January 14, 2024 • 18 mins
Year after year, we set resolutions with the best of intentions, only to find them gathering dust by spring. But what if the key to turning those goals into reality lay hidden in the fabric of our motivations and the structure of our support systems? Martha and Jeremy dissect the anatomy of habit formation and the critical role discipline plays in bridging the chasm between aspiration and achievement. Our conversation is a treasure trove of revelations, providing you with actionable strategies to make your resolutions stick. We're not just talking about setting goals; we're redefining the way you approach personal growth.
Martha brings her wealth of experience from managing breast cancer centers, to spotlight the undeniable impact that a nurturing community and relentless positivity have on conquering life's hurdles. Whether it's battling illness or bolstering your resolve to keep a New Year's promise, the support we cultivate is our lifeline. We introduce the 'Book of Awesomeness,' a mighty tool in your arsenal to chronicle triumphs and re-ignite motivation when the road gets rough. Let's embark on this quest together, embracing self-compassion and recognizing that each small victory is a step towards a bountiful and successful year ahead.
To get your journey started, visit: https://inspireweightloss.com/
or contact: (954) 837-8811
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Inspire Weight Loss Davy podcast
.
Drug-free, sustainable,life-changing weight loss.
Here's your host, marthaSavloff.
Jeremy (00:14):
Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode
of the Inspire Weight Losspodcast.
Everyone, happy New Year.
It is 2024.
I am your co-host, jeremy Wolf,joined by, of course, your host
, martha Savloff.
Martha, it's been a while sincewe've seen each other.
Martha (00:32):
Yes, happy New Year.
My favorite holiday.
Honestly, I love the New Yearfor some reason.
Jeremy (00:40):
I mean, I got to imagine it has a lot to do with what
you do with your business andInspire Weight Loss, because
everybody tends to make NewYear's resolutions and set up
for a great and prosperous year.
But I think oftentimes and I'mguilty of this, as many others
are the year comes around.
(01:00):
We make all these resolutionsto ourselves and say we're going
to do this, that and the other,and then a lot of times, a
month goes by, two months go byand we're back to our same old
habits, same old routines.
So I thought what a better timeto talk about that topic and
why it is that people tend tofail with all these resolutions
that they make around the NewYear's.
So please enlighten us, shareyour expertise.
Martha (01:23):
Yeah, this is definitely a hot topic for right now, and
it's actually one that we allneed to do.
Like life works in seasons, andso when we have the New Year,
it's like a new beginning, a newseason, new opportunities, and
I know it's just like the nextday, but really it's about
mindset, right?
Jeremy (01:44):
Absolutely, it's about mindset.
Martha (01:45):
So the New Year's resolution is getting like a bad
rep, and that's because it'skind of known that the
resolutions just roll over, likeback in the day minutes, when
minutes used to roll over forcell phones.
Well, it's like resolutionsjust roll over to next year,
(02:06):
next year, next year, and thenwhen you're past by, you're
still writing the same thing.
So I want to talk about why doresolutions often fail?
Because, man, that's happenedto me and I'm sure it's happened
to most people that arelistening or watching.
Jeremy (02:23):
It's called human nature , right, yeah, we're creatures
of habits, and forming newhabits, especially as you get
older, becomes more and more andmore challenging, and you
really got to be diligent tocontinue with that yeah.
Martha (02:38):
And there's different reasons why that happens in
people's lives and, for example,the first one.
The first one is what's yourdriver?
And we talk about that as fireweight loss, because your driver
of wanting this resolution orthis goal has to be deep,
(02:59):
because if it's not deep, thenit's not important enough to do
it, like you tend to push it tothe side, push it to all.
I'll start on Monday.
Oh, I'll do this on Tuesday,because then everything else
takes presidents over that.
So the first thing is what'syour driver?
Why is this important for you?
Why are you writing this downas a goal and making sure that
(03:21):
it's a good, deep driver thatmakes sense.
Jeremy (03:26):
Oh, absolutely.
It's funny that you mentionedthat.
And yeah, it's so important tohave a higher of why and
everything that you do.
I was listening to a podcastyesterday I think it was Joe
Rogan and David Goggins.
I went on a run, I waslistening to a podcast and
Goggins was talking about howand I say this all the time
everybody in society is lookingfor a quick fix.
(03:46):
That's right.
I want seven minute ads.
I want to get a overweight, soI want to get a tummy tuck.
I want to do the surgery, butthat stuff tends to not stick
because you're not putting inthe work, you're not putting in
the pain, the suffering, you'renot doing what's required to
stick with it.
So when you actually go throughthe blood, sweat and tears of
the process to get better likethat, you tend to create those
(04:08):
habits that we talked about thatkeep you there and keep you
moving forward.
So, yeah, and to do that, youabsolutely have to have a higher
purpose.
It can't just be a surfacelevel thing.
Martha (04:19):
For sure, 100%, and it's like anything.
How I say it to our clients?
It's like everything requiresmaintenance.
You wash your car one time,that doesn't mean it's going to
be clean for the rest of yourlife.
You change the oil one timeDoesn't mean that you're going
to have fresh oil.
The rest we're the same.
So your driver for that goalhas to be deep.
(04:41):
And one of the things that oursociety does limited and it
gives us a lot o fo great.
These things that happen forprovide us with a better and
they use this word veryfrequently, but it's not that
effective is a word motivation,Like I need to be motivated to
do this or I need motivation.
And you know what the problemwith motivation is that
motivation comes in goals.
Jeremy (05:03):
And you can be motivated .
Martha (05:05):
Today, you know, to go out and work, or go out and go
for a run, or for tomorrow youmay not be.
So what's going to happen?
You're going to submit to notbeing motivated, that they just
not do it, or you're going to bedisciplined.
Jeremy (05:23):
And that's what took the word out of my mouth, did I
Well?
Yeah, no, you have to bedisciplined, because this
discipline trumps motivation.
If you're not motivated, butyou're disciplined, you'll still
do the thing that you don'twant to do, and that's a drive
you to success.
Martha (05:36):
And people cling to that word so much motivation.
I need motivation, I'm motivatedand really that we need to
change that word to disciplinein order to really, you know,
tackle goals and do things thatwe want to accomplish in life,
in every aspect of our life, notjust weight loss or, you know,
our weight right, okay.
(05:57):
So number two not setting theproper action steps.
There's a saying that I don'tdislike, but it's not.
For me is not true, and it'sknowledge is power.
That is to me.
That's just not true, becauseyou can have knowledge of all
(06:18):
sorts of things, but thatdoesn't mean you do anything
with it.
I feel like the proper isapplied, knowledge is power,
right.
So applied is an action,applied is an action word.
So, you know, you have theseNew Year's resolutions and
you're like yeah, I want to lose20 pounds.
(06:38):
I want to you know this and thatand it's like okay, so like,
what are you going to do toreach that goal?
Jeremy (06:44):
Like, what is your plan?
What are your action steps toget there?
Martha (06:47):
Yeah, they stop at the thought of the goal but they
don't take it to the next step,which is like properly setting
goals or action steps.
I should say right, and it'snot just like any action.
So, oh, I'm going to starttomorrow and you know, go, go
run, whatever.
It has to be like specificactions, like one action has to
(07:10):
have specific things.
So what I mean by that, it'slike okay, so what's the act?
What is the goal for?
Number one?
Number two what's the action Ihave to take for that goal?
Number three is that actionmeasurable or not?
Number four like is itachievable?
Like I'm going to go run fivemiles tomorrow?
(07:30):
There's no way I'm going to runfive miles tomorrow.
You know, it's like you have tohave realistic you know action
items right.
So make it.
Make it like little, small baby, step action.
Make sure that you can getthere.
It's irrelevant enough for you.
And then time bound, like giveyourself time, like I want to
(07:52):
hit this goal.
I want to, I want to achievethis goal with these action
items and by this date.
That's what you want to dobecause, if it's just like I'm
going to.
I'm going to lose 20 poundsthis year, you know.
And then there's nothing toback it up.
Guess what's going to happen?
That rollover.
I talked about earlier.
Jeremy (08:13):
You'll be saying the same thing next year.
But no, you'd be amazed.
People would be amazed thathaven't done this before and I
try to do it as much as I can,but I'm guilty as much of the
next person.
You tend to get overwhelmed bythese big goals.
But when you break things downinto small, incremental steps
where you just do something very, very small daily and and you
(08:37):
know it could be a few differentthings, and after a week, two
weeks, three weeks, where youstart building those daily
habits and it becomes so secondnature that you don't even think
about it anymore and you feellike, yeah, it's not a chest,
it's not a chore anymore, it'ssomething that you wanna do.
You just kind of break it downinto little, little pieces and
build up from there.
Martha (08:58):
So Sure, I tell clients that you can train your body to
do anything, and you really can.
The hard part is that peopleoperate in the emotion.
So, for example, what do youfeel like eating today?
So you're basically allowingyour body to tell you what to
(09:22):
eat, but you have to flip that.
You have to take control ofyour body and say this is what
I'm going to feed my body today.
You see the difference.
So, if we are intentional aboutgoing about it that way, then
we can train our bodies to doanything, anything at all.
(09:45):
One of the things that we'vetalked about before is me waking
up early in the morning.
So I have to say though thatwas my 2023 New Year's
resolution was to wake upearlier, and I did it.
It's not a rollover.
I'm very proud of myself, butthat's a tough one for me.
But, yeah, it's like takecontrol of yourself.
(10:06):
Don't allow something else tobe the driver or the decision
maker.
Don't let your body be thedecision maker.
You need to be the decisionmaker.
What happens with your body?
So, yeah, you can train yourbody to do anything.
Okay.
Number three focus on theprocess, not the end results.
So we've touched on that right,like they focus on the end
(10:28):
results instead of the process,and that's where the action
steps come in.
Number four procrastinationversus consistency, and one of
the things that I find thatlisten, it's for real, jeremy,
like I get it, I'm guilty of itThings become a priority before
(10:49):
myself, and one of the big onesis, like employers, like
employees, are so busy and theyhave to work, and they work long
hours and this and that, and Iget it a hundred percent, but at
what cost?
Right, you have to see, createthose boundaries that allow you
(11:11):
to be a priority, because if youwanna continue working that way
, you wanna continue taking careof your family and become a
grandma and be able to runaround with people, then you
need to be or run around withyour grandkids.
You need to be a priority,because if not, you're gonna
work yourself to the place thatyou're not gonna be able to do
(11:31):
those things.
So one of the things that's oneof the reasons procrastination
happens is because, again,setting aside and making
everything else a priority.
Jeremy (11:43):
Yeah.
Martha (11:44):
Yeah, number five support system.
Jeremy (11:48):
Ah, yes, yes, support is very, very key and integral to
this process.
Martha (11:53):
Yeah, I have to tell you , jeremy, at one point in my
career I was managing breastcancer centers and we were
seeing patients in the fullspectrum, where they're stage
one to stage five, and the onesthat did the best with their
(12:16):
treatments and they were able togo into remission and this and
that, like their process was theend result was better were the
ones that had a great supportsystem.
That's how powerful it is likecommunity is and having people
around you that believe in youand are your cheerleaders.
(12:37):
That's important.
Jeremy (12:42):
No, 100%, 100%.
If you go at it alone, it couldfeel like you're on a desert
island, stranded, especiallywhen you're going through
difficult times, and it's soimportant to have a support
system in place that can helpyou through this process and
pretty much everything that youdo.
Martha (13:01):
Yeah, think about it like we're talking about New
Year's resolutions, but I wasjust talking about like going
through a journey of cancer,like that's major and the
studies show and I lived inmyself, I saw it myself that
people that had a great supportsystem around them did much
better through their journey ofbeating cancer.
(13:21):
Imagine everything else.
Jeremy (13:25):
Well, we're all energy and we feed off energy, right.
So cancer is a negativemanifestation, a negative energy
.
It's a disease that spreads toyour body.
So if you're around positiveenergy and positive support,
that can do nothing but helpyour cause.
So, yeah, yeah absolutely.
Martha (13:45):
And the last point, jeremy, be nice to yourself, and
that's energy too, right?
So what happens if people failfrom their New Year's
resolutions is because they'renot believing in themselves.
But if you don't believe it, ifyou don't believe that you can
do it, conquer it, get it doneand do it for yourself, and
(14:08):
you're not going to.
Jeremy (14:10):
Yeah, we can be our own worst enemies.
We don't give ourselves enoughcredit for the good things that
we do.
We tend to focus on all thethings that we mess up and all
the poor mistakes we make.
But you really have to flip theswitch on that and look at it
through a different lens andrealize that everybody makes
mistakes.
Everybody has problems, and thebest that you can do is learn
(14:30):
from them, as mistakes just dobetter, moving forward and give
yourself a break.
Right, life is short.
Martha (14:37):
And do that.
I had to learn that myselfbecause I was super critical
about myself.
I had kind of like overachiever, and that came from.
That came from some kind ofchildhood trauma with my dad and
I had some things that I had towork through.
So that made me like supercritical about myself and make
(14:59):
and I had to like like show himthat I have the goods.
And so then when I didn't dowell and I would mess up, I
would be mean to myself, like,and then when I did do well, it
wasn't enough, and then maybe itwas enough.
But am I supposed to be, youknow, celebrate myself?
(15:22):
You know, am I supposed to belike, is that arrogant?
No, no, in many things I'm abadass and it's okay for me to
say that Absolutely right.
Yeah, I had to go through theprocess of being okay to do that
, jeremy, like I had to gothrough a process to be able to
(15:43):
say you know what, man, I nailedthis thing.
Yeah, so it's okay, you knowwhat?
One thing that's really coolthat we tell clients to do is
like to start a book ofawesomeness.
Jeremy (15:57):
Oh, I like that Book of awesomeness.
Martha (16:00):
Yeah, so you write down on things that you kicked ass
and you were awesome in, andthat you nailed and you did well
.
And when you have a day thatyou're on a down and you're
you're starting to think thatyou're not going to be nice to
yourself, go to that little book, just a little tiny book that
you can have with you or you canput it in your notes and on
(16:23):
your phone, right, whatever itis and go to that book and and
read it, and so you can remindyourself how many things you've
accomplished and how badass youreally are and it's okay to have
a bad day.
Jeremy (16:37):
Yeah, it's going to happen.
So, yeah, I love that awesomethis book.
I've done in the past, you know, journaling where I write down
just three wins I had for theday.
And it's funny, when you startdoing that you find yourself
kind of grasping like, lookingdeeply for those wins, and it's
(16:57):
sometimes it's hard to find thewins.
But what happens is, as you dothat, like I talked about
building these habits, after aweek of doing it consistently,
two weeks of doing itconsistently, you start to,
throughout your day,subconsciously look for those
wins because you know thatyou're going to need to record
them later.
And then by the time you, bythe time you get to the end of
the day, you're like, oh, my god, I have so many I can't even
(17:18):
fit on the page.
And you're getting, you're justreprogramming and training your
mind to move yourself forwardfor success.
So, yeah, lots of, lots ofgolden nuggets here, lots of
good stuff.
2024 is going to be awesome.
I'm super excited.
Martha (17:31):
It is going to be awesome and I hope, I pray, that
it's awesome for everybodythat's watching or listening.
You've got the goods and you beyour own cheerleader, surround
yourself with great people andjust forget about new year's
resolutions.
Let's like reward it to newyear's action.
Let's just take action, let'sdo the thing, let's kill it and
(17:56):
let's celebrate.
Jeremy (17:58):
All right, sounds good, martha, always a pleasure.
Looking forward to seeing youagain soon and to our listeners.
Thank you, as always, fortuning in.
We wish you a wonderful day anda blessed and prosperous 2024
of action and success.
Martha (18:16):
Amen to that.
Jeremy (18:17):
All right, everyone take care.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Thank you for listening to the Inspire Weight
Loss Davy podcast.
To get your journey started,visit inspireweightlosscom or
contact 954-837-8811.
Welcome to the Inspire Weight Loss Davy podcast
.
Drug-free, sustainable,life-changing weight loss.
Here's your host, marthaSavloff.
Jeremy (00:14):
Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode
of the Inspire Weight Losspodcast.
Everyone, happy New Year.
It is 2024.
I am your co-host, jeremy Wolf,joined by, of course, your host
, martha Savloff.
Martha, it's been a while sincewe've seen each other.
Martha (00:32):
Yes, happy New Year.
My favorite holiday.
Honestly, I love the New Yearfor some reason.
Jeremy (00:40):
I mean, I got to imagine it has a lot to do with what
you do with your business andInspire Weight Loss, because
everybody tends to make NewYear's resolutions and set up
for a great and prosperous year.
But I think oftentimes and I'mguilty of this, as many others
are the year comes around.
(01:00):
We make all these resolutionsto ourselves and say we're going
to do this, that and the other,and then a lot of times, a
month goes by, two months go byand we're back to our same old
habits, same old routines.
So I thought what a better timeto talk about that topic and
why it is that people tend tofail with all these resolutions
that they make around the NewYear's.
So please enlighten us, shareyour expertise.
Martha (01:23):
Yeah, this is definitely a hot topic for right now, and
it's actually one that we allneed to do.
Like life works in seasons, andso when we have the New Year,
it's like a new beginning, a newseason, new opportunities, and
I know it's just like the nextday, but really it's about
mindset, right?
Jeremy (01:44):
Absolutely, it's about mindset.
Martha (01:45):
So the New Year's resolution is getting like a bad
rep, and that's because it'skind of known that the
resolutions just roll over, likeback in the day minutes, when
minutes used to roll over forcell phones.
Well, it's like resolutionsjust roll over to next year,
(02:06):
next year, next year, and thenwhen you're past by, you're
still writing the same thing.
So I want to talk about why doresolutions often fail?
Because, man, that's happenedto me and I'm sure it's happened
to most people that arelistening or watching.
Jeremy (02:23):
It's called human nature , right, yeah, we're creatures
of habits, and forming newhabits, especially as you get
older, becomes more and more andmore challenging, and you
really got to be diligent tocontinue with that yeah.
Martha (02:38):
And there's different reasons why that happens in
people's lives and, for example,the first one.
The first one is what's yourdriver?
And we talk about that as fireweight loss, because your driver
of wanting this resolution orthis goal has to be deep,
(02:59):
because if it's not deep, thenit's not important enough to do
it, like you tend to push it tothe side, push it to all.
I'll start on Monday.
Oh, I'll do this on Tuesday,because then everything else
takes presidents over that.
So the first thing is what'syour driver?
Why is this important for you?
Why are you writing this downas a goal and making sure that
(03:21):
it's a good, deep driver thatmakes sense.
Jeremy (03:26):
Oh, absolutely.
It's funny that you mentionedthat.
And yeah, it's so important tohave a higher of why and
everything that you do.
I was listening to a podcastyesterday I think it was Joe
Rogan and David Goggins.
I went on a run, I waslistening to a podcast and
Goggins was talking about howand I say this all the time
everybody in society is lookingfor a quick fix.
(03:46):
That's right.
I want seven minute ads.
I want to get a overweight, soI want to get a tummy tuck.
I want to do the surgery, butthat stuff tends to not stick
because you're not putting inthe work, you're not putting in
the pain, the suffering, you'renot doing what's required to
stick with it.
So when you actually go throughthe blood, sweat and tears of
the process to get better likethat, you tend to create those
(04:08):
habits that we talked about thatkeep you there and keep you
moving forward.
So, yeah, and to do that, youabsolutely have to have a higher
purpose.
It can't just be a surfacelevel thing.
Martha (04:19):
For sure, 100%, and it's like anything.
How I say it to our clients?
It's like everything requiresmaintenance.
You wash your car one time,that doesn't mean it's going to
be clean for the rest of yourlife.
You change the oil one timeDoesn't mean that you're going
to have fresh oil.
The rest we're the same.
So your driver for that goalhas to be deep.
(04:41):
And one of the things that oursociety does limited and it
gives us a lot o fo great.
These things that happen forprovide us with a better and
they use this word veryfrequently, but it's not that
effective is a word motivation,Like I need to be motivated to
do this or I need motivation.
And you know what the problemwith motivation is that
motivation comes in goals.
Jeremy (05:03):
And you can be motivated .
Martha (05:05):
Today, you know, to go out and work, or go out and go
for a run, or for tomorrow youmay not be.
So what's going to happen?
You're going to submit to notbeing motivated, that they just
not do it, or you're going to bedisciplined.
Jeremy (05:23):
And that's what took the word out of my mouth, did I
Well?
Yeah, no, you have to bedisciplined, because this
discipline trumps motivation.
If you're not motivated, butyou're disciplined, you'll still
do the thing that you don'twant to do, and that's a drive
you to success.
Martha (05:36):
And people cling to that word so much motivation.
I need motivation, I'm motivatedand really that we need to
change that word to disciplinein order to really, you know,
tackle goals and do things thatwe want to accomplish in life,
in every aspect of our life, notjust weight loss or, you know,
our weight right, okay.
(05:57):
So number two not setting theproper action steps.
There's a saying that I don'tdislike, but it's not.
For me is not true, and it'sknowledge is power.
That is to me.
That's just not true, becauseyou can have knowledge of all
(06:18):
sorts of things, but thatdoesn't mean you do anything
with it.
I feel like the proper isapplied, knowledge is power,
right.
So applied is an action,applied is an action word.
So, you know, you have theseNew Year's resolutions and
you're like yeah, I want to lose20 pounds.
(06:38):
I want to you know this and thatand it's like okay, so like,
what are you going to do toreach that goal?
Jeremy (06:44):
Like, what is your plan?
What are your action steps toget there?
Martha (06:47):
Yeah, they stop at the thought of the goal but they
don't take it to the next step,which is like properly setting
goals or action steps.
I should say right, and it'snot just like any action.
So, oh, I'm going to starttomorrow and you know, go, go
run, whatever.
It has to be like specificactions, like one action has to
(07:10):
have specific things.
So what I mean by that, it'slike okay, so what's the act?
What is the goal for?
Number one?
Number two what's the action Ihave to take for that goal?
Number three is that actionmeasurable or not?
Number four like is itachievable?
Like I'm going to go run fivemiles tomorrow?
(07:30):
There's no way I'm going to runfive miles tomorrow.
You know, it's like you have tohave realistic you know action
items right.
So make it.
Make it like little, small baby, step action.
Make sure that you can getthere.
It's irrelevant enough for you.
And then time bound, like giveyourself time, like I want to
(07:52):
hit this goal.
I want to, I want to achievethis goal with these action
items and by this date.
That's what you want to dobecause, if it's just like I'm
going to.
I'm going to lose 20 poundsthis year, you know.
And then there's nothing toback it up.
Guess what's going to happen?
That rollover.
I talked about earlier.
Jeremy (08:13):
You'll be saying the same thing next year.
But no, you'd be amazed.
People would be amazed thathaven't done this before and I
try to do it as much as I can,but I'm guilty as much of the
next person.
You tend to get overwhelmed bythese big goals.
But when you break things downinto small, incremental steps
where you just do something very, very small daily and and you
(08:37):
know it could be a few differentthings, and after a week, two
weeks, three weeks, where youstart building those daily
habits and it becomes so secondnature that you don't even think
about it anymore and you feellike, yeah, it's not a chest,
it's not a chore anymore, it'ssomething that you wanna do.
You just kind of break it downinto little, little pieces and
build up from there.
Martha (08:58):
So Sure, I tell clients that you can train your body to
do anything, and you really can.
The hard part is that peopleoperate in the emotion.
So, for example, what do youfeel like eating today?
So you're basically allowingyour body to tell you what to
(09:22):
eat, but you have to flip that.
You have to take control ofyour body and say this is what
I'm going to feed my body today.
You see the difference.
So, if we are intentional aboutgoing about it that way, then
we can train our bodies to doanything, anything at all.
(09:45):
One of the things that we'vetalked about before is me waking
up early in the morning.
So I have to say though thatwas my 2023 New Year's
resolution was to wake upearlier, and I did it.
It's not a rollover.
I'm very proud of myself, butthat's a tough one for me.
But, yeah, it's like takecontrol of yourself.
(10:06):
Don't allow something else tobe the driver or the decision
maker.
Don't let your body be thedecision maker.
You need to be the decisionmaker.
What happens with your body?
So, yeah, you can train yourbody to do anything.
Okay.
Number three focus on theprocess, not the end results.
So we've touched on that right,like they focus on the end
(10:28):
results instead of the process,and that's where the action
steps come in.
Number four procrastinationversus consistency, and one of
the things that I find thatlisten, it's for real, jeremy,
like I get it, I'm guilty of itThings become a priority before
(10:49):
myself, and one of the big onesis, like employers, like
employees, are so busy and theyhave to work, and they work long
hours and this and that, and Iget it a hundred percent, but at
what cost?
Right, you have to see, createthose boundaries that allow you
(11:11):
to be a priority, because if youwanna continue working that way
, you wanna continue taking careof your family and become a
grandma and be able to runaround with people, then you
need to be or run around withyour grandkids.
You need to be a priority,because if not, you're gonna
work yourself to the place thatyou're not gonna be able to do
(11:31):
those things.
So one of the things that's oneof the reasons procrastination
happens is because, again,setting aside and making
everything else a priority.
Jeremy (11:43):
Yeah.
Martha (11:44):
Yeah, number five support system.
Jeremy (11:48):
Ah, yes, yes, support is very, very key and integral to
this process.
Martha (11:53):
Yeah, I have to tell you , jeremy, at one point in my
career I was managing breastcancer centers and we were
seeing patients in the fullspectrum, where they're stage
one to stage five, and the onesthat did the best with their
(12:16):
treatments and they were able togo into remission and this and
that, like their process was theend result was better were the
ones that had a great supportsystem.
That's how powerful it is likecommunity is and having people
around you that believe in youand are your cheerleaders.
(12:37):
That's important.
Jeremy (12:42):
No, 100%, 100%.
If you go at it alone, it couldfeel like you're on a desert
island, stranded, especiallywhen you're going through
difficult times, and it's soimportant to have a support
system in place that can helpyou through this process and
pretty much everything that youdo.
Martha (13:01):
Yeah, think about it like we're talking about New
Year's resolutions, but I wasjust talking about like going
through a journey of cancer,like that's major and the
studies show and I lived inmyself, I saw it myself that
people that had a great supportsystem around them did much
better through their journey ofbeating cancer.
(13:21):
Imagine everything else.
Jeremy (13:25):
Well, we're all energy and we feed off energy, right.
So cancer is a negativemanifestation, a negative energy
.
It's a disease that spreads toyour body.
So if you're around positiveenergy and positive support,
that can do nothing but helpyour cause.
So, yeah, yeah absolutely.
Martha (13:45):
And the last point, jeremy, be nice to yourself, and
that's energy too, right?
So what happens if people failfrom their New Year's
resolutions is because they'renot believing in themselves.
But if you don't believe it, ifyou don't believe that you can
do it, conquer it, get it doneand do it for yourself, and
(14:08):
you're not going to.
Jeremy (14:10):
Yeah, we can be our own worst enemies.
We don't give ourselves enoughcredit for the good things that
we do.
We tend to focus on all thethings that we mess up and all
the poor mistakes we make.
But you really have to flip theswitch on that and look at it
through a different lens andrealize that everybody makes
mistakes.
Everybody has problems, and thebest that you can do is learn
(14:30):
from them, as mistakes just dobetter, moving forward and give
yourself a break.
Right, life is short.
Martha (14:37):
And do that.
I had to learn that myselfbecause I was super critical
about myself.
I had kind of like overachiever, and that came from.
That came from some kind ofchildhood trauma with my dad and
I had some things that I had towork through.
So that made me like supercritical about myself and make
(14:59):
and I had to like like show himthat I have the goods.
And so then when I didn't dowell and I would mess up, I
would be mean to myself, like,and then when I did do well, it
wasn't enough, and then maybe itwas enough.
But am I supposed to be, youknow, celebrate myself?
(15:22):
You know, am I supposed to belike, is that arrogant?
No, no, in many things I'm abadass and it's okay for me to
say that Absolutely right.
Yeah, I had to go through theprocess of being okay to do that
, jeremy, like I had to gothrough a process to be able to
(15:43):
say you know what, man, I nailedthis thing.
Yeah, so it's okay, you knowwhat?
One thing that's really coolthat we tell clients to do is
like to start a book ofawesomeness.
Jeremy (15:57):
Oh, I like that Book of awesomeness.
Martha (16:00):
Yeah, so you write down on things that you kicked ass
and you were awesome in, andthat you nailed and you did well
.
And when you have a day thatyou're on a down and you're
you're starting to think thatyou're not going to be nice to
yourself, go to that little book, just a little tiny book that
you can have with you or you canput it in your notes and on
(16:23):
your phone, right, whatever itis and go to that book and and
read it, and so you can remindyourself how many things you've
accomplished and how badass youreally are and it's okay to have
a bad day.
Jeremy (16:37):
Yeah, it's going to happen.
So, yeah, I love that awesomethis book.
I've done in the past, you know, journaling where I write down
just three wins I had for theday.
And it's funny, when you startdoing that you find yourself
kind of grasping like, lookingdeeply for those wins, and it's
(16:57):
sometimes it's hard to find thewins.
But what happens is, as you dothat, like I talked about
building these habits, after aweek of doing it consistently,
two weeks of doing itconsistently, you start to,
throughout your day,subconsciously look for those
wins because you know thatyou're going to need to record
them later.
And then by the time you, bythe time you get to the end of
the day, you're like, oh, my god, I have so many I can't even
(17:18):
fit on the page.
And you're getting, you're justreprogramming and training your
mind to move yourself forwardfor success.
So, yeah, lots of, lots ofgolden nuggets here, lots of
good stuff.
2024 is going to be awesome.
I'm super excited.
Martha (17:31):
It is going to be awesome and I hope, I pray, that
it's awesome for everybodythat's watching or listening.
You've got the goods and you beyour own cheerleader, surround
yourself with great people andjust forget about new year's
resolutions.
Let's like reward it to newyear's action.
Let's just take action, let'sdo the thing, let's kill it and
(17:56):
let's celebrate.
Jeremy (17:58):
All right, sounds good, martha, always a pleasure.
Looking forward to seeing youagain soon and to our listeners.
Thank you, as always, fortuning in.
We wish you a wonderful day anda blessed and prosperous 2024
of action and success.
Martha (18:16):
Amen to that.
Jeremy (18:17):
All right, everyone take care.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
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To get your journey started,visit inspireweightlosscom or
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