Young Woman, Sit Down and Shut Up! (Episode 95)

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What happens when a woman decides to stop shrinking herself to fit into society's expectations? In this transformative conversation, Claudia Noriega Bernstein shares her remarkable journey from silenced woman to empowered life coach.

Born and raised in Peru, Claudia escaped an abusive marriage after losing a pregnancy and rebuilt her life in the United States. Her powerful story reveals how the decision—not the feeling—to create a different narrative for herself and her three daughters became the catalyst for breaking generational patterns of female silence.

"I didn't want my girls to have my story," Claudia explains with raw honesty. "I didn't want them growing up thinking they have to work for love." This determination fueled her path to self-discovery and empowerment, even on days when doubt threatened to overtake her.

The conversation explores what silenced women look like—those who believe they have nothing valuable to contribute, who fear making waves, who prioritize others' comfort over their own voice. But this silence comes at a devastating cost, not just to women but to society at large. As Fatima poignantly notes, "The cure for cancer may be locked inside a silenced woman's mind."

Claudia doesn't shy away from addressing the physical toll of suppressing your true self, sharing her experience with cancer in three parts of her body—manifestations of emotions stored when she refused to speak up. "Crying in the shower is not fine. Screaming into a pillow is not fine," she emphasizes, urging women to recognize these warning signs.

For those ready to reclaim their power, Claudia offers practical wisdom: surround yourself with a supportive tribe, heal your inner child, set clear boundaries, and remember that "when you know your value, you stop giving discounts." Her inspiring message, delivered in both English and Spanish, reminds women everywhere that they're enough exactly as they are.

Ready to find the treasure within yourself? This conversation will show you how to start the excavation. 

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I'm your host, Fatima Bey theMindShifter, because shaping
tomorrow's world starts withconversations we have today and
welcome, welcome everyone.
Today we have with us ClaudiaNoriega Bernstein.

(00:31):
She is out of Nevada in theUnited States.
She's a life coach and the hostof Don't Shrink to Fit podcast.
She is originally from Peru anda powerhouse woman who I can't
wait to talk to you.
How are you today, Claudia?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (00:48):
I am so happy to be here with you
because I know this conversationis going to be juicy.

Fattima Bey (00:54):
It will be Absolutely so.
I'd like to dive right into it.
So tell the listeners something.
Tell the listeners about you.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (01:02):
I am originally from Peru.
You're correct.
I was born there and raisedthere.
When I was very young somebodyvery close to my family, not
very young like a child, butwhen I was a young teenager, I
was very much in love withsomebody and I thought my life
was going to be like the fairytales that we watch or read

(01:22):
about.
And somebody close to my familyhad something with this person
and broke my heart and afterthat I really lost every desire
to fall in love, follow love andI kind of was pushed into a
marriage that was extremelyabusive for five years.
I got pregnant and after thathe was very violent with me.

(01:45):
I lost the baby and I ran awayand I came to the United States
to start over.
I didn't want that life for meanymore.
I didn't really have anythingleft in me as far as self-esteem
or love for myself, but somehowthere was a little light in my
soul that was telling me thereis more for you you can't stay

(02:07):
here.
So I came to the states and Istarted over.
I met the father of my kids.
I got married with him fourmonths later and I think I got
married.
Mostly I wasn't in love withhim and he knew it, but I was in
so much need to feel loved andfor kindness and for laughs and

(02:27):
for companion that that wasenough.
Love wasn't in the table andthat was okay.
I ended up falling in love withhim.
We had a happy marriage foralmost six years, have three
daughters.
But then, you know, he madesome choices that were not
aligned with me and he kind ofbrought me back to that place

(02:47):
where I was before you know,that place.
That not enough, not worthy of.
And so I left him.
And it was very hard because atthat moment, you know, you look
around and you see the house,the cars, the clothes, the
purses and everything and you'relike I mean, I can look the
other way, nobody's going toknow.

(03:07):
But I knew, I knew and I had tolook at myself in the mirror
and I have three little girlsand I have to love myself, or at
least learn to love myself, soI can teach those girls to do
the same and not follow myfootsteps at that point of my
life, but create a differentnarrative, a different story, a

(03:30):
different happy ending.
And that's what I did.
I put my big girl shoes andstarted working and started
creating what I believed wasmeant for me.
And at the beginning I didn'tbelieve it, but I trusted that
there was something more for meand I kept on going and little

(03:52):
by little, I created the lifethat I have now.

Fattima Bey (03:55):
What was the bridge between I don't believe in
myself to I'm going to try.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (04:00):
I think it was more the reason,
not the bridge.
I didn't want my girls to havemy story.
I didn't want my girls to growup thinking they have to be a
work for love.
Be somebody.
I grew up being the good girl.

(04:21):
My mom wanted me to be Whateverin her head that was.
I believe that in order for meto receive that love, I needed
to be that person.
And when I came to realize thatI was very unhappy, that I felt
broken, that I felt that Ididn't even have a purpose, I

(04:41):
turned around to look at mygirls and that was my fuel.
That was what kept me going dayafter day after day, every day
that I didn't think I had whatit take.
I would look at them and I said, okay, I'm not doing it for me,
I'm doing it for them.
Now I do it for me.
Now I know it's not selfish toput the mask on me first, the
oxygen mask.
Now I know that I'm worthy ofeverything that is available for

(05:03):
me.
Now I know my enoughness and Itruly believe that when you know
your value, you stop givingdiscounts.
You just stop.
You say no, I am going to setmy boundaries and this is not
going to happen to me again.
I am not going to allow it andI am meant for more.
And you really have to havethat belief and even the days

(05:26):
that you have doubt, you got totrust the process and know that
God has your agenda and hedidn't bring us here to suffer.
He didn't bring us to allowpeople to hurt us.
So if you're in that situation,you need to really look at
yourself in the mirror and sayis this the life that I'm
supposed to live?
No, okay, am I scared?
Yes, shedless scared, but I'mgoing to keep on going because I

(05:50):
know that at the end of thetunnel there's going to be the
light.

Fattima Bey (05:54):
What I just heard, what I grabbed from what you
said.
One of the things I grabbedfrom what you just said is that
it wasn't a feeling, it was adecision.
It wasn't a feeling.

(06:23):
Feelings will follow yourdecision and what you just
explained that's one of thebiggest things I heard out of it
, because people feel scared,they feel unworthy and that's
not going to go away overnight,but the decision to overcome it
and the decision to move onbeyond it is what the feelings

(06:44):
will follow later.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (06:44):
You agree, yes, and you know what,
excuse me.
You start collecting evidence.
You start collecting evidencethat you are in the right path.
Even if they are tiny littlesteps forward.
You collect evidence and thatevidence becomes that fuel, that
bridge that will bring you tothe other side.

Fattima Bey (07:05):
So we're here today to talk about women who are
shrinking themselves or silenced, not speaking up.
There are many different wayswe could word it.
What does a silenced woman looklike?
What are the signs?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (07:30):
I think a silent woman, and I'm
just going to describe myselfbecause I was very much.
What are the signs?
Think that she has something tobring to the table.
She thinks that nobody's goingto believe her, nobody's going
to listen.
What would I try?
Are you kidding me whateverybody's going to think of me

(07:51):
?
I just better be quiet.
I should withdraw and listenand obey and just be what other
people want me to be, because ifI don't make waves, if I don't
show up big, if I don't makenoise, then people are going to

(08:11):
like me better and I'm not goingto have any conflict.
That's a silent woman, butbehind all that, that, you see,
is a belief that she's notenough and that she's not worthy
of more.

Fattima Bey (08:24):
Yes.
So why is the silent woman abad thing?
The woman you just described?
What's wrong with that?
So she's obedient, she falls inplace, she conforms to what
society says she's supposed tobe, what her parents taught her
that you don't speak up and youfall into place.

(08:44):
What's wrong with that?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (08:46):
Well, I think the main reason why we
are that way and you see a lotof that in South America.
I'm from Peru and I grew upseeing my mother and my
grandmother and my aunts.
They believe they're supposedto have the burnt toast.
They inherit roles.
They believe that theexpectations are passed down

(09:11):
through generations and that'sall you can aspire to be.
We learn how to navigate love,how to sacrifice, how to stay
silent.
We learn that from othergenerations.
So again, why are we going tomake noise?
Why are we going to show updifferent?
This is how it's supposed to be.
So just be quiet and do whatyou're told to do, and that's

(09:34):
that.
And I, as a man, I'm going toprovide for you and I'm going to
give you a house and you'regoing to be taken care of, and
your job is taking care of me,having kids and be quiet.
Now, a lot has changed in thelast years, of course, in the
last decades, you know.
But there's still people mygeneration, my age, that went to

(09:59):
school with me that have thesame beliefs, the same limited
beliefs, and they don't feelthey have the right to have a
career, to follow a dream, tomake something that they always
wanted a reality, because theywere programmed to think that
that's not for them and that'sit.
And the problem here is thatthey pass that down to their

(10:23):
kids.
So then you have anothergeneration with those limited
beliefs.
Now we can honor the journey ofour ancestors and learn from
their mistakes and have adifferent life, but we don't see
that as an option.
And if you see your cousin,your aunt, your neighbor having
that same lifestyle, how are yougoing to empower yourself to be

(10:45):
the one making the difference?
Just stay put, because that'swhat is expected.
That's the sad part of it.
You are not strong enough tobreak those patterns, or you
don't feel that's better.
You don't feel you're strongenough to break those patterns.

Fattima Bey (11:00):
But what's wrong with staying there?
What damage does that mindsetdo to the woman who holds it?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (11:08):
You shrink into fit, you will never
know your potential, you willnever achieve those dreams and
you will never really know whatbeing happy and joyful and
fulfilled and accomplished feelslike.
You don't have that.
You won't get that evidencebecause you're afraid.

(11:28):
That's the problem.
They're afraid, they're afraidto show up, oh my goodness.
And you know what.
And society also labels you.
Because if you are that womanthat is a go-getter, that wants
to have a business, that wantsto be successful, then it's like
, oh, I wonder what she did toget there.
Sometimes, we women are ourworst enemies because we cannot

(11:54):
do it.
So then, instead of empoweringthat other woman that is
breaking the glass ceiling, wejudge her.
Why is she doing that?
I wonder who helped her.
I wonder what she had to do toget there.
Instead of saying good for you,girl, I'm following your
footsteps.
I want that too.
Thank you for giving me thecourage.
Thank you for showing me what'spossible for me.

Fattima Bey (12:17):
Yes.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (12:18):
So that's exactly what the mind
shift happens when youunderstand that that is also
possible for you.
You just need to want it badenough.

Fattima Bey (12:29):
I'm going to piggyback off of some of what
you said One of the other thingsthat is harmful.
Well, I asked you specificallyhow is it harmful to the woman?
But I'm going to add to it howit's harmful to the society that
they're in.
When you have women who aresilent, who are full of
potential, full of intelligence,full of life, full of ideas,

(12:53):
full of innovations, when theyshut up, our whole society
suffers because now the cure forcancer is not being found.
The next invention is going tohave to wait another hundred
years because we shut up Maria,and Maria had the answer.
When women shrink to fit, weall suffer because now that

(13:13):
great potential in them has beenstuffed into a tiny little box
that they don't really fit in.
It hurts all of us, not justthe woman.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (13:23):
But we allow it, and that's the sad
part of it.
Let me tell you something realfast.
When I was 21 years old, Iwrote my first book and that
book was published by somebodyelse because he was a man, and
he convinced me that nobody'sgoing to read this.
I mean, you're a girl andyou're too young, you know it's

(13:45):
yours, you should be proud, butnobody's going to buy this.
I mean, you're a girl andyou're too young, you know it's
yours, you should be proud, butnobody's going to buy it.
If you publish it and hepublished it my work.
But here's the thing I allow it.
Yeah, I allow that person to doit.
You know how many times I havetrunk to fit.
That's what my show is calledDon't Shrink to Fit because, I

(14:08):
had to remind myself over andover again that I will never
shrink to fit again, that I willnever take somebody else's
beliefs as mine, that I willcreate my own beliefs and that I
am capable to create the life,that I want beliefs and that I
am capable to create the lifethat I want.

(14:29):
I don't need somebody else tocreate it for me.
I don't need somebody else totell me if I can or I cannot.
I know I believe I can.
That's when everything shiftedmy life.

Fattima Bey (14:36):
Yes.
So if a young woman islistening to you right now and
she's currently living thatshrinking to fit life, how can
she get out of?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (14:44):
that shrinking to fit life.
How can she get out of that?
I think it's very important whoyou hang out with Having a tribe
that empower you, not to pushyou down.
That empower you.
Go and get resources, educateyourself, learn, be a sponge,
encourage your community toembrace that, create sisterhoods

(15:07):
that can empower you.
Every time you find a wall inthe middle of the road and you
feel, okay, this is it, this iswhere I stop.
No, no, no, you can do it.
Keep on going.
When we lead by example, weshow the other women what's
possible for them, and I thinkone of the most important thing

(15:28):
that we can do as women islisten.
Listen to other women, allowthem to express themselves, get
curious about what they want,because, you don't know, maybe
you have an advice for them ormaybe that story is going to
empower you.
So listen to the women in yourlife.
Go talk to your grandma.

(15:50):
Find out what dreams she had,how come she didn't make them
true.

Fattima Bey (15:53):
How come?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (15:54):
she didn't go after them.
What stopped her?
Learn Don't just put a cross,you know, on those characters in
your life and say, no, I don'twant to be like her, and that's
that.
Nuh-uh, get curious.
Go find out why she didn't doit.
Because she had the same toolsthat you have.
So what stopped her?
And how many more tools you canhave in your toolbox so you

(16:15):
don't end up like her?

Fattima Bey (16:18):
That's some pretty powerful stuff.
Yeah, find out why they didn'tlive out their dreams so that
you can learn.
You can learn from otherpeople's mistakes.
All of us can.
All of us can, and if you canwatch other people, what works
for them?
But I think the most powerfulthing I'm not sure if you could
say anything more powerful iswatch who you hang out with.

(16:38):
It's a sentiment that I'mconstantly preaching.
Our surroundings are soimportant.
Find your tribe, yoursupportive tribe, your means of
support, because it is verydifficult to get out of that
mode If you have an auntie and amother who are living shrunken
and they want you to shrink too,because it's all they know and

(16:59):
you want to rise up out of that.
But your auntie and your momare the closest ones to you.
That's when you need to branchout and get other people around
you who can show you a betterway, who can help to uplift you.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (17:10):
And what do you know?
Maybe you're going to inspirethem.
Maybe there is no age to createa dream or to fulfill a dream.
Maybe you're going to inspirethem.
Maybe you're going to inspirethem.
Maybe your mom at 50-somethingwatches you breaking those rules
and say, hey, I want that too.

(17:32):
I'm going to go to school, I'mgoing to open my little shop in
the corner, I'm going to dothings that I wanted to do.
She can do it, I can do it.
We inspire.
We cannot make anybody doanything, but we can inspire
them, yes, and we can show upbig so they see the
possibilities, not theprobabilities, the possibilities

(17:54):
that are available for them.
That's how you show up big,secure, and you enroll them into
that vision that you have,because that vision is not just
for you.
That vision is for everyonearound you and especially for
the next generations.
That's how you break that cycle.
It stops with you, it stopsright there.

(18:15):
No more.
No more being silenced when youare abused at home.
No more being silenced whenthey tell you you're stupid.
No more being silenced whenthey make you believe that
you're not worthy of whatever itis that you want.
Stops with you, but you got tobelieve it.

Fattima Bey (18:30):
So I want you to take a moment to talk to.
Actually, I'm going to back upa little bit because I think we
should address this and makesure that we're giving people
realistic advice for the realitythey're going to deal with.
When a woman who has beenshrunken, who's been told to be
shrunken, the expectations ofeverybody around her is her
silence and obedience, Will itmake waves when she tries to

(18:54):
climb out the box?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (18:55):
Yes, that's exactly what happened and
that's what we, when we are inthat place, we're afraid of.

Fattima Bey (19:02):
We don't want to make noise.
We don't want to be the squeakywheel.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (19:05):
We want to be the good girls we are
taught to be.
You see, when you're little, asa little girl, you're watching,
right, you're watching how yourmom is, how your grandma is,
how your dad is.
And let me tell you somethingabout the men.
There is some men that are socaught up in the way they think

(19:26):
they should be that they're notopen for anything else.
But then there are other menthat will see your potential and
will get curious with you andwill want to learn a little more
.
So I don't want to categorizelike all men in South America
are machistas.
You know it's not everybodythat are machistas.
You know that is not everybody.
But I think that a lot also hasto do with the role they

(19:50):
inherit.
You see, the father inheritedto the son, the mother inherited
to the daughter.
So they grew up thinking thatis how it's supposed to be.
It takes one person, one personin the village, to say no, I'm
not doing that, I'm not gettingmarried at 17.
I'm not going to just have kidsand be at home.
I want something else, forsomebody else in the same circle

(20:14):
to start getting curious to andstart wanting the same thing.

Fattima Bey (20:17):
Yes.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (20:18):
But one person had to start.
You know, and as I said before,not everybody is going to
embrace it, but that's okay.

Fattima Bey (20:24):
Exactly, exactly, yeah, what I'm saying is it's
going to make waves.
It's going to make some peopleuncomfortable, because people
would rather be uncomfortablethan make room for change.
And this is true with a lot ofthings, not just what we're
talking about.
So when you decide to unboxyourself, you know, woman, and
you decide to rise up and allowyour voice to be heard, there

(20:47):
are going to be people who areabsolutely going to tell you to
shut the hell up and sit down,don't.
You're making themuncomfortable.
That's not your fault andthat's not your problem.
That's theirs.
They're unwilling to move.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (21:01):
You know, I had a client once that
came to me because I coach moms.
I'm an inner abundance coachand I coach moms and I coach mom
because I'm passionate about itand I've been in those shoes
and I know how long I shrunk tofit and I want to empower them.
So this woman called me andcomplained about everything that

(21:24):
was happening to her in herlife.
There was no possibility ofhappening for her, because
sometimes you want to tell themokay, listen, god is sending you
a lot of signs here.
You're just refusing to see him, okay.
So she comes and she tells meeverything.
My husband is this and my kidsdon't talk to me and they don't

(21:45):
respect me and they treat melike that.
And I go, I hear you and whatare you doing about it?
Oh, I can't do anything.
So you don't want to work withme, because you want me to help
you.
You want to work with me so Ican just listen to you
complaining about the life thatyou have, because, unfortunately

(22:06):
, when we live in the garbage itdoesn't stink anymore.
We get used to it.
We get used to, yeah, he alwaystreats me like that and, yeah,
my kids are not respectful andwe don't know how to set the
boundaries, so we accept itright.
And then and this is the thing,because she called me back

(22:27):
after a year and she was exactlyin the same place.
She said to me you know what, Ididn't want to work with you in
changing the way I was acting,because then he's nice and I
didn't want to complain when hewas nice, so he can come and
treat you like you're a piece ofshit, right?

(22:48):
And then he comes back and sayhey, I want to take you to
dinner and you're going to takethat leftover that he has for
you, because you don't believethat you are worthy of the meal.
You want the leftover.
So a year went by and she wasexactly in the same place,

(23:10):
because nothing changes until westart healing ourselves.
And the first thing that we gotto heal is that little girl,
that little girl that we letdown so many times because we
adopted those beliefs that wereinherited from other generations
.
That's how you start by healingyour inner child, by start

(23:33):
talking to you nice, instead oflooking at yourself in the
mirror and say I'm fat and ugly,I'm this or that.
Start being kind to yourself.
Start by loving yourself, butbefore that, start by knowing
getting to know yourself,because you cannot love anything
that you don't know.
So get to know yourself, acceptyourself, embrace yourself, and

(23:57):
if you have to look at yourselfin the mirror and say, I'm
sorry, I let you down, I'm sorry, I didn't value you, I'm sorry
I didn't love you enough to sayno and to set my boundaries,
because your soul knows thatyou're meant for more.
You're just shutting your souloff.
You're shutting it off Likedon't tell me, because I don't

(24:20):
want to have a fight, I don'twant to have an argument, I
don't want to confront anyone.
This is fine, I'm fine.
You're an argument.
I don't want to confront anyone.
This is fine, I'm fine, you'renot fine, you're not fine.
Crying in the shower is notfine.
Screaming in a pillow is notfine.
Sitting in your car fiveminutes longer because you just
don't want to get home is notfine.

(24:43):
So recognize those signs.
Home is not fine.
So recognize those signs,recognize what your inner child
is asking you and start healingher.
You know, one of the things thatI tell my clients is that don't
push your feelings away.
Your feelings make you sick.
They get storage in your body.
Then suddenly you have a canceror you have an illness and you
don't know where that illnesscame from.

(25:04):
You know, I had three timescancer in my thyroid, between my
heart and my lungs and in myuterus.
That should be a red flag forme because of my three chakras.
Why?
Because I was holdingeverything in.
I didn't want to make noise, sothe signs were there.

(25:24):
You want to call it theuniverse.
Call it the universe.
You want to call it theuniverse.
Call the universe.
You want to call it God, callit God.
Whatever it is.
They're sending you signs andyou are choosing not to listen.
Start listening and starthealing from the inside out.
Don't try to fix.
That's another thing that we dowith our daughters.
We try to fix them.

Fattima Bey (25:43):
Let them talk.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (25:44):
Yes, your feelings Mm-hmm, yes,
mm-hmm.
It's usable, but it'sdisposable.

(26:05):
So, girls, nowadays they wantto be usable, they want to show
up pretty, but then they'redisposable, because we teach
people how we want to be treated.

Fattima Bey (26:16):
If.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (26:16):
I show up like a crystal glass,
nobody's going to throw me inthe garbage because I'm a
crystal glass.
But if I show up as a styrofoamcup, I mean, how long are you
going to keep that around?
So it's how you show up.
What boundaries are you setting?
What are your non-negotiables?
What are you allowed to have inyour life?

(26:38):
What you're not?
And if you saying no makes youunpopular, so be it.

Fattima Bey (26:45):
I have nothing to follow that with, because you
said it all so perfectly, but Iam going to ask you to do
something a little different.
I want you to take a moment andspeak specifically to young
women in Central and SouthAmerica, give them some advice,
but I want you to do it inSpanish.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (27:02):
Are you sure you want me to say it
first in English and then inSpanish?

Fattima Bey (27:07):
You can say it in English first, but I want them
to hear it in Spanish.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (27:12):
I am actually going to read something
that I have in my desk and Igive it to my clients every day,
and then I will translate it inSpanish Never forget how worthy
you are, exactly as you areright now.
Believe deeply in yourpotential, even on the days you
doubted.
Celebrate what makes you youyour quirks, your dreams, your

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voice.
Love yourself enough to setboundaries.
Don't chase your goals.
Attract them and to let go ofwhat doesn't serve you.
You need to set thoseboundaries.
Surround yourself with peoplewho lift you higher and be that
person for others too.
You have a strength inside thatcan change the life of everyone

(28:03):
around you and inspire others.
So go after your dreams withcourage and remember you don't
have to do it alone.
Keep shining, keep growing andalways remember you are enough.
Now I'm going to do it inSpanish for you¿ Cómo Nunca

(28:24):
olvides cuánto vales,simplemente como eres en este
momento.
Cree en tu potencial, inclusiveen los días en los que tienes
duda.
Celébrate y celebra quién erestú, con tus defectos, con tus
cualidades, con tus sueños y contu voz.

(28:46):
Defectos con tus cualidades,con tus sueños y con tu voz.
Quiérete y quiérete suficientepara crear límites para que tus
goles, tus sueños vengan haciati.
Atráelos para que puedas servira otros.
Ten alrededor tuyo gente que telleve para arriba, que te

(29:06):
inspire, así como tú puedesinspirar a otras personas.
Tú tienes la fuerza dentro deti para cambiar el mundo y para
inspirar a otros.
Anda detrás de tus sueños,consíguelos con coraje y
acuérdate tú no estás sola.
Sigue brillando, siguecreciendo y sigue siendo

(29:29):
suficiente, porque lo eres.

Fattima Bey (29:32):
That was so beautiful.
The biggest statement that Igot out of there is I love the
don't chase your goals, attractthem.
It's a complete mind shift.
Yeah, and it's so.
That's such a big deal and itsounds more beautiful in Spanish
just saying so.
How can people find you?

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (29:53):
I'm on Instagram, Claudia Noriega
Bernstein.
My website has the same name.
I take care of my Instagrammessenger, so you'll get an
answer from me, not from anassistant or AI or whatever from
me, not from an assistant or AIor whatever.

(30:13):
I like to connect with peoplein general, but I love to
empower young women and moms.
I think we are powerful and wecan change the world.
We just need to make thatdecision and we can manifest
anything that we want.
We just need to be in the rightvibration so we start
attracting, so we become amagnet to everything that is
available for us.
Imagine it like if it's a radioIf you move the dial and you

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don't get to that frequencywhere everything that is
available for you is, thenyou're going to get static.
So lift yourself up, believe inyourself, be in touch with your
enoughness.
It's in you.
Just gotta look deep inside andfind it so for everyone
listening.

Fattima Bey (30:54):
Um, her information is going to be in the show
notes so you'll be able to go toher website and I'm gonna say
that I strongly urge everylistener to go listen to her
podcast.
Don't shrink, shrink to fit ischock full of really really,
really, really good qualityconversations.
You, you won't listen to it andnot be changed at least a

(31:18):
little bit.
So go listen to her podcast.
I'll put a link in the shownotes for that as well.
And, claudia, thank you so so,so much for coming on.
You really are a powerhousewoman and I hope everybody
listening sees why.

Claudia Noriega-Bernstein (31:32):
Thank you so much for having me.
I enjoy this very much, and Ithink that women like you and I
can embrace each other and startflying, because that's the only
way we can do this.

Fattima Bey (31:50):
And now for a mind-shifting moment.
Young woman, young, quiet woman, subdued woman, the one who
doesn't speak up, the one whostays in her place.
I'm talking to you right now.
We need you.
We need you to speak up.
We need what's inside of you.
When you sit down and shrinkyourself and you don't speak up

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and you don't let out what's inthat big, beautiful mind of
yours, you're like buriedtreasure and we need your gems.
You need to discover what gemsare in you and go on a treasure
hunt to find what's in you,instead of holding it back.
This world would turn upsidedown if all of you quiet women

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would stand up and speak yourmind.
It's time for a treasure hunt.
Thank you for listening.
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