Do you wonder why children seem more confident than adults?
Do you find the concept of confidence elusive, something that fluctuates and isn't always in your control?
Together, we'll unravel the mystery of confidence, discussing the difference between childlike self-assurance and adult anxieties, the power of internal dialogues, and how to harness the magic of playful imagery.
We'll also discuss repetition as a tool for building confidence, using a charming analogy of wearing confidence like a jacket.
Learn about the 'Superman pose' and its role in exuding confidence, and the significance of adopting a playful approach instead of taking things too seriously.
We'll also explore the dynamic nature of confidence, how it can coexist with fear, and why that's perfectly normal.
Let's embark on this riveting journey of understanding and enhancing your self-confidence.
Put on your confidence jackets as we dive into the heart of self-assurance.
Remember, Enjoy your day, one minute at a time.
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Episode Transcript
Did you know that confidence is one of the main
things people come to see ahypnotist for?
Let's talk about that, andlet's talk about how you can
increase your confidence too.
Welcome to Mindful HypnosisPodcast.
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Welcome to the podcast.
So when I had my office, I saw alot of kids and they were so
easy to work with.
Honestly, it was the parentsthat were the worst.
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I digress anyway.
Parents can be difficult, butwhen it came to building up
their confidence, kids were easybecause they were playful and
you could pull in imagery thatallowed them to be confident.
You can do this in manydifferent ways and I work with a
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lot of women who don't feelconfident and it's a little bit
harder because what is behindall that are all these internal
beliefs and these dialogue, thisdialogue that keeps going on
and on and you kind of have toknock that back.
But kids don't have that.
You know they can, they canfeel it and express it and you
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can build it up really easy.
You know some kids of courseyou can't, but most you can.
Now I like to think ofconfidence as a way of building
up the ability to be more sureof yourself.
Now, when I would work withthese kids, I would ask them
what is confidence to you?
And they would be like it'sbeing brave.
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And when you ask adult, they'llgo.
They're kind of like pause fora little bit because there's not
a lot of words that representconfidence.
I think it's an accumulation ofa lot of words, you know being
self-assured, being strong,being in control, and if you
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want to learn about control,listen to my hypnosis and
control episode.
I'll link that in the shownotes.
But how do you become more sureof yourself when in the back of
your head, you're tellingyourself you're not.
Well, how do you build upanything?
If you're a bodybuilder, yougain muscle strength by
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repetition.
If you're a contractor, youlearn how to be a contractor by
building house after house afterhouse.
So there's a repetitioncomponent.
When it comes to confidence,confidence is something that
develops as a young kid, but asan adult you can learn to become
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confident.
You can teach yourself.
I like to use the analogy andI've done this with my clients.
Confidence is like putting on ajacket and you have to first
off know.
You know, do you like thejacket?
What does this jacket look like?
How does this jacket feel?
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And I like to tell people towear their confidence, bring it
in, feel that jacket, you know,and if you can just play with me
for a minute and just imaginethat you have a confidence
jacket and you're gonna put iton, everybody is different and
one person's jacket could beleather, somebody else just
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could be a nice sweater that'scomfortable.
Maybe somebody's jacket is morelike armor, or maybe it's
something fun.
Whatever you feel representsconfidence to you is what you
wear and you just use yourimagination and then, when you
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put that jacket on and you kindof match what that jacket feels
like to how you wanna feelinside, you let it build up and
you let it become an expressionof yourself, as if it's an
imaginary jacket and you'rewearing it and then, as you let
it build up and you build up,and the one thing you need to do
is you need to wear theconfidence as well.
You need to stand up taller,you know, put your head up and
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if you really wanna have fun,you stand your ass up and you
get into the confident Supermanpose.
We all know what that is.
That's the pose where you'restanding up and your hands on
your hips.
You just allow that energy tosink in and just to move around
you in every space and place inyour body and you'll feel
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yourself beginning to feelconfident.
And one of the reasons I like toplay when it, you know, when it
comes to being in confidence,is people just take it too
seriously.
You know I have to be confidentfor that meeting.
One of the best ways to do thatis to have fun and to go into
whatever you're doing with asense of curiosity.
And this is why kids work sowell because they're curious and
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they play.
And when you play, you increaseall these wonderful chemicals
in your body and you're kind ofplaying that, you're confident.
And when, even if you're fakingit too, you make it, you're
still bringing that energy inand you can become confident.
It's no different than they saywhen you wanna be happy, you
have to smile.
Your brain believes what you doand if you do it it's going to
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believe it.
Just a side note you know, whensomebody asks me, you know what
the definition of confidence is,I like to think of Sogoni
Weaver, the movie Aliens.
When Ripley is in the elevatorand she is going down to go get
Newt and she's riding thatelevator, and as she's in that
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elevator she is getting herequipment together, she's
putting their jacket on and bythe time she gets to the bottom
floor she is standing there withthat weapon in her hand, ready
to go fight.
And the thing about that imageis she is confident as hell.
But you know she's alsoterrified.
There may still be some fear,and that is okay.
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The confidence is what helpsyou to push through the fear.
So even the most confidentpeople can still be nervous,
they can still be worried, butthey push through because they
allow the confidence to bebigger than what they're
fighting Now, a lot of the womenI work with.
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I'll ask them to tell me whenwas the last time they had a
confidence issue.
And they'll usually tell me atime.
And then I'll ask them when thelast time they felt confident.
And you know what?
It's usually the exact same day.
And why is that?
Because it's an emotion andwe're emotional people and we
are in a state of flux, andyou'll be confident one minute
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and not so confident the next.
Happy one minute and not sohappy the next, and depending on
where you are, is what you feel.
And it is okay to allow for theflow because, really, what
confidence is?
It is just knowing that you cando what you put your mind to,
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even if it may be difficult.
All right, well, you go out withyour bad self, get that jacket
on and get into that Supermanpose and don't take things so
seriously, and you'll find, ifyou do that, then you will
accomplish what you need to do.
It'll be there for you.
All right, I will see you onthe next episode.
Take a big, deep breath in andexhale.
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support the life you want tolive.
In the meantime, enjoy your dayone minute at a time.
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