Modern Anarchy

Modern Anarchy

Nicole is a queer Sex and Relationship Psychotherapist with training in Psychedelic-Integration Therapy. As one of the leading theorists on non-monogamy and sexuality, Nicole bridges academic research with embodied, pleasure-centered strategies to help individuals navigate intimacy, relationships, and desire. Tune in each Wednesday to join her exploration of sex, relationships, and liberation with pleasure activists from around the world. Are you ready to dive in? For Resources to Learn More: www.modernanarchypodcast.com

Episodes

April 30, 2025 91 mins

On today’s episode, we have Juno Aventurine (they/them) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about embracing the finitude of our humanness, learning to communicate our desires, and deconstructing the intimacy escalator.

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On today’s episode, we have Jaime Delgado (they/he) joins us for a conversation about the liberation of queer pleasure and community. Together we talk about exploring without a roadmap, reconnecting with the wisdom of our ancestors, and the sexiness of nuance.


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On today’s episode, we have Emily Royce (she/her) join us for a conversation about how all bodies can access ecstasy. Together we talk about embracing the big feels, the discomfort of growth, and the amazing gift that is curious lovers.


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On today’s episode, we are celebrating the four-year anniversary of the podcast with a special reflection episode. Together we talk about the intense learning curve of practicing non-monogamy, the eroticism of a shared vision, and liberating our pleasure. For today's reflection episode, Nicole is joined by her good friend and fellow therapist-in-training, Cait Gordon.


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On today’s episode, we have Star Stewart (she/they) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about learning to see the beauty in all of our relationships, finding creative  ways to reconfigure our connections, and deconstructing the intimacy escalator.


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On today’s episode, we have Thickie Comrade (any/all) join us for a conversation all about reclaiming our pleasure. Together we talk about demonic nose piercings, rewriting the meaning of family, and planting trees for future generations.


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On today’s episode, we have Jessica McDuffee (she/her) join us for a conversation about how another world is possible. Together we talk about following your zest for life, creating mutually empowering relationships, and joining in our collective repair.


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On today’s episode, we have Mike Margolies (he/him) join us for a conversation all about the crossover between psychedelics and sexual liberation. Together we talk about the need for kink integration circles, learning to embody peace, and embracing our interconnectedness.


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On today’s episode, we have Jasper Brown (he/they) join us for another relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about embracing our interconnectedness, moving at the speed of trust, and finding security in your community.


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On today’s episode, Nicole shares her Clinical Psychology Doctoral Dissertation results from the first ever research study of Relationship Anarchy.

 

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On today’s episode, we have Pamela von Sabljar (she/her)join us for a conversation about liberating our authentic sexual expression. Together we talk about following the zest of life, connecting with erotic rage, and the power of your narrative.


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On today’s episode, we have Ren DAuria (they/them) join us for a conversation about our ever-evolving connection to the erotic. Together we talk about making out in confessional booths, learning to receive, and creating expansive connections.


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February 5, 2025 94 mins

On today’s episode, we have Mx. Flow (they/she) join us for a relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about balancing autonomy and community care, embracing the inevitability of change, expanding into deeper love.

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On today’s episode, we have Ifetayo Harvey (she/her) join us for a conversation all about the psychedelic transformation of trauma. Together we talk about examining systems of oppression, bravely imagining a new future, and the transformative power of vulnerability.

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On today’s episode, we have Kelly Pastori (she/her) join us for a conversation all about embodying your right to pleasure. Together we talk about the transformative power of community, reconnecting with the wisdom of our bodies, and embracing the abundance of the erotic.


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On today’s episode, we have David Cooley (he/him) join us for a conversation all about intentionally cultivating secure and dynamic attachments. Together we talk about moving through relational fluidity, waiting to attach until navigating conflict, and going down the rabbit hole of non-monogamy.


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On today’s episode, we have Miles Wilcox (they/them) join us for another relationship anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about shedding internalized scripts of normality, healing in community, and expanding our capacity for intimacy.

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On today’s episode, we have Dr. Karolina Mikos (she/her) join us for a conversation about reconnecting with our healing wisdom. Together we talk about intentional drug use, getting curious about our triggers, and being present enough to experience pleasure.  


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On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (he/him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy.


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On today’s episode, we have Lorie Solis (she/her) join us for a conversation about the revolutionary power of softening. Together we talk about healing intergenerational trauma, stepping into embodiment, and the transformation of belonging.


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