October 8, 2025 • 34 mins
Your posts are writing a story about you—one that colleges, employers, and future collaborators will read. We sat down with entrepreneur and Unleashed Success host Corey Corpodian to unpack how teens and young adults can turn accidental branding into intentional reputation, and how emotional fitness transforms scattered effort into steady progress. This isn’t about being perfect online; it’s about being honest, consistent, and two steps ahead.
Corey breaks down a simple system you can use today: define five core values, run every post through a quick “alignment” check, and build a weekly power action list that targets the 20% of work that creates 80% of results. We talk about real consequences of careless content, the difference between curated moments and real life, and why keeping your word is a brand advantage that compounds over time. He shares vivid examples—from viral missteps to courtroom evidence—while offering a practical path to curate your feed without faking your life.
We also dive into reinvention. Want to be taken seriously after years of being the class clown? Corey explains how consistency rewires how others see you, why your circle may need to change, and how 90 days of focused habits can reset your identity. He lays out an intensity-first approach to practice—turning one skill sprint into breakthrough momentum—and shows how writing your commitments in ink raises your odds of follow-through.
If you’re ready to align your online presence with who you really are and build habits that match your goals, this conversation will give you tools you can use today. Listen, pick your three power actions, and tell us what value will guide your next post. If this resonated, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review to help more people shift their thinking.
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Fatima Bey (00:02):
Mind Shift PowerPod.
This is Mind Shift PowerPodcast, the number one
critically acclaimed podcastwhere we have raw, unfiltered
conversations that shapetomorrow.
I'm your host, Fatima Bey TheMind Shifter.
And welcome everyone.
(00:22):
Today we have with us CoreyKarpodian.
He is out of California in theUSA.
He is an entrepreneur and hostof Unleashed Success.
How are you doing today, Corey?
Cory Corpodian (00:34):
Great.
Excited to be on the show.
Fatima Bey (00:36):
I'm glad to have you here, and I'm glad to have
this conversation with you inparticular.
So, Corey, tell us why are youhere and what do you do?
Cory Corpodian (00:45):
So I host a podcast called Unleashed
Success, which helpsentrepreneurs build and scale
their businesses as well ascommunicate effectively.
I'm also the author ofEmotional Fitness, which helps
us understand how emotionscreate signals for us to act,
how we can use emotions insteadof letting them control us, and
ultimately helping us accomplishour goals and achieve the life
(01:08):
of our dreams.
I'm here because I'd like to beable to share with you and your
audience more about how usingsimple exercises every single
day, we can start to createsmall moments where we can
change our mental and emotionalfitness for the better so that
we can accomplish our goals.
And then those small momentscan build into habits and
ultimately change who you are tobecome who you want to be.
(01:30):
Why small moments?
Because everything starts in amoment, right?
In a single moment, you want tomake a decision to change your
life.
In a single moment, you say,Hey, I'm gonna go to the gym
today.
In a single moment, you say,Hey, I'm gonna start a business.
In a single moment, you say,No, I'm not gonna go over there
where I know there's trouble.
In a single moment, you canchange your entire life.
Fatima Bey (01:52):
That is so absolutely true.
We're gonna talk about that andhow it relates to uh teenagers
and young adults today.
So I want to talk aboutsomething that you uh talk about
quite a bit on your just inyour talks and it's on your
website as well.
I want to talk about accidentalbranding.
So, what most teens don'trealize is they already have a
brand, every post, every pick.
(02:13):
Do they realize, do you thinkthat teenagers realize that
they're developing a brand rightnow?
Cory Corpodian (02:19):
You know, I don't think that people realize
how much social media means tothe outside world because,
especially young kids these daysand teens, you all grew up with
social media in your pocketfrom day one.
You've been recording, takingpictures, posting them online,
but each individual post sayssomething about you.
And if you're not curatingthat, if you're not doing that
(02:39):
intentionally, it might saysomething that you don't want
the world to know.
It might say something that youdon't really want when you're
in your 20s going to college orgoing to get a job where
somebody might see this postfrom 10 years ago, five years
ago, and say, hey, this isn'tthe type of person we want.
And we all make mistakes, weall do silly, stupid stuff as
(03:00):
kids.
And when you're doing that, youmight not realize that it has
ramifications.
So I always say you want tothink two steps ahead.
You might have done somethingthat was really cool looking, a
great photo, and you want topost it.
But think what happens afteryou post it.
Who's gonna see it?
Who might have access to this,and how would it affect you
(03:22):
later on in life after just thismoment?
You I know you want the likes,I know you want the attention, I
know you want to show yourfriends just because, hey, you
want to share what's going on inyour life.
I get that.
Right.
But sometimes, you know, thatpost might not look good on a
college admissions resumebecause nowadays, employers,
(03:43):
colleges, they look at yoursocial media presence.
Fatima Bey (03:48):
Even if it's set to private.
That doesn't really mean awhole lot.
Can you give us some examples,some modern examples of where
that has happened?
Cory Corpodian (03:59):
I I mean you you see all the time where people I
think just yesterday, JimmyKimmel was fired for what he
said about Charlie Kirk.
That was on, you know, I mean,instantaneously.
This is something he'sobviously a television person,
but there are all the time wherepeople they make bad decisions
(04:20):
in a public forum and he gotfired for it, right?
Now I'm not here to argue oneway or the other as far as what
should have been right for him,but that's a prime example that
just happened that there areconsequences to our actions.
And so if you post a picture,uh maybe you know it's uh a
(04:42):
video of kids doing somethingillegal.
Uh, I saw this post aboutAirbnb.
Uh, they had a party at theAirbnb.
These kids are filmingthemselves destroying the house,
thinking it's funny and sharingthis.
Well, all of a sudden, what wasfun and games now becomes a
(05:03):
documented video used in courtto put you in jail because
you've destroyed property.
Unfortunately, there are realconsequences to what we do,
right?
And if you're not aware of thatand you're involved, even if
get this, you're the one filmingit, but you weren't damaging
anything.
You're in the video, but youweren't damaging anything.
(05:25):
You're an accomplice.
And unfortunately, then you'repart of the problem.
And so these are reasons whyyou've got to be careful with
what you put on.
You've got to be careful, whatyou let other people put on.
And really, you can avoid allthis sometimes by just avoiding
these types of situations.
You can avoid this by, youknow, stand like being true to
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yourself, being true to your owncharacter, right?
Sometimes we get caught up inthe hype.
We want to be part of whateverybody else is doing, but
sometimes following the crowdcan lead you in the wrong
direction.
Fatima Bey (05:59):
Right.
Does that mean that you need tobe perfect online and only show
your absolute best all thetime?
Cory Corpodian (06:05):
No.
And the truth is, uh, one thingI I love about podcasts is that
I get very real and I'm veryhonest with people.
And I think that's why Iconnect with people online.
Uh, I don't love the fact that,you know, Instagram and TikTok
are just these curated perfectdance moves, perfect pictures,
perfect videos.
(06:25):
And while that is building abrand, and that's part of it,
you've got to realize that mostof these people, that, you know,
just because it looks likethey're happy and they're
traveling and they're going toall these places and it looks
like they have money, it's a lotof times fake.
Uh, or if it's real, it's amoment in time.
I have happy moments all thetime.
(06:45):
And if all I post that, which Iget, you want to post the happy
moments.
The thing is, is that that'snot my entire life.
That is only a moment in time.
So what you're seeing is thebest of the best of my life, not
the worst.
And the truth is, all of us,even me, you know, I've had uh
several million-dollarbusinesses.
I've had, you know, a lot ofsuccess in my life in real
(07:07):
estate investing, in uhpodcasting, in helping youth and
speaking to people uh ondifferent forums and stages from
companies that have donemillions of dollars to the U.S.
Marines.
Even after doing all that, Istill have bad days.
But it's what you do when youhave those bad days and how you
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train your mind and youremotions that determines the
trajectory of your entire life.
And it it starts with one day.
So, you know, when when I talkabout emotional fitness, it's
what can I do right now today?
And I love doing, you'll hearme talk about this a lot, but I
love doing a power action list.
If you've got a goal, you wantto write down the top three
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things that you need toaccomplish to move the needle.
Because I believe in the Paretoprinciple.
So Pareto was this uh, youknow, this guy who lived out in,
I think it was Italy, and hefound that 80% of the people, or
I'm sorry, 80% of the homesthat were owned were owned by
20% of the people.
(08:09):
So what it is is essentially itapplies to everything in life.
You tend to wear 80% of thetime you wear 20% of your
clothes.
Fatima Bey (08:17):
Right?
Cory Corpodian (08:18):
You got 80% of clothes sitting in a closet you
never wear.
Well, also, 80% of your resultscome from 20% of your actions.
So write down your top threeactions that are gonna move the
needle.
And if you accomplish thosethis week, you're gonna be
further ahead.
If you accomplish those thistoday, you're gonna be further
ahead.
Don't get caught in thatminutiae of life and the
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distractions, right?
Focus on taking action.
Fatima Bey (08:44):
And you know what?
That ties right into owningyour own brand because what you
just said is a piece of it.
So we talk about owning yourown brand because, you know,
like like we were just saying, alot of teens don't realize that
they're actually they'rethey've actually already started
building their brand, basicallyhow the world is perceiving
you, which can affect jobs andmoney in the future.
How do they move fromaccidental to intentional?
(09:09):
And you just mentioned whatstep one really is.
What's the next step?
Cory Corpodian (09:15):
I think look, one, you you start off with
being true to yourself, but youif you've on an online presence
right now, you want to take alook at what you've been
posting, what you've beensharing, right?
Because everybody is able tosee all of that.
Even if you're private, people,your friends, they're able to
see it.
So you want to go and kind ofcurate that.
(09:36):
Like, hey, is this really who Iam?
Is this really what I want tobe known for?
Is this really what I'm about?
And if it doesn't serve youanymore, if it doesn't meet your
needs, take it down.
Just delete it.
Delete that post off.
But moving forward, realizethat you should post your real
life.
You should post good things,you should post things that you
want to post.
Just know that if you'reposting something that might be
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mistaken for or uhmisunderstood, right?
Even misunderstood, maybe youknow, it's not the right thing
to post.
Maybe you could just share withyour friends.
You don't have to posteverything.
So moving from accidental tointentional, you know, you want
to curate it.
It does it's not that your lifehas to be perfect.
It's just you want to say, hey,is this thinking two steps
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ahead again?
Is this something that mightcause a problem later on with my
life?
And if the answer is a maybe,even don't post it.
What you don't need to post it.
Fatima Bey (10:33):
So how can they be a little more intentional with
what they are posting?
Cory Corpodian (10:38):
So look, I mean, building a brand and being
something, uh becomingsomething, right?
You're talking about building abrand accidentally.
And obviously, I built brandsintentionally, right?
We didn't have social mediauntil I was much older.
I didn't grow up with it sincea young kid.
I had it when, you know, highschool, college.
So when I look at how to buildbranding, I created a map for
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myself.
And I believe every personshould have this, right?
You need to know who are you?
And right now you might bediscovering who you are, and
that's okay too.
But what do you like?
What do you dislike?
What are your values?
Do you value family, loyalty,love?
Do you not like people who aregonna uh take energy away from
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you?
You want people who bringenergy to you, right?
People are gonna be a badinfluence on you.
So you want to move away fromthose, move towards people that
maybe you like sports, maybe youlike games.
All right, cool.
That's something that'simportant to you.
So you build out your values,you know, you say kindness,
courage, friendship, loyalty,love, success, happiness.
(11:44):
These are things that I want tofocus on in my life.
And I don't think anybody at ayoung age really does that.
I do that twice a year now,where I build out, I write,
rewrite my values.
I want to make sure I'm livingby those values.
So when you create this lifefor yourself of like what you
want to accomplish, how you wantto live, you know, I I got a
sister who's 11 years youngerthan me, and she really grew up
in social media age.
(12:04):
And I just, you know, she waskind of an old soul, but I just
remember, you know, at a youngage, she would try to do things,
but she always told me, and shelives this.
I just said this at her weddingspeech, which was beautiful.
It's just how much she caresabout her friends.
This is amazing.
My sister took the time towrite a note to every single
wedding guest about why theywere special to her in her life.
Fatima Bey (12:27):
Oh, wow.
Cory Corpodian (12:28):
That to me, I love that.
Yeah, it was just another wayof her saying, but she said this
since she was a young kid.
She valued her friendships andshe took the time and energy and
effort to put love and energyinto those friendships.
What do you value?
Do you value, you know, playingon your sports team at school?
Do you value your friendships?
Do you value, you know, timewith your family?
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Do you value maybe you're ayoung entrepreneur and you want
to make some money?
Do you value trying to build abusiness?
Maybe you're, you know, puttingup a lemonade stand or selling
stuff online or doing Pokemoncards, whatever it is for you,
write down these values and thenwrite down things that you
don't want to be.
Like I don't want to be atroublemaker.
I don't want to be someone whouh isn't true to their word,
(13:12):
right?
Like I, you know, I'm verycommitted.
You know, when I say I'm gonnado something, I do it.
Right.
And there's power in doing thatand completing it, being
disciplined, right?
I know it's hard, but when Isay I'm gonna do something, I
finish it and I do it becauseI've built a life based on that.
And every time I do do that,good things happen.
So if you want to creatediscipline in your life, it can
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start off with something small.
It can start off with justwaking up at the same time every
day, 6 a.m., 6 30.
Maybe you make your bed, right?
Super simple, but it teachesyou something.
That's why they teach it toMarines and people in the
military how to make your bedand how to wear your uniform.
And everything is perfect to aT.
Because when you start doingthese little things, they bleed
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into the rest of your life.
And now you start creatinghabits that change who you are
and you become a person who,when you say you're gonna do
something, people know and theycan depend on you.
So you want to move away fromthings you don't want to be and
move towards things you do wantto be.
Now, when you go to dosomething online and you're
building your brand, even if youdon't realize it, when you go
to do a post, all you gotta dois ask yourself a simple
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question because now you've donethe work, you can ask one
simple question is this postaligned with my values or is it
not?
Uh, there's a uh a gyminfluencer called uh Joey Swole.
And Joey is very well knownonline for taking videos of
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people who posted somethinginappropriate for likes and
attention, and basically callingthem out and saying, Hey, you
need to do better.
And I love this.
He started doing this a coupleyears ago.
So people will post a selfie inthe gym, a guy, and there'll be
an old man with his pantsliterally down.
And he'll come over and say,Hey, you shouldn't be filming in
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here, you shouldn't berecording or taking pictures.
Literally, there's a sign thatsays no cameras in the locker
room.
And this guy's trying to postthis online for likes and
attention.
And dude, clearly you didn'tneed to do that.
Or, you know, sometimes he'lleven talk about women who kind
of try to signal out guys who,you know, they slow down the the
video where the guy barelyglances over, like, oh, look at
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this creep looking at me.
And it's like the guy lookedlooked in your direction for a
millisecond, you had to slow itdown.
And I'm not saying that stufflike that doesn't happen.
Yeah, I've seen that.
I'm just saying that peoplewill post it with malintent to
get likes and attention.
And so when you go to postsomething, you have to look what
were your values?
Does this align with yourvalues?
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Does this align with who youwant to be?
And again, last thing, remembertwo steps ahead.
One step, post.
I get likes, I get attention, Ishare with my friends.
Maybe it's something funny.
We all get a good laugh.
But what's that second thing?
Maybe this hurts somebodyelse's feelings, maybe this
won't look good towards mycharacter, maybe this isn't
aligned to my values, and maybeit will impact my ability for
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college, job, or future.
Fatima Bey (16:08):
I want to point out something that you said a
moment ago that doesn't fall inline with uh that doesn't really
necessarily always relate tosocial media.
You said keeping your word isvery important to you.
And that is a very, very, very,very big deal and that I think
a lot of people, not just teens,but even some adults, don't
realize is absolutely key andhow people perceive you.
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If you build a reputation,which is what your brand is, if
you build a reputation ofkeeping your word, you become a
much more trustworthy personthat opportunities may come to
you that you weren't lookingfor.
When you are a person that doesnot keep your word, does not
consider keeping your wordimportant, I don't mean that
you're not perfect.
(16:50):
I, you know, I don't mean thatyou're perfect and stuff happens
because stuff can happen thatyou might not be able to fulfill
a promise.
I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about when peoplehave absolutely no care or
concern whether or not they keeptheir word.
We all see that too, and youwill lose opportunities you
never knew might have beenbecause of it.
So I love Corey that you thatyou said that you said that
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that's one of your values.
But I think that it should be avalue that we all look at.
Absolutely.
Now I want to talk aboutsomething else that you talk
about a lot, um, which is youknow, reinventing yourself.
And a lot of adult, you know, alot of people think this only
applies to adults.
But I want you to tell you howthis applies to them.
So you've rebuilt yourself.
(17:33):
What can a young person learnabout starting over even as a
teenager, even as a young adult?
Cory Corpodian (17:39):
Uh, you know, look, I was a kid once too,
right?
So uh when I was younger, Imoved around a lot.
And we had, I went to, youknow, three different third
grades, five different highschools in total, four in one
year, three states.
You know, I moved aroundprobably 40 times before I
actually was 18 years old.
Uh when you go to a new place,you have this opportunity to to
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reinvent yourself a lot.
So I I learned very early onthat I could be who I wanted to
be, but you know, it's awkward.
You gotta meet new people andmake new friends.
I think one of the things aboutreinventing yourself is this
idea that we can't be who wewanna be.
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Or, you know, if you've gotfriends, like this is something
you've got friends, we are whowe surround ourselves with.
But sometimes, and I'vereinvented myself many times
over the years, but sometimeslike from high school, I have I
had really good friends that,you know, I had big goals and
big dreams.
They didn't share those biggoals and big dreams.
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Not that they were bad people,not that we didn't have fun
together, not that I didn't likethem anymore, but I was chasing
these big goals and dreams.
And the more I chased them, thefurther away we drifted apart.
Because when we go to hang out,what are we talking about?
You know, honestly, like I caremore about this stuff.
You want to talk about this?
Let's talk about it.
Like, this is what I'm doing,this is what I'm working on.
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We just grew apart, and that'sokay.
So, one thing about reinventingyourself is realizing who you
surround yourself with, right?
Because I'm sure if you'relistening to this, you've got
goals.
You want to do somethingpositive with your life.
You want to be better.
You maybe you want to be aleader, maybe you want to go to
college, maybe you want tochange the world and invent
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rocket ships or something crazy.
I, whatever it is, I supportit.
But you need to surroundyourself with people that are
like-minded.
And that might mean letting goof some of your friendships that
you currently have.
Not because they're bad people,not because they don't mean
anything to you, but becausethey're not moving in the same
direction as you.
That helps, especially at thisyoung age.
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I talked already about valuesand creating, telling yourself
what you want, what you don'twant.
I think that's super importantand very easy to do in an hour,
right?
Just ask yourself thatquestion.
Do I really want this?
Do I want that?
What are what are my what do Ivalue in life?
Do that, look at your circle.
And then it starts with dailyhabits.
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What are three things the newyou is gonna do?
I remember when I've alwaysbeen working out since I was a
young kid because I playedsports and I was I was a small
kid.
So I had to be strong and fast,and I was the only one I was
gonna be able to play sports andoutwork everybody.
That's one thing.
I always want to outworkeverybody because they were
bigger, stronger, faster.
I'm not gonna be that.
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I'm never gonna be it.
So I have to be better atworking.
I have to work harder thaneverybody else.
What are you, what do you wantto do in your life, right?
So you you gotta say, okay, I'mgonna say this is something
that's important to me.
I'm gonna look at myfriendships, and then I'm gonna
write down my goals about who Iwanna be.
Right.
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I write down a goal.
And this is something thatcould be a one-month goal, a
six-month goal, a year goal.
In fact, I like to write thosedown because if it's five years
away, it's too far away, right?
Our minds can't, you gottabring it to now to make it feel
real.
Fatima Bey (21:06):
Yeah.
Cory Corpodian (21:06):
So, what is something you're gonna do that's
gonna accomplish, you're gonnaaccomplish in one month that's
gonna get you closer to thatsix-month goal?
And what are you gonna do everysingle day?
So if you're trying to learn anew sport, right?
Like, uh, or if you're tryingto learn a new instrument, are
you gonna practice for an hour aday?
I remember when I was in highschool and I was playing uh
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basketball and football at thetime.
And between my sophomore andjunior year, my shot was not
that good, right?
So I was starting point guard,I would, you know, play the
whole game.
I'd score, I'd always scorebetween 10 and 14 points a game.
A lot of layups, a lot of freethrows.
I could not hit the jumper,right?
I'd barely, I'd always miss it.
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I just didn't have the flow.
So between sophomore and junioryear, I'll never forget, for
two weeks straight, I was like,I'm gonna shoot a thousand
shots.
It was so many shots.
And what happened was after athousand or after two weeks of
doing this, because I had themechanics, I had the
fundamentals, but there wassomething missing, something
that didn't click.
After two weeks of doing this,my shot clicked finally, right?
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And of course I still continueto practice, but I had a
two-week break where I was doingabsolutely nothing.
And I said, I'm gonna commit100% to this and I'm gonna go
all in.
And and I shot from everywhere,right?
I shot from two feet away, fourfeet away, six feet away, eight
feet away from the free throwline, all around the key, all
around the three-point line.
Now all of a sudden, when Iwent back to playing, I was
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scoring 25 to 30 points a game.
It completely opened up thegame for me.
Well, because now I could shootthe three.
And now when I shoot the three,they've got to actually stop,
try and stop me from shootingthree, or else it's an easy
three points, which opens up thelane, which means I scored more
points.
And it was, it wasn't a flukeeither.
I did it the whole season.
It was incredible.
Um, but that's the power ofdoing something consistently,
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right?
That's it was a choice I madeto make a change.
I did it every day.
And what are you gonna do everyday?
Are you gonna spend an hourpracticing the violin?
Are you gonna spend an hourreading a book?
Are you gonna spend an hourevery single day working out?
Are you gonna spend an hourpracticing your lines for you
know theater or whatever it isfor you?
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Spend an hour a day focused onit, working hard at it.
And and one thing aboutcommitment and discipline, I
love that.
If you can stay committed anddisciplined, you're gonna
accomplish a lot of things inlife.
But I think the differencebetween people who don't
accomplish more than they wantto is intensity.
If I spend an hour talking toyou about, you know, oh, well, I
(23:38):
kind of do this and I don't usespecific examples.
And, you know, I meanderthrough the gym for an hour and
I kind of walk.
I'm not working out, right?
Fatima Bey (23:46):
Right.
Cory Corpodian (23:47):
You want to do it intensely.
So when you go in there, likeif I'm going to the gym, I want
to hit it.
Granted, I don't, you know,every day, we all have bad days,
like I said, but consistentlyyou want to go in there, I want
to break a sweat, you know, inthe first 15 minutes and I want
to work hard and I want to feelexhausted and tired at the end
of it so that the hour I spentthere was worth it.
So when you go to practice aninstrument or practice a sport
(24:09):
or work on reading a book, likedon't get distracted, you know,
when you're doing it.
If you're reading a book, oh,my phone's buzzing.
Uh, let me text this.
You only read three pages in anhour.
That's not gonna get youanywhere.
Okay.
So you've got to make sureyou're practicing, you're doing,
you're spending an hourintensely working out towards
your goals.
Fatima Bey (24:28):
That was um very well said.
I want to piggyback off ofsomething you just said uh right
now because I'm thinking aboutthe listeners and the realities
uh that a lot of people dealwith.
So let's say I'm a young man,I'm 16, my name is Bart.
I'm just gonna go with the nameright now.
So I'm Bart and I'm trying toreinvent myself.
(24:49):
I've always been a goofballthat no one can take seriously.
But now I really want to getserious about where my life is
headed.
But everybody keeps trying totrap me into the goofy guy, the
goofball.
And every time I say somethingserious, they're like, oh, Bart,
shut up.
You just how do I retrain thepeople around me to take me
seriously as I'm trying toreinvent myself?
Cory Corpodian (25:08):
Such a great question.
And the truth is, you're notgonna train retrain people
around you.
They're gonna change when youdo.
And it's gonna take time.
The problem is that especiallyyour family who you've grown up
with your whole life, it's gonnabe really hard for them to see
your change, especially overtime.
But if you stay consistent, itwill happen.
(25:30):
Sometimes, though, family,they're always gonna remind you
about that stuff.
And because of your family, yougotta love them, you just gotta
let it go.
Now, we talked aboutfriendships.
Some of your friends are gonnaalways be like that.
They're gonna be holding youback.
Fatima Bey (25:44):
Yes, yes, yes.
Cory Corpodian (25:45):
And sometimes, as much as you love those
friends, you just gotta let themgo because you're going in a
different direction now.
You've made a decision, you'vecommitted to it, you've taken
actions, you're switching whoyou are to become a driven,
confident person, not somebodywho's just the goofball.
And I will say this too, youknow, don't be so hard on
yourself, right?
(26:05):
Change happens in an instantwhen you make the decision, but
for everybody else to notice it,it takes time.
In the first 30 days of workingout, you're gonna notice a lot
of changes.
In 60 days, maybe your familymight notice things.
If you're consistent withanything, working out, changing
your tone, changing who you are,your personality, practicing a
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sport, in 90 days, people aregonna start to notice, right?
So it's that consistency overtime.
So don't be too hard onyourself.
It's not gonna happen rightaway, but when you're consistent
over time, that's when realchange will happen.
Fatima Bey (26:40):
And that's the one big principle I hear out of
everything you're saying.
If you want real change, adultor teen, really, if you want
real change, small individualchanges consistently over time
is what will do it.
Not magical one, two, threesteps, not uh psychic going, I
have powers over you now, andall the other magical crap that
people try to sell us.
(27:00):
It's it's it's that's thethat's the root of the thing.
Cory Corpodian (27:03):
I do want to just jump in real quick because
I want to say one thing though.
There is power in yourdecision-making process.
When you listen to this podcastand you're want to and you want
to make a change, if you'resitting there, what's one
decision you can make right now?
What is one thing you can say?
I'm gonna become this, I'mgonna do this, I'm gonna go to
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the gym every single day for thenext 30 days and commit to it.
I'm gonna never be the goofballagain because that's not who I
really am.
And I want to be the seen asthe confident driven person that
I know I am.
Or whatever it is, like, youknow, you want to start a
business, you want to, you wantto go to college, you want to,
you know, join the the nextsports team, you want to join
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debate, whatever it is, youstart with a powerful decision
that says, I am this, I am goingto do this, I see myself doing
this.
There is so much power inwriting that down.
In fact, people are 40% morelikely to accomplish their goals
when they physically write itdown.
And I know we got cell phones,but really take pen or pencil to
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paper.
I'd like pen, it's permanent.
You write that down.
There's something, at least forme, about writing it down on
paper that makes it more realand more you're more likely to
accomplish it when you writedown the goals.
I mean, studies have shownthat, like I said, 40%.
So as much as it is small,consistent moments, and that
really is gonna be the key tosuccess, you've got to make that
(28:31):
decision.
And that happens in a singlemoment that you can do right
now.
Fatima Bey (28:36):
Well, I was gonna ask you what advice you have for
youth in the world, but youalready gave it.
So you really, you really did.
So I don't even want you to sayanything on top of that because
I think what you just said waspowerful.
Um, so tell the audience youhave a book that you've written.
Can you tell us about it andhow we can find you?
Cory Corpodian (28:52):
Yeah, it's called Emotional Fitness, and
it's about not letting youremotions control you and instead
controlling your emotions sothat you can accomplish your
goals and live the life of yourdreams.
What that's about is emotionsare signals to our brain.
They're telling us to move awayfrom something or move towards
it, right?
If you're afraid of something,that's the emotion of fear is
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really designed to keep youalive.
The emotion of love is todesign to give you connection
and community.
These emotions are signals toour brain.
If you are overridden by angerand fear or anxiety, it means
you're not aware of what iscausing that signal to happen.
And it creates a story insideyour life and in your brain.
(29:37):
My goal with emotional fitnesswas to help people become aware
of their emotions, how to usethem to accomplish their goals
and change the way we perceivethe world.
Because when you're focusing onsomething, you can either
choose to focus on what's rightor what's wrong.
And then when you focus onsomething, you create a meaning
around it like that's good forme, that's bad for me.
(29:59):
And then you react to what'shappening, you move away from a
scary situation, or you movetowards something because you
want to protect the people youlove behind you.
You take an action.
And understanding how weprocess the world internally
allows you to master yourinternal world, my your master
(30:20):
your mindset, lead yourself sothat you can now lead other
people and start to make realchanges that are seen in the
outside world.
Fatima Bey (30:30):
I I love that.
So where can people find you?
Cory Corpodian (30:35):
So uh at Corey Corpodian on YouTube or
Instagram.
Uh also if you want to pick upthe book, Masteremotional
Fitness dot com.
And if you want to subscribe toUnleash Success, you go to
unleashsuccess.com slashsubscribe, where I interview
entrepreneurs about business,scaling their businesses, and
(30:56):
leaders who talk about mindsetand how to become better and how
to become a better leader andwhat it takes to be successful
in life.
Fatima Bey (31:04):
And I want I want to add, I I have a lot of guests
on here and I meet a lot ofother podcasters.
I don't subscribe to too manyof them, but I actually
subscribe to Unleashed Successbecause I found value in what he
said.
And one thing I like about you,Corey, is that you speak plain
English.
You're not trying to impresseverybody.
You'd rather you're like me.
You'd rather be impactful thanimpressive.
And that's the that's the vibeI get from you.
(31:26):
And I love that.
I I really hate it when peopletalk over 80% of the population,
uh, so that they can just soundgood, but so what?
Um I like that you actuallyhave things to say that are
good, and especially as someonewho is um an entrepreneur and
building an empire, and I reallyam outside outside of this.
(31:49):
I love to hear content that'sgoing to help me along that way.
And I feel like your podcastactually does that.
So I I can uh with honesty say,follow this podcast because I
am.
Um well, thank you, Corey, somuch for for coming on today.
I really appreciate this.
Um, there's a lot moreconversation we could have, but
we don't have 17 years.
(32:09):
So but I really thank you forcoming on today.
It's been really wonderfultalking about it.
Cory Corpodian (32:14):
Thank you so much for having me on the show.
Really appreciate it.
Fatima Bey (32:18):
And now for a mind-shifting moment.
Today we talked about yourpersonal brand and what that
means.
But I want to take you to takea deeper dive.
I don't care how old you are,this is for everyone.
What do you see when you lookin the mirror?
(32:38):
And I'm not talking about yourphysical state.
How do you represent yourself?
Because your brand is how yourepresent yourself essentially.
What your reputation is, whatyou're known for.
When you look in the mirror,when you look at your quote
unquote brand and how you areviewed and how you are presented
(33:00):
before the world, does itreally match who you see in the
mirror?
Does it really match you?
Because before you can startmaking those intentional steps
to bridge that gap, you need tofirst look at the gap.
Are you representing the realyou?
(33:22):
Because I'll tell you what, ifthe answer is no, that means
that you have now presented anactress or an actor, and you
have an entire movie of linesyou need to live up to.
That is a lot of work.
It's actually less work to beyourself.
(33:43):
Make sure that what you put outthere actually represents the
real you.com.
(34:05):
Until next time, alwaysremember there's power in
shifting your thinking.
Mind Shift PowerPod.
This is Mind Shift PowerPodcast, the number one
critically acclaimed podcastwhere we have raw, unfiltered
conversations that shapetomorrow.
I'm your host, Fatima Bey TheMind Shifter.
And welcome everyone.
(00:22):
Today we have with us CoreyKarpodian.
He is out of California in theUSA.
He is an entrepreneur and hostof Unleashed Success.
How are you doing today, Corey?
Cory Corpodian (00:34):
Great.
Excited to be on the show.
Fatima Bey (00:36):
I'm glad to have you here, and I'm glad to have
this conversation with you inparticular.
So, Corey, tell us why are youhere and what do you do?
Cory Corpodian (00:45):
So I host a podcast called Unleashed
Success, which helpsentrepreneurs build and scale
their businesses as well ascommunicate effectively.
I'm also the author ofEmotional Fitness, which helps
us understand how emotionscreate signals for us to act,
how we can use emotions insteadof letting them control us, and
ultimately helping us accomplishour goals and achieve the life
(01:08):
of our dreams.
I'm here because I'd like to beable to share with you and your
audience more about how usingsimple exercises every single
day, we can start to createsmall moments where we can
change our mental and emotionalfitness for the better so that
we can accomplish our goals.
And then those small momentscan build into habits and
ultimately change who you are tobecome who you want to be.
(01:30):
Why small moments?
Because everything starts in amoment, right?
In a single moment, you want tomake a decision to change your
life.
In a single moment, you say,Hey, I'm gonna go to the gym
today.
In a single moment, you say,Hey, I'm gonna start a business.
In a single moment, you say,No, I'm not gonna go over there
where I know there's trouble.
In a single moment, you canchange your entire life.
Fatima Bey (01:52):
That is so absolutely true.
We're gonna talk about that andhow it relates to uh teenagers
and young adults today.
So I want to talk aboutsomething that you uh talk about
quite a bit on your just inyour talks and it's on your
website as well.
I want to talk about accidentalbranding.
So, what most teens don'trealize is they already have a
brand, every post, every pick.
(02:13):
Do they realize, do you thinkthat teenagers realize that
they're developing a brand rightnow?
Cory Corpodian (02:19):
You know, I don't think that people realize
how much social media means tothe outside world because,
especially young kids these daysand teens, you all grew up with
social media in your pocketfrom day one.
You've been recording, takingpictures, posting them online,
but each individual post sayssomething about you.
And if you're not curatingthat, if you're not doing that
(02:39):
intentionally, it might saysomething that you don't want
the world to know.
It might say something that youdon't really want when you're
in your 20s going to college orgoing to get a job where
somebody might see this postfrom 10 years ago, five years
ago, and say, hey, this isn'tthe type of person we want.
And we all make mistakes, weall do silly, stupid stuff as
(03:00):
kids.
And when you're doing that, youmight not realize that it has
ramifications.
So I always say you want tothink two steps ahead.
You might have done somethingthat was really cool looking, a
great photo, and you want topost it.
But think what happens afteryou post it.
Who's gonna see it?
Who might have access to this,and how would it affect you
(03:22):
later on in life after just thismoment?
You I know you want the likes,I know you want the attention, I
know you want to show yourfriends just because, hey, you
want to share what's going on inyour life.
I get that.
Right.
But sometimes, you know, thatpost might not look good on a
college admissions resumebecause nowadays, employers,
(03:43):
colleges, they look at yoursocial media presence.
Fatima Bey (03:48):
Even if it's set to private.
That doesn't really mean awhole lot.
Can you give us some examples,some modern examples of where
that has happened?
Cory Corpodian (03:59):
I I mean you you see all the time where people I
think just yesterday, JimmyKimmel was fired for what he
said about Charlie Kirk.
That was on, you know, I mean,instantaneously.
This is something he'sobviously a television person,
but there are all the time wherepeople they make bad decisions
(04:20):
in a public forum and he gotfired for it, right?
Now I'm not here to argue oneway or the other as far as what
should have been right for him,but that's a prime example that
just happened that there areconsequences to our actions.
And so if you post a picture,uh maybe you know it's uh a
(04:42):
video of kids doing somethingillegal.
Uh, I saw this post aboutAirbnb.
Uh, they had a party at theAirbnb.
These kids are filmingthemselves destroying the house,
thinking it's funny and sharingthis.
Well, all of a sudden, what wasfun and games now becomes a
(05:03):
documented video used in courtto put you in jail because
you've destroyed property.
Unfortunately, there are realconsequences to what we do,
right?
And if you're not aware of thatand you're involved, even if
get this, you're the one filmingit, but you weren't damaging
anything.
You're in the video, but youweren't damaging anything.
(05:25):
You're an accomplice.
And unfortunately, then you'repart of the problem.
And so these are reasons whyyou've got to be careful with
what you put on.
You've got to be careful, whatyou let other people put on.
And really, you can avoid allthis sometimes by just avoiding
these types of situations.
You can avoid this by, youknow, stand like being true to
(05:48):
yourself, being true to your owncharacter, right?
Sometimes we get caught up inthe hype.
We want to be part of whateverybody else is doing, but
sometimes following the crowdcan lead you in the wrong
direction.
Fatima Bey (05:59):
Right.
Does that mean that you need tobe perfect online and only show
your absolute best all thetime?
Cory Corpodian (06:05):
No.
And the truth is, uh, one thingI I love about podcasts is that
I get very real and I'm veryhonest with people.
And I think that's why Iconnect with people online.
Uh, I don't love the fact that,you know, Instagram and TikTok
are just these curated perfectdance moves, perfect pictures,
perfect videos.
(06:25):
And while that is building abrand, and that's part of it,
you've got to realize that mostof these people, that, you know,
just because it looks likethey're happy and they're
traveling and they're going toall these places and it looks
like they have money, it's a lotof times fake.
Uh, or if it's real, it's amoment in time.
I have happy moments all thetime.
(06:45):
And if all I post that, which Iget, you want to post the happy
moments.
The thing is, is that that'snot my entire life.
That is only a moment in time.
So what you're seeing is thebest of the best of my life, not
the worst.
And the truth is, all of us,even me, you know, I've had uh
several million-dollarbusinesses.
I've had, you know, a lot ofsuccess in my life in real
(07:07):
estate investing, in uhpodcasting, in helping youth and
speaking to people uh ondifferent forums and stages from
companies that have donemillions of dollars to the U.S.
Marines.
Even after doing all that, Istill have bad days.
But it's what you do when youhave those bad days and how you
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train your mind and youremotions that determines the
trajectory of your entire life.
And it it starts with one day.
So, you know, when when I talkabout emotional fitness, it's
what can I do right now today?
And I love doing, you'll hearme talk about this a lot, but I
love doing a power action list.
If you've got a goal, you wantto write down the top three
(07:48):
things that you need toaccomplish to move the needle.
Because I believe in the Paretoprinciple.
So Pareto was this uh, youknow, this guy who lived out in,
I think it was Italy, and hefound that 80% of the people, or
I'm sorry, 80% of the homesthat were owned were owned by
20% of the people.
(08:09):
So what it is is essentially itapplies to everything in life.
You tend to wear 80% of thetime you wear 20% of your
clothes.
Fatima Bey (08:17):
Right?
Cory Corpodian (08:18):
You got 80% of clothes sitting in a closet you
never wear.
Well, also, 80% of your resultscome from 20% of your actions.
So write down your top threeactions that are gonna move the
needle.
And if you accomplish thosethis week, you're gonna be
further ahead.
If you accomplish those thistoday, you're gonna be further
ahead.
Don't get caught in thatminutiae of life and the
(08:40):
distractions, right?
Focus on taking action.
Fatima Bey (08:44):
And you know what?
That ties right into owningyour own brand because what you
just said is a piece of it.
So we talk about owning yourown brand because, you know,
like like we were just saying, alot of teens don't realize that
they're actually they'rethey've actually already started
building their brand, basicallyhow the world is perceiving
you, which can affect jobs andmoney in the future.
How do they move fromaccidental to intentional?
(09:09):
And you just mentioned whatstep one really is.
What's the next step?
Cory Corpodian (09:15):
I think look, one, you you start off with
being true to yourself, but youif you've on an online presence
right now, you want to take alook at what you've been
posting, what you've beensharing, right?
Because everybody is able tosee all of that.
Even if you're private, people,your friends, they're able to
see it.
So you want to go and kind ofcurate that.
(09:36):
Like, hey, is this really who Iam?
Is this really what I want tobe known for?
Is this really what I'm about?
And if it doesn't serve youanymore, if it doesn't meet your
needs, take it down.
Just delete it.
Delete that post off.
But moving forward, realizethat you should post your real
life.
You should post good things,you should post things that you
want to post.
Just know that if you'reposting something that might be
(10:01):
mistaken for or uhmisunderstood, right?
Even misunderstood, maybe youknow, it's not the right thing
to post.
Maybe you could just share withyour friends.
You don't have to posteverything.
So moving from accidental tointentional, you know, you want
to curate it.
It does it's not that your lifehas to be perfect.
It's just you want to say, hey,is this thinking two steps
(10:23):
ahead again?
Is this something that mightcause a problem later on with my
life?
And if the answer is a maybe,even don't post it.
What you don't need to post it.
Fatima Bey (10:33):
So how can they be a little more intentional with
what they are posting?
Cory Corpodian (10:38):
So look, I mean, building a brand and being
something, uh becomingsomething, right?
You're talking about building abrand accidentally.
And obviously, I built brandsintentionally, right?
We didn't have social mediauntil I was much older.
I didn't grow up with it sincea young kid.
I had it when, you know, highschool, college.
So when I look at how to buildbranding, I created a map for
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myself.
And I believe every personshould have this, right?
You need to know who are you?
And right now you might bediscovering who you are, and
that's okay too.
But what do you like?
What do you dislike?
What are your values?
Do you value family, loyalty,love?
Do you not like people who aregonna uh take energy away from
(11:23):
you?
You want people who bringenergy to you, right?
People are gonna be a badinfluence on you.
So you want to move away fromthose, move towards people that
maybe you like sports, maybe youlike games.
All right, cool.
That's something that'simportant to you.
So you build out your values,you know, you say kindness,
courage, friendship, loyalty,love, success, happiness.
(11:44):
These are things that I want tofocus on in my life.
And I don't think anybody at ayoung age really does that.
I do that twice a year now,where I build out, I write,
rewrite my values.
I want to make sure I'm livingby those values.
So when you create this lifefor yourself of like what you
want to accomplish, how you wantto live, you know, I I got a
sister who's 11 years youngerthan me, and she really grew up
in social media age.
(12:04):
And I just, you know, she waskind of an old soul, but I just
remember, you know, at a youngage, she would try to do things,
but she always told me, and shelives this.
I just said this at her weddingspeech, which was beautiful.
It's just how much she caresabout her friends.
This is amazing.
My sister took the time towrite a note to every single
wedding guest about why theywere special to her in her life.
Fatima Bey (12:27):
Oh, wow.
Cory Corpodian (12:28):
That to me, I love that.
Yeah, it was just another wayof her saying, but she said this
since she was a young kid.
She valued her friendships andshe took the time and energy and
effort to put love and energyinto those friendships.
What do you value?
Do you value, you know, playingon your sports team at school?
Do you value your friendships?
Do you value, you know, timewith your family?
(12:49):
Do you value maybe you're ayoung entrepreneur and you want
to make some money?
Do you value trying to build abusiness?
Maybe you're, you know, puttingup a lemonade stand or selling
stuff online or doing Pokemoncards, whatever it is for you,
write down these values and thenwrite down things that you
don't want to be.
Like I don't want to be atroublemaker.
I don't want to be someone whouh isn't true to their word,
(13:12):
right?
Like I, you know, I'm verycommitted.
You know, when I say I'm gonnado something, I do it.
Right.
And there's power in doing thatand completing it, being
disciplined, right?
I know it's hard, but when Isay I'm gonna do something, I
finish it and I do it becauseI've built a life based on that.
And every time I do do that,good things happen.
So if you want to creatediscipline in your life, it can
(13:35):
start off with something small.
It can start off with justwaking up at the same time every
day, 6 a.m., 6 30.
Maybe you make your bed, right?
Super simple, but it teachesyou something.
That's why they teach it toMarines and people in the
military how to make your bedand how to wear your uniform.
And everything is perfect to aT.
Because when you start doingthese little things, they bleed
(13:55):
into the rest of your life.
And now you start creatinghabits that change who you are
and you become a person who,when you say you're gonna do
something, people know and theycan depend on you.
So you want to move away fromthings you don't want to be and
move towards things you do wantto be.
Now, when you go to dosomething online and you're
building your brand, even if youdon't realize it, when you go
to do a post, all you gotta dois ask yourself a simple
(14:16):
question because now you've donethe work, you can ask one
simple question is this postaligned with my values or is it
not?
Uh, there's a uh a gyminfluencer called uh Joey Swole.
And Joey is very well knownonline for taking videos of
(14:38):
people who posted somethinginappropriate for likes and
attention, and basically callingthem out and saying, Hey, you
need to do better.
And I love this.
He started doing this a coupleyears ago.
So people will post a selfie inthe gym, a guy, and there'll be
an old man with his pantsliterally down.
And he'll come over and say,Hey, you shouldn't be filming in
(14:59):
here, you shouldn't berecording or taking pictures.
Literally, there's a sign thatsays no cameras in the locker
room.
And this guy's trying to postthis online for likes and
attention.
And dude, clearly you didn'tneed to do that.
Or, you know, sometimes he'lleven talk about women who kind
of try to signal out guys who,you know, they slow down the the
video where the guy barelyglances over, like, oh, look at
(15:22):
this creep looking at me.
And it's like the guy lookedlooked in your direction for a
millisecond, you had to slow itdown.
And I'm not saying that stufflike that doesn't happen.
Yeah, I've seen that.
I'm just saying that peoplewill post it with malintent to
get likes and attention.
And so when you go to postsomething, you have to look what
were your values?
Does this align with yourvalues?
(15:43):
Does this align with who youwant to be?
And again, last thing, remembertwo steps ahead.
One step, post.
I get likes, I get attention, Ishare with my friends.
Maybe it's something funny.
We all get a good laugh.
But what's that second thing?
Maybe this hurts somebodyelse's feelings, maybe this
won't look good towards mycharacter, maybe this isn't
aligned to my values, and maybeit will impact my ability for
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college, job, or future.
Fatima Bey (16:08):
I want to point out something that you said a
moment ago that doesn't fall inline with uh that doesn't really
necessarily always relate tosocial media.
You said keeping your word isvery important to you.
And that is a very, very, very,very big deal and that I think
a lot of people, not just teens,but even some adults, don't
realize is absolutely key andhow people perceive you.
(16:29):
If you build a reputation,which is what your brand is, if
you build a reputation ofkeeping your word, you become a
much more trustworthy personthat opportunities may come to
you that you weren't lookingfor.
When you are a person that doesnot keep your word, does not
consider keeping your wordimportant, I don't mean that
you're not perfect.
(16:50):
I, you know, I don't mean thatyou're perfect and stuff happens
because stuff can happen thatyou might not be able to fulfill
a promise.
I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about when peoplehave absolutely no care or
concern whether or not they keeptheir word.
We all see that too, and youwill lose opportunities you
never knew might have beenbecause of it.
So I love Corey that you thatyou said that you said that
(17:12):
that's one of your values.
But I think that it should be avalue that we all look at.
Absolutely.
Now I want to talk aboutsomething else that you talk
about a lot, um, which is youknow, reinventing yourself.
And a lot of adult, you know, alot of people think this only
applies to adults.
But I want you to tell you howthis applies to them.
So you've rebuilt yourself.
(17:33):
What can a young person learnabout starting over even as a
teenager, even as a young adult?
Cory Corpodian (17:39):
Uh, you know, look, I was a kid once too,
right?
So uh when I was younger, Imoved around a lot.
And we had, I went to, youknow, three different third
grades, five different highschools in total, four in one
year, three states.
You know, I moved aroundprobably 40 times before I
actually was 18 years old.
Uh when you go to a new place,you have this opportunity to to
(18:04):
reinvent yourself a lot.
So I I learned very early onthat I could be who I wanted to
be, but you know, it's awkward.
You gotta meet new people andmake new friends.
I think one of the things aboutreinventing yourself is this
idea that we can't be who wewanna be.
(18:25):
Or, you know, if you've gotfriends, like this is something
you've got friends, we are whowe surround ourselves with.
But sometimes, and I'vereinvented myself many times
over the years, but sometimeslike from high school, I have I
had really good friends that,you know, I had big goals and
big dreams.
They didn't share those biggoals and big dreams.
(18:46):
Not that they were bad people,not that we didn't have fun
together, not that I didn't likethem anymore, but I was chasing
these big goals and dreams.
And the more I chased them, thefurther away we drifted apart.
Because when we go to hang out,what are we talking about?
You know, honestly, like I caremore about this stuff.
You want to talk about this?
Let's talk about it.
Like, this is what I'm doing,this is what I'm working on.
(19:08):
We just grew apart, and that'sokay.
So, one thing about reinventingyourself is realizing who you
surround yourself with, right?
Because I'm sure if you'relistening to this, you've got
goals.
You want to do somethingpositive with your life.
You want to be better.
You maybe you want to be aleader, maybe you want to go to
college, maybe you want tochange the world and invent
(19:29):
rocket ships or something crazy.
I, whatever it is, I supportit.
But you need to surroundyourself with people that are
like-minded.
And that might mean letting goof some of your friendships that
you currently have.
Not because they're bad people,not because they don't mean
anything to you, but becausethey're not moving in the same
direction as you.
That helps, especially at thisyoung age.
(19:51):
I talked already about valuesand creating, telling yourself
what you want, what you don'twant.
I think that's super importantand very easy to do in an hour,
right?
Just ask yourself thatquestion.
Do I really want this?
Do I want that?
What are what are my what do Ivalue in life?
Do that, look at your circle.
And then it starts with dailyhabits.
(20:11):
What are three things the newyou is gonna do?
I remember when I've alwaysbeen working out since I was a
young kid because I playedsports and I was I was a small
kid.
So I had to be strong and fast,and I was the only one I was
gonna be able to play sports andoutwork everybody.
That's one thing.
I always want to outworkeverybody because they were
bigger, stronger, faster.
I'm not gonna be that.
(20:31):
I'm never gonna be it.
So I have to be better atworking.
I have to work harder thaneverybody else.
What are you, what do you wantto do in your life, right?
So you you gotta say, okay, I'mgonna say this is something
that's important to me.
I'm gonna look at myfriendships, and then I'm gonna
write down my goals about who Iwanna be.
Right.
(20:51):
I write down a goal.
And this is something thatcould be a one-month goal, a
six-month goal, a year goal.
In fact, I like to write thosedown because if it's five years
away, it's too far away, right?
Our minds can't, you gottabring it to now to make it feel
real.
Fatima Bey (21:06):
Yeah.
Cory Corpodian (21:06):
So, what is something you're gonna do that's
gonna accomplish, you're gonnaaccomplish in one month that's
gonna get you closer to thatsix-month goal?
And what are you gonna do everysingle day?
So if you're trying to learn anew sport, right?
Like, uh, or if you're tryingto learn a new instrument, are
you gonna practice for an hour aday?
I remember when I was in highschool and I was playing uh
(21:28):
basketball and football at thetime.
And between my sophomore andjunior year, my shot was not
that good, right?
So I was starting point guard,I would, you know, play the
whole game.
I'd score, I'd always scorebetween 10 and 14 points a game.
A lot of layups, a lot of freethrows.
I could not hit the jumper,right?
I'd barely, I'd always miss it.
(21:49):
I just didn't have the flow.
So between sophomore and junioryear, I'll never forget, for
two weeks straight, I was like,I'm gonna shoot a thousand
shots.
It was so many shots.
And what happened was after athousand or after two weeks of
doing this, because I had themechanics, I had the
fundamentals, but there wassomething missing, something
that didn't click.
After two weeks of doing this,my shot clicked finally, right?
(22:13):
And of course I still continueto practice, but I had a
two-week break where I was doingabsolutely nothing.
And I said, I'm gonna commit100% to this and I'm gonna go
all in.
And and I shot from everywhere,right?
I shot from two feet away, fourfeet away, six feet away, eight
feet away from the free throwline, all around the key, all
around the three-point line.
Now all of a sudden, when Iwent back to playing, I was
(22:33):
scoring 25 to 30 points a game.
It completely opened up thegame for me.
Well, because now I could shootthe three.
And now when I shoot the three,they've got to actually stop,
try and stop me from shootingthree, or else it's an easy
three points, which opens up thelane, which means I scored more
points.
And it was, it wasn't a flukeeither.
I did it the whole season.
It was incredible.
Um, but that's the power ofdoing something consistently,
(22:54):
right?
That's it was a choice I madeto make a change.
I did it every day.
And what are you gonna do everyday?
Are you gonna spend an hourpracticing the violin?
Are you gonna spend an hourreading a book?
Are you gonna spend an hourevery single day working out?
Are you gonna spend an hourpracticing your lines for you
know theater or whatever it isfor you?
(23:16):
Spend an hour a day focused onit, working hard at it.
And and one thing aboutcommitment and discipline, I
love that.
If you can stay committed anddisciplined, you're gonna
accomplish a lot of things inlife.
But I think the differencebetween people who don't
accomplish more than they wantto is intensity.
If I spend an hour talking toyou about, you know, oh, well, I
(23:38):
kind of do this and I don't usespecific examples.
And, you know, I meanderthrough the gym for an hour and
I kind of walk.
I'm not working out, right?
Fatima Bey (23:46):
Right.
Cory Corpodian (23:47):
You want to do it intensely.
So when you go in there, likeif I'm going to the gym, I want
to hit it.
Granted, I don't, you know,every day, we all have bad days,
like I said, but consistentlyyou want to go in there, I want
to break a sweat, you know, inthe first 15 minutes and I want
to work hard and I want to feelexhausted and tired at the end
of it so that the hour I spentthere was worth it.
So when you go to practice aninstrument or practice a sport
(24:09):
or work on reading a book, likedon't get distracted, you know,
when you're doing it.
If you're reading a book, oh,my phone's buzzing.
Uh, let me text this.
You only read three pages in anhour.
That's not gonna get youanywhere.
Okay.
So you've got to make sureyou're practicing, you're doing,
you're spending an hourintensely working out towards
your goals.
Fatima Bey (24:28):
That was um very well said.
I want to piggyback off ofsomething you just said uh right
now because I'm thinking aboutthe listeners and the realities
uh that a lot of people dealwith.
So let's say I'm a young man,I'm 16, my name is Bart.
I'm just gonna go with the nameright now.
So I'm Bart and I'm trying toreinvent myself.
(24:49):
I've always been a goofballthat no one can take seriously.
But now I really want to getserious about where my life is
headed.
But everybody keeps trying totrap me into the goofy guy, the
goofball.
And every time I say somethingserious, they're like, oh, Bart,
shut up.
You just how do I retrain thepeople around me to take me
seriously as I'm trying toreinvent myself?
Cory Corpodian (25:08):
Such a great question.
And the truth is, you're notgonna train retrain people
around you.
They're gonna change when youdo.
And it's gonna take time.
The problem is that especiallyyour family who you've grown up
with your whole life, it's gonnabe really hard for them to see
your change, especially overtime.
But if you stay consistent, itwill happen.
(25:30):
Sometimes, though, family,they're always gonna remind you
about that stuff.
And because of your family, yougotta love them, you just gotta
let it go.
Now, we talked aboutfriendships.
Some of your friends are gonnaalways be like that.
They're gonna be holding youback.
Fatima Bey (25:44):
Yes, yes, yes.
Cory Corpodian (25:45):
And sometimes, as much as you love those
friends, you just gotta let themgo because you're going in a
different direction now.
You've made a decision, you'vecommitted to it, you've taken
actions, you're switching whoyou are to become a driven,
confident person, not somebodywho's just the goofball.
And I will say this too, youknow, don't be so hard on
yourself, right?
(26:05):
Change happens in an instantwhen you make the decision, but
for everybody else to notice it,it takes time.
In the first 30 days of workingout, you're gonna notice a lot
of changes.
In 60 days, maybe your familymight notice things.
If you're consistent withanything, working out, changing
your tone, changing who you are,your personality, practicing a
(26:25):
sport, in 90 days, people aregonna start to notice, right?
So it's that consistency overtime.
So don't be too hard onyourself.
It's not gonna happen rightaway, but when you're consistent
over time, that's when realchange will happen.
Fatima Bey (26:40):
And that's the one big principle I hear out of
everything you're saying.
If you want real change, adultor teen, really, if you want
real change, small individualchanges consistently over time
is what will do it.
Not magical one, two, threesteps, not uh psychic going, I
have powers over you now, andall the other magical crap that
people try to sell us.
(27:00):
It's it's it's that's thethat's the root of the thing.
Cory Corpodian (27:03):
I do want to just jump in real quick because
I want to say one thing though.
There is power in yourdecision-making process.
When you listen to this podcastand you're want to and you want
to make a change, if you'resitting there, what's one
decision you can make right now?
What is one thing you can say?
I'm gonna become this, I'mgonna do this, I'm gonna go to
(27:26):
the gym every single day for thenext 30 days and commit to it.
I'm gonna never be the goofballagain because that's not who I
really am.
And I want to be the seen asthe confident driven person that
I know I am.
Or whatever it is, like, youknow, you want to start a
business, you want to, you wantto go to college, you want to,
you know, join the the nextsports team, you want to join
(27:48):
debate, whatever it is, youstart with a powerful decision
that says, I am this, I am goingto do this, I see myself doing
this.
There is so much power inwriting that down.
In fact, people are 40% morelikely to accomplish their goals
when they physically write itdown.
And I know we got cell phones,but really take pen or pencil to
(28:10):
paper.
I'd like pen, it's permanent.
You write that down.
There's something, at least forme, about writing it down on
paper that makes it more realand more you're more likely to
accomplish it when you writedown the goals.
I mean, studies have shownthat, like I said, 40%.
So as much as it is small,consistent moments, and that
really is gonna be the key tosuccess, you've got to make that
(28:31):
decision.
And that happens in a singlemoment that you can do right
now.
Fatima Bey (28:36):
Well, I was gonna ask you what advice you have for
youth in the world, but youalready gave it.
So you really, you really did.
So I don't even want you to sayanything on top of that because
I think what you just said waspowerful.
Um, so tell the audience youhave a book that you've written.
Can you tell us about it andhow we can find you?
Cory Corpodian (28:52):
Yeah, it's called Emotional Fitness, and
it's about not letting youremotions control you and instead
controlling your emotions sothat you can accomplish your
goals and live the life of yourdreams.
What that's about is emotionsare signals to our brain.
They're telling us to move awayfrom something or move towards
it, right?
If you're afraid of something,that's the emotion of fear is
(29:14):
really designed to keep youalive.
The emotion of love is todesign to give you connection
and community.
These emotions are signals toour brain.
If you are overridden by angerand fear or anxiety, it means
you're not aware of what iscausing that signal to happen.
And it creates a story insideyour life and in your brain.
(29:37):
My goal with emotional fitnesswas to help people become aware
of their emotions, how to usethem to accomplish their goals
and change the way we perceivethe world.
Because when you're focusing onsomething, you can either
choose to focus on what's rightor what's wrong.
And then when you focus onsomething, you create a meaning
around it like that's good forme, that's bad for me.
(29:59):
And then you react to what'shappening, you move away from a
scary situation, or you movetowards something because you
want to protect the people youlove behind you.
You take an action.
And understanding how weprocess the world internally
allows you to master yourinternal world, my your master
(30:20):
your mindset, lead yourself sothat you can now lead other
people and start to make realchanges that are seen in the
outside world.
Fatima Bey (30:30):
I I love that.
So where can people find you?
Cory Corpodian (30:35):
So uh at Corey Corpodian on YouTube or
Instagram.
Uh also if you want to pick upthe book, Masteremotional
Fitness dot com.
And if you want to subscribe toUnleash Success, you go to
unleashsuccess.com slashsubscribe, where I interview
entrepreneurs about business,scaling their businesses, and
(30:56):
leaders who talk about mindsetand how to become better and how
to become a better leader andwhat it takes to be successful
in life.
Fatima Bey (31:04):
And I want I want to add, I I have a lot of guests
on here and I meet a lot ofother podcasters.
I don't subscribe to too manyof them, but I actually
subscribe to Unleashed Successbecause I found value in what he
said.
And one thing I like about you,Corey, is that you speak plain
English.
You're not trying to impresseverybody.
You'd rather you're like me.
You'd rather be impactful thanimpressive.
And that's the that's the vibeI get from you.
(31:26):
And I love that.
I I really hate it when peopletalk over 80% of the population,
uh, so that they can just soundgood, but so what?
Um I like that you actuallyhave things to say that are
good, and especially as someonewho is um an entrepreneur and
building an empire, and I reallyam outside outside of this.
(31:49):
I love to hear content that'sgoing to help me along that way.
And I feel like your podcastactually does that.
So I I can uh with honesty say,follow this podcast because I
am.
Um well, thank you, Corey, somuch for for coming on today.
I really appreciate this.
Um, there's a lot moreconversation we could have, but
we don't have 17 years.
(32:09):
So but I really thank you forcoming on today.
It's been really wonderfultalking about it.
Cory Corpodian (32:14):
Thank you so much for having me on the show.
Really appreciate it.
Fatima Bey (32:18):
And now for a mind-shifting moment.
Today we talked about yourpersonal brand and what that
means.
But I want to take you to takea deeper dive.
I don't care how old you are,this is for everyone.
What do you see when you lookin the mirror?
(32:38):
And I'm not talking about yourphysical state.
How do you represent yourself?
Because your brand is how yourepresent yourself essentially.
What your reputation is, whatyou're known for.
When you look in the mirror,when you look at your quote
unquote brand and how you areviewed and how you are presented
(33:00):
before the world, does itreally match who you see in the
mirror?
Does it really match you?
Because before you can startmaking those intentional steps
to bridge that gap, you need tofirst look at the gap.
Are you representing the realyou?
(33:22):
Because I'll tell you what, ifthe answer is no, that means
that you have now presented anactress or an actor, and you
have an entire movie of linesyou need to live up to.
That is a lot of work.
It's actually less work to beyourself.
(33:43):
Make sure that what you put outthere actually represents the
real you.com.
(34:05):
Until next time, alwaysremember there's power in
shifting your thinking.
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