October 21, 2025 • 35 mins
We challenge the myth that midlife is a decline and show how perspective, functional medicine, and community can turn chaos into clarity. Julie shares candid stories on divorce, hormones, and starting over with humor and heart.
• redefining midlife as opportunity not countdown
• leaving a secure career to rebuild purpose
• divorce without warfare and co‑parenting with respect
• modern dating, romance, and small acts that matter
• men’s midlife health and ending silent suffering
• perimenopause symptoms that don’t look textbook
• normal range vs optimal health in lab results
• functional medicine, hormone testing, and tailored care
• practical tools for sleep, cravings, mood, and energy
• RISE method for release, identity, strategy, and equipment
• community as medicine and self‑advocacy as a habit
Find Julie on Facebook at Julie Cooper Savitz and on YouTube: Julie Savitz — It’s Not Over. “You will learn something and you will laugh and you will not feel alone.”
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Disclaimer:
Martha Savloff is not a medical doctor. The information shared in this podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only and should not replace professional medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making changes to your health or wellness plan.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:02):
Here we are with Julie Savitz.
I am so excited that you are inour midlife madness podcast.
We want to get to know you.
We want to get to know yourmidlife madness experience.
All the things, guys, get readyfor a ride because this Julie, I
was just saying she's a spicyone and we like spicy.
(00:26):
I always say I'm Cuban and I'mspicy too.
So let's do it, right?
Let's do it.
So, Julie, share with us who youare.
Tell us all about yourself.
SPEAKER_02 (00:37):
Yes, I'm going to, but it's so interesting as
you're speaking, Martha.
I I'm like, what is midlife,right?
Like, remember when we wereyoung?
Like my mom was 40.
She was old.
I thought she was old.
So here I am at 53.
Um, I think it's all perspectiveand how you look at it and how
long you take are taking care ofyourself and how long your your
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health is and your mental andyour wellness and stuff.
So, yes, I'm probably overmidlife based on what Chat GPT
would say.
But yes, let's do this.
SPEAKER_00 (01:09):
So you know what?
You're so right, Julie.
The other day I was watching uma health podcast, and uh the
doctor that was on there wassaying that if you really like
calculate midlife, you know, ifif the average person passes
away at 86, then midlife is 43.
I'm like, holy moly, that sucks.
(01:31):
But however, thank god, like youjust said, um you remember like
in back in the day, the theyearbooks from like the 70s,
yes, and the 80s.
SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
Scratch people out instead of deleting scratch
people's faces.
I didn't know this, yeah.
Yeah, I did that too.
You had to look at first, soit's not yes, and then you were
like, I deleted you.
SPEAKER_02 (01:56):
Now you could hit a button and delete, but that was
our deletion.
SPEAKER_00 (01:59):
Yes, yes, when you would look at those yearbooks,
people look so much older thantoday.
Like so much older, and sothankfully for us that we're
we're here today, that you know,there's so many different things
that we can do to help us in ourhelp our longevity.
So midlife might be differentthan what it was before, you
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know what I mean?
But that's that's crazy when hewas saying that that if you
really calculate midlife, it'sreally this, and it's like, no,
I don't receive that.
SPEAKER_02 (02:30):
I'm 50 years old, so and you know what it's
perspective and motivation,right?
It is there's so many people,and I'm I'll get into my store
in a second that see it as we'rejust I'm just gonna lay here and
wait and retire and say in a jobI don't love because I can't do
anything new, and it's allperspective.
(02:50):
And this is my always mymessage, Martha.
I know it's yours also.
Every day is a new opportunityto start something new, to gain
your confidence, to talk withsomeone to see where you're
going next.
Because I think so many women inparticular feel stuck after a
certain age, or stuck in amarriage, or stuck at a weight,
or stuck in their story, stuckin a they're waiting for their
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pension or they're waiting toretire in a job they do not
like.
So I'm like, it's time, ladies.
Let's do it.
Let's let's it's time.
SPEAKER_00 (03:22):
You know what?
I was I was checking out yourFacebook um page, and I love I
think your podcast is calledIt's Not Over, right?
Correct, correct.
Like, oh my gosh, I love that somuch.
It's not over.
It's like that's what you werejust saying.
It's not over.
SPEAKER_02 (03:39):
It's not over, and it it's it's it's everything you
want it to be.
There, there are women, uh youknow, we call it like the
sandwich generation.
Their parents are getting olderand their kids are leaving the
house and going to college, andso many people like boohoo! I'm
like, holy crap, how awesome isthat?
You did your job with your kids,it's your time now.
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Like, how amazing! What anopportunity to say, what do I
want now?
It's it's different stages, andyou have to keep turning pages.
So, and you know what?
I I recognize that quickly, mystory.
Um, I was in I was a middleschool guidance counselor for 24
years, which gets me ready foranything, really.
(04:21):
I highly recommend it.
Yeah, it's like hazing that theydo in college.
But it was, and and that was mylove.
And along came COVID.
And although I had 24 years inthe school system and I wasn't
at the retirement age yet, Ididn't like what I was doing.
I was like that, you know, onthis, and they had me counting
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tests and doing a lot of testingbecause the tests here in
Florida schools get grades, andthere would be a note on my door
or Julie Savage can't see youtoday.
And I was thinking this is notexactly what I went to school
for.
It's not, it's not feeding mysoul.
So I decided I'm going to dosomething else.
And I've done a few things,Martha, and true transparency.
(05:03):
Some things have worked out,some things haven't.
I started a business that wasnot successful, but okay.
It I learned something fromthat.
So now I have devoted my life,just like you have, to women and
men, but mostly women over theage of 40, 50, kind of to open
their eyes to give them a map asto what's next.
(05:24):
So I learned through my owndivorce.
It's it's it's nice to berelatable and to know people's
story because I have anextremely amicable divorce.
Like my ex-husband and I, wetravel together and stay in the
same room and with my boyfriendif I have one, which changes
often.
Um there's some horror storiesout there with divorces.
(05:45):
It is awful.
You because you know whathappens.
I see it on my and people wantto win.
There's no win in divorce.
So you focus on yourself, youfocus on your your kids and your
children because they'rewatching.
Um, I think this nextgeneration, even Martha, they're
not gonna get married becausethey they see for a lot of
people the institution is notwhat was like you see in a
(06:07):
Disney movie, right?
Like, oh, you're gonna put on aslipper and it's gonna be
amazing, and all of a sudden,right?
SPEAKER_00 (06:13):
You're tired.
That's a bit sad too.
I I was also listening tosomebody yesterday, um, and they
were also talking about likethis generation um are not prone
to wanting to have childreneither.
SPEAKER_02 (06:28):
No, they're not, and how sad is that it's very sad.
SPEAKER_00 (06:32):
It's very, very sad.
We need to bring romance back.
Yes, yes, we need to bringromance back, we need to bring
the beauty of family and umrecording, men do not know open
the door, or do something nice,or say someone's pretty, or send
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a flower.
SPEAKER_02 (06:54):
It's all social media, and it is gets in your
brain, and men there are a lotof women, which which is great
that do want to do things ontheir own, but down deep, most
men want to be treated like aking, and that's totally
understandable.
And a woman wants to feeltreated like a bit of a queen,
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so open the door.
You remember we used to makecassette tapes for people?
How sweet is that?
What happened to that?
Simple little things that took asecond that was super
meaningful.
Now it's people texting Martha,and so many things get lost in
translation, and um, it it's alittle bit sad.
I'm hopeful that it's going tochange, and you know, you we
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have the same-sex marriages andwhatever it is, and love is love
if that's what you want to do.
And but I just think um it'sit's respect, it is especially
that midlife madness.
Relationships as you get older,there's stepchildren and an
ex-wife, and you're you alreadyhave two homes, and it's
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building them together.
It's not like you're 20 andyou're building a house
together, so it's challenging,but it can be so awesome if you
really know your love and youknow what you want and you're
okay being alone, which is hard,then that's when it happens.
That's when the magic happens.
So, yeah, yeah, yeah.
(08:22):
So here I am.
I kind of devoted my life tospeaking to women post-divorce
or during transitions to kind ofsee that there is better and
there is more.
And again, it's not over.
So it's it's been kind of fun,it's it's a lot of fun.
So it is um releasing, you know,releasing what you have.
(08:43):
I have this rise technique, theyrelease what they've had,
identify where you're going.
We come up with a strategy.
I'm not, you know, I want togive people tools.
I don't want someone calling meat 12 at night or one in the
morning.
What do I do?
So we've done our job, peoplehave tools, and you know, off
into the world.
So it's just a a chapter change.
SPEAKER_00 (09:05):
I love that because it's very needed.
I have a um a great friend ofmine that's going through a
divorce.
Um, it's very sad and it's verynasty.
SPEAKER_01 (09:17):
Yeah, I guess.
SPEAKER_00 (09:18):
It's very nasty.
And and the the hard part isthat the nasty one is the other
party, it's not her.
So then it's just it's reallytaking a toll on her, you know,
because it's so many differentemotions, right?
Like you want to be angry, youyou're sad, you're sad for your
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kids, yeah, you know.
Um, you want to punch them inthe face and you can't you want
to take them to the cleaners,and that's not, you know, you
don't want to pay all theattorney fees if you do.
Like it's just there's so manydifferent emotions that come
with it.
Um, and so I I think that it'sso needed that there's somebody
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like you, you know, that is thatwill help help these these
ladies and and guys too, right?
SPEAKER_02 (10:08):
Men have a very hard time midlife for men, they have
dysfunction with their thing,and they're getting older and
they're getting bald, and it isvery difficult for men.
It's harder for them to ask forhelp, but there's also a switch
there too, I'm noticing, whichis so beautiful.
SPEAKER_00 (10:27):
And I'm glad you said that because um I feel like
sometimes I'm an advocate formen because um I know that that
you know, obviously women, youknow, it's important, all those
things, but I feel like women gothrough a lot of things, and we
we talk about it and and we wethink about menopause.
(10:48):
When you think about menopause,we think about women.
Um, but men go through a lottoo.
SPEAKER_02 (10:54):
Men go through a lot.
You know what happens withwomen, Martha?
With women, they someone willtell you, oh, go do yoga or go
do this, or we're prone to go togo try it out, right?
We're prone to try it out.
But a guy they'll be like,Here's some Viagra and leave me
alone.
Like they never really get thatsort of person listening to
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exactly what's going on, andthey have this macho thing
that's happening, but it's it'svery real for men, also.
SPEAKER_00 (11:22):
Yep, it's the way my husband says it.
They uh we suffer in silence,yes, yes, women are also prone
to just talk about it, like whatwe're doing right now.
We just talk about it, we'rewe're transparent, we you know,
all these different things.
I have a women's conference andI'm speaking at this weekend, we
talk about all things, but mentend to be a bit more closed and
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and they suffer in silence.
And it's okay to talk about thefact that men also need help.
And and so that's part of myheart is obviously helping women
all day, every day, but alsolike saying, Hey guys, you know,
guys go through stuff, and andwhen they have um like sexual
deficiencies, that's that hurtsthem.
SPEAKER_02 (12:07):
Yes, yes, it's your ego, it's your ego, but every
everyone, it happens toeveryone, yeah.
So it they're not alone, they'renot alone.
Women will get together and belike, oh, my period was like for
30 days late, oh great, or youknow, women are more prone to
talk about it, or dryness, orwhatever, or hormones, hormone
(12:28):
replacement.
Like it's it's it's an opendiscussion as it should be.
And um I think for men it's notthey feel alone, or their women
emasculate them, or they don'trealize it's something normal.
They don't realize a lot oftimes, Martha, it's their diet
and their exercise.
So it's it's all connected andkind of putting like a puzzle
(12:49):
together.
SPEAKER_00 (12:50):
Oh, yeah.
So tell me, what's what's yourmidlife madness story?
It we talk a lot about menopausehere.
Yeah.
Um, did you go through anythingduring menopause or what's your
story?
SPEAKER_02 (13:03):
Okay, so the interesting thing for me is I'm
still dropping eggs.
It's the weirdest thing.
I'm the only one out of all myfriends.
I drop an egg every month.
So I think the misconception isthat menopause happens when you
stop getting your period for ayear or six months.
I promise you it is not.
This is a perimenopause.
(13:24):
Um, so I literally, I just wantto say for like three months,
Martha.
I I couldn't literally, and I'ma pretty happy person.
I'm a high functioning person ona regular day.
Um, I was bald up in my bed.
SPEAKER_00 (13:39):
Oh, wow.
SPEAKER_02 (13:40):
I didn't want to go to sleep.
I did not want to wake up.
And when I did, I was faking itfor my kids and pretending to be
normal.
I knew that something was goingon inside of me that was not
making sense.
So I suffered.
I really suffered.
I have um my very good friendwould have to come over some
mornings.
Her name is Amy.
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I said, Amy, oh my god, you needto come to my house this morning
because I cannot get my kid outof bed.
I did not have a call because Iwasn't sleeping, I wasn't
eating, and I'm faking it allday long.
Like I'm fine and everything'sfine.
And um, I I knew, I just knewsomething was was off.
I knew something was off.
So I ended up months of that,which I wish I didn't take so
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long.
I actually was very, very vocalon social media, which was a lot
of people were so thankful.
Like Julie, thank you fortalking about it.
I there was um um all sorts ofstuff in my family history,
depression and things that wascreeping up, and it was my
hormones, and it was, you know,I getting older is not fun.
So I ended up going to afunctional medicine doctor.
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I'm a big fan of functionalmedicine and big fan.
SPEAKER_00 (14:50):
I'm so glad because I was gonna ask you what did
your doctor say, because I andand just let me just share for
one second, because I I wantpeople to catch this, it's
important who you go to.
I was suffering so bad, Julie.
I was I was bleeding three weeksout of four weeks a month.
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I was my breast felt like I justhad a baby.
You know, when you have a babyand you're you're you it's like
if somebody touches your breast,you want to kill them because
they're so you know painful.
Yeah, my breasts were like thatfor three weeks out of four
weeks a month.
I am a super high functionalperson, productive.
I my brain fog was crazy.
(15:35):
Um I felt bad for my husbandbecause my mood was all over the
place, like I was superagitated, and I'm in this
business, so I knew that okay,something's going on.
I'm in pre pre uh perimenopausefor sure.
Um, this was a couple of years,it was I was 47.
So I went to my my GYN doctorand they checked my my hormones
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and they're like, You're fine.
And I'm like, I'm not fine.
SPEAKER_01 (16:01):
Good.
SPEAKER_00 (16:02):
My body is not telling me that I'm fine.
This is not me.
Like, I'm not supposed to bebleeding three weeks out of four
weeks, right?
Right.
My libido was I like I had nosexual desire whatsoever.
It was down to the dumb so itwas bad.
So I'm like, you know what?
I I just I'm not fine.
I know that I'm not fine.
I'm going, I'm gonna go to afunctional medicine doctor,
(16:24):
right?
So come to find out my my I wasestrogen dominant.
Interesting so my estrogenlevels were like out of whack.
I had to start doing uh low doseof progesterone.
As soon as I started doing that,I was back to normal.
Yeah, yes, it's like the thelight came down from heaven,
right?
(16:47):
Yes, and I was like, see, I um Icome from from healthcare, so
I'm not anti-medical or any ofthat.
Um my my mother-in-law was adoctor, my mom worked on you
know, all the things.
But the problem is is there's adifference between looking at
blow work and seeing that youraccounts are within a range.
(17:10):
Okay, you're within range andyou're fine, versus being
optimal.
SPEAKER_02 (17:16):
Right, right.
SPEAKER_00 (17:18):
I don't I don't want to be in range, I want to
freaking be optimal.
You deserve it too.
So that's so I'm so glad.
I say all that to say, and Itell this to our audience all
the time go check your hormones,go to a functional medicine
doctor.
It's worth the money.
Yes.
Um, and so I'm glad that youwent to a functional medicine
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doctor.
SPEAKER_02 (17:41):
Yes, and and it's so interesting that that I have a
different story, shameful, thatI went to my gynecologist who I
love.
She birthed both of mydaughters.
Um, I went to her when I startedto feel funky, and she literally
didn't even do a hormone test onme.
She gave me, because she hadsome drug rep coming into her
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office, she gave me estrogen.
She's like, here, take this,come back in a few weeks.
I'm like, what?
I I didn't, she didn't evencheck my levels.
So, and there are doctors, youknow what the research shows
that um gynecologists um they gothey're in school for four
years.
They get three months, that allthey get is three months of
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training on menopause.
And it's hasn't happened to you,it will, or it's going to, or it
has.
So I it's it's very, very sad.
And and you know what, when Idid get my hormone levels
checked, my estrogen was fullyfine.
I was like you, it was myprogesterone and my testosterone
was at zero.
So it's not for everyone.
I have a lot of friends thatlisten to me and they had breast
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cancer or they can't takecertain hormones.
I'm not a doctor, right?
I just like to share my storythat for some we women it's a it
is a godsend, and it's somethingso simple as something you're
not making it anymore.
So why not?
You if you have a headache, youwould take an aspirin.
SPEAKER_00 (19:03):
Yep.
It's it's important for peopleto know um that you have to
check your levels because noteverybody's the same, it's not a
one size fits all when it comesto this.
So make sure that you go to theto your provider, make sure they
check their levels, uh, or yourlevels, because um it's
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important that you're you haveuh the right balance of your
hormones.
SPEAKER_02 (19:28):
Yes.
I would love to, Martha.
I don't know if we can even dothis on the show, but I I have
the the the you know, when youtake the lab work that my
functional medicine doctor, anda lot of it, that's a whole
nother conversation.
We'll jump on another day howinsurance didn't want to pay for
it.
Right.
Um awful, but even maybe I couldadd in the notes, I'll take my
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name out, just the things thatmy doctor checked for that threw
back kind of the okay, Julian.
It was very intense.
Like I think he checked for atick or something that I thought
was kind of wild, but it's justfinding out what the problem is
because if you you don't knowthe problem, you don't have a
solution.
And that was at zero, mytestosterone, and women think,
oh, that's okay.
We're not supposed to havetestosterone.
(20:10):
Yeah, you are.
SPEAKER_00 (20:12):
Yeah, we are.
We are absolutely supposed to.
Um, yeah, I can we can add that,and um that's what functional
medicine doctors do.
Yes, yes, they they dive deep.
I was with mine for two and ahalf hours, yeah, and they
checked every nook and cranny ofmy body, my lifestyle,
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emotional, all the things.
We even talk about spiritualthings, like we talked about all
the things.
Beautiful, and they're lookingat the whole person, the whole
person, and really diving intothe root causes, which is
important because you know youdon't want to slap band-aids on
these things, yeah, becauseyou're you band-aids have to be
replaced, so you're gonna beband-aiding forever.
(20:57):
Just like let's just let's justgo to the root cause of things
and let's get it done.
Um, and so that's what what theydo.
I'm a big, big fan of functionalmedicine doctors, and there's a
lot more, like our society isgoing that direction, and it's
true, it's it's it's not paid byinsurance, but you know what?
(21:18):
Like, you the cost of going to afunctional medicine doctor, in
my experience, is like theequivalent of two dinners,
right?
SPEAKER_02 (21:26):
Right.
I always think Martha, too, andI think we've had this
conversation before.
What are people spending moneyon, right?
They'll go do dinners, but theywon't hire you as their coach to
be like, hey, so no one'sbridging the gap for them
between emotional well-being andphysical well-being because you
can't have one without theother.
You just can't.
SPEAKER_00 (21:46):
It's so true.
SPEAKER_02 (21:48):
I'll tell you what happened to have a funny story.
I have a lot of funny stories.
So, my functional medicinedoctor who I ended up going to,
he's a doctor, he's up in Boca.
Um, he ended up hiring me tocome in as a life coach because
he saw the need to kind of againbridge that gap between you
know, medical and and spiritual,like you said, and sometimes we
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just do breathing, or sometimeswe just do hey, that must be
really hard.
I'm so sorry that's happening toyou.
So I think it's very fastforward, and I do think it's
having its moment as it should,and I'm so happy.
So I wanted to share that thatabout my um my gynecologist,
because it was so we I no longersee her, but she was like, Here,
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just take this.
Like I'd see you get that icksometimes and you know it's
wrong, as women especially werevery in tune.
Listen to that, super important.
SPEAKER_00 (22:42):
Yep, listen to to your to your gut, right?
Because it's normally right whenwhen my doctor told me that, I
was like, Yeah, no, and it'sokay to be an advocate for
yourself, and it's okay to getsecond opinions, and it's okay
to do something about it becauseyou don't you don't have to
suffer.
Correct, you don't have tosuffer.
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Um I'm Cuban, Julie, and in myin my community, in my you know,
um I for I'm first generationAmerican, um, and we were taught
to put your head down, work yourass off, don't bring attention
to yourself, just do what yougotta do.
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If you gotta suffer throughstuff, suffer through it, you
know, get things done, hustle itout, which there's a lot of
really good things about thatbecause our work ethic is
incredible, you know, we'rehustlers, we're gonna, we're
gonna figure things out and makethings happen.
But on the flip side, it's likeyou know, you're you're you're
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freaking miserable.
So am I supposed to put my headdown and suffer through that?
No, like it's okay.
Right.
And so like it's it's it's notokay to suffer through it
because there's things that youcan do.
There's and so that's ourmessage all the time.
It's like you don't have tosuffer, and like and like your
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podcast, it's not over.
SPEAKER_02 (24:09):
It's not, it's it is so interesting, and you're not
alone, like no one's alone.
I think women feel I'm the onlyone, or it's shameful, and it's
it you know what a big precursoris for that for menopause is for
women that have children thatsuffered with uh um like
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preclamsia or no, um uh come onwhen you when you're not well um
postpartum, postpartum.
Thank you so much.
Yep, that's my menopausehappening.
I can't think it's okay, but inlife madness for finishing my
sentence, I appreciate it.
So it is a precursor that whenyour hormones are not balanced,
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you are a little bit off, andthat's okay.
And it's ask for help and figureit out.
And if that doesn't work, trysomething else.
And if that doesn't work, trysomething else, but know your
people, know your people, yes,and know your girl gang.
I'm big about girl gang at ourage, like being social and
having that kind of community.
SPEAKER_00 (25:17):
I mean, I would not be alive because we're all going
through the same things,correct, correct, all going
through the same thing, somesome worse than others.
Like, I I have I have someclients that are like, I didn't
feel a thing during menopause,and I'm like, You're so lucky.
SPEAKER_01 (25:35):
Yes, yes, but you really want to be like something
are happening.
SPEAKER_00 (25:39):
I had that the other day, actually.
The other day I was talking tosomebody and she's like, No, I
didn't have you know, I don'thave any symptoms, I don't have
this and that.
I'm like, Oh, that's great.
Um, let me ask you a question.
Do you want to eat sugar betweenthe times of 6 30 and 9 30 p.m.
every night?
She's like, Yeah, yeah.
(26:00):
I always like to like eat alittle something sugary at
night.
I'm like, you do understand thatthat's uh hormonal cravings,
right?
Hello.
Yes, and it's menopause is notonly, you know, I'm sweating my
ass off in the middle of the dayfor no reason whatsoever.
There's so many differentsymptoms, like side effects of
(26:21):
menopause that are like some arelike little, you know, very
subtle, and some is like I'm I'mI feel like I'm in a furnace,
right?
There's so many different ones.
SPEAKER_02 (26:32):
And I love what you said earlier, kind of um
noticing it and being cognizantand just noticing when something
starts to go wrong, we wait tillit's awful sometimes.
If I tell you I was balled up inmy bed, I was afraid to go to
sleep because I wasn't sleeping.
And then I got up and I was itwas not well.
(26:52):
I was not well.
So I'm so grateful to everythinghappens for a reason.
I believe that too, um, to sharethat experience with other
women.
It's it's like the weight of theworld is is lifted off of them
because you're now in part of acommunity that you're not alone.
And it's just normal.
It it happens.
It's like there's bookends, likewhen you get your it's so
(27:14):
interesting when you get yourperiod at a young as when you're
young, it's like, hey, like it'sawesome.
And I'm Jewish, we startslapping things and slapping
people, and it's so why is itnot also recognized as something
beautiful when you stop gettingit?
Like, I think we need to changethat script.
It really does.
SPEAKER_00 (27:33):
It's such it has such a negative thing, and it's
it's it's actually a beautifultransition in life.
Yeah, it can be a very beautifultransition in life.
I know that it sometimes doesn'tfeel beautiful, yes, but again,
you can do things to help withthat, but it is a beautiful
transition in life.
Um, let's let's work on thenegative like stigma thing
(27:55):
around it because um god, wedon't need to look at it that
way.
SPEAKER_02 (28:02):
I think we need to we're gonna come up with some
maybe a slogan or something, butit is it it is, it's it's
something so beautiful and to becelebrated and beats the
alternative, right?
That's what I always say.
Beats the alternative, right?
And people are living longer,and it's you know, growing
gracefully.
And again, going back to thesocial media, everyone's putting
(28:24):
filters and like get gettingold.
I'm gonna get wrinkles and I'mgoing to sag in a lot of places,
and I might get a gray hair onmy vagina one day.
I heard so.
I am going to be I'm gonna callyou when it happens, but I'm
okay with that.
That's you know, that means I'malive.
SPEAKER_00 (28:40):
That's so funny.
SPEAKER_02 (28:42):
I love that.
SPEAKER_00 (28:45):
What did you say?
Told you I'd make you laugh.
I love that.
Um, okay, so you went to youryour functional medicine doctor,
they found that your yourtestosterone level was zero.
You started some type of therapyof some sort.
SPEAKER_02 (28:59):
I did.
They put a pellet in my tush,and I was like, uh like you said
with with your uh progesterone,within days I was feel I wasn't
feeling 100% better, but I sawthe change because what my body
wasn't making, I was able tosupplement with some people do
creams.
I did a pellet, it just workedbetter for me.
(29:21):
But again, I tried the cream andthat wasn't the fit.
And it's just like I love whatyou said that you know you're we
know our bodies, and there's nodoctor in the world that could
tell you you're totally finewhen you know you're not feeling
that way.
So being an advocate foryourself, how awesome! And now
you're advocating for otherwomen.
SPEAKER_00 (29:40):
So absolutely, and you are too, and we're both you
know, sending out thesemessages.
Um, we're we're in the sameteam, we're on the same team.
Um, I love that.
I love that we're we're bothdoing this.
Um, there needs to be more, yes.
Uh, and and I, you know, Ireally feel
SPEAKER_02 (30:00):
like people are putting putting more attention
to that and um and investing inthemselves and that is
incredible that's great becauseagain you don't have to suffer
right correct correct so you'rebut you're still dropping eggs
you said every month none of myfriends could believe it like
(30:21):
clockwork like every maybe 31days I'm like I don't for me
it's kind of like I think it'ssupposed to keep you a little
bit younger while you're stilldropping eggs so when I stop
we'll see what happens there andand you know what I might go
back to my doctor and stopproducing something it's an
ongoing thing right it is I'mI'm perimenopausal and my my
(30:43):
functional med doc said this ishow he said it I was like great
he said you're in perimenopausebut you're as fertile as a 15
year old I'm like great yeah nomy tubes are tied I'm not
fertile but I'm like I don'tknow am I supposed to celebrate
(31:04):
that at 50 years old I don'tthink but I don't want to be
fertile the fifth it's a youngperson sport it's a young person
sport and it's funny when when Igot my tubes tied with after my
second daughter that the doctorwas saying to me this doctor
that I no longer use like areyou sure you want to tie your
tubes I'm like a thousandpercent I'm 38 years old this is
I don't want to be talking poopand she asked my husband like
(31:28):
she needed to get the okay fromhim which I thought was really
interesting and I thought thatwas the right thing to ask is it
okay with you so it's just I Ithink we're we're turning pages
and I love the light that we'rebringing to this beautiful thing
that that really should becelebrated Martha should be so
tell me Julie top three thingsthat you want the people that
(31:52):
are watching listening just whatit is if you're there's only
three things that you can shareright now what are those three
things I will first thing youwill never be younger and never
look better than you do today soappreciate that number two I
would say probably like reallyenjoy the the journey right life
(32:14):
is you're in a car you're packedand sometimes you hit a flat
right so you don't just sitthere in the car and a hot car
you call for help so kind ofknowing who your support system
is and the third thing I thinkit's really falling in love with
yourself having some kind ofrelationship with yourself
(32:37):
whether you're married ordivorced or whatever your
situation is um because we'redifferent than we were many
years ago and celebrating yourdownfalls and recognizing the
beautiful things about yourselfand it it shouldn't be that hard
right and I think that's what wedo helping to beauty and things
because it's it's there it'sthere and being open to asking
(32:59):
for help and having that personin your life a coach embrace the
madness yes yes there we goembrace the madness um so how
how can our audience get to knowyou a little bit more do you
have social platforms I do I II'm an old school Facebook
(33:21):
person so I do a lot of stuff onFacebook my name is Julie Cooper
Savitz and my show it's not overis on YouTube.
If you look up Julie Savits it'snot over it's me with like a
pretty pink picture and it's uma little bit raunchy might not
be for everyone but we say itlike it is and just like you do
it's it's entertaining and youwill learn something and you
(33:44):
will laugh and I promise youwill not feel alone.
So you didn't give us too muchof that today you just you you
said the the gray hair in thevagina part I did I did people
that I talk to and people thinkI'm joking not yet because the
only place I get here right nowis my vagina like I don't have
hair on my legs I don't my I'mnot one of these chin hair
(34:06):
person I don't know but myvagina gets a lot of hair but
it's still you know blackalthough I'm a true blonde I get
I get one I get one hair righthere oh you do I do just one I
don't do it so once in a whilejust like legs anymore you know
I still get hairy on the legswell that's a Spanish thing I
(34:29):
think yeah but I'm not like ingeneral I'm not a hairy person
uh but I am getting what's newmidlife madness is the one here
right here but it takes a whileso when I get it off it takes a
while for it to grow back butit's a it's a new new thing I
have to keep an eye on yeah I'veseen a few in my tush if that's
like a thing I don't know I'mdating so I gotta you know get
(34:52):
the mirror down there and seewhat's happening.
One of my arms does and one ofmy arms doesn't so it's all
beautiful it's all beautiful itis what it is I love it.
SPEAKER_00 (35:02):
I love doing this because we're just so
transparent and like I don'tcare I put myself out there
that's you know I feel likethat's encouraging and and it's
irrelatable and you know sharingwith people that they're not
alone so beautiful and messybeautiful and messy beautiful
and messy yes midlife madnessand it's not over thank you for
(35:27):
having me thank you for coming ii'm I'm hoping that this is not
the only time because I think wecan have a lot of fun together I
think so also I think next timewe talk about the insurance and
how some sort of somethinghappening in the world where
they don't want us to be happyas we get older.
Oh yeah I agree with that.
Yes let's talk about that nexttime all right thank you so much
(35:48):
Julie bye Martha bye honey byeeveryone
Here we are with Julie Savitz.
I am so excited that you are inour midlife madness podcast.
We want to get to know you.
We want to get to know yourmidlife madness experience.
All the things, guys, get readyfor a ride because this Julie, I
was just saying she's a spicyone and we like spicy.
(00:26):
I always say I'm Cuban and I'mspicy too.
So let's do it, right?
Let's do it.
So, Julie, share with us who youare.
Tell us all about yourself.
SPEAKER_02 (00:37):
Yes, I'm going to, but it's so interesting as
you're speaking, Martha.
I I'm like, what is midlife,right?
Like, remember when we wereyoung?
Like my mom was 40.
She was old.
I thought she was old.
So here I am at 53.
Um, I think it's all perspectiveand how you look at it and how
long you take are taking care ofyourself and how long your your
(01:00):
health is and your mental andyour wellness and stuff.
So, yes, I'm probably overmidlife based on what Chat GPT
would say.
But yes, let's do this.
SPEAKER_00 (01:09):
So you know what?
You're so right, Julie.
The other day I was watching uma health podcast, and uh the
doctor that was on there wassaying that if you really like
calculate midlife, you know, ifif the average person passes
away at 86, then midlife is 43.
I'm like, holy moly, that sucks.
(01:31):
But however, thank god, like youjust said, um you remember like
in back in the day, the theyearbooks from like the 70s,
yes, and the 80s.
SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
Scratch people out instead of deleting scratch
people's faces.
I didn't know this, yeah.
Yeah, I did that too.
You had to look at first, soit's not yes, and then you were
like, I deleted you.
SPEAKER_02 (01:56):
Now you could hit a button and delete, but that was
our deletion.
SPEAKER_00 (01:59):
Yes, yes, when you would look at those yearbooks,
people look so much older thantoday.
Like so much older, and sothankfully for us that we're
we're here today, that you know,there's so many different things
that we can do to help us in ourhelp our longevity.
So midlife might be differentthan what it was before, you
(02:21):
know what I mean?
But that's that's crazy when hewas saying that that if you
really calculate midlife, it'sreally this, and it's like, no,
I don't receive that.
SPEAKER_02 (02:30):
I'm 50 years old, so and you know what it's
perspective and motivation,right?
It is there's so many people,and I'm I'll get into my store
in a second that see it as we'rejust I'm just gonna lay here and
wait and retire and say in a jobI don't love because I can't do
anything new, and it's allperspective.
(02:50):
And this is my always mymessage, Martha.
I know it's yours also.
Every day is a new opportunityto start something new, to gain
your confidence, to talk withsomeone to see where you're
going next.
Because I think so many women inparticular feel stuck after a
certain age, or stuck in amarriage, or stuck at a weight,
or stuck in their story, stuckin a they're waiting for their
(03:12):
pension or they're waiting toretire in a job they do not
like.
So I'm like, it's time, ladies.
Let's do it.
Let's let's it's time.
SPEAKER_00 (03:22):
You know what?
I was I was checking out yourFacebook um page, and I love I
think your podcast is calledIt's Not Over, right?
Correct, correct.
Like, oh my gosh, I love that somuch.
It's not over.
It's like that's what you werejust saying.
It's not over.
SPEAKER_02 (03:39):
It's not over, and it it's it's it's everything you
want it to be.
There, there are women, uh youknow, we call it like the
sandwich generation.
Their parents are getting olderand their kids are leaving the
house and going to college, andso many people like boohoo! I'm
like, holy crap, how awesome isthat?
You did your job with your kids,it's your time now.
(03:59):
Like, how amazing! What anopportunity to say, what do I
want now?
It's it's different stages, andyou have to keep turning pages.
So, and you know what?
I I recognize that quickly, mystory.
Um, I was in I was a middleschool guidance counselor for 24
years, which gets me ready foranything, really.
(04:21):
I highly recommend it.
Yeah, it's like hazing that theydo in college.
But it was, and and that was mylove.
And along came COVID.
And although I had 24 years inthe school system and I wasn't
at the retirement age yet, Ididn't like what I was doing.
I was like that, you know, onthis, and they had me counting
(04:42):
tests and doing a lot of testingbecause the tests here in
Florida schools get grades, andthere would be a note on my door
or Julie Savage can't see youtoday.
And I was thinking this is notexactly what I went to school
for.
It's not, it's not feeding mysoul.
So I decided I'm going to dosomething else.
And I've done a few things,Martha, and true transparency.
(05:03):
Some things have worked out,some things haven't.
I started a business that wasnot successful, but okay.
It I learned something fromthat.
So now I have devoted my life,just like you have, to women and
men, but mostly women over theage of 40, 50, kind of to open
their eyes to give them a map asto what's next.
(05:24):
So I learned through my owndivorce.
It's it's it's nice to berelatable and to know people's
story because I have anextremely amicable divorce.
Like my ex-husband and I, wetravel together and stay in the
same room and with my boyfriendif I have one, which changes
often.
Um there's some horror storiesout there with divorces.
(05:45):
It is awful.
You because you know whathappens.
I see it on my and people wantto win.
There's no win in divorce.
So you focus on yourself, youfocus on your your kids and your
children because they'rewatching.
Um, I think this nextgeneration, even Martha, they're
not gonna get married becausethey they see for a lot of
people the institution is notwhat was like you see in a
(06:07):
Disney movie, right?
Like, oh, you're gonna put on aslipper and it's gonna be
amazing, and all of a sudden,right?
SPEAKER_00 (06:13):
You're tired.
That's a bit sad too.
I I was also listening tosomebody yesterday, um, and they
were also talking about likethis generation um are not prone
to wanting to have childreneither.
SPEAKER_02 (06:28):
No, they're not, and how sad is that it's very sad.
SPEAKER_00 (06:32):
It's very, very sad.
We need to bring romance back.
Yes, yes, we need to bringromance back, we need to bring
the beauty of family and umrecording, men do not know open
the door, or do something nice,or say someone's pretty, or send
(06:52):
a flower.
SPEAKER_02 (06:54):
It's all social media, and it is gets in your
brain, and men there are a lotof women, which which is great
that do want to do things ontheir own, but down deep, most
men want to be treated like aking, and that's totally
understandable.
And a woman wants to feeltreated like a bit of a queen,
(07:15):
so open the door.
You remember we used to makecassette tapes for people?
How sweet is that?
What happened to that?
Simple little things that took asecond that was super
meaningful.
Now it's people texting Martha,and so many things get lost in
translation, and um, it it's alittle bit sad.
I'm hopeful that it's going tochange, and you know, you we
(07:39):
have the same-sex marriages andwhatever it is, and love is love
if that's what you want to do.
And but I just think um it'sit's respect, it is especially
that midlife madness.
Relationships as you get older,there's stepchildren and an
ex-wife, and you're you alreadyhave two homes, and it's
(08:00):
building them together.
It's not like you're 20 andyou're building a house
together, so it's challenging,but it can be so awesome if you
really know your love and youknow what you want and you're
okay being alone, which is hard,then that's when it happens.
That's when the magic happens.
So, yeah, yeah, yeah.
(08:22):
So here I am.
I kind of devoted my life tospeaking to women post-divorce
or during transitions to kind ofsee that there is better and
there is more.
And again, it's not over.
So it's it's been kind of fun,it's it's a lot of fun.
So it is um releasing, you know,releasing what you have.
(08:43):
I have this rise technique, theyrelease what they've had,
identify where you're going.
We come up with a strategy.
I'm not, you know, I want togive people tools.
I don't want someone calling meat 12 at night or one in the
morning.
What do I do?
So we've done our job, peoplehave tools, and you know, off
into the world.
So it's just a a chapter change.
SPEAKER_00 (09:05):
I love that because it's very needed.
I have a um a great friend ofmine that's going through a
divorce.
Um, it's very sad and it's verynasty.
SPEAKER_01 (09:17):
Yeah, I guess.
SPEAKER_00 (09:18):
It's very nasty.
And and the the hard part isthat the nasty one is the other
party, it's not her.
So then it's just it's reallytaking a toll on her, you know,
because it's so many differentemotions, right?
Like you want to be angry, youyou're sad, you're sad for your
(09:39):
kids, yeah, you know.
Um, you want to punch them inthe face and you can't you want
to take them to the cleaners,and that's not, you know, you
don't want to pay all theattorney fees if you do.
Like it's just there's so manydifferent emotions that come
with it.
Um, and so I I think that it'sso needed that there's somebody
(10:02):
like you, you know, that is thatwill help help these these
ladies and and guys too, right?
SPEAKER_02 (10:08):
Men have a very hard time midlife for men, they have
dysfunction with their thing,and they're getting older and
they're getting bald, and it isvery difficult for men.
It's harder for them to ask forhelp, but there's also a switch
there too, I'm noticing, whichis so beautiful.
SPEAKER_00 (10:27):
And I'm glad you said that because um I feel like
sometimes I'm an advocate formen because um I know that that
you know, obviously women, youknow, it's important, all those
things, but I feel like women gothrough a lot of things, and we
we talk about it and and we wethink about menopause.
(10:48):
When you think about menopause,we think about women.
Um, but men go through a lottoo.
SPEAKER_02 (10:54):
Men go through a lot.
You know what happens withwomen, Martha?
With women, they someone willtell you, oh, go do yoga or go
do this, or we're prone to go togo try it out, right?
We're prone to try it out.
But a guy they'll be like,Here's some Viagra and leave me
alone.
Like they never really get thatsort of person listening to
(11:15):
exactly what's going on, andthey have this macho thing
that's happening, but it's it'svery real for men, also.
SPEAKER_00 (11:22):
Yep, it's the way my husband says it.
They uh we suffer in silence,yes, yes, women are also prone
to just talk about it, like whatwe're doing right now.
We just talk about it, we'rewe're transparent, we you know,
all these different things.
I have a women's conference andI'm speaking at this weekend, we
talk about all things, but mentend to be a bit more closed and
(11:44):
and they suffer in silence.
And it's okay to talk about thefact that men also need help.
And and so that's part of myheart is obviously helping women
all day, every day, but alsolike saying, Hey guys, you know,
guys go through stuff, and andwhen they have um like sexual
deficiencies, that's that hurtsthem.
SPEAKER_02 (12:07):
Yes, yes, it's your ego, it's your ego, but every
everyone, it happens toeveryone, yeah.
So it they're not alone, they'renot alone.
Women will get together and belike, oh, my period was like for
30 days late, oh great, or youknow, women are more prone to
talk about it, or dryness, orwhatever, or hormones, hormone
(12:28):
replacement.
Like it's it's it's an opendiscussion as it should be.
And um I think for men it's notthey feel alone, or their women
emasculate them, or they don'trealize it's something normal.
They don't realize a lot oftimes, Martha, it's their diet
and their exercise.
So it's it's all connected andkind of putting like a puzzle
(12:49):
together.
SPEAKER_00 (12:50):
Oh, yeah.
So tell me, what's what's yourmidlife madness story?
It we talk a lot about menopausehere.
Yeah.
Um, did you go through anythingduring menopause or what's your
story?
SPEAKER_02 (13:03):
Okay, so the interesting thing for me is I'm
still dropping eggs.
It's the weirdest thing.
I'm the only one out of all myfriends.
I drop an egg every month.
So I think the misconception isthat menopause happens when you
stop getting your period for ayear or six months.
I promise you it is not.
This is a perimenopause.
(13:24):
Um, so I literally, I just wantto say for like three months,
Martha.
I I couldn't literally, and I'ma pretty happy person.
I'm a high functioning person ona regular day.
Um, I was bald up in my bed.
SPEAKER_00 (13:39):
Oh, wow.
SPEAKER_02 (13:40):
I didn't want to go to sleep.
I did not want to wake up.
And when I did, I was faking itfor my kids and pretending to be
normal.
I knew that something was goingon inside of me that was not
making sense.
So I suffered.
I really suffered.
I have um my very good friendwould have to come over some
mornings.
Her name is Amy.
(14:00):
I said, Amy, oh my god, you needto come to my house this morning
because I cannot get my kid outof bed.
I did not have a call because Iwasn't sleeping, I wasn't
eating, and I'm faking it allday long.
Like I'm fine and everything'sfine.
And um, I I knew, I just knewsomething was was off.
I knew something was off.
So I ended up months of that,which I wish I didn't take so
(14:24):
long.
I actually was very, very vocalon social media, which was a lot
of people were so thankful.
Like Julie, thank you fortalking about it.
I there was um um all sorts ofstuff in my family history,
depression and things that wascreeping up, and it was my
hormones, and it was, you know,I getting older is not fun.
So I ended up going to afunctional medicine doctor.
(14:46):
I'm a big fan of functionalmedicine and big fan.
SPEAKER_00 (14:50):
I'm so glad because I was gonna ask you what did
your doctor say, because I andand just let me just share for
one second, because I I wantpeople to catch this, it's
important who you go to.
I was suffering so bad, Julie.
I was I was bleeding three weeksout of four weeks a month.
(15:12):
I was my breast felt like I justhad a baby.
You know, when you have a babyand you're you're you it's like
if somebody touches your breast,you want to kill them because
they're so you know painful.
Yeah, my breasts were like thatfor three weeks out of four
weeks a month.
I am a super high functionalperson, productive.
I my brain fog was crazy.
(15:35):
Um I felt bad for my husbandbecause my mood was all over the
place, like I was superagitated, and I'm in this
business, so I knew that okay,something's going on.
I'm in pre pre uh perimenopausefor sure.
Um, this was a couple of years,it was I was 47.
So I went to my my GYN doctorand they checked my my hormones
(15:56):
and they're like, You're fine.
And I'm like, I'm not fine.
SPEAKER_01 (16:01):
Good.
SPEAKER_00 (16:02):
My body is not telling me that I'm fine.
This is not me.
Like, I'm not supposed to bebleeding three weeks out of four
weeks, right?
Right.
My libido was I like I had nosexual desire whatsoever.
It was down to the dumb so itwas bad.
So I'm like, you know what?
I I just I'm not fine.
I know that I'm not fine.
I'm going, I'm gonna go to afunctional medicine doctor,
(16:24):
right?
So come to find out my my I wasestrogen dominant.
Interesting so my estrogenlevels were like out of whack.
I had to start doing uh low doseof progesterone.
As soon as I started doing that,I was back to normal.
Yeah, yes, it's like the thelight came down from heaven,
right?
(16:47):
Yes, and I was like, see, I um Icome from from healthcare, so
I'm not anti-medical or any ofthat.
Um my my mother-in-law was adoctor, my mom worked on you
know, all the things.
But the problem is is there's adifference between looking at
blow work and seeing that youraccounts are within a range.
(17:10):
Okay, you're within range andyou're fine, versus being
optimal.
SPEAKER_02 (17:16):
Right, right.
SPEAKER_00 (17:18):
I don't I don't want to be in range, I want to
freaking be optimal.
You deserve it too.
So that's so I'm so glad.
I say all that to say, and Itell this to our audience all
the time go check your hormones,go to a functional medicine
doctor.
It's worth the money.
Yes.
Um, and so I'm glad that youwent to a functional medicine
(17:40):
doctor.
SPEAKER_02 (17:41):
Yes, and and it's so interesting that that I have a
different story, shameful, thatI went to my gynecologist who I
love.
She birthed both of mydaughters.
Um, I went to her when I startedto feel funky, and she literally
didn't even do a hormone test onme.
She gave me, because she hadsome drug rep coming into her
(18:02):
office, she gave me estrogen.
She's like, here, take this,come back in a few weeks.
I'm like, what?
I I didn't, she didn't evencheck my levels.
So, and there are doctors, youknow what the research shows
that um gynecologists um they gothey're in school for four
years.
They get three months, that allthey get is three months of
(18:24):
training on menopause.
And it's hasn't happened to you,it will, or it's going to, or it
has.
So I it's it's very, very sad.
And and you know what, when Idid get my hormone levels
checked, my estrogen was fullyfine.
I was like you, it was myprogesterone and my testosterone
was at zero.
So it's not for everyone.
I have a lot of friends thatlisten to me and they had breast
(18:47):
cancer or they can't takecertain hormones.
I'm not a doctor, right?
I just like to share my storythat for some we women it's a it
is a godsend, and it's somethingso simple as something you're
not making it anymore.
So why not?
You if you have a headache, youwould take an aspirin.
SPEAKER_00 (19:03):
Yep.
It's it's important for peopleto know um that you have to
check your levels because noteverybody's the same, it's not a
one size fits all when it comesto this.
So make sure that you go to theto your provider, make sure they
check their levels, uh, or yourlevels, because um it's
(19:23):
important that you're you haveuh the right balance of your
hormones.
SPEAKER_02 (19:28):
Yes.
I would love to, Martha.
I don't know if we can even dothis on the show, but I I have
the the the you know, when youtake the lab work that my
functional medicine doctor, anda lot of it, that's a whole
nother conversation.
We'll jump on another day howinsurance didn't want to pay for
it.
Right.
Um awful, but even maybe I couldadd in the notes, I'll take my
(19:48):
name out, just the things thatmy doctor checked for that threw
back kind of the okay, Julian.
It was very intense.
Like I think he checked for atick or something that I thought
was kind of wild, but it's justfinding out what the problem is
because if you you don't knowthe problem, you don't have a
solution.
And that was at zero, mytestosterone, and women think,
oh, that's okay.
We're not supposed to havetestosterone.
(20:10):
Yeah, you are.
SPEAKER_00 (20:12):
Yeah, we are.
We are absolutely supposed to.
Um, yeah, I can we can add that,and um that's what functional
medicine doctors do.
Yes, yes, they they dive deep.
I was with mine for two and ahalf hours, yeah, and they
checked every nook and cranny ofmy body, my lifestyle,
(20:34):
emotional, all the things.
We even talk about spiritualthings, like we talked about all
the things.
Beautiful, and they're lookingat the whole person, the whole
person, and really diving intothe root causes, which is
important because you know youdon't want to slap band-aids on
these things, yeah, becauseyou're you band-aids have to be
replaced, so you're gonna beband-aiding forever.
(20:57):
Just like let's just let's justgo to the root cause of things
and let's get it done.
Um, and so that's what what theydo.
I'm a big, big fan of functionalmedicine doctors, and there's a
lot more, like our society isgoing that direction, and it's
true, it's it's it's not paid byinsurance, but you know what?
(21:18):
Like, you the cost of going to afunctional medicine doctor, in
my experience, is like theequivalent of two dinners,
right?
SPEAKER_02 (21:26):
Right.
I always think Martha, too, andI think we've had this
conversation before.
What are people spending moneyon, right?
They'll go do dinners, but theywon't hire you as their coach to
be like, hey, so no one'sbridging the gap for them
between emotional well-being andphysical well-being because you
can't have one without theother.
You just can't.
SPEAKER_00 (21:46):
It's so true.
SPEAKER_02 (21:48):
I'll tell you what happened to have a funny story.
I have a lot of funny stories.
So, my functional medicinedoctor who I ended up going to,
he's a doctor, he's up in Boca.
Um, he ended up hiring me tocome in as a life coach because
he saw the need to kind of againbridge that gap between you
know, medical and and spiritual,like you said, and sometimes we
(22:09):
just do breathing, or sometimeswe just do hey, that must be
really hard.
I'm so sorry that's happening toyou.
So I think it's very fastforward, and I do think it's
having its moment as it should,and I'm so happy.
So I wanted to share that thatabout my um my gynecologist,
because it was so we I no longersee her, but she was like, Here,
(22:30):
just take this.
Like I'd see you get that icksometimes and you know it's
wrong, as women especially werevery in tune.
Listen to that, super important.
SPEAKER_00 (22:42):
Yep, listen to to your to your gut, right?
Because it's normally right whenwhen my doctor told me that, I
was like, Yeah, no, and it'sokay to be an advocate for
yourself, and it's okay to getsecond opinions, and it's okay
to do something about it becauseyou don't you don't have to
suffer.
Correct, you don't have tosuffer.
(23:03):
Um I'm Cuban, Julie, and in myin my community, in my you know,
um I for I'm first generationAmerican, um, and we were taught
to put your head down, work yourass off, don't bring attention
to yourself, just do what yougotta do.
(23:23):
If you gotta suffer throughstuff, suffer through it, you
know, get things done, hustle itout, which there's a lot of
really good things about thatbecause our work ethic is
incredible, you know, we'rehustlers, we're gonna, we're
gonna figure things out and makethings happen.
But on the flip side, it's likeyou know, you're you're you're
(23:44):
freaking miserable.
So am I supposed to put my headdown and suffer through that?
No, like it's okay.
Right.
And so like it's it's it's notokay to suffer through it
because there's things that youcan do.
There's and so that's ourmessage all the time.
It's like you don't have tosuffer, and like and like your
(24:07):
podcast, it's not over.
SPEAKER_02 (24:09):
It's not, it's it is so interesting, and you're not
alone, like no one's alone.
I think women feel I'm the onlyone, or it's shameful, and it's
it you know what a big precursoris for that for menopause is for
women that have children thatsuffered with uh um like
(24:31):
preclamsia or no, um uh come onwhen you when you're not well um
postpartum, postpartum.
Thank you so much.
Yep, that's my menopausehappening.
I can't think it's okay, but inlife madness for finishing my
sentence, I appreciate it.
So it is a precursor that whenyour hormones are not balanced,
(24:55):
you are a little bit off, andthat's okay.
And it's ask for help and figureit out.
And if that doesn't work, trysomething else.
And if that doesn't work, trysomething else, but know your
people, know your people, yes,and know your girl gang.
I'm big about girl gang at ourage, like being social and
having that kind of community.
SPEAKER_00 (25:17):
I mean, I would not be alive because we're all going
through the same things,correct, correct, all going
through the same thing, somesome worse than others.
Like, I I have I have someclients that are like, I didn't
feel a thing during menopause,and I'm like, You're so lucky.
SPEAKER_01 (25:35):
Yes, yes, but you really want to be like something
are happening.
SPEAKER_00 (25:39):
I had that the other day, actually.
The other day I was talking tosomebody and she's like, No, I
didn't have you know, I don'thave any symptoms, I don't have
this and that.
I'm like, Oh, that's great.
Um, let me ask you a question.
Do you want to eat sugar betweenthe times of 6 30 and 9 30 p.m.
every night?
She's like, Yeah, yeah.
(26:00):
I always like to like eat alittle something sugary at
night.
I'm like, you do understand thatthat's uh hormonal cravings,
right?
Hello.
Yes, and it's menopause is notonly, you know, I'm sweating my
ass off in the middle of the dayfor no reason whatsoever.
There's so many differentsymptoms, like side effects of
(26:21):
menopause that are like some arelike little, you know, very
subtle, and some is like I'm I'mI feel like I'm in a furnace,
right?
There's so many different ones.
SPEAKER_02 (26:32):
And I love what you said earlier, kind of um
noticing it and being cognizantand just noticing when something
starts to go wrong, we wait tillit's awful sometimes.
If I tell you I was balled up inmy bed, I was afraid to go to
sleep because I wasn't sleeping.
And then I got up and I was itwas not well.
(26:52):
I was not well.
So I'm so grateful to everythinghappens for a reason.
I believe that too, um, to sharethat experience with other
women.
It's it's like the weight of theworld is is lifted off of them
because you're now in part of acommunity that you're not alone.
And it's just normal.
It it happens.
It's like there's bookends, likewhen you get your it's so
(27:14):
interesting when you get yourperiod at a young as when you're
young, it's like, hey, like it'sawesome.
And I'm Jewish, we startslapping things and slapping
people, and it's so why is itnot also recognized as something
beautiful when you stop gettingit?
Like, I think we need to changethat script.
It really does.
SPEAKER_00 (27:33):
It's such it has such a negative thing, and it's
it's it's actually a beautifultransition in life.
Yeah, it can be a very beautifultransition in life.
I know that it sometimes doesn'tfeel beautiful, yes, but again,
you can do things to help withthat, but it is a beautiful
transition in life.
Um, let's let's work on thenegative like stigma thing
(27:55):
around it because um god, wedon't need to look at it that
way.
SPEAKER_02 (28:02):
I think we need to we're gonna come up with some
maybe a slogan or something, butit is it it is, it's it's
something so beautiful and to becelebrated and beats the
alternative, right?
That's what I always say.
Beats the alternative, right?
And people are living longer,and it's you know, growing
gracefully.
And again, going back to thesocial media, everyone's putting
(28:24):
filters and like get gettingold.
I'm gonna get wrinkles and I'mgoing to sag in a lot of places,
and I might get a gray hair onmy vagina one day.
I heard so.
I am going to be I'm gonna callyou when it happens, but I'm
okay with that.
That's you know, that means I'malive.
SPEAKER_00 (28:40):
That's so funny.
SPEAKER_02 (28:42):
I love that.
SPEAKER_00 (28:45):
What did you say?
Told you I'd make you laugh.
I love that.
Um, okay, so you went to youryour functional medicine doctor,
they found that your yourtestosterone level was zero.
You started some type of therapyof some sort.
SPEAKER_02 (28:59):
I did.
They put a pellet in my tush,and I was like, uh like you said
with with your uh progesterone,within days I was feel I wasn't
feeling 100% better, but I sawthe change because what my body
wasn't making, I was able tosupplement with some people do
creams.
I did a pellet, it just workedbetter for me.
(29:21):
But again, I tried the cream andthat wasn't the fit.
And it's just like I love whatyou said that you know you're we
know our bodies, and there's nodoctor in the world that could
tell you you're totally finewhen you know you're not feeling
that way.
So being an advocate foryourself, how awesome! And now
you're advocating for otherwomen.
SPEAKER_00 (29:40):
So absolutely, and you are too, and we're both you
know, sending out thesemessages.
Um, we're we're in the sameteam, we're on the same team.
Um, I love that.
I love that we're we're bothdoing this.
Um, there needs to be more, yes.
Uh, and and I, you know, Ireally feel
SPEAKER_02 (30:00):
like people are putting putting more attention
to that and um and investing inthemselves and that is
incredible that's great becauseagain you don't have to suffer
right correct correct so you'rebut you're still dropping eggs
you said every month none of myfriends could believe it like
(30:21):
clockwork like every maybe 31days I'm like I don't for me
it's kind of like I think it'ssupposed to keep you a little
bit younger while you're stilldropping eggs so when I stop
we'll see what happens there andand you know what I might go
back to my doctor and stopproducing something it's an
ongoing thing right it is I'mI'm perimenopausal and my my
(30:43):
functional med doc said this ishow he said it I was like great
he said you're in perimenopausebut you're as fertile as a 15
year old I'm like great yeah nomy tubes are tied I'm not
fertile but I'm like I don'tknow am I supposed to celebrate
(31:04):
that at 50 years old I don'tthink but I don't want to be
fertile the fifth it's a youngperson sport it's a young person
sport and it's funny when when Igot my tubes tied with after my
second daughter that the doctorwas saying to me this doctor
that I no longer use like areyou sure you want to tie your
tubes I'm like a thousandpercent I'm 38 years old this is
I don't want to be talking poopand she asked my husband like
(31:28):
she needed to get the okay fromhim which I thought was really
interesting and I thought thatwas the right thing to ask is it
okay with you so it's just I Ithink we're we're turning pages
and I love the light that we'rebringing to this beautiful thing
that that really should becelebrated Martha should be so
tell me Julie top three thingsthat you want the people that
(31:52):
are watching listening just whatit is if you're there's only
three things that you can shareright now what are those three
things I will first thing youwill never be younger and never
look better than you do today soappreciate that number two I
would say probably like reallyenjoy the the journey right life
(32:14):
is you're in a car you're packedand sometimes you hit a flat
right so you don't just sitthere in the car and a hot car
you call for help so kind ofknowing who your support system
is and the third thing I thinkit's really falling in love with
yourself having some kind ofrelationship with yourself
(32:37):
whether you're married ordivorced or whatever your
situation is um because we'redifferent than we were many
years ago and celebrating yourdownfalls and recognizing the
beautiful things about yourselfand it it shouldn't be that hard
right and I think that's what wedo helping to beauty and things
because it's it's there it'sthere and being open to asking
(32:59):
for help and having that personin your life a coach embrace the
madness yes yes there we goembrace the madness um so how
how can our audience get to knowyou a little bit more do you
have social platforms I do I II'm an old school Facebook
(33:21):
person so I do a lot of stuff onFacebook my name is Julie Cooper
Savitz and my show it's not overis on YouTube.
If you look up Julie Savits it'snot over it's me with like a
pretty pink picture and it's uma little bit raunchy might not
be for everyone but we say itlike it is and just like you do
it's it's entertaining and youwill learn something and you
(33:44):
will laugh and I promise youwill not feel alone.
So you didn't give us too muchof that today you just you you
said the the gray hair in thevagina part I did I did people
that I talk to and people thinkI'm joking not yet because the
only place I get here right nowis my vagina like I don't have
hair on my legs I don't my I'mnot one of these chin hair
(34:06):
person I don't know but myvagina gets a lot of hair but
it's still you know blackalthough I'm a true blonde I get
I get one I get one hair righthere oh you do I do just one I
don't do it so once in a whilejust like legs anymore you know
I still get hairy on the legswell that's a Spanish thing I
(34:29):
think yeah but I'm not like ingeneral I'm not a hairy person
uh but I am getting what's newmidlife madness is the one here
right here but it takes a whileso when I get it off it takes a
while for it to grow back butit's a it's a new new thing I
have to keep an eye on yeah I'veseen a few in my tush if that's
like a thing I don't know I'mdating so I gotta you know get
(34:52):
the mirror down there and seewhat's happening.
One of my arms does and one ofmy arms doesn't so it's all
beautiful it's all beautiful itis what it is I love it.
SPEAKER_00 (35:02):
I love doing this because we're just so
transparent and like I don'tcare I put myself out there
that's you know I feel likethat's encouraging and and it's
irrelatable and you know sharingwith people that they're not
alone so beautiful and messybeautiful and messy beautiful
and messy yes midlife madnessand it's not over thank you for
(35:27):
having me thank you for coming ii'm I'm hoping that this is not
the only time because I think wecan have a lot of fun together I
think so also I think next timewe talk about the insurance and
how some sort of somethinghappening in the world where
they don't want us to be happyas we get older.
Oh yeah I agree with that.
Yes let's talk about that nexttime all right thank you so much
(35:48):
Julie bye Martha bye honey byeeveryone
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