Mindfully Masculine: Personal Growth and Mental Health for Men

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan unpack Chapters 14 and 15 of The Let Them Theory—and the uncomfortable truth that you can’t force anyone to change.

We dive into why pressure backfires, why rescuing keeps people stuck, and how the most powerful form of influence comes from backing off. From partners and kids to friends and coworkers, if you’ve ever tried to “fix” someone, this one will sting a little.

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Friendship in adulthood isn’t what it used to be — and in this conversation, we get into why that’s not always a bad thing. Charles and Dan dig into the myths we carry from childhood about how friends “should” work, and how those expectations crash into reality once proximity, free time, and shared schedules disappear.

We break down Mel Robbins’ “three pillars” of friendship — proximity, timing, and energy — and give our unfiltered ...

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan continue their exploration of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, turning a critical eye toward two major ideas: fairness and comparison.

First, they take on the statement “life isn’t fair”—not to reject it outright, but to unpack its usefulness. Is declaring unfairness a helpful truth, or a dead-end framing? The conversation pushes beyond the cliché to explore what men are act...

Why do grown-ups still throw tantrums? And why does doing the right thing sometimes feel awful?

In this episode, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 7 and 8 of The Let Them Theory—where emotional maturity meets real-life discomfort. We unpack how adults act like kids (just with more email silence and fewer juice boxes), how to hold your ground when someone else is spiraling, and why making the right move often feels like the wrong on...

In this episode, we break down Chapters 5 and 6 of The Let Them Theory—and the exhausting pressure to manage what other people think. From family dynamics to workplace image, we dig into codependence, covert contracts, people-pleasing, and the false belief that being lovable means being perfect.

We talk resentment, approval addiction, emotional manipulation disguised as virtue, and why trying to control others’ perceptions will wrec...

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 3 and 4 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—where things get uncomfortably real about stress, overreaction, and the fantasy of control. From checkout-line rage to masculine stoicism, this conversation blends psychology, philosophy, and a fair bit of sarcasm.

We cover:

• Why your brain reacts to traffic like it’s a war zone
• The myth of “taking control” vs. t...

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles dives into Chapters 1 and 2 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—and let’s just say, it gets heated early.

From micromanaging her son’s prom to being left off a girls’ trip, Mel lays out the moments that inspired her viral advice: “Let them.” But is it personal growth… or just a new way to dodge accountability?

Charles pulls no punches, questioning whether Mel’s stories reflect real in...

⚠️ Season 3 finale spoilers ahead! Plus content note for frank discussions of murder, suicide, and murder-suicide.

In this final episode of Mindfully Masculine’s deep dive into The White Lotus, Season 3, Charles and Dan unpack the unraveling masculinity on full display in the finale. From Timothy’s narcissistic delusions of control 🧠, to Rick’s self-destructive spiral disguised as vengeance 🔫, to Gaitok’s late-game moral compromis...

Emotional vulnerability is rare. Expectations clash. And some men just can't face reality. Welcome to The White Lotus Season 3, Episode 7, "Killer Instincts," where we unpack the deep-seated issues beneath the surface of paradise.
Charles and Dan break down:

• Rick and Frank's Daring Deception: We delve into the "funny like kind of caper" as Rick and Frank pose as a director and producer. We discu...

Spoilers ahead for The White Lotus Season 3, Episode 6
This episode also includes extended discussion of suicide and suicidal ideation, as portrayed in the show. Please listen with care.

Incest, ecstasy, ego collapses, and a gun that keeps changing hands—Episode 6 of The White Lotus pulls no punches, and neither do we. Charles and Dan unpack the unraveling masculinity of Saxon, Rick, and Timothy, asking what happens when the il...

Dive into a compelling discussion of The White Lotus Season 3, Episode 5 as hosts Dan and Charles unpeel layers of hypocrisy, unexpected revelations, and the fascinating ways characters (and people) perform. They explore the episode's subtle genius and its uncomfortable truths about privilege, values, and human behavior.

In This Episode:

• The Unsung Role of the 'Boring' Ladies: Charles acknowledges feeling "bad...

Secrets spill. Gun safety's optional. And emotional honesty? Forget about it. Welcome to Episode 4 of The White Lotus Season 3, where the Thai sun heats up the already simmering pot of fragile masculinity.

Charles and Dan break down:

• Timothy's Total Meltdown: How a patriarch's financial panic fuels gaslighting, substance abuse, and a desperate struggle to maintain a perfect facade.
  
  
• Rick's Risky Reveng...

Cobra bites. Financial panic. Fake names. Welcome to Episode 3 of The White Lotus Season 3, where everything is simmering—and masculinity is under a microscope.

Charles and Dan break down:
– Rick’s unraveling sense of self, and why his attempt at “liberating” the snakes says more about him than the snakes
– Whether vengeance ever actually brings closure—or just gives men an excuse to stay broken
– The toxic tra...

Forget paradise—these men brought their baggage. Charles and Dan break down Timothy Ratliff’s fast-unraveling world, where wealth might not shield him from family fallout (or federal charges). Saxon proves being nakedly honest can just mean being nakedly weird, while Lockie navigates spirituality, sexuality, and sibling sabotage—awkwardly. Rick tries meditation, but mostly finds more reasons to be cynical, especially toward the wom...

In this kickoff to our series on The White Lotus Season 3, we dive headfirst into the tangled world of masculinity on vacation. From Saxon’s hypersexual posturing to the simmering tension between brothers, fathers, and friend-zoned security guards, we unpack how manhood is performed, distorted, and quietly unraveling at a luxury resort in Thailand. 

Is Patrick Schwarzenegger’s character cosplaying as an alpha? Why is everyone either...

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into Chapter 10 of Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover: "Activate Women's Basic Biological Urges."
We explore why confidence, competence, and authentic self-expression are essential for real attraction—and why just being "nice" can backfire.

You'll learn:

• The key differences between niceness and true kindness
• Why honesty and ...

In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan break down Dr. Robert Glover’s six essentials for creating a life that naturally attracts women—without chasing or people-pleasing. Drawing from Dating Essentials for Men, they reflect on how men can lead more purposeful, fulfilling lives by focusing on passion, friendship, challenge, and service.

Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this conversa...

In this thoughtful and engaging episode, Charles and Dan explore Chapter 8 of Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover, which takes aim at the common male fantasy of dating a "hot woman." Together, they unpack the psychological traps of prioritizing physical appearance over true compatibility and emotional connection.

The conversation dives into:

• What "hot" really means in Glover's context—and why i...

In this episode, Charles and Dan dive into Chapter 7 of Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover: Use the Secret Women Don’t Want You to Know to Your Advantage. Despite the clickbait title, the conversation goes deep on the real myths and mental traps men fall into when trying to connect with women—and how to break free.

🔥 Topics include:

• The hidden cost of believing women are superior or "complicated"
• Emotional v...