October 10, 2025 • 20 mins
When was the last time you pushed a button just to see what happens? In this episode, Cheryl shares a funny (and surprisingly insightful) story about her Ring camera — and how it led to a big realization about curiosity, confidence, and trying new things in midlife.
If you’ve ever hesitated to try something because you weren’t sure how it would go — whether that’s a new app, a hobby, or even a career change — this one’s for you. Learn why experimenting, exploring, and “trying all the things” is key to staying confident, capable, and excited about life in your 40s, 50s, and beyond.
What You'll Hear:
- How a Ring camera challenge turned into a powerful midlife mindset lesson
- Why we get stuck waiting for permission before we try new things
- What younger generations can teach us about curiosity and exploration
- How “pushing all the buttons” in life builds confidence and resilience
- Simple ways to explore, experiment, and find new joy in midlife
Take Action:
- Think of one thing you’ve been putting off because you’re afraid to mess it up — and go try it this week.
- Subscribe to the bonus podcast episodes and let's dive deeper into midlife together! (Current mini-series - moving through a job change you didn't want)
- Check out Meetup.com for finding local walking or hobby groups
Key Takeaway:
You can’t discover what’s possible if you’re afraid to tap the buttons. Whether it’s learning a new skill, joining a group, or exploring a hidden passion, midlife is the perfect time to stay curious and try all the things.
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Cheryl Fischer (00:00):
I suspect we can all agree that the younger
generations are much more usedto electronics and figuring out
apps and using handheld devices.
As Gen X, that's me, you may beeither Gen X or somewhere
(00:20):
around there.
We didn't grow up with that inthe same way.
And it does, it does mean thathow we think is a little bit
different.
So let's take a lesson from theyounger generation and use it
to find all the options and tryall the things.
Let's talk about it.
Welcome to Mind Your Midlife,your go-to resource for
(00:45):
confidence and success, onethought at a time.
Unlike most advice out there,we believe that simply telling
you to believe in yourself orchange your habits isn't enough
to wake up excited about life orfeel truly confident in your
body.
Each week, you'll gainactionable strategies and oh my
(01:05):
goodness, powerful insights tostop feeling stuck and start
loving your midlife.
This is the Mind Your Midlifepodcast.
So in midlife, 40s, 50s, 60s,we are what's often referred to
as a sandwich generation,meaning we are helping or even
(01:27):
taking care of our parents'generation, potentially still
taking care of our kids or thatgeneration, and at least
involved.
And so we're kind of sandwichedin between.
And our kids are graduallybecoming more self-sufficient.
But of course, we're alwaysgoing to be involved.
(01:48):
We're always going to want tobe helping them or supporting
them or cheering them on.
So it can be challenging attimes.
I bring that up because I wasrecently helping a member of the
older generation, the age ourparents, our aunts and uncles
would be with a phone, trying tohelp this person figure out how
(02:13):
to use an app, how did it work,where was it, what would we
find, how could we enter theinformation?
And I noticed that they justweren't clicking on the little
lines at the top or on the arrowat the bottom, or they weren't
trying what I now know to try.
(02:35):
You know, look all around thescreen, click on anything there
is.
Let's see what happens.
That was absolutely not howthis person would think.
And it wasn't how I would thinkoriginally either.
And it made me realize theimportance of this even more
recently when I was complainingto someone.
(02:57):
And you know, I talk about howwe shouldn't complain in
conversation as a habit, but Iwas venting, and I think maybe
it was okay to have a momentventing on this.
As I think in hindsight, maybeI was a little complaining.
But anyway, I was complainingto someone that our front door
(03:18):
ring camera, and whether youhave a ring camera or you have
some other thing, I know a lotof us have some type of camera
on the front of our house.
So someone rings the bell orcomes and knocks on the door, we
can see who it is.
Maybe we can even talk to them.
I was complaining that the ringcamera kept picking up anytime
a truck drove by on the street.
(03:40):
And the reason that washappening is because I live in a
townhouse, and while the frontdoor is elevated pretty high off
the ground, and there's a porchwith a railing, I'm still
fairly close to the street.
So when a truck would come by,we you could see from the ring
(04:01):
camera through the slats of therailing to the like the top of
the truck on the street.
So, yes, was there motion?
There was motion, but it was aways away.
Nobody was coming to the door.
And I was always getting thesenotifications.
There's motion at your frontdoor, there's motion at your
front door.
And so I basically had to stoppaying attention to them.
(04:22):
The problem with that is thenwhen a package came, I did want
to notice that notification.
So I was complaining.
I guess maybe I need to get anew ring camera, a smarter one.
This one has been here for along time, and I don't know if I
want to go through that.
Is it wired into the house?
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,blah.
And I just had thisrealization.
(04:43):
Have I actually looked insidethe ring app to see if I could
set it up differently with thecamera I have?
Maybe I embodied our Gen Zfriends for just a moment.
And so I got home from havingthis conversation.
I opened up on my phone thering app, and I noticed that I
(05:08):
had the option of setting smartsensing or smart motion sensing,
whatever it was.
This is not an endorsement ofring cameras, whatever they call
it, where I could ask it totell me are there a person at
the door and it could recognizeif it's a person.
And I could ask it to tell me,is there a package in the zone
(05:30):
near the door?
And it could recognize whetherthere was a package.
And anything else besides aperson or a package, supposedly
the app was telling me it wasnot going to catch.
So it was that simple to fix myproblem that have been
bothering me for months.
(05:52):
And there's probably lifelesson number one.
So many things that we allowourselves to worry over and fret
over and complain over for along, long time.
If we just sat down with anopen mind for a few minutes and
we just dug a little further orlooked at it a little
(06:12):
differently, we might be able tosolve it.
And now I'm thinking, why did Ispend so many months being
annoyed about the trucks?
Now, thankfully, I live on apretty quiet street.
So it's not as if there'strucks going by constantly.
But over time, of course, I wasthis was happening a lot.
The Amazon truck, right, iscome through a lot.
(06:33):
So I solved my problem, Isolved it quickly and easily,
and I waited a few days to seehow it was going.
And sure enough, it tells me ifthere's a person, it tells me
if there's a package, and itdoesn't tell me about all this
other stuff.
And it was right there in theapp the whole time.
And for me, there's a verypractical, concrete lesson here,
(07:02):
but there's also a biggermindset lesson.
So let me see if both of thesemight help you as you're in your
midlife how do I deal with theworld phase just like I am.
So the practical, concretelesson is that you are certainly
savvy and smart enough tofigure out any app, any service,
(07:28):
any website, any course that'sout there.
I promise you, you are.
And if there's a voice in yourbrain now telling you, oh, I
don't know.
No, you have 40 or 50 years oflife experience, whether you've
been around electronics a lot ornot, you are savvy enough to
(07:49):
figure it out.
If you remember to just try allthe buttons, try all the
things.
It is very unlikely that youare going to mess something up.
And I think that's why wehesitate, right?
I what if I push the wrongbutton and then I lose
everything?
(08:10):
Now, I can't tell you that thatwould never happen, but if
you're pushing a button that isgoing to cause you to lose
everything, there's usually awarning that pops up and says,
Are you sure you want to dothat?
And then you can say, No, I'mnot sure I want to do that.
Stop.
Let's go back.
So trying things is how welearn.
(08:33):
There's probably what we callin the software world a
hamburger menu at the top of thescreen on the left or the right
corner with the threehorizontal lines.
So it's like the bun and theburger inside, the three
horizontal lines.
Click it, look and see what'sin it.
There might be a list of itemson the screen of your app.
(08:55):
Click them, see if they goanywhere.
See if they're a dynamic linkthat will take you into the
details.
Or maybe there's a littlearrow, like one of those little
greater than or less thansymbols.
Click it, see where it goes.
Try swiping.
I recently learned that I couldswipe to the right on Instagram
and it would take me.
(09:16):
Shoot, now I don't evenremember.
It would take me over to mystories, maybe?
Is that where it takes me?
I think so.
I didn't know that.
And I once had to ask mydaughter-in-law how in the world
in Spotify I could share a linkbecause I could not see any
(09:36):
button in the little buttonsthat would let me do it.
Or maybe it was that I hadclicked a button that I thought
was going to be share, but theoptions that came up didn't have
what I wanted.
And she said, Well, scroll upso that you see more of the
options.
Oh my goodness.
These things happen to ussometimes because we did not
(10:09):
grow up with technology in thesame way that the younger
generations did.
We grew up with a wordprocessor, maybe a computer that
you loaded floppy disks into,and user manuals.
And it took me, and I'm socurious if this is true for you,
(10:30):
it took me quite some time tostop missing the user manual
because our new phones and ournew computers, you can find
help, but it's not like it comeswith a paper book anymore, a
user manual that you can read,right?
And we're now we're gettingused to that.
I'm just encouraging you, onewrong tap is not gonna break the
(10:54):
internet, it's not gonna ruinyour information, and it's
probably gonna warn you ifyou're getting close to that
point.
So, in a practical, concreteway, try all the buttons, scroll
up and down, see what there is.
Because even in things you'reusing right now, there could be
more cool stuff you could do.
(11:15):
And then let's make thisbigger.
If we take this out of theconcrete application and we talk
about life.
In midlife, we're alwaystalking here on the podcast
about how much change ishappening, and even in the
private podcast episodes thatare releasing now.
(11:37):
So if you are not subscribingto that, make sure you go to
CherylPFisher.com slash bonusepisodes.
Even in there, I'm talkingabout change.
The the mini-series going onnow is how to move through a job
change you didn't want.
And it will help you even ifit's a job change you want.
(11:59):
So there's a lot of changehappening.
Our parents are getting older,our kids are getting older,
we're looking at retirement, ourbodies are changing, maybe our
living situation is changing.
I'm just listing things out.
There's more than that,probably.
Things that we had for many,many years as our kids were
growing up are changing.
Our friends are changing,maybe.
(12:20):
If a lot of your friendshipscame from your kids' parents as
your friends, that might change.
So there's a lot.
So then if we take this, lookfor all the buttons, click all
the menus, try all the things,metaphor, and we make it bigger.
(12:41):
I want you to try all thethings.
I want you to click all thebuttons in your life.
And that means try a new hobby.
Maybe you ask around to yourfriends.
What do they do for fun?
Do they play any games?
Are they any clubs?
I'm gonna recommend Mahjong.
(13:02):
You could Google even what's inyour area.
You could look at mahjong, youcould look at Domino's, you
could look at Bunko, not myfavorite if I'm being honest,
but it's a social game.
What's going on in your area?
Do you like to walk?
Look for a walking or a hikinggroup.
(13:24):
Meetup.com is a great sourcefor that.
Something, try a new hobby.
Maybe you want to learn toknit.
You probably have a local yarnstore if you're in a at least a
medium to large size city.
And those local yarn storesalmost always have classes that
(13:44):
you can go to to learn to knitor learn to crochet.
And then you meet people aswell.
Now, maybe you can't stand thisnew thing that you're trying.
Maybe you try and you hate,like hate it, you don't get it.
Normally I would say try a fewtimes, but overarching, trust
your instinct.
Trust your instinct as towhether this is something you
(14:06):
want to keep trying or keepdoing.
But just think outside the box.
Hit all the buttons, try allthe menus.
Maybe you start a newvolunteering thing.
Did you always like animals?
Did you always like languages?
Did you always like evenshopping?
You could volunteer for ananimal rescue group.
(14:29):
You could volunteer to help inEnglish as a second language
classrooms.
You could volunteer to helpolder people get their errands
done.
I don't, there's so manythings.
Look for groups that do that.
Maybe you start a podcast.
Maybe you take a class.
(14:50):
Where I live, the countyprovides continuing education
and adult learning classes on, Imean, everything, all kinds of
stuff.
I've been thinking about takinga dance class.
I mean, why not?
I always was curious aboutIrish dancing.
We often hold back because wedo things the way we're used to
(15:12):
doing it.
Just like you go into your appon your phone and you use it the
way you're used to using it.
I want you to swipe left, swiperight, swipe up, swipe down,
hit the menu, hit the button,press on things to see what will
happen.
Maybe that's even the best wayto say it.
Press on things to see whatwill happen.
(15:34):
Check all the menus.
There is something that mightbe an amazing and fun and
meaningful addition to your lifeat this time that you haven't
tried yet.
And it might not be exactlywhat other people are doing.
Knitting crochet, mahjong, allthese things that are very
(15:55):
popular right now.
And I personally love to knitand I love to play mahjong, but
that doesn't mean you have to.
There could be something elsethat you love.
Maybe you start up a pokergroup.
I don't know.
Something, there's somethingthat you will love.
And this season of life isperfect for exploring.
(16:15):
Because I've said repeatedlythat midlife can be stressful
because there's so much changegoing on, and we're absorbing
all of that, and we're trying tofigure out where to go.
But let's look at the otherside of that coin.
We have typically a little bitmore time to figure out what do
(16:39):
we want?
How do we want the next 20, 30years to look?
And we still have the strengthand we still have the energy and
we still have the memory, shortand long term, to do pretty
much anything we want.
If I can go to bar class, whichis very challenging, it's kind
(17:00):
of like Pilates, if you don'tknow of it, and and work out
with mostly 20-somethings andhang in there really well, in my
opinion, you can do anything.
So the key is to look outsidethe lines and find the magic for
you.
And be willing to keep trying,be willing to go somewhere and
(17:26):
try something and not like it,maybe try it again another time.
But it's okay if you don't likeit and you stop, and then being
willing to try something else,or being willing to put yourself
out there.
If we stop worrying aboutwhether it fails or whether it
(17:46):
succeeds, because what does thateven mean?
You have to define that foryourself, and we just say, hey,
I have something to say.
I'm gonna make a podcast, orI'm gonna do a blog, or I'm
gonna grow this on social media.
This is the thing I want toshare with the world.
Try it.
You get to decide if you likeit, you get to decide what it
(18:07):
looks like, you get to decidewhen it's successful.
Just try it.
So just like fiddling aroundwith these apps where we don't
have a user manual and we don'tknow what it's gonna do when we
push a certain thing, try it.
Try all the things.
Look in the corners, scroll upand down, and remember it's not
(18:33):
a big deal to try and see, andmaybe because we're gonna find
some cool stuff along the way.
So, my challenge for you isthink about one thing that
you've been avoiding this week,this month, because you're
(18:53):
afraid that you might mess up,or it might not go well, or your
idea maybe isn't as good as youthought it was, or maybe you
won't like it.
Go hit that button.
Try it.
And in the meantime, rememberto slow down, notice what's
going on around you, what'sgoing on in your head, and let's
(19:17):
create something amazing.
I suspect we can all agree that the younger
generations are much more usedto electronics and figuring out
apps and using handheld devices.
As Gen X, that's me, you may beeither Gen X or somewhere
(00:20):
around there.
We didn't grow up with that inthe same way.
And it does, it does mean thathow we think is a little bit
different.
So let's take a lesson from theyounger generation and use it
to find all the options and tryall the things.
Let's talk about it.
Welcome to Mind Your Midlife,your go-to resource for
(00:45):
confidence and success, onethought at a time.
Unlike most advice out there,we believe that simply telling
you to believe in yourself orchange your habits isn't enough
to wake up excited about life orfeel truly confident in your
body.
Each week, you'll gainactionable strategies and oh my
(01:05):
goodness, powerful insights tostop feeling stuck and start
loving your midlife.
This is the Mind Your Midlifepodcast.
So in midlife, 40s, 50s, 60s,we are what's often referred to
as a sandwich generation,meaning we are helping or even
(01:27):
taking care of our parents'generation, potentially still
taking care of our kids or thatgeneration, and at least
involved.
And so we're kind of sandwichedin between.
And our kids are graduallybecoming more self-sufficient.
But of course, we're alwaysgoing to be involved.
(01:48):
We're always going to want tobe helping them or supporting
them or cheering them on.
So it can be challenging attimes.
I bring that up because I wasrecently helping a member of the
older generation, the age ourparents, our aunts and uncles
would be with a phone, trying tohelp this person figure out how
(02:13):
to use an app, how did it work,where was it, what would we
find, how could we enter theinformation?
And I noticed that they justweren't clicking on the little
lines at the top or on the arrowat the bottom, or they weren't
trying what I now know to try.
(02:35):
You know, look all around thescreen, click on anything there
is.
Let's see what happens.
That was absolutely not howthis person would think.
And it wasn't how I would thinkoriginally either.
And it made me realize theimportance of this even more
recently when I was complainingto someone.
(02:57):
And you know, I talk about howwe shouldn't complain in
conversation as a habit, but Iwas venting, and I think maybe
it was okay to have a momentventing on this.
As I think in hindsight, maybeI was a little complaining.
But anyway, I was complainingto someone that our front door
(03:18):
ring camera, and whether youhave a ring camera or you have
some other thing, I know a lotof us have some type of camera
on the front of our house.
So someone rings the bell orcomes and knocks on the door, we
can see who it is.
Maybe we can even talk to them.
I was complaining that the ringcamera kept picking up anytime
a truck drove by on the street.
(03:40):
And the reason that washappening is because I live in a
townhouse, and while the frontdoor is elevated pretty high off
the ground, and there's a porchwith a railing, I'm still
fairly close to the street.
So when a truck would come by,we you could see from the ring
(04:01):
camera through the slats of therailing to the like the top of
the truck on the street.
So, yes, was there motion?
There was motion, but it was aways away.
Nobody was coming to the door.
And I was always getting thesenotifications.
There's motion at your frontdoor, there's motion at your
front door.
And so I basically had to stoppaying attention to them.
(04:22):
The problem with that is thenwhen a package came, I did want
to notice that notification.
So I was complaining.
I guess maybe I need to get anew ring camera, a smarter one.
This one has been here for along time, and I don't know if I
want to go through that.
Is it wired into the house?
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,blah.
And I just had thisrealization.
(04:43):
Have I actually looked insidethe ring app to see if I could
set it up differently with thecamera I have?
Maybe I embodied our Gen Zfriends for just a moment.
And so I got home from havingthis conversation.
I opened up on my phone thering app, and I noticed that I
(05:08):
had the option of setting smartsensing or smart motion sensing,
whatever it was.
This is not an endorsement ofring cameras, whatever they call
it, where I could ask it totell me are there a person at
the door and it could recognizeif it's a person.
And I could ask it to tell me,is there a package in the zone
(05:30):
near the door?
And it could recognize whetherthere was a package.
And anything else besides aperson or a package, supposedly
the app was telling me it wasnot going to catch.
So it was that simple to fix myproblem that have been
bothering me for months.
(05:52):
And there's probably lifelesson number one.
So many things that we allowourselves to worry over and fret
over and complain over for along, long time.
If we just sat down with anopen mind for a few minutes and
we just dug a little further orlooked at it a little
(06:12):
differently, we might be able tosolve it.
And now I'm thinking, why did Ispend so many months being
annoyed about the trucks?
Now, thankfully, I live on apretty quiet street.
So it's not as if there'strucks going by constantly.
But over time, of course, I wasthis was happening a lot.
The Amazon truck, right, iscome through a lot.
(06:33):
So I solved my problem, Isolved it quickly and easily,
and I waited a few days to seehow it was going.
And sure enough, it tells me ifthere's a person, it tells me
if there's a package, and itdoesn't tell me about all this
other stuff.
And it was right there in theapp the whole time.
And for me, there's a verypractical, concrete lesson here,
(07:02):
but there's also a biggermindset lesson.
So let me see if both of thesemight help you as you're in your
midlife how do I deal with theworld phase just like I am.
So the practical, concretelesson is that you are certainly
savvy and smart enough tofigure out any app, any service,
(07:28):
any website, any course that'sout there.
I promise you, you are.
And if there's a voice in yourbrain now telling you, oh, I
don't know.
No, you have 40 or 50 years oflife experience, whether you've
been around electronics a lot ornot, you are savvy enough to
(07:49):
figure it out.
If you remember to just try allthe buttons, try all the
things.
It is very unlikely that youare going to mess something up.
And I think that's why wehesitate, right?
I what if I push the wrongbutton and then I lose
everything?
(08:10):
Now, I can't tell you that thatwould never happen, but if
you're pushing a button that isgoing to cause you to lose
everything, there's usually awarning that pops up and says,
Are you sure you want to dothat?
And then you can say, No, I'mnot sure I want to do that.
Stop.
Let's go back.
So trying things is how welearn.
(08:33):
There's probably what we callin the software world a
hamburger menu at the top of thescreen on the left or the right
corner with the threehorizontal lines.
So it's like the bun and theburger inside, the three
horizontal lines.
Click it, look and see what'sin it.
There might be a list of itemson the screen of your app.
(08:55):
Click them, see if they goanywhere.
See if they're a dynamic linkthat will take you into the
details.
Or maybe there's a littlearrow, like one of those little
greater than or less thansymbols.
Click it, see where it goes.
Try swiping.
I recently learned that I couldswipe to the right on Instagram
and it would take me.
(09:16):
Shoot, now I don't evenremember.
It would take me over to mystories, maybe?
Is that where it takes me?
I think so.
I didn't know that.
And I once had to ask mydaughter-in-law how in the world
in Spotify I could share a linkbecause I could not see any
(09:36):
button in the little buttonsthat would let me do it.
Or maybe it was that I hadclicked a button that I thought
was going to be share, but theoptions that came up didn't have
what I wanted.
And she said, Well, scroll upso that you see more of the
options.
Oh my goodness.
These things happen to ussometimes because we did not
(10:09):
grow up with technology in thesame way that the younger
generations did.
We grew up with a wordprocessor, maybe a computer that
you loaded floppy disks into,and user manuals.
And it took me, and I'm socurious if this is true for you,
(10:30):
it took me quite some time tostop missing the user manual
because our new phones and ournew computers, you can find
help, but it's not like it comeswith a paper book anymore, a
user manual that you can read,right?
And we're now we're gettingused to that.
I'm just encouraging you, onewrong tap is not gonna break the
(10:54):
internet, it's not gonna ruinyour information, and it's
probably gonna warn you ifyou're getting close to that
point.
So, in a practical, concreteway, try all the buttons, scroll
up and down, see what there is.
Because even in things you'reusing right now, there could be
more cool stuff you could do.
(11:15):
And then let's make thisbigger.
If we take this out of theconcrete application and we talk
about life.
In midlife, we're alwaystalking here on the podcast
about how much change ishappening, and even in the
private podcast episodes thatare releasing now.
(11:37):
So if you are not subscribingto that, make sure you go to
CherylPFisher.com slash bonusepisodes.
Even in there, I'm talkingabout change.
The the mini-series going onnow is how to move through a job
change you didn't want.
And it will help you even ifit's a job change you want.
(11:59):
So there's a lot of changehappening.
Our parents are getting older,our kids are getting older,
we're looking at retirement, ourbodies are changing, maybe our
living situation is changing.
I'm just listing things out.
There's more than that,probably.
Things that we had for many,many years as our kids were
growing up are changing.
Our friends are changing,maybe.
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If a lot of your friendshipscame from your kids' parents as
your friends, that might change.
So there's a lot.
So then if we take this, lookfor all the buttons, click all
the menus, try all the things,metaphor, and we make it bigger.
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I want you to try all thethings.
I want you to click all thebuttons in your life.
And that means try a new hobby.
Maybe you ask around to yourfriends.
What do they do for fun?
Do they play any games?
Are they any clubs?
I'm gonna recommend Mahjong.
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You could Google even what's inyour area.
You could look at mahjong, youcould look at Domino's, you
could look at Bunko, not myfavorite if I'm being honest,
but it's a social game.
What's going on in your area?
Do you like to walk?
Look for a walking or a hikinggroup.
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Meetup.com is a great sourcefor that.
Something, try a new hobby.
Maybe you want to learn toknit.
You probably have a local yarnstore if you're in a at least a
medium to large size city.
And those local yarn storesalmost always have classes that
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you can go to to learn to knitor learn to crochet.
And then you meet people aswell.
Now, maybe you can't stand thisnew thing that you're trying.
Maybe you try and you hate,like hate it, you don't get it.
Normally I would say try a fewtimes, but overarching, trust
your instinct.
Trust your instinct as towhether this is something you
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want to keep trying or keepdoing.
But just think outside the box.
Hit all the buttons, try allthe menus.
Maybe you start a newvolunteering thing.
Did you always like animals?
Did you always like languages?
Did you always like evenshopping?
You could volunteer for ananimal rescue group.
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You could volunteer to help inEnglish as a second language
classrooms.
You could volunteer to helpolder people get their errands
done.
I don't, there's so manythings.
Look for groups that do that.
Maybe you start a podcast.
Maybe you take a class.
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Where I live, the countyprovides continuing education
and adult learning classes on, Imean, everything, all kinds of
stuff.
I've been thinking about takinga dance class.
I mean, why not?
I always was curious aboutIrish dancing.
We often hold back because wedo things the way we're used to
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doing it.
Just like you go into your appon your phone and you use it the
way you're used to using it.
I want you to swipe left, swiperight, swipe up, swipe down,
hit the menu, hit the button,press on things to see what will
happen.
Maybe that's even the best wayto say it.
Press on things to see whatwill happen.
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Check all the menus.
There is something that mightbe an amazing and fun and
meaningful addition to your lifeat this time that you haven't
tried yet.
And it might not be exactlywhat other people are doing.
Knitting crochet, mahjong, allthese things that are very
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popular right now.
And I personally love to knitand I love to play mahjong, but
that doesn't mean you have to.
There could be something elsethat you love.
Maybe you start up a pokergroup.
I don't know.
Something, there's somethingthat you will love.
And this season of life isperfect for exploring.
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Because I've said repeatedlythat midlife can be stressful
because there's so much changegoing on, and we're absorbing
all of that, and we're trying tofigure out where to go.
But let's look at the otherside of that coin.
We have typically a little bitmore time to figure out what do
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we want?
How do we want the next 20, 30years to look?
And we still have the strengthand we still have the energy and
we still have the memory, shortand long term, to do pretty
much anything we want.
If I can go to bar class, whichis very challenging, it's kind
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of like Pilates, if you don'tknow of it, and and work out
with mostly 20-somethings andhang in there really well, in my
opinion, you can do anything.
So the key is to look outsidethe lines and find the magic for
you.
And be willing to keep trying,be willing to go somewhere and
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try something and not like it,maybe try it again another time.
But it's okay if you don't likeit and you stop, and then being
willing to try something else,or being willing to put yourself
out there.
If we stop worrying aboutwhether it fails or whether it
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succeeds, because what does thateven mean?
You have to define that foryourself, and we just say, hey,
I have something to say.
I'm gonna make a podcast, orI'm gonna do a blog, or I'm
gonna grow this on social media.
This is the thing I want toshare with the world.
Try it.
You get to decide if you likeit, you get to decide what it
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looks like, you get to decidewhen it's successful.
Just try it.
So just like fiddling aroundwith these apps where we don't
have a user manual and we don'tknow what it's gonna do when we
push a certain thing, try it.
Try all the things.
Look in the corners, scroll upand down, and remember it's not
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a big deal to try and see, andmaybe because we're gonna find
some cool stuff along the way.
So, my challenge for you isthink about one thing that
you've been avoiding this week,this month, because you're
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afraid that you might mess up,or it might not go well, or your
idea maybe isn't as good as youthought it was, or maybe you
won't like it.
Go hit that button.
Try it.
And in the meantime, rememberto slow down, notice what's
going on around you, what'sgoing on in your head, and let's
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create something amazing.
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