Why Breaking Up is Hard to Do - Podcast #21

If you’re in a bad relationship, and know you should just leave but can’t seem to muster up the motivation to end it for good, why do you suppose that is? I’m not talking about the occasional argument about something, or a rough patch in the relationship due to circumstances outside that each must come to terms with causing problems within. I’m talking about a relationship where you’ve tried everything, had the long talks, the big arguments about the same things for years, and it seems like nothing changes, or it gets worse, and you’re both miserable and suffering mentally. A relationship where you’ve clearly determined that it isn’t going to get better, and if you’re lucky it may stay the same, but will probably slide into more dysfunction as time goes on, and you know you have to get out or lose your sanity because you’re joy left long ago and won’t come back as long as this continues. You’ve seen couples that are clearly unhappy, constantly fighting and just won’t break it off. Why do you suppose that is?

Podcast #21 is a discussion about the reasons people can’t seem to let go, or even just run for their life and happiness. You’ll hear the two different generations talk about the many different things they have observed which keep people together long past the expiration date of the relationship. In those instances, the couple doesn’t really like each other but can ‘t seem to make the break even though to everyone else it would certainly make each of them happier in the long run, and perhaps even in the short term.

Boomer X opens up with an observation that seems alien to him, but he has heard it from friends and family, that many people fear being alone, and even if you’re with someone you don’t particularly like or get along with, it’s better than being by yourself all the time with no one else. Although that may be an observation that belongs in the past, Millennial Z has something to say about it. Children is a major reason, and the best one to consider staying together, but both have something to say regarding a bad relationship and “sticking it out” even though you know it won’t improve even if you’re married and have kids. A common reason that becomes a mental trap for both parties in a relationship is believing that the relationship is in a down cycle, or just having a “rough patch” and will soon pull out of it because you remember the good times and something else is the reason, but it’ll soon be like it was, and…well, you get the idea, but how do you know that’s it or not? Mistaking physical chemistry and desire for compatibility is a very common way to tolerate incompatibility and poor behavior from a partner. The gratification of bedroom fun can color every other perception of the person when it simply isn’t so.

Millennial Z and Boomer X provide many more reasons breaking up is hard to do and talk about the occurrences in their lives as well as offering solutions based upon their experiences in this podcast.

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