Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain

Most days, you have a to-do list that’s brimming with responsibilities and errands, all begging for a checkmark. 

But here’s a question…

Where is your name on that list? 

Cultivating strength through your own thought leadership is a BIG component of boundary-building. 

But in order to get there and start to pave your path towards your best living and your most meaningful work, you’ve got to be on your lis...

Did you snap at someone you care about recently, and immediately you felt like a terrible person? 

Does it feel like every time you try to “relax”, your mind can’t help but switch to auto-pilot and process the events of the day?

Do you have a time-sucking habit of acting out imaginary conversations in your head?

While the outcomes might look a little different for everyone, the symptom is the same.

Broken boundarie...

Is it time to give yourself a break? 

For high-achievers, the answer is probably a resounding, “yes”. 

But when we’re not used to breaking and delegating and resting as a normal practice, sometimes the universe steps in and decides for us. 

And then we scramble. 

Whether it’s a worldwide pandemic, a painful divorce, or even a broken foot, the path forward offers opportunities for growth and, most imp...

The concept of enough is a loaded one.

It’s full of our own high expectations. And then, it’s weighed down further by the expectations of a society that’s built around the rungs of achievement.

Do more. Be more. Repeat.

But when we take a step back and reflect upon what has been done already, the shift in perspective can be quite sobering.

Who decides when you’ve done enough?

You do. You decide where the finish line ...

When it comes to focusing on our mental and physical well-being, the common cure always seems to be to do….something. 

Buy a book, take a class, get a gym membership, whatever it is, it asks for a time commitment. 

When time is already stretched to capacity, adding anything else just puts more pressure on us to do it all. 

So what if instead of adding, we subtracted?

This week, Karlee explains why all of ...

You make time for the people in your life. You’re the one they call on, and they know they can depend on you to come through when it matters. 

And yet….

In your own moments of need, it doesn’t quite feel like you have the same resources to call upon.

Not only does being the ‘available one’ put a constant draw upon your time and energy, but it leaves you tapped dry when you’re in need of nourishment yourself. 

...

How many times has, ‘Oh, just one more thing’ become a vortex that sucks you back into work mode? 

Then before you know it, 2 hours have blown by and you’re missing that yoga class you really needed today. 

If not knowing when to close your laptop, get up and stretch, go for a walk, or even go on vacation is a common theme in your life, then it might be time to ask yourself…

Who’s drawing my finish line? 

What is enough, exactly?

Who decides when you've achieved it?

A mile-long list that needs to get done before you permit yourself to call it a day…sound familiar? Before you can kick off your shoes and relax on the couch or go for a run or get back to that book that’s been near-impossible to put down, your inner voice is laying down the guilt trip.

When all of those items don’t end up with a check next to them at the end of...

Join us next week as Karlee launches the 13th season of Messy and Magnificent!

We'll be cutting through the clutter and noise to simplify things - to remind ourselves of our best wisdom and how very capable we already are.

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Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media.

Are those two-week vacations not really doing it for you anymore?

Better question…have they ever really done it for you? Packing your bags, catching a plane to some exotic locale, dealing with airport security, shifting into tourist mode for a week, then doing it all again just to come home, how is that considered rest? 

The truth is that we were born into a burnout culture. And the “two weeks PTO” carrot on the stick ai...

When you think about self-care, the term itself implies that it’s just about one person...you.  

But actually, that doesn’t tell the whole story. 

As we move through our lives, we’re supported by stilts. Like a house on the water, you might not always see them holding you up, but you couldn’t be there without them. Those stilts are the hands of your community. Friends, family, partners, and pets, some are just ...

Think about that friend of yours who’s always busy. 

If you want to go to lunch or plan anything with this person, you need to do it a month in advance. 

A spontaneous cup of coffee in the middle of the afternoon? Forgettaboutit. 

And because this friend maintains such a full schedule, there’s a greater level of value that you attach to their time. 

Or maybe, this person is you. 

Squeezing ev...

Your best friend from the neighborhood sends you a text mid-day, asking if you’d like to join them for a walk. 

The sun is shining, your legs are stiff from sitting at the computer all morning, but…

“Too much work to do”. Sad face emoji.  

Seated at your desk, you push through your body’s desire to go. That tug of war feels frustrating. 

You want to, but work. You want to, but the kids. You want to, ...

Do you feel overwhelmed? Frustrated? Rested enough? Success takes work. A lot of it. And you’re probably feeling the side effects of it in your body right now. But ask yourself this…are you successful by your own definition, or sometimes, does it feel like someone else’s?

With so many converging definitions, how do you make sure you’re staying true to your own inherent values? Or should we back up…Do you know what tho...

This season, we’re RECLAIMING REST: why we don’t make it a priority, why we feel guilty about needing it, and most importantly, how to personalize our rest and make it achievable on a micro level. 

When you’re living in a perpetual state of exhaustion, it’s time to ask yourself how much self-sacrifice you’re engaging in, and whose values you’re living by.

All of this busyness and exhaustion is an invitation to replac...

Does the combination of your career success and your “always available” devotion to friends, family, and community often leave you feeling like you’re left with nothing but energetic scraps for yourself?

In other words, how rested are you?

If you’re feeling like you’ve put yourself and your right to rest on the backburner for too long, then this is your invitation to recalibrate.

This week, Karlee launches the 12th season ...

If life has felt less like a cruise and more like a battleship lately, then rest assured that we are indeed all experiencing the same reality. 

And we are in a time where we need a lifeboat. 

On top of the general tumult, you’re also riding the waves of your personal circumstance. We’re navigating loss, employment, health, parenting, friendships, partnerships, and finances.  

Minute by minute, we’re bra...

Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcast

Today’s workplace is in a state of evolution. It’s being infused with the thinking of a new generation, and a post-covid one, to boot. 

That means change is happening around us in real-time. And we have to think and do differently. 

The burden of all that shifting is a lot for any leader, and it can lead to b...

Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcast

We live in a world that puts a lot of value on selfless acts. 

But what we don’t do for ourselves comes at a cost. 

If you’re not getting enough sleep or not taking the time to sit down for 20 minutes of nourishment at lunchtime, those deprivations of needs start to add up. Maybe you’re unable to focus at wor...