends? What do we do when those we trust betray us?
This episode explores the deep desire for true friendship, the pain of disloyalty, and how to discern between real friends and mere acquaintances in 2025.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Not everyone you meet is a friend. Learn to differentiate bet...
Host, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores how comparison and copying impacts us negatively, and can derail our 2025 goals. If you want to overcome feelings of inadequacy, cultivate contentment, and align with your purpose, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
· How comparison and copying can stop you from reaching your goals in 2025.
· Why contentment and self-awareness are ...
This episode dives into the power of faith to overcome life’s challenges and fear as you step into 2025. If you are a woman who has faced setbacks or struggled with doubt, this episode provides practical tools and spiritual encouragement to embrace a victorious year.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
· Faith requires aligning your words and actions with God’s promises.
· Speak life and declare God’...
A lesson on why you should stop waiting for perfect conditions and instead, take a leap of faith and show up as you are. Learn to use what you have now, trusting God to multiply it.
If you are a woman who is stuck waiting for the right time or for things to be perfect, this episode is for you.
Nuggets of wisdom in this episode
Life is happening now, and the world needs what you have to offer, even if it’s not pe...
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