Episode #186- Your job's not draining you... your phone is! - w/ Brendon Burchard - Mind Wrench Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Does your job leave you burned out at the end of
each day?
Are you sure it's your work?
Are you actually getting lessdone at work or home in the same
amount of time, same amount ofhours that you did a year ago or
two years ago?
Is it possible we are workingless during the day but feeling
more mentally drained than everbefore?
Speaking of drained, how's yourbattery life on your cell phone

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Charging it more often than youused to?
What if it wasn't actually yourjob mentally draining you, but
really that device that almostnever leaves your hand?

Speaker 2 (00:41):
Welcome to the MindWrench Podcast with your
host, rick Sellover, where minoradjustments produce major
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Hey, let me ask you something.
Does your job leave you burnedout at the end of each day?

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Are you sure it's your work?
Are you actually getting lessdone at work or home in the same
amount of time, same amount ofhours that you did a year ago or
two years ago?
Is it possible we are workingless during the day but feeling

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more mentally drained than everbefore.
Speaking of drained, how's yourbattery life on your cell phone
, charging it more often thanyou used to?
What if it wasn't actually yourjob mentally draining you, but
really that device that almostnever leaves your hand?
I see it more and more every day.
Everywhere I go, I look aroundme.
When I enter a room, place ofbusiness, a restaurant, doctor's
office, a store or, sadly, atevery stoplight.

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What do I see?
People just staring down attheir phone, scrolling and
scrolling and scrolling,consuming content.
Sometimes I feel like I'm theonly one that's not staring at
their phone, although, in allhonesty, I do way too much as
well.
It's truly a disease that'staken over our daily lives.
It's more addictive than mostdrugs.
I believe it's making us dumberas a nation.

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It's paralyzing our kids,leaving them unable to focus on
anything or working on advancingor becoming better versions of
themselves, and leaving thegrown-ups just plain wiped out.
At the end of the day, what arewe spending all that time
consuming or scrolling throughor swiping through?
It's just so negative, souseless, so pointless.
It's just plain garbage, andwe're force-feeding it right

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into our minds on a consistentbasis.
Recently, I listened to a clipfrom a favorite speaker of mine,
brendan Bouchard, and it reallyhelped me understand why we're
feeling more burned out andmentally drained every day, and
how it has nothing to do withour work.
This week I thought I'd shareit with you as well, hoping you
may gain a little insight andmaybe start being a little bit

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more mindful about how you andyour family as well use your
devices.
Here's Brendan.

Speaker 3 (03:56):
Listen.
I know a lot of older peoplebemoan the youth of today.
But it's tough right now.
This is a tough time to grow up.
I mean it really.
We got gotta be nice to thekids, man.
The kids I know, all those kidsare lazy.
Your parents said that aboutyou and your grandparents said
it about your parents.
Every generation thinks the newgeneration is lucky, entitled,

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lazy.
Every generation in history ofhuman recorded history has said
the same thing.
All these new youth you can goway back and find this Literally
4,000 years ago in Hinduism.
Already talking about the newgeneration, it's a hard time.
It's been a hard few years.

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There's a lot of division andand many of you you know, myself
included were lucky not to growup comparing ourselves.
A hundred swipes a day.
You know that's some poisonright there.
You know, what people don'tunderstand is the average person

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right now is spending over anhour and a half a day on
Facebook or Instagram, just bythose two.
Add TikTok and now we're intotwo hours plus of what is called
consumption.
But the reality is, when you'reconsuming those things, it does
two things to you.
The first thing that you can.
You can't control either ofthem and most people are doing
two hours of it over about 1,500exposures to two psychological

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things that happen immediatelywhen you grab that phone and you
go through it or you lookInstagram doesn't matter TikTok,
pick your poison, whatever yougo through.
What most people don'tunderstand is, psychologically,
two things immediately happenthat you cannot control.
First and foremost, you judgeEvery swipe.
You judge Instantaneoustraining of judgment.

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Is this worthwhile, is thisrelevant?
Do I like it?
Is it worth a like?
Is it worth a share?
Is it worth a comment?
So, 1,500 times you go, do Ilike it?
Is it worth it?
Should I share it?
1,500 times a day?
You've heard of Pavlovs dogs?
Right, if you do somethingrepeatedly, that's just.

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You become automated about it.
Well, we become automated aboutjudgment.
The reason there's so muchdivisiveness is because every
day on our device, we areconditioning ourselves to judge,
the more you.
Every swipe is a judgment.
Isn't it Worth saying on it orleaving Judgment, judgment,
judgment.
1,500 times a day.

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Think about that.
1,500 judgments.
Some of you are like I don'tknow how do these high
performers do it?
Because they're not doing 1,500decisions like that, like many
other people are, because youknow what that's mental
allocation.
That's your mental capital,every judgment and decision.
It's the same reason.
You hear all these guys inSilicon Valley who they always

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wear the same shirt or the sameclothes because they want to
take away that.
One extra judgment every day,one less decision, so their mind
power can be fresh on otherthings.
Well, if you spend 1,500judgments a day, which is
average, spend 1,500 judgments aday, which is average, by the

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way.
Think about that.
You're like Brendan.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
I'm so burnt out.
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If, deep down, you know it'stime to make those improvements
in your business or yourpersonal life that you've kicked
down the road year after year.
If you're tired of knowingthere's a better version of you
waiting to shine, but unsure ofhow to bring that version to
light.
If you're tired of wanting toenjoy a more successful business
but not sure how to start.
And if you don't want to goanother 12 months without better

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you.

Speaker 3 (09:00):
The second thing it forces you to immediately do is
compare.
1,500 comparisons.
Two hours of comparison a day.
Two hours of comparison.
You actually, you think I don'tcompare.
I love when people say, brendan, I don't compare.
When I look at social media, I'mevolved.
I can look at it and staycentered.
I know myself.
I don't look at it like you doand it's like, oh, need some

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neuroscience training.
You can't help it.
There's this thing called yourmirror neurons.
You can't control it.
When you see another human doingsomething, your brain
immediately wonders what itwould look like for you to be
doing it or experiencing it.
It's how you develop and feel asense of connection or empathy
to things, or how you canimagine yourself.
You see a guy jumping off athing and landing and it's a

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scary jump and leap.
You feel this adrenalinewatching somebody else do it,
and you're not even doing it.
You're the safety of your ownhome and you see that guy jump
off the cliff and he's got thewingsuit and he's flying over
Norway or some Scandinavianplace.
You're like wow and you feelthe adrenaline.
Your palms are sweating.
That's the mirror neurons.
You can't control.
It just happens for most people.
So now what happens?
Two hours a day judging, twohours a day comparing, and you

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wonder why you don't have afresh mental image of yourself,
why you don't feel a vibrantconnection with yourself, why
sometimes, when I do thoseactivities, I know some of you
in this room like Brandon, whenyou told me to close my eyes and
see my future self, I didn'tsee anything Right, exactly, and
that's why you need to do thisas a practice.

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Raise your hand if you followExactly.
For those of you, you're likeBrendan, I struggled to see
anything Exactly.
That's why you need to do thatevery day.
Right, it's the same as sayinglike, if you're like Brendan, my
biceps are so small.
It's like, yeah, you don't useit.
You don't see yourself and getenthusiastic about yourself and
who you are becoming, can becomeand can achieve because you

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don't see it, you don't use thatpart of your brain.
So now you draw a blank when youask to think about the future.
You have to condition that.
That's why everyone talks aboutin good old personal
development, that visualization.
Right, it's so important.
I just want you to be consciousof it because if, for some
reason today we went throughwhat we went through and you're
lacking that connection withyour future self.

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You're not seeing or sensingthe enthusiasm.
You're probably in thecomfortable life or in that
caged part, and what happens inthose two parts is you get
disconnected from the best ofwho you are, you get
disconnected from that vision.
And so what's happening is youare always playing the immediate
game, just right here, rightnow Reaction, reaction, reaction

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, reaction, reaction, reaction,reaction, reaction.
But what you're really doing iscomparison judgment, comparison
judgment, comparison judgment.
So at the end of the day,you're mentally spent.
Comparison judgment, comparisonjudgment.
So at the end of the day,you're mentally spent.
Some people today, they are somentally spent at the end of the
day and you look at theiractual workload and their actual
responsibilities and it is notreflective of that burnout.

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Does anyone know what I mean?
Like you go, oh, you're.
You know, if we were back in adifferent era, before phones, we
would say like doctors werelike, well, that's weird, you're
that stressed and that mentallyfatigued with this job.
So there used to beoccupational research studies
that studied the stress ofdifferent occupations.

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Right, right, many of thosesame occupations, today,
measured, are experiencingdouble-digit increase in stress
in a two-decade span of time.
What happened?
The job didn't change, theoccupation didn't change.
It's that that same person isdoing even the same work, even

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the same processes when theystudy, like specific things in
engineering or specific thingsin construction, the same types
of things could be happening.
Processes when they study, likespecific things in engineering
or specific things inconstruction, the same types of
things could be happening.
The difference is they added1,500 mentally exhausting
comparisons and judgments.
Who falls?
I'm talking about?
I want you to be so vitallyaware of this, so insanely aware

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about when you start consumingor you start using something.
If you're consuming, it betterbe growing you up, it better be
lighting you up, engaging you,making you excited.
Otherwise, let me tell you whatgarbage in, garbage out.
Yeah, a lot of people who arementally drained.
Their jobs, occupations andrealities.
It's not they would feel somuch better, but they're

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mentally drained all the time.
And I can tell you, travelingthe world this last year, a lot
of people mentally drained, butthey're mentally drained doing
very easy jobs.
They're mentally drained whenthey're like well, brendan, you
don't understand.
I have one child.
I'm like.
My partner has eight childrenin one of my businesses.
Eight children.
He's vibrant because he's notdoing the additional additional

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1,500 swipes.
Who follows what I'm talkingabout.
I really want you to beattentive to this right now.
If today, when we talked aboutanything in your future, if you
haven't found an enthusiasm yetin self or in future, I want to
let you know either A you'retired or B you're out of
practice.

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Seeing the best of who you are.
I see it.
If you listen to Ed Milet'spodcast, you would think every
guest in the world that he hason there is the best human being
should win a Nobel Prize forjust the most extraordinary,
amazing.
He just lavishes love andpraise on people and some of
them make fun of him.
But, like, often you haven'tgot any of that praise for so

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long.
Often you haven't visualizedyourself for so long and so
you're playing small becauseyou're in immediacy, you're in
comparison, you're in judgment.
I just want you to be reallyattentive to this today, like
when you sleep tonight andyou're thinking about, like wow,
we were doing those activities.
I didn't feel the pop when hewas talking about the pop.

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I didn't feel that energy, thatenthusiasm.
I couldn't see, I couldn'trelate, I couldn't connect.
And don't get down on yourselfand say, go, oh, I'm out of
practice.
Everyone say it with me I'm outof practice.
Everyone say it with me I'm outof practice.
If you don't feel joyful, it'snot because joy doesn't exist in
your heart and your soul.
You forgot the power plantdoesn't have energy it.

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You got out of the practice ofgenerating energy.
Some of you got out of thepractice of generating the
vision of who you're going tobecome.
You've been in survival modeand in survival mode.
You got comfortable there andsometimes when you're survival
mode, when you're in the cage,it's very uncomfortable to try

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to imagine a future dream.

Speaker 1 (15:44):
Well, hopefully that clip from Brendan better
explained how all that scrollingand swiping is negatively
affecting our minds.
Maybe we can all start makingsome better choices that will
leave us more energized instead.
The complete speech fromBrendan Burchard can be found on
YouTube.
I'll put a link to that in theshow notes as well as a contact
link for Brendan.
Hey, one more thing before I go.

(16:04):
As you're listening to this,I'll be in SEMA in Las Vegas all
week connecting, learning andjust enjoying everything
auto-related.
So when I get back, I'll haveall my takeaways and my SEMA
wrap-up for 2024, and I'll putthat all together and you'll see
it in an episode soon.
So if you're there and you seeme wandering around there, be
sure to come up and say hi.
Thanks again for tuning in.

(16:30):
I really appreciate yoursupport and I hope you have a
great week.
I can always be reached atwwwrickselovercom where you can
find all my social media links,podcast episodes, blog posts and
much more.
Bye.

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