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Oh, Smiles champions.
Welcome to mind.
Elevation health and wealth.
I am your host, Shira, Dhawan,and educator, emotional healer
and entrepreneur.
Each week, we will dig deep intoemotionally healing, all aspects
of your life to increase yourability to create prosperity and
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longevity.
Mind elevation health and wealthallows you to elevate and shift
into a growth mindset.
Share each moment with me.
I'm giving you permission tofulfill all of the unique
desires of your heart.
Judgment-free shame-freeguilt-free elements to heal your
mind and body embrace,unconditional love and keep
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listening.
Healing is health.
Health is wealth.
You are here on purpose.
Session 15.
Manifest a longer lifespan bycelebrating life.
Listen and listen wellchampions, whether you have
faith in God, faith in theuniverse or faith in self
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creating healthy socialrelationships are a major, key
to a longer lifespan andlongevity.
This session, we will discussways for you to celebrate life
and celebrate you, which willpositively increase your
emotional and mental health.
Potentially decrease yourdepressive mindset.
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And chronic loneliness.
Human connection, socialconnection and companionship is
absolutely necessary forsurvival.
If you've ever watched the movietitled cast away, this movie is
a survival-based drama.
Starring Tom Hanks.
He is stranded on an islandalone.
When his loneliness kicks in, hefinds a volleyball.
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The volleyball becomes hispersonified friend, which he
names Wilson.
Wilson played a major role inTom Hanks survival.
Another survival-based filmtitled.
I am legend, starring will Smithwho survived a deadly virus
outbreak, and he's a last normalhuman living on earth in an
apocalypse.
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When his loneliness kicks in, hefinds a department store with
mannequins and the mannequinsare major role in the film.
He even places the mannequinsaround the city to simulate
forms of human interaction.
Once again, necessary for hissurvival.
I bring up two survival basedfilms, although they are
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fictional films.
The truth is so evident.
We need social relationships andcelebration of life for our
mental and emotional health.
I also conducted a little socialexperiment with my birthday
celebration this year That I'mexcited to share with you later
on in this podcast.
So keep listening.
Let's start by reviewing somefrequent important vocabulary
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for this session.
Chronic loneliness.
Chronic loneliness occurs whenfeelings of loneliness and
uncomfortable social isolationgo long for long period of time,
feelings of being alone,separated, or divided from
others, not having the abilityto connect with others that is
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chronic.
Loneliness.
The definition of socialisolation.
Social isolation is a process inwhich persons or groups do not
have communication with oneanother.
The definition of longevity.
Longevity is a long individuallife, extreme length and
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duration of life, or a longduration of service.
Think of a time in your lifewhen you felt lonely or you may
currently be in a time of yourlife right now and you feel
lonely.
You are in need of a strongsocial connection.
You are a need of a strongfeeling of belonging.
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If you're familiar with apsychologist, Abraham Maslow,
you know about Maslow'shierarchy of needs.
On his pyramid of human needs.
He lists belonging and love forhuman behavioral motivation.
Even the strongest introvertdesires, companionship, even if
it is with just cats or dogs.
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The crazy cat lady is areference to an old lady that
lives alone with a bunch of catsas her companions, there is a
need for some sort ofconnection.
Today, you will discover howyour internal conflict may have
prevented you or may currentlybe preventing you from
celebrating yourself andcelebrating meaningful
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relationship with other humans.
You will also learn that you canlive longer by becoming more
social.
As you age, you have the powerto create your own sense of
belonging in any environment.
Our discussion on manifesting alonger lifespan by celebrating
life is directly related tocreating a healthy social
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circle.
There are many scientific inpsychology articles related to
longevity of life and how tolive a longer life.
And most of them can be summedup with these five major things
that are listed.
Number one is fitness andwellness.
Number two is nutrition.
Eating habits.
Number three is sleep andresting.
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Number four is stress managementand number five.
You guessed it, socialrelationships.
Number 1, 2, 3, and four.
You can go listen to mind.
Elevation health and wealthpodcast, session number five,
creating healthy workout andeating habits.
That's one of my favoritesessions.
But today we're only focused onnumber five, which is social
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relationships is one major keyto living longer.
Let's begin.
I have to first give credit tomy grandmother, Ms.
Maddie McBain.
She showed us.
The best example of celebratinglife and creating social
relationships.
When I was little, her home waswhere major holidays were spent
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many Christmases and Easters ather house.
Her purpose was family andfriends.
Even if family members got intoa fight, one holiday, they were
still expected to show up andmake amends for the next
holiday.
No grudges held.
We were celebrating together byany means.
I have adopted much of herenergy into my most recent life.
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Although I have always had manygroups of friends, I hadn't
always done the best job ofcelebrating myself every year.
I will sometimes do it formilestone birthdays.
However, grandma Maddiecelebrated her birthday every
year.
Her life was a celebration.
She lived to be 81 years young.
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We lived in a small town calledEvansville, Indiana.
Her social circle included herchildhood friends, classmates,
and family.
Her friend group would taketurns, hosting card parties in
which they each had a dedicatedcard partner playing the card
game bit whiz.
She was also in a socialorganization called the ladies
auxiliary.
She was also a Legionnaire.
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She would also travel for aparty.
So it was no problem for her toget on a charter bus, hop in a
car with someone or fly outsomewhere to celebrate and
party.
I have to use her as an example,because for all of my adult
life, my grandmother was asingle woman who for the most
part lived alone, but she wasnever lonely.
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She lived.
She could have withdrawn fromfamily and friends.
She could have been a crazy catlady.
She could have been depressed.
Cause most of our friends hadhusbands and wives, but she took
pride.
And celebrating life.
She created memories for herfamily and friends enjoying her
life as it was.
And every moment she was alwaysthe life of the party.
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She passed away in June of 2019.
But even when she was takingchemo treatments in sick, she
had me take her to her car partyat the American Legion.
She also had me take her to getEaster baskets for the
grandchildren.
She prepared Easter dinner whenshe was sick, her illness still
did not prevent her fromcelebrating and creating
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memories for those that sheloved, she had and created the
most exciting social circle offriends and family.
There was only one hard part ofwatching her get older, was
watching her lose loved onesthat she outlived.
We are not all born.
As social butterflies, we arenot all born as extroverts.
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We are not all born to be thelife of every party, but one
thing we all are born with isthe need to be loved the need to
belong.
And the needs to be social.
Introverts are listening andcringing with the thought of
being overly social.
I understand because I have abest friend and a son that are
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introverts.
Introverts don't want a lot ofattention and they don't want to
be around a lot of people.
They don't know.
Even when they are around peoplethey're close with, they can
only do small doses.
I asked my son what is an idealbirthday celebration for him and
this was his response Friendsfamily.
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Like only friends and family.
Yeah, I know random.
Does it ask you?
I need this for my podcast.
As you just heard his response.
He is the exact opposite of me.
He has no desire to meet newpeople or have randoms at his
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birthday gathering.
He is uncomfortable in clubssettings, but I understand and
respect introverts.
You can still celebrateyourself.
You just do it within yourcircle of family and friends.
However, my best friend and I,and my son and I find balance
within our relationship as aparent, I learned how to respect
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my son's personality typebecause when he was younger, I
would give him parties basedupon.
Upon my social needs.
Okay.
I would throw him these bigparties with a bunch of people.
However, as he got older, Ididn't understand why he didn't
want a big party anymore.
So he began to openly express tome that he does not enjoy social
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gatherings outside of family andclose friends.
With the love and respect that Ihave for his personality type.
We found balance in creating hissocial circles and celebrations.
He is still social, but withsmall gatherings being close
with an extrovert, like myselfcan be challenging, but it has
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its benefits when there's abalance and an introvert allows
the extrovert to navigate theirsocial boundaries.
Opposites attract.
There's always allow for, and ina quiet friend.
Um, the friend is super extraand I love having friends
already, even more extra than Iam, but I also love having my
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chill cool and calm friends thatlike to be in sometimes not
always out and about.
It is beautiful to balance eachother out in these situations
with the right level of respect,it works.
Isolation of yourself isdetrimental.
We already defined socialisolation.
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As not communicating withothers.
So even if you claim to be themost extreme of introverts,
don't forget the importance ofhuman interaction.
It is so important to gathertogether with others that
there's a verse in the Bible,Matthew 1820 that says something
like where two or three peoplegather.
I am there with them.
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Even the Bible speaks of howimportant it is to gather
socially if you or someone, youknow, has withdrawn and begins
to isolate themselves from lovedones.
It is time for an intervention.
It is time to seek professionalhelp.
It is not okay to make thenegative statement.
I'm antisocial.
Please stop using that phrase asif it's some cute way to
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describe yourself, because thereality of that statement is
really dangerous when it's usedin a clinical context.
Antisocial personality disorderis a real thing and it should
not be used loosely in lightly.
To describe yourself.
If you have never been diagnosedwith this disorder.
If you know someone close to youthat may really be violently
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impulsive, and may be sufferingfrom this disorder, please get
them professional help.
Which brings me to the overallpoint that it is not healthy to
self isolate.
When you are emotionally sad ordepressed, it is not safe to
isolate yourself from friendsand family communication and
connection with others is acelebration of life.
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This is also why it is importantto have family dinners together
without electronic devices.
Even if it is just one day aweek.
Make it taco Tuesday, my sisterand her grandson have taco
Tuesday together every Tuesday.
It's the cutest familyconnection that they have and
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their little celebration.
Go ahead and create a familydinner night to celebrate your
family together at least once aweek without electronic devices.
One of my 16 year old studentsjust recently shared with me
that she has a closerrelationship with her mother
now.
I asked her what changed?
Like what, what changed?
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She said I got in trouble.
My mom took my phone away.
So we started talking to eachother again, and now we have a
closer relationship.
So I had to follow up with aclarifying question.
I asked.
So your mom took your phone awayand it actually brought you
closer together.
She responded?
Yes.
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Because we never really talkedbefore.
Cause I was always on my phone.
What Houser's champion is like a16 year old admitted that
removing a device from herpossession helped her build a
healthy relationship with herparent.
Some of y'all right now areafraid to take your child's
phone away because you think itwill ruin your relationship?
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When actually, if donecorrectly, it will create a
beautiful social bond andcelebration of a lifelong
relationship with your child Thepandemic was so terrifying for
some of us due to isolation andincreased sense of loneliness.
Statistically, this aspect ofisolation increased the trauma
of mental health issues.
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This is also what initiated theurgency for the tech companies
to update digital social sharingplatforms such as zoom and
Microsoft teams.
Although it may not have beenvery fun at first.
Virtual school was necessary formany students to feel a small
sense of normalcy and belongingduring the pandemic.
Thank God we are back to ourregularly scheduled social
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norms.
An active social life will helpyou live longer, check the
statistics.
And as usual, be open to do yourown fact checking.
Uh, people with strong socialconnections may live longer and
healthier lives.
According to numerous studies,for example, research about an
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unusually long living populationon the island of Sardinia.
Italy has showed that strongties to family and friends along
with frequent.
Physical activity may contributeto their longevity.
According to a May 9th, 2019 CNNarticle, the CNN article also
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mentioned a recent review of 148studies found that people who
are isolated face a 50% greaterrisk of premature deaths than
those who have stronger socialconnections.
Lisa Berkman director of Harvardcenter for population and
development studies and ThomasColbert, a professor of public
policy at Harvard side of otherstudies that have suggested that
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social isolation carries a riskof mortality.
That similar to that of othermajor risk factors like smoking
cigarettes, Birkman said thatthe stress of isolation can
weaken people's immune systems,making them more susceptible to
infectious diseases.
She also noted that people withstrong social connections have
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better health behaviors, likeeating healthy foods and being
physically active.
The number of Americans livingbeyond their 100th birthday has
been climbing steadily since thestart of the 21st century, a new
CDC report, which trackmortality among a hundred
somethings.
Started in 2000 shows that whileit's still uncommon.
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The number of Americans abovethe age of 100 has increased
more than 43% from 50,281, adecade and a half ago to 72,197
in 2014, which is great news forme because one of my long-term
life goals is to throw my son,his 80th birthday party with his
small circle of friends thatwill still be living.
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Okay.
Which means I will be at my bestat age 100 and that's only 56
years from now.
So that's not very long.
Let's review some of thenegative stigma relating to
building connections withothers.
I've heard people say thingslike I left that job because the
people working there all hadtheir little cliques and they
weren't including me in theirlittle cliques.
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And I felt left out.
Ladies gentlemen.
Life is not really like the badgirls club.
Be open to include yourself intothe clinics.
Be open to be long.
On purpose.
I purposefully include myself inalmost every department in my
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school.
You can catch me everywhere.
I'd be in the math department,history department, science
department, social studiesdepartment, fine arts
department.
The library.
I be chilling with the frontoffice clerks.
I hang out with the food servicecrew.
I have conversations about beingready for the weekend with our
custodial staff.
I actively build connections onpurpose.
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I don't wait to be invited.
I don't think I'm excludedbecause no one has a sign on
their door that says ourdepartment only.
So I don't make a negativeassumption that I'm not welcome.
Sometimes we make negativeassumptions about being left out
or excluded when we haven't evenattempted to be included or to
try to belong.
Most people are welcoming, butonly if you bring good energy.
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In life.
I have many different friendgroups from childhood friends
that are now like family topeople that I met maybe five to
10 years ago that are now myfamily, to my coworkers that are
now like family.
Be open to build relationshipswith intention, not just because
it will make you live longer,but because it just feels
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amazing to the soul.
If you haven't before just startsmall.
I'm just a special kind of extrawhen it comes to relationship
building.
So don't mind me, but at leastwork towards building those
social connections.
Every person in your life servesa divine purpose, belonging, and
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loving her.
Onuses be okay with celebratingall of your major
accomplishments in life.
Celebrate another year of life.
Another year of sobriety, buyinga home, buying an investment
property, starting a business,getting married, having a baby,
starting a new job.
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Graduating high school,graduating college, graduating
grad school weddinganniversaries, getting an
overdue divorce, celebrate allthings that are life changing.
When you celebrate a weddinganniversary couples.
Plan your anniversaries togetheras a team and stop creating
unnecessary relationship traumaby waiting for your partner to
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forget your anniversary.
That is toxic behavior.
If you know your anniversary'scoming, don't call your best
friend and seek pity and say ourwedding anniversary is coming
up.
And my person's probably goingto forget again this year.
You shouldn't be calling yourbest friend.
You should be calling yourpartner and saying with
excitement, babe, ouranniversary is coming up.
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Let's plan our celebrationtogether.
I have a cousin that has beenmarried for years, her and her
husband planning, annualanniversary vacation together.
They value travel and itcelebrates their union.
Anniversaries are not about whoremembers and who forgets.
It's about celebratingcontinuous love for each other
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year after year.
A celebration of love.
I just felt healing power inthat statement for someone
listening.
If you are in a relationship,don't expect your significant
other to do everything for yourcelebration.
That's a lot of pressure to puton one person.
If they enjoy taking over anddoing everything, go ahead and
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allow it.
But don't put an unreasonableexpectation on one person.
Someone listening is thinking,well, this is just how I am.
Whenever you set your mind to,this is just how I am.
You create an attachment tonever change.
You will develop a fear thatbreaking this attachment will
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cause disruption and who youare, how you identify and how
you are viewed by others.
Free yourself from this limitingmindset.
Of inner conflict.
Some of us are currentlystruggling with inner conflict.
Don't confuse your innerthoughts with your outer
reaction by sending mixedmessages to people that you
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love.
You must believe that you areworthy of celebrating.
If you are unsure of yourworthiness, or if you are
waiting for someone else torecognize you, you are setting
yourself up for disappointment.
Y'all need an example of innerconflict.
Here's an example.
You want something special foryour special day, but you don't
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want to do it yourself.
You want someone close to you todo it for you?
But instead of you just sayingthat when someone close to you
as, Hey, what are you wanting todo for your special day?
And you respond outward.
I don't really want to doanything special this year.
But your inner thought is unlesssomeone plans something special
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for me.
People are not my readers.
You sent a mixed message becauseif your person is respectful of
your desires, that you spoke tothem, they're going to react to
your outward response, whichwas, I don't really want to do
anything special.
So when no one does anythingspecial for your birthday, you
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start holding resentment or thepeople you love because no one
planned anything special foryou.
Now, you big mad, you hadexpectations that someone was
surprised you with somethingspecial and it didn't happen
because you said you didn't wantit.
Now your inner peace is hurtingand conflicted due to your own
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mixed message.
You fail to set and express realexpectations outwardly to the
people that you love.
For some reason we have createdthis inner lie that if they love
me, they should know and just doit.
The truth is everyone may notknow, and they may respect your
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spoken wishes.
When we are real together, weheal together, heal from inner
conflict.
Get the true desires of yourheart and live longer.
Hey you, the champion for lifechanges.
I'm challenging you to celebratelife and celebrate you this
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year.
You deserve to feel worthy.
You deserve the spike in yourmental health and wealth.
And as champions, we just love agreat beneficial life challenge.
I know people do differentcultural things and expectations
for birthdays and holidays.
However, these suggestions thatI'm about to share are coming
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from a culture of wellness andthe wellness culture.
We will celebrate ourselves withself-love and affirmations.
Let me remind you all the wordmanifest in the title of this
session was so intentional.
I absolutely love the power ofprayer and manifestation.
It is like the secret that hasnever been a secret, but for
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some reason, people are afraidto tap into that deep part of
faith.
The power of it is real.
So I just do it all the time.
And you're about to see how itworked for beyond my birthday
experiment.
I can't wait for one of mylisteners to try something
similar to what I did for mybirthday and share with me on an
Instagram message.
So here it goes.
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I mentioned earlier that I did alittle social experiment for my
birthday on Friday, March the24th, 2023.
Thank you.
Thank you.
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Uh, thank you.
The social experiment wasbasically how to one manifests
an amazing birthday celebrationto receive all of the gifts I
want.
And three.
Collect birthday money insteadof spending my own money.
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For having a successful socialgathering.
I was able to accomplish allfour things by openly expressing
my birthday expectations.
I'm going to share with you howto manifest an amazing social
gathering for any occasion whilecelebrating life and celebrating
yourself.
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For the past couple years, I'vededicated my birthday to health
goals or motivating people.
I love to do a birthday workoutchallenge for my birthday.
Last year, I even had an extremefitness birthday workout party.
Some years before I kind ofstopped celebrating and wouldn't
really do anything for mybirthday.
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Some people complain of nevergetting what they want for their
birthday or spending their ownmoney for their birthday party.
Sometimes celebrating your ownbirthday can become a bit of a
hassle and you still only end upwith a hangover.
Okay.
So.
Many people in my inner circlehave birthdays in March.
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In fact, my son's birthday is inMarch.
So with this experiment, keep inmind that the results are not,
that I'm loved more than anyother March birthday.
It's just that I set highercelebration expectations for my
birthday this year.
Remember this key point, peoplethat love you will treat you
based upon the energy you createfor yourself.
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So you must create a highvibration, celebratory energy
way before the day of the event.
Okay.
That's the law of attraction.
That's creating high vibrations.
Step one.
The first part of theexperiment.
A week before your event telleveryone and remind everyone
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your event is coming.
This year, my birthday happenedto be on a Friday.
The Friday was also a work day.
Although I could have taken theday off, there was no way I
could do that.
And miss out on the birthdayquality time with my students
and coworkers.
Plus I spent over a weekreminding them that my birthday
was coming up.
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Step two.
Although my love language iswords of affirmation and quality
time.
My experiment is to receive allthe birthday gifts I want.
Here is a life hack for savingmoney.
Create an Amazon wishlist foryour event.
My nephew did this for his houseand warming.
It was a perfect idea.
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What's a birthday party withoutgifts though.
Right?
Plus I love saving money.
So I went to Amazon and build upmy Amazon shopping cart with
everything I wanted and createda wish list, link to share with
my close friends and family.
We already have a whole familygroup chat on messenger.
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So I simply posted the link inthat group chat a couple of days
before my birthday.
The link was another reminder tomy family, that my birthday's
coming up.
Sending that celebrate meenergy.
The great thing about this isyou get gifts you want ans you
get other gifts from people thatyou didn't send.
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The wishlist to.
Those are called bonus gifts.
If you need help setting up yourAmazon wishlist, send me an
Instagram message and I willhelp you through the steps of
setting it up and addingadditional items.
If you forget to add something.
Step three, this part of theexperiment is collecting money.
This is optional, but if yourcomplaint is that you don't like
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spending your own money on yourbirthday, this right here
resolves it.
Take a cute birthday safety pinor just a regular safety pin.
In my case, I was given a niceowl pen because I love owls and
I pinned a dollar to my shirt.
When people see the money onyour shirt, they are compelled
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to share monetary love with you.
Somehow by the end of the night,I was gifted a hundred dollar
bill and it was pinned on myshirt.
That's so awesome.
Step four.
Of the experiment was to have asuccessful social gathering.
First you have to find a greatlocation for your event.
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Since you don't want to spendyour own money, find a place
that's free with lots of seatingand specials.
People love specials.
This was the one I had toproperly plan.
I wanted to be convenient forthe people I love and wanted it
to still be a benefit for thosethat I love.
So what amazing group of peopledid I choose?
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I chose my coworkers after all.
I spent most of my time withthem anyway, so I know my
coworkers are always down for astress-relief party on a Friday
after work.
And after a semi stressful workweek.
So I sent out a group, text andtext messages to all my
coworkers, inviting them to mybirthday celebration immediately
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after work, I sent the name andthe location of the event.
And throughout the day, I wouldsee them and express that.
Full out celebratory energy.
Can't wait to see you tonight.
We need these.
They were all in.
I also had some height men inthe group message that were
expressing how they can wait forthe stress relief.
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Perfect.
Now, keep in mind.
You can also do separate eventsbased on friend groups this
year, I didn't plan anythingextra.
I only celebrated withcoworkers, but I did have
friends that I celebrated withbefore my birthday.
And, after my birthday.
I did not purposefully excludeanyone.
This was just the easiest for meand for my time.
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I made it home before 11:00 PMon a Friday night.
I'm an older lady now I can't bestaying out until 3:00 AM
anymore.
The success of my celebratorymanifestation.
Here are the results.
Because you want to know whathappened?
Did everything get manifestedcorrectly?
Yes.
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Number one.
Yes.
I had an amazing birthdaycelebration before my birthday,
on my birthday and after mybirthday, number two.
Yes, I received all of the giftson my Amazon wishlist.
Every day I came home from work.
There were Amazon packages left.
I recorded myself opening thegifts and sent the recording to
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the person that sent the gift.
That was extra exciting and fun.
Most of my family is out oftown, so it worked out.
I also got several bonus giftsfrom coworkers and friends.
Experiment three.
Yes.
I collected birthday money anddid not spend my own money on my
birthday.
I even ordered appetizers forthe table by using some of the
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money pin to my shirt.
I set my expectation to receiveat least$44 since it was my 44th
birthday.
But by the end of the night, Ireceived$218.
Also a promoter happened to beat the event location and said
freebies to our table.
That is the power ofmanifestation.
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Experiment number four.
Yes.
I had a successful socialgathering with my coworkers at a
table full of overworked andunderpaid educators.
We had a wonderful evening.
I think a total of 18 to 20 ofmy coworkers were there to
celebrate me and some were thereto celebrate surviving a rough
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week.
It doesn't matter which theyshowed up.
Each of our birthdays are acelebration of life.
Love and continuous longevity.
Please make sure to celebrateyourself.
Try that manifestation that Idid.
And let me know how it works foryou by sending me an Instagram
message.
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I have to say this because Ireally want to express what
brought me tears of joy on mybirthday.
My favorite gifts.
Where the words of affirmationand my birthday cards.
I woke up to a beautiful textmessage from one of my best
friends.
I actually emailed myself thetext message and printed the
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text message.
So I could hang it on my wordsof affirmation wall.
I needed it so much.
I was going to read it on thepodcast, but I decided that it
is personally for me and my joy.
So get your own best friends.
Then when I made it to work, Ireceived handwritten letters and
handmade cards from my students.
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All of which made me cry.
Happy tears.
I cried so much that morning.
I had to keep saying these arehappy tears.
Y'all y'all these are happytears.
The words of affirmation thatwere carefully and thoughtfully
written to me were a constantreminder of why I'm working in
my passion.
Why I will continue to work onmy own mindset of growth and
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elevate the minds of those Ilove and why being an educator
is so important.
Keep catering to my lovelanguage champions.
If you enjoy this celebration oflife or longevity session.
Please write a review or give mefive stars so that I can
continue to create content formental health prosperity and
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longevity.
I'm also still acceptingbirthday donations.
So you can click on the link inthe podcast notes to donate and
support this podcast, or it canbe a monetary birthday gift.
Each week.
I promote.
A book and Arthur's that haveimpacted my life or helped me
heal by increasing my knowledgeand awareness of experiences
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outside of my own.
The book.
Belonging.
The science of creating socialconnection and bridging divides
by Joffrey L Cohen.
In this book about belonging.
Stanford university professorJeffrey Cohen applies his, and
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others' groundbreaking researchto the myriad of problems of
communal existence and offersconcrete solutions for improving
daily life.
Answering questions such as whydo one in five Americans suffer
from chronic loneliness?
How do we become so alienated?
Why is our sense of belonging?
So undermined, What if therewere a set of science backed
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techniques for navigating modernsocial life that could help us
overcome our differences, createempathy and forge, lasting
connections, even across thedivides.
Professor Jeffrey Cohendescribes how we all feel a deep
need to belong, but most of usdon't fully appreciate that need
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in others.
Often we behave in ways thatthreaten others sense of
belonging.
Yes, small acts that establishconnection, brief activities,
such as reflecting on our corevalues and many other practices
that Cohen defines as situationcrafting have been shown to
lessen political division,improve motivation and
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performance in school and workcombat racism in our
communities, enhance health andwellbeing and unleash the
potential in ourselves.
And in our relationships,belonging is essential for
managers, educators, parents,administrators, caregivers, and
everyone who wants those aroundthem to thrive.
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Remember to click the link in mypodcast notes for this book to
purchase this book for you or topurchase this book for someone
you love.
You are now a champion forhealing and change.
When we are real together, weheal together.
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Be open to health and wealth.
Trust the healing process,sometimes healing hurts, but
when completely healed youbecome a stronger.
Wiser and amazing human.
That was heavy.
Let's relax and breathe.
Breathe in love.
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Breathe out.
Love.
Breathe in peace.
Breathe out peace.
Breathe in love.
Share love.
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See you next self care sunday